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| 164 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with rideshares | RANT | snooklepookle_ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:13 AM |
| 154 | A small appreciation post for the hvm in my life | How-To High Value | snooklepookle_ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:10 AM |
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| 16 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Same! I'm a single woman and my apartment looks like this right now. My legs look like that now because who TF is going to see them? There's nothing "wrong" with me. Also why is everyone acting like the pandemic isn't still happening? This is a magazine targeted towards people living in NYC, so likely cramped quarters and more staying in and getting takeout just because of population density and avoiding public transport. Most of the clutter is stuff directly associated with the pandemic too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 6 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...He actually talks about the piece in an interview, the magazine often has this to contextualize the cover art. It's by paid subscription to the magazine, but a rough gist of it is that he's trying to portray how we have to put on this facade of things being normal even though we have a totally new way of living during this pandemic. That the personal, like dating, suddenly has this great divide. He talks about things like the lamp making the harsh lighting was drawn from how he himself spends to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:51 PM |
| 9 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Oof thank you for the validation. Honestly a lot of comments saying a woman's house would NEVER get this gross or that she must be mentally ill made me feel like shit about myself. Like come on, it's the pandemic, nobody should be seeing the insides of our houses and a lot of us are struggling mentally. I guess if you're not perfect and baking bread and cleaning house and shaving your legs you just don't deserve to be represented in art? I don't see anything villainizing her, she's a beautiful p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:37 PM |
| 7 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...I think she's staying home because of the pandemic, not coming home from anything. A lot of people have been putting on nice blouses for zoom calls but being comfy for the rest because it won't be seen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 4 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...He actually has a whole graphic novel about his loving relationship with his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:24 PM |
| 14 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...I understand all of that. But I think women are idealized and overrepresented in art as "perfect". Even when we're hv, I wish we were allowed even a fraction of the leeway men had. The sub clearly disagrees with me, but I'm happy to see a piece of art like this. Whatever his intentions were, I know in my heart sometimes I don't shave my legs, sometimes I'm doing other things and cleaning my apartment isn't a priority, sometimes I'm just barely scraping by. We've all been there, and it doesn't ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:07 PM |
| 15 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...I...kind of took this a completely different way than all of you. I'm a huge fan of Adrian Tomine's work. I think he gives the women in his comics voices and is incredible with exploring the nuances of heterosexual romances, and isn't afraid to call out the selfishness of men. His comic Shortcomings was an amazing story about a lvm racist Asian male who fetishized white women and lost an amazing gf because of it. It's one of the few works that explores intersectionality in regards to racism. Whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:13 PM |
| 3 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. Pandemic🤷♀️ I'm literally just guessing. If I offered to pay and he still refused that says a bit that he'll still take the opportunity to pay even if he believes he doesn't have to. I wouldn't have gone out with him again if he let me split the bill, so idk why this girl did. But I don't think it's without merits to offer and see his response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:43 AM |
| 23 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicI wonder if she was just testing if he'd let her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:49 PM |
| 8 | My ex asked me for a divorce for bullshit reasons that prove exactly how low value his priorities are. I filed the petition, and now he's not sure he wants it, when faced with being alone and losing my assets + income. My response included, and his first "breakup" text.This reads like a highschool fuckboi breakup text, not an ASK FOR DIVORCE, wtf. Fuck your stbxh, I'm excited for you to drop the dead weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:39 PM |
| 18 | The question was « What job do you do that you enjoy ». She said escort and really dared to say that women selling their bodies would « decrease » men’s depravity and hate towards women!!Or that even intelligent women with credentials and accomplishments are just yearning to be escorts 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:53 PM |
| 31 | The question was « What job do you do that you enjoy ». She said escort and really dared to say that women selling their bodies would « decrease » men’s depravity and hate towards women!!...if going to fancy places and learning random lithuanian words was the perks of the job she must really not have much going for her. You can do those things without ~entertaining men~. What idiocy is this, especially the structural engineer part pushed it into the territory of a dude writing out his ideal woman pov fanfic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:22 PM |
| 31 | Most men are vultures waiting for vulnurable women to abuseReading this made me wanna throw up a little. Holy shit. My ex would call the police on me when I was in my own home because he was convinced I needed to be "locked away in a looney ward forever" as I was "unfit for open society" (his words). The last time it happened I remember being handcuffed to a holding bench and psychiatrically evaluated because it was the third time he called about me, they ended up calling him and getting angry that he wasted their time. He went to therapy but lies and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:50 PM |
| 28 | how do we get rid of toxic friends?The first one is the hardest. I was extremely close to a girl, we were best friends when we met in college and became right fast. She did a lot for me, and we were like sisters. She was also a horrible person, hands down and unequivocally. She definitely got away with a lot of shit because she was pretty, semi-famous and was so ridiculous that nobody really knew how to react. I kind of ignored it for the longest time, and people treated me like her keeper or the "only person who could figure her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:50 AM |
| 28 | Never give men your passwords & always change them after a breakup. NVM will go to any lengths to get revenge. What can we do to help keep women safe?My ex and I work in the same very tight-knit industry and he threatened to slander me. I ended up just having to cede to his conditions, and I gave up my dream job. All while he still claimed to love me. God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:05 AM |
| 7 | Which one of you ladies did this? 😂Yo this girl doesn't need relationship advice, she's dishing wisdom 👌 Fucking queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:59 AM |
| 11 | Never let them get comfortable!YESSS!!! 👏 I can hear r/relationships saying you're overreacting to a "harmless joke" and accusing you of being insecure now 🙄 Just walk away from shit like that, like why wouldn't I find a guy who WOULDN'T put me down? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:42 AM |
| 23 | How and Where Did You Meet Your HVM?I'd even say proposing young is a sign of LV, it shows a lack of maturity and trying to "lock down" a young woman before she's had time to grow or establish herself. Look at young military couples, it tends to be manipulative and a way to shackle her to him while she's young and impressionable. If there's no breadcrumbing or fake intent, definitely teenagers trying to grow into adulthood isn't a forever gf situation as much as a place where there's no space for marriage. Happy for your sister, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 6 | Is it me?Why...do you want random men to approach and bother you? I go to parties to dance, hang out with friends and have treats and drinks and a good time. I'd be SO irritated if a man came up to bother me, what if I declined and I had to just avoid being around him the whole party? I've never taken it as a compliment for a man to approach me, it's likely that he thinks I look like "easy prey" and I don't know about your country but in my social group men bothering women by approaching them is seen (ri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:54 PM |
| 22 | How has FDS changed you?It made me actually, genuinely love myself. I never even understood what that meant before. I hopped from relationship to relationship for the last decade. I was insecure and honestly a pretty shitty person. Now I love myself and what I have to offer. I like my own company and I'm not afraid to explore my own thoughts and learn about myself. I put myself out there and stop assuming everyone knows better than me and therefore any criticism is valid. I stopped feeling less than. I don't hate mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:31 AM |
| 86 | Breaking up with the best boyfriend I've ever hadI had a really good friend tell me "if you're doing it right the next man's going to be even better". If you settle, that's where you stay. The only way you can find better is forward, the past only defines how much more there is to come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:14 AM |
| 17 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesWhat the HECK that is so shady and weird!! I'm so glad you're safe. I've had drivers like that too, technically weren't doing "anything wrong" but were weird as all hell! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:16 AM |
| 5 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesI've always trusted NYC cabs back when I lived there, the training and certification you had to go through was usually way too much to risk over being creepy. Maybe they'd get rude about tips or the route in that classic nyc fashion but I'd never been creeped on (though I'm sure it's happened and I've been lucky.) There are definitely good Uber drivers, I've had genuinely kind ones who care about my safety, but with how the company is set up and their lack of accountability why take the risk? Ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:34 AM |
| 15 | A small appreciation post for the hvm in my lifeI'm so grateful our mother made sure we had a household where it was NOT normalized. There are too many moms out there who make jokes about avoiding search engine histories and such. She never put up with a "boys will be boys, it's puberty" attitude and made sure we both knew porn was adult and not acceptable for us as LITERAL children, but also that it was absolutely vile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:28 AM |
| 15 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:43 AM |
| 47 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesThe victim blaming is so ridiculous. That sub made me feel like talking about being sexually assaulted in any way was a thinly veiled attempt to "brag" I was pretty??? I felt fucking loony. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:41 AM |
| 17 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesUnfortunately my experiences on lyft are only slightly better because I tended to get more women as drivers on there :/ men are terrible across the board. My shitty NVM ex used to rate Uber drivers 2's and 3's just because they wouldn't have waters or mints in the car or didn't "entertain" him beyond getting him from point A to B. I wish I had that entitlement, we're just grateful to be safe. I think you handled the situation so well for your first Uber ride, and I think it speaks so much to wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:39 AM |
| 29 | My theory about the men who always complain about women being boring...My ex complained all the time that women he met before me were "boring". It means he sees women as a means to an end and entertainment, it's not a compliment to you. I'm still in pieces over that breakup, but it always gave me the ickies how much he put down and judged other women. Stupid me for not running. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:32 AM |
| 55 | Gaslit on TwoX about my own experiences with ridesharesI kept reporting it over and over and over with very little follow up. I was honestly starting to feel crazy and believed everybody that it was my fault. It sounds shitty but it really got to me, I believed people could "smell" I was intrinsically broken and that I was less than, so I deserved to be treated that way. I started giving up and avoided going places as much. It wasn't until a year later that I ended up needing to rideshare with a coworker/friend, and it was a horrible experience. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:34 AM |
| 13 | I'm tired of viewing men as the enemy.We can all aspire for more, of course, but I think something I've come to learn is that romantic partnership is so different from our other aspirations because it hinges so much on another person to encompass a lot, and anything short of that is a detrimental loss. Houses, cars, finances, hobbies, those for the most part are self-actualized and dependent on you empowering yourself to those ends. Friendship isn't a reserved singular spot, and you can have many friends to encompass several facets … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:07 PM |
| 61 | Yes, because not having sex with a man is definitely the same as domestic abuse.I'd love it if men just fucking rolled over and died when we stopped fucking them instead of stabbing us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:06 AM |
| 4 | Recognize the signs of a NarcissistWe got this ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:04 AM |
| 12 | Recognize the signs of a NarcissistIn the process of getting over a lvm. I printed out this image and next to each trait listed out two examples of how his actions have demonstrated this in the past. Was extremely cathartic and I was nothing but disgusted by the thought of him at the end, highly recommend this exercise to anybody trying to rewire all of their manipulated feelings. Thank you for posting this ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:49 AM |
| 4 | Pickme pickme pickme !!! 🙋🙋🙋I'm new to the sub and I want to say what I appreciate about it is that it's easy to catch on QUICK. There's no coddling and everything is generally aligned and straightforward. Stuff gets downvoted quickly. When I was re-evaluating my relationships with my friends, I looked at whether they actually took my advice when they asked for it, which shows respect for my opinion, or if they simply wanted validation for their actions and loopholes. Posts where they go 'but but buuuut" are exhausting, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:46 AM |
| 7 | Pickme pickme pickme !!! 🙋🙋🙋Oh geez, and give a smoke-flare for male lurkers in this sub to come in here and validate and prey on them? 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 3 | some HVM energy.Maybe I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt (I really am), but I get excited to see queer couples out and about. I'm bi and I have a lot of internalized biphobia because it's been so appropriated and sexualized, and because of society it almost feels less "legitimate" than sexuality with a man. I'm very happy when I'm mistaken as a couple with my platonic friends because it makes that part feel a seen and normalized lol, like how when you see a man and a woman together you might at least suspe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:30 AM |
| 9 | the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂A looooong time ago I worked retail and this woman came in and she just clearly loved this blouse. Tried it on, kept calling me over asking if it looked nice, stroking the front of it, cradling it in her arms as she walked around the store. She looked BOMB in it, it was this orange color that was really ahead of the trends at the time and made her skin ~glow~. She got up to my counter, hesitated, then asked me to put it back because her "husband didn't like it". That lame-ass husband in sweats a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 08:56 PM |
| 10 | BDSM IS ABUSEI used to be into bdsm/kinky shit. Or so I thought. I honestly think I was addicted to the contrast and the "high", if he treats you like absolute garbage then when he does the bare minimum it feels like absolute elation and love. It's terrifying, I think it's exactly the same feeling as self-harm and incredibly dangerous to normalize. Even looking back on my mental health history, therapists are always surprised I've never self-harmed but I'm having a breakthrough that sex WAS my self-harm. It'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 2 | What will it be, ladies? Equality or oppression?What he was trying to say completely flew over my head. I was like YEEAAH WOO KEEP MEN OUT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Is it just me or do ugly men just generally treat you horribly or worse?To add to this, most men are trash. Do you really have the free time to sift through the ugly ones too? If you're gonna go through the pain and trouble of participating in heteronormative dating, do yourself a favor and at least date ones you like looking at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:20 AM |
| 5 | Is it just me or do ugly men just generally treat you horribly or worse?I heard of a phrase called "kill the cheerleader". It's about how men who were/are ugly and insecure build up this resentment towards women over time, and are more misogynistic over it. To them, romance and sex is a revenge fantasy, to "get back" at us and put us in our place. It's purely about dominance. I never understood this until I realized the shorter men I dated ALWAYS were putting me down and treating me like garbage. There was actually a direct correlation to how abusive a man was to me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:16 AM |
| 10 | Why is society so obsessed with sex? It dawned on me that despite it being glorified as “healthy”, the only reason modern humans can have an excessive and unnatural amount of sex is because of birth control—which usually has a shitload of unhealthy side effects.This is strangely eye opening to me. I've been on BC since 17 (turning 26 this year) and got off of it recently because I'm investing more in my mental health and want to see if it could do anything for my depression, and I'm also committed to being single for a WHILE for the first time in my adult life. I've been feeling lonely due to covid and am mentally still sexually attached to my ex, and as fucked up as it is in the back of my head I almost feel like I'm some kind of female incel just bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:03 AM |
| 23 | Why do men try to tell me they have it worse?This drives me fucking crazy. I was talking to a guy on an app and not even 2 hours in he's already saying we should go on a date. I told him I appreciated the enthusiasm but 1. We barely talked about anything, I don't know him at all and 2. It's a pandemic, I have to be careful and selective of the men I meet up with more than usual! His freaking response was "I understand, I guess I just have more of a sense of adventure". Honestly made me so furious I deleted the app, a record of 2 hours betw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:36 AM |
| 4 | Can We Talk About The Song "Fixer Upper" From Frozen? Kristoff is awkward, smelly, and has a weird relationship with a reindeer but his family is trying to pawn him off on Anna to be *her* problem. The way to fix up this fixer-upper is NOT to Fix him up with one of us! He needs THERAPY and a BATH!Showing my Disney nerdiness here but I HATE Mulan 2. Shang becomes the ultimate lvm abuser who's hyper-emasculated by her and tries to suppress her the whole way. They marry at the end without resolving any of their issues. I pretend it doesn't exist 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 07:33 AM |
| 3 | Can We Talk About The Song "Fixer Upper" From Frozen? Kristoff is awkward, smelly, and has a weird relationship with a reindeer but his family is trying to pawn him off on Anna to be *her* problem. The way to fix up this fixer-upper is NOT to Fix him up with one of us! He needs THERAPY and a BATH!The sequel helps a LOT in fixing this, Kristoff is basically irrelevant and she ignores him the whole way and straight up forgets him in a forest because there are more pressing matters 😂. Tbh I like Kristoff but it was hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 07:31 AM |
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