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ADVICEsnow678/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 05:27 PM
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ADVICEsnow678/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 05:40 AM
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I'm not going to leave him it is one option I considered. I came back after yesterday because people are saying to go to work but I am not sure whether that is still the right thing to do after we talked about it and he was really against it.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 05:43 PM
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I must be mistaken, but when I read this website before I always thought that its purpose was to give advice to women with marriage problems.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 04:58 PM
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I did not know that he was like this when we got married. He had a promising job, or it seemed like it at the time. We spoke about it but I didn't end up giving him the ultimatum. We just spoke about it and we didn't quarrel but he made his feelings very clear. The ADD thing - he doesn't want me to bring it up any more. He says he was suspected of having ADD when he was in grade school, was evaluated with a reading comprehension test and passed it, and they determined that he doesn't have ADD. W…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 04:47 PM
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I have asked him to do all of those things on the first part of the list, but he hasn't. Is it appropriate to bring up the second part now, then?
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 08:04 PM
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We did talk about that, but he said that everything will be fine because he is going back to work on Monday. He doesn't know that I know that he got fired for working too slowly and talking instead of working. I just fear the same thing will happen over and over again (which it has up until now with no changes) and he will never make real change unless I tell him that I will start taking action unless he fixes things.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 08:03 PM
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This is the ultimatum I was going to present him with: get evaluated for ADD see a financial advisor keep us in this home for at least one year get and keep a steady job pay our expenses consistently without using credit cards make progress in paying off our debt If not then: children enter subsidized daycare I start working outside the home I will be declaring bankruptcy I will consider going back to university I am asking my family for financial help Is this right?
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 08:01 PM
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I didn't mean threatening to leave him, I mean telling him that if he doesn't take steps to solve it soon that I will put the children in daycare and go to work (which is very against his wishes). Do I give him that ultimatum, or just do it right now? If I don't find local work I will have to move away.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:59 PM
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Do you think the ultimatum I outlined is a good and reasonable thing to do? And what else can I work on, in myself, to make the situation better? And to cope with my stress, without causing disharmony? Thank you all for your time and advice, by the way, I am very tempted to call and vent to grandma but I am holding back because I fear it may cause more problems in our marriage if she hears news that will make her see him in a bad light.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:55 PM
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Maybe I shouldn't have, but I did and now I can't just forget it. You are right about the finances - I did not understand how he viewed them before we got married.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:51 PM
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The subsidized daycare is cheaper and I would trust them more than a random person because I assume they are at least background checked and such there. I also don't want to leave the children in daycare but what else can I do? I have no car and only about a dozen companies in walking distance where I could get a job. When I suggest weekend work he just says that he will get a weekend job instead. He also deleted my resume so I can't find work and I'm not allowed to drive his car. If I can't get…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:50 PM
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We dated for about a year and a half. He lived in the same decent place the entire time. Nothing ever seemed off. I opened up the computer email program to send an email to somebody, and when it opened it was still logged into his account and that is the message that was on the screen. He is a very laid back and casual person. He doesn't take anything seriously. It used to be an attractive thing to me for some reason but now, obviously, it is driving me crazy. How do you get through to somebody …
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:47 PM
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We didn't live together before so I had no way of verifying whether it was true or not. How could I have known if he was working the entire time or working the same job the entire time? It isn't like I checked up on him at work, I just believed him and trusted that he was telling the truth. The only way my family could look after the kids would be if I moved in with them. They live on the other side of the country. He says that I can't work because I have no resume (he deleted it) and because I …
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:39 PM
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I learned about it by reading messages between him and his boss. He doesn't want me to work because he wants what is best for the children. I offered to work on weekends, he just says that he will get a weekend job instead but he never has. There are not really any daycare options but only cheap subsidized daycare which is pretty crappy and is for poor people.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:25 PM
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I thought about what I will say to him when he gets home. I am going to tell him that this is what I want from him: get evaluated for ADD see a financial advisor keep us in this home for at least one year get and keep a steady job pay our expenses consistently without using credit cards make progress in paying off our debt And that if he doesn't then I have to fix it by: having children enter subsidized daycare working outside the home declaring bankruptcy consider going back to university askin…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 07:22 PM
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I didn't marry him knowing about this behavior. When I married him he had a promising job and I believed that he was hardworking. He did not start losing jobs until after we were married. Things are worse than they were a year ago. We have more debt. We are at our credit card limits and he can't use them as backup any more. We might not be able to pay rent next month. We have a budget and I do the finances now, and he has seen them. I feel like I can't get through to him. He casually waves it aw…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 06:47 PM
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Before our marriage his job at the time seemed promising. I thought that he was capable and hardworking. He wanted to have a traditional family and to be the breadwinner and I believed that he was serious and responsible. For the entirety of our marriage, he has had issues keeping a job. We managed for a while because his jobs were decently paid, and after losing a job he typically gets a new one quickly. Over time we did deplete our savings, however, and then started going into debt. He is not …
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 06:26 PM
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I actually suspected it before, but he won't get evaluated or anything so I don't know.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 06:03 PM
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Thank you for your reply but unfortunately no, we have no nest egg, nothing. Small amount of money in the bank to cover expenses and that's it.
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 06:26 AM
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