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I envy you for being out already. Take care of yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:35 AM
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The latter was read about 6 weeks ago. The former was purchased at the same time and is first in the queue. Know thine enemy.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:35 AM
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I appreciate the encouragement. I will tell you one of the hardest part: restraining myself from lashing out when she does the same. Now that we're getting divorced, she can be a cunt because she feels like it, why can't I? Because it could jeopardize my Plan, that's why. It all comes back to that: preserving the Plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:34 AM
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Thanks. So far, so good. Trying to sort out the logistics and move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:25 AM
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The biggest one is going out at night. She didn't start doing that until things got really bad. For example, there was a night not too long ago where she got home from work after midnight. Conclusive? No. Odd and inappropriate? I think so.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 09:39 AM
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I agree with you. For a while, the prospect of finding evidence was comforting, as it would have given me a reason to hate her more. Then I got over it. I have better things to do as I move on. It'll be a long road; best to stay focused on where I'm going rather than where I've been.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:50 PM
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Appreciated, and I will surely still be around this sub, hopefully with some decent stories to share. I am building a good-sized backlog of books; will add these.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:49 PM
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Thanks. I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:48 PM
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It was utterly unbelievable. I try and find good in situations; the good part of that night was that it essentially removed all doubt about my staying with her. Prior to that, I felt the normal "Should I go or should I stay?" daily, even while preparing to leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:47 PM
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Thanks. Going to focus on myself for a while first. In addition to moving and setting my new home, I need to find new gyms (general purpose and martial arts) and continue to focus on my career. In some sick, twisted, hyperbolic way, this is like I am getting out of prison.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:45 PM
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Yeah, that's part of what happened, quite literally. Think about it: If you act a certain way and are shown/told for years that it's an OK way to act, then eventually you're shown/told that it's no longer OK, you might suddenly find yourself rejecting the situation. I can't blame her for that part; I take accountability.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:43 PM
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Thanks for the post. I think that for most people, it's solid advice / a relatable perspective. Then there's those of us with slightly different situations. I want to add some of my own perspective; (/u/jacktenofhearts offered a suitable tl;dr yesterday): some can't imagine they'll ever get over the hatred they feel for their wife, some are sure their wife really is a bitch and they want someone better...Others seem intent on saving a marriage even though their wife is probably never going to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 03:09 AM
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You're right, which is why I asked.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 07:03 PM
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the fall out that would occur. You mean your kids being affected, or effects on you personally?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 02:46 PM
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TIL. Thanks. So I take it that in order for these aspects of your religion to "work" from an MRP aspect, both you and your wife must be practicing believers? Or maybe the reality is that it works better that way?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 02:44 PM
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Thanks for the perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 06:34 AM
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There is hope if you decide to end it. I am no fan of divorce but sometimes a bad relationship needs to be buried Words on encouragement for some of us. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 04:08 AM
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Was she always awesome or did MRP changes in you lead to changes in her?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 04:07 AM
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I'm genuinely curious: How do you balance TRP/MRP with the faith thing? For example, I'd think that The Sex God Method is off limits while having a submissive wife is certainly on the table.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 04:06 AM
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Thankfully I told everyone I knew to fuck off and just straight up ended it. Why everyone, why not just her? Was it that the others were worthless, or was it that their presence added nothing to your plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 01:12 AM
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You're a natural Judge Dread. I aspire to that!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 01:10 AM
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It sounds like you have done everything you can. The one thing you can't do is MAKE her stop doing what she's doing. It's pretty clear that she's going to do what she's going to do. The other complexity here is that your are spangled dealing with a woman who has a serious addiction. Protect yourself. Does she add value to your life? If so, consider doing something drastic, like an intervention or something. You've been to darker corners than me, so I don't have to tell you to do everything you p…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 01:08 AM
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To provide some more insight into my situation: I arrived home after am entire day at work. As I am walking through the door, wife starts immediately with making emotional requests (subtle complaining). I respond with, "Ok, I'm heading over here if you want to join me when you're done." Eventually she joins me, and her request escalates, so I respond by inquiring about what was driving it, to feign interest in her. This was like prodding a bear. She went from 0 to 100 instantly because I "didn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 12:37 AM
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Vindictive? Pissed? Not attracted to her any longer? Some of each, honestly. I internalize those feelings and do my best to only display them outwardly very, very subtly. The old me would have prompted a discussion; the current me simply replied, "No, I'm good." I used to be very attracted to her; it has decreased greatly lately (her appearance and behavior contribute). Why are you going on vacations with this woman when she is behaving like that? This point is one of the better ones, and I do u…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/15 10:51 PM
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Thank you, sir, for your input and support.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 09:20 AM
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First off, I have always appreciated your input. This post is helpful in many ways, causing me to think. Now, to address your points: Get your ducks in a row and prepare for divorce. This, thankfully, has been in motion for some time now. I realized a while back and that divorce was a strong possibility one way or another. The difference now is that I am inching closer and closer myself. So I think we both know this "no expectations" exercise is doomed to fail. She will inevitably perceive some …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 02:57 AM
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So what you're saying is that the problem isn't MMSLP, but the online presence officially associated with it. Because I have to say that as a beginner to TRP/MRP, the book is an excellent introduction/foundation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:49 PM
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Based on what little information you've provided, I'm getting a cheating vibe. It has crossed my mind, but I have very high certainty that it is not occurring. What exactly makes you think that? Maybe you're seeing something I haven't thought of.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:47 PM
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Thanks. Bookmarked for reading tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:46 PM
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Point taken. Thanks for offering this. If anyone ever doubts the plausibility of the effects of the feminine imperative, read my posts. This is a hard paradigm to break, and the habits die hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:45 PM
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But I should I really relax? Do you think that could potentially lead to me letting my guard down, straying from my MAP, etc.?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:42 PM
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I noticed on two occasions, once with the vacation and once with the planned event, you're treating her to incredibly nice things. She didn't deserve that and definitely hadn't earned those. It sounds as if you're in a place where it probably won't be happening any more, but watch out for that. I agree with you. I did these things because I, maybe incorrectly, thought that it was time to show some beta. Take the vacation for instance. It was planned after a particularly tumultuous few days durin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:41 PM
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Great point. I am working on this. If you can imagine, the issue of my lack of indifference used to be worse. Thinking, and even saying aloud, "I don't care" has gotten much easier for me. What I hear you saying is that I need to do more doing of "I don't care."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:36 PM
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I agree with you. But the way I see it, sometimes when learning a new martial art, one must take a fist to the face from the teacher in order to learn that their technique isn't right.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:34 PM
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There's a person wearing the pants. It's not you. This has been the problem the entire time until several months ago when I found TRP/MRP: I wasn't in the driver's seat, she was. Everything I wanted or needed was effectively with her permission. When I started making changes, it came as a terrible shock to her and she is continuing to resist. I don't deny a word of your assessment. Old habits die hard, but they CAN die if the assassin is determined enough. I am. Thanks for the punch.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 04:29 AM
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You make a very good point, but she can't get pregnant of we don't have sex. The last few times it happened, prophylactic devices were used. I am controlling the birth.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 04:23 AM
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I agree on both counts. This is difficult, but one of the silver linings is that I am working on myself, creating much more value than there was before. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 02:52 AM
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Awesome job. I have to apologize to you; in your previous post, I said that you messed up. I no longer feel that way. You handled yourself and the situation great, considering the circumstances. The bluepill guy may not have had this fight because he is too much of a pussy to point out inappropriate behavior but if there is an argument. This is the best part. Thanks for posting.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 02:23 AM
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Damn. Where did you go? What's your plan for the night? Obviously you know you went wrong; sounds like you're learning from it already. Is your wife the type to own up for her part of it?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:26 AM
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Did I pick the wrong time to start? No, you didn't. If you care to read my post history, you'll see sort of a reverse situation: my father passed away and I had to deal with that and my wife's normal string if bullshit. Like others have said much better than I will, taking care of business includes taking care of yourself. Do what you have to do and make every decision as if it's the right one.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 01:40 AM
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Thanks. Your input is helping me to figure this out. I fully realize that I have to do it, whether or not we end up divorced.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 11:07 PM
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do less talking about it (perhaps NO talking about it) and that it what will bring the desired behavior change I agree. This part is very difficult. I myself am slowly getting it: thinking/pondering more, doing/executing more, talking aloud about it less.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 10:34 PM
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Saying she blocks you is just paraphrasing that she is too strong/too smart/too bossy/too powerful/doesn’t like it/is a feminist/doesn’t give me a captain’s hat. I was going to edit the post to add your "contribution" but I think it isn't needed, you get the point. I think I get you--in other words, it's an excuse. Is she physically blocking you? Hiding away tools? How is she blocking you? When you say she stands in the way, what do you mean? Does she barricade you in a place blocking your path?…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 10:30 PM
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Great post. You're pretty familiar with my situation, but let me highlight a recent detail that seems to, on the surface anyway, be an exception: My wife says I'm too mean to lead. I get work done (never been an issue), I only take leisure time when there aren't major things to do, and I am slowly but surely increasing my SMV (and she's noticing). The thing I can't do right in her eyes is take care of her [stunted] emotions. Therefore, she openly, vocally stands in the way of my leading. Perhaps…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 10:06 AM
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apologise for that I have found that it doesn't always have to be an apology. Sometimes, owning it is enough: "I see, it bothers you that I forgot the milk. Pretty messed of me. How about I get it tomorrow? I have an idea or two about how not to forget it moving forward."
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:25 AM
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Good point. I downloaded Clue to try and track it. Thanks for the article.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:22 AM
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Got it. Thanks. I need to stop wavering in my leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:21 AM
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This looks like a classic dominance engagement. That's part of it. I may not have made it clear yet that my wife is a bit of a "you go gurl" type. There are times when she actually days aloud things like, "You think you're the dominant alpha one?" The dominance portion of this Tomassi article fits her well: during sex or when she is otherwise in a good mood, she appreciates being submissive, but when she's mad, submission is the opposite of what's in her mind. When she engages you, just remember…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:18 AM
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In a nutshell you a demonstrating Alpha and leadership traits but failing to deliver on them. You're making a good point here, I think, but I'm not completely getting it. Where exactly is the failure to deliver? Not being smart, just want to understand. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:16 AM
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This works foe me sometimes, too. I admit that I can, at times, not be in the mood to understand. That's a form of giving in to the hamster, isn't it? I think I need to avoid giving giving her any ammo. I should be taking the ammo away.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 12:27 AM
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Agreed. Working on that book everyday, including going over past chapters.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 12:25 AM
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Let me suggest a different approach, at least a temporary one: Should she see a professional? You mentioned that you have researched this situation. What does your research say about getting the help of a doctor or therapist? Maybe as your are continuing MRP, your wife should be seeking her own path towards getting past her issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 03:52 PM
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Yeah, you have a point here. I have left a few times during her tantrums, but I should probably exercise that route of dread more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 03:45 PM
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Good point. I reread the thing and realized it was a mess. Edited for clarity. Thanks for pointing it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 03:42 PM
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Cool, cold, aloof isn't going to work forever. A reality that I am having trouble coping with, honestly. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 02:04 AM
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...start working to improve your financial ability to contribute, and keep your head down and be polite until you succeed...suggest she consider her options if she decides she needs a break from sharing a home with you. Good idea. I appreciate the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 02:00 AM
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That's a good point. In the last few weeks, I have caught myself maybe a dozen times saying things like, "What do you want to do?" or "Can I get you anything?" It's an improvement because I used to ask ALL THE TIME. But the progress only matters if it continues, so off I go.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:58 AM
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Thanks for the idea, but I'm not going to do that. I decided a while back, after seeking legal advice, that if and when I leave, I will not be returning. Since I haven't reached that point just yet, I'll stay put. I have learned from this community, the books, blogs, etc. that dread takes many forms, and leaving has its place.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:50 AM
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Does she have any idea what an unbelievable amount of disrespect it was to simply leave you at your belt testing? She might as well have dropped you off at an important college test with a "fuck you." She doesn't. I understand, AWALT. But what I need to make clear about my wife is that SHE ONLY CARES ABOUT HER OWN FEELINGS. It's very, very frustrating. One moment, she is doing a feminist speech to me about "being an equal team." The next, she is wiping her nosebleed on my shirt to make a point. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:49 AM
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Everything I'm reading about your wife sounds like a woman who is pissed off about something, and is frustrated her husband seemingly has no empathy. Absolutely spot on. But she is looking for her to be "her oak," and all your actions described you doing everything but that. Now I'm really listening. She continued to sulk, then I went on my own. Hindsight is 20/20; you are right about this part. I should have just gone, as I have done before when she has bailed on joining me due to a tiff or pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:45 AM
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You are the mountain, man. Be it. Live it. You're right. Thanks for the encouraging words.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:38 AM
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Amused mastery Thanks for the advice. Do any of the MRP-recommended books cover amused mastery, or is this an online manosphere concept? I'm only vaguely familiar with it. Edit: Got it. Not surprising that I'm not familiar with it as I haven't ready The Rationale Male yet (it'll be next).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:35 AM
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edited.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:35 AM
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I have, over a month ago. My plan is set for whenever I need it. Thanks for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:34 AM
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Your SO has to know that you're willing to walk away. I agree with. She knows. While we were talking, I had the divorce papers in front of me. At one point, I asked her for a pen when she made another divorce threat. My action had the desired effect on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:33 AM
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Because I didn't make it clear in my OP: The thing she was upset about last night was that, after a long week at work (and I had to work on Sat. morning as well), I came home and was not attentive enough while we were talking. Actually, /u/jacktenofhearts hit the nail on the head: My read on this is that you were looking forward to coming home and going to the gym with her. Instead you see her just lying in bed and eager to talk about some boring minutiae. Yes, I was annoyed with the way the nig…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 01:31 AM
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...she is afraid. Yes, afraid. Afraid she can't control you, afraid she's not in control, afraid you don't want her. I definitely think some of this is going on. What she's used to (as recently as months ago) is groveling in response to her episodes. I'm not doing that anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 12:45 AM
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Try Moon Reader+ for PDFs.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/15 02:36 AM
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Thanks again, sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 12:43 AM
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At the time I posted that, I was looking for every little suspicious thing. So, the flags I was referring to are the bulleted items.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:33 PM
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Hi. This sounds like a real emergency situation to me. Can you explain why? What nature of emergency do you mean? I appreciate your suggestion, but I need to understand it better. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:30 PM
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Demonstrate, don't explicate. Agreed. Working on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:29 PM
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Yea..stop telling her shit. Be quiet and just do these things. You dont need to make any sort ofa nnouncements regarding self improvement particularly to her. I agree with you. I'm working hard on that issue of mine. Going ballistic is about as bluepill as it gets. Do you believe this is always true? I remember clearly what I said to her, and I stayed away from needs. I went off the handle, yes, but I was making repeated, dreadful "if-then" statements. Still BP? I'm asking not to be smart, but b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:27 PM
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Well, maybe a woman that is fearful of losing the [misapplied] control she had over OP, not necessarily OP himself. This is a fair assessment. It's the emotional control and attention that she must have. I don't know how else to describe it: it's like a life-force for her and it must be replenished frequently, regardless of anything else that may be going on. Imagine how that feels, day in, day out (maybe you easily can). Maybe this works but I don't agree. This is what she is talking about when…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:24 PM
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It sounds like your wife is anxious-preoccupied. Does this sound like her: http://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-anxious-preoccupied/ In the beginning of the article, I didn't think so. Towards the end, however, I was reading about some of her actual traits. So I would say she certainly has many of the anxious-preoccupied traits described therein. I think what you need is a lighter touch. For her, she'll naturally always be worried about if you love her enough, her mind will always…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:16 PM
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As always, thanks for the insight. Makes sense. Bought WISNIFG last night and will start it as soon as I finish my current read by Mr. Kay.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 08:59 PM
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TL:DR: Betches be crazy. Yeah. I hear what you are saying, but to a point, I don't think it will work as written. Mustn't we understand what they are actually saying and doing in order to react correctly?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 08:56 PM
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Does that work for you? I am pretty sure I've tried it and received one of the following in response: "I don't need you to try, I need you to succeed." "Why can't you just give me what I ask for?"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 08:23 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to respond in such detail. I want to address some of your points. Right of the bat: Throughout all your posts, I can't even figure out why she loses her shit. What problems is she claiming she's having and you're not helping with? Her version: I don't always take her feelings into account. I fail to speak in her language, I fail to always think of her, and I don't have the same innate need as her to want us to be "one." My translation: Sometimes, I think about what I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 08:47 AM
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Our situations are a little similar. I can tell you that as Muchas you want to, you can't instantly stop letting her push your buttons. I think most if the guys here would also admit that it takes time. I am in the very early stages, basically just having realized that she is able to do this to me. You have to be willing to admit that right now, she has no reason to stop; there's no guarantee that she ever will. What you can count on though, I think, is your eventual ability to control your reac…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/15 11:02 PM
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Have some Beyonce and peppers as you read about dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 10:42 AM
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Nice. Good to know that your divorce was the start of something better.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 04:17 AM
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Got it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 03:59 AM
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Tonight (the night after I started this thread) is the silent treatment. I got home late, she wasn't here, so I went to the gym. Since I've been home after that, she had said maybe three things to me, obviously rejecting my attempts to be social after not seeing each other for almost 24 hours. Interesting points: Today at work, I texted something funny to her. She responded in kind, joking along with me. Tonight when I mentioned the exchange, she responded with, "I don't know what you're talking…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 03:54 AM
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Absolutely excellent. Thank you for sharing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:36 AM
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This is all helpful to me. No need to apologize.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:33 AM
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what kind of women are in your life now?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:31 AM
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You're very fortunate, I gotta tell you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:30 AM
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A good one, and relevant to my situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:26 AM
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"Feel free to leave. Don't let the door hit your ass on the way out," she's going to see herself as dominant. I'm new. Do you mean this literally, as in actually say it? I didn't realize that RP behavior could be so "direct." thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:24 AM
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Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:22 AM
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And I for yours. Very moving; misty have been terrible. How many years of RP did it take for your wife to reach this point of acting correctly?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:21 AM
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let's just say OP handled his temper way better than I would have. Thanks. It was immensely hard, but I think (hope) it will get easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:20 AM
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I appreciate it. Hopefully others can learn from the account, analysis, and advice herein.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:17 AM
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Thanks for the encouragement. I hear you on all accounts. Like you, I don't necessarily want it to end, but I have reached a turning point worth RP thinking and practice. If it ends tomorrow, it wasn't all me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:16 AM
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That must have been absolutely horrible, having to do that because your mother wanted the attention. You displayed such strength to stand up to her on your father's behalf. You said it: AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 10:46 AM
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As always, I appreciate your insight. Surprisingly, I have not had a single inkling about wanting/needing an apology. The old/current me would be demanding one, but the evolving me doesn't care about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 10:44 AM
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An update: When I arrived home from the gym,she wasn't here. That's her typical thing, leaving to go smoke when she's very upset (she "quit" smoking shortly after we first met). While I was in the bathroom getting ready for bed, I heard her arrive. I got in the shower, finished, and didn't expect her to still be around when I got out. She was. I asked if she wanted anything to drink. She ignored my question, responding with, "Do you want to try again?" in a tired, calm, nearly defeated voice. We…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 03:45 AM
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Well said, thanks. His passing has done something, I'll admit. The situation has been very telling for both of us. Also, you are spot on: I did let many things just happen. By seeing her sad face and instinctively running over to fix things, I am very much partly responsible for the proverbial monster. I have work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 03:30 AM
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I hear you, and we share that feeling. But as toy and others punted out in my last post, now is the time to execute, grow, and observe. I am staying the course, even if it turns out to end in divorce from this woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 03:25 AM
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I have received much advice from this community over the past month or do, some of it direct and some just from reading posts. Examples are very helpful and cab really be brought up during an in-person conversation. For example, respond to his stories of woe worth your own stories of victory, the goal being too show him how it's done and hopefully spark his interest in learning. As the others have said, give him some crumbs and be there to help in the event that he wants his own pill-cake.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 02:13 AM
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Thank you, sir. This community is very helpful and there is much to learn from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:59 AM
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I keep telling myself that, that the sun will come out. Is some form or fashion, eventually, the goddamn sun will come out. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:58 AM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:57 AM
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Sadly, wives are not able to help and when you expect this assistance then things rapidly decline To everyone who reads this sentence, it is absolutely true. Do not COUNT on your woman to be there emotionally. If she is, that's really nice. But don't expect it as if it's her job. If you do, you may be in for something.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:52 AM
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I appreciate your feedback; it seems honest. Heading home now. We'll see what happens tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:22 AM
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Right on. At the time I wrote that other post, I wasnt applying anything TRP (other than getting up and going torture gym during her meltdown). I realize that I am just getting started and I can't control her, nor is it my job to. I Jane good ideas about what I need to do with myself, for myself, and about myself. I take full responsibility for those action items, and only by accomplishing then can I figure this out. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 04:43 PM
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Thanks. Went food toot decide to stay? If I understand correctly, you found TRP after you had kids, right? I think my wife had great value, but that I am responsible for failing to draw it out. I will be working on myself after the funeral stuff is over in a few days. Then, hopefully, I will be able to seeore clearly.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 04:00 PM
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Though emotional, you are right. Divorce is an option, but it's just one, and it's the most unreasonable one right now given the circumstances. I am trying to build something here,hence my asking questions / venting in this sub What was the hardest part for you in the beginning of your TRP journey? Again, your response helps.Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:57 PM
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Very helpful response. Thanks. As I said, I have hardly done anything so far. I am halfway through NMMNG,with several other reading materials lined up (Athol will be next). The one change I have been working on first is not arguing. I am slowly getting better at it, removing emotional reactions from my responses to my wife. It is having a positive effect: she feels "more heard" because I am no longer battling back, and we are sticking the point. I still have a MASSIVE amount of work to do. Again…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:53 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:48 PM
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Got it. What I lack right now is focus; it's tough, but I jabs to regain it. Funeral is soon, then I can move onto doing what I need to do, starting with the continuation of my reading. Thanks for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:45 PM
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