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snowmen010101/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:04 PM
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DATING ADVICEsnowmen010101/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:40 AM
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I thought similarly when I read things like “guide to training bitches.” I’m happy to hear about your successful marriage. I hope I can find someone like that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 04:51 AM
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Thank you for your example, I’m glad things are working out for you. I believe he does rule through fear. Or at the very least, he did in the past and I am having trouble letting go of that fear. He would stonewall me and put me down before. Now (it’s hard to say his true motivations because we don’t ever really talk) it seems like he is just withholding affection or interest and attention for the times that I please him as a reward and ignored me the rest of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 07:28 PM
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Yes, you are right. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 07:24 PM
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Good parts..he made me laugh, he was strong and masculine and handsome, he was deeply spiritual, the sex was amazing. The bad...I felt that he was a leader who ruled through fear. He was emotionally abusive for a long time and has no problem being cruel to me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:21 PM
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To be honest, sometimes I believe that he is right. I mean, in the RPW wiki, men should lead and women should help them become leaders. Previously, he was really cruel to me and I lost a lot of trust and wasn’t able to regain it. He kept saying that I needed to change and once I changed he would reward me with the behavior that I wanted. But I feel like I am just chasing an impossible carrot that doesn’t actually exist.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:14 PM
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He ascribes to red pill (male version). I know that he likes to spin plates, apply dread game, dare not deer, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:11 PM
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Thank you for your insight. I know that my poor boundary setting, emotionality, and codependency have contributed to this situation. I suspect that his past trauma and trust issues have also contributed. I guess I keep hoping that he will become captain material and more compatible if I do the right things.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 09:38 AM
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Thank you for your many thoughtful responses and kindness for explaining things to me. He doesn't say that his happiness depends on me; he says that the way I am treated is dependent on me. He told me today that if I act like a hoe I will get treated like a hoe. When I asked him for a list of rules to abide by per the suggestion of an RPW-er, he took that as offense to his leadership and has since told me that we are officially FWBs. I feel really gutted right now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 12:49 AM
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I’m happy to hear that you and your husband are able to solve your problems like that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:46 PM
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Thanks for the advice on boundaries. I am already in therapy and am on medication as well. I’m glad you and your fiancé were able to work things out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:45 PM
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I often feel like I am about to fall off the edge of a cliff and am on crumbling ground. I guess that means I don’t feel particularly nurtured or safe.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:44 PM
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He has a history of childhood abuse, more severe than mine.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:30 PM
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I feel so unhappy when I think that he is not into me. Bht maybe you are right.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:28 PM
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Thank you for pointing these things out. In the movie, I had hoped he would be the one and there are scenes that I would love to have featured — the times when he is kind, insightful, affectionate, protective. But then there are a lot of scenes where I am struggling and upset and hopeless.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:27 PM
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When I ask for explanations, he labels it as disrespectful to his judgment and talking back or making excuses. I feel afraid and confused and as a result, feel increasingly anxious all the time because I don’t know what is going to set him off.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:25 PM
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He often says things about women which I find offensive. I often feel personally attacked when he says those types of things. That guide has many parallels to the dynamic of our relationship. Is that abusive?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:24 PM
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Your ex sounds horrible, and I am glad that you are out of that relationship. I have never intentionally been disrespectful and am often confused about his definition of that word.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:18 PM
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I’m very bad about setting boundaries. My whole career has been based on working hard and giving my all. My family also encouraged this attitude when I was young.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:17 PM
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Thank you for these videos. I’m so sorry to hear about your ex, and I hope you are in a better place now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:16 PM
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Thank you for providing that resource
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:02 PM
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Thank you for your insight. How is he gaslighting?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 10:00 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 05:12 PM
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He frequently describes himself as based and redpilled
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 02:15 AM
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I feel like I am on a roller coaster — what comes up must come down. Even on good days I feel anxious for the bad days coming ahead. I have a hard time believing that he is abusive, however. When he explains things, they make sense to me. Actions have repercussions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:31 AM
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I will sometimes ask what is wrong but sometimes he says nothing and I don’t want to nag so I typically don’t follow up. My parents are immigrants but I grew up in America; he is white. No language barrier. Culturally we are very different, just very different educational status and politics. I am very punctual (If I am going to be late even by minutes I will let him know) and I always try very hard to do what I say. Early on in the relationship I did make jokes which he took badly and punished …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:29 AM
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I am a very physical person so I am always touching his leg or arm if we are sitting together. I love giving him hugs. I don’t know what holding him like a man means but after sex usually he will put his arm around me and I will be at his side.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:10 AM
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I am so sorry to hear that he feels used. He likes it when I cook him dinner and rub his back and express physical affection. He says he likes submissive and feminine women. Recently he said that respect is everything for him and that without it I would just be another thot. I try really, really hard to do things that he likes and express that I love him but maybe I am not skillful in it. As for respect — I wish I had some kind of guidebook in learning how to express that better.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:02 AM
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I know that I wasn’t showing much affection. I felt totally turned off and angry. Usually I am very physically expressive and in that moment I felt so upset.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:59 AM
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It sounds like you have a much stronger sense of self worth than I do. I really take it hard and as an attack on my personal value when I’m unable to perform to that high standard. He has always encouraged me to stand up for myself since I am kind of a push over. Recently he texted me and asked me to bring him dinner in an hour without any advance notice. I was staying late at work and really stressing out about making that deadline. I was unfortunately rude to him during dinner — being uncommun…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:19 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. I feel devastated when you say that he won’t get the things he wants out of this relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:13 AM
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Do you think that those kinds of behaviors are intentional or the byproduct of an abusive environment? Thank you for taking the time to explain.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:10 AM
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What makes you say not while in a relationship and this one in particular? Just trying to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:07 AM
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I’m hopeful that the future will be better. If I learn to be a better girlfriend then I think things will be better. He is the kind of person who always takes responsibility for his actions. Maybe if I did that more then I wouldn’t be so bothered by being punished for my mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:03 AM
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Do you think that I could learn to be like that? To be honest, I’ve always been sort of a doormat. He encourages me to stand up for myself. However recently I tried to set boundaries with him and came across as disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:01 AM
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To be honest sometimes I have felt like it’s a game. Sometimes I “level up” and achieve some new intimacy that I have been hoping for. And sometimes I fail and get downgraded. I often feel like if I could just do better and not make mistakes like I have been then things would be perfect. I feel like I keep hoping to be that perfect girlfriend and if I just keep trying and working harder then I’ll get there. But other times I feel totally hopeless like it will never happen. That’s when I get real…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:57 PM
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Sometimes I do feel like an addict — I crave his affection and kindness and have been trying and trying to obtain it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:54 PM
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Thank you for the suggestion, I will check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:50 PM
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He has said before he is sort of narcissistic and psychopathic and that all men are like that. I have wondered if he is borderline but I know that he has worked really hard to reclaim his mental health. I have a hard time trusting my gut. I do have a diagnosis of anxiety and take medication for it. Sometimes I wonder if I am just too sensitive and messed up for this relationship. But I have worked hard in therapy and in my spirituality to try to deal.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:50 PM
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You’re right that my parents were pretty abusive and held me to almost impossibly high standards. I am in a very demanding career field where mistakes can be devastating and so I often feel inadequate and haunted by failures. I do try very hard in relationships, but I also love performing service acts for friends and family.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:39 PM
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Would you point out what a leader would do? Thank you. I already have poor self esteem. I do feel like it has hit an all time low. He often makes remarks about attractive women and it makes me feel bad about myself. When I brought it up, he said that there was a reason why — although he refused to tell me, I suspect it is to do with increasing his value in my eyes
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:36 PM
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I know that he cares about me — he encourages me to work out, get my sleep. When I am stressed out from work, he will be physically affectionate with me and be nice. I do really respect and love him as a person even if my actions come across as disrespectful. He is intelligent and funny and masculine. When he is being open with me I have a lot of fun with him. He has done so many remarkable things and lived an incredible life. I feel that he understands where I come from because our childhoods w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:32 PM
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