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Has she changed? Why would you want to be FWB with someone like that? Thinking someone is one of a kind died for me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 11:18 PM
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Telling you from experience, I had 5 FWB at one point after my divorce. I also never bothered with other women while married. To me we were going to be together until death, one big argument and she tried to use divorce as a manipulation tactic. after 12 years together I was done with the manipulations. I tried to do what you describe with my Ex. She went nuclear once she found out I was seeing other girls, though she didn't know I knew but she was seeing another guy. I went on a date, later fou…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 10:56 PM
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Honestly as I read this, I just continue to say what the fuck are you doing? I think its time to meter what you are doing with your ex. No sexy text's, decline unscheduled visits, limit visits to 4 times a month (Only for a date/sex, or just sex), and make sure its establish you guys are FWB. Do not disclose any of the girls you are seeing, and limit it to "I'm busy x day" if you have a date. I've never seen a girl not get possessive over time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 09:52 PM
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Go younger, - Sex ( 24-28 yr old) - Relationship (27-34 yr old) - Marriage (28-32 yr old) I made these numbers up, statement still stands
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 04:48 PM
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Colombians are amazing, the affection, the sex, the conversations, and the fun. Results may vary
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 04:45 PM
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While I agree with everything except the open marriage part. I think him opening up to you is a good start. Its time to lay out the cards on the table, get to the bottom of it. Try new toys, new things, increase intimacy, maybe even see porn together. The whole lost interest because you gained weight is bullshit, sexual energy after is bullshit, to me it really sounds mental. The underlying issue might be greater than you think, but being open without any shame goes a long way. If he ultimately …
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 04:58 PM
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Easily influenced individuals is what you should avoid. Say they have a sister and they take what their sister says to heart. That is a huge red flag and you want to stay away from that. She might not be online as much now or aware of online social echo chambers but when she does see it at one stage of her life. It will likely end up looking the same, critical thinking is important.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 09:31 PM
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Brother who is to say you won't feel about this with another woman. I think the reflection should be within and not directed at her. I suggest you take a break from each other. Do not make it about divorce just stay away from the routine you've both built. Go live with a friend for 3 months, be sure to keep communication to a minimum. If she truly loves you she will understand that you don't want to die without exploring out the feelings you have. If after the break you feel the same then procee…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 06:00 PM
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I always recommend people to take this opportunity to try new activities and focus on yourself. Believe in yourself no matter the circumstances. It's hard, and the sadness doesn't just disappear but it does make it better. I recommend meetup app group activities, being around people helped me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 05:08 PM
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This is diabolical in my perspective, but the true angel would be you if you accept. Personally I would do it but bring a new girl with me. Wouldn't take long before she doesn't want to see you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 09:27 AM
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Agree, it was his crush since kids and in his mind he still thinks she is going to divorce the guy. I told him to move on, even helped him find someone else but he botched that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 07:01 PM
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No obligation and the opinion of someone on the internet shouldn't sway your decision. Just stating what I would do in your shoes. My (32M) friends (32F) friend of 13yrs is married and her (30M) husband tried to get with one of the (25f) girls I was seeing. The girl asked me to step in as he started sending very explicit texts on multiple platforms. I let my friend know to pass it along, let his friend know about what her husband was doing. Turned out he had cheated on her multiple times, she mo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:43 PM
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I would let AP's wife know, on principle that both their actions deserve consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:12 PM
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It all depends, one thing is you do not keep it quiet in court or the lawyers. I do not have experience in this but I've seen other people go thru it. One divorce the guy walked into his wife cheating, he kept it a secret. One night after 2 years of already being divorced he told me about it, he had not even let his own family know. He did it to save her, the kids, and himself from the shame. He explained that if he were to call it out and tell everyone about it, it would make her look bad and w…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:00 PM
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Wasting your time, no other way to look at it. She is manipulating you with sex. You should invest your time with someone who wants you. Unless you just want the sex, still search for someone but use her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 05:00 AM
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No rush he can still act, just do It where It benefits you best.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 08:12 PM
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I had the same issue where in couples therapy it was always pivot to me as opposed to taking responsibility for her actions. Once the therapist caught on that she needed to work on something she would shut down and lie. I don't know the full dynamic of the situation but it sounds like you are upset. It might be best to take some time away and just ask for space. the decisions you make now might affect your whole life. Don't say anything hurtful, don't confront, and avoid addressing the matter th…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 01:05 PM
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The mental gymnastics some people go thru to just poise themselves as the victim and not take any responsibility really disheartening. I will never marry again unfortunately, for the very reasons you posted. My ex wife was open to accountability, and had a handful of good attributes. Her insecurities got the best of her, she started doom scrolling self help on Instagram and then started listening to her friends who had even worse problems.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 01:43 PM
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Mine declined alimony even after the judge suggested she get it. Seeing all these makes me grateful.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:53 PM
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I had severe anxiety, I would shake while talking to people. People always assumed I was just freezing, with practice it goes away, believe in yourself. In my perspective social anxiety is just the lack of social interactions, as your interactions increase your anxiety decreases. Sadly the loneliness, the sadness, the regret, and replaying scenarios in your head will continue for a while. Eventually it will just come in waves, the lows will be hard lows but just keep a positive perspective of wh…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 07:54 PM
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Most definitely, pride week, visiting bars after they are done with softball league, and my friend being an organizer of drag shows contributed to the lesbian stories. From my experience, str women are good wing women for str men, gay men are amazing wing men for str men. While single lesbians are terrible wing women for str men. Lesbian friends always want the girl that is hitting it off with me for themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 06:27 PM
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Well the single mothers with +3 kids, tortas, lesbians, and occasional average looking girl do. Though I know others wont get the same results, I don't consider myself highly attractive but I know I'm enough to bag an 7-8. Joke I like to tell is that my cousin is Leonardo de Caprio and the family considers him the ugly one.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 03:46 PM
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Well I don't mean literally come to you, they look over more often or when you crack a joke they'll laugh harder, they'll ask questions. Here is where confidence is key.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:14 AM
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Depends on age, confidence level, financial standing, and time available. You also have to know your intentions, what do you want? Sex? Comfort? Friend? Love of your life? My experience has been great, I was not looking for a serious relationship seeing as I just got out of a long one. Highly recommend going to the gym, running, and focusing on your hobbies. Don't focus too much on dating someone, they'll come to you. Unless you are really interested in someone then go all out.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:20 PM
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It's odd but I've met so many healthy women, loving, emotionally intelligent, and supportive. When I was married I would hear about these perfect marriages I would roll my eyes. the majority of the ones I saw were always just complaining about each other, yet saying they love each other. The constant joking about how we can't stand each other or flat out belittlement in public. I think the piece of the puzzle is one self being healed, establishing emotional intelligence, and identifying it. Guys…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 05:50 PM
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Not true
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 07:52 PM
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I had my ex wife file the paperwork and we had to go to court an additional 2 times because she failed to fill them out properly. I suggest if you want something done right its best you do it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 02:50 PM
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Yeah we are definitely looking in a mirror lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 04:11 PM
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Sorry to hear that, yeah given the circumstances now I don't think I'd get back with her at all. My ex comes across as she is the b word, she's just attractive lol everyone asks how I tolerated her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:50 PM
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Thanks, hope you are too brother
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:27 PM
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My partner didn't love herself despite being drop dead beautiful. That made me timid and standoffish in the bed. We never had a dead bedroom just dry. She was also demeaning, disrespectful, always saw the negative in people and always jealous. It pushed me away from being everyday affectionate, I stonewalled her and I had to always be perfect. It made me treat her at a distance, realized I wanted someone to love me for me. Not love me because they think it's good for them. 12 yrs together we div…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:12 PM
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If anything it taught me to hold friends closer, spend more quality time with people who genuinely know who you are and appreciate you. I live 35 minutes away from Chicago, that does play a factor. I took the mutual friends out to eat and told them to remain friends with her, that she needed them more than I did. I said my goodbyes told them choices were made, and moved on. You do not need them lying to you, because they will.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 02:32 PM
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I only had 2 or 3 mutual friends that I lost during the transition. I made the decision to just cut ties with everyone, and I asked my best friend to choose. Strongly recommend starting over ideally other divorced men and women who have shared the same experiences as you. I'm an extrovert, it didn't take long to get multiple new groups of friends. What comes easy to me might be harder for others. I will say 20 months removed and the city will look different with a new group of friends.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 01:04 PM
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I recommend near Chicago though not directly in Chicago, if you have the bankroll though Chicago is the way to go. Dating wise you get a wide range of selection, as far as lifestyle you also have a wide range of activities.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 08:03 PM
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