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by saying “the bar is in hell” they are suggesting that men literally only have to do the absolute bare minimum and they'll have no problem - ergo suggesting men have it easy. There's actually no correlation because the context of these statements is different. When women complain that "the bar is in hell" they are talking about men who are already in LTR. At least, this is what I've seen on social media. It tends to be a critique on men's behavior when they are already settled with a woman, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:38 AM
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Are you trolling or something? How is that not obvious that you is not you personally but an abstract woman? A woman chooses who she sleeps with. You can say "you do somethng" when talking about general rules. Like what? If those men are such husband material and supposedly (according to you among others) being a husband is better and includes attractive AND then some, then choose to sleep with those men. That sounded like you were including ME with other women. Maybe you should check what you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:44 AM
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Thank you for your detailed explanation on your opinions and perceptions. I still disagree, but as I said, I think I already explained my own perception and we won't agree on anything. I fear I'm going to repeat myself again and again, so it's ok. I still don't believe hooking up is any sort of a privilege, but I can give you that, sure, most people aren't hooking up anyways so less men are getting laid without commitment. What else? Yeah, the OP was about how men find it more appealing to be "F…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:56 PM
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Why are you talking about yourself again? Because this was your comment If those men are such husband material and supposedly (according to you among others) being a husband is better and includes attractive AND then some, then choose to sleep with those men. You do choose who you sleep with assuming consensual sex. You literally told me to do something lmao. Yes, I'm stating facts. Everything I said is verifiable. When I'm saying my opinions you will know because I will use "in my opinion" or "…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:49 PM
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We are talking about how men see it. Exactly. That's framing. That's perception. That's subjective. You are not stating facts or "telling it how it is". You are explaining how men perceive reality, and I'm telling you why I find that perception and those conclusions wrong and biased. Anyways, I don't think I can explain something new to you, so I'm going to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:30 PM
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I think I lost the plot here for a second. Being FWB with someone does bring some level of commitment, right? Because usually you have a stable person you can have sex with. And usually there is an understanding that people in a FWB situation won't be sleeping around... Isn't that kinda like getting into a relationship? The difference is that you know FWB is temporary, and you assume a relationship is going to last forever. To me, it seems like the same thing. Yes, women are allowed to do whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:51 AM
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You are not stating facts. You are framing reality the way you think it is. Is it really that hard to understand? Even the facts that you decide to highlight create a narrative. It isn't the same if I say "men want more sex than women on average, so they tend to feel more rejected than women", than it is to say "men are being excluded from hooking up with women". The fact is the same: men want more sex than women want but are getting less sex than women get. At least, that's the principle of thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:08 AM
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I yapped too much. Sorry. I'm still answering you lmao. And of course even if most women would say that they don't want hookups, most of them did have hookups (and most of them more than once), so it's too late to not want to be part of hookup culture. Ok, I'm going to ask the naive question. Do you even have statistics on this? I'm from Latin America, to give you some context, and most of the women I've met don't engage in hookups. It is very rare to find people who actually fuck around. But, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:58 PM
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That's absolutely what it is - being wanted for who you are. Your body is who you are. Literally. Wanted for things other than your looks are in most cases not being wanted for you who are and you should find that degrading. Is this really how you feel? That's very sad. I disagree wholeheartedly with you. My body ALONE is literally not who I am. I am the combination of my looks and my personality. The combination of my ideology and my perspective in life. I could be caught in a fire tomorrow and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:58 PM
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Because that's you being wanted for who you are, not for what you do (your job, the jokes you make, etc). Do you mean that being "FWB/hookup material" is you being wanted for who you are? Or do you mean that I find it degrading because I want to be wanted for who I am? I'm going to guess you meant it like my first question and I'm going to answer. Maybe my perspective is different because I'm a woman, but I don't enjoy it when people fawn over my looks. It feels kind of degrading. The same way I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:17 PM
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Welp, yea, nobody wants to be a commodity. And it is in fact very shitty that people with children look for free childcare in their partners. I respect the fact that you would rather be a sexual commodity than an economical one, but I don't think women mean that when they call you "husband material". Again, either term sounds extremely dehumanizing to me, so I wouldn't use either to describe men. I'm either interested in someone or I'm not. But I don't think it is fair to assume that women don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:58 PM
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Quite frankly, I find calling anyone "hookup/FWB material" degrading. You are basically saying they are only good as a sex toy. Why would men want to be treated as a sex toy and nothing more? Let me go through your post. The fuck buddies are in a more exclusive and privileged group of men. No, they are not. Do you think only having sex with someone is a privilege? Like, do you want to treat people as your sex toys without the emotional investment of a relationship? You have higher benchmarks for…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:41 PM
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The OP answered me and then deleted his comment while I was writing my response. Since I already wrote it, I might as well just leave it here. It doesn't matter if I disagree. You asked a question: Compared to women blaming men, how much of men blaming women do you consider "normal"? You gave examples of "women blaming men", it is fair that you also provide examples of "men blaming women". That way, we can tell you if we consider that normal or not. Thank you for the example. Maybe you should ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:30 PM
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I find it curious that you give an example of "women blaming men" (which reads as "I don't actually understand women's complaints") but you don't give an example of "men blaming women". Could you provide that? I would like to know what you consider an even "blaming" here. That way, I can answer your question better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:06 PM
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And have you considered that autistic people can develop, especially if they’re given the impetus to do so? Of course they can, but is it fair to expect them to? What I mean by this is that, when you start a relationship with someone, you shouldn't expect them to change to a version of themselves that's more acceptable to you. Let's say that you start dating a fat person. Maybe they will be fat their whole life, maybe they will get even fatter, maybe they decide to change their lifestyle and get…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:12 AM
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Honestly, all the people who say that have no problem ever getting a date. So? It doesn't make it any less real. And it’s still not about getting a date for free. Ok then, what is it about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:17 PM
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the rights of minorities Getting a date is not a human right xD you are not owed a date. Do you know what a human right is? Being able to say no to a date. You are free to want to date a certain person, but it is not your right to date them if they don't want to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:57 PM
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Have you considered that some neurotypical people just don't want to date neurodivergent people? And, even in neurodivergent circles, some people just don't get along? You don't have to mask, but would you want to date a woman who doesn't understand autism and doesn't give a fuck about your interests? Of course not. Is it discrimination? Maybe. But you cannot force people to like you. And I've seen the same thing with neurodivergent women. I'm acquainted with an autistic woman and she's insuffer…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:54 PM
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HAHSHAJSJA I'm laughing at the end of your comment lmao. And thank you, I guess I have homework to do lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:17 AM
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Lmao that's fair xD No, I'm not trolling you :c I genuinely want to know. I don't watch porn, so I was curious if you just noticed this by the amount of "amateur" content being pushed VS content made by bigger studios. From my own perspective, big studios still have a lot of marketing being made. But, you know, it's hard to get actual statistics on porn, beyond looking at the pages and seeing which tags are more popular. I was curious if you happened to know actual statistics or if you noticed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:23 AM
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Oops I didn't realize we had to censor some words. You are right that with these arguments we tend to generalize to the extremes. However, I'm sorry to ask, where do you get this information from? I would like to learn more about these trends in "cornography" consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:36 AM
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It’s not that men and women are the same — but if we’re going to call out male behavior as toxic, we should admit the female equivalents can be just as damaging. Different process, same entitlement. But your examples are shitty at best, and completely nonsensical at worst. You didn't choose clear equivalents and you also took a lot of points from your own anecdotal experience. I'm not saying it is wrong to take from your anecdotal experience, but it is wrong to generalize when you've seen tiny e…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:50 PM
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TLDR: Your examples don't make sense. If you wanna know why I think that, you can read my comment. If I have any typo, I'm sorry. Fantasy & Escapism Porn is called gross, degrading, even “cheating.” True. Yet romance novels and fanfiction often glorify rape, incest, and other dark themes — but get excused because it’s “literature.” Not true. You know why I know this? Because I've read multiple romance novels and THERE ARE WOMEN WHO CRITICIZE THEM. Sure, there may be people who see porn and then …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:50 PM
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I really like this video. It's made by Contrapoints, and I think it explains why erotica for women is the way it is. Now, not all women even consume erotica. This is a fantasy, and sure, it tells us things about the women who wrote it and read it and enjoyed it, but it is not that "all women like edgy men". I think the video explains waaay better than I could what we can actually take from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 11:15 AM
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If you think, that communication with a man is a labor, you are coaching or improving him somehow, furthermore you see it as some unpaid work - just stop. Sure, yes, if talking to anyone makes you exhausted, just stop talking to them. You take it as a burden, not fun. If you are not enjoying relationships, why are you still there? Usually, people try to make relationships work. Like, they try not to leave the relationship at the minimum inconvenience, and they try to talk it out to solve the iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:34 AM
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I agree that if a man is a SAH husband he shouldn't be seen as submissive. Now, do you understand that having money gives you power in the real world? If you let your partner control all the money, you are at a disadvantage when it comes to the real world (the world outside your house and your relationship). Don't you see it with children and their parents? Children are essentially tied to their parents and their decisions until they can maintain themselves, why do you think it's different in ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:54 AM
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I don't know what QOL means. However, yes, you are right. Being lonely can and will do a lot of damage to anyone's mental health. I personally don't mean to invalidate that. What I was trying to say is that a lot of women tend to complain about being too noticed (being cat-called on the streets, being approached by random men anywhere, etc.), so it makes it kinda hard to empathize with the perspective of almost being invisible (and I've noticed a lot of men that are lonely tend to see the cat-ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:24 PM
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I'm not talking about replacements. Everyone is important in your life. What do you think a nice partner is and what role does it play in your life? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:14 PM
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I think having company, socializing and having a support system will always help you improve your mental health and will motivate you to do things. That's why we all need to have friends and family we can rely on. I don't think it's exclusive of romantic partners. I think the problem comes when we expect only our romantic partners to be there for us and support us. I don't think that's fair. What happens when that relationship ends? Where are we going to fall into? Who else is going to support u…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:51 PM
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I find it funny you said "middle aged in your 30s" lmao. Thank you for sharing though. It's kinda sad when relationships end because people just change :/ but it's better you ended it and didn't do something to jeopardize your goals in life. Do you have other hobbies? Ajjska sorry that may be too personal and creepy xD but like, what do you do in your free time? Videogames are fun for different reasons, and having fun things to do also adds to your life. Not everything is work and productivity (…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:23 AM
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Yeah, exactly. Honestly, it's a very shitty situation:( I cannot say I understand it at its fullest, but I do see how it can and will impact a person's self esteem not having a partner when they are expected to and feeling lonely when all you want is company. Being lonely is especially shitty and may turn you into someone you don't even like just to have company (and I think that's why a lot of people end up in horrible relationships). I believe that men are women suffer equally and have the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 11:44 PM
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I think the problem is... How can you know someone is abusive if you just met them? You cannot tell (well, at least I can't) if someone is a narcissist with violent outbursts if you just met them once. It is said that abusers tend to come off as very charming when you first meet them, and while the relationship develops, they start showing their true colors. I say that as an explanation to why future abusers may be having more consensual sex before being abusive. Than in comparison to "nice" guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 11:30 PM
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I think a lot of women don't take men seriously on this topic for two reasons: It's hard to empathize when the issue being discussed seems kinda... How do I say this? Dumb? As a woman, I don't pretend to invalidate how you guys feel, but as you mentioned, a lot of people come here (The Internet) with this competitive mindset of who is ACTUALLY suffering the MOST. I think a lot of women tend to feel that you guys complaining about not getting laid (and in general not being noticed by girls) is du…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 11:06 PM
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I read some of the comments and I wanna point out two things. The first one is that women are generally taught to care for other people. Why is it relevant? Because when women that haven't questioned these ideas go into the dating world, they tend to believe they can change this obviously abusive assholes. And also, if these women come from abusive households, they will go into abusive relationships; as humans, we tend to repeat patterns. However, it makes me sick to my stomach this whole speech…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 10:30 PM
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You know, this is an interesting topic because it definitely depends on a lot of factors. It's very hard to make general assumptions. However, here I come making general assumptions. I think a lot of guys seem to miss the point that women, if they go out everyday, are being constantly talked to by random dudes on the streets. At least in my country, even the dudes that collect your money on the bus will flirt with you. So, maybe you, as a guy, approached a girl on the street for the first time a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:26 AM
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That's called "classisim" and some women do, in fact, complain about it lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 10:13 PM
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I would like to ask you, since I'm not sure, is there any statistics on how many men end up raising children that aren't biologically theirs? And, if there is, does it say why this ends up happening? If the statistics show that X% of men end up raising children that aren't biologically theirs because their wives cheated, then, when you ask your wife for a paternity test you are accusing them of cheating. It doesn't matter if you say that "there's a chance"; realistically, what the statistics wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:29 AM
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