socozyinhere Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	40 yr old male never been in a ltr		socozyinhere	/r/askTRP	31/10/18 12:32 PM

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2	Seduction vs Escorts? yes.	/r/seduction	05/09/21 06:03 AM
1	[deleted by user] They lift lighter weights than us dudes but they concentrate on form and technique and ensure they get that right.	/r/seduction	24/08/21 01:14 AM
2	[deleted by user] Just leave her with her vibrator and cats/dogs.	/r/seduction	23/08/21 10:18 PM
2	If you are friend zoned, but still have feelings, it’s always better to distance yourself until the feelings fade—or accept the friendship is over if the feelings don’t fade What sort of career/job does she have? Is she very feminist or does she virtue signal a lot? Does she do this that make her outward appearance seem like a good person?	/r/seduction	21/08/21 03:50 PM
6	If you are friend zoned, but still have feelings, it’s always better to distance yourself until the feelings fade—or accept the friendship is over if the feelings don’t fade Sad woman. Better you didn’t have an intimate relationship with someone like her. You dodged a bullet.	/r/seduction	21/08/21 08:53 AM
9	If you are friend zoned, but still have feelings, it’s always better to distance yourself until the feelings fade—or accept the friendship is over if the feelings don’t fade I don't understand women like this. Is there something they get at a biological/emotional level from attention from guys? Is validation from as many men as possible that important to them?	/r/seduction	21/08/21 04:28 AM
1	Not sure what I did wrong Sounds like a rebound. Chicks do this when their boyfriend dumps them. Come on strong to someone else then ghost.	/r/seduction	07/08/21 05:12 AM
2	What does it mean when your girl does not want to have sex or give an oral when you meet? the cars uncomfortable that’s why.	/r/seduction	05/08/21 11:36 PM
1	New to this sub but just want to point out some tips from what I’ve read so far In my example the women are attracted to the physically average guy because he has women with him. Women with a man implies he has those characteristics you mentioned (integrity, self-reliance, kindness, assertiveness), otherwise they wouldn't be hanging around with him. I don't think you read my example correctly.	/r/seduction	04/08/21 10:22 AM
3	Is picking up a girl with scooter is a turn off? M27 Alpha is a mindset. It’s easier to be alpha on a scooter than in a Benz.	/r/seduction	03/08/21 09:56 PM
4	Is paying for sex is a good thing or bad? Does it affect your seduction skills? Depends on the girl. Some are good and like what they do and make an effort to see something they like about their client. Others are only in it for the money. If you’re a late bloomer and can’t form a relationship with regular women it can help relieve anxiety around sex so you don’t fuck it up with overwhelming neediness and insecurities when you meet a girl that’s interesting and interested.	/r/seduction	03/08/21 09:27 AM
3	New to this sub but just want to point out some tips from what I’ve read so far Please tell me.	/r/seduction	01/08/21 02:12 AM
9	New to this sub but just want to point out some tips from what I’ve read so far I agree with the sentiment of your post but I'd like to point out that attraction for males and females works very differently. We value different things at a subconscious level where we have little control. It really truly breaks my (32F) heart that so many of you think seduction is all about looks. Not all women are so shallow that we always want a stereotypically hot-looking, tall, muscley dude on a one night stand, as a FWB, or otherwise. And those guys can be major creeps just like any ot…	/r/seduction	31/07/21 07:57 PM
2	[deleted by user] It's natural to want a relationship, and it sucks when you can't find it. But finding love and romance is elusive at the best of times. Even when people hook up and start a relationship sometimes they're doing it because everyone else is doing it and they want don't want to feel left out, and it's not because they are into each other. They convince themselves that they love each other but they don't. I'm not sure what I can say to help deal with the loneliness and rejection other than the fact t…	/r/seduction	31/07/21 10:35 AM
5	[deleted by user] True there are 1000s but they aren’t all in my suburb. It’s the search that’s difficult.	/r/seduction	31/07/21 01:49 AM
1	Anyone else hear that seduction is now called "Sexual Gaslighting" So what wearing makeup is sexual gaslighting now? Skirts above knees?	/r/seduction	30/07/21 01:18 AM
1	I missed out on my teens, and I fear my 20s will be the same. Advice? Insecurities about not having a girlfriend at that age stem from society’s expectations that you should get one. It creates anxiety if you think about it too much. It’s more common than you think for males to not have relationships at that age. So don’t feel too bummed about it. Later in life women have a similar issue if they want kids. Society expects them to have children and they feel like failures if they don’t. In both cases anxiety and insecurity and feelings of unworthiness are cause by …	/r/seduction	29/07/21 03:27 AM
1	I wasted my teens and 20s focusing narrowly on savings money. I did not enjoy the process or experience much in life. I am socially a hermit and have never even flirted with a girl. How do I unscrew my situation? I have the same problem although I wasn't as fastidious about saving as you. I built a career, did the right thing according to parents and societies expectations. Now I'm fairly well set financiallly but I've always struggled to connnect with a woman and find love. I did some work on the advertising part of myself, trying to be more confident and less insecure, more decisive and less passive, when talking to women. Insecurity when talking to women is a big turn off, and often stems from attachm…	/r/seduction	27/07/21 11:44 PM
2	Im a bald, chubby 25 yo male with a beard. It's really kinda funny: They think you’re easy. As in easy to tie down in a relationship. No dramas. Safe. Not a player.	/r/seduction	19/07/21 01:56 PM
10	Why do women often entertain conversations with guys that they are not interested in? Women are hardwired to seek attention. It’s part of their evolutionary history and relates to their survival strategy.	/r/seduction	19/07/21 01:36 AM
2	Rejection rule is beautiful ❤️ I think this is brave and vulnerable post. It shows courage to be yourself. Well done 👍	/r/seduction	17/07/21 01:17 PM
5	When a woman says she didn't feel a connection or a "spark", is that something that is purely a matter of natural chemistry, or is it a sign that there wasn't enough escalation. There are two extremes of male sexuality. The one I'm describing is the repressed form, where men repress themselves, hide their biological imperative and come across as emasculated. These men are not noticed by women, although they may have qualities that make them excellent partners in a relationship, the attraction isn't there and women don't bother to get to know them (unless they are women who don't get much male attention). At the other extreme are the entitled males, who believe that sex …	/r/seduction	06/07/21 03:33 AM
-4	To those feeling like crap because you missed out "the best years of your life" (AKA high school or college): They get knocked up and fat.	/r/seduction	05/07/21 08:19 PM
72	When a woman says she didn't feel a connection or a "spark", is that something that is purely a matter of natural chemistry, or is it a sign that there wasn't enough escalation. A lot of men suppress their sexuality because of their self-limiting beliefs due to parenting or culture that male sexuality is bad. It leads to flat interactions with a women where you come across as a friend, trying to friend your way into her pants, and not someone they can fuck. What you have to understand is you can't be blamed for the genetic programming you were born into as a male. your sexuality is nothing to be ashamed about. respect her, but respect yourself as well, and your needs. I…	/r/seduction	05/07/21 06:32 AM
1	How do I get girls as a conservative white male Eastern Europeans and asians still have feminine energy.	/r/seduction	01/07/21 05:19 AM
2	Do the rules of seduction apply to women too? I think the best thing as a women you can do to increase your odds, is putting yourself in an environment where the type of men you seek are predominant. Men don't mind being approached. I don't at least, I talk to anyone just to improve my social skills, and overcome fear of talking to strangers.	/r/seduction	23/06/21 07:30 AM
1	Do the rules of seduction apply to women too? It may just be the case that you’re going for a number too fast as well without building enough rapport. It’s a myth to assume guys are only interested in one thing and will drop everything they’re doing for some girl. Guys need to feel an emotional connection as well.	/r/seduction	16/06/21 11:42 AM
1	Do the rules of seduction apply to women too? I don’t do old for the Same reason. Low quality and the apps are incentivised to keep you coming back. If you want to approach guys try and feel the energy of the person. Pick upon his vibe. There’s heaps of cold approach stuff for males on the net but for females it’s non existent. A lot of it is crap but the natural lifestyles videos are wholesome. The intent behind it is to improve your life and then you become an attractive person who resonates with other people at the same level. https://yo…	/r/seduction	16/06/21 11:39 AM
1	Do the rules of seduction apply to women too? If you’re not overweight you should be getting dates easily.	/r/seduction	15/06/21 06:51 AM
1	Large amounts of 18-21 year old women I'm about your age as well but look mid 30's . I had a 22 year old hit on me who wanted to go out. I turned her down.	/r/seduction	27/05/21 08:33 AM
2	"I only saw you as a friend and you only treated me like one" Flirting generally comes from having inner self confidence. Try smiling and then chatting to her in a playful manner. If you do that and she’s receptive to you then the flirting will come out naturally and spontaneously ideally. If you have a friend you can practice this sort of role play will instill confidence and you’ll be more able to pull it off irl.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 03:19 PM
1	Where is seduction for women? I dated a girl with cerebral palsy and someone 20 years older than me. The only things that I required for some attraction were a connection, something that I could talk to them about, and that they were not overweight.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 02:35 AM
0	"I only saw you as a friend and you only treated me like one" Just to be clear I think it depends on your intent. If you're ok with being friends initially it can become romantic later. If your intent from the start is to friend your way into a relationship then it's probably not gonna work. I've done this several times before, made friends with women and then I had the option a few months down the line to make it romantic. I didn't always act on it, but the option was there.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 01:49 AM
2	"I only saw you as a friend and you only treated me like one" flirt a bit. game is just flirting. that's all. Once you've established interest from the flirting you can take things in any direction you want.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 01:45 AM
2	Always trying to have too many options and never settling is a sign of deep internal insecurity. I see lots of people who settled and have shitty unhealthy relationships. They're trying to do the right thing, i.e. what society expects of them but they aren't happy. Then they act out in weird ways. So I don't think settled people are more or less insecurities. People will always have insecurities whether they are keeping options open or committing to one person. It's not an either or thing.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 01:43 AM
1	Is any advice from Pickup Artists good? I did therapy for a year. Imagery rescripting and inner child work. In one of the sessions I had a breakthrough, a spiritual experience during the imagery part of the session. After that I felt ok to be myself, like there was nothing wrong with me. That helped the most with my 'game'. I recommend therapy instead of pickup artists or dating coaching (with a few exceptions). What therapy does is it holds a mirror to you so you can see yourself, and it can repair the inner shame and insecurities yo…	/r/seduction	17/05/21 10:37 AM
1	How to impress a guy on first date? Try to connect with what’s import to his heart. Works for men and women.	/r/seduction	11/05/21 07:00 AM
1	As a younger guy, am I going to regret avoiding casual sex when I'm older? I once faked a headache because I had no interest in a women I was dating. We were lying together on a couch and she invited me to bed. I said I was sick and went home. So for me There needs to be a connection there when dating someone.	/r/seduction	08/05/21 04:23 AM
2	Therapy is super underrated for seduction Yeah for sure. I’ve had a similar experience after a year in therapy. I’m better at connecting with women than before basically because I’m not afraid to be myself.	/r/seduction	07/05/21 11:22 PM
1	How to flirt? Thank you	/r/seduction	16/02/21 10:03 PM
5	How to flirt? Practice holding eye contact. Then smile. Then say “you’re cute “. Don’t overdo it. If she’s interested she’ll let you know. But eye contact is important. Don’t stare though. It should be reciprocated	/r/seduction	13/02/21 11:05 AM
2	I now choose to look at things differently More to life than a relationship. Getting laid is easy. There are sex workers.	/r/seduction	06/02/21 12:50 PM
3	I now choose to look at things differently Yeah. I remind myself whenever I feel down about dating that I’m in a privileged position. I’m not trapped in a bad relationship. I don’t have kids to support. I earn above average. I own a house and an apartment. I don’t have to and shouldn’t compromise myself for someone else.	/r/seduction	06/02/21 01:10 AM
2	25M I am going to lose my virginity this week to an escort Then you're lucky. People have a cognitive bias about the work they've put into themselves and the result they get. Basically when they get a gf or get laid after years of 'pushing themselves' they over credit the amount that their hard work played in the outcome and underestimate the external factors, aka luck, that they have zero control over.	/r/seduction	31/01/21 09:57 PM
1	Escorts vs Girlfriends It's fine. They can be good to talk to and share parts of your life with. They won't help you get better at seduction, but they can provide some emotional relief.	/r/seduction	31/01/21 09:22 AM
1	“we don’t really care what you say when you’re flirting with us, it’s about how attractive and confident you are” Most communication is body language and tone. Content is roughly 20% for most people. Analytical people who are more left brained have difficulty here because for them content is king and they don't care about the body language and tone.	/r/seduction	31/01/21 12:39 AM
3	Nightly account #1. Should have said “did you assume my gender?”	/r/seduction	30/01/21 06:21 AM
1	Going out each weekend, approaching each time, and posting a nightly account on this sub to keep motivated. Hi. Good job. Also in Melbz. Do you work alone or have a wing?	/r/seduction	29/01/21 11:45 PM
2	How normal guys get laid I've never got laid out of social circle. ONS in backpackers and bars when I had no game. When you don't need to feel like you need to be more than who you are, then that will work better than any 'game'. Game (negging, teasing etc...) is just flirting. That's all it is. If you overdo it thinking that trying harder at game is what will make you good at game, then you'll fuck it up. Girls sniff that like a rat smells cheese. Less is more when it comes to flirting/game. Once you have her interest …	/r/seduction	29/01/21 05:25 AM
1	How do I man up and grow a pair? Try holding eye contact with them. Notice when they are noticing you. I've walked past more than one opportunity when a woman has been checking me out, but I've just blanked or retreated. It's a mental thing. I habitually retreat from eye contact because it exposes vulnerability. I've noticed that people who are secure in themselves can hold eye contact. Those who aren't look down or avert eye contact because of feelings of shame. I have feelings of shame and had to work to over come them. Now h…	/r/seduction	29/01/21 05:03 AM
2	No, biology doesn't say that you "should" reproduce / spread your genes Your body doesn’t know the difference between sex and spreading genes. They’re the same. Every time you have sex you’re fulfilling that instinct, the biological purpose to spread your genes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/20 08:26 PM
0	My girlfriend who's pursuing a career in acting is playing a role where she's being kissed/fucked by some another actor. Sounds like fun. I’d just enjoy it.	/r/askTRP	22/09/20 12:14 PM
2	My LTR (7 years) Just Moved Out Probably good she broke up with. You didn’t want to marry so she felt like there was no point waiting. You’ll get to date and sleep with other woman and have more time to yourself.	/r/askTRP	15/09/20 08:23 PM
4	What should I do? You’re getting numbers but that doesn’t mean you’re building a connection and giving them a reason to see you. Sometimes girls will give you a number to get you to go away. It sounds like this is what’s happening here. Recommend working on the conversation skills and being present in the moment and tuning into her feelings more.	/r/askTRP	09/09/20 12:12 AM
3	Do I maintain frame or socially calibrate? It’s hard. I’ve lived in a similar situation all my life. I don’t connect with the culture of my ethnic background because I didn’t grow up in that environment. I’d rather be who I am and be with people who let me be who i am without having to conform to a stereotype	/r/askTRP	09/09/20 12:10 AM
1	I'm a typical Indian nerd It might just be because you're a known entity then and, not your race or looks. Girls want to fuck around but they don't want to do it within the social group that they are a part of, at least when they are young. They want to maintain their reputation. So they'll look outside the group. My feeling is you're viewed as husband material and not casual dating material.	/r/askTRP	06/11/18 04:42 AM
1	I'm a typical Indian nerd Isn't parsi a type of indian? Like French people are a type of European?	/r/askTRP	03/11/18 09:09 PM
1	I'm a typical Indian nerd What worked for me was staying in backpackers. I did that a few times while traveling and pulled just by hanging out in the common area and chatting. Everyone's pretty open and friendly and often people go out to a bar in the evening, and you'll get to go with them. One night, I wasn't looking to pick up anyone, just hanging out with two girls and we decided to go out for the night. I retired early because I had to go some where in the morning. So I left the girls at some bar and went back to my…	/r/askTRP	03/11/18 06:24 AM
5	I'm a typical Indian nerd Like Michael Jackson	/r/askTRP	03/11/18 01:49 AM