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I got you lil bro. Most people aren’t answering your question. I’m a veteran in this game. The only way to salvage this is to pullback. You might lose your girl but you have to be in abundance for this to work. If she chases a little, you have to reframe it. You have to basically let her know that that’s not what you’re looking for in a girl/future wife. You have to reframe this as you have standards that she must meet, not that you’re insecure. Tbh this only works if you’re in abundance and you…
/r/seduction01/06/26 11:05 PM
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Physique + Money + Personality. If you have all 3, and you’re looking for a relationship, dating will be easy. Most women are looking for a relationship and they’re dealing with a brutal trade off. If a man has all 3, he typically doesn’t commit. Otherwise, he could get in a relationship within a few weeks. If you’re struggling, you’re probably missing one of those 3. You must have all 3 if you want to have a smooth dating experience. Men who have all 3 are probably getting about a 90% success r…
/r/seduction01/06/26 05:28 AM
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Unfortunately a lot of us men have been burned for falling deeply in love, so we have to apply logic rather than rely on emotions to get a favorable outcome. Luckily it doesn’t always have to be this way.
/r/seduction27/05/26 01:51 PM
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If you guys ever get serious, you shouldn’t have to bro. If you’re one year in and you still have to apply this much game, she’s probably not wife material. Good luck out there man. I’ve been there and I feel you
/r/seduction27/05/26 01:47 PM
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Just be busy bro. Cancel a date if you already have one lined up. But make sure it’s work related. Don’t text her at all while you’re “busy”. Even if you’re at home playing Madden. Send her a message at night before bed or something. You just need to literally pull back slightly and you need to do this periodically or she’ll get bored anyway.
/r/seduction27/05/26 04:23 AM
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That last paragraph is important man. It’s so true. You can always tell. They won’t be in there for very long and they’ll be making aggressive eye contact. Definitely try to close the deal fast on them.
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:58 PM
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Thanks man you too. I’ve been at it for over 8 years. Finally switching over to a strength focused routine. You’re huge though. 22% bodyfat with good muscle is bear mode.
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:57 PM
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This is a good post and all are true. However, for me at least, this is so much work that I actually usually end up going soft. I keep pleasuring her and pleasuring myself separate. I’ll pleasure her first and pipe later or pipe how I want to pipe and then prioritize her later. She’ll end up satisfied either way. If she isn’t and she wants to bounce? On to the next. If she isn’t my girl or in a steady rotation, I’m selfish. If you’ve done the self improvement, and as long as your dick game isn’t…
/r/seduction13/03/26 07:06 AM
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It depends on what type of gym you go to boss. I specifically pick small to medium sized gyms for this reason. It’s not necessarily “social hour” but you can have a short convo with someone, or give a compliment or so to a fellow gym bro. Most of the male friends I’ve made are from the gym as well. Start with a compliment like “you played football bro? You looked like you played ball” After a couple minutes you go back to your workout. Then you’ve made a friend. Eventually after you’ve seen them…
/r/seduction13/03/26 12:44 AM
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Alright since no one is gonna answer you, I got you. The gym is my main hunting ground. I actually think the gym is the easiest place to talk to women. You have to realize that a lot of women in the gym prefer a fit man and are in the gym specifically to attract one, so if you have a top 10% physique, you’re already their target demographic. This is the first thing you have to realize. If you don’t have a top tier physique, this will not work for you and you need to find somewhere else to approa…
/r/seduction13/03/26 12:15 AM
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Have you ever really been a “cool” guy? As a “cool” guy, who has your typical “douchebag” gym bro personality, dating is absolutely easy. Maybe you’ve never experienced it, but while you’re out and about with your girl being a goofball, she’s staring at the “cool” guy behind your back.
/r/seduction18/02/26 10:11 PM
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You’re about to take crazy Ls bro.
/r/seduction09/01/26 06:19 AM
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I was expecting something totally different when I read that title.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/25 02:09 AM
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That last sentence is the most important statement in this entire discussion. Some guys will see it as desperate and start playing the game immediately to get sex.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/25 07:17 PM
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You had a breakup five months ago, so you’re not ready yet. You lost a caregiver a year ago. You haven’t recovered yet. He lost someone close to him. You’re not ready to be there for him yet. You’ve been on several dates with him. You’ve supposedly never met a man like him. You’re just not ready yet.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/25 10:18 PM
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Are you only talking to him and going on dates purely for your own entertainment? I would say do the guy a favor and let him find his wife if that’s what he’s looking for. You’re emotionally unavailable and wasting his time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/25 09:42 PM
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Why would he say “our” if you aren’t engaged and nothing is solidified? You say you want kids but not right now… how does he know that he WILL have kids with YOU? What would give him that assumption?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/25 06:52 PM
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“ However he has told me that he would want to at least experience some intimacy (a handjob etc) before dating me.” Be careful of this. Classic manipulation move. My younger brother is the biggest player of the century, and I’ve seen him use a line like this before. Be very careful here because as your feelings grow, the more you will want to secure that relationship from him, and potentially give in and get used. Another thing. I’m seeing a slight incompatibility here when it comes to your sexu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 08:32 AM
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The red pill has been infiltrated by grifters and literal incels. I wouldn’t call those red pill men. You have to go back pre 2019 to find the doctrine of true red pill men. If a man is actually red pilled, he wouldn’t know what post you’re even talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 08:04 AM
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The answer is testosterone. It makes you more disagreeable. Look at it this way: Very High Testosterone + Low IQ = Violent Criminal or degenerate loser. Very High Testosterone + High IQ = White collar criminal or self made millionaire And then there’s the in between. Testosterone is a sex hormone. It makes men crave status and women. A high testosterone man will do anything to get it. His method of getting it will depend on his cultural background and/or the type of women he’s attracted to. Eith…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/25 07:51 PM
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I actually think this is a good post
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/25 04:27 AM
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If they’re pushing for sex on the first date, you’re either chasing the wrong guys, or they feel like you have nothing else to offer them. If there’s no chemistry, they will still at least want to get something out of the exchange.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/25 02:30 AM
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This is all about sex If you’re making him wait for sex, that’s fine, but he’s probably not willing to be celibate to wait and see if your “talking phase” works out. If he’s truly a high value guy, he’s probably used to regular sex with someone. Instead of telling you that he won’t be exclusive until you’re finally ready, he’s just going to go behind your back, which tells me he’s probably lying about other things. If he was truly making $140k/yr at 29 and 6’2, he’d probably just be honest with …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/25 04:50 PM
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For the same reason that you’re asking this question. He knows that you’re probably weak for him and might be an easy lay.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/25 05:38 AM
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There’s not much difference in strength between a man who’s 5’4 and doesn’t exercise and a man who’s 5’10 and doesn’t exercise, assuming both men have normal testosterone levels. The difference, is minimal. If you want your man to be muscular, encourage him to workout. If you would prefer a muscular man, pursue one, and don’t waste your man’s time trying to make him into something he’ll never be (if he doesn’t want that).
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 11:13 PM
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This. He should be getting the “ick” if his girlfriend is obsessively trying to test his strength in an arm wrestling match.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 11:10 PM
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He said that to compare his High School GPA to his College GPA, which I dont remember but was well above a 3.0. As a way to explain how he's come this far.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/24 02:41 AM
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You’re a male feminist. You’re probably in the forever friendzone. Keep lying to yourself. Historically speaking, my mindset does much better with the ladies. Definitely the nice guy. You are forsure though. The simp
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 04:05 AM
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Meanwhile the guy you really want doesn’t want you because you’re the local cum dumpster
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 12:59 AM
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And men are allowed to prefer dating people with low body counts who are on the more modest side of the spectrum
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 11:50 PM
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How we’re you painted as some slut? Is the video still out there?
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 12:22 PM
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I agree, but the people in this sub will hate you for going out approaching too.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 08:33 AM
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I am red pill; however, the truth is that women run game on men too. This isn’t debatable. Women are also victims of male hypergamy. And there is a female archetype that a lot of men fall for as well. Most of the women in this sub are either undesirables or are victims of male abuse. Grain of salt.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 08:32 AM
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Might do this
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 08:29 AM
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Every night must be lit where you’re at. 7 nights/wk???
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 07:47 AM
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This isn’t the place to ask. The women in this sub are just going to tell you to be nice and sweet. You’ll be friendzoned and you won’t be respected Truth: Make up for you height by being masculine. Work on your physique and your wallet. Have a bigger purpose to your life and be assertive. That doesn’t mean disrespectful or douchey. If a woman is mature she won’t be attracted to a man with a douchebag personality. Be a go getter, hit the gym, be assertive with your life and approach a woman if y…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 05:19 PM
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So he called you out of your name multiple times early in the relationship and would leave you on read as well and you still believed he was one of “the nicest, healthiest, and loving” man you’ve ever met. Idk… it seems like his RP manipulation tactics worked on you.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/22 03:35 AM
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People warned you to stay away from a married chick for a few reasons. She might eventually will leave you with “me and him are going to work it out” bs and drop you fast. They never end well. If you’re purple pulled and expecting her to divorce him and you guys end up in a fairy tale romance novel like situation, you’re deluded. Hilariously plain and simple. If the husband finds out, you never know who you’re dealing with. There are lots of betas who will put a bullet in your head for what you …
/r/TheRedPill06/11/22 10:25 PM
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“Regular arms for a 40 year old” is not 3 times the size of the average “college friend”. You’re in LaLa Land.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/22 07:20 AM
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50/50 on this one although it does indeed sound very accurate. If she was really into him and didn’t have a bf i believe she would have texted him after all of the flirting going on. Also, OP didn’t specify his age. Is he 48 hitting on a 22 year old who just enjoyed his company? Maybe he read too much into it
/r/TheRedPill30/09/22 01:57 AM
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