solowng Archive

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2	"Divorce is better for the kids than their parents not loving each other" actually, I am not sure this is true. Eh, my parents' divorce was a solid 8/10 on the "nightmarish divorce" scale (It could've been worse if my sister and I had been murdered, molested, or totally lost a parent in the process, but otherwise it was about as bad as it could get.) but in the aggregate I don't think that parental divorce has that big of an effect on outcomes aside from creating a new class of winners and losers (which is just a continuation of the existing trend of familial shrinkage and atomization). On the whole, my g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 11:30 PM
3	Women having thicker skin is a factor in the “women hate men being vulnerable” topic. In my experience as a man with fairly bad emotional regulation women are more likely to trauma/drama dump and are more likely to be willing to be on the receiving end of that (and they're usually the same women; it makes for a lot of probably unhealthy friendships that are based on one or the other venting on any given day). With that, in my experience men are much more likely to set boundaries and shut down unwanted emotional expression and are more solution oriented in their approach to hearin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/24 07:10 PM
1	What is worse to you: getting no female attention whatsoever, or getting female attention from the worst, lowest women only? The second. Being stalked by someone you're less than not interested in sucks (I wouldn't go so far as to call it a safety concern, but it was really annoying.). Honorable mention goes to the sort of women I usually wind up involved with (resulting in drawn out courtships that go nowhere besides maybe a one-night stand): Highly extroverted/forward, ultra-feminine, needy of attention (and perhaps some financial aid), and emotionally unavailable/not really interested in a relationship. To be uncha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 06:54 AM
29	Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shock She was very optimistic and abundance minded. This is hard to put into words, but in sufficient quantity what you describe (to which I would add an extreme lack of risk aversion/inhibition) is essentially a superpower and if this woman possesses it she is not average. I have a guy friend (coworker) who's like this: early 40s, in decent shape/not terrible looking, not destitute but far from wealthy/stable, short, and bald. The dude is a Tinder God, or more properly was because he just nabbed a ve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 03:44 AM
2	What do you think has lead to a decline in men "putting themselves out there"? 30-ish Millennial here, and it's fascinating/entertaining (I work at a bar.) to watch Gen X and older (mostly just Gen X, Boomers are mostly too old for the night shift these days.) interact with each other. They are a lot less inhibited, more willing to approach and receptive to being approached.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 11:16 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Calling them Chads is an exaggeration (There's usually something wrong with them aside from looks, i.e. dumb, poor, meth head or thug, etc.) but this is hardly unusual in the South. The inverse of this is the pudgy rich guy with a hot wife, or frat dudes that otherwise have no business even looking at the sorority girls they're getting with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 10:50 PM
1	How did your fathers example affect your dating life? My dad married a femme fatale from his Motor-T platoon in the Marines. Turned out that she's a total fucking psycho with BPD and then some, and anything else he did as a father, husband, or divorcee was overshadowed by her larger than life presence in that shitshow. I suppose the biggest effect from that was being extremely hesitant to date in my 20s for fear of repeating that mistake and frankly having wasted a lot of that time being more interested in finding a surrogate mother than a spouse. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 10:37 PM
1	How did your fathers example affect your dating life? Heh, all women can't be like that (even your average woman with BPD!) because I've never met a woman who's as much of a psycho as my mother. Okay, I've met a handful (have a buddy who's bounced from one of those to the next), found them to be repulsive and threatening in a visceral way that I can't express, and deeply pity their children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 10:25 PM
1	What are your actual dealbreakers? Not attractive/interesting. If I don't like looking at and talking to her then I'm not going to bother. Expectations I can't meet. This includes financial. Crippling drug/alcohol problems. Note, this doesn't mean your garden-variety "drinks too much" or "occasionally gets wasted and makes an ass of herself", more like "being around her feels like a funeral/like being an accomplice to suicide". People who are perpetually massively fucked up aren't all that fun or interesting to be around anyway a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 10:18 PM
1	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Statistically, men are more likely to be overweight (which on the lower end can be mistaken for healthy given how skewed rampant obesity makes our perceptions) while women are marginally more likely to be obese and much more likely to be morbidly obese.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 10:14 PM
1	The "30+" figure for women hitting the wall largely depends on how fit you are/where you're from I'm not sure location matters all that much in the aggregate given that the local men will age similarly. The same goes for class. With that, fertility is a lot less durable than looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 09:53 PM
0	What can South Korean Population collapse tell us about the future of gender and dating in the West? 1930s welfare planners failed to predict the moral and medical innovations of the 1960s. Outsourcing the care of one's family to the state works so long as someone keeps producing workers. Unfortunately, said scheme creates a massive free rider problem that's probably going to come to a head when Millennials try to retire on the backs of children they didn't have. God knows who will care for (or euthanize) all the childless women, while the men will probably solve the problem of their care by dy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 09:48 PM
1	What can South Korean Population collapse tell us about the future of gender and dating in the West? I wonder if people will suddenly rediscover that children can be quite useful as caretakers. As for SS and Medicare I don't expect to see outright collapse so much as inflation into near-uselessness. We're already starting to see this with first world healthcare systems being perpetually short-staffed (especially in the elder care sector) in spite of the systems costing more than ever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 09:26 PM
3	Ladies - how do you feel about the supposed trend that men are cold approaching less often these days? I was walking to Target to grab a snack before a meeting and there was a small group of younger people trying to sign me up for something, to which I politely declined and went about my way. I was profoundly annoyed. Later that day, it occurred to me that how I felt in that moment would have to be similar to how a woman feels being approached by someone she is not interested in and/or in an environment she does not want to be approached in. Maybe it is or isn't the same but I've occasionally dri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 08:24 AM
1	Q4Men: Do you genuinely think OF is easy/worth it? Not really, and I know someone who was more successful than most OF models. For her, it started as a more scandalous version of her usual social media thirst trapping/attention whoring. Her customer base was local dudes who either knew her/her social media or people she'd meet in bars. She peaked at about $2500/month/top 7% (not bad for capital spending of one tripod for her phone and not a lot of hours working) but hit a wall and burned out fairly quickly once she tapped out her local following…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 08:04 AM
-1	Women outnumbering Men in college. Education isn't inherited, especially given that the trend in college education has been perpetual expansion into lower socioeconomic brackets. The average lifespan is less than 80 years and the median American is 38 years old, which is to say that they came of age during the early 2000s. As it happens, women started outnumbering men in college enrollment around 1980 and female college graduates began to outnumber their male counterparts in 2014, so yes it took less than 40 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/22 02:36 AM
1	War is necessary Andrew Jackson, my friend...	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/21 06:09 AM
1	What's going to change as many millenial women are now entering their late 30s/early 40s while still single? I'd be surprised to see it happen in millennials' working years but if the people we import to keep the economy running decide that they don't like the idea of being tax slaves to finance the retirements of a bunch of old white people (and white women at that, given that they live longer and that the disparity in life expectancy will likely continue to grow) then as far as I'm concerned we'll deserve it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/21 06:47 PM
1	What would the affect of another global war or conflict have on PPD-related issues? It's rather difficult to predict and depends a lot on its nature and who wins. If William S. Lind's 4th generation warfare thesis is correct and insurgencies have the advantage over governments then expect a brutal reimposition of patriarchy in which women and the previously winning men are disadvantaged in comparison to those who are good at fighting (which isn't necessarily correlated with our modern conception of what makes a man attractive), as feminism relies on men working for the state to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/21 11:28 PM
1	Weekly Community Chat Megathread Yeah, I mean we live in an obesogenic society (which seems to be getting worse) such that mundane ignorance, poor impulse control, etc. make it easy to eat one's self into being overwieght/class I obese (Maybe bump it up to obese/class II obese for short people.) but when we're talking class III obesity and beyond we're probably looking at serious psychological problems and not going to see a lot of ACE scores below four. My sister and I are in the four or more category (uhh...6 on the 8 scale, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/21 09:35 PM
2	What kinds of people are you most attracted to? Amusingly, as someone who is very much one of OP's second category himbos are among the hardest people for me to spend time with, the same being true of their female equivalent, the airheaded hippie. I feel kinda bad because they're totally harmless and mean well but trying to converse with them is like hearing claws on a chalkboard. I'll take listening to a bitter faculty adjunct complain any day lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/21 02:42 AM
3	What do you mean when you say “intelligence”? In my case "intelligent" is mostly a byword for "entertaining to talk to and hear talk", not necessarily a requirement that she be super smart/college educated as much as she not be below a certain cutoff. For example, my female best friend is a community college dropout but is very clever and intuitive, and if I explain something to her she can pick up on it fairly quickly, so for my purposes she is intelligent (and, being objective, were she born to a wealthier family she'd likely have at leas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/21 09:57 AM
0	What kinds of people are you most attracted to? Physically, I have enough types that outside of some most likely deal breaking turnoffs (obese, unusually ugly/disfigured, androgynous aesthetic, excess of tattoos/piercings, nuclear-tier tan, freakishly short or tall) that I could most likely shoehorn a given woman into one of them. In terms of personality I tend to be drawn to loud/extroverted, forward and affectionate, smart (or at least clever), and...difficult women, be it professorial and demanding (bonus points for being an east coast yan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/21 09:35 AM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread LOL apparently back during world war II Leslie was a man's name in the US, generals Leslie McNair and Leslie Groves come to mind. Also, Douglas MacArthur was a total mama's boy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/21 04:42 PM
1	Weekly Community Chat Megathread I guess "not super sympathetic" and "they' deserved each other" wasn't a forceful enough condemnation of my former stepfather (and I was trying to avoid riding a wall of text, and maybe insert some humor into the situation), who I considered to have been a narcissistic shit bag who bullied my sister and I to the maximum extent he could get away with and a deadbeat father to my half sister, who spent roughly her last year of high school as a de facto orphan couch surfing with friends and was late…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 11:00 PM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread That definitely would've been her play but I forgot to mention that he was ex-military by the time they met (Mother, father, and stepfather were all one enlistment and out; he got caught up in the Clinton era Reductions in Force.), quit the police job before he could build much of a pension (He cashed it out and bought a truck IIRC.), and they blew through his retirement after he lost his high-paying maintenance job such that the marriage ended with them losing everything and him so broke that h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 07:27 PM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread Dependas are the most mercenary Lol don't forget about female enlisted trying to dodge a deployment. I'm 95% sure that I was conceived immediately following the announcement of Operation Desert Shield. Mom was that femme fatale from Motor-T that my dad just had to have, too bad she's a meme-tier psycho. My stepfather was a decorated Force Recon vet and a cop for a decade and she still broke him, made him her bitch for the better part of two decades, and tossed him to the curb when he figured tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 05:55 PM
6	"I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is? They're not super common, but I know a few and they tend to either be lower class guys who will fuck anything and are getting laid with girls uglier than they are (think a four or five fishing in the one to three pool) or guys who rolled a 10 out of 10 in the charisma/lack of neuroticism department and are often in the sales industry or performers like musicians or TV reporters. On a related aside overweight/obesity is not as much of a disqualifier in rural/southern, blue collar, or poor communi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/21 07:57 PM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread Granted, I work for a veritable Incel Inc. (aka. a locally owned Doordash clone with 90+% male workforce) but when I think of failed to launch men I don't so much think of NEETs as post-college (usually some undergrad to a BA) underemployed men who work as little as necessary to afford their weed/videogames/tendies/capeshit or hard drugs/alcoholism/bar tabs (There tends to be a dichotomy between the two groups where the former are slower/lazier but happier and lower maintenance than the latter.)…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/21 02:34 PM
1	“I want a woman but I don’t like people” The relationship also works as a safety net by giving the antisocial person someone to use as a social crutch to lean on when they do feel like being social; That they may live bicuriously through them and 'feed' off their social energy and outgoing personality. Almost like learning how to be social through them. Or for the social person to be used as a tool the antisocial person can lean on when they go out so they don't feel so awkward and alone. This. The same also works for friendships. I sa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/20 07:19 AM
2	Lurkers of PPD, what pill do you believe in? If any? Blackpilled in mind and bluepilled at heart, or do I have that backwards? I'd be lying if I said I really knew. I have no use for redpill or PUA stuff because I'm not the sort of person to "fake it until I make it" or play games. I can deal with being alone at the present and foolishly or otherwise still hold faith that some combination of luck or personal progress means that I won't die alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/20 06:52 AM
1	Undesirability of High IQ Men If homophobia, racism, and sexism are shared cultural traits then why should they be a romantic deterrent? On that note do redneck incels exist? In my experience as a life-long southerner while rednecks may have other romantic problems (aka. trashy baby mama drama and other low socioeconomic status stuff) they have an ability to lower their standards physical and otherwise that vastly exceeds that of the more urbane (if only thanks to the internet) incel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/20 05:04 AM
3	r/MensRights: THANK YOU. My uncle was released from prison a few hours ago after his daughter returned from hiding demanding and getting (for now) a guardian ad litem. Could not have done it without you! I'm arguing against courts considering PAS (because I have little faith in courts' abilities to properly ascertain which party is guilty, and as you're alluding to in my case, what is one to do when the parents, as they appear in the courtroom, are equally unsympathetic?), but am saying that it is possible for a child to be alienated from a parent, even into adulthood, and trying to explain a bit of "why". I say we were brainwashed because, prior to our mid-teens, there was no bad behavior from …	/r/MensRights	02/11/13 05:22 PM
6	r/MensRights: THANK YOU. My uncle was released from prison a few hours ago after his daughter returned from hiding demanding and getting (for now) a guardian ad litem. Could not have done it without you! Having personal experience with parental alienation in a similar situation (15 year divorce war with an alienating mother, in my case), at 18 my sister was still very much drinking our mother's kool-aid, all but no-contact with our father (since 15). It wasn't until just before her 21st birthday that she told me that "maybe it was all a mistake", about 9 months after moving out of mother's house. To this day, their relationship is but a small shadow of what it was in childhood; she used to be "d…	/r/MensRights	02/11/13 04:32 PM
2	"Father Jailed For Allegedly Hiding Daughter From Mom" ... my uncle's story is finally getting media attention! The people you're trying to convince may well be.	/r/MensRights	02/11/13 02:17 AM
6	"Father Jailed For Allegedly Hiding Daughter From Mom" ... my uncle's story is finally getting media attention! To be fair, I'm pretty sure they've hated on PAS (mother's line of argument in this case) from the beginning.	/r/MensRights	02/11/13 02:16 AM