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some_clickhead/r/seduction06/12/19 03:58 AM
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Isn't chugging energy drinks more of a gamer thing than a really masculine thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:35 AM
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If it's just looks and clothes don't factor in: 4/10 for face 4/10 for height 9/10 for body composition (fat, muscle, etc) So in total maybe 5/10? I'm assuming face and height are slightly more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:33 PM
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A more feminine looking man will come across as less "powerful" which can be a turn off for a lot of women. This is why the feminine looking men that girls fawn over are almost all celebrities. Being rich and famous confers them sufficient display of "power" that they can get away with having a more harmless appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:27 PM
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I do think that in a sense beauty is fairly objective, but attraction is more important. I.e: I think Margot Robbie is objectively beautiful, but I don't find her attractive because she doesn't match my physical preferences at all (without even going into personality or w.e).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:24 PM
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While teasing is not "being mean", you likely wouldn't tease most people that you don't even know, as that would likely come across as out of line and disrespectful. Most of the really "nice guys" are really bad at teasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:10 PM
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"Just treat women like normal human beings" *Treats a woman like a normal human being* "You got friendzoned because you weren't direct/flirty enough" Ok...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:07 PM
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Depends what your definition of ugly is. But yes you can have poor facial symmetry and a weak jawline and be short. Two guys could be equally ripped, one of them might be a 9/10 to girls and the other a 6/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:47 PM
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I actually do think I might be desired by a non negligible portion of women. But being chronically online means I rarely even see women to begin with, and having zero charisma through a lack of experience means that despite how I might initially catch a girl's eye, I will come across as unattractive the moment I open my mouth. My point is that while self improvement is helpful, it isn't a panacea. I am still miles away from being a position to get into a relationship despite having a good career…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:10 PM
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I have achieved everything you describe and am "perma single". Well, having a good personality is more subjective, but I have a decent number of friends (both men and women) who usually initiate wanting to hang out with me so it can't be that bad right? The thing is I haven't put forth any effort into dating or even going out much. My conclusion is that it's not a deep internal problem, it's a skill issue. You get confident at what you're good at. Hypothetically, if you convinced a bunch of rand…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:52 PM
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Do you actually think there is a negative correlation between a man's romantic experience and his libido, or that men with more romantic experience are better at hiding their horniness?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:36 PM
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Confidence doesn't exist in a vacuum. You can be hopeless with women but be very confident in your ability to play a certain sport or video game. You can be confident in your ability to fly an airplane (after training to do so). If the ONE thing as a man you are not confident about is romantic interactions with women, you will never find the answer "within". The men who are successful haven't done more inner work or soul searching than other men, they simply have lived a life in which many (if n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:32 PM
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Yes it's pretty clear. If you subscribe to the Red Pill, you're already chasing women, in as much as someone taking a degree in Philosophy is chasing knowledge. Most of the men who say "don't chase women" chase women ALL THE TIME. It's just that they succeed a lot, and from their point of view, trying and failing = chasing, whereas trying and succeeding = not chasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:26 PM
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Ahh, yeah I'm from the generations of guys who spend most of their time online. Or at least that demographic. Interacting with humans is like a weird hyper realistic video game!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:09 AM
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It's hard to define voluntary celibacy. You can be attractive enough that you know some people exist in the world who would be attracted to you, but you might not be willing to do all the work it takes to find these people. If I stay inside all day and play video games, am I choosing to be celibate by not going out, or am I just doing what I like doing without taking dating in consideration? With junk food it's pretty simple because assuming you aren't broke, it's accessible and within reach and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:04 AM
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I'm going to throw in my 2 cents as a dude who is 30 and still a virgin. I don't feel particularly insecure about being a virgin, I feel insecure about everything that comes before the bedroom is even a part of the equation. I have zero experience, but I feel like if a relationship is going well enough that a girl is willing to get naked alone in my bedroom, at that point it's clear that she's into me and I'll be able to go along with overthinking. Also helps if you're in really good shape and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:53 AM
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Actually I'm curious. Does the ugly guy who approaches baddies ever succeed in his advances? What would you say has helped YOU the most in your slightly more conservative approach? I've been going to the gym for years and have achieved my ideal physique, got a skin care and all the other low hanging fruit a man can do to maximize looks (and have a decent career). However I have literally zero experience dating and I'm wondering if there is an approach I should focus on?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:37 AM
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I think another element to consider is that guys actually need a ton of experience. Even if he gives it a shot and fails, it's not just a loss. Most guys have to get closely acquainted with rejection. So it can make sense to ask a girl out even if you are 100% sure she will say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:26 AM
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My theory is that the vast majority of men are aware that being more confident around women makes you more attractive. Your confidence is in large part influenced by your self image. Therefore in an attempt to make themselves more confident, most men convince themselves that they are more attractive than they really are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:17 AM
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My point is that neediness is practically a non-factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:06 AM
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That's actually really interesting, I can recognize myself in the first 2! Depends on whether I'm able to fully be in the moment and allow myself to feel the awkwardness, or if I'm desperately trying to use my problem solving thinking skills to compartmentalize my fear and still manage to function somewhat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:00 AM
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I don't think you understand. If a guy acts the same way around a girl he's interested in than he does with his gym bros, he will literally be single forever. I know because that's what I do and what I've always done. Just in case it's not obvious and I need to specify, no that does not apply to incredibly attractive guys. I've seen guys successfully flirt with girls before, and "acting nice" is not really the way I would describe how those interactions look when viewed from outside. So if a guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:47 AM
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Highly disagree. Perhaps you weren't focused on yourself enough or you're an extrovert who happens to spend a lot of time around women. I've spent several years entirely focused on myself. I mean the thought of dating anyone wouldn't cross my mind for even a second, I was fully immersed in self improvement and doing my own thing. I lived as though the very concept of romantic relationships didn't exist. While I made significant improvements in many areas of my life, I experienced literally zero …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:42 AM
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I would say that it makes a "big difference" only if being in bad shape is one of your main points of insecurity. But you can be in great shape and experience zero success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:33 AM
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I kind of agree. When you look at genetic historical data, it's clear that throughout history a LOT of men have been sexless, so it's fair to say this is likely rooted in genetics, in other words, not something we can really change unless we start playing god and turn on creative mode for our genes. My prediction for the future is that as technology advances, AI girlfriends will become more mainstream and robots will make some... interesting advancements, and a large percentage of the male popul…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:28 AM
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Where the hell are you finding girls to talk to though? I'm sure if I was having a handful of girls every day, it wouldn't take long for that to lead to something, but other than cold approaching random people while I'm out and about I don't see how that's happening (and as we all know, starting conversations with people outside is a no no).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:18 AM
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I would have thought that 6 months is pretty typical. Then again, for me an average male in dating terms is a guy that tends to go for longer relationships. Doesn't have that much game but is decent looking, ends up dating a friend of a friend after a gathering or something. Might easily go a year single but will eventually find something. The average woman is probably getting a lot more relationship opportunities than the average man, which I hadn't even really considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:10 AM
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As a very fit guy (who has been in pretty good shape for at least a decade) who has never been in a relationship, I can say that being muscular and lean is only a small part of the equation. Really at best, it can garner brief glances from girls, but the moment you open your mouth, the only thing that matters is how much experience you already have with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:04 AM
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The thing is some of us act nice by default. I'm nice to guys too and I'm a straight guy. The problem is, in order to go from casual conversation to something more, you have to risk NOT being nice. This isn't something that you learn through "normal" (read: "non romantic) interactions in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:55 AM
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Yeah but statistically speaking if a man is a late bloomer, than he probably isn't tall and handsome. Otherwise he would have been an early bloomer to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:49 AM
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The average age of losing virginity is not that useful, because there is a massive discrepancy between men's romantic experiences. Many of the men who were still virgins by the age of 16-17 will still be virgins by 26-27, for obvious reasons. I have no idea what the statistics are, but I have 5 male friends, and if I include myself among them, 4 out of us 6 are still virgins at the age of 30. In case you're wondering, none of them have physical deformities or cognitive impairments. We all have p…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:46 AM
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A woman will date chad after chad and get treated like crap and dumped. Then she will convince herself she "hates men", and then she will hate men that have literally never dated anyone, men that are effectively invisible to her and she would never date. It's kinda hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:34 AM
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6 months is all it takes to be an incel?? That seems harsh!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:31 AM
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To be fair, out of all the things about you that may influence your attractiveness, being fat (and your fitness level in general) is one of the few things that is almost entirely in your control (notwithstanding rare diseases).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:27 AM
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Given that apathy towards dating has already succeeded on 3 occasions for you, what makes you think that it would not keep working?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:18 AM
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You can kind of do both at the same time though? You can try to enjoy life to its fullest, and achieve your highest potential, without factoring in even the possibility of dating anyone. Many of the things that lead to a good single life, happen to also be fairly attractive traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:38 AM
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To me she seems clearly interested. Give her time to respond, and as soon as she does you probably want to setup the next date or w.e
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:15 PM
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Fair enough if you tell them if there will ever be a chance it's better.
/r/seduction06/06/20 10:51 AM
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I'm happy for you, but if guys reading your post get fooled into thinking that this is even remotely common, their lives could get very damaged. Being friends with someone you want a relationship with can be extremely destructive because it can shatter your self-esteem, and cause you to pass up other opportunities. The fact of the matter is that when you are attracted to someone, no matter how much you would like to be their friend, that attraction isn't going anywhere and the only way to manage…
/r/seduction06/06/20 02:14 AM
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The thing is you're 17. Your whole life hasn't happened yet. I know that changing your mindset is possible, because like other people in life I have done so myself. Now, I won't lie and say that I had it as bad as you, I didn't. You can't directly control your mindset, but you can control what you feed your brain with, and what thoughts you cultivate. There is no point in worrying about something that you can't change. But you should worry about the things you are doing to yourself that you can …
/r/seduction30/01/20 04:30 AM
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I'll be honest, getting out of high school will make your life 10x better already, and if you're 17 that should be very soon. Then, you need to stop seeing yourself as a victim entirely. Once you stop treating yourself as a victim in life, 99% of your problems will be gone. Also, realize that there is such a thing as self brainwashing. I can't think of a better way to mentally fuck yourself up than browsing communities centered around self pity and despair. As long as you do that, you have no ch…
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:53 AM
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I'm not an expert but I've been told by women that I have great fashion sense, unfortunately fashion is one of those things that I think is hard to explain in only a few words. Imo the best way to get into it is to start paying attention to what other guys you see wear, and try to rate their outfit in your head, what you don't think works about the outfit, what particular articles of clothing you think look great. The idea here is to start to develop your appreciation for fashion, that way you w…
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:35 AM
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A lot of these guys are just more straightforward. I know a guy who doesn't look very good, and is a bit of a character. The way I would describe his personality and overall aura is like Tobey Maguire's spiderman without superpowers. A bit of a naive nice guy goofball who gets along fine with people but is very difficult to take seriously. And yet within a year he dated 2 very attractive girls. He lacks in almost every characteristic that people (myself included) associate with an attractive, co…
/r/seduction30/01/20 02:05 AM
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Well clearly you do have some problems, I'll give you that.
/r/seduction28/01/20 11:31 PM
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Yeah I had a similar thing with a girl, who also used to call me her brother. I think we can all agree the moral of this story is that relationships/dating are about sex/physical attraction and nothing more. If you are looking for a meaningful romantic relationship, go read a book or something, because outside of fiction those don't exist. Love is a virtual feeling created by the need for our species to reproduce, nothing more. Unfortunately it's been glorified by too many books and movies so so…
/r/seduction28/01/20 05:35 PM
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I agree that being fit is a good plus, but I disagree about the rest. Your hair and clothing still matters as much when you're fit, the advantage just being that plain T-shirts will look decent on you. It also matters what kind of girls you are after, some are more attracted to muscular figures than others.
/r/seduction28/01/20 05:21 PM
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You have nothing in common with 18 year olds and will not be able to relate to them whatsoever. You say you don't just want to have sex with them but I can guarantee you are not looking for a deep meaningful relationship either.
/r/seduction28/01/20 05:17 PM
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I think people have to understand the difference between insulting someone and teasing them. You can tease someone on something that doesn't matter, just don't remark on things that are off limits like race, or things the person might be sensitive to like their weight. For example, I only tease girls on their cognitive skills if they strike me as being intelligent and self aware enough to realize it.
/r/seduction28/01/20 04:28 PM
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Oh I agree that every guy should workout. I was just pointing out that it's not magic, even being incredibly fit won't get you laid on its own, which a lot of guys who aren't fit seem to think.
/r/seduction09/12/19 11:48 PM
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You can if you want but I think you shouldn't worry too much about your physique. When I started lifting I was really self conscious and obsessive about trying to make my body look good, and I actually think that mindset is detrimental to you. Basically, build a routine/habit that will make you look good and feel healthy, but don't obsess about it too much. Also go on r/fitness for lifting advice. If you really want a short cheat sheet for strength/physique : Minimally : Hit chest, back, shoulde…
/r/seduction09/12/19 11:37 PM
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True, but not if you totally lack flirting ability like me lol. Zero multiplied by 10 is still zero :p
/r/seduction09/12/19 11:25 PM
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Depending on your build type it could take as little as a month for your gains to be noticeable, and as much as a year of working out semi-consistently. Generally the skinnier you are, the quicker the gains will be. Just look at calvin klein/any brand models on google if you want an idea of what most girls find most attractive, once you look like that you just have to wear the right clothes.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:51 PM
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I've also noticed that women look at me differently. The thing is that ultimately, if you are nervous and lack seduction skills, the moment you actually start interacting with a woman, how she looked at you before your interaction will be gone.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:46 PM
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A lot of baggy clothes are very fashionable. I think it comes from hip-hop, and more recently from asian fashion. It gives a more relaxed/casual look. This is very different than when I see poorly dressed chaps who just can't bother to find clothes that fit.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:44 PM
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It overall has a significant impact, but it's not a magic bullet whatsoever. It increases your confidence, increases your physical attractiveness and improves your mood (like all exercise does). If you get fit and wear fitting clothes, you will notice a lot more girls giving you looks, but if you have bad game the moment you open your mouth or show signs of nervousness, almost all the benefits go out the window.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:39 PM
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Thanks for the advice! She's not in my class though, maybe that part wasn't clear but basically I was studying in a random area in the building. Since it's a big university, I might never see her again lol. But that spot does have a great view from the window and there's plenty of girls there, so I'll definitely keep studying there and maybe I'll see that girl again and try that!
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:38 PM
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That's a great idea!
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:34 PM
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That's what I tell myself to stay positive lol.
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:06 PM
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She was sitting like 2 meters away from me, her chair facing to the front right. Here is a diagram, the arrows represent the sitting direction : [ her ]-> ( table )_____|| Window with beautiful view ____________( table )___|| ___________[ ^me^ ]____||
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:58 PM
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