sometimesimtoxic Archive

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3	How many women would date a bisexual men if he himself never had sexual experiemces with men and dont want to? The often unsaid piece in these bisexual threads is that most straight men will not date or get serious with bisexual women. Sure, a large majority of men may find it hot, or the idea that a bi woman is down for whatever, or open to threesomes or “yea, I’ll watch”. I think a lot of people misinterpret this as men having heightened interest in bisexual women. Men fetishize bi women, they try to have sex with bi women. This should NOT be mistaken for a genuine interest in actually dating them. The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/22 10:44 PM
1	Q4W: how many compliments do you get per day in real life? Is there a need for additional compliments? The only reason you want them is because you want to be approached. What else are you trying to achieve? It’s not to feel good about yourself. Being showered with Compliments does not help your self image. If you went into your office every day and four people came up to you every single work day and said “you’re the greatest mother fucker here. All these other people are shit compared to you”. You’d eventually start to think something was up, right? L…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/22 06:44 AM
1	A huge amount of straight men are actually homo-romantic This is 100% misogynistic heteronormative bullshit. In case you believe somehow 80% of the dudes who end up in prison are coincidentally gay. The “women are more bisexual” myth is laughably false. At college parties, in public, and somehow coincidentally in the view of straight men… Sure! But nearly 40% of men have a same sex sexual encounter to orgasm before age 24. We just have the tendency not to share this publicly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/22 12:37 AM
4	What are ways to build confidence and how to show it? Half of feeling good is looking good. -Shave or keep your facial hair neatly trimmed. -comb your hair -take care of your skin using moisturizer or otc acne treatment if needed -shower daily, brush your teeth 2-3 times a day, floss, wear deodorant -wear clean clothes, fold and/or hang your laundry appropriately. Don’t have a “floordrobe” -buy/wear clothes that match your physique. Try things on. If you are tall and lean, baggy is usually not the best look. If you’re a huggable teddy bear (don’t w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/22 05:21 PM
1	It's unfair for people to say it's important for a man with a small penis to go into a sexual encounter with confidence, but then make it impossible build or maintain that confidence by constantly dragging small penises down, mocking and ridiculing them as immoral, inferior and unmasculine. So, honest question. Would you want the women to be portrayed as dumb, fat and lazy? I don’t think anyone would respond positively to that character.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/22 05:48 AM
1	Does a guy wanting to sleep with his female friend make the friendship less legitimate? I admire your restraint.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/22 02:09 AM
1	Two part question: Men, if you were a woman would you be a sex-worker? Women, have any of you seriously considered/have done sex-work? I don’t think the vast majority of women could make $10k a month off titty pics either. A few bucks, sure, but as a guy there’s a lot of other side jobs that are pretty easy money that aren’t terribly open to women, like bouncer, security, small time weed dealer	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 11:13 PM
1	Two part question: Men, if you were a woman would you be a sex-worker? Women, have any of you seriously considered/have done sex-work? I think you’re underestimating the work involved. And if we want to use “physically gifted” as a gravy train, I’m sure there’s plenty of women who are jealous of the fact that if you’re 7 feet tall and can put a ball in a hoop, you can make 100 million.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 04:30 PM
3	Womens body count Name checks out	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 02:35 PM
4	What would your advice be for undesirable women? “Most girls can get up to at least a 6 if they have a nice body.” But she has glasses! And a ponytail! And paint on her overalls!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/22 09:42 PM
1	Do you care less if you're cheated on by a woman with another woman? There isn’t a physical cheating without emotional cheating. Setting aside CNM, In order for physical cheating to occur, there was a decision made that the relationship was damaged enough that cheating was an acceptable option. And “I was just drunk” doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t make subsequent decisions more excusable, just as if you were driving and crashed into a lamp post. Relationships between adults are adult things with adult consequences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/22 08:33 PM
2	Intelligence is not a positive trait if you want to have sex Give it 10 years and the lot of them will have married up considerably. By the time women mature, they recognize that being married to a guy with stable income who’s never unemployed and awkward with girls is not a bad idea. It means he’ll be fumbling and awkward to other women too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/22 11:36 PM
5	Bisexual men are riskier for women because they like both men and women. Yes, calling someone homophobic is totally rape.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/22 03:39 AM
0	Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference? How is having sex with men less masculine? There literally can’t be anymore testosterone in the room (unless you bring in more dudes of course). Your measuring stick is entirely arbitrary. And even so, there’s the implication that less masculine/more feminine is inherently bad or less.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 09:49 PM
8	Bisexual men are riskier for women because they like both men and women. You’re homophobic, and hiding behind “that’s just my preference”. Obviously we’re all free do feel and do what we want but all your conclusions are based off of old tropes, stereotypes and misogynistic norms. You’re refusing to evaluate a person on their merits and individual circumstances specifically because they are a member of the LGBTQ+ community and nothing else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 07:00 PM
1	Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference? Back in the 90s when I was in school, virtually nobody was coming out when they were still in high school. Lo and behold, an unusually high percentage of people I hung out with as a kid ended up being LGBTQ+. Even though no one said it and most of us didn’t even fully realize it. That vibe is extremely real! Likewise, there’s a lot of women thought of as conventionally attractive who I just could never have interest in because of the lack of vibe. I can just feel that negative energy too. And I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 03:01 PM
1	Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference? Less masculine is such a cultural stereotype, it’s basically the stop-short way of saying “f*g”. Former players have said there’s a gay or bisexual guy on basically every team in the NFL.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 02:43 PM
2	Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference? It really depends on how they phrase it and what the reasons are. Not all people who have that preference are homophobes, but all homophobes would. “Less masculine” is basically “f*g” with window dressing. A stop short. “I have nothing against ____, but…” is also a huge red flag. That’s usually what people say when they’re about to say something racist, sexist or homophobic. Chances are pretty near zero that this same person isn’t going to say “nothing against black people, but…” There’s definit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 02:38 PM
-3	If "men want only sex" why do you then shame them for paying for it and not getting in relationships? Everything after the first sentence is absurd. It’s not socially acceptable to be gay. And just going to the gay bar almost guarantees you’ll run into a creepy guy at some point during the night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/22 02:59 PM
4	Men and women here, how many actual options do you have? I’m 10 years older but things seemed much easier when we were in our 20s and you could be charismatic enough to keep someone engaged. Even if you were waiting for dinner at your table, or riding in the car with someone, there was little choice but to engage with the person/people you were with. Now, anyone can just hermit up with their phone and tune out other people around them. 20 years ago, someone sitting at a bar by themselves was scarcely even possible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/22 02:25 PM
2	Heavy monetization on male's loneliness and "lack of success" is a big issue. I tended to be happier in my 20s when single instead of dating LV women. Having a relationship with a good match is a wonderful thing, but somewhere along the line, men having sex is societally viewed as a “success”, and a mythical key to happiness. And someone who is not having sex but is successful in other ways is assumed to be less happy than someone who gets laid but lives in their car.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/22 02:16 PM
1	Men are way hornier than women, and this is the cause of everything being discussed here. The fact that this is even disputed is proof that women are unable to have an honest discussion about dating and gender relations. You just described gay bars.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/22 10:34 PM
4	The reason that the disparity in sexual privilege between men and women is so obfuscated not because there's any real doubt about it, but because of the solutions it implies This was my biggest “I don’t think so” in this articulate and lucid OP. Even as a man I am having a hard time accepting the Chad thing. The men who have many of the most stereotypically/near-universally attractive traits (financial success, charisma, body, height, personality) will often be in committed relationships, most often with women who have many of the most attractive qualities. I believe the number of true womanizing casanovas, so to speak, is EXTREMELY rare outside of those extenuating…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/22 07:01 PM
30	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said Part of the issue is that men often lack a fundamental idea of what that’s supposed to mean. What do young men do when they want to be heard or validated? Socially, when young men feel a lot of pent up emotional energy, like anger, depression or resentment…the suggested solution is quite often “hit the weight room” “here, put on this helmet and go hit something”. If you asked random men, “tell me about a time where your feelings were validated”, the vast majority of them would give you a puzzled…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 04:22 PM
3	How do you think women spend their time? I don’t think there’s a huge number of age 25+ virgins out there but I could be wrong. Sure, women who are older virgins are much likelier to fall under “choose not to” instead of incel. But either way I don’t think that’s very many people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/22 04:11 PM
4	How do you think women spend their time? false And that’s from the CDC, not info from a dating website.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/22 03:49 PM
7	How do you think women spend their time? How would it even be possible that straight women are having more sex than straight men. Math.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/22 03:38 PM
2	How important is a man's physique to women? Because of my point about number of real profiles. If you’re at a singles party and 80% of those in attendance are men, OBVIOUSLY the women will mostly go after the top 20%	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 01:24 AM
2	How important is a man's physique to women? The rule of 80/20 is that 80% of the real people on dating sites are men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 01:17 AM
6	Why is the physical act of cheating so devastating to men? I see an emotional affair as essential to a physical one, but not the other way around. Even if a guy plunks down the cash for a prostitute he’ll never meet again, there is an emotional cheating component that led to this. There’s some reason for him doing so beyond, “I just wanted someone to have sex with me today”. At the very least, you’re implying it’s more forgivable and would be much easier for you to get past, but it doesn’t seem like that’s your angle. Basically I just can’t envision a s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/22 09:43 PM