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Radical people in any movement are going to be the least rational. Sigh.
/r/MensRights09/06/10 02:13 AM
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You can wear something sleeveless and a knee-length but breathable skirt and have it be just as "formal" as a full suit.
/r/MensRights09/06/10 02:04 AM
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MAJOR UPVOTE for the second half of that comment. There's a solution, people!
/r/MensRights09/06/10 02:02 AM
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Ah, thank you for the clarification. I do think it is unfair that the onus is on men to make the first approach. Some people take it too far and assume that women who are out anywhere want to be approached. I thought that was what you were talking about. :o) Not everyone goes out to bars to meet people either, as you say, but at least it's a much fairer assumption, and with the onus on the dude, you pretty much can't go wrong.
/r/seduction18/05/10 01:11 AM
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Not necessarily. People leave their houses for all sorts of reasons that do not include meeting new people.
/r/seduction17/05/10 07:45 PM
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Of course we should hold people accountable for their crimes. That's not under discussion. We really don't disagree. I think you perceive me as giving a much higher importance to slut-shaming as a factor in false rape accusations than I actually have. I'm simply trying to point out that we can't solve these sorts of problems by punishing rapists or false rape accusers alone. Reasons not excuses. If we can understand the reasons why false rape accusations happen, we can figure out what we need to…
/r/MensRights17/05/10 03:56 AM
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There's a difference between reasons and excuses. I'm saying that slut-shaming may be a reason why this is as prevalent as it is. It's not an excuse. Treating the symptom of FRAs by punishing women who ruin lives may serve as a deterrent (and I do support slander charges for false rape accusations), but it won't actually remove the problem. If we want to treat the problem, we have to treat the underlying social causes. Slut-shaming is one of them. Here's an example of what I mean. You remember t…
/r/MensRights16/05/10 11:52 PM
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Whaaaat? Blaming slut-shaming is far from blaming "the menz," as you say. Slut-shaming is usually done by women to women. Do you even know what slut-shaming is? I also think that one of the reasons that we don't hold women responsible for false rape accusations is because we think of women as vulnerable little things who just can't help themselves. See: every woman who ever rapes a child and never goes to court. Again, the problem is bigger than false rape accusations: it's a symptom of the fact…
/r/MensRights16/05/10 07:24 PM
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While this is true, it's looking at a proximate rather than an ultimate cause. If what we want to do is eradicate false rape claims, then it looks like a good way to start might be by eradicating slut shaming.
/r/MensRights16/05/10 03:29 PM
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Yeah ... the argument for giving the woman full control after insemination is that it's her body that gets affected by pregnancy, and you should get more reproductive rights if you have more reproductive hardship ... but under my system, the woman would still have greater reproductive rights because the man would not be able to force her to carry the pregnancy to term. I just don't see how it is any benefit to a child to have a father who resents you. I'm mostly a fiscal conservative but I think…
/r/MensRights25/04/10 09:32 PM
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I am pro-choice, but I think a man should be able to opt out of fatherhood responsibilities. The way that I think he should be able to opt out is by fronting some pre-defined fee to cover non-complicated pre-natal visits and birth. Aborting a fetus is an expensive and invasive process for women; the least a man "aborting" his fatherhood can do is take some of the burden of getting the kid out of its mom in the first place off of her shoulders.
/r/MensRights25/04/10 06:12 PM
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What do you find compelling that's already been posted?
/r/MensRights25/04/10 02:12 PM
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So what's the verdict? Are you going to do it?
/r/MensRights24/04/10 04:15 PM
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To be "normal" is never a good reason to do something, but here's the kicker: to force someone else to be "normal" is never a good reason to do something harmful to them. That's what you are doing in circumcising your son: you are cutting him, which is harmful, in order to make him what you think is considered "normal," never mind the fact that having a foreskin is natural and being cut, by definition, unnatural. I don't know any boys that just whip it out and compare penises in school ... do yo…
/r/MensRights22/04/10 03:49 AM
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21-year-old female.
/r/MensRights05/04/10 06:50 PM
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Okay, I give in. I dare you to go through my comment history and claim that I don't empathize with or defend men. And while I'm at it, I'll just leave this link to my blog here. You may also be interested to know that I'm migrating it to here. The reason I make an effort to blog about this stuff? To show other people who favor gender/sex equalism that not everyone who advocates for men's rights is like you.
/r/MensRights04/04/10 06:12 PM
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Way to generalize. I feel no need to defend myself from someone like you. Listen to brutay & ignatiusloyola. You can criticize anyone, but criticizing an entire group and accusing people based on membership in that group-- isn't that what this subreddit is all about not doing?
/r/MensRights04/04/10 02:28 PM
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Point. It depends on what you want your moderator to do. In that case, I agree with you.
/r/MensRights01/03/10 02:10 AM
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I chuckled. But in all seriousness, if you were to pay someone to moderate, how would you measure their performance? Probably by the amount of useful discussion between disagreeing parties, amount of useful content regularly submitted, and the minimization of flame wars and unnecessary bans. Because those are things that make a subreddit flourish and keep people interested in it. Those are things that Saydrah, if she's being paid to submit content to the site, would want anyway. If people don't …
/r/MensRights28/02/10 04:46 PM
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Honestly, in this individual case, I think the potential problems you guys brought up might actually be beneficial. Here's why: Encouraging conflict doesn't have to mean encouraging flame wars. Getting people with different points of view to post in the same place will by necessity result in conflict sometimes, but conflict can be dealt with and resolved in a mature manner and end up helping people see eye to eye. In that sense, encouraging conflict seems to be the point of the subreddit: to get…
/r/MensRights28/02/10 03:09 PM
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As a citizen, I'm not comfortable having someone who would strike back with that much force to an innocuous invasion of space "protecting" me with a lethal weapon. I want to be able to trust cops, not be afraid of them.
/r/MensRights17/12/09 10:17 PM
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Equality definitely doesn't mean that everyone has to be the same, just that everyone has the same opportunities. Men and women do have innate biological differences; if you need evidence, look in your pants. Hormones are a whole-body communication system and can even act in a manner similar to neurotransmitters. To deny that men and women probably have innate differences is simply bullshit. Your sister might have innately preferred other toys- I have no idea! :o) My point is just that it's near…
/r/MensRights10/11/09 05:59 PM
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There's definitely more than one factor; I was responding specifically to the claim that women are not interested in tech and engineering jobs, not that they choose other careers for outside reasons. Women choose not to take these jobs for various societal reasons unrelated to their middle school careers, certainly, but middle school does have a substantial effect. Here's some reading material from Science Daily on the matter: 1 Seems to be a confidence issue, perhaps perpetuated by teachers 2 I…
/r/MensRights10/11/09 05:02 PM
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The problem is that women decide when they're young girls that they're not interested in these things, for whatever reasons (be they societal or biological). Once they are full-grown women, giving preference (as affirmative action does in this case) to people who are less interested in the job is silly. If you want more women in science, improve science education in middle and elementary schools and see where that goes.
/r/MensRights10/11/09 03:44 PM
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What's this? A coherent and respectful discussion between two people who don't entirely agree? Surely not! :o)
/r/MensRights11/09/09 09:30 PM
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So if I apply your own lessons to you ... You were making a series of statements without any logical connection between on which to support the conclusions that you drew, which makes your logic flawed. Rather than responding to my accusations of sexism, you attacked me, thus evading actually answering me. So, clearly, you were just fucking with me, and now feel threatened by my logical onslaught and are responding with flimsy "I don't care what you think"s. Women aren't the only ones who scheme,…
/r/MensRights07/09/09 08:28 PM
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Here is the problem: You are taking two classifications of people, men and women, and making unjustified assumptions about people based on what classification they are in. That is sexist and offensive. I got angry because you accused me- yes, me personally, because I'm a member of one of the group "women"- of being manipulative and scheming, and excused men from the same behavior. Being manipulative is not "femspeak." It's a human behavior, not a gendered one. If only you knew some of the obnoxi…
/r/MensRights07/09/09 04:37 PM
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This is one of the situations where I think having some sort of welfare type thing would be useful. If it's in the state's interest, not the father's, why isn't the state picking up the tab? Food stamps or "baby stamps" could be given to women who are raising a child by themselves without a father, rather than requiring the father to pay for child support. These stamps could only be used to purchase food or child-related things (school supplies, clothes, etc.).
/r/MensRights07/09/09 04:05 PM
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Pardon me, but I think arguing with people is the best way to change minds and come to common agreements. I also think that it's extremely sexist to assume that an entire gender is not worth having an argument with.
/r/MensRights07/09/09 04:02 PM
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Wow, thanks for assuming I can't argue. You're extremely offensive and, I'm sorry, sexist.
/r/MensRights07/09/09 04:01 PM
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This. Yes. You know how people always say Patriarchy Hurts Men Too? This is the result of an assumption that when a man and a woman have sex, the woman is hapless and not in control of her own uterus or sexuality. And wow, that hurts men.
/r/MensRights07/09/09 03:59 PM
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Er, why doesn't she just ask her husband to open the marriage?
/r/MensRights21/08/09 06:31 PM
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Really? That's interesting to me. I wonder if it's just that any physical affection beyond what one is accustomed to with one's own immediate family that one thinks is "gross" when applied to extended family/friends' families.
/r/MensRights07/07/09 12:14 PM
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It's just my family. I'm actually a very physically affectionate person- I like to hug/kiss/snuggle with my friends, but it's something I just do not expect from family, especially other people's family or extended family. I didn't even know until I hit high school that some parents kiss their children on the lips, and it still squicks me a little when I see parents doing it. (They're KIDS! Their mouths are NOT clean!)
/r/MensRights07/07/09 05:12 AM
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I definitely do not kiss or touch my parents, except one awkward hug when I visit them now. I do not touch my extended family. My boyfriend's dad gave me a hug and a peck on the cheek when we were visiting his parents' recently and I was too shocked to move for a few seconds. And I'm a girl.
/r/MensRights06/07/09 11:14 PM
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It's so sad that this sort of sexism is so easily "validated" by a couple of statistics. These parents telling their children that pregnant women, mothers and grandmothers are "safe" adults to look for when they're lost is hardly different than telling them to look for adults of another race because most violence is intra-racial.
/r/MensRights25/02/09 01:09 AM
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... I kind of have to subscribe. It's like a train wreck...
/r/MensRights24/02/09 08:47 PM
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Breast cancer has powerful lobbyists. It's truly a shame. Funding is hard to come by ... Perhaps I should have more faith in the scientific field. :o)
/r/MensRights19/02/09 05:00 AM
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That is a pretty awesome interview. Thanks for posting it. But to some extent, we need conflicting ideologies that call for research of different sorts. The problem with relying purely on science is twofold: First, the way the media reports science is going to be flawed no matter what; and second, scientists will find, cite and corroborate findings that confirm their own pre-existing biases. For example, it was commonly accepted in the medical field for a brief time that lobotomies were an actua…
/r/MensRights19/02/09 01:54 AM
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These divisions and factions are unfortunate, I agree. But I don't know of a better system. How would you suggest that we avoid factions without giving any one movement too much to handle? Perhaps simply by melding all the movements and attacking the problem of inequality by sheer force of numbers?
/r/MensRights18/02/09 11:07 PM
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Fighting for equalism is a huge battle. It makes sense to me to break it down a little so that no one group of activists is biting off more than they can chew, so long as no group strays from the overall goal.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 09:18 PM
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The term is a bit too specific- "women have equal political, social, sexual, intellectual and economic rights to men" as opposed to "all people should be treated as equals and have the same political, economic, social, and civil rights"- but that really just makes it a subset of equalism focusing on one group of people. Whether that one group of people still needs that focus is another story entirely.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 05:10 PM
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The stated definition says "rights," not "characteristics." Thankfully, two people don't have to have equal characteristics to share equal rights- otherwise, only identical twins would be allowed the same rights!
/r/MensRights18/02/09 03:30 AM
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Clearly, since you're a bigger and stronger brute than she is, there's no way she can be trying to victimize you, right? The system sucks sometimes.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 01:47 AM
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People should just lessen their proclivity towards categories (and the whole "us and them" mentality), and just learn to judge things on an individual basis. Oh how happy I would be if this were to happen. I specifically distance myself from labels to avoid being put into an "us" or a "them". :o)
/r/MensRights18/02/09 01:45 AM
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Thanks for giving us your insight :o) I think it's important to differentiate "THE PATRIARCHY" from "men," though. Women can certainly be a part of THE PATRIARCHY, dutifully enforcing stereotypes about what is okay for men and women to do. It's not that men are these big evil monsters that oppress women- it's that the way Western society functioned (has been functioning? you choose, leave me out of this) for many centuries involves giving preferential treatment (in terms of rights and privileges…
/r/MensRights18/02/09 01:23 AM
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Ugh, I'm so sorry you had to undergo that. It really disgusts me when people think that sexually harassing a man is somehow okay. "Oh he's so lucky! He's got girls all over him tearing his clothes off! Of course he wants it- he's a man, isn't that all they ever want?" I've stuck up for a few men in situations like that and the backlash you get from the people doing it and the bystanders is just ridiculous.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 01:06 AM
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This is the stuff of the anti-feminist movement. Keep your shirts on, it's not a movement that says women do not deserve the same rights or opportunities as men. Anti-feminists say that men and women should be valued for their differences just as much as for their similarities, and that feminism, having achieved its goals regarding legal rights, should step down and make way for movements focused on tearing down the social gender constructions. It makes me really mad when people use the term int…
/r/MensRights18/02/09 01:02 AM
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Sorry but the word means whatever those who fly it as their flag make it mean. I agree with you, but the only thing that I can generalize from the vast and diverse group of people who have call and have called themselves feminists is basically the first sentence of the Wiki page on feminism: Feminism is the belief that women have equal political, social, sexual, intellectual and economic rights to men.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 12:53 AM
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Using "feminism" to mean "interactions of genders in relation to power" is problematic in the same way that using "mankind" to mean "humanity" is.
/r/MensRights18/02/09 12:48 AM
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Personally, I prefer the terms "gender studies" to women's studies and "equalism" to feminism, but the philosophy behind feminism- regardless of how the group of people who self-identify as feminists acts- is that women ought to have the same legal rights as men. Unfortunately, the term has been pushed and pulled in all sorts of directions, and people are now trying to use it to mean all sorts of things. When asked if I am interested in "feminism," I say that I am somewhat interested in "gender …
/r/MensRights18/02/09 12:46 AM
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I have a similar gripe with the name "feminism." Since we no loner need to fight for women's legal rights in the West, surely a better name might be chosen for eradicating social gender assumptions?
/r/MensRights17/02/09 09:36 PM
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For example: either the wage gap is a result of gender discrimination, or it is the logical consequence of people's choice of careers and opportunities to be stay-at-home parents. All that the philosophy of feminism requires is that women have the same opportunities to become CEOs and so on that men do. The wage gap doesn't have to be a result of discrimination; it's just a statistic that is often cited (for better or for worse) showing differences in wage earning by gender to support the argume…
/r/MensRights17/02/09 09:35 PM
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Agreed. Being a "feminist" just means that you believe in equal rights for women. Favoring the rights of women above men should have a different name, and does: misandry.
/r/MensRights17/02/09 09:26 PM
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That's what the philosophy of feminism is. Are you trying to distinguish between the philosophy and the group of people who self-identify as feminists?
/r/MensRights17/02/09 09:24 PM
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Hmm, I appear to have trouble with that.
/r/MensRights01/02/09 12:31 AM
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The Milgram experiments were intended to test people's willingness to obey authority figures. The replication that you're citing had twice as many female as male participants, and the total sample size was 26, which is too small to draw any powerful conclusions from. Furthermore, the other replication cited in this article had the men and women refusing at the same rate. Without a closer examination of women's vs. men's willingness to obey authority figures, your pulling that single result out f…
/r/MensRights31/01/09 09:30 PM
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Yes- saying "I think it's time for one or both of us to get sterilized. If you're uncomfortable with sterilization, I am willing to have my tubes tied, but because of [insert medical reasons], I think it would be easier for you than for me. How would you feel about that?" or something would be asking in a fair way, I think. I agree with you that presenting both male and female sterilization options and their pros and cons would be ideal, because both parties will probably come to the same conclu…
/r/MensRights31/01/09 07:57 PM
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Agreed. If you have decided together that you either don't want children or don't want any more children, it's not a bad idea for one or both of you to get sterilized. Is there a particular reason you don't want to get a tubal ligation or an IUD?
/r/MensRights29/01/09 09:26 PM
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Hmm! I did know the Student's t was the more appropriate test, but was being lazy and figured if I didn't have to run and grab my graphing calculator, I wouldn't. Since both deal with the normal distribution and we have large sample sizes, as you said they're not terribly different. However, I did run off and grab my calculator and you appear to be correct. Congratulations: you've caught me being negligent.
/r/MensRights23/12/08 05:24 AM
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Err, the difference between this factsheet and the one cited in the article about driving is that the article about driving had some statistically significant differences. I just ran a couple Z-tests and according to the data provided by collegeboard.com, there's no significant difference between men's scores and the population mean or women's scores and the population mean (z ~ 0.001 for both), or between mens' scores and women's scores (z ~ 0.002). I'm a die-hard proponent of men's rights, but…
/r/MensRights23/12/08 03:34 AM
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