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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	FR (I think) I need help. I'm socially awkward. This is really vague because you didn't go in much detail but a few things I picked up on: 3-4 awkward silences Silence is fun, it creates sexual tension. Keep eye contact, smile (especially the cheeky lopsided kind), and wait for her to speak. its always about other people Not sure what you mean. Are you asking her opinion of other people? IMO this is OK if you're just bantering and people-watching (anonymous dudes in the same bar) but it's pretty bad if you're talking about mutual acquaintance…	/r/seduction	05/12/14 01:11 AM
2	Advice for Tinder date It makes no difference it's a blind date. If anything it's easier because if you're anything like me you just banter on Tinder so you basically don't know anything about her and it's really easy to get her talking about herself.	/r/seduction	05/12/14 01:01 AM
32	Dating multiple girls...Where to go from here? Even if you want a LTR, go for all three of them. Sex is pretty essential to get to know them.	/r/seduction	03/12/14 08:40 PM
1	[FR] Birthday Night out - I have a couple questions I've been having more success recently and yeah, I'd say touching goes a long, long, way. This might be biased because if you're confident enough to be touching well you're probably saying shit that implies more confidence (you said yourself you answered simply but confidently, when I'm off I tend to waffle and trail off awkwardly). she got mad at me for "hitting on her friend" which my response was, "ok I'm just being friendly." Be honest, was this true? If not, admit it. Most man-woman convers…	/r/seduction	03/12/14 03:38 AM
48	Smart Kid Syndrome This was me until ~19. "Stupid things" included going out, not playing videogames all day long, drinking, caring about how you look or what you wear, etc. I think it's just a defense mechanism you grow out of one day when you're inevitably exposed to how fun the "stupid things" are. EDIT: I also think the drastic opposite is really unhealthy. When I broke through this my whole framework for life was blown to pieces, and suddenly I felt socially inept, inferior to everyone, anxious, the whole she…	/r/seduction	03/12/14 12:43 AM
1	Turning hot girls down There's no magic pill! It definitely helps to have a pal who's down for berating you when you're pussying out and telling you exactly what to do. I'm sure all your guy friends aren't Don Juans, pick one and ask him if he's down for it.	/r/seduction	02/12/14 01:52 AM
1	Turning hot girls down i hold people shoulders as i squeeze past them to get myself used to it This is exactly where I started. I really think it's just habit. The only thing holding you back is that you think it's creepy and are afraid of rejection. I am the exact same but over time I got used to touching slightly more. I'm still not entirely used to it, when I keep holding their hand I tend to get a huge boner. I have a fun wing now and we try to push each other out of comfort zones, counting the other guy down tell…	/r/seduction	02/12/14 01:38 AM
1	Turning hot girls down About a year ago. I sucked at it although I got good at Tinder thanks to it (doesn't really count, I know). I never 'practiced' (intentionally going out sober / by myself or with 'wingmen' to pick up), but I tried to integrate everything I read into my daily life. Those two might just be a fluke, I still am not the most comfortable / charming guy around women in general.	/r/seduction	02/12/14 01:32 AM
1	Turning hot girls down You're totally right, and as I read this I both regretted not going for it again and remembered all the way 'worse' chicks I ended up having a great time with in bed. Thanks dude.	/r/seduction	02/12/14 01:22 AM
1	Turning hot girls down how you got comfortable touching their leg/ holding hands after knowing them a short time Baby steps. I probably first read the sidebar a year ago, started getting in the habit of touching people more. Now it doesn't seem like a big deal once the conversation is flowing. I think the biggest step is to go from incidental touching (touching them when you react strongly to something) to more explicit touching, and the easy way to transition is that you touch them incidentally but then you keep your…	/r/seduction	02/12/14 01:19 AM
2	Turning hot girls down Actually that's exactly what I'm wondering about (is having standards a bad thing?). I feel like I'm not congruent with my 'gamey' self: I'd have happily banged them but because part of game is qualifying and being selective it didn't feel right. A lot of what I've learned from seddit had fundamentally changed my beliefs about women and my interactions with them, and so far it's all been for the better. Because of this I'm unsure if my habit of not having standards is just an old chumpy thing I …	/r/seduction	02/12/14 12:59 AM
1	Turning hot girls down Your edit is exactly what I'm worried about. The thing is they actually wanted to fuck already, so it's really an extreme form of fucking myself over, but I think it might be just that: that I'm still not comfortable with myself as a guy who can pull and the whole thing felt off because I didn't understand why I was doing good.	/r/seduction	02/12/14 12:53 AM
1	Turning hot girls down One off Tinder, one at a dinner party. I don't think that makes a difference, in my experience Tinder girls are actually pretty laid back, but maybe that's because I usually screen hard before meeting up.	/r/seduction	02/12/14 12:51 AM
6	Turning hot girls down Definitely not looking for a relationship. I have a few fuck buddies and am happy with that. Yes, the lack of two-way communication is part of what I didn't like, but I've had no qualms about fucking far far worse before this, so I don't think it's just a personality / intellectual thing.	/r/seduction	01/12/14 11:58 PM
1	Talking about sex casually? Yeah, I think I misinterpreted your initial comment. I definitely agree that talking about it with no game and very explicitly can ruin an interaction, but I don't think it's ever a problem if you're being subtle / teasing / playing silly games like "what's she / he into" while people watching, etc.	/r/seduction	26/11/14 01:59 PM
1	Talking about sex casually? such girls usually have nasty issues with self-loathing, personality disorders, and/or sociopathic tendencies Dude, there's plenty of well-adjusted girls who care more about their sexual freedom than about getting slut-shamed (and probably don't even hang out with the kind of people that would slut-shame them in the first place). This is just your personal taste. As far as I'm concerned it's the opposite, any girl that needs not to be up-front about having sex to feel OK with herself is a big re…	/r/seduction	25/11/14 02:33 PM