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It was drawn as comparison. When a man comes to a group of people and talks about his cheating partner, the general concensus is 'well she's obviously a slut, and not worth your time, you dumped her right?' And while the same is generally true of a woman approaching a group in the same scenario (he's a jerk, dump him!) you will also not uncommonly find people asking what she did to make him cheat. You will almost never find the same sort of dissenting line of thought in the first case. That was …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 03:37 PM
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In the case of men attacking men, it is in part due to the social stigma attached to physically attacking women, and the need to lash out at someone, I'm sure. In the cases of women attacking women I think it's less to do with any social stigma and more to do with attacking what they perceive as the problem, and again, needing to lash out at someone. When men get cheated on the prevailing assumption is that there is nothing to "fix" and the cheater is diminished to the point of worthlessness. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 01:06 PM
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Dress neatly, make sure your hands are emaculate, and speak with confidence. Depending on where you live your age might be an issue. But a barback is an entry level position so lack of experience isn't generally and issue (and if the person who is hiring is smart they take inexperienced people for positions like this because you don't have bad habits.) Focus on your responsibility, reliability, and eagerness to learn the trade (of bars, specifically.) Edit to add: in addition to gastropubs, appl…
/r/askTRP03/03/16 01:31 PM
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Someone who works in the back of the bar. They run food, do dishes, bus the seating area, prepare and bring garnishes for the bartenders, fetch and carry for the bartenders.
/r/askTRP03/03/16 01:28 PM
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It isn't a genetic trait. Some people with a genetic trait that makes them predisposed to treating those outside themselves poorly (like schizophrenia, say,) may focus on women as an object of their abuse, perhaps because of some past trauma visited upon them by a woman, or because they grew up with a house full of sisters, or whatever... But it's the schizophrenia that is the genetic trait, not the resulting behaviours. Misogyny may be a behaviour exhibited by people with genetic traits which a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 11:40 PM
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It's not a genetic trait. It's a learned behaviour. It is still present because it is impossible to change the way people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 11:10 PM
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Right! My every Tuesday evening after dishes revolves around meal planning because that's the day the local market flyers are mailed out. First I take requests. If there is anything the mister wants I work with it, if the kids have a reasonable request (saying spaghetti every time I ask results in spaghetti probably once a month.) then I browse the adverts and jot down all the items that fit into our diet that are on offer for a reasonable price. Meat first, fresh veg and fruit follow, and after…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 12:41 AM
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There is always a period of adjustment. The first six weeks of babylife can be hard. Toddlers who've just learned to walk are nerve wracking sometimes. When your child learns enough speech to hold a conversation with you, it can become a time sink before you realise it. I think what happens is that some people, in that first six weeks of babylife develop bad habits and are excused. Because, you know, baby. It is reasonable for two to six weeks depending on how the child was born, and how the chi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 02:07 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 01:48 PM
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You're welcome! And thank you! She is really a very generous child and I am so proud of her!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 02:54 AM
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Oh yes! I do most of this by 'what's in my cupboard?' so if it's hard to follow, I apologise! Basic oil/vinegar ratio doesn't change. Swap out the vinegar for apple cider, use a splash of maple syrup instead of sugar, and warm the oil with some red pepper flakes. It will emulsify quicker while the oil is warm and it's really good! Basic honey mustard, swap out the sweetener with honey and add whole grain/dijon mustard. Yellow works in a pinch but it's not as tasty. I use maybe a spoonful of must…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 02:09 AM
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Recently the mister sat me down for serious talk. I was really rather touched, because I grew up not being noticed, and my career path was back end support so my departments always spent money and never made money. You know you are essential to the making money departments but you never get lauded for bringing in big paydays the way others do. It's my lot in life and I am content with it. So when he told me he appreciated everything I do, from making sure he's fed well, to emptying his coat pock…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:35 PM
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Have you tried making your own dressing? The mister is picky about green food, and the only salads I can get him to eat are rocket and spinach, and the list of things appropriate to add to the leafy bits is pretty short. No nuts, meat doesn't belong in a green salad (but is fine for pasta, exception is bacon but if I do that too often I'm told it's a waste) nothing with seeds, no fungi, basically, it's rocket/spinach, spring onion, mozzarella, and dressing. And it would get repetitive, except fo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:22 PM
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http://addapinch.com/cooking/the-best-chocolate-cake-recipe-ever/ I can verify that this recipe is excellent and easy enough for a man and a three year old to make. My daughter wanted to make a cake one day while I was at work and the mister was home so they found this. It came out gloriously wonderful, and I have scads of photos of her helping. (they even cleaned up before I got home. Totally impressive to say the least.) She's five now and I've got this recipe written down in The Book at home,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:15 PM
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Me too! Oh! Me too! The mister manages a restaurant so sometimes his shifts for a few weeks run really late. Right now I'm having serious issues with what to leave for him when he gets home because he's sworn off bread/pasta. It was really easy before. He was so impressed that I season sandwiches (is it really that odd? I mean they offer salt and pepper in subway...) that a sandwich every late night was not at all a problem and he looked forward to it when he came home. He really does not want t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:11 PM
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I think it's a lovely idea. No matter how accomplished one is in the kitchen I think regular exposure to other people's methods, ideas, techniques, etc is undoubtedly a benefit. Plus we all get stuck in a rut at some point. It never ceases to amaze me when people share.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:03 PM
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So. I hate money. Well. That's not entirely true. I like spending it. I have enjoyed earning it. I even enjoy budgeting. As long as it's for other people. Even when it's difficult. I hate budgeting for myself. Which is not to say I hate being limited by said budget, just... It's an emotional baggage sort of thing and despite knowing that I have to deal with it and move on it still makes me anxious after years of not having the responsibility. I was in a very bad marriage and there was never enou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:53 PM
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It is difficult not to bring past experiences with you forward into new relationships. Live and learn right? When you find yourself feeling that princess attitude coming on, be more forgiving of the chap. He isn't your ex. Examine the emotion that prompts the reaction and identify where it is really coming from. If it's related to how you felt unappreciated in a precious relationship, perhaps some forgiveness is warranted. If it is directly related to something he did, or did not do, cues you've…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 05:36 AM
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I was with my youngest at the park in our community today and ran into another mother with younglings. We've chatted a few times, and she's always full of questions! We've made similar life and child rearing choices, so most of her questions have revolved around 'how did you not go mad? It gets better right?' Today she surprised me though. Today she asked about dinner. The first thing that popped out of my mouth was 'do you have a copy of The Joy of Cooking?' I love that book. And my red Betty C…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 05:28 AM
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I am. I went the self saboteur route. Recovery from my self destructive tendencies has been... Fun. I started full bore into over achiever (I thought) only to find I was self destructive instead. The mister is incredibly patient with my lapses. I'm fortunate he is willing to tolerate my hissy fits, and help me see instead that I am valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 02:56 AM
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I'm having trouble right now myself. Feel stuck in a rut. Every week there is a roast supper (or two, depending,) and this is nonnegotiable. My family would mutiny I think, if they didn't get their roast supper. Usually it's a roast chicken, but sometimes I'll sneak in a pork roast or a beef roast, which usually ends up with a second roast supper a few days later that is chicken. There is always pan gravy and until very recently yorkshire pudding. (the mister is off carbs, and I may have explode…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 02:26 AM
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It's everyone's fault unless the cheater is a pathological liar and entered into a monogamous relationship under false pretences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 01:30 AM
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I'm wondering why there is a question mark in the title. It intrigues me.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 03:14 PM
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The point is still valid. The problem with deadbedrooms is no one is having sex, and this is not ideal. Frequently we see 'I get sex from my wife, but it's mediocre and infrequent at best' as an excuse to step out. The same is said going the other way. 'he couldn't keep up with me, it wasn't satisfying.' Any source of sexual dissatisfaction in a committed relationship, gives cause for an excuse. Whether or not it's actually an issue (because let's face it, often a little communication and effort…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/15 05:17 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 08:39 PM
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The thing with trying a dread game on a redpiller is if he is where he wants to be, it shouldn't affect him. If she's hot, turning heads, and getting attention - and not responding to it, all the while remaining attentive to her partner, respectful and responsive to him and not all the outside attention, what does he have to worry about? The whole point of the dread game strategy is to play on insecurities and incite an emotional response. There has to be a lack in the relationship for it to dri…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/15 02:52 PM
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In the last six months, things at work for my husband have changed dramatically. I stopped working full time when the changes began, and stopped working altogether in February. While I was working both full time and part time, we messaged throughout the day. Some days I just didn't have time for answering for a couple hours. It happens. Being on that end of the experience helps me out when I'm home and I don't hear from him for five or six hours. Sometimes he's just busy. Sometimes, I'm sure, ot…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 01:13 AM
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What's funny about cats is he absolutely melts into gelatin shaped man the instant I start rubbing his scalp. You're welcome! And good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 12:59 PM
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You're welcome! Splitting it up like that saved my sanity. Seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 04:02 AM
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I get unreasonably sensitive and irritable when I'm not getting the frequency of sex I have grown accustomed to in my marriage. There is a point at which I become intolerable. The problem with this is, the crankier I get, the less he wants to have sex. The dry spells don't start out because I have a bad attitude about something, or have mouthed off, which is to say that as near as I can tell the dry spells have nothing to do with me. What I've noticed is work, and my health instigate a dry spell…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 03:57 AM
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Everyone seems to be saying it but I'll chime in with support of a really effective idea. Write it down! Make yourself a list! I sit with a cup of coffee and my planner every morning, I cross reference no monthly and weekly lists, which are remade every month and week, so I can see things crossed off on paper. Seeing it helps me feel progress. It takes me about twenty minutes, because I also spend a bit of time journaling, but it's well worth it. I include in my daily planning making sure I take…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 10:10 PM
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As to names and children and interaction with schools and medical professionals. When I remarried I took my husbands name. I'm proud to be his wife and proud to carry the name. The children, however, cannot legally have there names changed without the consent of the bad choice I made previously. So I can say from experience, different surnames have caused me no issue at all. This is likely due in part to the current divorce rates nationwide, which have been steadily growing. It's likely that the…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 02:02 PM
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I find controlling my sass to be one of the single most difficult things, ever.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 12:45 AM
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I think self reporting such as this shows a distinct lack of humility. One can be proud of themselves, while still being humble. A lack of humility, in this case, definitely reeks of a validation seeking behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 12:42 AM
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! I do this. Sort of. I don't go back and re-read all of it. later. I have journals everywhere, different ones for different reasons, and all that. I buy the cheapest notebooks I can find (once I found a whole case of A5 spiral bound notebooks on markdown for 19¢ each. I bought the lot.) and I keep one specifically for all the poison that wants to come out. Complaining, mean or quarrelsome thoughts, hurt feelings, all of it. I make sure to re-examine hurt feelungs after I have calmed down, but m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 11:47 PM
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Yes. I am. It is not a one way Street. You are looking at one facet of a relationship without seeing the whole thing. But it's okay. I understand. As for sarcasm, I tend to miss it, often.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 01:48 AM
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Indeed. Having an outside authority to which I am accountable relieves me of some of the responsibility, making the whole situation less stressful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 07:55 PM
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Equality is the state of being equal. I never claimed my marriage was one of equals in all things. I, personally, think it all balances out quite well as the two of us quite happy in our marriage and with our relationship with each other. I am quite happy with it, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 07:51 PM
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I find it incredibly soothing. Plus fresh bread!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:15 PM
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Yea, the asking is after the allowance runs out... I'm a monster.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:32 AM
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Thank you! But really you'd only be feeding the monster. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:31 AM
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It's not a tight budget, it's about controlling my spending habits. If I could get away with it, if have a coffee at least once a day. If not twice or three times. It's a small expenditure, but when it is constant it adds up. Also, it is an example. It's the first thing that comes to mind when I talk about my accountability because it is the most frivolous luxury I habitually desire. The accountability is more for my comfort than anything else. I am also loathe to admit my failings, even small o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:30 AM
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Bread. Learn to bake a loaf of bread. It is effort because kneading bread by hand can be tedious, and I'm a crazy person who enjoys it. You mentioned breakfast in another response though, and let me say that toast from home made bread is amazing. This is the recipe I use most often: 2 1/2-3 cups all purpose flour 3 cups bread flour (you can sub all purpose here, but bread flour gives a better texture. This ratio of about 1:1 is the most cost effective ratio. Half AN flour is a slight sacrifice, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 09:40 PM
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My mother didn't cook either. Don't worry, you're not alone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 08:59 PM
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It's never a waste of time! Making your own gravy, from scratch, is well worth learning how, and once you've found your groove with it, it is a simple thing that comes without thought. It's a ratio of liquid to fat and thickener, that ratio, whatever it is to achieve the texture you want, won't change much. Cooking time and temperature are dependent on the vessel you're making it in mostly, and after that it's a matter of knowing your stove top. I had serious issues moving from gas to electric. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 08:57 PM
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Thirding Joy of Cooking. It explains how to butcher your meat. It illustrates how. It does not have unrealistically beautiful photos to compare to when you're done. Plus it's full of amazing. Edit to add for the OP: I also love my '52 Betty Crocker. Best. Pancakes. Ever.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 08:52 PM
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Planning is soooo beneficial. I plan weekly. With grocery flyers and cookbooks everywhere. First and foremost it saves the stress of 'oh crap, what's for (insert meal here.)' Secondly but only just, it saves so much money. When, for whatever reason, the weekly meal list goes out the window and I find myself running to the market for just this or just that... It's a disaster. Never mind the waste. There aren't a lot of dishes that call for an entire bunch of parsley, but if I know I need it for t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 08:50 PM
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Oh god yes. Sometimes it's annoying. Like gift buying for him, or when I want a coffee while I'm out and about and I know he's going to say no. The specifics of the accountability and the little annoyances of not being able to buy whatever, whenever, are the trade off I have of not worrying a whit about whether or not there is enough. I don't have to concern myself with whether or not my cell phone bill is paid, or if I have enough to fill the tank and buy my daughter shoes. I don't have to budg…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 08:35 PM
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I struggled with this in the first year we lived together. By the time his birthday rolled around I was already in the habit of cooking him anything he wanted for three meals a day. If he said he wanted cake, or cookies, or a pastry, I'd hand him a stack of books and say 'pick anything you like, I shall make it happen.' from time to time he will pat my backside and say 'go make yourself pretty for Daddy.' and I know I'm in for a night of it. ;) our relationship spent a few months with some signi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 01:03 PM
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You're welcome. Gonna fix the pdf?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 07:37 PM
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I also cannot retrieve the pdf to peruse it. I'm going to give a response anyway. Fellatio is power and control. The recipient has to show a great deal of trust to place such a delicate and sensitive organ in danger, and there is no doubt, teeth are dangerous. Whether the recipient is aware of the trust and power he gives his partner or not, the exchange is present, and can be exercise at any time with just a bit of pressure from the jaw. How such situations are handled vary widely between partn…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 07:17 PM
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I suspect that they are asking here because they are either consciously or unconsciously cherry picking the data collection. They are expecting a certain set of responses, whether they is aware of them or not. But I could be wrong about the former. The question may be asked elsewhere that I am unaware of. The latter, however, is most likely the case, as that's human nature.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 06:46 PM
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My Gran had something like this. She was drinking about four liters of diatilled water a day and nothing else. Her diet wasn't the best and she was stubbornly refusing to take anything but her blood pressure meds. Doc told her to eat better and drink a gatorade or something similar along with tap water. It wasn't necessarily the amount of water she drank, it was that it was distilled (so no trace minerals) and that her diet was poor otherwise. He said to drink tap water because that will have so…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:32 PM
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They don't know any better. Think of how people have been raised for the last forty years or so. They just don't realise they don't have to.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:23 PM
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I have always been judgemental of other people in general. There are a lot of different reasons but when I find myself judging women for being horrible wives and horrible mothers, it goes back to my mother, my grandmother and in part, my great grandmother. My mother was not a good mother, nor a good wife. She was lazy, self indulgent, and an addict. Her addiction along with my father's unintentionally granted me a boon though. I got to spend a couple years living with my grandparents, and they p…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:15 PM
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I do understand! That's kind of where I was with it! It's our role to be good enough for the man on whom we have set our sights, but if we continue to do so on men who refuse to exhibit the traits we deem necessary we set ourselves up for failure. With something as emotionally charged as the idea of commitment, continuing to try and... Change that particular desire or lack of in various men is worse than folly in my opinion. Anyway! I'm quite elated with the discourse. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 11:25 PM
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All the more reason to dismiss this guy. He obviously did not have the qualities the friend was looking for, as he refused to commit to her. Look, I was just trying to give her a tool. Ultimately it's all about all of us getting what we want. Her friend wants something that she didn't find in that particular guy. If it was hair colour, or his career being in a certain field rather than a fundamental lack of desire to commit to her, those things can be compromised. He doesn't have to be dismissed…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 07:11 PM
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Her impression is that he's not. Or rather her impulse is she doesn't like to think of him that way. This is valid. Part of what forms a leader is the impression they leave with others. If you don't have the respect how can you lead? If her friend is hung up on him, and he is no longer an option for whatever reason he needs to be dismissed. I don't know the guy, you don't know the guy. The OP does. I have already conceded the point that the only impression I have of him is that he took advantage…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 06:15 PM
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I do not disagree, but just because she settled for it doesn't make him alpha.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 06:03 PM
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New-ish as well. Hi! Guess what? We are women. We have the wonderful pleasure of being things of beauty. We have the privilege of being creatures to be cared for, looked after, guided. We have the luxury of being able to revel in this, to be able to make the time to maintain our bodies and minds to the benefit of the man we find worthy of our regard, our respect, worthy of having such a glorious creature in his life. It is up to us to maintain ourselves to continue to benefit the relationship. W…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 04:07 PM
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He ex sounds like the type of pseudo alpha that surrounds himself with creatures both male and female who already have a weakness in confidence and/or self esteem. Granted I've heard very little about him other than the poor way he treated his relationship with her. But to be honest, men like that aren't really alpha. Are you really a leader if you refuse to surround yourself with peers? Part of being alpha, in my opinion, is being worthy of respect and someone who surrounds themselves with infe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 03:34 PM
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I've commented once or twice, via my front page and didn't see this stickied. I should say hi. Manners! I stumbled across theredpill aaggeess ago through an aggressively feminist tumblrina and had a laugh at said tumblrina. The way I look at it, labels aside, trp are just an evolution of what already exists within society given voice by Anonymous Internet. Like... Her! And everyone else! Anyway, personal philosophy regarding people and stupidity aside, I found myself back there a few days later,…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 01:34 PM
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Before meeting my husband I always dated down. I never had issues of jealousy or suspicion because I was better than the boy I was dating so anyone who came along was either way out of his league or I was better than she was, no contest. It was a new experience dating someone who was my equal. Being married to him is different still. I get jealous. I have moments of soul wrenching insecurity. I think that it is inevitable that other women are going to find my man appealing. I find his suitable, …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 01:44 PM
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I crochet most of my scarves. I don't cover my head unless it's cold (we live in a climate that is rarely ever 'cold' and at least eight months of the year it's warm to blistering.) But a great deal of what I make can be widened and done up with slimmer yarns to make lovely things to wear in your hair. Plus, crochet is easy, and relaxing!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 01:06 PM
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See, having things clearly outlined like that, knowing the reasons for it, understanding... That is beautiful. Sometimes I wish my husband would do that. Most of the time though I appreciate the trust he puts in my judgement. I know giving me a hard and fast instruction does not mean he doesn't believe I have the brains to come to the right decision myself, but the lack of such definitely shows he does. On the reverse, that he trusts enough in your intelligence to give you strictures and follow …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 01:03 PM
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I remember the first time he told me to change my shoes before work. I was in a hurry so I didn't take the time to ask for an explanation, but I was so confused. By the end of the day I'd forgotten about it so a few days later I was putting on the same pair again and he was a little perturbed when he told me to choose a different pair. Then I had time to ask. And it was full on 'those are shoes that say you're looking, it's the colour..' I hadn't even thought of that. This is the part where ever…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 12:51 PM
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What I wear, how I look, this is a direct reflection of my husband. His taste. His financial means. His social status. I don't have a dress code. I don't have stated rules. But I know that wearing the old pair of ratty jeans and one of his tshirts I appropriated out of the house will get me a talking to.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 12:46 PM
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