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Good stuff. I'd only add that part of achieving a goal is accepting and even embracing that mistakes will be made and there will be many small failures on the way. It is in making the mistakes where we can learn the most useful lessons. What separates the men from the boys is not quitting when sh*t happens.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/21 06:05 AM
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Maybe that's the common social assumption. Call me cynical, but I think most real "bans" of forums/content anywhere come down to what's "bad for business." If this forum is perceived as a threat to ad revenue, valuable data mining, etc., that's when the hammer is most likely to drop. Follow the money.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 10:57 PM
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Good to see my post generating discussion. I would add that aware that intersexual dynamics to not occur in a vacuum, and politics both influence and are influenced by these dynamics. I believe we live (at least in most of the West to varying degrees) in a gynocentric social order. One only needs to look at the family court system (largely a political construction) in most places for many examples of how the deck is stacked against men. I just find that aiming to steer discussions out of politic…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 10:17 PM
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I believe the red pill should remain as apolitical and amoral as possible. It is based on understanding hypergamy, female nature and intersexual dynamics. However, I think having a backup platform is a great idea. In my view, the more we can stay out of the rabbit hole of political ideology the better.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 06:19 PM
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More specifics? What you interpret as “needy” or “desperate” behavior is going to be unique to you to some extent based on your experience with women, both before and after absorbing trp and developing tighter game as a result. Not the worst problem to have. To maintain frame and control in a relationship, you need to cultivate a certain level of neediness in your woman. If it gets too extreme, decide how you want to end it. Learn the art of the “soft next.” See Tomassi’s iron law of relationshi…
/r/askTRP11/01/21 09:04 PM
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If she asked you about becoming exclusive after having sex three times, this is a girl likely with a very insecure attachment style and not someone you want to be involved with long-term. That’s some shades of borderline personality disorder, too, so break it off slowly/soft next. She’s damaged, which is sad, but will only drag you into her vortex of manipulation driven by fear of abandonment if you keep the relationship going.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 07:22 AM
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I think the human brain doesn't stop growing until like 25 for women (and men) so the irrational, self-delusion is only amplified. The old chestnut that any woman is just the "most responsible teenager in the house" deserves mention.
/r/askTRP02/12/20 11:16 PM
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Congratulations on beginning to really swallow the red pill. Female solipsism prevents (and somewhat protects) women from digesting their irrational, childlike behavior. They lie to others and themselves for ego protection.
/r/askTRP02/12/20 08:31 AM
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There is no magic key or style. There is AWALT, but women have different interests and personality types, and not all of them will be attracted to you. This is okay and a good thing. You sound relatively young. It’s all about practice and repetition with talking to women, like shooting jumpers in the gym. The important thing is learning to recognize IOIs and then simply doing/talking about more of what keeps her interested, escalating with flirting, kino, etc. Do it outside of bars, and do it wi…
/r/askTRP15/11/20 09:44 PM
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It’s always just your turn. Save committing to an LTR for all but the best women you’ve vetted for at least six months. Then learn about training her and enjoy the ride while it lasts. Check out the content of Donovan Sharpe about training women.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/20 06:22 AM
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“Pedestalizing” sex because I’m saying men need it? You should be posting over in mgtow or blackpill land, not on this sub.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 04:32 PM
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It’s not luck. Learn game. Find a “good-enough” woman if you really want the dangers of an LTR and train her.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 05:34 AM
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Sounds depressing as hell to me. Men need sex. Thinking of becoming a monk or a priest?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 05:30 AM
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There are beta men worldwide. Men evolved that way, and feminism has reached every corner of the globe.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 05:29 AM
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A 20-yo 8/9 who super-liked you, then you smashed the same night? Something about this premise doesn’t seem right. And then for some reason it sounds like you raw-dogged her? I believe you about the ex blowing up her phone, but your set-up for the story smells fishy. Then you lecture us on the dangers of oneitis and not pursuing exes? Nothing new here. If your field-report tells us nothing new about female nature and AWALT, why post it other than to massage your own ego?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 05:25 AM
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If anything, trying to use an expensive car in person or even in profile photos is more likely to come off as try-hard, and won’t attract any tail except gold diggers, and most of those chicks will screen you harder for your SMV before they put out.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 07:51 AM
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Kudos to you for all that writing, but I’m not sure you broke any new ground in terms of connecting evo-psych to red pill theory. Maybe you can more explicitly outline what points you make that don’t exist elsewhere in the literature. Isn’t all of this in The Rational Male?
/r/TheRedPill04/11/20 07:48 AM
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AWALT. They’ll seek validation and comfort using sex from men or women. Monkey-branching.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 06:19 AM
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I’d add encouraged to have fun in their party years, be able to screw around like guys based on farcical equalism, ruined for pair bonding for the rest of their lives. Instead of empowered, they end up miserable in the end. Single moms desperate for new beta providers, alcoholic, fat, cat ladies.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:03 AM
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“Dick appointments”—classic! 😂This reply needs more upvotes.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 05:58 AM
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I believe true body dysmorphia is on the rise. With instagram filters, combined with the thirsty beta simps doling out the narcissistic supply, women can start to believe they actually look like the digital image they present. As a side note, are you really trying to date 4s, 5s, and 6s because you feel bad for them? Fours no way, 5s sneak them in the back door at night with the porch light off for a slump-buster. Sixes when you’re trying to get practice spinning plates, or for off-night banging…
/r/askTRP01/11/20 05:49 AM
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The short answer is “probably,” but more importantly use and trust your intuition about getting with a woman who might do this. Even psychopaths have tells. They express emotion but it is all “pretend emotion.” If you don’t know what “crazy eyes” look like on a girl, find out. Read up on BPD and NPD in women. Don’t have drunk sex with strangers. Use protection. Whether the charge is true or not, the damage it could do to your reputation could be life-long. In most legal disputes between men and …
/r/askTRP30/10/20 08:23 PM
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Are you cold approaching in bars/nightclubs? Buzzed? Tried day game? You need to screen better if this happened twice in a week. As for what to do on the date, I’d give it at least 30 minutes. Always good to practice talking to women, analyzing body language, responding to all variety of passive and active shit tests, if you even get any thrown at you.
/r/askTRP18/10/20 11:00 PM
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Maybe it creates dread, but it can also stoke some nasty jealousy. Methods of creating passive dread (such as staying in shape, not being available, disappearing for longer than normal on occasion because you’re simply busy going after your purpose) tend to be more effective in an LTR (ugh—purple pill) because having a female “friend” is a pretty transparent form of shit testing.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/20 06:42 AM
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Basic, and who is angling to eat tuna tacos? Leave that to the lesbians.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/20 07:55 AM
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Some good points here, but you are only 26. You outline some core red pill ideas, but you still need to get more experience with these concepts in the field. You are speaking about theory, but your writing reveals you still have the necessary growing up to do. I would argue that lifting is most beneficial to us psychologically, in terms of boosting confidence (as you mention), but also boosting testosterone and providing a sense of control over your life. Appealing to women and intimidating bull…
/r/TheRedPill10/10/20 05:27 AM
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Why are you asking about the behavior of some annoying blue-pilled, fake-Alpha male on this sub? Why are you discussing how your use of anti-shit test tactics on another man? Beta and gross. Bullies are always compensating for low self-esteem. Stop thinking about the fakers and work on yourself.
/r/askTRP06/10/20 12:22 PM
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Solid advice here. I’d add that cheating implies you are in an LTR and not just spinning plates. It is an open question whether you can be red-pilled in an LTR. If you’re spinning plates, the “cheating” should not be a concern because when one plate breaks, you have many others. It’s just your turn. Women are hypergamous and will sleep around to seek to satisfy their biological needs. Getting butt hurt over a woman cheating means that you chose to commit to an LTR, which gives away your power. I…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/20 08:17 AM
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First, learn how to get to the damn point and make your text readable. You could have said that all in two sentences. If the guy is in love (blue pill infatuation), telling him won’t change a thing. All girls hoe around. So has yours.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 07:56 AM
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You're not "red pilled" and writing such a self-pitying post like this. Go bitch and moan with the other incels and don't act like you were Don Juan in college.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 05:35 AM
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Sounds good, man. Just keep practicing the self awareness. As has been said before, “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.”
/r/TheRedPill29/09/20 12:02 AM
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If you can’t do two days, try one. You could even tell her that morning you’re dropping your phone at Verizon (or wherever) to get repaired and you won’t get it back until the next morning. Or just disappear for 12 hours! Text her at 9 am, don’t text her again until around 9:30. You need to test your emotional dependence/attachment to her. You could say you got busy with x, y, z (white lies). I suggest watching and re-watching Alpha Male Strategies videos on YouTube. Really made a big difference…
/r/TheRedPill28/09/20 08:51 PM
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Or get her pregnant, or do both! I don't suggest even contemplating marriage and kids until your early 30s. You will have the feds controlling your job, and the state forever involved in your personal life.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/20 10:23 PM
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Or end up KIA, MIA, or with PTSD. With PTSD, easy to move onto the self-medicating with harder drugs and alcohol. I don't need to quote you the horrible statistics on veteran suicides. The sh*t is tragic, and not because these soldiers were "weak." Listen to a veteran describe what it is like having a best friend die in his arms. That said, thank you for your service. You are brave, just be careful.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/20 10:12 PM
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Gut feeling reading this as a man nearing 40, divorced, and having seen feminine nature at its worst and most ruthless: You're playing with fire and don't seem to know it. This has the rank stench of oneitis. You are doing some male hamstering to backwards rationalize getting into this LTR, stating that you "obviously" have control of the relationship. The problem is, you are already way more attached then you think you are. Are you really counting the exact number of times you've had sex!? You …
/r/TheRedPill27/09/20 09:47 PM
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Good rule of thumb, if a girl ever makes a statement about her relationship with you and other men, assume and act as if opposite is true. For example: I am not playing games = I am playing games I never sleep with guys on first dates = I regularly sleep with men on first dates I’ve never cheated on a guy = I have cheated You’re the best sex I’ve ever had = I’ve had better... You get it. Some of this is straight up deception, their simple rationalization hamster convincing them they’re not lying…
/r/askTRP24/09/20 08:24 PM
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So sorry for your loss, brother. My heart sank when I read your post. Also, kudos to you for reaching out to a community of a lot of men who support other men. With some of the trolling in this sub, it is so easy to forget that we’re on the same team, making our way in a world that often shames healthy, confident masculinity. I have dealt with some extreme grief in my life, that blindsided me and knocked me down to my knees (but never out). The best words of advice I’ve gotten is that there is n…
/r/askTRP22/09/20 06:33 PM
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One of the best quotes I’ve read about narcissists: “They’ll stab you in the back and then blame you for getting blood on the carpet.” I have experienced unknowingly being in a LTR with a narcissist. When narcissism gets to a certain extreme, it can be labeled a personality disorder, or NPD. These women can never feel like they “lose" and attach to people for status, wealth, image, etc. because they need constant narcissistic supply. They have an emptiness inside like addicts they are constantly…
/r/askTRP20/09/20 05:43 PM
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Is this a humble-brag post? Putting aside your shitting-where-you-stupidity, she didn’t want to go home with you. You can’t force her. You then didn’t answer a few texts. This should be no-brainer stuff, and this post doesn’t really add anything to the discussion of red pill theory. Maybe it should be in the PUA sub? Would you just like us to praise your amazing decision-making?
/r/TheRedPill19/09/20 07:18 AM
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It’s likely because while you have you swallowed the red pill, you have still yet to digest it and become that man with the ultimate abundance mindset. I think it can take years, depending on how blue-pilled you were. I’m about five years into taking the red pill, but I still know I have more work to do to absolutely internalize the mindset. Those with more experience than I might be better able to speak to this timeline for themselves. Some of your feeling of awkwardness might be related to jud…
/r/askTRP18/09/20 02:07 AM
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This girl sounds like she might have major self esteem issues and this childish behavior smells like something my ex with BPD would do. Be ready to walk and don’t look back.
/r/askTRP17/09/20 08:20 AM
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Female herd mentality, as in: Oh, my friends who are feminists now say it's actually empowering to post slutty, thirst-trap photos?! Yayyy! Now I can get that dopamine hit of validation and not feel any guilt for my slutitude. Though it wasn't about posting the thirst-trap, half-naked photos per se, there was that thing on IG not long ago where women nominated each other for some black and white photo challenge. It was gag-inducing and a perfect example of female nature and attention whoring.
/r/askTRP15/09/20 05:48 AM
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I think it's definitely a possible red flag hearing this from a woman, but you describe a pretty extreme slut in your example, and there is a spectrum of slutty. I think there are a lot of relationships where both the man and woman just live by fighting and "emotionally abusing" each other. They get trauma-bonded. These men mostly betas who choose to try and argue with women. Women usually get too overwhelmed with emotion they detach from all logic. Women rewrite the script after the relationshi…
/r/askTRP14/09/20 06:30 AM
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This seems useful in terms of learning technique and theory behind self-defense/focus/mindfulness and awareness of our surroundings, but a clear connection is not made in the post as to how this relates to red pill theory. Maybe some clarification is needed.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/20 06:18 AM
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Like so many answers, it depends. If your Austrian chick asks, that could tell you how invested she is and how insecure she is. That's useful information to have about a woman. The best answer, I go, would be a non-answer because chicks rarely want the blunt truth (at least subconsciously), and mystery sustains and creates attraction. If you don't think you could sleep at night by telling your Austrian girl "it's none of your business" and sticking to that, or just lying and saying "no," I'd say…
/r/askTRP07/09/20 07:41 PM
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Was this post supposed to be funny? Isn’t there a thread for sh*t posts?
/r/askTRP05/09/20 03:54 PM
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I’m surprised no one has brought up narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). I’ve had some first hand experiences with a woman with NPD, with some borderline (BPD) traits. You could have been this woman’s mark for giving her the sense of power over men she craves. They have little if any empathy, and use people for narcissistic supply. After they get what they want, they discard their victims like garbage. Borderlines tend to be much more fragile in general, prone to self-harm, mutilating their …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/20 05:02 AM
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Speaking from experience, be careful with drugs and alcohol—addiction is a progressive disease. The damage you do to your body in your 20s can come back to haunt you in your 30s. Make sure you can approach women and be social without liquid courage—that’s not the real you. You could also have some great sexual experiences you sadly don’t remember. Admitting you need help doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you have courage to own your shit. Addiction to drugs and alcohol will kill your goals and …
/r/askTRP30/08/20 05:16 PM
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I agree it’s awesome, but did it have a rhyme to it originally? I feel like I’ve heard the variation: “Does it float, fuck, or fly? If so, better to rent than to buy.” I think it’s from King Lear ;)
/r/askTRP29/08/20 08:08 PM
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Wow, epic post--bravo. I like the point you make about the necessity of moving beyond the "sex is the prize" phase and making yourself the prize. Ironically, getting the sex we need becomes a byproduct of this change. I would add that chasing after the elusive 8/9/10s for the social proof/arm candy (and what we often falsely believe is going to be the best sex of our lives) can lead us down a similar rabbit hole. Our motivation remains extrinsic as opposed to intrinsic. We are relying on other p…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/20 05:19 AM
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Find out her address and send her chocolate covered strawberries with an original haiku you wrote on the card. Do this once a week and your plates will spin themselves.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 04:47 AM
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This is solid-gold funny. 😂
/r/askTRP27/08/20 04:43 AM
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I agree to some extent, but TRP unfiltered remains unconcerned about the ethics of “plate spinning” for example, or whether cheating in the context of a relationship is good or bad. Swallowing the red pill is essentially to learn of true female nature and acknowledge female solipsism. Of course, RP principles could be merged with other philosophical approaches, but I’d argue that you’d need to call it something different.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/20 01:23 AM
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You give too much credit to the red pill for introducing a philosophy. The red pill is primarily built on an understanding of evolutionary biology, with the theory of hypergamy at it's core. It is not a religion, but instead built on scientific fact applied to the modern sexual marketplace. Trying to turn it into a complete worldview is a stretch, and the red pill is unconcerned with morality.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/20 09:01 AM
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I’d point out that there is definitely a spectrum of sluttiness. There is the girl who went through her drunken slut phase in college and still has slut tendencies, then there’s the chick with the 1,000 cock stare. Or, you can also say they’re all sluts. I wouldn’t be as afraid of stds if you wrap it up, unless you’re making excuses. I don’t recommend messing with the real slutty girls until your red pill knowledge and game is tight. These girls are sadly often very damaged, and can have persona…
/r/askTRP21/08/20 09:59 AM
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Agreed. Just as a side note, I would point out that it has been shown that pathological narcissism is on rise, more so among women, likely due to factors such as the selfie, “likes-based” culture of social media, and the “everybody gets a trophy” helicopter parenting going on. Check out the book “The Narcissism Epidemic.” There are more dark-triad women out there than ever before. I’ve met more than one. Trust your gut and intuition with chicks, it will rarely lead you astray if you have done en…
/r/askTRP19/08/20 06:48 AM
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If she sent you the preview from Amazon, she was seeking your approval and validation, unless you asked her to send it. This is a good sign because she wants to look good for you. Something to keep in mind. However, in the better relationships I’ve had, the chick has been sending me pictures of thong lingerie that I knew we're for my eyes only (with about 99% certainty--awalt), not thong bikinis. As they say, its just your turn...
/r/askTRP19/08/20 03:15 AM
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It’s a great little fable. I’ve heard it with a swan instead of a frog, however, and a little darker. The scorpion lives and stings the swan when when it finally gets on land. Swan asks why, scorpion says: “Because I’m a scorpion, that’s what we do.” Read it in relation to scorpions as psychopaths/malignant narcissists. My ex is a legit narcissist (a bit more so than your average chick; pathological/almost zero empathy), but a lot of chicks will kick you to the curb quick if something new and sh…
/r/askTRP19/08/20 02:50 AM
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As opposed to men, women are more likely to have more fluid sexual attraction, and more likely to have have had sexual experiences/hookups with other chicks. I remember reading this somewhere, and found an article that gets at some theories for it. However, don’t mean to get all academic about this. I think it could have something to do with women seeking sexual exploration without all the “threats” men might pose.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 09:59 PM
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Good point. I’d add that the reason why those who have really both swallowed and ingrained the red pill, game seems to disappear somewhat because you are interacting out of abundance. We don’t need to really be pick-up “artists” per se because we’re being authentic, if only acting out the socially expected pick-up script. Women’s tests attempt to decipher if you really do have a backbone, and also if you’d also out/shame her to the “tribe” following her promiscuity. She also wants to try to figu…
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 05:42 PM
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Well said. I’d be interested to hear your thoughts on why women have been shown to be more likely to experiment in both both heterosexual and homosexual behavior and relationships.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 05:18 PM
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I agree, I guess I’m referring more to sex as the “bait” to extend your metaphor. I just feel that the searching for “sex for sex’s sake” is not usually their m.o. However, there is absolutely an evolutionary reason why women also get immense pleasure from sex. The pleasure reinforces their motivation to get as many chances to get alpha genetic material as possible, same with their increased release of bonding hormones as opposed to guys.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 06:02 AM
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I believe that the idea that women like sex as much as we do is not clear-cut. Women may enjoy sex during the act, but they rarely seek it out like men do unless they’re damaged. We’re the hunters and it’s in our programming to seek the best sexual partners. As Rollo said, to paraphrase, women control sex, men control commitment. If you learn your female has a high body count, be ready to jump ship.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/20 07:25 AM
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It has been discussed is the psychological literature that we often subconsciously seek out partners who remind us/embody traits of one or both of our parents/caregivers (usually our opposite sex parent) especially if we had significant abuse/neglect in our past. Supposedly, we try to create a relationship that “fixes” the one we had as a child. I see this in my own life and my close to decade-long involvement with my ex, especially interacting with my morher since learning this stuff post-divor…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/20 06:54 AM
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Tinder has jumped the shark, and it’s unsurprising you got catfished using it. It happens with all the dating apps, but Tinder might be the worst. Almost all women know its got a reputation as a “hookup app” and very few you’d want to spend significant time with are dating with that on their mind. It’s home to attention whores and time-wasters for the most part. Don’t give them the attention they want, you only encourage the disgusting behavior. You might get lucky, but I got fed up with it afte…
/r/askTRP17/08/20 01:38 AM
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Wow, so much activity on a post that has such an obvious red pill response. Drop the gf, learn to spin plates. If you stick with your approach, get ready to get stuck in one relationship like this after another.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 04:32 AM
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The entitlement of a 6 is also laughable yet predictable. Like so many of the women on online dating sites 5/6s thinking they’re 8/9/10s. They get so selective and reject decent dudes because of their inflated egos.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/20 06:18 AM
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I find it sad/ironic that ”oneitis” is a trait that is a pure example of this kind of manufactured-fantasy world that female solipsism creates, yet it has also been hardwired into the mind of so many men. I’ve found that fighting against the habit to pedestalize the one ”special” woman in favor of an abundance mentality to be one of my hardest red pill struggles. However, as I’ve dated more and more, women seem more alike. I think one of the best ways to evaluate a woman is to see how empathetic…
/r/TheRedPill14/08/20 08:54 PM
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If you need to ask the question, the answer is “yes.” Women are overgrown teenagers.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 07:15 AM
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Great stuff, man. I like that you point out that we ultimately need to judge ourselves if we are living up to our own standards. Getting the hot girl doesn’t mean shit if you’re compromising your self-respect in the process, and the relationship will be doomed anyway.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/20 08:29 AM
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With knowledge comes power. It should be expected to have down days, but they will likely be few and far between. When it comes to guy friends, if you are true to yourself and them, the ones worth keeping will reveal themselves. In my experience, this ends up being no more than a handful.
/r/askTRP08/08/20 07:05 AM
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Women are extremely good at presenting the “story” the want to show/tell tell you and others. They often believe their own stories, which can be problematic. Learn red pill truths or get slapped upside the head by AWALT reality.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 08:17 AM
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I’d try to shoot for increased visitation before the 50/50 custody, but in any case, keep being a good example.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/20 08:11 AM
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Check out what the sidebar has to say about LTRs. Essentially, once in one and have decided on monogamy you’ve turned purple pill. No shame in it, but sounds like you’ve lost the abundance mindset probably because you’ve stopped trying to spin plates. And the sex sucks? Sounds like she’s making excuses. Give her an ultimatum to shape up or ship out. If she’s really legit depressed, get her to go see a therapist, not just get on a med. You could also make that part of your ultimatum.
/r/askTRP03/08/20 11:55 PM
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Yeah, I’m right there with you. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. The good thing is that kids are smarter than we give them credit for—they figure out who actually cares for them the most. Make sure you write dates/times/keep all emails from your ex because you never know when you’ll need it in family court. Don’t put anything in writing you wouldn’t want a judge to read.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/20 11:48 PM
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Women don’t “care/mind” if you’re fucking other chicks? You have to be an alpha of definitely higher smv, and the woman would likely still “care,” she’ll just play dumb because she feels a sense of security and validation she gets with the alpha she can’t get from a beta.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/20 12:19 PM
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Tinder has become a parody of itself and is mostly a place for women looking for narcissistic attention and validation. As soon as it became known as the “hook-up app” most women who aren’t attention whores ran away. Just my most recent experience.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/20 12:06 PM
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TLDR: Don’t date any girls who smoke, because they are gross and will use a lit cigarette to set your car on fire 😂
/r/TheRedPill03/08/20 11:55 AM
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Raise your daughter the best you can to be a woman unlike your ex. I have daughters. It is hard, but we can model being the kind of high value men we would like to see our daughters end up married to. An uphill battle, but our most important job, imo.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/20 11:50 PM
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Great metaphor. For the girls who post on Instagram, you can see the stories they are telling themselves and want to present to the world laid bare. I know many chicks, like my peach of an ex-wife, who start making scrapbooks with wedding ideas at a young age. They get fed the Disney princess bullsh*t and eat it right up. Most don't lose this dream, even though they may put on a superficial, feminist front. Get her feeling like she's in a rom-com, except be the Alpha male lead, not like the Beta…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/20 02:14 AM
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This isn’t just in contemporary culture, there have always been alpha males (more likely to be leaders, command respect, shrug off failure, get women, etc. and betas (simps, followers, get low quality or no women), even among the primates we evolved from. You could say that feminism and social media have made the problem somewhat worse, but this is nothing new in history. A lot of it does come down to accident of birth and nature versus nurture. In later life, it’s making the hard choices when t…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 09:00 PM
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Women want to be with guys other men want to be like and other women want to lock down/sleep with. Social proof is attraction 101. N-count is meaningless and no guy should really answer the question, nor should any woman...you'll both start hamstering. At the end of the day it's biological. In general, men want to spread their seed, women want to procreate and have security and help raising children. Hypergamy doesn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 08:40 AM
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I think your grandpa is my new role model, minus the diabetes, of course.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 08:28 AM
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I agree. They need to be kept slightly off-balance. Once they start getting comfortable in you hanging around (God-forbid you marry them), your sexual skills won't matter all that much, though some women just naturally have higher sex drives than other women.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 05:06 AM
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Women, being the more emotional sex in general, survive on the food of constant validation (from both men and women). Women with high self-esteem can handle being dumped and losing validation. If they already deal with low self-esteem, it is a major blow to their egos, and they will burn down the house with themselves inside it trying to feel validated again.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 04:37 AM
2

Take it easy on yourself, though, bro. You weren't really a fool, you just didn't have the life experience to trust your gut enough, and hindsight is always 20/20. Forgive yourself. I think it is possible to eventually find an LTR and maintain a red pill frame, but you're going to need to do a lot a lot of dating and a lot of dumping of chicks who aren't high-quality women. I highly recommend getting and reading the newer book "Dating Essentials for Men" that Robert Glover (if you haven't, read …
/r/askTRP28/07/20 04:07 AM
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First, not to kick salt in your wounds, but how could you lurk here for 1.5 years and not start integrating this behavior into your life? What made you start lurking here? I’m sure your gf gave you signals that you now see you ignored that she wasn’t to be trusted. All that said, all though it may not feel like it, you’ve now been given a golden ticket. Learn from your mistakes, internalize and practice red pill ideology (spinning plates is huge), and don’t get played for a fool. Don’t listen to…
/r/askTRP27/07/20 03:22 AM
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Instead of telling her what to do, validate her when she works out, tell her it makes her body look sexy, whatever. Better way to approach such issues and avoid conflict. This could pay dividends long term if she sticks to the exercise.
/r/askTRP25/07/20 07:16 AM
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This more of a purple pill question, because LTRs immediately suck your power away and you end up doing male hamstering over this kind of bullsh*t. Work on finding plates and be ready to monkey branch. Heterosexual male roommate spells trouble.
/r/askTRP25/07/20 07:10 AM
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Ahh, tickle truth, sounds like I need to do some research on that one! The hamstering and self-delusion they do to backwards-rationalize never ceases to amaze...
/r/askTRP23/07/20 03:42 PM
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Always good advice, with chicks or anyone.
/r/askTRP23/07/20 04:23 AM
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I don’t think you know my actions longer term with women, and I generally don’t accept major lies. The idea that you’re “moulding” women with ease and your teacher tone make me doubt your game. But If you got those skills, bro, keep on killing that inner loser.
/r/askTRP23/07/20 04:21 AM
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Yeah, they use triangulation and "flying monkeys," i.e. supposed friends/family to try to break you down psychologically. Another good book about recovering from their impact on your life is called "Psychopath Free."
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 11:49 AM
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Look up both Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and specifically how they manifest themselves in women. There is a reason you likely fell so hard for this what sounds like no-doubt BPD/NPD woman (imo). Figure out what got you "hooked" on her in the first place, probably to be found in your own childhood. Do this work or you might be ruined by the next BPD/NPD temptress who gets her claws in you. Been there, done that, more than once. There's a good …
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 06:25 AM
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It takes men with integrity and balls to both stand up for women and not be pushed around by them (or other men). He doesn’t feel entitled to anything unless some sort of agreement was made, and even if he feels scammed, he takes it on the chin, doesn’t get butt-hurt, and doesn’t take it out on anyone else. He’s got what they’d call an internal “locus of control.” He never feels entitled to sex. Men who consider themselves of this variety (and I humbly consider myself one), do the right thing ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:06 AM
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I had to google those lyrics, and I actually remember buying that album, but forgot that song! Thanks for the heads up on the U2. That’s some good, zen shit. I need to remember I’m pretty f’ing lucky to be dealing with a problem I wouldn’t dreamed I’d ever be having a couple years ago! I’m trying to focus on the idea that we high-value, alpha men (and I put myself in that category) really have very little competition at the end of the day. It’s one thing to fake it like a lot of PUAs for the sho…
/r/askTRP05/07/20 11:13 PM
2

Two very good points-thanks! Hello oneitis my old friend... Where I think I’m at in ability most likely lags behind what I can actually pull off. I think part of the problem is thinking that if I don't ”strike while the iron is hot” I’ll lose a chance with this girl forever. From past experience, when I give more space than I consciously think I should, it actually creates more attraction and all of a sudden a chick texts out of the blue.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 09:23 PM
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Part of this theory relates to the idea that women might share an alpha over a long period despite knowing he’s probably sleeping with other women. This is an entertaining story, but not sure how exemplary, especially since it involves the mom getting wasted and this “sharing” happening once.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/20 03:18 PM
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This is not a new question. The fact you are questioning at all is good news, perhaps influenced by beginning to swallow the red pill. Try reading some existential/absurdist writing like Camus’ “The Myth of Sisyphus” or Beckett’s play “Waiting for Godot.” We ascribe meaning to life. You are free to create those meanings, yet if you act in certain ways, our society will attempt to bring you “back in line” so-to-speak.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 04:18 PM
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I think the title of this post is a little too general. It raises the eternal question of why women screw the “bad boy” instead of the “nice guy,” as opposed to why women would risk arrest screwing prisoners and smuggling them contraband and money. They are certainly “bad boys” but that is a simplification I believe. From what I understand (despite never being imprisoned), is that a lot of convicts—especially in federal prison—are still able to operate within their powerful drug gangs from insid…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/20 04:08 PM
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Great post. I will point out that a good goal for many of us should be to become our own “employers,” slave to nobody else, so in that case, I think that speaking to more women than oneself should be acceptable ;)
/r/TheRedPill22/06/20 04:53 PM
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My first comment would be to trot out the old chestnut that the red pill is based on what are essentially “amoral” observations, most rooted evolutionary psychology. So, you shouldn’t be on this message board if you’re seeking moral advice. If you really want to be a red pill mofo here, chalk this loss up to hypergamy, or the simple fact that you let yourself into an LTR, which is a purple pill move. A man without options has no room to maneuver, to paraphrase Rollo in some way I think. Also, as…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 04:30 PM
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I’d add that all the photo alterations also helps them to lie to themselves about their appearance. Denial can be a comfortable place to live. Women are primarily emotional beings. If it feels true it must be true. This is female solipsism.
/r/askTRP02/04/20 04:29 AM
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Women in general hate being alone. Their brains are wired to attach to their children, and to some extent the men who can help her have children through sex. This is why women monkey branch, because they fear the vulnerability of being alone. What we are seeing now is slowly rising panic that they won’t get their needs met in the short term and long term. This virus is causing mega-hamstering, and I think eventually more women are just going to decide to go out looking for men anyway. They are s…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 05:09 AM
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Make a mental note, but people reveal themselves in patterns of behavior, and this is a single event. This doesn’t seem that weird for a girl. They are emotional beings who often have verbal diarrhea the more comfortable they are around you.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 06:05 AM
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Tinder is now a waste of time and money. It has such a bad reputation as just a hook-up app that girls just use it to get attention and feel attractive.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:44 AM
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How is this a red pill topic?
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:36 AM
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Are you spinning plates? This sounds like oneitis.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:34 AM
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You said you’re “interested in her” and she’s all over you. How badly do you want to get laid? Shit or get off the pot. If you don’t want to dance with her, wait until a song is done and say “I’d like to dance with other women now.”
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:33 AM
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You’re on your first date ever and already trying to apply all these different pick-up strategies? Have you been living in a basement, just reading about dating on the internet? This stuff takes years to learn and you’ve got training wheels on. You’re trying to do calculus before learning to count. Just go out to have fun first man. If you hook up, treat it as a bonus. You’ll be awkward, so just embrace it. Don’t try to be Don Juan.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:24 AM
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Go big or go home.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:17 AM
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You’re getting blown off. Just take it on the chin like a man and assume she’s gone. If you keep improving your game, you can reduce rejection but never eliminate it. The way I see it, most times these chicks are doing you a favor because who has time for flakiness (unless you’re in a scarcity mindset and not pursuing your passions).
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:14 AM
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Tell her you asked this question on Reddit and see if she will understand that you’re not really a creep.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 09:09 AM
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“Society” is not a person and can’t lie. Men either choose to accept female nature/hypergamy or reject it. The evolutionary science does not lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 09:03 AM
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Talk to other women. Remind yourself that there are millions of other women out there, and you’re the prize. All relationships have some kind of shelf-life, and be ready for this one to fail. Take care of yourself first. Women should only enhance an already great life.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 08:52 AM
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This is done by men who do not understand how women signal genuine attraction and not understanding what real sexual tension feels like. Many of these men have been raised by single mothers, or by mothers who “wore the pants” in the relationship. They internalized the idea that keeping mom happy was being compliant. They carry this belief into their interactions with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 02:35 AM
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I'm nearing 40 and I've found that women primarily get attracted to you by how you make them feel. If you're doing online dating (not my pick-up method of choice), the fact that your age is displayed will usually have a negative effect on your ability to attract women based on their social programming. When women don't know your age, at least initially, you have a power advantage. After you've driven up her interest enough, she'll be more likely to hamster-up a rationale for dating/hooking up wi…
/r/askTRP14/02/20 02:39 AM
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Thanks. It all depends on your comfort level and desire to progress. If you find yourself cutting out friends and stopping activities you enjoy, you're over invested, and you will actually become less attractive to chicks. The problem with human relationships is that they will always be unpredictable, and the secure, red-pilled man needs to be the rock. Women's emotions rage like storms, especially with hormones. The red pill lifestyle is not for the faint of heart. Always have something going w…
/r/askTRP13/02/20 12:00 AM
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Feminists are everywhere, not just in "modern cities." You need to remember that regardless of their beliefs about gender, they're evolved from primates just like us men. They can't kill their innate sexual attraction to an alpha male. I'm dealing with one now and using the experience to practice frame control. If the relationship fizzles, so be it, but I'll be stronger mentally with a girl who hasn't been so brainwashed. I feel bad for many of them, because they've all gone way past the wall an…
/r/askTRP12/02/20 10:44 AM
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You don’t need a gym membership to get in shape. Go outside and start running. Push-ups, sit-ups, lunges. Do you think the dudes getting jacked in prison are getting that way because they have access to a 24-hour Planet Fitness? If you’ve still got addiction issues, try AA/NA. It’s free. People have it a lot worse than you dude, whatever you may think. Focus on what you do have a start building a life, brick by brick.
/r/askTRP09/02/20 08:17 AM
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If she was doing those things, she was probably trying to get you to break up with her, and had likely made her mind up about the relationship ending a while ago. Women don’t like being the “dumper” if they can get you to do their dirty work. Make a list of all the reasons she sucks, and things she did to you to bring you to this point. Review it often. It’s just your turn. Get to the gym. Start talking to other women ASAP. Vow to be smarter in your next relationship. Learn all the red flags. Th…
/r/askTRP09/02/20 05:58 AM
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Look up Borderline and Narcissistic Personality disorders. Many of these girls have them. They often are damaged from childhood trauma, which is sad, but will trigger our “white knight” instinct, but we can’t fix or rescue them. The old chestnut is true: if something seems to good to be true, it probably is! Good women don’t throw themselves at you from beat one.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 08:06 AM
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I think it was Sinatra who actually said “the best revenge is massive success.” Use your pain and anger as fuel to go after your passions. Hit the gym. Become your best self. Reach out to a guidance counselor, school psychologist/social worker, or therapist. I’m nearing 40, and the bravest people I’ve ever met have known when to ask for help. Congrats to you for posting here in on this site. You are trying to improve your life and thinking before you act!
/r/askTRP05/02/20 07:27 AM
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Yes. Female solipsism and narcissism go hand in hand.
/r/askTRP04/02/20 08:59 AM
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