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spaceclown/r/seduction21/08/12 06:45 AM
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/r/seduction03/02/15 02:33 PM
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Hey dude, your question is a good one. I'm sure that it's relevant to a lot of people here. First of all, being nervous is not bad. It's not good. It's just what you are. If anything, it's a sign that you're alive. Feeling that nervousness is actually a crucial part of your self-development. It's an indicator that you're taking the right steps towards being a more confident, self-assured guy. Powering through that nervousness takes a lot of courage, do not fail to give yourself the credit you de…
/r/seduction20/01/15 12:21 AM
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Dude. You are over analyzing this. Take the energy you currently spend trying to figure out "what does x or y mean" and put it towards asserting what you want.
/r/seduction19/01/15 12:51 PM
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Nietzsche is my favorite philosopher. What books of his have you read? I love him because he's all about taking personal responsibility for everything you are, accepting suffering as a natural part of being in charge of your own life, and above all CREATING your values rather than accepting them from society. There is so much potential for self-help to be found in Nietzsche's work.
/r/seduction21/05/14 06:34 PM
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Thanks for sharing this. It's a good point, and one that it took me a while to figure out myself. It all goes back to the mindset of not having to prove yourself to anyone. If you're constantly explaining yourself, trying to justify yourself, all this communicates about you is that you don't feel worthy of going about your life and pursuing your needs and desires - even something as small as going to the bathroom. You don't need permission to do what you want!
/r/seduction12/05/14 08:36 PM
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This is a great point, and something that I've certainly faced quite a bit. I think that the key is to set goals within yourself - as in goals that aren't dependent upon how someone else reacts to what you do. If you set your goal as simply being the most honest, assertive version of yourself, then you can't ever fail based on how other people respond. Now, of course it would be foolish to act like you can just magically switch your mindset at the drop of a hat. But like anything else in life, i…
/r/seduction08/05/14 04:54 PM
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Ahh, okay. My mistake. I just see the term 'douchebag' and immediately get defensive because I like to think of myself as a non-douchebag. Cheers.
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:53 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I completely agree that every relationship brings something to the table, but I don't think that you're representing my stance accurately. I want to make it clear that I don't seek existential fulfillment in physical relationships, but rather the act of putting forth the most honest, assertive version of myself. For that reason, I take this to embody everything you described in your second paragraph. Above all else, I want to be authentic. I don't need to have some woman…
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:45 PM
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First and foremost, it sounds like you're coming into this with a mindset that you have to try not to fuck this up. That's not good. You should be focused on having fun while seeing if you guys have chemistry. If not, no big deal. It's not your fault. Or hers. When do you want to contact her? If you're excited about the idea of going out with a stranger, why not contact her now? What do you think would be fun to do on a first date? The idea that you need a "plan" in order to have a positive expe…
/r/seduction12/01/14 07:33 PM
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This is one of the most bitter things I've ever read. Girls do this to manipulate us... Or maybe they just want to look attractive and feel good about themselves, just like you and me and any other human being in the world. Making women out to be the enemy is a great way to be miserable in life. Also, this point scale that tries to rate beauty is pathetic and extremely counterproductive to connecting with women. You're an asshole, go fuck yourself.
/r/seduction12/01/14 07:19 PM
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I really like the Venn diagram analogy. Being a dancing monkey isn't self-amusement though, it's trying to entertain others. That's why it's so unattractive: it shows a person's neediness for other's approval. Self-amusement is a principle centered around one's own happiness and not around trying to get people to like you, that's why it's attractive and a healthy goal to strive for.
/r/seduction02/01/14 07:17 PM
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Yes, definitely. I want to add that there could also be some other forces at play here. OP didn't give too much info about his situation, so I was somewhat assumptive in projecting my own experience with this feeling of guilt after casual sex. The part I'd like to add, however, is that there still tends to be a stigma surrounding casual sex in American culture (if that's where OP is from). We're taught that girls are sluts for enjoying casual sex, and guys need to have it in order to prove their…
/r/seduction02/01/14 02:57 PM
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You hit the nail on the head. Scroll down to see my parent post for a more in-depth response.
/r/seduction02/01/14 05:16 AM
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To me, that sounds like you being needy for the approval of the girl you're chasing in order to feel good. I truly believe that's a destructive mindset to have. There's a big difference between the content feeling you get when you go after what you want and getting validation from "winning" a girl.
/r/seduction02/01/14 05:11 AM
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I've experienced this too, but I have a different take on it than some of the other comments that have been posted on here. Especially when starting out on this journey of self-improvement, we can put too much emphasis on getting laid as a measure of success. Getting laid is great and it should be something to strive for if that's what you want, but using it as a measure of success means that you're investing a chunk of your self-worth in it. So when you go out at night and meet some girls that …
/r/seduction02/01/14 04:56 AM
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Hey dude, I used to get that all the time and still do occasionally. For me, I can say that I used to use sarcasm as a defense mechanism when I was feeling a bit nervous or insecure - most of the time subconsciously. Of course, a little teasing and sarcasm can be witty and fun when used in moderation, but it can definitely be a way for you to build up a wall to protect yourself from being open and straightforward about your intentions and desires, since you can always fall back on "it was just a…
/r/seduction02/12/13 02:23 AM
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Very well said, thanks for posting. What you're describing is the difference between having a lifestyle and mindset that builds real confidence and being needy about wanting to appear confident.
/r/seduction16/10/13 06:04 PM
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I agree that they seem incredibly rare, and I definitely can't help but feel some resentment even if I know it's unproductive. It's tough to find the balance between modifying your behavior to comply with social norms and being your authentic self (I'm being vague, but I know you and any other introverts already know exactly what I'm talking about). Best of luck to all of us, I guess. Edit: Also, it's difficult when you try to filter out all the ones that don't match what you're looking for beca…
/r/seduction06/05/13 03:56 PM
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While I've experienced this same predicament, I think it's important to note that this doesn't mean that the kind of intellectual girls you and I are looking for aren't out there. Maybe this just means we need to look in different places and keep pushing. The two most important things I keep in mind with this problem is that I should 1) not make any excuses or be bitter about not finding any girls thus far that match this criteria and 2) stand behind my passions and interests without apology whi…
/r/seduction06/05/13 03:36 PM
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Look man, you're coming across as if you're being apologetic about who you are. Never apologize for who you are. You're more introverted? Own up to that, nothing wrong with that. Don't look for external evidence for why you should be confident, create your own confidence. Create your own confidence by telling yourself, "this is my one and only life to live, and I won't let myself or anything else prevent me from going after what I truly want." Don't ask anyone else to rate you. Stop giving a shi…
/r/seduction16/02/13 03:47 PM
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The best advice I can offer to you is to slow down when you speak. This allows you to focus more on pronouncing words clearly and strongly, and you won't come across as overly excited or anxious. Perhaps a linguist would be better suited to answer your question, but I think that's a good place to start. Best of luck in everything you do man.
/r/seduction06/02/13 03:54 PM
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Did you intend to do a double negative?
/r/seduction23/12/12 02:16 AM
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I'm saying that you clearly don't understand what introversion is, since you're equating it with shyness. Not taking away from any progress you've made and I definitely agree that the best way to improve is to throw yourself out there, but you can't change from an introvert to an extrovert. Seriously, just do a little bit a research on what those terms mean, you can be an introvert and still be charismatic.
/r/seduction30/10/12 01:00 PM
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Hey man, being an introvert deep down is nothing to worry about. I'm definitely an introvert, but I practiced becoming more charismatic and now I can express myself with ease. There seem to be a lot of other introverts in this community, but they rarely seem to get advice from people who understand introversion and I try to help out with that. Here's my response to a similar question asked by someone a few months back: I used to kind of stumble over my words a lot too. What really helped me was …
/r/seduction30/10/12 12:23 AM
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Do some more research on the difference between introversion and extraversion. Introversion isn't the same as social anxiety/shyness. Also, *you're
/r/seduction30/10/12 12:16 AM
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What's the harm in treating them as equal rather than above or below you? You can treat them as equal while still being "high-value".
/r/seduction29/10/12 08:08 PM
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Same here. Currently reading Jim Holt's new book called "Why Does The World Exist" and gives me a lot to reflect on. Also, you're not crazy, I do that shit too.
/r/seduction26/10/12 09:55 PM
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Susan Cain's book was really awesome, and it's encouraging to see that it has been somewhat successful on the national market. Hopefully it will help people to be more informed/comfortable with introversion no matter what their personality is.
/r/seduction15/10/12 04:30 PM
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You don't have to change to an extrovert to be happy with where you are in your interactions with women. I can't tell if you're confusing introversion with shyness/social anxiety (kind of sounds like your are), but here's a link to a post I did about being comfortable and confident as an introvert a while back for you or anyone else that didn't get a chance to see it. I was thinking about making another post regarding introversion in this community; it seems that there's a large number of introv…
/r/seduction15/10/12 03:15 PM
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I'm completely in favor of honesty about intentions, but I think that it can be effectively communicated through body language. Should people always be required to blurt out their stream of thoughts? Also, I didn't mean to imply that taking up space means taking up your space necessarily.
/r/seduction21/08/12 06:27 PM
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I see what you're saying, maybe I should have made it more clear that introversion isn't an excuse to not take action. But I have to question whether it's absolutely essential to build momentum by talking to people as the only path to being confident and believing in your value. I think it's important to become present to the moment in order to take away the dread and worry of the outcome and realize that there is only something to be afraid of if you create that something in your head.
/r/seduction21/08/12 01:51 PM
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Absolutely. But I wouldn't quite frame it as a technique so much as just inner confidence in who I am, which is essentially the driving force underneath all of this material. Girls seem to pick up on the sense of confidence pretty quickly (they're experts at reading body language) and are drawn to it.
/r/seduction21/08/12 01:41 PM
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I think most of the misogynistic views here ultimately stem from an insecurity that’s similar to the feelings of inadequacy in women that you described. Guys, especially ones who would like to improve their interactions with women by seeking help in the form of this subreddit, have also had the notion that they aren’t good enough instilled by society and reinforced in their lack of success with attracting girls. Some try to deal with this while coming from a place of hatred and resentment, which…
/r/seduction18/08/12 01:50 AM
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While joining a social fraternity is surely a good way to meet girls, it is not by any means the only way. I don't think we should be telling people to definitely join a fraternity, because even though you might have had a great experience in one (which I think is awesome), it really varies for each person depending on a ton of different factors (personality, kinds of guys in the frat, how active the greek life is on that particular campus, etc). It would be a mistake if someone got the idea tha…
/r/seduction01/07/12 06:43 PM
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Le ragazze italiane sono certamente bellissime. Credo che siano anche piu' eleganti delle ragazze americane, ma quella e' soltanto la mia opinione. Sei italiano? Sarrebe bene se tu potresti spiegare la difficolta' con le italiane (sono americano e non ho tanta experienza con le ragazze nel tuo paese). Vorrei sapere la ragione perche' questa succede.
/r/seduction30/06/12 01:21 AM
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I used to kind of stumble over my words a lot too. What really helped me was focusing on really slowing down when I spoke. There's really no rush. I think a lot of guys get anxious about getting their thoughts out, maybe because they're already worried about what reaction they're going to get. Though it will seem unnatural at first, make it a point to slow down and enunciate your words. Speak loudly and be concise, people shouldn't have to ask you to repeat anything. Also, focus on stopping your…
/r/seduction21/06/12 04:38 AM
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Coming from basically the exact same situation. Thanks for posting this and best of luck to you in everything you do my man.
/r/seduction21/06/12 04:28 AM
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It's more to understand introverts and different personalities in general. It also argues that people often feel guilty of being introverts in a society that promotes the "ideal" personality as being extroverted, and explains how a introverted person can use their personality traits to thrive in situations where extroverts would normally thrive without compromising their identities. The book really transformed my perspective of myself - before, I felt guilty about being an introvert but now I've…
/r/seduction10/06/12 10:53 PM
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Your mindset/inner-game isn't going to necessarily make a huge turnaround overnight, just remember to take it one little step at a time. Take the advice you see in this community and apply it whenever possible, until it just becomes habit; this stuff works you just have to keep at it! I think on some level you are over thinking interacting with women - keep in mind that when it comes down to it, they are simply human beings just like you and I (easier said than done to have this mentality, but y…
/r/seduction07/02/12 06:25 PM
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una domanda: tante persone parlano italiano nella Svizzera? Sorry, really random but I speak Italian (and a bit of German) and I've been wondering how many people actually speak Italian in Switzerland seeing as it's one of the three national languages - I imagine it's more of a regional thing but I haven't had much information. Would like to move to a European country and find a job where I can utilize my Italian and German in the next 3 or 4 years. Anyways, best of luck in sarging my good man.
/r/seduction03/02/12 06:46 AM
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I'll be bluntly honest: you pulled this right out of your ass and didn't even bother to wipe the shit stains off before you posted it.
/r/seduction02/02/12 01:31 AM
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It might be that you're just scared of getting shot down in front of your friends or people you know, whereas by yourself no one else is around to witness your rejection so it doesn't really hurt your image. Whatever happens, just remember to have fun. If you get shot down in front of friends, just make a big joke about it like you don't give a shit. Better yet, actually refrain from giving a shit. When people see that approaching a girl/being turned down doesn't phase you in the least bit, they…
/r/seduction02/02/12 01:23 AM
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