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FIELD REPORTspaghettiparrot/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 01:24 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSspaghettiparrot/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 02:42 PM
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What would he say if you told him he had the penis of a house cat? I disagree with the other commenters- he was being unnecessarily nasty- about your sexual assets, no less. Your feelings are TELLING YOU something. In this case, I believe they were telling you that a boundary was overstepped. You were definitely right to express that. Do you find that your feelings are regularly sounding the "overstepped boundary" alarm? If so, it's way more likely that he's a jerk, as opposed to you being "over…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:03 PM
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Please please please find a reputable psychotherapist to resolve your trauma BEFORE you align yourself with a new Internet ideology. If you have been neglected and abused as a child, you may have issues with self-esteem, boundaries, emotional regulation, etc. These need to be sorted out before you do ANYTHING else.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 01:58 PM
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Can't there be a therapist who does both? Why do you feel that having your feelings validated is contradictory to getting better? Personality disorders, for example, are characterized by maladaptive behaviors that typically originate from trauma. The behaviors are maladaptive throughout regular life, but they served a self-preserving purpose when you were in danger. Consider a person who binge eats, because when they were a child, they struggled with food insecurities. It's not a good habit, but…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 01:51 PM
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As an early 20s woman who ended a relationship with a 44-year old man, and then spent a year in therapy, I am very worried about you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 05:36 PM
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"As of now...yes.I am a virgin too.Not by choice though."
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 09:43 PM
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You think SHE seems pissed? You're a self-proclaimed incel raving and ranting on a sub meant for women.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 09:39 PM
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Can't wait for you to delete this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 11:04 PM
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The undertones of crippling insecurity and codependency that pervade so many of these posts are truly disturbing. He's a cheater. Alright, we've got that established. Now, assuming you are capable of honoring the most fundamental aspects of a monogamous relationship (fidelity), you deserve better than him. You have got to have at least that much faith in your self worth. Move on and find someone who wants to help you build a relationship. You may well destroy your self esteem trying to outrun th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 11:03 PM
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My word. Please do not clip your own wings for another person. It's not your job to make yourself small so that he can feel big, when he is doing so little to contribute to the kind of relationship you're after.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 03:56 PM
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Just an FYI, "insolent" is defined by the New Oxford dictionary as "showing a rude and arrogant lack of respect."
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 01:27 PM
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Alright, Princessa. By the way, it's horribly ironic that you chose Marilyn Monroe as the thumbnail. I can't think of a better example of misguided priorities.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 12:17 AM
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I'll wager to say that I know this individual's honesty from BS a little more intimately than an internet stranger. I'm not sure it's necessary (or accurate) to imply that my boyfriend's admiration of my creative prowess is a lie.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 10:46 PM
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Just say, "I'll meet you there! Thanks so much, though."
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 04:23 PM
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Per the sidebar, you should be on TRP. We don't want advice from PUAs.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 01:45 PM
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Way to dodge the question.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately, the tastes of real-world men tend to be a little more complicated. They're humans, after all. Are you "older and married," per the sidebar? The sort of one dimensional feedback that comes from MGTOW men who call women "post-wall sperm vessels" and spend their free time berating their tinder profiles is inherently damaging to this community. The young women in this sub aren't interested in this type of man and should be alerted to their presence so they can take their advice with a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 01:40 PM
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We're discussing the value and potential of a woman who has a career and is submissive in her personal life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 12:45 PM
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I think that's what people forget. In the real world, men have their own unique interests that span beyond a tight ass and cooking skills, although those certainly score points in their own right. The man I'm currently seeing (an individual of his own academic and career successes) is damn near starry-eyed when he sees a commercial that I've written on television, because his career is also intensely creative. It's yet another facet of life we can share and, dare I say it, he admires my talents …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 12:16 AM
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"It is a rare woman indeed." I feel you've already halfway arrived at my point; we're aspiring to be rare women, here. The OP stated, rather snidely, that a woman's career accolades are worthless from a man's point-of-view. I do agree that while the pomp and circumstance of a job title might mean less to her potential partner, a woman who can support herself by a long shot has more SMV than a woman with a filler "I'm just holding out until my husband can support me" career. This type of attitude…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 12:44 PM
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"Nobody cares if you're a CEO," lol. I used to really enjoy this sub but I swear the ideology lends itself more to codependent-narcissist relationships everyday. I'm genuinely concerned for young woman who may rationalize their abuse with the stifling advice described here. I'm an upwardly mobile 23-year-old woman, and I'm involved in my city's dating scene. Men are routinely impressed with my career (and debt-free lifestyle) ESPECIALLY given that I balance it with feminine mentality and habits.…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 10:09 PM
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Can't wait for the mods to see this one
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 10:16 AM
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Okay. This guy is GARBAGE but moving on. I just want to remind you of these stats: 26% of women in New York City have HSV2. That means if you gathered up FOUR women, at least ONE would have HSV2. Your first outbreak is typically the worst you'll ever have.. Recurrent outbreaks are usually less severe and tend to decrease over time. Most people don't even know that they have herpes, because symptoms are so mild/infrequent for a large percentage of the population. And finally, my favorite....drumr…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 06:45 AM
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We're not talking about happiness. We're talking about confidence, and how to recover it after traumatic parental relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 05:18 PM
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I was hoping someone would ask this. Let's dive in: A "fulfilling partner can really change the outlook on your life and yourself," theoretically, but it is more likely that an insecure person will fixate their self worth on the approval of their romantic partner, if they should enter into a romantic relationship before resolving their underlying issues of self esteem. This describes the well-studied and highly published issue of codependency. Just because your anxiety and crippled sense of self…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 03:33 PM
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You didn't necessarily indicate that you were emulating a pornstar, but regardless I still find it odd that said pornstars are effecting children.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:36 PM
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Signaling "youth" is one thing, but the "schoolgirl" fetish really freaks me out...especially since the only "schoolgirls" who wear pigtails are under fifteen. American culture has really normalized the sexualizing of children, ie the "lolita" aesthetic.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:19 PM
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Therapy. No, really. These "I met a good man" and "I simply DECIDED to get better" comments are harmful and show the toxic side of RPW ideology. The traumatic consequences of poor parental relationships should not be underestimated, and no one should expect savior in a quick-fix. Do yourself a favor and invest in therapy, personal growth and the pursuit of self esteem (the kind that no MAN can ever give you. Good heavens, people). Your journey will be unique to you, but I can say from experience…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:12 PM
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I gotchu. I know you didn't write it- it's still a valuable share according to DPW ideology
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 10:22 PM
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As someone who volunteers often, I can say that the pool is usually older women and some older men. The idea of a career-oriented man who spends his free time feeding the homeless is a little bit of a fantasy, it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 09:30 PM
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Inherently true, and yet the verbiage is sooooo "coarse and cunty." Why do we have to talk like MGTOW.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 09:25 PM
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It's not your fault. Check that codependent streak at the door.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 02:31 PM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 11:19 PM
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If you truly believe that, that is a pretty nasty thing to comment in front of the OP, who is struggling
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 01:24 PM
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This sounds really weird honestly. He "commands" you? Are you saying that your husband chooses your outfits and demeans you if you don't wear them? That's the vibe I'm getting. Years ago, I used TRPW to justify and explain my boyfriends incredibly toxic, abusive, hyper-conservative behavior. Among other things, he did not allow me to cut my hair. I would just encourage you to check your situation, here. I'm concerned about anyone who expresses hurt when it comes to the expression of their aesthe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 11:43 PM
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Is a thirteen-year age gap slightly questionable? Yes. What's more concerning, though, is all the baggage he comes with. He has a child? Yikes. The mother of said child is a drug addict? Super yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 12:48 PM
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"I even noticed my husband always checking other babes out." The cringe. I feel like so many posts here are riddled with issues besides what the OP indicates, and it makes me very concerned that RPW is being used as a bandaid for much larger issues. But....if your job is so stressful that you can't maintain your health, you should quit, take fewer hours, or get a different job.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 12:22 PM
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I took one look at this and it became apparent that this man has an avoidant attachment style. Calling you his gf to everyone BUT you? That means he was calling you his gf for convenience, to avoid explanation in casual conversation. He thinks marriage is crap??? TRP or not, he's got other issues and isn't serious about relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 11:10 PM
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Therapy to sort out my childhood trauma. Zoloft. I worked my ass off and got a new/better job and moved out of my parents' home. Exercise. Went out of my way to make friends with the lovely, intelligent women from a local bible study.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 05:25 PM
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If anything, I don't think it's your part-time job that's a turn-off; it's the implication that your anxiety and ADHD are poorly managed. If you can't hold down 40 hours per week, do you think you could run a house or manage the schedules of children? I'm not being snarky, I'm actually asking. If you feel like you have your life together, and the work thing is just a stand-out, particularly persistent obstacle, then I'd say it's fine. If it's indicative of a person who's generally disorderly and…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 07:52 PM
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Girl stop. At 19, it's totally reasonable that you'd be inexperienced and anyone who insinuates that you're a "closeted lesbian" needs to get their own sex life.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 04:35 PM
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Aerial acrobatics (lyra), abandoned building photography, cooking, and raising my parrots.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 06:08 AM
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I'm sorry, but I don't think feminine virtue has anything to do with how a woman does or doesn't adhere to body hair-shaving trends, or whether she and her partner decide to have safe, consensual sex while she menstruates. This harks back to the old, sexist idea that the female body is inherently dirty, and it makes a mockery of the heart of RPW ideology. This might be an unpopular opinion, but I think "Evie" is routinely shallow, and often misses the importance of cultivating a womanly, nurturi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 06:07 AM
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You don't want to be a bombshell. Seriously. Men don't know how to talk to extremely dramatic-looking sexiness. The modeling world is filled with gorgeous women who feel overlooked in their personal lives.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 05:37 AM
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Go. Get out. Break up. It doesn't matter who's fault it was. You're an explosive pair, at the very least.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 05:25 PM
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LEAVE. Years ago, I was immersing myself in this sub and my 19-year-old brain interpreted it to mean "you should pick a man who checks pragmatic boxes and never mind the passion." Well, the end result was that I was completely miserable in my relationship. Stop trying to convince yourself or manufacture chemistry by having sex; this is precisely what I did. Find someone who's kiss you feel all the way home.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 03:56 PM
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<3
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 06:34 PM
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Girl stop
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 12:23 PM
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Nope
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 04:59 PM
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Thank you so much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/20 01:56 AM
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I'm teasing Mr. MGTOW up there for his ridiculous comment. But THANK YOU so much for the reminder. It's important.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 10:24 PM
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Guess I'll give up
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 09:48 PM
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You're always there with wise words, Kara. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 05:39 PM
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Made me teary-eyed. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 05:38 PM
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I went on several dates with a relatively attractive alpha-type. I felt absolutely no spark, but rationalized the relationship based on practicality and the belief that I could create chemistry. A year and a half later, I proved myself wrong and we broke up.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 10:23 PM
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