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Hi, I identify with your story a lot especially earlier in my marriage when we lived in the bay area. :) I am guessing you are in a tech-heavy place like that? My husband still tells people about my past accomplishments (10-15 years ago at this point) and it used to bother me for the same reason it is bothering you! However, I went to a mom group in the South Bay and EVERY MOM was a SAHM with an impressive resume. I loved that group. One day, a few women were joking about "the tech trophy wife."…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 03:02 PM
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It’s important to note that keeping a nice home environment and taking excellent care of yourself so you can be happy and good to your husband is most important. If the career is not too draining and you are child free then go for it. Many husbands don’t care how the house gets cleaned (talk to him though) as long as it’s clean. Hiring a housekeeper and managing that yourself does the job. I did that when I worked. The problem comes when you’re drained, stressed, and miserable. I had a job like …
/r/RedPillWives30/08/21 12:33 PM
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I lived and dated in San Francisco and East Bay when I was single. They are out there! Are you religious? I found many at Catholic Young Adults program (East Bay and San Jose are active). Many men in the greater San Jose area/on the peninsula are traditionally minded. Are you open to dating a man from another culture? Many excellent men from more traditional countries come to the area for work. Hang out at after-work spots around tech companies and VC firms. If you feel comfortable, PM me with y…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 01:00 PM
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https://bleachpraylove.com/collections/frontpage ❤️
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 11:54 AM
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GoCleanCo (on Instagram) have a cleaning handbook. My mom was a house cleaner for many years and this is exactly what she did to get things professional-clean looking. It’s about 10 USD?11 CD and worth every penny. She walks you through techniques and method. Fly lady for systems, as others have said!
/r/RedPillWives23/06/21 02:41 AM
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You can use a bit of white vinegar to soften water in the load. Check your washing machine though I know EU machines are sometimes different
/r/RedPillWives23/06/21 02:38 AM
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Do you have an inkling about what might be getting him crispy at work? Getting more specific with your compliments might help. My husband burns out more from office politics and no one taking charge. I often sneak genuine compliments in about how he’s a natural leader and pointing out when he navigates politics well. “They are lucky to have you, you’re such a hard worker. Not easy to find a work ethic like yours these days.” Complimenting the growing edge can feel nice if genuine. We are investe…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/21 02:35 AM
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Ok, I’ve been married a while but I noticed something today that reminded me of who he was when we first dated! Same great guy. We did a huge Costco run and got two carts worth of stuff. Filled out three deep freezers, pantry, diaper closet, etc. .It was a long trip driving and shipping so we got waters and food on the way out. While we stopped behind the cart to unpack he insisted I sit in the car, relax, and eat while he loaded up the stuff. He was actually beside himself that I’d help him unl…
/r/RedPillWives22/06/21 12:35 PM
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I think reading Laura Doyle and Fascinating Womanhood, if you haven’t already, will set you up for working on the actual marriage part. It’s the most important! Here’s what helps me (a homemaker and corporate refugee): Cleaning: FlyLady and Clean Mama for systems, GoCleanCo (their ebook is worth it) for technique. Cooking/meal planning: we are on a super strict diet now but before I learned to meal plan from Kendra Adachi (author of The Lazy Genius Way) she does meal matrix and it’s amazing. Wha…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/21 02:13 PM
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Sis, I have a 16 month old so I’m there currently I just try not to idolize it but dang if it ain’t me sometimes!
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 10:29 PM
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Ok hot take here: you can’t be feminine only out meeting people. You must be feminine at home when no one is looking so it’s natural outside of the home. I learned this concept when I took ettiequte classes offered to me by my husbands employer. Eating formally during Friday night takeout at home alone while my husband was deployed back in the day helped me do it automatically everywhere else. Also, I am married but like the podcast The Rules Dating Doctor (I don’t think she makes them anymore) …
/r/RedPillWives05/06/21 11:56 AM
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Oof this is good! That lady in my life is my 96 year old grandmother.
/r/RedPillWives05/06/21 11:50 AM
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I just wanted to post to say: My husband is a corporate contracts attorney and so I’m guessing your job is draining on a soul/brain level. Forgive me if I’m wrong! My husbands main motivation is guy stuff but also so he won’t be so crispy and can actually show up. I’ve taken on that inspiration. Who do I want to show up as? A frazzled and tired hot-mess mom or an energetic light and fun goddess? Who do you want to show up as everyday?
/r/RedPillWives05/06/21 11:50 AM
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Oh this is great! I’ve been married 11 years now so it’s been a while but I followed The Rules so I have some insight into the bigger picture but no longer the details. How did I know? I acted on what he did NOT what he said and let him pursue me to have a clear space. I was confident my feelings were real and not based off of who I hoped he was. I knew he was the one because I felt so safe and cared for with him and I could tell he absolutely delighted in caring for me—which made me feel seen l…
/r/RedPillWives05/06/21 11:38 AM
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Seconded. Great for beginners!
/r/RedPillWives31/05/21 10:08 PM
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Yes!!!! Our money was eating out and comfort buys (books, treats) because I could t function. My husband makes excellent money but our lifestyle creeped. Even though we have enough money it feels good to have a big cushion. Honestly, I don’t think I’ll go back to medicine. Ugh so toxic. My advice is talk to your husband about needing a month to decompress before you take on a career in housewifery. When I did that it helped me take on home and husband keeping with a renewed vigor. My husband was…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 01:40 PM
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Ok so I quit my mid-six figure job to be a SAHM in my late 30s. I have many thoughts about this is you want to PM me. I’ll say that it’s been so hard but worth it. If I was to do it again I would have sat down with my husband and made a one income budget, lived off of that for a year, and stacked my savings. We did downsize our home, cars, and money drains. You’ll have to change your lifestyle. It’ll be less of a drain. Honestly, I miss things like getting my hair/nails done whenever, massages, …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 11:51 AM
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Well I’d look into physicians who support IF for more info. Taking anecdotal medical advice from a blogger should come with some research. There’s a body of research that advises women fast only during a certain time during their cycle. IF impacts leutenizing hormones. It CAN impact fertility and overall hormones. Just giving a warning. Messing with female hormones is serious. Just make sure you look at the research from reputable medical sources if you are TTC. That’ll all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 07:21 PM
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Sorry I posted this above: Intermittent fasting can turn a woman’s menstrual cycle upside down and can impact fertility. Not saying it doesn’t work well for some women just to be careful. Lots of IF stuff comes from men who don’t think about woman’s hormone health. I’d be worth looking into Dr. Maria Padres if you do. I really regret trying it when I was TTC
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:06 PM
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She seems like a kink account to me in some videos and Christian housewife in others. The “master” or “daddy” and ball gag thing sort of makes me wonder. They can do what they want, obviously. However, it just makes me see her videos with a different lens.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 08:18 PM
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Well, sure. However, if you read the comments it has to do a bit with exposure (school/work). Also, there is an element of shared socio-cultural mores and sub-culture expectations. I think they’d be better off saying: just be on a self improvement track and be feminine. As a former young virgin waitress I promise you that young virgin waitresses can be just as masculine as a CEO!!! Also, I worked in medicine before becoming a SAHM and found many super good looking female doctors, nurses, and adm…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 09:41 PM
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My husband is a lawyer (general counsel)at a Fortune 50. We’ve been married 10 years and date two. We met when we were both fresh from our respective graduate programs at the same university. I’m two years younger. He initially was general counsel at a competitive government/military situation making hardly anything but it was what he needed after clerking someplace crazy. I, at the time, was doing residency. My advice is to look for inner qualities and outer fruits, first. I don’t buy the silly…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 12:43 PM
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Love this! So uplifting! What is the title of the book?
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 08:10 PM
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Hey, I was living in San Francisco when I met and married my husband! I also made many traditional friends. It’s possible. I made most of my connections at parish events, the gun club, and the gym. When I moved to a red area I found more traditional people but fewer wanting to socialize. I agree with the above poster about making sure you know people in your new town!
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 08:04 PM
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Ohhhhtotally interested! My first is 14 months so I’m out of the baby phase but I left a profession to be more traditional in my roles.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 10:40 PM
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As a momma of growing littles who also struggled I fully agree with this poster! The care I provided when I could put focus on my own development was gold. It makes me a better mom and wife. Have you read any Laura Doyle? She talks about how important this is. I don’t agree with everything she thinks but she’s 100% right—moms included!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 01:46 PM
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You are me lol I agree! Splitting your attention between a 6 month old and nursing school will be hellish. You’re young so waiting two years isn’t bad. Just don’t wait until you are 38 like me, too! I just had my first.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/20 02:47 AM
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Hey, so I want to chime in here that I sort of understand. I just quit my job as a pediatric psychiatrist in a seriously liberal city (Portland) with very liberal friends. My husband and I are traditional but his family is not (mine is more traditional). He has bipolar disorder which is well managed and is a successful lawyer. It is possible to live a good and full life with good lifestyle habits and medication management. During law school my husband self medicated with cocaine. Many of his pee…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/20 02:44 AM
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Some bipolar meds can impact testosterone. Raising them up could cause a manic episode so please consult his psychiatrist on that one. Of course, eating well and exercise is always a good idea!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/20 02:33 AM
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Wisdom needed! I have an 11 week old precious baby boy. Since my husband does business in China we’ve been self quarantined for a while. Thank goodness for this baby or he’d be stuck there now! Postpartum has been difficult in these times and I feel myself dragging. I’ve restarted FlyLady which has been amazing. Structure, right? I’m dying to get dressed for real every day but end up constantly spit up on, breast milk’d and/or pooped on (not to mention it’s allergy season...and I’m sneezing). Wh…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/20 02:12 AM
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Simply came here to say: same. Everyone’s advice is super helpful for me, too! One thing I can add: I’m reading Doyle’s book Empowered Wife and her section on self care and gracefully accepting help were transformative for me. It’s so easy to slip into guilt mode but it’s a bad pattern to get stuck in since it doesn’t help anyone!
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 12:29 PM
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I purchased a gift certificate for a maid service for my best friend whose husband was stuck overseas while she was on maternity leave. She cried (with joy) when the maid came so I think the gift was a hit! Now that I’m pregnant (and with HG for the first half) I can kinda see why she emoted so hard lol!
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 12:25 PM
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I love the reminder that sneakers should be cute and not great big hulking things. I agree that feminine sneakers really matter. Also: I love a cute flirty tennis skirt in warmer months!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 12:36 PM
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Do you have any favorites? I love Project Gutenberg for vintage resources!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 12:33 PM
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How fun! We have very similar hobbies. I do ballet and pole fit (taking a break while pregnant). Love to hike here in Southern Oregon. Dying to try fencing and maybe equestrian skills class after baby. Hiking is a fantastic way to meet people. I met a great group of ladies during a ladies backpacking course at REI.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 08:03 PM
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