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sparksjoy/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:15 AM
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I always find it interesting that stand-up and comedy clubs get used as a primary example of female vs. male humor on this sub. I think it's just a pretty narrow and perhaps even dated way to look at humor as a whole since the majority of young people look to other platforms for comedy like Youtube, memes, Tik Tok, Vine (RIP), etc. Yeah a lot of people might find those things stupid/unfunny but enough people enjoy it to give guys/girls who master it plenty of subscribers. Meanwhile a lot of my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 02:36 PM
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Hard YES. This is literally my dream. Well either this or a husband who does work like teaching school kids or librarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 04:05 AM
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So you're saying that a lot of advice is about making people who aren't "all that" into people who are. Contradicts nothing I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 06:04 PM
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I mean can't you say the same for pretty much all dating advice. If you were "all that" you wouldn't need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:50 PM
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If only men just left me alone if I can't or don't want to give them what they're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 11:11 AM
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Please, if only it were that easy. Though if you are indeed the type who would just stop bugging a girl rather than force the issue thank you for your service to humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:57 AM
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Or you can always just next assholes who demand sex before you're comfortable and ready
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:56 AM
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Note that many of those types of studies are funded by highly conservative organizations hoping to encourage people to wait until marriage (like The Family Institute or whatever it's called). It helps to be skeptical of sources with clear agendas. For example they rarely distinguish between random ONS and sex in committed relationships in those studies likely because well, to them, all premarital sex is the same. Also, anecdotal but doesn't align with my personal experience. My mom is mid to hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 11:03 AM
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That's kind of a dated concept at this point. People who want hookups are down to do it anytime, anywhere these days. You can even just do it at the push of a button. There's no need to be secretive or discreet about it because it's so common that no one cares. There is a very low chance that a girl who hasn't been into that culture at literally any other point in the year is going to suddenly go wild over summer or spring or whatever we're calling the hookup party season now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 03:15 PM
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I have a PS4 back at home but I don't get much time with it since I spend most of the year away at school. If my school were in driving distance of my house I'd probably bring it but sadly it's not. Played and loved Ni No Kuni a while ago, before I started college. Have not played Nier or DQXI but I plan to when I'm at home again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 04:26 AM
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A lot of people argue over what does or doesn't count as JRPG so I'll just list everything that comes close. My favorite series right now is Fire Emblem, particularly the GBA games. I also play Pokémon, Kingdom Hearts, Xenoblade Chronicles, Harvest Moon, Persona, FFXV, .hack, and Astral Chain. Which ones did you play?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 03:53 AM
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Well...I am Catholic, and went to Catholic schools for much of my life. But even a lot of my non-Catholic friends aren't into super crazy spring breaks. That's a very specific set of girls (and guys) who are usually not strangers to sex, drugs, and alcohol. Also...You're not from the U.S. right? When I tell you that the Disney craze here is strong (I think it's safe to say the only country that rivals us is probably Japan) I mean it. You have girls (and guys) of all ages going. It gets so crowde…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 03:39 AM
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Lol no I'm 21 and female. I game but I have zero interest in CoD or FIFA. I go more for JRPG's.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 02:05 AM
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And this, friends, is what coherent and 100% useful college advising looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 01:59 AM
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Lol high inhib nice girls don't go to Orgy Party Beach for spring break. Ime they go home for trips with their families, road trips with close friends, hiking trips, theme parks like Disney World, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 01:44 AM
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Everything you have described here makes you a materialist by definition. Scientific materialism is indeed a philosophical stance adopted by many. But I am not a materialist, and therefore the existence of a god who created the universe we live in is not a logical impossibility by my worldview. Many great scientists and thinkers from across history are not/were not materialists. Science after all is about describing the ways in which the observable universe works. It does not preclude the existe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 01:01 PM
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I must say I'm conflicted over the concept of resolving unreciprocated feelings by burning a friendship. 21F. I had a major crush on a friend freshman year in high school and I think he kind of liked me too but not sure. Then I was informed by mutual friends that guys at his high school were giving him crap over liking a black girl (note: we went to two different schools in the south, and I am very black). I had no idea how to react to that. Well he eventually started dating another girl. I foun…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:19 PM
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No, it's not like that. My eldest sister abandoned the faith to become Rasta and my family still loves and accepts her regardless. However I was raised Catholic. I was taught much of what I know and owe much of the person I am today to devout Catholics. The people who I love most in my life are Catholic. Prayer gives me a sense of comfort and peace that nothing else, not even secular meditation or mindfulness does. I believe that whatever gives an individual comfort and peace, as long as they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 11:27 AM
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It's sad how many attractive girls have been brainwashed by religion. Aww you don't have to flatter me like that. You sound just like the atheists I mentioned in my previous comment. I must admit that y'all are fun to debate with but I can't just run away from the church that easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 10:41 AM
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I might be a niche case but consider this. I'm Catholic. We are strongly encouraged to date men with similar beliefs since we date with marriage in mind. Therefore no matter how much attraction or compatibility I might have with say an atheist (and this has indeed happened to me many times) I struggle to see the possibility of anything serious happening between us. Unless by a massive stroke of luck or divine inspiration he agrees to convert. Though the majority of the time they just try to conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 10:29 AM
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Is it really that hard to believe that women can sincerely like a variety of body types. I dated a body builder just once and it was enough to make me go back to more average/skinny fat guys. The former was easy on the eyes but absolutely worthless for cuddling. Once I found out for myself my attraction to that type took a nosedive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 07:00 PM
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Thank you! Invalidation isn't allowed on this sub after all. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:51 AM
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That hasn't been my experience but okay? I have yet to meet a woman my age who dates older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:50 AM
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Ahh I misunderstood your punctuation style.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:49 AM
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I'm 21 and dislike age gap relationships in general. Might need a new theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:44 AM
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Oh I thought we were only talking about looks/sexual validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:30 AM
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Considering the fact that I literally abandoned my approaching 1K follower hobby account on Insta over creepy DM's from guys I have a strong personal preference for no validation at all. Part of what drew me to Reddit in the aftermath of that was the anonymity factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 05:51 AM
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Basically the crazy party girl persona she had years ago was pretty much a made-up thing. Her manager also might have had a role in pressuring her to take on and/or maintain that persona. Nowadays since she's pretty much doing her own thing her music has become more emotional and she's mainly known for more sincere music like "Praying" versus her past songs like "Tik Tok."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:55 AM
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Does this qualify as a woe-is-me post
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:11 PM
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I thought we all learned that lesson with Ke$ha but apparently not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 06:07 PM
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I think they're talking about Ghost in the Shell. Very good anime movie/manga.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 04:41 PM
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For the record with regard to men Atlas has also said that reading and going to college are gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 01:03 AM
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You're talking to someone who literally finds gay men attractive lol so don't treat my opinion as the end-all be-all. But yeh, most of my nerdy female friends are dating equally nerdy guys. And I've dated a lot of nerdy guys myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 12:10 AM
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I've noticed something interesting on r/pics. If a girl poses next to her artwork there are a ton of comments bashing her for taking attention away from her work and trying to use her looks to get upvotes. Today I saw a pic of a conventionally attractive guy holding his artwork and the response is uniformly positive with some people even complimenting him and telling him he looks like he lifts and stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 10:30 PM
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The ones I encounter most: The standard Woke guy: if white usually long blonde hair, man bun optional; avid feminist The pothead Woke guy: same as first but smokes a lot of weed; probably feminist but often not as serious about it as his counterpart The woke church boy (my personal favorite): Very religious, but also gets along with secular people and doesn't look down on them for not being religious The nice jock: Athletes who aren't assholes. Nuff said. Often liberal, especially if black or ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:59 PM
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Please tell me where I called a woman feeling pressured to consent the same as rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:44 PM
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You say Again, you are talking about rape, not pressure to engage or consent to sex. We are talking about the pressure women feel to consent, not rape. And then say Women today still do feel pressure to satisfy their husbands as well as pressure outside of marriage too. That’s why in my opinion, women today are under more pressure. So which is it. Am I talking about rape or pressure?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:38 PM
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I don’t think the pressure existed for women to have sex pre-marriage. I thought we both already agreed with that? We never discussed that topic together. You might be confusing me with someone else. Women married young and couldn't divorce, meaning they could very well be stuck with her husband for much of her life. Why are you treating that as an insignificant period to take into consideration? I also don’t like how you jumped to rape. Raping a woman is far different than her feeling pressured…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:32 PM
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You seem to be trying to argue that things are "worse" in terms of pressure to have sex today than they were in the past but I disagree. In the pass you had the double issue of a. pressure taking place and b. being widely culturally sanctioned. Men did experience it as well in the past, though instead of coming from random women per se it came from their families, her family, etc. They did encounter a ton of pressure to consummate on the wedding night along with the woman and to keep trying for …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:12 PM
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Marital rape wasn't even acknowledged as a crime until pretty recent times right? Women were very much under pressure to have sex even in the past when they had far less freedom to pursue sexual partners. The only difference was who was allowed to pressure them. If it was her husband nobody cared.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 05:01 PM
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We studied music from The Doors for a class about the '60s. Falling in love with a dead guy is a surreal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:54 PM
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Not always. First of all, there is nothing at all backing up that transaction besides the boss's word. That in and of itself makes it a risky move. Second is there are other ways to reward employees for fucking them other than the long term ramifications that come with literally promoting someone on that basis. I've more often heard of women getting to go on fancy trips and vacations with the boss in exchange for sleeping with him than getting promoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 03:32 AM
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You know, I've gotten mixed views on that. I know that it's very common to start dating again before the divorce is official. But some people (especially the person getting "cheated on") treat it as if it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:38 PM
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My mom was actually my dad's "other woman" at some point. She's actually a very kind, responsible, and outgoing person but admits she made some awful decisions in her youth. Basically my dad married some crazy chick at 18 to spite his mom. My grandmother hated that he was living with a woman he wasn't married to so he was like "okay fine." They got married in their apartment by a part-time minister who worked at Walmart or something. They had a dysfunctional relationship and separated a few mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:26 PM
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I approach this completely differently: I only consider it victim blaming if the individual is a victim of crime, abuse, or a person infringing on the protections unconditionally guaranteed to them by their workplace, university, etc. Rape is a crime. Murder is a crime. Attacking someone for no good reason is a crime. In none of these situations is it appropriate to focus on the role of the victim in what happened because it's not the conversation that needs to be had in that moment relative to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 02:18 PM
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Ideal for some but not all imo. Take me for example. 21F. The thought of becoming a SAHM makes me want to jump off a bridge. Meanwhile my best friend is currently on the path to becoming a young SAHM. Grew up in a SAHM household herself. Her BF for about two years now is a super ambitious guy who majored in econ, believes strongly in traditional gender roles, and is head over heels for her but wants to let her finish her degree before proposing. That is a situation where the SAHM arrangement is …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:17 AM
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This reminds me of the creepy ass AITA where the husband just refused to wear condoms anymore out of the blue because he wanted the OP pregnant even though she didn't want any more kids. She secretly started BC without telling him, and it got to a point where the husband scheduled a doc appt to figure out why she was infertile. To this day I really hope it was fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 02:10 AM
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It took me a solid three minutes to realise OP was talking about shortcomings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 11:31 PM
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Please, enlighten me as to what that has to do with anything I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 01:04 AM
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So the man would have the 18-year-old who is still basically a kid raising even smaller kids? What could go wrong. The more comfortable a society gets the less quickly people are forced to mature. There may have been a time in history where the average 18-year-old was emotionally ready/equipped to raise children but it ain't today.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 05:05 PM
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@ u/philomexa Wait is your username a KH reference by any chance. Maybe related to Organization XIII?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:36 AM
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Fair enough. I was worried you're the type who subscribes to feminists on Twitter to collect rage porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:43 PM
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Do y'all just look for shit to be mad about on Twitter. Like is this a past time that people actually enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:37 PM
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Lol try being an averageish tradcon who regularly turns down men's offers for relationships and sex. Not all men respond like assholes but you'd probably be surprised by the number who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:35 PM
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Please teach me the language of secular peoples. So in this context anything up to and including third base is a still hookup but not a fuck? But sex in general can refer to third or fourth?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:22 PM
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Suggesting that men on Reddit need social skills rarely ends well sis.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:27 PM
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What do you expect to happen as a result of point 3. For people to just buckle down and get jobs? There is a known lack of legitimate job opportunities in black communities as compared to predominantly white. Companies are not raring to set up shop out in the ghetto, meaning that without a steady form of transportation to where the jobs are you're fucked. In many parts of the U.S. public transportation is intentionally set up so that people from low income/poor communities are not getting bused …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:21 PM
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If this were the issue wouldn't home-schooled kids fair better socially? I'm pretty sure it's the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:08 PM
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The fact that the default reaction from women to men's overall welfare is smugness or ridicule is more than enough insight. Oh yes. A completely neutral, non-emotional observation. Nothing to see here!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:00 PM
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ANGERY RESPONSE Saying "I am calm" Oh yes. These two are most definitely compatible. Oh wait they're not. Guess which one I trust more?😏
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:50 PM
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I watch what people do, not what they say fam. And based on what you did/said it's pretty obvious she got under your skin. Try more zen next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:41 PM
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Congratulations!☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:23 PM
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I love it when men hide their asshurt behind "your reaction proves that all women, everywhere, are evil and insensitive!" Lmao calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:21 PM
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I've always thought the term "mentally insane" is kind of redundant. Like...can you be physically insane?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 08:03 AM
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I am a woman. I am not attracted to assholes. Therefore, I know the claim that all women are attracted to assholes is false. Remember, kids. Blanket statements take just one example to disprove. If you don't like anecdotal evidence, don't make blanket statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:57 AM
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Oh shit I haven't seen you on here in ages...Welcome back I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:28 AM
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Please quote where I said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:53 PM
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Are you replying to my comment? I was saying that some might consider future spouse lucky because he can't finish somewhere else. It has to be inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:52 PM
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I'm confused. You keep saying "it" and "that." Are you referring to married sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:49 PM
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Sex with birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:48 PM
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Ehh you replying to right person? I'm a woman, and I don't use Tinder.😋
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:47 PM
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Pardon?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:45 PM
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10 babies? That sounds amazing. But I know for practical reasons I'll try not to go past 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:44 PM
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Huh. Lucky for my future husband Catholics can't use birth control and the man can only come inside the woman's vag. Or unlucky. All a matter of perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:26 PM
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Over-reaction to what? As far as I can tell she actually is her first date. The "she lied" was part of the sarcasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:12 PM
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You knew very well that incels and Nick are not even in the same league That's like your opinion man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:07 PM
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Hey now. I'm not a big fan of them myself but I wouldn't go so far as to call them human garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:22 PM
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Please explain what was dishonest about what I said. Or do you use "dishonesty" as a stand-in for "disagreement."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:20 PM
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From that dude's comments: "Yes. I was being sarcastic. Joking because of the amount of people that commented on how she lied to me and had been on many tinder dates before me. As if I’d actually care about that."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:18 PM
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Does that imply a guy with no limbs can still get laid if his face is attractive enough
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:55 PM
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Maybe I'm out of touch but I'm having trouble seeing how one can comfortably raise a family on $60,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:54 PM
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If women were marrying out of sympathy en masse we wouldn't be having the incel problem now would we?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:50 PM
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The ability to marry someone (as a woman) who makes $60k a year is available to the majority of women Oh fuck that. I'm going to need more to live comfortably. And I'm more than happy to pull my own weight, if not most or all of it. My ideal would be making six figs while my husband works a nice job with flexible hours and low on manual labor. Like maybe a Catholic school teacher.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:25 PM
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And the motivational speaker Nick Vujicic with literally no arms or legs is married with a child. Oh yes. We can point to random ass outliers all day to prove our claims if we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:56 PM
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Yes, clothing is more expensive than ramen. Too bad it's still a basic need.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 05:09 PM
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It's not like just one brand of those boots are available in the entire world. I've seen them at stores like Target for way cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 12:45 PM
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I mean they can bitch as much as they want who cares. Last I checked most of the men here aren't mods.😋
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 12:36 PM
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Well for starters I'm pretty attracted to Asian guys in general. One of my majors involves East Asian language/cultural studies so I'm surrounded by them almost constantly. I guess the attraction just kind of sunk in at some point. The cool/bro Asians have a tendency to gravitate toward black culture, and since I'm a black person who's interested in Asian culture it just sort of complements well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:37 AM
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Asian bro-types from socal are my weakness rn. Send halp.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:24 AM
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r/oldschoolcool
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:33 PM
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The guys I've dated think so, but I personally think they're all blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 07:26 AM
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I'm honestly not sure. I assumed that was default male nature until I came to Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:57 AM
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Can I use a vacuum?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:28 AM
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Can men on this sub stop being masochists who enjoy our smugness enough to keep coming back?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:27 AM
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To me, the person who pays picks the destination. And men always insist on paying for me so I let them decide what we're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:25 AM
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Because black men tend to have game by default. They don't have to search for it on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 09:56 PM
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Oh trust me it happens. You're thinking of a very specific type of liberal guy. The pro-Bernie Sanders/party hard/legalize weed types bed naive conservative girls all the time. It creates a lot of drama. They don't really LTR those girls though, or anyone for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 09:53 PM
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Femme fatale. I didn't pick that lol. It's part of a group spy/Casino Royale-inspired thing we're doing. Had to take one for the team.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:26 PM
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Meh. It's convenient for "which character are you based on MBTI" quizzes. I get Luna Lovegood since she's often labeled INFP. Will never complain since I love her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:22 AM
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No to anything past first base. Yeah I get that. Like I've said in the past to this day I am still friends with guys who couldn't stay with me because of le sex. I don't take it personally. Calling me mentally ill makes it personal though lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:44 AM
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Noop. Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:16 AM
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r/reluctantlyred I'm not into older guys irl but on here he's daddy af. There I said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:44 AM
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Status. I remember once my friend asked me to a ROTC dance when he was already taking my best friend. When I asked how that was supposed to work he said something like "I can invite as many girls as I want. Find four more and I can look like a pimp." Turned out he wasn't kidding. They actually were allowed to take multiple girls. I almost went because my best friend wanted me there as well but I ended up having to pass for a baby shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:20 AM
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You sound like a 3OH!3 song rn. "Tell your boyfriend if he says he's got beef That I'm a vegetarian and I ain't fucking scared of him."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:18 PM
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I have literally never gone past first base. How in the world would I be able to answer a question about penis preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:19 PM
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I haven't had sex so I don't really know anything about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 03:00 PM
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Is anyone else getting messages from randos about the kind of penis they prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:32 AM
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I've never been to an actual nightclub, just frat parties. That said it is invisible if a guy is standing alone, not creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 03:43 AM
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I don't see why women in their 40's and 50's would want to flex on 14 to 17 year-old girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 09:42 PM
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Trust me, they get equally annoyed when girls ask. I went to an all-girl school and it was common knowledge that asking our teachers for their ages would get us chewed out. If this were about the so-called wall why would they gaf if a girl asks them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 09:34 PM
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You seem to be equating stating a personal preference with advice. I'm into skinny fat dudes but would I advise men who are struggling with dating to stay skinny fat? Definitely not. Not unless I intend on dating/screwing him myself. Actually even then it would be a bad idea because what if things don't work out and he can't find many other women with my preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 07:16 AM
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Because I need tradcon beta in my life. I have "alpha" male friends but I have no desire to date or LTR them. I am a very emotional person and I need to be with the sort of guy who's sensitive to the emotions of others. I want someone I can trust everything I am to, and who's comfortable doing the same with me. I could never do that with an alpha, or anyone who wants to be. On top of that I am drawn to submission in men and the idea of sexual dominance. My older sister envies me because she says…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 09:49 PM
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I hate to be that person but...what does this topic have to do with this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:38 AM
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Usually used to describe a phenomenon in which a minority of people think they're owed something but the majority (or a minority with sufficient power to decide otherwise) disagrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:25 AM
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The movie does address funding cuts to social services, which in turn blocks people with mental illnesses getting the treatment they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 05:15 PM
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Your opinion is noted. Meanwhile I'll continue doing what I consider necessary to minimize risk to myself with the bonus of creating a more accessible society for "broken and hypersensitive" people! :-D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 03:36 PM
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Yep, I'm a black American. I mainly became conscious of consent and touch during my time at a children's hospital. A lot of the kids (up to 18 years of age) there had gone through trauma and abuse, so we had to be very careful about the ways in which we engaged in physical contact with them. I became an expert at communicating and getting attention without having to touch anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 03:01 PM
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And I accept that accidentally touching someone's sensitive spots or coming up on them at the wrong time can get you hit. Call it "culturally acceptable" all you want lol. I would never risk doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:31 PM
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I've never really had that problem. Ime people generally know not to conveniently park themselves in front of the door of a bus or train if they don't want to get run over. But then the only place where I've had much experience with public transportation is Japan so it might be different in the U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:12 PM
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Let's see. Around 7 or 8 iirc. My boobies came in early and I was reluctant to wear bras since I didn't like the way they felt. Big mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:53 AM
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Are you even going to mention proportionate force or are you trying to get this man arrested.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:42 AM
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For the slap thing, depending on where on the shoulder you touched her you may have hit a sensitive spot. When I was like 12 or so I accidentally hit my dad in the face on impulse once when he grabbed my shoulder. I still feel bad about it though, and I apologized a thousand times. Getting a massage for the first time felt nice afterward but it was a struggle not to jump out of my seat whenever the masseuse touched my shoulders. I never ever touch strangers to get their attention. If I can't fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:36 AM
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That's...quite a rant you got there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:19 PM
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Omgg yes, I love Photograph. But Foolin', Animal, and Hysteria are my favorites probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 04:41 AM
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Huh I've kind of had the opposite experience. I'm really into 80's music videos so it's always crazy to see these famous artists back when they were younger, around my age, and I start to get why girls were crazy about them. Def Leppard was absolutely gorgeous when they were all in their late teens/ early 20's. Sometimes I wonder if it's odd to have a crush on a much younger version of a person who's older now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 04:09 AM
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My sister is around the same age as her. If it weren't for our common experiences being raised in the same household I have no idea what we would even begin to talk about outside of everyday small talk. I apply the same logic to Taylor Swift.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:34 AM
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I mean yeah sure I find a few older people attractive or fun to be around but I generally tend to have the best rapport/chemistry with people my own age. My sister is 30 and I get along great with her but I can't imagine us randomly becoming friends without some kind of blood relation between us. I do have mentors I respect and admire who are in their thirties but I'm not even on a first name basis with most of them. They're professor or doctor [insert last name]. Edit: extra detail
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:10 AM
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Depends on the reason. I think being a student comes above all else, especially if someone else is footing the bill for said education. Therefore if it's a school-related separation like the case in OP I would definitely let him have his space for 10 days. Maybe ask if it's okay to send good luck messages or bring him meals and desserts from the dining hall. I know a lot of girls who do that for their BFs (usually STEM students who lose track of time while coding for hours on end).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 02:12 AM
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Okay? Can you explain why this alleged small minority is feminist if according to your post it's all about being jealous of attractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 01:05 AM
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Yes, I have seen non-conventionlly attractive women working at literally all of those places except whatever the hell Bikini Barista is (don't wanna know). As for the rest, it seems to be the standard "feminists are ugly" non-argument. I'm not even what this sub would consider feminist and I can say that's not true. Hell even RP recognizes that hot feminists exist. There were so many posts on that sub dedicated to getting attractive feminists in bed because that...vindicates them or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 01:01 AM
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I would say the young women who struggle most in terms of dating are the ones looking for something long-term, maybe permanent. The ones who just want sex or some dude who's down to have fun for a few months are fine for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:38 AM
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Notice that you exclusively talk about SMV in your post. You're thinking like a man. Getting sex alone is treated as some kind of accomplishment. Literally any 4+ woman with a vagina can find some dude who will bang her. Yes, including Chad. Women (in general) care more about their RMV. Not just any woman can get commitment from a high value man. And ime there is definitely a correlation between a woman's age and the kinds of men (read: wealthier, more established) she can secure commitment from…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:28 PM
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I throw up a bit whenever I see the word nubile being used unironically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:07 PM
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I would still feel guilty in both cases tbh. What if one party is actually opposed to the open relationship and the other forced or pressured for it? If he lied, I would still blame myself. Hurting someone is still hurting someone, unknowingly or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 01:24 PM
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Any like-minded people out there who would be seriously fucked up by the sheer guilt of homewrecking? I don't care that I'm not the one who's married, or if it's "between them" or whatever. It just seems like such a shitty thing to do. Like assisting in hurting someone else just because "oh they were going to go through with it anyway; if not me someone else would have helped."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 01:09 PM
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Lol no. There's a solid chance someone enjoyed fucking him and was stupid enough to let him bareback it because her free 3-star period tracker told her she wasn't fertile. I love my sister and nephew to death but fuck she's a handful sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:56 AM
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True in the sense that the statement aligns with my values, false/uncertain on what "should" even means if we're not all even appealing to the same moral authority, if any at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 06:28 PM
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Can you explicitly describe what this kind of love that men have for women but women don't have for them is? The children comparison doesn't work for me because affection and nurturing aren't enough for a man unless she is also fucking him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 08:20 AM
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Nah, I don't believe in the concept of being "born at the wrong time." I think everyone is born exactly where they're meant to be. If I weren't born at this time I might not have my switch, or my ds, keurig machines, or airplanes that can take me anywhere I want to go in the world. You also seem to be under the impression that I'm unhappy with those men for not wanting to date me? No. Most were honest and upfront about it, and that's what I value most in that sort of situation. Hell I'm still fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 06:13 AM
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Catholic girls' school This may be a dated take but wait staff can be used as an indicator of how he would treat me as a wife who's looking after his household. If he can appreciate random strangers who are taking care of him and not ordering them around like slaves I think there's a solid chance he'll be able to do the same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 05:46 AM
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Then what is this nonsense about liking women for "who they are" lol. Having sex with you is an action, is it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 05:31 AM
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Thankfully we were given lessons on vetting potential spouses at my high school. When I first started college I kind of ignored it until I realized that everything we learned was more or less 100% true through personal experience. For starters his religious beliefs and values would have to be similar to my own. This would include waiting until marriage for sex. That knocks out the players, plus probably a lot of perfectly good men. But then I'm not looking for just any kind of good man. No proje…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 05:30 AM
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Uh huh. Tell that to all the guys who backtrack on wanting to date me when they find out I'm waiting until marriage. Apparently in a lot of cases who we are is sex lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 04:05 AM
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Ahhh that takes me back to when my dad retired and became a SAHD for a while after my mom started bringing home enough money to be our sole breadwinner. Those days were great. My dad was happier and more energetic than I'd ever seen him in my life, and my mom was happy that he took such good care of the household while she was working. I want my future husband to be a SAHD so badly. Or maybe work part time as a teacher or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 02:31 AM
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Imagine seeking out meaningful conversation under auto mod. In your posts I just see the same old talking points about how men are unconditional romantics but le modern society has forced them to become self-serving narcissists. I don't care about your excuses. Most serious tradcon women don't, since we as well as our men are taught to abandon such things. If you're looking for affirmation or pity you've come to the wrong place. However, if you're looking for memes or snark I've got ya covered.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 02:14 AM
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REVERSE UNO CARD
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 01:57 AM
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I agree that it's stupid and arbitrary but that's the way it is. I'm a big fan of Pokémon myself (have played every generation in the series and will be getting Sword or Shield when it comes out) but as far as FSM and dating is concerned it's often more acceptable to be into some random crap like Candy Crush. As I said, fellow Pokémon fans won't care and may even appreciate you liking it but with people who haven't paid any attention to it since like middle school it's definitely not going to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 01:49 AM
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If you were familiar with pillosphere terminology you'd understand that I'm not trolling. I was simply giving my assessment of your reply: Hamtaro, the lovely male hamster.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 01:47 AM
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There there. Here, have a hamster: https://images.app.goo.gl/9k2Fuvpjvy8QEfSZA
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 01:08 AM
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Manosphere: Male love is unconditional! Also manosphere: If she doesn't start giving me anal and blowing me right I'm peacin out on this ho. I'll never stop loving her for who she is thooo! <3 uwu uwu
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 08:33 PM
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Are you saying that video games are a "low-status" hobby? That depends entirely on what type of games a guy is playing, how much time he invests, and how mainstream they are. A guy is not going to lose status over playing Madden with his friends on the weekends. Hell at some point that was pretty much a basic expectation for guys. It's not quite as popular anymore afaik but you're not going to lose status over that. Playing Pokémon or something? Uhh yeah, that's a different story. Though most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 08:00 PM
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What divorced women are y'all hanging out with? One of my middle school friends was absolutely ruined financially when her stepdad (owned, maybe still owns an architecture firm) divorced her stay at home mom. Basically the daughters from his previous marriage didn't like sharing his money with a new woman and daughter. There may have been other problems but that's the major one I know of. I'm not exactly an expert on how real estate and divorce works but he basically left the house (condo?) behi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 07:53 PM
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Lol me @ any black person on this sub who doesn't mention being black in their flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 04:43 PM
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Huh. I'm surprised. Most regular users here don't expect pleasantries or politeness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 03:15 PM
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...You new around these parts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 05:03 AM
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No my analogy refers to the part where this was already an issue back when they were just dating, no kids. Why didn't he get the hell out of dodge then?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:40 PM
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I've seen mini-wars break out in black forums over whether or not it's all right for black women to date our, and I still face a ton of worry and disapproval from my relatives. r/blackladies had a lot of drama over this iirc, and comments on Root articles are another minefield when it comes to any interracial celebrity couple. If you look at black media relationships with white men in particular are often portrayed as rebellious/experimental phase she has to grow out of before finding the good b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:57 PM
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Correction. He lost attractiveness to smart, forward-looking women with high standards. If he requires none or only some of those yes, he can get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:37 PM
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For a long time black women were more hesitant to date interracially than black men and caved in to (largely familial) pressure to date exclusively within their race. Now that that's starting to die out black women are starting to get flack as well. Within my family my generation is the first to seriously date interracially at a young age as opposed to say middle age when your parents are too dead or senile to be disappointed in you. Now the talking point is: there are perfectly good men in your…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 05:21 PM
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Idk on this sub it's almost always assumed that whoever is initiating the divorce (read: usually woman) is at fault while the other party is the innocent victim (read: usually man). Now that there's data of men doing the divorcing in this situation all of a sudden "the other party forced their hand" is an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 05:04 PM
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Of course not. The massive "I am unemployed" sticker on his forehead will definitely be a turn-off. I was just pointing out that without more conclusive data we can just all spitball whatever conclusions we want. And of course people are going to default to whatever explanation suits what they already believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:58 PM
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And apparently his chances of dumping you also skyrocket according to this data. Is there another data set you're referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:55 PM
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Or maybe with the extra time on his hands he gets bored and cheats? There are so many ways to interpret that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:39 PM
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For a man, not being employed not only increases the chances that his wife will initiate divorce, but also that he will be the one who opts to leave. Even men who are relatively happy in their marriages are more likely to leave if they are not employed, the research found. Wait what? Can someone explain this please?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:25 PM
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Weirdly enough I've been "hypergamy-shamed" myself. I think it's more common within the black community, especially if a woman dates interracial a lot like me. My older sister (30) is dating a high-school diploma Rastafarian guy who was unemployed and smoked weed while living off food stamps and her salary for like 2 years. She tells me I need to lower my standards like she did if I want to find a good man who will treat me right. I...think I'd rather stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:13 PM
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Then everything's fine and you can go to restaurants that don't have them! Which is sadly mostly all of them. :-( I usually have to go to dessert places to get a good banana split. Mmm. Haagen-Dazs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:54 PM
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Yes, men on here say that. Tex is probably trying to get him to reflect on whether that's actually true for him. If you desperately want a banana split and a restaurant doesn't serve that would you just say "oh okay that's fine as long as you don't serve it to other people either"? Fuck that. Why not just go somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:50 PM
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Notice the common thread between all the female-led movies you listed: all old. The game is different now. You're competing against long-running franchises and adaptations of beloved properties, often helmed by seasoned directors who have become household names (almost all male). Studios have less and less incentive to make big-budget block busters without knowing for a fact they're going to have a success on their hands. Movies are too expensive to make and fewer people are going to movies and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 01:30 AM
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Hmm I don't think so. I went to that chain of convenience stores all the time (for ATMs and salmon onigiri mainly lol) and I didn't see any active promotions that were giving away the kind of gifts he was getting. They looked maybe like leftovers from an old store-exclusive promotion (Vocaloid-themed stuff) that are hard to find now? My friends from the study abroad and I love the character that was featured on the stuff so if we knew a way to get it we would have been all over it lol. Plus I hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 02:05 PM
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It's very interesting. This very attractive tall, blonde guy from the U.K. I met while studying in Tokyo said he wasn't having much luck on Tinder. He was on the muscular side, some facial hair, and had visible tattoos though. Spoke zero Japanese. I've heard that kind of look is not as sought after in Japan as it is in the West. I was open to dating him myself (even though generally speaking he's not my type whatsoever) but we both knew I had to go home and nothing serious could happen. We still…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 02:30 AM
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I think it's unreasonable to automatically assume insecurity but I don't understand why that qualifies as "blaming him for his problems" in this circumstance. That is literally an advice sub. It is assumed that the people going there are open to advice/criticism on their current way of going about things. What did you expect the commenters to do? Tell him he's beautiful and perfect as he is and women are shallow for not dating him? The sub would be pointless if it were just a validation circle j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 01:46 AM
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We are definitely going to have to do a hard agree to disagree on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 11:10 PM
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The stupidity and immaturity of children does not give adults the go-ahead to be stupid and immature with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 11:02 PM
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They as well as their peers are immature and impulsive by default. What is a grown adult's excuse pray tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 10:44 PM
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Why is "having sex with" (read:raping) the 13-year-old treated as weirdly normal/permissible in this example. Do I even want to know. Goodness sake people that's a fucking middle schooler.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 09:40 PM
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Ehhh student council ran/organized the events. I don't recall there being any teachers there, or if they were they kept themselves out of sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 02:34 AM
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We had mandatory events with the boys after school sometimes, and our class reps or principal announced the "non-mandatory" ones nearly every day during homeroom and after school.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 02:19 AM
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As a member of the matriarchy, I love me some due respect. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 11:32 PM
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Like I said for the secular ones Idk why they'd see me as special enough to just drift around hoping for sex when there are plenty of other objectively more attractive girls who would do it, and not make them wait at all. As for the Catholic ones that means we're (usually) on the same page in terms of waiting for marriage. Which means they want something besides sex if they're bothering to date. I can't imagine a guy who cares about sex that much being willing to date without it for like 1-2 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 10:09 PM
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Hot take, but none. Each individual has an idea of what constitutes a happy or fulfilling life, and in turn they often live by that idea. For me that includes following your dreams and doing that alongside a stable circle of people who love you for who you are and support you. TRP in its rawest form does not seem conducive to that at all. It's more about writing off that kind of dream as BluePill and aspiring for the next best thing while avoiding getting your feelings hurt as much as possible a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 08:11 PM
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Lol@ Oh yeah I read really far into that one. My mistake. XP
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 07:36 PM
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Yep. I'm a hardcore Catholic, and this is widely known in both my religious and secular friend groups. These latter group includes guys who can have sex with pretty much any girl they want. They have no need for orbiting or anything like that. Or who knows maybe I'm just so hot they can't resist me (hahaha no).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 07:35 PM
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Is it that you didn't understand the message or you didn't like the delivery? If it's the latter there's nothing I can do really. If it's the former I'm honestly lost on how to make the message any clearer. Your one experience with a Catholic school doesn't make those of others invalid. After all... Lol @ all the people saying they went to Catholic schools and the girls were all sweet and innocent and didn’t care about boys. The catholic school in my town had more pregnant chicks walking around …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 07:24 PM
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Can you let me know what you need clarified?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 07:02 PM
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Wow it's almost as if there are shit ton of Catholic schools in the U.S. and all of them have wildly different reputations.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:55 PM
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Not necessarily. Ime single sex schools tend to be hyper conscious of that and go out of their way to make sure we socialize with the opposite sex lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:45 PM
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Went to an all girl Catholic high school. We had a brother school too, though I hung out with guys from our brother school plus other boys schools. We were encouraged to go to their football games, dances, etc. Some of our clubs even held meetings with boys from other schools, including an organization I was in. A lot of girls dated/were in relationships, so learning how to socialize with guys wasn't much of an issue for most of us I guess. I loved it personally, though getting used to a co-ed c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:44 PM
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First of all, please drop that guy. Or at least consider it. If he's not making you happy or adding value to your life he shouldn't be in it. Adios. As for whether all men only want sex, that's a no ime. I have plenty of platonic friendships with guys who know I have no intention on screwing them. None of my relationships so far have involved sex at all and I know plenty of people who are in close, loving relationships without it. Personally I'd rather just stay single than be with someone who d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:24 PM
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TikTok is basically Vine 2.0. Vine was huge when I was in high school. I don't think TikTok would have become a thing if Vine hadn't suddenly shut down a couple years ago. A lot of people miss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 05:49 PM
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Boobs? To some extent, mainly during/right after puberty and when they start to sag in middle age. Vagina? Definitely not. Scent is a big thing for some women (for reasons you could probably guess) but that's it. I don't see what women's opinions on dicks has to do with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:26 PM
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Women are def into certain types of self-deprecating humor (look no further than the "dumb bitch juice" phenomenon ). We often definitely can't appreciate men's obsession with their/each other's penises however.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:07 PM
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Ahh right. I've always had a thing for Asian guys. I think it's because they often have the clean-shaven pretty look I go for.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:36 AM
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Nope I'm black.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:21 AM
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Yeh I watch it here and there. The drag episode was and always will be my favorite.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:11 AM
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Old Can't find any pics without facial hair
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:57 AM
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Jet black hair, dark dark brown eyes, fit, not much facial hair. Some exceptions. For me hottest celebs are Simu Liu, Eugene Lee Yang, Henry Golding, Nick Jonas, Joe Jonas, Jim Morrison when he was still alive, Jared Leto when he's not being weird, Jason Momoa after he shaved and cut his hair, Chris Evans when he's clean-shaven. I'm probably leaving people out but that's all I've got on short notice. Sorry Kevin Mayer and Dolph Lundgren do nothing for me. Maybe I'm just looking at weird pictures…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:31 AM
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Ehh not exactly. They can still get Stacy but there's a solid chance that as he ages Stacy will want him for his money more than his looks while screwing younger hotter guys on the side. Like the NFL (?) team owner whose long term younger GF just recently gave birth to some other man's kid lol. They are still together iirc, and he seems perfectly cool with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 02:15 AM
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That way I wouldn't have had to put up with the bastard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 08:05 AM
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Is this a MC/WC fundie expectation? In UMC/UC circles not having an undergrad degree is a great way to disqualify yourself from the marriage material pool. Men always seem eager to brag and ask about the schools their wives/SO graduated from, the study abroads they did, and the projects they're doing. I have yet to meet one who had to say "actually my wife didn't go to college yeet."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 03:10 AM
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I wish my ex were gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:39 AM
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One of my exes used to take half-naked/nude selfies a lot. Are you into that sort of thing. I mean do you like the way your body looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 11:58 PM
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What about that was controversial for people lol. I did get at least one downvote so I know there are indeed people who take issue...for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:53 AM
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This?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:39 AM
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Well yes but actually no. I'm 21 (pretty sure that's Gen Z right) and people generally get along fine socially at least up until they graduate college. There are no promises for beyond that though. Most of my Gen Z alum friends (young women included) say they barely make any new friends now and mainly rely on keeping up with their friends from undergrad through Facebook and the like for social interaction. Dating also seems harder. But I always assumed that's a natural transition from basically …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 09:55 PM
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Lol if the women on here said the exact same thing we'd be accused of victim blaming or something. But when Papa GLO says it...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 08:08 PM
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I don't understand why but I briefly felt an overwhelming sense of sadness for those male beetles. Especially the one that was getting its dick eaten by ants.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 04:16 PM
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Oddly enough I have more experience on this in terms of men than women. Ime men have this weird window in the late 20's/early 30's where they become somewhat insecure about their age and are less eager to talk about it with young women. For reference I'm 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:10 PM
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For there are many many reasons but one that just came to mind recently is the fact that I have young parents (both in their 40's). Maybe the younger your parents are the weirder age gaps seem. Anyone who looks around my parents' age or older are automatically disqualified romantically. I might go to him for hugs and life advice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 10:52 PM
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I am almost positive you're confusing happy to marry them with happy to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 01:36 PM
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If a woman just wants to get married to a guy in his early 20s, I guarantee you that she could find one who would be totally down to get married. But it's probably not going to be a very high SMV Chad. It's perfectly fine for people to have preferences and all that, but we shouldn't pretend that it's not a factor. Those men do exist in abundance, women just don't want to marry them. ...Are you currently in undergrad?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 10:42 PM
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Who is suggesting this? Even a few decades ago I wouldn't have heard of people claiming that there are hordes of young men wanting to marry. And it is true to a certain extent that women ARE riding the CC and have no intention of halting their careers for the ball & chain. Many women see it as liberation and some sort of achievement. Maybe not as many as the manosphere would like you to believe though. Ohh I see. So you're one of the sane ones. The manosphere wants me to believe some crazy thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 08:36 PM
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That username is adorable. I used to call my ex that. Anyway no, I'm not upset with 20-year-olds who have the self-awareness to realize that they are in no way equipped or ready to get married. The frustrating thing is when certain humans act as if hordes of young men are just begging to settle down but all of the women are too busy riding the CC or something to humor them (le decline). For seculars/non trads it's normally a mutual "not ready." For trads it's usually the girls who are eager to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 07:24 PM
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Closest equivalent that comes to mind: "When he was young and le focusing on his career and not ready for anything serious he left me." For young tradcon women this is a common problem. For many of us the idealistic dream is to prove your LTR potential and find a life partner by say end of undergrad. It's what most of our parents did. Nowadays most guys our age...aren't ready for that. Even within Catholic circles a girl can do literally everything right and be perfect wife material and the guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 01:35 PM
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Definitely a possible scenario. At the end of the day it's the same though: he's the kind of asshole/potential misogynist women can sense right away and he is probably going to end up incel. A lot of dudes out there think that being any kind of asshole automatically means becoming more attractive to women. That's a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:23 AM
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And yet again we come to the difference between anti-social shut-in assholes and lively, sociable assholes. When people talk about women sensing misogyny it's usually in the context of the former. It is far easier to assume hatred/distaste when a person would rather not interact with you like a normal human being at all than it is in a person who actually seems to be interested in you, at least on a surface level.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 12:16 AM
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They are not nearly as common irl as Pill subs make them out to be. Online they are fucking everywhere. I find that a lot of guys my age (21) or younger are too shy/embarrassed to go full-on orbiter for girls they know well irl. Give them a screen to hide behind and they go nuts. Part of the reason why I pulled the plug on my Instagram blog.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 12:47 AM
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Sounds exciting! I was mainly in Tokyo for those months, just about a week in Kyoto to study shrines and temples. Weirdly enough the thing I miss most about it is (are?) the trains. I could just stare out the window of a train and watch the city pass by forever. The food is a close second. Plus the tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 10:41 PM
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What part of Japan, if you don't mind me asking? Just studied abroad there recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 08:08 PM
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Depending on social class and region Southern women are conditioned to be overly polite; therefore we have to get creative with our insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 11:26 AM
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It's weird. Usually my accent is ambiguous but when I'm being especially sweet or friendly my friends from school say I sound like a Southern Belle lol. ("Would y'all like some help cleanin up?"). I blame it on going to school with a bunch of old money girls in the deep south. Guys say it's cute tho so I don't worry about it too much. Fun fact: on an old account for this sub I once let it slip and called a user I was deeply annoyed with honey bunches. At my high school when a girl called you hon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 12:55 AM
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For a guy who doesn't like kids or only likes kids who have his blood, that would be the only benefit yes. There are men for whom that isn't the case though. I find that men with a greater affinity for children in general are more likely to enjoy being in a relationship with a woman who already has a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 02:32 PM
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My dad. My mom had my half sister before she met him. They met while my mom was in undergrad, around 19 years old. She took my sister to school with her from time to time so her single mom status was well known. She didn't have any intention on dating seriously or marriage since her top priorities were good grades, keeping her scholarships, getting rich, and having a happy life with my sister. For some reason that indifference made guys even more interested in tying her down (plus she was young …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 01:02 PM
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Is this beachredwine bearsaint guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 05:26 AM
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Male solipsism, I'd wager. First and foremost women in mainstream movies for dudes are usually meant to be male fantasy eye candy, not "real" women with flaws and imperfections and shit. People don't go to movies to learn reality, they go to escape from it. It always baffles me on this sub when men bitch about women being idealized in film and other stuff literally made by men for men. Nine times out of ten that's for the benefit of the male audience, not women. To find the elusive "true female …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 06:24 AM
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If he's taking it in a form that's legal and preferably FDA approved he can have at it. Sure why not. If not then no, not having it. My standard is if the cops had to search our shit for any reason there cannot be anything that would make them look twice. My parents grew up in the inner city and there were soo many stories of innocent(ish) people getting screwed because their SO, parents, kids, whatever thought it would be a good idea to hide their illegal shit without saying anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:33 AM
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True enough. If I get pulled over and the police find my boyfriend's secret stash of sugar packets in my car I will be deeply disappointed but I think we'll find a way to get through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 06:50 AM
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Yes. Illegal shit/drugs in general puts me off. Including weed. This is no exception. I get that there are shit tons of people who probably get away with it but I like to live on the safe side. Plus at one point I was friends with much of my school's powerlifting team (even considered joining the women's group, would have if I weren't so busy already) so I know there are definitely legal ways to get a good amount of muscle. After a certain threshold of muscle I think men are more focused on impr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 06:24 AM
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RP generally advocates a certain set of mannerisms in order to come off as alpha and in control of any situation. Cocky smirk, dgaf behavior, so-called "bemused mastery", etc. BP guys generally dgaf about any of that and often just use whatever mannerisms come naturally. That can include coming across as sensitive, emotional, and/or deferential to others in their mannerisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 12:14 PM
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My BP liberal guy friends sleep around more than any other guys I know tbh. For 1 it usually goes like this. They maintain a very wide network of friendships with lots of girls, party/hang out with them, and have lots of NSA sex with the ones they like. Yes, this often involves having interests and mannerisms that RP would call "beta" as well as being very chatty and outgoing, the very thought of which would probably kill a lot of the men on here. 2 is more difficult. I've seen BPs do everything…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 04:36 AM
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I mean 🔥🔥 is pretty hard to pronounce so maybe that's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 04:57 AM
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Overrated imo. Asian and Hispanic men are fucking 🔥🔥🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 03:58 AM
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I'm beginning to think that "traditional" on this sub just means "nice to men." This is so fucking true it hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 05:15 AM
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Yeh where I was born and raised (American South) that's not really a thing. Men don't even really give their sons/ grandsons dating advice in the presence of women. I only know the kinds of advice my brother received from male relatives because he himself told me in passing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 11:58 PM
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To go ask his dad, or his friends. This concept of parents giving dating advice to their opposite sex kids unironically is completely new to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 08:14 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 08:48 AM
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No, they're saying that men are in power, not women. Therefore, men with power must be complicit in any "inequality" other men are facing to some degree. Call it WAW, brainwashing, whatever. Still complicit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 08:37 AM
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The fuck? People talk shit under automod all the time. New here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 08:26 AM
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My first serious crush freshman year in high school was a 5/10 with a 10/10 personality, and my tastes have remained pretty consistent since then. Outgoing/sociable men are highly attractive to me by default so they get a ton of leeway from me when it comes to looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 07:49 PM
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So you're attracting unenthusiastic/fake women. Like I said self-reflection can be really useful for unpacking that kind of thing. I used to attract a lot of guys/girls like that back when I was hyper-fixated on what other people thought. Since I started giving zero fucks and sharing my...eccentric tendencies more readily I started to befriend/date interesting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 02:09 PM
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Ime interesting people attract interesting, boring people attract boring. Humans have a natural tendency to think of ourselves/our interests as the most fascinating shit that has ever graced this earth. You can quickly find out whether that is actually the case by seeing what kinds of people are drawn to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 12:20 PM
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Okay. So if a man loses his job and the woman leaves you would believe her if she said "I still love him, but I can't stay in this relationship."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 12:04 PM
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Men's love is conditional on what his partner is. I can't remember if it was you or another user I talked about this with in the past. If a woman completely stops having sex with her partner or looking after his kids or taking care of the house or all of the above will his "love" for her be completely unaffected? If it is affected that means his love is conditional on what she does, not just "who she is."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 10:49 AM
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It depends on why the marriage is failing. For example my parents went to counseling, which is as BP as it gets. Lack of sex wasn't an issue at all for them. They were both young (early 20's) and crazy attracted to each other. The primary issues were my dad's more dark triadish tendencies, including his interactions with other women (not outright cheating as far as I know but enough to piss my mom off) and often straight up doing things or making major plans without caring what she thought (thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 08:24 AM
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Hmm I see what you mean. Note that my situation is difficult because I essentially live in two worlds: devout religious and secular. My male friends in the former group do not chase after casual sex, are mainly virgins, and would not date a woman who they could not see starting a family with. Same with the girls. My friends and acquaintances in the latter group are more into casual sex, and therefore generally have a different set of standards that was foreign to me until I started college (i.e.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:30 AM
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Just curious, what makes you think you're considered average? Are you not getting as much interest from women as you would like? In any case, you have to realize that you can't assess looks in a vacuum. What's your competition like? Do you live in an area where men with the right height, looks, and muscle are a dime a dozen? If so comparatively speaking muscle and height would be less impressive than it is in, say, a place where most men are out of shape. For example, college campuses are often …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:18 AM
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Oh dear. You seem to be taking this very personally. I spoke about personal experience. Ime telling the opposite sex who they are and aren't allowed to sleep with is a wasted effort. If you don't believe my experience we have a word for that...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:00 AM
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I think I dated a narcissist once? He was your standard Chad gym bro. I accidentally knocked him down a peg though and he absolutely lost it. It all started when he sent me a snap with his shirt off out of the blue in the middle of the afternoon. He had done it before but only at night and he (allegedly) slept with his shirt off so NBD. This...was different. Me: why is your shirt off lol. Too early to sleep right? Him: Just got back from the gym Me: You left your shirt at the gym? Him: No Me: Ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:09 PM
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I feel like it comes with age. For young women it's not really a thing, but older women (I'm talking like 45+) are often uncanny in terms of their ability to read men ime. It's part of the reason why I am absolutely not marrying a man my mother does not approve of. That said, you could argue that old men have a similar level intuition. We call that being "wise" though and don't really describe it as intuition.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 09:41 AM
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Virgin; can confirm that it's both.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:05 AM
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Just curious, is she religious or waiting for personal reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:45 AM
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Ime most men like that aren't demanding virgins. Being born again doesn't automatically erase the guilt of what they did in the past, and most know that. They calibrate their expectations of women accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:42 AM
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This is my first time seeing it too tbh. Probably because I spend much of my time around Catholics, including some who are open to considering convent/priesthood/monastery. For us a call to religious life specifically comes through God, not selfish human desire (fleeing the opposite sex and being lazy are great ways to not make it through the discernment process and all of the necessary interviews).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:17 AM
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I guess that can be chalked up to differences in how we view the purpose of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:25 AM
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I think most do, until they reach retirement age. There are many convents that run businesses in order to support their living expenses and/or raise money for charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 09:02 PM
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Forever, as long as we consummated and at least tried for kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:47 PM
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Literally all Catholic schools and Churches are replete with women who dress in scantily clad attire that was frowned just a few decades. Church can be pretty bad sometimes yes but where are these Catholic schools with "scantily clad attire"? Porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:23 PM
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As an actual Catholic who went to a high school run by nuns I think I'll weigh in on this. Quite frankly I'm not entirely sure half the commenters here have any idea what the fuck they're talking about. Even the writer extrapolated a lot based on their experience going to a secular high school. Virginity has always been the highest calling in Catholicism. However, because we understand that marriage is a necessary way to carry on the species comparatively speaking only a select few are seen as b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:21 PM
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I...wouldn't do that if I were you. Look, things happen. This is exactly why I and many virgin women have caveats in place. Having lost your virginity to an ex-wife who screwed you over and having a history of frequent casual sex are not the same. The former is far less concerning imo. The major issue would be whether the ex is still a part of life and if she could interfere with your new relationship (e.g., did you have kids with her, and does she have partial custody). Imo you have far more to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 01:45 PM
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In B are you talking about lying about your (lack of) virginity?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 12:22 PM
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For me anything over zero is already starting out high. Adding to that only makes it worse. That said I hope to marry a virgin, but if he happens to have made some mistakes or didn't convert until later in life but is now a devout, repentant Catholic who hasn't had sex in ages I think we could possibly make that work. (And he would absolutely have to get tested for STD's. If he's not willing, that's a dealbreaker.) But all things equal between a virgin and a non-virgin I would pick the virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 07:51 AM
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You're certainly not the first person to call me that.😄 But fine, I'll give it to you straight. Before coming to PPD I didn't but now I think I do, at least a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:18 PM
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2 minutes? I mean since I'll probably be marrying a virgin so I'm not expecting him to last much longer than that but in most cases if he's doing it right I think men get more than 2 minutes.😜
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:23 PM
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Noop I didn't. This was before the person I'm dating and I became close. He is indeed Christian. Not Catholic, but close enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:13 PM
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I mean no one's getting inside me at the moment since I'm waiting until marriage. My current guy also has zero relationship experience but is closer in age and has himself figured out so I don't feel weird about it. Soo your theory's wrong, sorry.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:02 PM
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Okay here's where we start getting into legality vs. morality. I do think it's bad to take advantage of naive people, but in many cases it's not something that you can legislate. Take me for example. Recently a freshman at my college was interested in dating me. I'm two years older and have more relationship and life experience than he does. I did find him attractive, but the differences just felt weird to me. He's still uncertain of himself and trying to figure out college life and I've taken b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 03:25 PM
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Could you also maybe chalk it up to differences in how men and women are interpreting the situation? Ime guys are definitely appreciative when the woman approaches...initially. The woman approaching is fine for ONS and short term relationships. Hell he might be super invested in her, and they could have a ton of fun...for a short time. A guy might look back on that fondly and see it as a successful approach on the woman's end while she sees it as a failure because he didn't stick around. Her app…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:48 PM
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Imagine telling college students not shitting where you study That...is actually 100% sound advice ime. Most of the couples I know at my college met at parties on the weekends, clubs, and bars off campus. You don't really see guys making moves during class or anything. We just all show up, (maybe) listen and do our work, then leave. The few guys I know who tried to cold approach right before, during, or after class got rejected hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:20 PM
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They exist but are pretty rare ime. For most young women men our age who come from rich, powerful families and are pretty much set for the rest of their lives are more popular. You get the same benefits as you would from old man plus the status that comes with having a partner you can proudly show off to family, friends, and followers. Fucking older men on the DL doesn't get you that. It's considered more of a guilty pleasure type thing, like secretly being a fast food junkie.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:06 PM
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Irl numeric ratings are generally fine/realistic to me imo. Online it just gets stupid and nitpicky very fast. I have seen objectively model material men and women get picked apart and given low ratings on subs like truer8me. Plus rating people "too high" (in the mods' opinion anyway) could lead to getting banned iirc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:32 AM
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There is a line about submission to the husband, while in turn the husband is expected to love his wife as Christ loves the church and be willing to sacrifice everything for her. The Catholic church teaches that the mother of Christ never had sex with her spouse so apparently there are cases where the woman has the right to withhold sex. A Catholic who believes they have the right to rape their spouse would likely be excommunicated and never granted the marriage to begin with. I can't speak for …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 05:46 PM
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I guess it depends on the woman. Out of all my siblings I'm the only one who never accidentally walked in our parents having sex (or...maybe I did? my mom claimed she was topless because it was really hot that night). I think it also helped that my dad was very tolerant of her post-three children weight gain and still is. So he still has game and makes her feel attractive. In return she's still crazy about him too, even thought it's been somewhere between 20 and 25 years now I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 04:18 PM
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I've never heard of "booty on demand" in traditional marriage vows. Catholics in general are very conservative and even we don't teach that. Is this some kind of fundamentalist thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 04:05 PM
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Hmm deciding to care for personal benefit isn't the same as only caring because the nice girls told you to stop imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 09:58 AM
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Lol no, I prefer local small businesses over chain businesses. This cute little cafe out in town is my favorite. Not sure about vocal fry. Is that the Kardashian voice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 02:09 AM
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I have seen women telling caustic antisocial guys to try not being an asshole and loosen up in order to get girls. Specifically telling them to become feminists to get girls? That's...a new one. I do think that women have a tendency to specifically tailor their advice to the "antisocial asshole" variety online. Sociable assholes exist of course, and they're going to do just fine with women for the most part, for better or worse. The kind of asshole hanging out on Reddit and talking shit about wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 02:07 AM
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Have already decided that I will be strongly encouraging my future hypothetical kids to play and stick with some sport by the end of middle school. Maybe earlier. It can be soccer, swimming, baseball, basketball, dance, gymnastics, figure skating, whatever. They have to do something along those lines. To this day I wish my mom would have ignored me and forced me to stick with gymnastics or dance when I was young lol. I eventually got back around to dance and lost weight but it took a long time a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 05:34 PM
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You're asking women to think like men. We don't see sex as brownie points that we give to guys whose political opinions align with ours. Guys do. Asking the opposite sex to abstain from fucking person X for your personal benefit is always always always a lost cause, for men and women. I have yet to see a guy turn down sex with a girl because "she's a bitch" or "she's toxic." They'll whine and complain about her behind her back but then still go right back to fucking her if they feel like it. Do …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 05:22 PM
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UMC college girl here. Dated a slightly older working class guy who didn't go to college once. Never again. I am definitely okay with dating outside of my class provided that their current circumstances are similar to my own (i.e., also pursuing a college degree, seeking socioeconomic advancement for future children, doesn't make fun of me for sounding/acting like a "rich girl", etc.). My current guy comes from a working class family but never gives me crap over being UMC and is working toward a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 04:49 PM
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Sure thing! I'll do physical and mannerisms. For starters, I need a baby smooth face. No facial hair. A very faint 5 o'clock shadow is fine but anything beyond that and I dry up like a dessert. I like men who are soft, like women basically. Rock-hard doesn't do it for me. Skinny fat is my ideal. Nice and easy to cuddle with. Gentleness makes me melt. Like the kinds of guys who wouldn't hurt a fly, and don't raise their voices very often. It makes it easy to imagine that they probably would go ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 03:51 PM
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Because I'm Catholic such labels are pretty terrifying to me, but it's pretty safe to say that I'm what most people would consider bisexual (heteroromantic, though). Since I'm not going to experiment sexually before marriage I am going entirely on what turns me on/gives me the legendary "tingles", so grain of salt this shit please. In terms of sexual/romantic desire I have a strong affinity for men with feminine mannerisms/interests. Hypermasculine men can turn me on sexually but I have no desir…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 01:34 AM
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I think I went through a brief anger phase during my freshman year in college. For context I went to an all-girl high school. Most of the boys I met were the ones our school specifically introduced us to through various social events (so the vetting was done for us). When college came along I had to come to terms with what guys are like when distance from family, easy access to drugs and alcohol, and a culture that pretty much revolves around fucking as many girls as possible come together. I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 10:08 AM
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Weirdly enough much of my jealousy is focused on fictional characters so I can't relate. I just find that there generally isn't much to be jealous of when it comes to real people. Everybody's lives suck in some way. Fiction is the one place where people get the best of all worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 11:59 AM
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As a broke college student who exclusively dates other broke college students, can't relate. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 12:06 PM
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This is honestly starting to sound like a matter of antisocial people trying to force themselves to be social for the sake of getting laid. To that I say...you're right. Why bother? Leave the dating to the social creatures lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:56 AM
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Aww that's a bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:51 AM
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Oof
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 06:29 PM
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Huh. Do seagulls like alka-seltzer tablets?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 06:17 PM
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Mmmmmm gelato
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 05:39 PM
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OP deadass asked for suggestions to avoid this situation. Are we just supposed to ignore that part of the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 05:38 PM
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How should men watch out or defend themselves from this behavior Have a fucking imagination and go on a first date that doesn't make eating the main event. So many guys jump straight to "dinner date" without trying to come up with something else less costly/more unique. Some of my favorite dates have been the ones where we barely spent anything besides some gas money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 04:52 PM
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Yeh my sexual quirks do not fit neatly within pill theory whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 04:07 AM
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I mean I've seen reds claim that beta behaviors kill attraction regardless of how hot the guy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 01:14 AM
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It would be kind of difficult to control myself tbh. "Super nice" guys are the ones I often fantasize about tying up and just straight up going to town on. Innocence and naivety in men I'm attracted to bring out my aggressive side for some reason. In a similar way it also triggers my protective instincts and makes me really...antsy when other women are flirting with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 11:11 PM
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Lol I'm glad it's not just me.😅 Do you think of yourself as bi now?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 02:04 PM
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21F. During the porn phase when I was younger I started out with lesbian since I wasn't comfortable looking at men naked yet but was very curious about sex. I started watching straight vanilla stuff later. I attribute my not being entirely straight/more than a bit attracted to effeminate or even outright obviously gay men to the early lesbian porn consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 05:30 AM
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Np!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:21 PM
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No, experience. I grew up with the scary college rape statistics. I still didn't believe something like that could happen to me; it was more of an issue for the party girls who like to drink a lot, or so I told myself. The fear mainly clicked when I went out with a guy I was into for a drive my freshman year. He ended up being my first (several) kiss(es). I thought it was too early and we didn't know each other well enough to be doing that yet, but then again I was in his car and he could kick m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:17 PM
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Did those Catholics go to Catholic elementary/high schools, and were they trad Cath? It definitely makes a difference. In my case I went to an all-girl Catholic school that was known for encouraging its students to eventually become good mothers and homemakers. Ideas like "men are accepting and forgiving, women hold grudges and are more petty/vindictive" and "men are virtuous, women corrupt them through inappropriate action and dress" were part of the culture. Everything down to the types of bra…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 05:42 PM
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For sex it's pretty easy (in college anyway). There are definitely attractive guys who crave it and would rather get with some average to arguably below average girl and just not acknowledge her in the morning than go to bed alone. Are all attractive men like that? No. But there are generally enough with low standards for ONS to go around. For relationships it's much harder (once again, college). The conventionally attractive motivated guys who seem on track for success are generally not looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 08:41 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:46 AM
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This isn't normal conversation fam. This is online debate sub where the nuances of speech get lost easily. But you acknowledged your mistake, so I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:40 AM
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I would think it is obvious what the spirit of my comment intended, but I sometimes forget I'm on Reddit, where one actually needs a peer-reviewed study to back innocuous, commonly uttered phrases. No one thinks men are magnificent Why do people on here speak in unambiguous absolutes and then bitch when people call them on it lol. I'm always careful to never speak in absolutes for this very reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:35 AM
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I'm pretty sure I've read somewhere that laws against rape in the past were often more about protecting men's "property" (e.g. wives and daughters) than protecting the woman herself. Have you never heard of rape-marriage laws? For example in medieval Spain there was a certain law that a rapist could invoke in order to get the approval of her parents to marry her because now she's damaged goods to literally any other man and he owes it to her family to do the "virtuous" thing and take her as a wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:32 AM
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No one thinks Men are Magnificent As some who was born and raised trad/Catholic I can definitely say that's not true lol. Shaking off "Men are Magnificent" was one of the hardest parts about going away to a co-ed college.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:14 AM
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Yee
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 07:03 PM
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Most people I know watched it on their HBO Go accounts (i.e. online).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 06:30 PM
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I mean I except him to treat others with basic human decency at the very least. As long as that's squared away what's going on under the hood (empathy, sympathy, pity, messiah complex, whatever) doesn't concern me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 01:26 PM
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Nah. I don't go out of my way to chase after men but once I know for a fact he's interested I either just tell him I'm not interested or agree to go on a few dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 01:40 PM
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Oh yes. I feel like for most people their time with family is when you get the most "uncensored" version of them. With same sex family the affect is even more noticeable ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 01:34 PM
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What does that pretending look like? Acting neutral around you when you know for a fact that she likes you? Outright acting as if she hates you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 10:06 AM
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Many if not most famous male sex symbols today first started getting their followings when they were far younger. It's mainly the older women who "grew up" with them who still find them hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 10:03 AM
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Yes, with women outside of my immediate family or who I haven't known for many years. It's different from the "flirting" game but still a game of sorts. I'm so used to it I don't really think twice about it. Most people are that way I'd say. For the rest you're going to have to be more specific. What kinds of "pretending" or "childish games" annoy you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 09:51 AM
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I feel like games are pretty much a natural part of human interaction. The amount of complete honesty you're getting from anyone whatsoever (or perhaps even the amount you're giving to others) is probably way less than you think. A performance you're accustomed to or comfortable with showing others isn't the same thing as "honesty." You just don't even have to consciously think about it once you're accustomed to it. The way you interact with your family (if you get along well with them) or very …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 09:35 AM
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When the kids are small, yes. As they get older and start going out more and relying on the parents less it gets better. Or at least that's what happened with my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/19 12:36 AM
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Sure thing. For context I participate in non-Reddit nerd shit posting groups where guys can be pretty overtly sexist (partially ironically) but the girls just roast them back or troll them. The female mods are especially adept at that. On Reddit nerd subs it's different. It's more of a passive aggressive dislike. Comments where I came across as girly or excited (nothing even remotely controversial in the content itself), would get downvoted and/or receive passive aggressive responses. My more ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 07:16 PM
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I'd have to disagree. There are plenty of men in our society who obsess over sports and would be considered "nerds" if they invested that kind of time or energy into a hobby that's less socially acceptable. So level of engagement isn't the deciding factor in my eyes. The "nerdiness" lies in the topic itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 06:41 PM
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I've found that the most strict adherents to the faith tend to be pretty alpha male, the less strict ones who accept more watered down versions of church teachings are beta. Note that I can only speak for Catholicism. For us it is essentially mandatory that the man leads the household, and boys are socialized accordingly. They are also taught to embrace a sense of detachment from the world, fostering stoicism. Yes, they're taught to sacrifice and put others first, which is arguably beta by secul…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 06:34 PM
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It's a sub about sex, dating, and gender. None of those topics are inherently nerdy. I explicitly gave examples of the kind of "nerd subs" I'm talking about in my first comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 06:08 PM
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Oh yes. At my school there were a lot of male teachers who worked there while also going to school and/or looking after kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 11:13 AM
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No. Idgaf how much he makes. I'd prefer he didn't work at all. If he's going to though I want it to be a manageable schedule with regular hours. Something like teaching at a private high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 10:51 AM
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Neither for the most part. The only time I find myself checking out either sex is when I'm watching TV/movies. Captive audience and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 09:53 AM
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Uh huh. Give me one example of a nerd sub on Reddit and I'll see if you have any idea what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 09:38 AM
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Omg did you just compare the nerd hobby subs on here to 4chan? There's definitely someone here "not getting it" and Idk if it's me...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 09:24 AM
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You only tested Reddit? I find that most subs in general are fairly tame but the "nerd ones" (e.g. gaming, anime, mecha) are probably where I felt least welcome on many occassions. The "fake fan/ gamer girl" stereotype is very much alive and well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:04 AM
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She should go for a guy who is good looking, charismatic, successful, and ready to settle down and get married and have kids. AF with just enough BB to make a good husband. So the male unicorn essentially? There should be a term for that...A dragon? I mean they were said to hord gold and shit. But that sounds too edgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 06:11 PM
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So I guess we're talking about three groups of men: those who do not care about n whatsoever and those who at least kind of care but are essentially settling for high n and those who care so much they're just opting out altogether unless they find their low n chick. I don't think men in any of those groups are inherently more or less "real." Will their dating success vary in the current market? Oh yes. Like I said though as long as people completely own the potential consequences of their standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 09:24 AM
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I think a real man dates whoever he wants by whatever arbitration standard he wants, owns it, and doesn't bitch about men who think differently or women who managed to get with those men. That last one seems to be a bit of a struggle for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 08:45 AM
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I would if I weren't Catholic. Mainly because according to the women on here a lot of male strippers are clearly gay and I find gay/bisexual men weirdly hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:41 AM
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I was talking specifically about the sweethearts from my high school haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 01:39 PM
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I love my family to death but traveling abroad with them is definitely an experience.🤣 I keep trying to teach them basic words in this language I speak semi-fluently so they can communicate with locals too but...the results have been mixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 12:32 AM
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Ngl, some of the most obnoxious and bitchy girls from my high school are in nursing school. I'm pretty sure the men on here are thinking about nurses from the 1950's.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 12:20 AM
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Yeah, I did. He was hot af to me. My perfect height (5'10"), very muscular (had a popular fitness Insta where he posted his workouts). Working class Irish Catholic. He was also 4-5 years older. I agreed to go on a date with him when he asked. Didn't expect to be touched because Catholics don't operate like that on the first date. We usually wait a while for the first kiss (few weeks, sometimes several months).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 08:09 PM
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Mmm, I see. I personally feel inclined to believe her. My mom is very open about the fact that she was dating around and having sex in high school. She wouldn't have any reason to lie to make herself look better or anything like that. She told me the story in the context of my being upset over losing my first kiss (I was 19, went on a drive with this guy, he just kind of grabbed my chin without warning and started going at it; the entire thing was just weird and confusing to me). Her point was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:49 PM
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There's more to the story than what she said TIL you were there lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:19 PM
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Being held down and given a hickey on your neck without your consent is "mild drama" to you? No, I have to disagree. Sorry. Not as bad as having a child by her rapist (my oldest sibling) while still in high school, but that's still pretty terrible imo. I interacted with boys a lot in elementary and middle. It was a Catholic school though, so there were very strict rules and norms concerning how boys and girls interacted with each other. In high school not as much, but I did meet up with guys I m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:05 PM
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Okayish, I guess? I have "called it" on many relationships long before anything official happened. Touch is a big one. Do they go out of the way to be close to each other, or are they always "making room for the holy spirit" as the nuns at my high school called it (i.e. keeping distance between them). Feeding each other is another good sign. Banter is another indicator I look for. Are they comfortable teasing each other and playing around? Last big one for me is attention. Does he tend to keep h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 06:57 PM
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I would say very common. I was able to escape much of it thanks to a very sheltered childhood. My mother was molested by relatives and so she always kept my siblings and me close to her. She also experienced issues with being assaulted in middle/high school. One incident in particular she told me about was, after she had moved on with someone else, her ex attacked her and put a very visible hickey on her neck. Her current BF at the time called her a slut and broke up with her, and everyone in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 06:48 PM
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Lol come on Red, you're different. You clearly adore your kids. There are a lot of men who would rather forget about the past completely (including the kids) and move on with a new woman. There are a couple of divorcees in my family and they essentially treat their kids from the original wife like they don't exist while the kids from current wife are the apples of their eyes. It makes family reunions rather...awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 06:30 PM
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Female Definitely the former. Gimme that sweet sweet validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 09:02 AM
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Lol sorry! I just found it interesting that he was flexing about the 26-year-old. Relative to what some of the men on here claim to be able to snag that's not very impressive at all lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 08:36 AM
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26? Is that the age PPD men are proud of being able to fuck nowadays? Seems kind of old.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 05:51 AM
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Similar to the hate for white knights. They are perceived as shallowly signaling a certain set of values to get laid. "Pick Me's" signal a different set of values in order to seem commitment-worthy. To a bunch of strangers. On the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 05:34 AM
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Note that Grid is black (or I'm pretty sure she is). We are notoriously ambiguous in terms of age once we hit puberty. I have met 13-year-old black girls who could easily pass for 20+. I started getting advances from college guys when I was about 11. My mom wouldn't let me out of her sight. I have relatives who started getting groped and/or molested at that age. From what I know it's a depressingly common problem for young women of color.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 04:46 AM
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I think science and data are great; just not the way they're often used here. Irl science professors and researchers I know, especially the ones who are into evolution, often operate on possibility and theory. They're curious, and constantly open to challenge and change. Hell they're often quick to point out the limitations of their own studies and ways in which they want to improve for future research. Here if you can find sciency-sounding articles many treat it as the end-all-be-all, and anyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:27 PM
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Weeell we practice a lot so it's hard to put on weight. It worries my family a bit. My abs aren't as great as some of other girls in the group so body rolls aren't my specialty (which is one of the go to "sexy moves") but I have a decent body besides that. Definitely blessed in the T&A department so no complaints there. I'm one of two black girls on the team. To fit in I keep my hair medium length and straight. On a typical day when I'm just going to class or spend much of the day alone I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 04:11 PM
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Which one, first set or second set
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 03:49 PM
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I'm a girl hon. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 03:26 PM
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Yeah. The double standard between people who have lawyers covering their asses 24/7 and randos who don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 03:14 PM
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Ah, I see. So you're a man of simple tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:27 AM
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Sure why not. I don't really concern myself with secular divorce bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:26 AM
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Ah, so this what the male hamster looks like. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 02:19 AM
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I'm a Catholic who doesn't believe in divorce outside of life or death circumstances. That definitely shapes my way of looking at this. And yes if she leaves or asks to open because he's not fulfilling her emotionally her loyalty is indeed contingent on what he does for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 02:16 AM
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Yup. The man is deciding to get hot and if his wife still isn't dtf give her an ultimatum. His willingness to stay with her is contingent on her willingness to fuck him eventually, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 02:02 AM
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Your last sentence is literally what I just said lol. What's your complaint?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 01:13 AM
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This is where eros, phila, storge, and agape (the four loves) come in handy. Eros is romantic/sexual, phila is friendly love, storge is love for family, and agape is completely unconditional love that defies human understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 12:10 AM
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I mean if you think that women "are" a bunch of walking sex/comfort dispensers then yes, of course men love women for who they "are." There's a seemingly common belief on MRP that if your wife is unable to have sex for whatever reason she needs to agree to open the relationship or he's out. If your faithfulness is fully dependent on what SO will or won't do for you then you love them for what they do, not just who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 12:06 AM
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Annd this is why naturally extroverted clown-type guys are so great. It feels like they're not flirting or putting on a show or anything...They're just doing them. Stoic guys are hot too but I usually have to work on them a bit more. Usually in the form of snarking at them (shit-testing I guess) until I get a reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 04:51 PM
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Hmmm. I'm in a dance group maybe my scale for girls is kind of harsh. All of them look average to me. The girls in my group are the types who are getting with the top tier guys, athletes and such. I consider myself on the low end of my group in terms of attractiveness but when I go out with them I try to look my best in terms of clothes and makeup (I often get one of them to do it for me). To me these girls are pretty much all above average: https://images.app.goo.gl/ojYBtQFP7KSnMk5b7
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 04:15 PM
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Dude on the right is below average but not ugly imo. several there are quite hot even with a dumb face on Ehhh no. When I think hot I think model tier or close to it. Those girls are okay but not anywhere close to top tier in terms of college girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:25 AM
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In the case of college students... We go half because everyone is essentially poor or relying on their parents' money or are already paying into the school's dining plan so are reluctant to eat off campus outside of very special occassions. Guys who do pay for his meal and hers are usually doing it to flex/ for pride's sake. Women generally don't get that kind of pride from showing off how much money they have to a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:17 AM
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Oh I see. Idk if colleges where you are have frats and sororities but ime the Greek system plays a pretty big role in who's getting laid depending on the college. So even if a guy is unattractive if he's in a frat or has friends who are that's a huge plus in his favor. And a guy who's attractive but not connected to the frats in any way won't do as well as an attractive guy who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 02:53 AM
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You do currently? Huh. I always thought you were older than undergrad age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:30 PM
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There's another user up top who made me rethink doing stuff like that lol. But here, this'll do: https://images.app.goo.gl/oLzdWdTgeU64fRCJ9 Not the best quality photo but they capture the vibe I'm talking about so perfectly I couldn't pass it up. Plus the men's forum where this was posted seem to agree they're average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:28 PM
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I'm trying to find a stock photo so I'm not putting "actual" people's pictures on blast but all of them are model tier lol. I'll keep looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:55 PM
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Usually average in terms of looks, for RMV all bets are off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:51 PM
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And I'm convinced you didn't party in college lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:32 PM
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Nope. Like I've said I have seen guys who are arguably less attractive getting girls on the regular. They are very much the laid-back stoner types though. You know, the types you see women fighting over on the Jerry Springer show and you can only think to yourself "...why?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:31 PM
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If he wants, sure. There's a difference between not getting laid as much and not getting any at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 07:45 PM
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Dude on the right? I mean he won't necessarily have girls crawling into his lap or anything. But if he goes out to parties and doesn't act like a complete nerd he can get at least one girl a week I'd wager. But alas those two conditions are...difficult for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 07:43 PM
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The fuck? Guy 2 looks perfectly fine. I know men far less attractive than him who can get it. College is fun like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 06:43 PM
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Thank you! Good to know I'm not crazy. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 03:37 PM
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Not currently aligned but I did start out blue when I came to Reddit. I found that BP was pretty hostile to the more conservative views I had on sex. It was very much a "do whatever you want...as long as that thing is as liberal and sex positive as possible and not at all defined by patriarchal cultural norms. Don't do that." Because I found myself pretty sympathetic to RPW I changed to Purple. Now I'm no pill since so much of what I desire sexually and romantically is just not within the pill f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 03:36 PM
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Oh okay. Good talk!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 02:45 PM
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Not entitlement to me. Take us crazy Catholics for example. When we marry it is understood that we are supposed to be providing our spouse with sex/children. Up to the point where the sex happens the marriage is not valid and can be dissolved. We are encouraged to consummate ASAP. We don't describe ourselves as "entitled" to sex. Through the act of agreeing to a Catholic marriage we have both agreed to a specific set of conditions that a priest has described a thousand times if you've gone to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 02:39 PM
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I would say my upbringing definitely contributed to my ride-or-die views on marriage. Was raised Catholic by young parents (21 and 23 when they got married) who were deeply attracted to each other but were largely incompatible in terms of lifestyles. My mom was an emotional free spirit who was fiercely devoted to her education while my dad was a stoic working class guy with very conservative views on gender roles. They separated for a few months but decided that divorcing would take too much of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 12:59 AM
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Haven't lurked TRP much since the quarantine so the following assessment may be dated. At this point in TRP-land it often seems as if being as sexist and borderline (if not entirely) misogynistic as possible is essentially mandatory for maintaining top dog/alpha status. Even implying that women are capable of being useful for anything besides sex is a great way to lose respect and get called beta, especially by the inner circle of perpetual anger phase active members. It's weird because perfectl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 12:15 AM
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RPW definitely discourages living together before marriage. RP kind of discourages getting into LTR's at all so they don't say much on it as far as I know but if a guy insists on the marriage route I imagine many would say to live with her first. As for me? Catholic tradcon, so my answer will always be no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 07:36 PM
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Fun fact! Even Catholics are taught that the story of the Fall is a creation myth created in response to those of surrounding cultures. Likely based on true events but largely symbolic. Pretty much all we're supposed to take from it literally is that an Original Sin happened and humanity fell. Pope Benedict wrote an entire thing on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:07 AM
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Yes. In many cases having a high SMV man means being surrounded by his equally high (or even higher) SMV friends on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:34 PM
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I've dated from 5'4" to 5'9". As long as he's taller than me (5'2") we're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:47 AM
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I was a freshman in high school when 1D became big. So many of my female friends were obsessed with them but I didn't get it. I thought all of them looked average except maybe Zayn (Harry's haircut was especially annoying to me for some reason lol). I was more of a Big Time Rush girl (apparently 1D opened for them before they made it big!). Current Harry? Even less attractive. Maybe because I'm looking at bad pics. If he could just pick a fucking normal haircut for once in his life maybe I'd fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:36 AM
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Oh yes. My close friends always used to ask me what on earth I saw in him lol. I mean they liked him but not like that. He was unattractive by most standards (only thing he had going for him was height) and very very much a nerd. But he was extremely outgoing, had a great sense of humor, and could fit in well with pretty much any group. He was always going out and partying with different friend groups (mainly made up of girls) on the weekends. He struck out with a lot of girls he asked out but h…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 03:48 AM
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Ah I gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 04:03 PM
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What on earth? That's...the last thing I thought people were doing on IG lol. Stupid question: why are you so into drugs anyway? And well Mercedes while we're at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:22 PM
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I would change it slightly "The person with the most power in a relationship is the one who's willing to leave." The rule as it is now seems to equate power with giving less of a fuck than the other person. It's not that simple. I've broken up with men I "needed." I know plenty of men and women alike who left people they loved a ton and had to deal with the pain for quite some time. It had nothing to do with whether or not they cared about their partner and everything to do with setting up healt…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:02 PM
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Why does this not surprise me whatsoever lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 02:46 PM
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I tend to find those types of men hot (the liberal ones) on a base level but I know from experience that having tradcon Catholic values isn't exactly conducive to things working out with them in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 05:43 AM
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Oh okay. Do you wanna be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 01:30 AM
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Now now I don't like to assume...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:21 PM
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Ah, so we're the same age! So please take absolutely no offense when I ask this. I am just curious. Do you get out much?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:15 PM
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"Popping on the gram?" Uh...wow. Mind if I ask about how old you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:06 PM
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I feel like Instagram is kind of dying tbh. Or maybe myself and most of the people I know are just growing out of it. Back in high school we used to post on their constantly but now we mainly use it to follow celebrities and only post on there if something especially significant happens like a concert or festival or spring break or a trip abroad. Or just to let everyone know we're not dead lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 09:37 PM
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Was that an intentional or unintentional Bojack Horseman reference?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 09:23 PM
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You're kind of being like the allegedly badass RP's in the making who come on here to argue and seek BP's approval for every little thing. Adopt the amoral standpoint. Nothing's "bad" about expecting to be treated like a princess if it's what's working best for you. If not, then we need to talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 09:00 PM
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Idk. Does openly admitting to working himself up and crying once a month to get his feelings out and telling me about his previous experiences with depression and self-harm count as "holding back"? I would probably still be with this guy if he weren't a. staunchly atheist and b. very much into sex. Current guy I'm seeing is very much like him except staunchly Protestant (so still not Catholic but whatever, getting warmer), inexperienced with sex/dating, and gets along far better with his family.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 08:38 PM
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Huh? No, that's not really my story at all. As Catholice we're taught to reject and mentally remove ourselves from society. I don't think it would fair to claim that I've been able to ignore the influence of society in so many ways except for conveniently this one thing? In my case I grew up with an emotionally detached father for much of my life. Not that my parents had an unhealthy or unhappy marriage (well they did in the beginning but it got better by the time I was fully conscious and aware…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 07:33 PM
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...you know there are plenty of people within each of those groups who might have commonalities, right? I just find it interesting when men on here say "I have dated both doctors and waitresses, therefore I can make blanket statements on the female condition." Fucked up and broken women come in all walks of life. I say this as a UMC Catholic "good girl"-type who needed some serious unfucking before she learned to love men who actually cared about and treated her like a princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 05:20 PM
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Advice needed. Close tradcon friend's boyfriend pissed me off recently. He's a good guy overall but when he gets moody or anxious he tends to go into antisocial asshole mode. Meanwhile my friend is literally one of the sweetest human beings I know. He's her first boyfriend ever (we're both 21, he's 24ish) and she loves him a lot, and I know he feels the same way about her. Recently after an argument (possibly because he didn't want to talk to me, or knew I didn't want to talk to him, or both) he…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 07:10 PM
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Ah, a man of culture I see
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 06:29 PM
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Are they Irish Catholics by any chance lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 11:46 PM
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Lol not even the last one arguably. At least Catholics are encouraged to spend time one-on-one with various men in order to choose a partner. No physical intimacy is allowed with any of them at that stage of course but to some degree we do "see" other people until we hit the DTR phase. Putting all of your eggs in one basket as soon as someone expresses mutual interest isn't exactly the most efficient way to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 10:50 PM
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Great, then you're exactly one of the young men I'm referring to (I am also 21 btw). I speak as someone who has several male friends who had the same goal but pushed the timeline ahead to being in shape and date by the time they went to college. For the ones who didn't start by that point, it was their goal to figure it out by senior year. Basically being the best they possibly could be as soon as possible, not saying "well I'm not hitting my peak until 30 so..." They live as if their peak is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:12 PM
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This isn't so much a feminism problem as a general Hollywood problem imo. Very few studios these days seem willing to take chances on original properties unless it's attached to an already well-established writer or director (look at all of the original, non-existing property-based big-budget movies that have come out in the past like decade or so and you're going to see the same couple of big names attached to all of them; and much of the time even those big names got their serious cred through…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:57 PM
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Another note: I feel like this line of thought can lead to a kind of self-sabotage for young men who follow RP. Notice the timeline you gave (guys discovers TRP in his 20's, lifts until his 30's, then starts spinning plates). The fuck is he waiting for if he knows that's what he wants? Where is that five to ten-year monk mode coming from? Why not just encourage him to get hot asap and then start getting experience with women without having to run the gamble of "do women in their 20's still want …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:42 PM
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...Not sure if I should be flattered or grossed out by the number of 30+ men on here who spend so much time obsessing over whether they can get with us or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:17 PM
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For girls who are into "daddy af" men unironically sure why not. I have yet to meet these women but I guess they're around...somewhere. The most attractive/"normal" girls I know are fucking guys their own age and who have status in our circles (so athletes, top dogs at their respective frats, etc). I've heard (can't confirm though) that girls who don't go to college are often more open to dating older guys (think beauty school, other trades).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:06 PM
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Np!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 05:02 AM
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Nah. My male friends who are in/graduated from college are more than happy to swap stories and take commentary like "oh in class the other day" or "at this party last weekend" as a given. Only the non-college educated dude seemed put off by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:36 PM
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They weren't stories so much as off-handed comments related to my being a student.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:24 PM
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One of my favorites I learned recently is finding a piece of art in my nearby surroundings and taking time to describe it thoroughly in writing. Ones I use regularly are: Longs walks on nature trails and in gardens Chamomile tea with honey, or chai Listening to throwback music Watching ads from my childhood on YouTube Hugging a nice big plushie Turning up the fan, letting myself get cold, and then wrapping myself up in a nice, warm blanket Watching Disney movies/listening to Disney music Laughte…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:13 PM
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Mentioning anything related to my college/ student life. So clubs, classes, friends from school, events at school, literally anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:06 PM
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Scotch with a little sprite...Noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:57 PM
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It was in a bottle. I wonder if that's why I didn't care for it...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:56 PM
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No. Tried it once, never again. It's just so much easier to date men who are on the same playing field in terms of education, especially as a woman. That way he doesn't cringe or get super insecure everytime I talk about school. Dynamics where the man feels threatened by the woman's drive or education do not work for me whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 12:11 PM
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Aww please feel better boo. May I suggest some calming and relaxation techniques?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 05:25 AM
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I tried Guinness and an IPA with some friends for the first time the other day since I just recently hit the legal drinking age. Both tasted like acid. Is all beer this disappointing or am I trying the wrong stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 05:20 AM
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No because I feel like I'm like 15-20 years younger than most of the users here and it might be awkward if this girl who can still technically pass for a high schooler depending on what she wears shows up lol. Maybe I'd do it in a couple of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 05:18 AM
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We were just talking about AWALT behaviors a second ago. Now we're talking about impulses?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:34 AM
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Doesn't AWALT say that if a woman encounters a higher value male than her current partner she will branch swing? And if so, do you honestly believe that they're all conveniently the highest value males their wives/GFs have access to. That they've never encountered anyone hotter or with better status than their husbands and decided "no, not worth it."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:12 AM
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"No woman is above that behavior."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:11 AM
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Most of the Reds here (particularly the married ones) insist that's not what AWALT means but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:00 AM
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Are you seriously using the exaggerated definition of AWALT that gives Blues ammo in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:24 PM
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Wouldn't it be wonderful if there were a Reddit sub where you could go and exclusively talk to people who "deserve" to have a voice on TRP issues and the leaders specifically shit on people who don't and mod the hell out of their comments... Oh wait. It exists, and yet you're here. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:22 PM
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You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:14 PM
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How is teaching a woman to value herself and choose partners who actually love her in the future the same as blaming her? That's like saying treating a broken arm is the same as blaming the person for falling out of the tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:12 PM
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I feel like they're made but at a very specific period in their lives (mainly teens, maybe some of their early 20's). Once the ship has sailed it's gone. Edit: Just wanted to add more detail. To me "alpha" is a certain way a man carries himself more than anything else. Stoicism definitely helps, but I like to think of stoicism as coming in two types: sunny stoic and cloudy stoic. Sunny stoics are more of the fun-loving and laidback types who generally don't come up when we think of the word "sto…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 04:38 PM
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And that's the part that hurts. I guess it can't be helped though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 01:18 AM
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And if she really meant it, what then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 10:30 PM
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Fair. I never figured out vaginal; will have to leave that to my spouse. Clit is pretty straightforward.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 10:18 PM
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Why feel it out though? Why not just believe her and find some other woman who doesn't make things so difficult?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 09:37 PM
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Ohh I gotcha. I consider model territory to be 8+. Like you said the scale is really weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 09:29 PM
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No lol. Have you never seen girls playfully say "fite me" before? The spelling is the big hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:48 PM
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Idk. Morons who actually follow the sub's rules. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:44 PM
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I don't get it personally. I was raised Catholic and sheltered as fuck and I was able to figure out how to make myself orgasm with ten minutes of free time and the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:42 PM
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Now this is the quality discourse I come here for. Reddit is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:39 PM
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Their works that go against the conventional wisdom that most liberals believe? You are being very generous if you think HuffPo would run that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:35 PM
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She is at least a 7. Fite me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:31 PM
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Yeah, but in the sense that I'm a Catholic girl trying to avoid having sex with anyone, much less a red piller. "Blue-pilled"-type men pretty much take me at my word when I tell them I want to wait until marriage. We wait, or we end things immediately since we both know we aren't romantically/sexually compatible. Irl RP-type men said vague things like "we won't do anything you don't want to" and took me out but then tried to slowly escalate things to get my guard down. Now I exclusively date dev…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:28 PM
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I hate going to dinner with people in general (except maybe immediate family and extended family I'm close with) so I'm pretty biased here. I do feel as if dinner dates between people who don't really know each other get awkward quickly. To me it looks more like a job interview than two people who like each other having fun. Plus since you're often on opposite ends of the table (unless you sit at the bar) it creates this weird distance I'm not really fond of. My favorite first-dates have definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:35 PM
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Do you honestly think with some heavy makeup and contact lenses most of those "cute"/average women could make themselves "gorgeous"? It's a Reddit meet-up for goodness sake not a night out on the town.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:24 PM
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People on Reddit are low SMV in no small part because people on Reddit leans left, and left leaning people are generally unattractive. But on more right leaning subreddits (like I suppose, this one), you should expect people to be more attractive that the Reddit average. That hasn't been my experience at all lol. I would say I know an equal amount of attractive/unattractive people on both ends of the spectrum. But that kind of depends on where you live. For example most of the outspoken left-lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:02 PM
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It depends. At least in the South where I was born and raised old money UC families are definitely still like that. But Christianity/Catholicism run deep there so the culture is very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:28 AM
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As a 20F I can definitely say that's not true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:04 AM
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Seriously, fuck that guy. I'm a year older than that girl and I still would have felt the same way. I mean, what was he hoping to gain from the situation? That all of these 19-year-old girls would change their minds and suddenly find his 30-year-old ass hot if he refused to leave them alone? It sounds like he was in the mood to fuck with them and he got upset when they didn't fuck back in the way he wanted. Though this is why I prefer to have parties at upscale restaurants. You can get a private…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 03:54 AM
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Anecdote, but I once dated a very cheerful, talkative guy who felt no shame in telling me that he intentionally works himself up and cries once a month to get his feelings out and told me about the scars on his body from past self-harm. I just remember holding onto him for the longest time and wanting to make everything all right. According to RP something like that should have totally killed any and all sexual attraction I felt for him but if anything his opening up to me only strengthened the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 02:40 AM
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Since we're operating on would's I'll answer from the POV of hypothetical non-religious me Would you always agree to have a LTR with a man whom you would have casual sex with? No. There are plenty of shallow morons I find hot enough to have sex with. I would probably lose it if I had to actually spend non-sex related time with them doing relationshippy things. Would you always agree to have casual sex with a man with whom you would have a LTR? This is tricky because I want to say yes (I wouldn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 12:42 PM
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Wait did y'all get back together or is this a new black woman with an MBA (I'm so sorry about prying on this so much! I just love it when successful black women get some appreciation from men).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 05:37 AM
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There's a number of RP who make it seem as if the second she's gives them any reason to feel jealous men decide "she a ho" and she loses all RMV potential, which would be denying that jealousy works in my book. Women get more leeway than RP or even RPW lets on but not as much as men do, for sure. It's a delicate balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:56 PM
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PPD field trip to r/abortiondebate! We can all get banned together! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:13 PM
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I speak for myself, but I find that manipulating jealousy in a relationship can be...addictive. Once you realize you have that power and actively start to think in terms of ways you can use it you like the feel of it and want to go further. After all, humans get comfortable quickly. Once they get used to the tactics you're using and they realize you're not actually going anywhere that raw jealousy tapers off, so you feel the urge to kick it up a notch, and so on. "Fuck yeah, I'm hot and my partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 04:25 PM
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Don't entertain it. OK has this weird obsession with getting off on who he can and can't take out in a back alley. I have seen him argue with girls on here about this for hours lol. But he's a softie deep down, I can feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 04:19 PM
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Yeah, I see what you're saying. I was speaking more in terms of my personal preference (which is why I said for me). So basically there are older men I would definitely be dtf if I were into casual sex but I see none of them as relationship material due to the issues I listed above. Even the ones with "objectively" high SMV and RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 04:06 PM
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Why does making your girl somewhat jealous make her more attracted but making your guy jealous is the best way to make him dump you? Here's the important distinguishing factor. I do agree that women are somewhat more tolerant of men who don't immediately or only soft reject other women ("sorry ladies already taken"...while glancing at her tits). We're conditioned to say "Pfft men. They can't help themselves. If I dumped every guy who's visibly attracted to other women on the spot there would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 03:59 PM
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I have friends who are starting at over 100K fresh out of college lol. They're all going to be working in Cali though so that makes a big difference. A good chunk of their salaries will be going toward rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:47 PM
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Hmm also a fair point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:37 PM
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I guess that makes sense. I know divorced parents who don't really talk much outside of what time to meet at the gas station so I was wondering why you listen to her talk about things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:32 PM
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Fair point! Though he is definitely into younger women and likes to bring that up...a lot. Plus something about the writing style in the OP reminded me of his.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:04 PM
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I vote beachredwine!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 01:54 PM
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Why do you still talk to her lol. From what you say I'd wager this one is jealous/still attracted to you and is trying to get under your skin in retaliation. There is literally no other reason to overshare so much outside of having zero tact.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 01:45 PM
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Dread is a big one for me. For that it seems that a lot of RP men misread "oh he has a life, that's really hot" as "shit I'm not all he has and he might cheat on me if I don't step my game up." At the end of the day both explanations could explain why she's fucking you more often now but one seems to be a far more stable foundation for a lasting, happy relationship than the other. And, well, jealousy ain't it. The number of field reports that basically say "I told my wife I'm going to fuck other…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 01:19 PM
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Not...exactly. For women my age at least (so undergrad in college) being in a stable relationship with our idea of "high-value" is the peak. Guy who isn't quite high-value but seems to care for and love you a lot is next. Hooking up with attractive guys comes after that, dysfunctional or zero-attraction ltr comes last. This may sound hella superficial (because it is) but who can girls plaster all over their social media, which plays a big part in our perception of status? Their boyfriend. The Fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 12:47 PM
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I'm 20 but we are complete opposites lol. I'm weird in that for me some older men have high SMV but all have low RMV. There are indeed advantages as you say but for me they don't outweigh the negatives. To be fair, I'm rather biased due to upbringing. My mom's brother committed suicide partially due to an older woman manipulating him and cheating on him with his best friend. Since then age gaps have ben highly taboo in my family, for both sexes and all ages. My sister went against the norm and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 12:35 PM
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I don't do the whole casual sex thing so I wouldn't know but my friends who do basically say it's a way to blow off steam and get that sexual gratification even while they're single. It's not really a "she likes one so she must not at at all be interested in the other" kind of thing. It's about getting their needs met in the interim between LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 11:18 AM
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No lie, I discovered this phrase indirectly through the Lego Movie. The song "Died in Your Arms Tonight" is apparently one big reference to that saying and very few people realize this lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 03:31 AM
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I would probably have to stop crushing on androgynous men with little to no facial hair and hanging out with feminists. The odds of either of these things happening is pretty much nonexistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:34 PM
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Oh hell yes. Maybe I'm biased because I just graduated high school within the past three years and I still have fond memories of the younger male teachers we all had crushes on. Bonus points if he teaches at a good Catholic or other private school. They get paid less but the working conditions are less stressful relative to most public schools.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 05:39 PM
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That makes us (kind of?) opposites in a way! I'm a Christian so I do value virginity but as I've told other uses on here I don't really get why secular guys would have any reason to care. I can't remember if I had this conversation with you or another user way way back when I was still on my old account but the debt requirement selects against college education while most college-educated people end up marrying other college-educated people. Naturally some student debt should be more concerning …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 05:52 AM
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I didn't realize that you can have that balance of studious and fun until college. Getting roped into joining a college dance group definitely helped lol. Granted I'm not as ragey as some of the other girls in the group (I'm not into drinking or sex) but I do get out and meet way more guys than I did in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 05:42 AM
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It depends entirely on age ime. I feel like younger men (especially in their late teens and early 20's) are often not that great in the dad department but they improve a ton with age and experience. No lie my dad went off the grid entirely for several days without telling anyone after I was born as a part of his frat initiation. My mom thought he was dead or something. He's a completely different person now, and we rely on him a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:46 AM
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I'm a virgin and I still think the "debt-free virgin without tattoos" thing is ridiculous lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:43 AM
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It depends on the woman. My dad was largely raised by his grandmother who was a staunch believer in hard work and refused to take any shit from him (to be fair I'm pretty sure she lived through Depression era). He said growing up in her household was kind of like being in the military from a young age. He always had chores, had to wake up at certain times, had to start working as soon as he was able, had to pay for any luxuries he wanted himself, etc. His childhood experiences with her (for bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:17 AM
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Hmmm came across something interesting while browsing RPW today Long story short, OP wrote a post about "mean girls." Here's an excerpt: I believe that most women have a mean girl inside of them. If fact, I have seen the mean girl dynamic at work in some of the threads on this very sub. Here's a current RPW male mod response: "We had this problem some years ago with the original mod team, and had to take corrective action." Juicy. I keep getting snippets on what happened to break up RPW a few ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 01:38 AM
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I think Atlas doesn't see how being anti-abortion fits with RP goals for men. This post isn't really about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 12:58 AM
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Nah, it doesn't work like that. Academics are not politicians or journalists or opinion piece writers. The latter groups are largely responsible for deciding what will be widely circulated and what will just stay esoteric academia stuff. The latter is filled with findings that counter the conventional wisdom in terms of what feminists generally assume about an issue. One of my most liberal professors has outright expressed having colleagues run into issues with feminist groups over their researc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 12:08 AM
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The very fact that you think that academics are sitting around figuring out how to justify themselves to Cato tells me everything I need to know. ;-P
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 05:49 PM
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It's not a slam dunk. It's just more of the same phenomenon the so-called socialists have been discussing for years. There's nothing even remotely exciting or gratifying about this to them. It does make good fodder for classroom exercises though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 06:29 AM
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Sure thing! The data is from a supplement the U.S. Census Bureau attaches to the CPS called ASEC. It's basically a report on how much citizens are making/working. They collect info including hours worked, occupation, salary, sex, etc. Mine was taken from around 2017. I thought I mentioned that repeatedly but I'll link it just in case: https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2019/cps-research.html
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 04:51 AM
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As we traditionally use the term here, yes I do generally believe in imperatives. I also believe that humans can drop kick their imperative out the window and do something else, but the basic urges attached to their imperatives will probably exist no matter what (unless they're ace or something). And that is why it's important to vet for partners who are capable of self-control.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 04:43 AM
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Yep, exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 08:20 PM
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Let's look at the term "should." In general, public policy doesn't run in terms of "should." It runs in terms of "must." There are things we can and cannot coerce citizens into doing. We can force someone to stay somewhere if they break the law (house arrest , prison, whatever), we can force citizens to pay money (i.e. taxes). However, we cannot mandate who they're having sex with or when or how (protected or unprotected) as long as everyone involved is capable of consent. We also cannot force c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 05:22 PM
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You're talking to me like you think I'm a liberal feminist lol. I'm a Catholic waiting until marriage who dislikes abortion but also believes in taking care of kids both before and after they're born. Stop arguing with strawmen and have a conversation with me. Or, if that's not what you're in the mood for, go argue with someone who can entertain you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:55 PM
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Attractive women without makeup are seen as average, average women with decent makeup skills are seen as attractive. Amongst women my age for the most part our skin is still breaking out and doing its own thing so makeup of some sort (even if it's just some foundation and concealer, you don't have to go all out) is pretty much a must if you want to be in the same tier as the most attractive girls. With men for the most part what you see is what you get. Attractive is attractive, average is avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:46 PM
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Yeah yeah great. People make stupid decisions, we know. When we inevitably have more mouths to feed because of people's stupid decisions though you can't just say "well that was dumb, so let's let them starve."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:26 PM
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Thanks I guess lol. What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 08:29 AM
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No, it's definitely a need, and not just the individual woman's. Let's say we were to completely abolish child support tomorrow. You officially have zero responsibility to pay for any children the women you're fucking have. Condom usage drops off significantly, pregnancies skyrocket, and all of these mothers (particularly the ones who are poor) need to find ways to feed their kids. Charites alone sure as hell don't have enough to deal with that, and state funding can only go so far in terms of k…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 08:26 AM
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If you're going to continue being salty about it, be my guest. Fiinnee I'll let it go. Even though you're wrong. Holy shit you're a girl!? You sound hella masculine. Or are you gay? I mention being a 20-year-old tradcon female who went to an all-girl Catholic high school like every other day on this sub. Are you new? They used MOB agencies. I'm from Singapore. It's common there. Singaporean guys contact agencies to marry Vietnamese wives. I've seen few MOB relationships in the US, but asian-whit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 12:50 AM
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I don't care what you think about logical fallacies. You were caught moving goal posts, which is a logical fallacy by itself. The claims "humans are social creatures and tend to assimilate to the cultures they immerse themselves in." and "Pretty much all American men we know who went the MOB route say their wives started out shy and docile but pretty much became another person after a couple years in the states." are very different. No I didn't, and you're not using goalposts right either, which…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 07:54 PM
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Lol when my Japanese professor brought a white guy from America home to her parents they locked her out of the house. They learned to accept him but it took a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:02 PM
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So you like to throw around conclusions from one data point. Got it. Yep, your quickness to just say "oh well doesn't matter if I'm wrong about this fallacy because it's not the point" suggests you either don't care very much about their definitions or you quickly wanted to move on out of embarassment. As someone who had to study them a ton in high school my pet peeve is people who say "oh that's ad hominem" or "oh strawman" when they clearly don't know much about logical fallacies lol. Observat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 04:52 PM
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You changed your goal post from supporting "Pretty much all American men we know who went the MOB route say their wives started out shy and docile but pretty much became another person after a couple years in the states. " to supporting "humans are social creatures and tend to assimilate to the cultures they immerse themselves in." That's what I'm concerned about, not what the exact definition of the term "Strawman". So you like to throw around logical fallacies without actually knowing what the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 06:53 AM
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Nope, that's not what a straw man is. A straw man is intentionally misrepresenting an argument in order to make it easier to dismantle. I don't see the two as loosely connected. Do you not believe that Western culture today (particularly within the U.S.) encourages assertiveness, defiance, and outspokenness amongst women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:57 AM
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I don't think it would be that hard to find studies which support that humans are social creatures and tend to assimilate to the cultures they immerse themselves in. I'll look into it after I finish dessert.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:25 AM
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Not surprising. Most of the users here seem to fall somewhere between my parents' age and my grandparents'.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:20 AM
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Fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:17 AM
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Sounds like something out of a fortune cookie haha. But yeah, we'll see how it all goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 03:09 AM
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One word: Americanization. Pretty much all American men we know who went the MOB route say their wives started out shy and docile but pretty much became another person after a couple years in the states. For some they see that as a good/attractive thing and actually like that she's coming out of her shell and becoming more feisty. Others say they miss the old days but probably don't bother divorcing because the MOBs are often SAHMs and can take them to the cleaners if a divorce happens and they …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 03:07 AM
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Yah, 20
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 02:47 AM
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My mom had the same situation, different outcome. Her parents (although staunchly Catholic) wanted her to abort, especially since the child was conceived through rape/incest but she desperately wanted to keep her. She agreed to give her baby up for adoption at first but she became so depressed over separating from her baby her family agreed to take her back and help raise her. So she had to deal with being called a useless slut who wouldn't make it anywhere in life by her high school classmates …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 02:40 AM
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No. The man should still be the head of the household whether he is the breadwinner or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 02:13 AM
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Yours is very similar to my ideal haha. I want to have a 6-figure salary and bring home the money while my spouse would ideally be a well-educated STAHD. My parents have already offered to move wherever I end up to help care for my kids as well once they retire. House in the suburbs near a city with a great restaurants and shopping district. And of course plenty of Catholic churches nearby. I am technically considered tradcon in most ways so no worries, I have plenty of friends and relatives who…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 02:08 AM
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My parents' marriage was saved by counseling. To be fair for them sex and attraction were never an issue. They had other shit going on, including being very young when they married (mom was 21, dad was like 23) and having three kids to care for by their mid '20s. I think in cases like that counseling can work. But it can't resolve a fundamental lack of attraction, which I think MRP is more about. I guess it also depends on the counselor to some degree. Theirs was an older married man who basical…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 05:19 PM
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Facial hair. A little stubble is fine. Full-on beards and mustaches get a no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 10:26 PM
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Wait, really?! That's exciting to hear. I only know of myself and wingbark.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 10:16 PM
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I don't think so. I do think that at one point in time a lot of women who initially intended to go into a STEM field ended up settling down with men who also studied STEM. Therefore she often ended up taking on a less intensive job like teaching science or math part-time while he earned much of the money. Most of my elementary science and middle school STEM teachers were mid 20's to middle-aged women married to doctors and engineers. One ended up missing top of her class in college by one exam g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 10:11 PM
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Hmmm. I must say it looks like a pretty fun time to be alive. How do I resemble that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 09:04 PM
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Can you elaborate please? I'm not exactly familiar with that genre.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 08:58 PM
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I think another solution is (if you absolutely feel inclined to seek mentorship) looking beyond a particular workplace. Right now I've noticed that mentorship through college alumni associations is becoming a big thing. Much of the time the communications are remote as well (and on record, in the case of emails), meaning there is less of a chance for inappropriate behaviors or accusations to arise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 06:19 PM
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I am totally okay with this to be honest. If sacrificing a mentor or two down the road means not having to put up with inappropriate sexual behaviors from men with power over me so be it. As I've said on here before I place a high value on sex and keeping it between myself and my future spouse. Not me, my spouse, and some horny men in the workplace who feel bold enough to insert themselves into the equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 04:49 PM
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Yup, I saw that. And based on my experience either the career moms were somehow pulling more time out of their asses and adding it to the week or your calculations are off in many cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 04:42 PM
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Cons. Can't be a decent wife and mother. Hard disagree here. Growing up going to Catholic private schools there were two groups of UMC-UC moms: the career moms and the SAHMs. The former still somehow found time to lead our girl scout troops, read stories to the class, make their kids' lunches before heading off to work, volunteer for special class events, etc., all while somehow making their marriages work and running a tight ship at home. For the most part the working moms had great relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 09:08 AM
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Class most definitely matters, at least for RMV. There's a long-standing tradition in my home state where all of the students who went to the same circle of private high schools go to public universities for the "gigantic party school with major sports teams" experience but mainly stick together and marry amongst themselves. I decided to go out of state myself but on social media I still see students from our circle pairing off almost exclusively with each other back home.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 04:31 AM
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Not entirely sure OP isn't on drugs...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 11:01 PM
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We don't let babies die anymore Are you from the U.S.? Our infant mortality rate is unusually high relative to other developed countries last time I checked. Improving, but still bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:53 PM
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A fellow Catholic? Huzzah!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:46 PM
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Cheating is already a sign of poor and reckless decision-making imo. Is it really that much of a stretch to assume that they might fail at that in other areas as well (i.e. protection).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:42 PM
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(Woman moves on a bit too quickly for their liking and finds a new father for her child) Men on this sub: something something hypergamy branchswing beta cuck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:24 PM
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Can you explain on what basis completely abandoning his existing legimate offspring is "best reproductive move?" pumping younger and newer tight pussy with cum What even the fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:20 PM
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Well it doesn't hurt that I literally just became legal (in entire U.S.) about three years ago. Before then I could only really date guys I met at or through my private school. After I went off to college the game changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 10:06 PM
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Like two years ago, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 03:57 PM
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Very rarely. Amongst the circle I usually date in (Catholic trads) you're pretty much assumed a virgin unless you give your partner reasons to suspect otherwise. I dated this Irish-American working class guy outside of the circle for a time tho (he was baptized but not active). He's the one person who asked, mainly out of curiosity because he assumed that I wasn't a virgin at first but then as he got to know me he figured out that I was and then asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 01:01 AM
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Hmm I'm not entirely sure. I never saw it around campus tho so I guess not. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 11:44 PM
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That just made me think of this girl from my high school who was bragging once about how her parents promised to buy her a Range Rover if she got all A's and B's for the year. Why did I stumble across a copy of her report card while volunteering at my school over the summer and find a C on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 11:16 PM
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It depends on their family and upbringing ime. In my case I'm a UMC black female whose dad's side is largely working class/blue collar while my mom's is almost exclusively UMC to UC. I find blue collar guys hot and even dated one in the past. There is definitely classism that goes on within my family though, especially from women on my mom's side who grew up with two UC/UMC parents as opposed to a mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 11:12 PM
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Think of the last ant you saw crawling around on the ground, doing its buggy thing. Do you think it was thinking to itself "what is my purpose, is any of this worth it?" No. It knows it has a job to do, and it does that job. Being able to think is probably one of the greatest blessings and curses of being human. Get out of your head. Focus on action, particularly ones that make you feel happy. Spend more time around people. You don't even have to socialize. Just be, and maybe even observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 06:35 AM
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I feel like the media cares more about the feud itself. The allegations are just a piece of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 06:03 AM
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"Pursuing" is a pretty vague term. What that pursuit looks like is a strong deciding factor for me. If the most he did was send "You're hot" DM's to straight guys there isn't really anything criminal there. Straight guys used to do that to me all the time when I was running a hobby blog on Insta; I just blocked them and moved on with my life. That's what the block button is literally there for. If we start getting into a "multiple accounts to keep hitting on you after you blocked me"-type situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 06:01 AM
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As far as I know he got into a fight with some chick who mentored him over supporting a company that rivals a company she's sponsored by, then she claimed online that she couldn't continue their friendship, partially because he harasses straight men. Has anyone actually come forward to confirm that? Gotta know since it would impact my response to OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 05:26 AM
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That I can live with lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 05:19 AM
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You're not telling the whole truth ??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 04:09 AM
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I forgot it was happening lol. We rescheduled and went out again later tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 02:17 AM
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To me love is the tenacity to make it work regardless of the presence or absence of sexual attraction. It often begins with sexual attraction but that aspect is very likely to wear down over time. Well, not always. My parents have been married for 20+ years now and her current nickname for him is "snack." He calls her "brown sugar."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 02:08 AM
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I meant how many people do you consider you have to sleep with to be considered "wild". For a Catholic like me anything above 0 starts getting wild. In the secular sense "wild" would probably be 10+ Wouldn't really know, Im not from the us, but if everything that's being said about the decline of marriage and the complaints about the hook up culture I see everywhere is an indicator then you're not telling the whole truth Invalidation is illegal here, bro. I'm contributing my own experiences and …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 02:02 AM
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She was young, that plays in her favor Hmm, good point. Define "wild years" and "doing just fine". Wild years=undergrad college, especially on spring break. Most of the hook-ups and ONS happened there. For "just fine" in the case of older women married with kids. In the case of women around my age are in LTR's, mainly with frat guys and athletes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/19 09:11 PM
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That hasn't been my experience. My own mother was high-n and still married and settled down by 21 lol. I once asked my dad how he felt about her exes and he just kind of smirked and said "I don't." I know plenty of married/LTRed women who had "wild years" in high school or college but are still doing just fine in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/19 03:09 PM
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For the average, non-religious career man? In most cases that's definitely not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 08:30 PM
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Got those, get approached by men on the regular. Anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 08:23 PM
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This pretty much what I was told in (Catholic) high school, and I've lived my life by it. My parents nodded and smiled and went along with it... and then asked me if I needed birth control and condoms when I turned 16 lol. I don't blame them though. They're staunch Catholics in virtually every other sense but they said they wanted to put my health and safety first.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 08:22 PM
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Lie to Women: Men who value things like chastity ( low n count) youth-beauty are just insecure basement dwelling virgins and reside only on the internet, majority of the men are secure about women's past, and are not shallow to go just for youth and low n cunt and love ur accomplishments/career/job etc etc Where's the lie here though lol. As a Catholic 20-year-old virgin much of this has been pretty true in my experience. I have only encountered non-religious men who are anal about chastity onli…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 08:17 PM
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It depends on her checks and balances. I know that my family and church community would give me hell if I went full AWALT and side with my spouse without hesitation. And since I am extremely attached to them the thought of alienating myself from them is terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 07:37 PM
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Especially since most people I know can only do SPSS, stata, and the like. RIP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 12:25 AM
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I'm afraid I have to sign off for the day but I love having someone else here who can use/understand R. Do you mind if I bug you about it here/DM you sometime?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 12:23 AM
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Do you think that the difference in years (mine was 2017 ASEC) could have anything to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 12:19 AM
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I admit I did not pay attention in the nominal difference, and I considered all things combined, but to make comparisons, and more importantly, a good understanding of a P-value, you NEED to have a percentage difference, not nominal difference. Can I ask what software and method you used? At least in terms of R and reggression analyses I find that nominal is just as significant as p value. Also, for the percentage you got, was that 5% annually, or 5% lifetime? That makes a huge difference. And w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 11:35 PM
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Women are (in theory) supposed to be protected from that kind of rationale through Title 7. I've heard there are still companies that get away with it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 10:35 PM
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Okay. Can you tell me exactly what about the methodology suggests we were looking for that answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 10:28 PM
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No we weren't lol. I flat out told you that I was skeptical of the wage gap at first. Controlling for all of the factors that people usually bring up was the reason why I was convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 03:43 PM
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Yup, we controlled for both
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 03:40 PM
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The regression controls for hours worked. I would have to check the U.S. Census Bureau but since their data covers the span of a year I don't think people who didn't work for the full year (due to, say, being fired) are included in the data set.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 03:40 PM
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What on earth? Did you totally miss the part where we controlled for a variety of factors, including occupation and hours worked? If you read the link I provided you would know that regression allows you to do that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 03:37 PM
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And here is a short summary of our big findings: Without controls the wage gap is estimated at 19K When we control for hours gap decreases to 15K When we control for age gap is 19K still When we regress income on gender and age the gap increases Idk about you but 15-19K per year is a decent chunk of change, regardless of how that works out percentage-wise. I would say that's enough of a gap to warrant some questions. The increase with age is especially troubling to me for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 06:17 AM
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First thing's first: I am using U.S. Census data. Are we on the same page there? Edit: so to be more specific it's from 2017 ASEC data
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 06:03 AM
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I find that all of this becomes far easier to understand if you think of RP as a kind of "weather forecast" for how one's behavior will play out in the SMV/RMV depending on gender. There are some RP's who exaggerate a ton and make it seem like the average male 20-something is ready to settle down and have babies fresh out of college but is being spurned in favor of Chad by a woman who will settle for him later. The more realistic ones totally acknowledge that men and women may behavior in simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 04:55 AM
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Given that you have literally said nothing about how you performed this "analysis" we have no way of finding flaws in the methodology - but, like Hansen's climate science, we are expected to just accept that you're right without even beginning to look at how you ran this "regression analysis". Do you know what R, U.S. census data, controls and/or regression analyses are? If not then yes, I can see why you interpret those as "nothing." Here's a handy explanation for regression: https://hbr.org/20…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 04:37 AM
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But even if that is true for office workers, people might not believe it because it is harder to observe. Bingo! I find it interesting when men light into women for believing in the wage gap based on "observation and intuition" without data but are more than happy to do the same to prove that the wage gap is "justified." Of course, I'm not accusing you of inconsistency. For all I know you're just as receptive when women argue based on observation and intuition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 11:50 PM
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Hmmm. I could probably rerun the analysis and exclude athletes if you want. Is that what you're getting at?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 11:40 PM
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Lol one day in class we ran a regression analysis on U.S. census data in R to try and see if the wage gap was real or not. We controlled for age, experience, occupation, you name it. There was still a gap. Well, on average anyway. There are a couple fields where women make more, some of which were surprising. The other fascinating thing was that the gap increases with age even if you control for occupation I believe? Idk what that's about. Edit: We also controlled for hours worked. That might be…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 11:24 PM
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Personally the RPW life (or at least as it's presented on the sub now) sounds like a Barbie-esque living hell to me, so I'm clearly biased in the "no" direction. This is coming from someone who grew up and actually considers herself tradcon. While we do believe that the husband is due a certain level of respect and authority RPW takes that up to eleven. I was especially sick to my stomach when in a thread where most users were warning a user to leave asap a mod and/or EC tried to encourage the u…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 11:17 PM
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Shallow is (ironically) a pretty layered term. Many use it to refer to people who care exclusively about looks and take nothing else into consideration, not about people who care about looks at all. There are plenty of male and female users on here who have openly admitted that their SO isn't the hottest person they've ever dated. There were other factors that went into choosing their partners besides "Hottest person I can find, let's GO." I don't think you have to be a rocket scientist to figur…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 10:44 PM
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Realizing that posting there was not contributing anything of value to my life or anyone else's.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 06:53 PM
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I do. Shallow people are boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 06:11 PM
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It won't. I think on some level they do want that kind of sympathy but they know at least deep down the problem is still there at the end of the day. They just want a way to numb the pain for a bit. I remember back in my Incel Tears days (cringe) I got angry DM's from a few Incels. They would usually go on this long rant calling me a bitch or psychopath or something. From there immediately I would respond with something like "Hi, nice to meet you! How's your day going? :-)" I expected them to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 04:12 AM
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Feel more than free to use that little report button if you feel like people are trying to invalidate your thoughts and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 12:58 AM
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You basically can't accuse others users of being untruthful about their thoughts/experiences. Trust me there are a couple of users I've been tempted to call bullshit on here but I didn't because I wouldn't want to incur the wrath of the mods lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 12:05 AM
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Not much. I feel like single people have more time on their hands and as a natural side effect end up going out and meeting new people more. Or at least that's been the case for me. In the past I waited no more than like a month or so before dating someone else. Now I've been in a low key (high key?) nun mode for about a year since last relationship ended on such a...non-ideal note.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 11:50 PM
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There are rules against invalidation here bruh. Surely you know that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 11:42 PM
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Disagree. I used to think something along those lines until Tinder became a thing. Ime even some of the hottest guys set their standards hella low on Tinder and will swipe on pretty much anything. The only difference is they will often take initiative if they find a woman they absolutely need to fuck but if she's okay at best he'll wait for her to message first and then take things from there. Also note that you are arguing this in a male frame. Trying to convince women that male sluts don't exi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 11:41 PM
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Often. They usually ask for "just one date" or some shit after that. Then I just tell them that I've recently come out of a breakup and am still taking time to process my feelings, while looking as depressed and maybe teary-eyed as possible. That generally gets the job done.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 11:32 PM
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There are some assumptions here that are problematic. Firstly, men's bodies were always used as a natural resource for war and heavy lifting. Even today a guy needs to prove himself useful (men are human doings, women are human beings). Yep, and there was eventually a system put in place where men were compensated for such labor. It became such that the only way a man was deadass expected to do those things without some kind of compensation was if he were a slave. So you're suggesting we should …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 11:27 PM
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Lol not at all! That's not what I meant by user-friendly. My meaning is that I find the religious tradcon dating market to be easier to navigate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:30 PM
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Huh. I guess we have different understandings of the word "friend" then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:16 PM
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No. The guys I date usually pay for everything but I wouldn't think less of them if they wanted to go half. I remember in high school when I went on dates my mom would always send me with enough cash to pay for my own meal. I asked what the point was since the guys were always opting to pay, and she said she didn't believe in sending a girl on a date without enough money to pay for herself. I guess that mentality has stuck with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:15 PM
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No we love both her and the baby to death and are very glad that she kept him. We're still allowed to despise her boyfriend though. If she would just leave him and move back in with us we would be more than happy to support both her and the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:08 PM
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If by "friends" you mean boyfriends and eventual spouse then yes, you're spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 07:55 AM
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I know a couple of "gamer Stacies" who haven't had sex yet lol. Most are religious though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:59 AM
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Hmmm it depends on the gamer girl. I know quite a few who haven't even had their first kiss yet (I've at least done that much) but also a lot who are into casual sex like you said. The ones who are into "girly novels" definitely skew more on the innocent side like you said ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:51 AM
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Actually no I tell them to become a religious tradcon and join our dating market instead lol. It's so much more user-friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:37 AM
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Ragey is a slang term we use for people who party hard and often lol. Think of it as a synonym for "wild."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:36 AM
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Outside of the blackpill government issue wife petitions it's not even about all that. To go back to the OP, just have the lady-balls to just say "fuck you, got mine" instead of trying to hamster it like oh well this isn't really happening it's all in your head men and women are on totally equal footing. I've never heard anyone on this sub say that? The general consensus is usually that women do have it better in terms of finding casual sex partners because men generally aren't very picky. Howev…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:35 AM
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This entire line of thinking always gets a visceral reaction from me since the entire it often seems to imply that a woman's body is a natural resource like water or oil or something. And that women should distribute it "for the greater good."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:07 AM
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Going off his post history the user I was originally responding to seems to unironically thinks that women are literally at fault for male sexlessness for refusing to fuck certain men. I was specifically responding to that mentality. Thank you for clarifying. Edit: long story short, was confusing you with another user
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:51 AM
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By choosing to wait until marriage I am depriving young men of sex. When I choose a man to settle down with there will be billions of other men who no longer have access to me unless he literally dies before I do. Am I supposed to feel guilty about that? Am I supposed to expect other women to feel guilty about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:32 AM
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We roast my sister all the time for her shitty choice in baby daddy. You're talking to the wrong girl on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:22 AM
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I know right? It's great to be a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:15 AM
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Women might have something to do with this By doing what exactly. Actually having a say in who they sleep with?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:09 AM
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Guys often claim they need the validation that comes with a woman agreeing to fuck them without having to pay her for it. Ragey people tend to get sex more easily. This is a known thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:06 AM
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Sexless dudes who come to this sub: I want to have sex. Like 80% of this sub: See a hooker then Sexless dudes: But I need validation Sub: Have you tried drinking, drugs, and partying Sexless dude: No I'm not that kind of person Imo that's not discounting a problem; that's people not getting the answer they want to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:59 AM
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Based on personal experience (so anecdotal but whatever) I can best get a sense for a woman's personality when there aren't any men present. That's where you start to see more variety. The persona women give off to draw in and keep men interested often isn't the same as their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 12:48 AM
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He stayed because he thought that she would start doing it more as the relationship continued. Mistake number one. I know this one guy who used to be super into receiving oral until this...adventurous girl he hooked up with once spit it in his mouth (apparently some guys are into that?). I mean, things happen. People's tastes can indeed change for any number of reasons. This is why I think that 100% transparency is necessary. There are women who will happily do oral all day. If it's important en…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 07:57 PM
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Putting on my secular cap right now I feel like all of this would be resolved if people just actively pursued what they want out of sex instead making it some kind of speed chess game with her exes. I mean if you really want her to roleplay as your high school nurse or some shit during sex and she can't do that why not just find someone who will? Why make it about whether or not she did stuff like that with her exes? Either she can meet your needs or she can't. Don't wait to find out "actually y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 07:16 PM
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😂😂😂 Yup, pretty much this!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 07:00 PM
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I mean if they're satisfied with the results they're getting by holding their double standards then sure why not. It's just interesting to watch men complain that they can't find "good girls" or that they don't exist anymore while fucking every woman they complain about in town. Or, worse yet, when they bitch about women who hold them to the same standards they hold women to (as a woman who prefers low/zero n I run into this quite a lot).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 03:30 PM
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Plus ngl anal sounds gross to me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 02:08 PM
1

My religion doesn't even allow that within marriage lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 11:05 AM
1

Nah, already Catholic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 11:05 AM
1

I mean I'm pretty sure you're 1 of the only like 2 RP men on here who actually seem to like their spouse lol. That probably helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 04:14 AM
1

This makes me feel much better about my "let's snuggle on the back seat!" story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 03:58 AM
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20F, n-count zero, if he wants to fuck he has to put a ring on it first
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 03:54 AM
2

Finally found one!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 04:25 PM
1

Haha I thought so. Welcome back!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 04:05 AM
1

This user with a very similar name who disappeared out of the blue one day
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 03:54 AM
1

Based on my experience going to a girls' school I would say this is pretty accurate. A common assumption I see on here is that the entire spectrum of female emotion is pretty much universally embraced and accepted while male emotion is not. At my school it was perfectly normal for girls to break down crying in the hallway and others who may or may not even know them to rush in and comfort them. When I was in elementary and middle school (co-ed) girls were very much looked down on and bullied if …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 03:52 AM
1

Wait are you who I think you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 03:27 AM
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Nope, it's very possible. I find that more often than not it's just a matter of knowing what kind of people you want to surround yourself with and sticking to it. I have yet to meet a person IRL who bitched about all of their friends/exes being shallow who wasn't at least in some way contributing to the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 03:25 AM
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Some less so than others, cupcake.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 03:18 AM
1

Age! Pretty sure this has been done before but I've always been curious to find out if there are any active users around the same age as me (20).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 08:13 PM
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To be fair I feel like the anti-feminists here talk about feminism more than the feminists lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 08:11 PM
1

Quite a bit for me I think. Pretty much all of my exes have had beat-up Jeeps and pick-up trucks. Maybe it's because I'm very much a city girl and I'm used to the more small and generic sleek-looking ones so it's kind of fun to try something different. Though I think it probably helps that since those cars tend to be fairly high up off the ground (and I'm 5'2"-5'3"ish) guys can get pretty creative on how to use that to their advantage. One of them in particular would come over to my side and kin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 08:51 AM
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This might just be me but I find that it's way easier to select out and avoid shallow people irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 08:24 AM
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Ask him why the hell he's dating online if he wants to weed out shallow people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 04:46 AM
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Or a spare Macbook Pro if they have one lying around.😁
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 04:51 PM
1

Not attracted to men who wear them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:17 PM
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But understanding female sexual nature can help men in the SMP. And women absolutely HATE that men are trying to understand female sexual nature. They have all the power in the SMP and do not want to give that power away. So they hate on RP because we're figuring it out. I see men on here say that all the time but I don't really see the evidence for it outside of "women are mean to RP." There are many many reasons to be hard on RP outside of some kind of desire to keep "low-value men" down, not …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:15 PM
1

Oh boy. This is the kind of issue that comes down to an individual's priorities essentially: preventing false accusations that could ruin a man's life or making sure a rapist isn't walking around free because the false accusation deterrents discouraged actual victims. Having your phone confiscated is very much associated with punishment, especially for a generation that's become crazy-reliant on phones. What's the first thing your parents do when you act out too much growing up? Take your phone.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:03 PM
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Like I said, if she's plain and has no other options yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 05:12 AM
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Doing shit around the house has jack all to do with it. Expecting her to cook has jack all to do with it. Placing all home chores on her has jack to do with it. Not having the value necessary to pull it off is the problem. Not making enough money, maintaining or growing your status, not gaming her, not being good in the sack and still expecting all those things is the problem. Its like being a fat, disgusting landwhale and expecting to marry a Jared Padaleck and keep him faithful. And my point i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 03:31 AM
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Interesting. Last I checked your comment made it sound like a man is pretty much set in terms of keeping his wife as long as he's hot, rich, and other women want him no matter what else he does or doesn't do for his wife. I mean if she was just barely lucky enough to snag that guy maybe. If she's still young, attractive, and can a. find another man who has what he has and then some (may or may not include those dishes) or b. Has to compromise on his earnings but still has access to her ex's mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:12 AM
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Annd this is why I repeat the Play-Doh mantra to myself when I find myself getting attracted to fun, spontaneous bad-boy types: "Fun to play with, not to eat!"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:47 AM
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Interesting. Well for the first one I can't really say much since I have a weirdly high threshold for tolerating feminine behaviors/mannerisms from men and still experiencing sexual attraction, to the point where in the past I've wondered if I'm actually latently bisexual to some degree (later decided that's not how it works, but still). For me the only feminine behavior that might affect my attraction is dress (if he's full-on wearing stereotypically "girly" things like skirts and dresses). As …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:45 AM
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Annd one of my major takeaways from this thread: some husbands be like "fuck her satisfaction with this relationship as long as I'm getting laid." Good thing I'm deadset on the whole marriage and kids thing or this thread would be sending me back to my convent phase lol. And then the standard response would probably be: but her fucking him is how she conveys satisfaction. Idk but having a marriage that's pretty much just a glorified long-term fwb with kids in the picture doesn't sound satisfying…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:25 AM
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You honestly think that by the RP model if she finds a new dude that has everything he does plus the stuff current husband lacks she won't be tempted to leave, collect her alimony, and move on? There was a girl at my private school who was known for her mom divorcing her dad (he was loaded, can't remember his exact position but it had something to do with oil) and getting with a hot young firefighter. I mean she was still getting that hefty divorce settlement at the end of the day plus the firef…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:03 AM
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What do you mean by "should be followed"? As in what are the bare minimum gender norms a man has to follow for me to still want to fuck him? As in what gender norms should just kind of be followed because something something degeneracy is bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 11:10 AM
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Damn Red, I knew you would be back in the game before long. What's she like?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 07:23 AM
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I would probably be considered feminine in most ways but I do have a desire to play the traditionally masculine role of breadwinner while my husband stays at home (the traditionally feminine role) and looks after the children and can take care of me when I get home at the end of the day. I also have a preference for gentle guys who know how to do "women's work" like cooking, baking, design, sewing, etc. On top of this I have experienced raw sexual attraction to several of my gay and bisexual mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 07:09 AM
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I write fiction (checkmate!), hang out with friends and family, dance (though since I'm on a team with a pretty regimented schedule Idk if that's considered free time), listen to music (especially K-Pop and basic bitch rock like Fall-Out Boy and Panic! at the Disco), watch anime, game, shop for cute plushies online, pray, go to Mass, the list goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 05:10 PM
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A lot of people look at me like I have two heads when I say that I want so many kids lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 05:02 PM
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There's this phenomenon in California and New York where accomplished female UCLA, NYU, and Columbia law students who go on to work at big firms for big salaries and marry their loser hipster boyfriends with shitty liberal arts degrees. Their husbands often end up underemployed. Still a working class salary, but not the long hours or stress that their lawyer wives endure. In their spare time while the wives are off working high stress, long hour jobs, their husbands hang out at coffee shops doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 04:48 AM
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I would totally go for that kind of guy lol, assuming his area of study is at least mildly fascinating to me. I would probably try to convince him to stay home with the kids or at least get a job he enjoys with flexible hours if he didn't have one already.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 04:43 AM
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No, high-n men do not pair bond in the same way that low/zero n men do, or at least that's been my experience. There are confounding factors though, such as values and religion. I know plenty of high-n women who complain about "clingy" behaviors from low-n men though, including non-religious ones/and ones who have a ton of other options besides the girl they're attached to. ​ The key thing is, if you buy into the competing imperatives thing (men are hardwired for multiple partners, women want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 08:56 PM
1

Yah based on the stuff I've seen from you seem more no pill than blackpill and/or MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 11:29 PM
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They don't like Red since that pill (to many of them) involves building up a life that revolves around female attraction. They aren't blue for obvious reasons. And so many stick with black pill as their label.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 11:23 PM
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MGTOW is usually sorted under the black pill umbrella, and many claim to be voluntarily celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 11:16 PM
1

Red- discussing sexual strategy that will (supposedly) get you with as many women as possible without committing seriously to any of them because there's no way to keep a woman 100% faithful and interested forever Married Red- Red but either found TRP late and is already married (whoops) or found a unicorn. In theory. Aims to keep said unicorn attracted to them or at least keep themselves in a position where breaking from and replacing unicorn will be easy if it doesn't work out. Blue- disagrees…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 10:53 PM
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I mean I guess it's raised the standards of women who don't go out much? It's really not that hard to just go out to a bar or party or club or whatever and find attractive guys who are dtf. Or maybe my perspectives is skewed because college.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:12 AM
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You've never met the kind of person who can strike up fear in people without raising their voices?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 11:20 PM
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Stoic guys can be firm without sounding like they're about to flip their shit any second. Maybe I'm weird, but outright rage turns me off. He's pretty much having a bitch fight with me on my level at that point. I like it when he says what needs to be said and then doesn't engage with me again until I'm on his level.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 11:05 PM
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I do remember reading once that boys are steered toward competitive play in their formative years while girls are encouraged to play cooperatively. I see how this can create problems though since boys have the potential to learn about somewhat healthy competition early on where the kids involved are still friends at the end of the day while girls are conditioned to work together but are then faced with the reality that "no we can't always work together, and someone has to come out on top" later.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 09:49 PM
1

To me non-stoic men are open books. You never have to guess what they're thinking or wait for them to say it; it's literally right there on their faces. I can get along okay with guys like that; I'm friends with quite a few. But I'm not really attracted to that in a sexual sense. Stoic guys can fall into various categories, most of which I'm attracted to. I tend to describe them in terms of weather. Sunny stoics tend to be pretty laid-back and at peace by default, but are more than happy to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 09:26 PM
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I dunno, my stoic friends are usually the first to point out when I'm being irrational or unreasonable. They don't lash out or yell or anything. They just give me this look like "Seriously, Joy?", tell me what they're thinking, and ignore me until I come back to my senses. I find that weirdly hot. Retroactively.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 08:51 PM
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And if we're married...Sorry!😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:44 PM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:34 PM
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My wetness and tingles? I was hoping not to have to spell it out but we're all friends here I guess, so why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:18 PM
1

Or about how it gets dry as a desert down there if he's too hard...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:14 PM
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I am sexually attracted to those things though Should I write a couple paragraphs on how it gets me all wet and tingly when I cuddle with soft guys...or is that TMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:11 PM
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Trad-lite religious chick, so most of them I guess? My first priority for a partner is that he's Catholic. I can maybe work with a Christian who's some other denomination, atheist/agnostic probably wouldn't work. I care very much about my partner's education level. Preferably it's on par with mine or higher. I don't care how much money that translates into as long as he keeps me on my toes intellectually. He can be a stay-at-home dad for all I care as long as he's useful around the house and loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:03 PM
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There's a lot of "women only nag men they don't respect" coming up in the comments in terms of AWALT. I mean if you have your shit together and actually do what needs to be done why would a woman nag? I don't think it's a case of women being so wildly attracted they just let their husband sit around and do absolutely nothing worthwhile for the household. Anyways, to more directly answer the OP, yes, frustration with men who don't have their shit together can lead to so-called AWALT behaviors. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 05:00 PM
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You're aiming for serious relationships and marriage. That's key here. Women don't really need guides for hooking up or casual dating while men do...apparently. As a 20-year-old I can definitely say that the majority of guys our age aren't necessarily interested in what you're looking for. They want to explore, have fun, maybe experiment with LTR's but they certainly aren't thinking in terms of "forever" when it comes to those. Getting guys like that to commit is very difficult, even if in theor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 06:36 PM
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This might be too much to ask for but how about we form our ideals and values on the basis of something stronger than "but will this get me laid." That way we don't have a bunch of people ready to flip tables over when a. those values don't get you laid and b.people without those values are still getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 06:17 PM
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To put it simply, no. Birth control is a short-term fix, yes, but I think it's common for young women to fear this potential progression from finding THE ONE to serious relationship to marriage to children, so they nip it in the bud early and delay that part of their lives for the time being. Like a "once the ride starts you can't get off" kind of thing. Many of my female friends who consider themselves the types to hold off on kids or never have them at all find themselves reconsidering it more…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 07:48 AM
1

Isn't escapism a pretty common aspect of pop culture? Why would people want to be reminded of the fact that they're going to die alone in their escapism-focused media?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 06:56 AM
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One word: babies Even as a tradcon who's deadset on having at least six kids I do often think about how/if pregnancies and child-rearing will balance with my work life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 06:50 AM
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No problem! And thank you!!😁
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 10:45 PM
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In this case is "cheater" exclusively referring to someone who cheats because of a dead bedroom? I definitely think that cheating on a spouse who is doing everything "right" just because another person seems more attractive or interesting in the moment is definitely worse than deadbedrooming. There's often this assumption that if a spouse cheats it's because their partner screwed something up. I honestly believe that some people cheat just because they can. Also, related question that might be s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 09:13 PM
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We might have to agree to disagree. I started dating at 16. Even clumsy guys around that age seemed to have a better understanding of boundaries than the 24-year-old. I met him off-campus; he was into bodybuilding and liked to post his workouts to Instagram on his account. He was pretty much a standard Chad type with a bunch of female followers. None of the girls at my school knew him well so it's not like I had heard rumors about him or anything. Everything I say is based on my own experience. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 06:01 PM
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This is going to depend entirely on how an individual approaches friendships in terms of utility. I would say that 80% of my close friendships are based in receiving entertainment, emotional support, sharing hobbies together, or a combination of two or more of those. If a person can't provide any of those things although I might have strong rapport with them and will always be cordial, it's not long we're going to be hanging out on weekends or anything. Some people care more about intellectual s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:44 PM
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I was 19 and he was like 24. There was a massive experience gap since I came from a very sheltered upbringing and was still getting acclimated to life outside my parents' house (he was fully aware of that) and he...didn't, to say the least. He kept trying to make out with me when I repeatedly told him I didn't want to do that anymore (I gave in because we were in his car and I didn't want him to leave me stranded on the side of the road or something) and flat-out asked me to get on the backseat …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:29 PM
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r/punpatrol is the best sub on this accursed website. CMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:57 AM
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I might not be of much help since I'm kind of a tradcon-lite with a feminist streak, but I'll try. I guess positive masculinity to me looks like a man with a healthy sense of confidence in himself, who builds people up instead of trying to tear them down, who protects the people dear to him, whether that be in a physical or emotional sense, who gives zero fucks what others think about his masculinity, who is okay with showing his emotional side (no seriously, one of the first guys I dated told m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:18 AM
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The incels tend to leave pretty quickly, between the mods and Atlas. Unless I'm missing some who have become regulars here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:05 AM
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Hmm, I think I understand what you're saying now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:54 AM
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Dangerous in what sense? To their wives, plates, the women they flat-out refuse to associate with anymore except maybe sex in the case of a certain group? I get how some of it might be upsetting to read if you're not used to it but I wouldn't call many of the men here dangerous. Might they break a few hearts? Yes, that happens. Would I hang around people who openly think or behave like them irl? Lol probably not. (In before "BuT yOu CaN't TeLl." I mean if a dude is full-on "beta" mode irl he mus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:47 AM
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What on earth, Atlas. I'm not used to seeing you get so emotional over something. I mean, what about YO's comment is wrong? Are there not entire swaths of women who know how to use their words and prefer to communicate their desires in a straightforward way?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:29 AM
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Y'all might wanna get a safe word or something. There are so many ways this could end badly. Maybe this is just me but being touched in any way without my permission is naturally scary for me. Growing up I hated being hugged or kissed by strangers and relatives I didn't know well. As far as my relationships go I'm very shy when it comes to anything even remotely sexual, so I prefer when the guy lets me lead, at least at first. My first kiss involved a guy coming onto me without even hinting that…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:25 AM
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OMG he shaved his face for a new role and now I think I'm lowkey in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:14 AM
1

I discovered why the secular conservative men I had dated in the past behaved the way they did. Now I exclusively date other Catholics. In terms of feeling I was pretty sick/grossed out. But then I was weirdly grateful that I now understand how many of those types operate. I can shut things down early so no one's time is wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:11 AM
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I've dated multiple guys who eventually admitted to being "I'm not into black girls" types in the past. For every hard requirement in someone's romantic life there are almost always some exceptions. Perhaps you just weren't one of them. As for the flirty part, I find that black women are often misinterpreted as flirty when that's just how we naturally are in a lot of cases. At one of her first jobs my mom told me she always smiled and chatted enthusiastically with everyone. Then one of her cowor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 12:07 AM
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I hang out with them, listen to their stories, make it clear that I have no desire to judge them. In return they respect my decision to wait until marriage and don't nag or tease me over it, and are also willing to listen to my stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 11:59 PM
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Don't worry, I'm not really into the more in the weeds evo-psych theory. Specifically reading certain material on here helped me to understand some of the basics a sheltered girl should know: the kinds of things a guy will do when he wants sex, the sheer variety of "types" that men have , why a man might agree to take things slow and then try to initiate sex minutes later, that simply saying that I don't want sex isn't "enough" to totally kill a man's expectations as many believe that it's just …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 08:49 PM
1

I can't speak as to what the sub means to more experienced women but for me it definitely helped me to gain a better understanding of male sexuality (one of my few gripes about attending an all-girl school was being pretty sheltered in that regard). I don't necessarily agree with any particular pill but the various perspectives tend to overlap on some key points that have proved quite useful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:11 AM
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I was going by the definitions Smoogs used. I don't like them because they miss important nuances people tend to consider when discussing entitlement, but he wanted to debate in that frame so I decided to stick to the rubric rather than argue over definitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:08 AM
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Ah, I was just wondering since I thought I recognized you from Japan Circle Jerk or something. That place is wild. Polite form is the default we were taught but a lot of the native speakers I speak with tease me about it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 06:42 PM
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Oh...okay. 日本語が話せるか。
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 06:29 PM
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Huh. I guess I was projecting my way of going about things onto other people. I went ahead and edited the comment to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 05:19 PM
1

And that's totally valid, and you are entitled to believe that. Meanwhile men who think that way aren't entitled to my attention. Can't negotiate attraction sadly...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 05:19 PM
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Anyone would just assume a guy made that implication and then we just...stared at each other, or didn't at least chat about his reasons for saying that? But your point is noted! I'll edit just in case. Thanks for the catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 04:33 PM
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Thank you for the advice, stranger, who was present for exactly none of these interactions and are assuming that I don't ask them to elaborate lol. Yes, I do indeed know how to use my words. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 04:12 PM
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<sup>Google</sup> translate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 03:53 PM
1

Anyone can resist anyone. People who talk bullshit about "I couldn't resist him/her!" need to learn the secret, ancient technique called "self-control." By this point of logic you are literally selecting for women who can't control themselves. That's great when the person in question is you, but not so much if she meets some other equally attractive guy next week. Vetting is filled with "bullshit and games." That's a fact of life. The only way to cut right to the chase on all counts is to not ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 03:22 PM
1

"You're not like other girls." Often said in a way that implies "all women are trash...except you." I don't have any interest in men who look down on women as a whole. I just don't need that kind of negativity in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 02:41 PM
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I didn't assume anything. That's why I used my anecdote: while my sister and I preferred our mother to the point where our father's absence didn't phase us at all, my brother did. And even if older children are closer with the father should we just stick young children with him whether they like it or not hoping that they'll grow fonder of him over time? Fun fact: At one point in history (during the 1700s or so), if there was a divorce, it was customary for the mother to raise the kids until the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 08:37 PM
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Yes. I didn't really know anything at all about guy game at the time so I assumed those were just weird personality quirks lol. He also seemed kind of confused about why I wasn't responding to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 04:31 PM
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My parents are like this. Once my mom started making a comfortable amount she convinced my Dad to retire and stay at home. He got bored though so now he's going back to work again. My mom liked having him at home to handle the finances and clean the house and whatnot so she's kinda sad tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 04:20 PM
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That's not a question that I think has ever been answered. Also relevant though is the assumption that children prefer their mothers. I'm not sure what the stats say, but I think, at least for older children, there might actually be a preference for the father, so I wouldn't go too far with that assumption. I didn't assume anything. That's why I used my anecdote: while my sister and I preferred our mother to the point where our father's absence didn't phase us at all, my brother did. And even if…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:59 PM
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In the time it takes a father to go through the legal system to get his kids back, the mother has already pouted her children's minds, convincing them that their father is no good, and by then, the kids naturally end up preferring the mother. But how can we actually prove that this is what happened as opposed to children just naturally preferring their mother in most cases? I think it's a bit much to assume that every time a child opts for their mother it's because of brainwashing. I'm not sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:08 PM
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Question about child custody gap. Don't children have some say in which parent they go with in many cases? If so, are there studies showing which parent children tend to prefer living with? My parents separated when I was young (got back together within a few months, happily married now). I didn't really notice my dad's absence at all (he worked long hours so I wasn't seeing him much to begin with), and neither did my sister. My brother on the other hand was devastated, and my parents largely go…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 12:25 PM
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Gotta be male, devout Catholic, no more than three years older, clean-shaven, in college or graduated, and open to having at least six kids. Within the population as a whole that's probably like 1% but within my immediate social circles it's about 25%.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:49 AM
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Reverse the genders and you'll find plenty of movies that treat incidents that essentially amounted to rape or assault as erotic and/or justified (Revenge of the Nerds is still considered a classic even though one of the main characters rapes a sorority chick by pretending to be her boyfriend or something).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:20 AM
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Definitely. Ideally he would be a virgin. If he made a mistake or two with some girls in the past maybe I would consider him if I have no reason to distrust him. Any more than that and I'd seriously think twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 03:25 AM
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Most people in my life seem to define "what it means to be a man" in terms of the men they most admired growing up. The men whose lives they've always wanted, or whose lives they want to be a part of in the case of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 05:36 PM
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Also, another thing. What you're saying might make sense from the perspective of the male imperative but not female. So assigning an objective "standard" that both genders will agree on in this is impossible. From the perspective of the female imperative it definitely makes sense to hold men to a comparable (or perhaps even harsher) standard on n in order to monopolize a single man's resources and not have to share with the 50 women he's fucked before and/or after and any children conceived in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 10:20 PM
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Hard disagree. As a tradcon I want to marry a fellow virgin, or low-n. And while we like to treat this sub as a "moralize-free" zone I am sure as hell moralizing in real life when it comes to finding the partner I will be bound to until the day I die. Almost all women I know who waited until marriage married men who were doing the same. High-n guy is great for promising to wait with you until he starts getting that itch and starts coming around with sex ultimatums, or (arguably worse) straying o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 10:00 PM
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👏👏👏 And yes, I'm being totally sincere. I have a lot of respect for men who think like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 09:53 PM
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Are you really asking this question in good faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:25 PM
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And I'm asking why you're post definitions you don't actually believe in lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:22 PM
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I'm going based on the definitions you provided lol. Not too late to edit and take them back if you don't like those definitions anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:18 PM
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Notice definition 1, my dude. We just gonna ignore that now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:13 PM
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Never. Let's look at the two definitions you gave: >feeling that you have a right to the good things in life without necessarily having to work for them >an entitled person thinks they are special and deserve special treatment I wouldn't expect a random-ass dude to protect me just because. The men I expect protection from (blood relatives, future spouse) I hope that I would be adding enough value to their life to them to at least want to care for and protect me. As a good wife, a loyal daughter,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:09 PM
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Depends on who they're looking for. I don't know why someone would care about n counts unless they're religious, and want that Christian lifestyle, lol. Not gonna lie, I had never heard of secular people giving a fuck about N until I came to Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 02:54 PM
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For the most part I find that hookup culture is used to describe how hookups work within a given area (e.g. comparing the hookup cultures of different colleges or towns). That can include where people are hooking up, how people behave before and after, how common it is, whether or not it's ONS or FWB-heavy or both, etc. Basically how and when people are getting sex outside of LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:19 AM
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Good, so I guess this conversation is over! Nice talking with you. :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:08 AM
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I am from a pro-safe sex within committed relationships background, though picked up tradcon-lite beliefs in high school and decided to wait until marriage. I can only speak for women in their 20's but I don't really see that many girls racking up ridiculously high n's at this point. I know some of course, but they're kind of outliers. Most girls get boyfriends or fwbs they hook up with for a couple months before switching to someone else. Not a new guy every weekend. At this point (I'm exactly …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 03:05 AM
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The title of my OP is exactly as I intended it, thx. Kk then don't get upset when people address the premise that's literally in your title. No, I rebutted their attempt to redefine natural male preferences as 'sex negative' by exposing it as absurd through analogy (redefining a natural female preference as 'insecurity negative'). Not my fault if you didn't understand it. Yeah, it kind of is since you were too busy being passive aggressive with another user to get across your main point. Nope. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 02:50 AM
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Then the subject of your OP should be "Just as it is natural for men to dislike high n for relationships it is natural for women to avoid insecurity" or something along those lines. Instead you decided to create this tit for tat with another user for calling people like you sex negative by making up something that's not a thing. I'm not sure if you're the person I debated over whether or not evolutionarily ingrained relationship preferences which differ from sexual preferences are a thing. I sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 12:12 AM
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This doesn't really work because the term "sex" on its own is a neutral concept. There is no cultural consensus that sex itself is inherently bad. It's part of being human. "Insecurity" is pretty much universally seen as a negative thing, and always has been. It's associated with awkwardness, youth, inexperience, indecisiveness, etc. A lack of something. It is treated as something to be cured, and not at all encouraged. So we're all pretty much "insecurity negative" by default, making the term r…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 11:53 PM
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Ime clinging indicates distrust/paranoia/jealousy in a lot of cases. But it kind of comes down to how one defines "clinging."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 12:58 AM
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If that is truly the case I am so shook right now. Why would Bigger D exclusively post about his BDSM/sadism kink life on his other accounts tho? That's the main why I recognize him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 08:39 PM
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I honestly don't think that's BiggerD lol. But he does sound a lot like a former user who posted a lot of weird shit called Bearsaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 08:32 PM
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I have never seen that happen before lol. Yeah, he'll fuck maybe skinny-slightly overweight Becky if she wears enough eyeliner as well as Stacy but not absolutely anybody. They fuck whoever shows up at their parties and generally girls who aren't very confident in their looks don't go. Frat brothers are some of the most critical when it comes to looks, especially when they're drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 05:04 PM
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When my parents were getting serious my dad (23 at the time) basically told my mom (21) if she wanted him to stay she had to call up her male friends (orbiters?) and drop them since like 90% of them clearly wanted to get with her. She thought it was harsh at the time but she did it because she wanted him so badly. To this day my parents are happily married and do not have any serious opposite sex friends outside of blood relatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 12:23 PM
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Well they should, we live in "judgement free times" (at least for things pre-approved by the media). Sex is pre-approved so there's no consequences. Take advantage of it. Fewer/different consequences than there were in the past isn't the same as "no consequences." And besides, as a traddy trad I've already kinda decided that mainstream media shouldn't determine how I live my life. At least this way I can't bitch about the big bad media lying to me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 05:25 AM
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You said "real self" and then proceeded to only talk about her kinky side. So I assumed that was the only thing you were taking into consideration. As for the second part, that's great in theory but most women don't think like that. Leading to the phenomenon in your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 05:07 AM
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I think it's a bit much to reduce a woman's "real self" to her kinky side. Interacting with the opposite sex is an act in general, whether we consciously realize it or not. When we become comfortable in relationships that act begins to drop, a change that some couples survive and others don't. If you're asking why women more readily share their "sexual" selves with random hookups, my friends who are about that say a. hookups in general tend to select for dudes who have seen and tried (or are at …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 04:46 AM
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Didn't we just add a bunch of RP mods though? Do they...do things?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 08:37 AM
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And I'm basing my assertions on the ones I know from being on a college dance team and knowing many female athletes. They have no trouble snagging some of the most desirable guys on campus regardless of n. As for the drama and scandals, let's say these top tier men actually care. Why would a high tier man even want to be linked with a woman who is complicit in having a high-n image or is a sex symbol even if, hypothetically speaking, these women are supposedly faking and actually have low n's?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 03:45 AM
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i'm not saying that all high value guys will only accept completely inexperienced virgin. but there's a huge difference between having a few prior sexual partners and being a turboslut with a triple digit n-count. Interesting. So you don't necessarily count say 20 prior sexual partners as high? also, it's incorrect to assume that high SMV correlates to high n-count in women. in men, yes, the men with the highest n-counts are usually high SMV. but it doesn't necessarily work that way with women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 01:05 AM
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I honestly think y'all overestimate how much the average "high-value" guy cares about n lol. I say that as one of the weird tradcon chicks. Do you honestly think the crazy hot supermodels high-tier men often go for haven't been around the block a couple times? I mean I dunno, they could be low-n but something tells me otherwise in most cases. Unless top tier women get wiggle room on N, which is something I could see happening if the high-value N thing is indeed true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 12:33 AM
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There are absolutely MGTOWs who have sex with women (quite a few came during the last purge). They fuck women but refuse to give them anything besides sex or interact with them outside of getting sex. So are they not serious about MGTOW? Because if only anti feminist women were getting dick and relationships it would be harder to be a Feminist. There are no consequences for being a feminist in dating. So you've never heard of the bitchy feminist cat lady who can allegedly get sex and fuck well b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 12:19 AM
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That is my point. I prefer the term different not "not equal" though. I'm trying to get the idea across to OP that most women do not understand the "sex as validation" concept. Because fucking econ bro on the side isn't a "point for feminism" in our eyes. So in turn we don't usually see fucking an anti-feminist as "point for anti-feminism."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 12:06 AM
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TIL guys of a certain demographic only chase this booty because they're brainwashed. :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 11:41 PM
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Wait why was the "has society left behind the men and boys" topic removed? It seemed pretty tame compared to some of the threads we've gotten lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 11:29 PM
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How do you feel about the conservative bro and feminist example? Do you think that his willingness to have sex with a feminist means that he's not serious about being a conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 11:25 PM
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I find it interesting that so many men think of feminism in terms of "but will acting the way they say to get me laid?" Take my friend for example. She's perfect wifey material. She's attractive, works out,good girl, good grades, kind, caring, feminine, doesn't have a resentful bone in her body. Think RPW dream girl, high RMV. She just got dumped by her boyfriend of three years because "he's too busy" and isn't ready to settle down. Is she supposed to drop everything now, abandon her values, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 10:45 PM
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And I have my doubts that a woman who expects absolutely nothing from her partner and invests everything doesn't have her own issues. It's a balancing act. But OP clarified that he does invest in her too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:37 PM
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Oo oo, I wanna try next! I don't know how to do the fancy text thing but... A knowing smile She hides among the lillies A shy gaze on you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 05:03 AM
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Unpopular opinion, but I seriously think the amount of asshurt over the Bud Light thing is kind of ridiculous. You would think that the chick literally poured the beer on him and walked out then and there and OP was standing at the door to give her a high-five lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 04:01 AM
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😂😂😂 I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:55 AM
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Lol I used to use "creamy crack" but it made my hair break off so badly. I chopped most of it off, used weave for a while, and once the length was good again I just started straightening it like once a week with Paul Mitchell stuff and a flat iron. I'm not biracial but I can kind of relate since I grew up in the suburbs and have the stereotypical bougie light-skinned mom haha. I take more after my dad's skin though so I'm pretty dark.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:31 AM
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Depends. What's your hair texture, and what's the predominant race in your friend group. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 02:59 AM
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Ah okay, thank you for that clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:50 PM
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I had no idea you were another black lady on this sub! I only knew of myself and Poppy (plus Jammerly but she's not around anymore).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:36 PM
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Do a cost-benefit analysis here. You seem to assume this strategy will select out all parasitic/low-quality women while high-quality will not be. Any any any hard dating filter under the sun risks selecting out people who might be suitable partners. For example, my own selects heavily for men with limited if any sexual experience, though I am getting what matters most to me at the end of the day in the form of a religious/tradition-focused man to marry and raise a family with. I think it's impor…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:30 PM
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I like this friend already. Other people might call her a snobby bitch (can relate, have been called that and "bougie" irl). But I see nothing inherently wrong with her preferences, up to and including the Bud thing. The thing is, I think when you set those standards you need to be prepared to go all-in. Will she pussy out and settle when the biological clock starts ticking, or follow through no matter what? If not she may as well call it quits now and reconsider her standards while she still ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:10 PM
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Your point? For women who care about monogamy generally it doesn't matter whether or not he's "serious" about the side ho. Either he's fucking her, possibly to get some of that same action he had in the past, or he isn't. There could be zero emotional attachment there on his part but he still cheated on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 08:14 PM
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I've been called a thot multiple times and the full extent of my sexual experience is making out with this one dude lol. I'm waiting until marriage for many reasons but reputation ain't one. Somebody's going to have a problem no matter what we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 08:03 PM
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My personal problem with that is the question of whether a man has some automatic "off" switch that'll suddenly make him lose interest in the high-n women he's been dating once he's married. If there isn't he's probably going to keep fucking those women on the side while low-n wife struggles to keep up with his needs. It seems that men who just marry the kinds of women they like dating from the start (in theory) end up in the best shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 07:54 PM
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Lol why are you friends with them. RUN.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 03:08 AM
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For the rest of my life. Even though Catholics are allowed to get civil divorces under dire circumstances we're still expected to maintain our vow of sexual fidelity to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 11:35 PM
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Many of the same reasons as you (familial/religious) but something about having a nice husband to come home to and a shit ton of kids (like 6+) seems so wonderful to me. I would say an ideal marriage would be one in which I can truly trust him enough to pour my heart out and feel 100% safe with him, and that he can feel the same with me. I'm not really afraid if commitment, but I guess that goes without saying... I don't believe in divorce outside of dire circumstances such as abuse or constant,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 11:05 PM
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Actually she's changed my mind on quite a few things and I look up to her in many ways. So she's got one fan at least lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 09:37 PM
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Alpha-guy who makes we want to follow him around Beta-guy I want to lead around I use these definitions because I feel as if the alpha/beta distinction is tough to describe with words. It's more of a vibe. No one else should use this definition because it's not very useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 06:53 PM
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Huh, give up what? I'm just chatting with you about my experience as a 20-year-old getting pursued by older students who have a similar mindset to you. They are not attractive to me, or any other girls I know. Sorry if I'm upsetting you...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 04:29 PM
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Yeahhh that's what they all think. And then I have to figure out how to get away from some thirty-something STEM lord who wants me to drop out of school and have his babies while he finishes his masters.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 08:14 AM
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From my end it looks like the opposite, outside of girls with raging daddy issues or, more commonly, debt to pay off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 07:59 AM
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I guess I could see that. Thanks to the kinds of activities I'm into my main friend groups select for extremes (people who have never had sex in one group and people who have had sex through FWB, ONS, committed relationships, etc. in the other). Much of what I know about secular dating comes from the latter group (and a bit from PPD). I would have a hard time understanding it otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 05:58 AM
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Right outside that sweet spot. Darn.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 05:25 AM
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Nah not really. Only on Reddit do I constantly see this idea that girls my age are always chasing after older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 04:30 AM
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People past a certain age just don't register on my radar in terms of sexual attraction. Seriously, even some of People magazine's alleged hottest men do nothing for me since many are so much older. I would run from them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 04:21 AM
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She goes to her friends for advice and they say he's an asshole and manipulative for leaving her like that The fuck? Have none of these friends ever had an ONS before? I've heard about a girl and her friends getting upset when a guy she fucked literally a night before just flat-out refused to acknowledge her whatsoever the next day. I do think that's kind of harsh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 04:19 AM
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Please don't be one of the creepy old ass masters students who just casually roll up and hit on us like we're all into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 04:05 AM
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Yup, that's the one. Her fanboys would disagree with you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 10:34 PM
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Mhmm, definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 10:22 PM
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As a tradcon case I might be able to help you out. "Pick me"s strike me as women who are trying waaay too hard to come across as the traditional "based wife" type coveted amongst highly conservative men. They act like complete doormats who would never dare to challenge an SO in any way, shape, or form. They often grew up liberal/feminist but are now desperate to separate themselves from that to a basically obnoxious degree. There's this one YouTuber in particular like that who basically looks li…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:47 PM
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Hmmm maybe I should add that this particular Red invalidated and directly attacked several users before I came in. But I do think it's better to let the mods resolve that sort of thing now rather than participate in the shitshow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 11:41 AM
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First guy because I fucking love skinny fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 11:33 AM
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Huh, I guess that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 09:38 PM
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I believe that some areas of human interaction are less bound to traditional rules of morality than others are. Say, the classic "lying about the surprise party" example or killing someone as an act of self-defense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 06:06 PM
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Yes indeedy it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:48 PM
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Getting thirsty randos the fuck away from you is amoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:34 PM
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Assuming I still had access to wigs and weaves sure why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:06 PM
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People are vulnerable after breakups. I'm taking it slow with a guy right now who just broke up with his GF about a month or so ago. We're hanging out together this weekend but I'm going to let him set the pace on whatever ends up happening. I generally advise others to do the same, regardless of gender. Like damn give people space. Not everyone is eager to jump right back into the game after a hard breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 03:54 PM
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Hmm good point. Though I've seen my male friends with their stage makeup on and didn't really mind it. For reference though one of the celebrities I was most attracted to growing up was Adam Lambert and he's known for wearing a shitton of makeup. I may be an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 08:48 PM
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For the makeup part, of course. Don't most if not all male actors/models wear it? I don't see how that would be any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 09:34 AM
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Ohhhh. I guess I get it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 07:05 PM
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Ehh the conditions of marriage I'm used to are no dating or fucking other people so I assumed that swinging meant you could do both. I guess not...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 06:57 PM
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So swingers can fuck other people but can't date them? No seriously. I think I'm gonna need a flowchart if I'm gonna keep up with all the relationship dynamics on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 06:45 PM
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23+ is not a big deal. By then most women are out in the real world and are actually starting to include full-on adults in their peer groups, which naturally includes their dating pool. I have seen users here unironically say that the majority of college age girls (so we're talking around 18-22) are more attracted to older men than their peers. That's definitely a stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 04:59 PM
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For me personally (20F) anybody over 30 who's looking for girls around my age or younger. 25+ starts getting into the danger zone but I wouldn't necessarily call them creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 04:44 PM
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Have not had sex with either, but have dated both. In general the liberal guys were more straightforward about their intentions and cared more about what I was or wasn't comfortable with. They kind of wanted me to let my hair down and explore when it came to sex but didn't push me if I didn't want it. I'm still on good terms with the liberal guys I had to break with over differing views on sex. Conservative guys are different...Ime they tend to pay lip service to liking the fact that I come acro…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 04:38 PM
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I've seen tradcon used in three ways: socially conservative, politically conservative, or both. The women in those pics look like they fall in group 2. 1's and 3's wouldn't have their T&A out on camera for random men to gawk at.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:16 PM
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Lol. Probably for the best. I was kinda rowdy starting out since I didn't really know the PPD rules. I think I accidentally hurt a Red's feelings and made him leave the sub forever...He tried to tell on me to the mods but they were already sick of his shit so they didn't do anything and he left a comment on the thread like a week later still complaining about it. I feel like current mod team would have sniped my ass though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:39 PM
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I still have no idea. :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:26 PM
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Do you know if your school has a Catholic student community of some sort? It's usually based in or around a Catholic church on campus.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:20 PM
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Also, are you in college or past that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:18 PM
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Well for starters I'm Catholic. Devout Catholics are often hesitant to date non-Catholics (including Protestants) since we're required to raise our kids in the faith or the marriage will not be granted by the church. Lurk r/catholicdating if you're curious about how Catholic women think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:15 PM
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Yeah. I'm one myself, as are many of my friends. We tend to date guys we meet through our church communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 02:39 PM
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The subreddit is called "Men Going Their Own Way." Not "Let's Sit Around and Vent About Women." The name creates the false sense that these users are done with women and are looking for other things to do with their lives but that's not what actually happens. Which is why the entire thing just comes across as disingenuous and sounds like a bunch of guys in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 05:44 AM
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I basically addressed this with another user. As a dry student in college I do understand experiencing that kind of frustration but I don't think that resenting people who do drink a lot is a productive way to cope with it. If I did I would be limiting myself to only hanging out with dry students while there are so many wonderful people in my life who do like to party a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 12:36 AM
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Ohh I see. Yeah, I'm talking about the sub. I had a similar chat with another user the other day about whether r/Catholicism necessarily reflects the beliefs of the Catholic community as a whole (in my opinion it's a no).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 08:46 PM
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My very comment in this thread establishes that I'm talking about Reddit MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 08:34 PM
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As someone who doesn't drink at all and doesn't plan to thanks to a history of alcoholism in her family I can definitely sympathize. But I don't exactly feel inclined to start or join a Reddit sub solely dedicated to bashing people over it. Instead I focus on going to alcohol-free events with my other dry friends or just smile and say no thanks when people do offer alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 08:18 PM
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I feel an agree to disagree coming on, but I don't think you can separate the "shitposting" from the identity of the sub, especially if that makes up most of the content. And even if the skeleton of the sub is made up of these objectives I think that the actual execution pretty much encourages an unhealthy obsession with women. Note that "obsession" does not have to have its basis in positive emotion. A fan club dedicated to a celebrity and a hate club that loves to bash them can be equally obse…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 04:18 PM
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It's about disengaging with institutions they believe advantage women. Perhaps we have two different definitions of the word "disengage." You don't disengage with something by bitching about it constantly and not going a single second without forgetting about it. Take your BLM point as an example. Their goal isn't to to disengage from society, it's to change society in a way that suits their goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:54 PM
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Based on my experiences with the sub I'm gonna have to say you're wrong. Maybe I caught it at a bad time since r/incels had just been banned and I heard several of them migrated to MGTOW in the aftermath, but 80% of the posts were bitching about single moms, complaining that women aren't capable of love, and stories where OP gets patted on the back for overreacting to some woman being nice to him and going into "begone thot" mode. Your take is such an obviously bad one yet it gets repeated ad na…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:45 PM
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People get off to the stuff that they would like in real life. No. People can get off to fantasies that they know they wouldn't necessarily want in real life, or at least women can. During my high school porn phase I liked the vanilla stuff but after a certain amount of time I kind of became numb to it since I always knew what to expect. To get myself turned on I had to watch unexpected or kinky things for a while, then switched back to soft vanilla when my body was able to react to it again. Fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:36 PM
2

Have you ever actually been to an A.A. meeting? I haven't, but something tells me it doesn't entail constantly complaining about how evil alcohol is and seeing any individual who attempts to offer them alcohol as part of a global conspiracy to get them to relapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:14 PM
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Reddit MGTOW? Men who are obsessed with women who try to convince themselves that they're not obsessed with women by obsessing over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 06:46 AM
1

For guys past 20 or so yeah. A lot of women here are attracted to the lumberjack aesthetic as I like to call it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 03:30 PM
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Clean-shaven. I was wildly attracted to this generic Chad-type guy when his face was basically 100% shaven. Then the beard happened. He kissed me out of the blue while we were out on a drive together but I felt absolutely nothing lol. He shaved and snapped me later that night though so I think he got the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 09:54 PM
1

Those things are both completely possible in a polygamous framework. Yes, you can love your 9 surviving kids along with the three sexually attractive women you had them with. That doesn't mean you're "evolved" to commit exclusively to any particular one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:51 AM
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Nah. My mom didn't do casual sex. She was more of a serial monogamy type. She was young, smart, and known for being outgoing and attractive. She didn't fuck anyone who wouldn't commit to her, and she could afford to set those standards because the guys wanted her so badly. As for my dad, in no way were his options limited lol. He was a typical frat guy getting chased especially by the girls from their sister sorority. He could have his pick there but instead he went with an unaffiliated girl. Su…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:35 AM
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That's one hell of a leading question, but I'll bite. I think it's perfectly reasonable to feel entitled to your partner's trust unless you've actually done something to warrant suspicion. Why would you even be in a relationship with someone you can't trust, or who doesn't trust you? Hell why would you even be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:48 AM
2

Shit, I just looked him up. Okay, so I'm up to two now lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:14 AM
1

Huh? I was referring to claim that there's an innate "ew slut" reaction as opposed to a logical/rational one. Also, in case you're wondering, I have no personal stake in the issue as a tradcon waiting until marriage. I simply find it a fascinating topic to discuss, partially because my own mother is pretty much the polar opposite of me and was a straight-up sports groupie in college but still managed to marry a soft alpha and settle down by 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:14 AM
3

Very. I'm not holding off on sex and saving it for future hubby just for him to start talking some paternity test bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 05:57 PM
2

Aww okay. I'll be your second bitch in spirit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 04:30 AM
2

"Almost"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 04:26 AM
2

I SEE IT
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 04:22 AM
1

Niice. I'm that basic bitch whose favorite is No Tears Left to Cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 04:18 AM
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Yeah, they can. They cry about it, drink their sorrows away, and then find a new chick in a hot sec, whether it be a new relationship or something casual for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 04:17 AM
1

Favorite song from Thank U, Next?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 02:36 AM
1

What? I thought it was only available on DC's streaming platform. If it's on Netflix now I would cry happy tears.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 02:32 AM
2

Too old, so zero. The only older video game character I find somewhat attractive is Snake from Metal Gear. He gets a 7.5.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 02:31 AM
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Actual Catholicism. Many of them pretty much ignore Vatican II and everything that happened after, which started decades before Pope Francis.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:36 PM
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That's actually a good comparison lol. The sub is known for having a strong conservative bias, to the point where a few members are openly alt-right and get regularly upvoted. Most Catholics I know irl (myself included) are weirded out by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:51 PM
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No. Actual alphas can have have as many BP tendencies/beliefs as they want and still get laid. They're not sitting around contemplating how to get ahead in the SMP. They're living it. Most athletes I know are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:07 PM
1

It also depends on the location. At some locations the waitresses wear tiny tiny shorts but at others they wear full-on leggings most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:10 PM
1

It depends on the parent. If the dad is the kind of a guy who thinks breastaurant waitress = serving wench prostitute and treats the staff as such then demonstrating and passing on that kind of behavior to his kids is trashy. Though there's a good chance that was going to happen whether he took them to Hooters or not. I've heard that most guys act normal, tip well, and keep any flirting light and fun though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:08 PM
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Don't men become less valuable as they age? You could argue that their value stays intact, but only because they can do a late in the game beta bucks shift to keep the younger women coming. To be fair I've seen attractive young men fresh out of high school unironically admit to fucking milfs in exchange for gifts and stuff so maybe that trend will catch on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 12:30 AM
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Are you referring to some kind of experience you had with actual women? If so you might want to state that to help give the respondents a more concrete issue to address.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 12:17 AM
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Because that sounds like a really shitty and depressing way to live life to me. But eh. Gotta do what you gotta do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 12:05 AM
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Yeah, that's the plan anyway. I know that I have a lot of maturing to do before I could make the sacrifices necessary for a marriage to work, or even pick the right man to settle down with, but I'm striving to get there eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 09:51 PM
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Cheating on a guy No, because why would I do that to someone else if I don't want it done to me. Breaking up with a guy All but one of my breakups so far has been mutual, and in the one that wasn't he dumped me, not vice versa. Shit testing a guy I do engage in behavior that RP men would label shit testing, but not for the reasons RP says women do. I treat my female friends the same way, and I have happily fallen for and dated guys who "failed" my shit tests by RP standards. Liking a guy with a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 09:09 PM
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You're wrong. Friends with benefits are really common here, so by some metrics it was less than friendship lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 11:40 AM
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I think one of my exes may have been RP. If so, it worked in the sense that he got laid on the regular despite being a broke working class guy who had to move back in with his dad. It didn't work in that he ended up drawing in a lot of chicks he considered hot but trashy. I was his so-called unicorn until he realized I was serious about not putting out anytime soon and decided he didn't want anything to do with me anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 07:20 AM
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Or "Hold It!" lol. Or "I guess we all know whose milkshake brings all the boys to the yard", which is a more obscure one from Mia about Dahlia but my siblings and me got a kick out of it. So you're basically the second twin I've found on here, the first being bonslytoss. There was another user I used to geek out with all the time but she left. :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:56 AM
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Omgg I can't believe I missed that reference. I loved the first three games but I kinda fell off the bandwagon when Apollo Justice came out. My most vivid memory of it is how much Mia's death really fucked me up lol. As for the rest, I think I get you now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:27 AM
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Nowhere I guess. You said "take that incels" so I assumed you might be a virgin voluntarily like me. I fall in the tradcon territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:05 AM
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Ooo I see. Are you tradcon or...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 03:49 AM
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Lol nah, that may or may not be me if you count my past accounts. Edit: Oof, the downvotes. I didn't realize this was such a coveted title. Me likey.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 03:37 AM
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Friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 03:20 AM
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Somebody halp. Today a close guy friend of mine was giving me a ride back to my dorm. He's been helping me move stuff all day and is always there to help when I call on him. He's been dating a mutual friend for a while now and I assumed they were still together. Welp, come to find out while he was giving me a ride today they're "not together at the moment." We kept chatting as if nothing happened but I'm starting to wonder if he saw me asking if he was still with her as an IOI. Now I feel awkwar…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 03:17 AM
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I'll try to find it, but I'll have to search Ceddit and Removeddit. It was a thread talking about a game streamer who ended up beating his wife on camera or something like that after she threw a piece of cardboard at him. One particularly famous Red said he should have gone further, and most of the others went along with it or said nothing. The user who started it said that people were just saying DV is bad because they're "team women". Several blues and no pills reported the comments and called…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 02:04 PM
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Tough to compare since we're dealing with women from completely different eras who may have completely different goals and desires which reflect the times they live(d) in. Would a 50's housewife who can't even conceive of the freedoms offered by the modern SMP and doesn't know any other way of living be happy in the modern SMP? Maybe, but I would say probably not. Would a modern day married career woman who had complete autonomy in terms of sex and relationships throughout her life and grew up s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 01:46 PM
2

Remember that dumpster fire of a thread where several Reds outright advocated for domestic violence and only the non-Reds felt inclined to say/do anything about it? Idk, I think there's plenty of tribalism to go around.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 06:21 AM
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Call me a unicorn or a weirdo, but overly rock hard guys don't do it for me personally. They're more pleasing to look at but they're too hard for me to enjoy snuggling with. So I gotta make tradeoffs somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 04:47 AM
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Oooh I have to check out yourgreatlife. And Matthew makes me so weak. I think I would die of happiness if I met him in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 10:32 PM
1

Ah I see. For me social benefits increase my enjoyment of something. Don't get me wrong, I have niche interests too that don't necessarily confer social benefits (anime, gaming, etc.) But I think it's important to have a mix of both. That's what works for me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 10:04 PM
1

Aww, thank you Jingle! You're one of my new favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:08 PM
1

Keeping up socially, focusing on things I actually find interesting... Porque no los dos? The great thing about memes is that it's pretty much a universal language amongst people my age. I feel similarly about football, though it's not quite as universal and is more helpful to me when it comes to talking with athletes and football fans, which isn't a bad deal by any means. Plus, I love watching football so that makes it even better. The entire purpose of memes (or at least the way we use it) is …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:07 PM
1

Thank you for being nice about this! A lot of people ask pretty rudely so that means a a lot. There a lot of factors in that decision tbh. I was raised in a religious family, but my parents were very open to talking about sex, protection, and birth control (they even outright told me they had sex with other people and each other before getting married) so I was basically free to decide what I wanted to do with that by myself. My oldest sister was very open about her sex life as well. After refle…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 08:49 PM
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No. Once you spend a ton of time on Reddit on a single sub you associate the entire site with that sub. It makes breaking off harder. You have no idea how many times I told myself I was just going to stick to fun stuff and hobby subs this time around (this is my third or fourth account) and went right back to crazy subs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 08:00 PM
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Did I though? I'm just being realistic. Even a random meme page where people just get together and laugh about stupid stuff can fill the gap. Anything but cold turkeying social media all together. Other thing I find is that being online (mainstream, not weird Reddit places) helps me to keep up with what other people are talking about. If you're not online next thing you know everyone's referencing some stupid meme they found on Twitter and you have no idea what on earth they're talking about. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:54 PM
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I disagree. Assuming OP is around my age (20) social media is a big part of our lives, like it or not. Going cold turkey without filling in the gaps with some other online community to check out every once in a while seems like a recipe for ending up back on RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:45 PM
1

"Inner game"? Does your phone not have a camera.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:26 PM
1

Heresy!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:26 PM
3

Uhh I'm a woman though so I might need a second opinion on those prescriptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:25 PM
3

Thank you, doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:18 PM
1

Spend more time on mainstream social media (Facebook, Insta, Snapchat, whatever). Wean yourself off Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:17 PM
2

For my mom it took throwing a gigantic teddy bear he bought her through her ex's window. I don't recommend this course of action however.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:47 PM
1

If you don't mind me asking, how long did it take with your current GF?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:43 PM
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It's called Matthew Hussey/ the comment sections on his videos. I fucking love him. From a female writer complaining about him: "Matthew Hussey's videos are presented in a way that makes dating into some sort of game. He formats men into puzzles that women are too distracted or nervous or blind to figure out." Sound familiar?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:38 PM
3

I just thought of that Beyonce song where she says if he hit it right she's taking him to Red Lobster lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:30 PM
2

For me, after marriage. Yes, I am aware that filters out a lot of men. Yes, that is intentional.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:27 PM
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I used to call myself blue, until I realized that my tradcon lifestyle/values don't exactly fit that pill. I was just kind of there because I hated RP. I guess you can say I used to put men (particularly tradcon men) on a pedestal but reading RP kind of killed that and sent me into my own anger phase of sorts. After I became desensitized to the Red stuff through PPD I started looking at my stances more objectively. I decided that I might be purple because they seemed cool for the most part, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:07 PM
1

Usually guys like you go play around on Instagram instead of hanging out on Reddit. Why not go flex there?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 05:14 PM
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No. I don't think I could live with knowing that I essentially have a biological child floating around out there who I'm probably never going to meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:27 PM
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Lol check it out, from their home page: "The mission of the Institute for Family Studies (IFS) is to strengthen marriage and family life, and advance the well-being of children through research and public education. Known for its objective and impeccably researched studies that attract attention and respect from all across the ideological spectrum, IFS’s programs and platforms focus on a number of trending marriage and family issues, including: The connection between strong marriages and a thriv…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:53 PM
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Not necessarily relevant to OP, but I find it annoying that the article throws around the term "premarital sex" as if two people who have only had sex with each other automatically didn't have sex until after marriage. And then I checked out the source and turns out they're known for having a conservative bias, so Idk why I was expecting much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:25 PM
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My thinly-veiled humble brag radar is going nuts right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:29 AM
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I think it's really sweet and considerate. I like it when guys spoil me, and that's one way to go about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:25 AM
1

Ehh maybe. I date in a pretty niche circle where sex bots don't really factor in, so I'm pretty neutral on the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 06:37 PM
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Idk. I used my VR headset to visit a rainforest once, but I still want the real thing at some point. Even if it's far more expensive, potentially more dangerous, and the humidity will probably make me look like a living Chia pet. I think the same principle would apply to VR porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 05:25 PM
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It depends. In my family "looks don't matter" was used to convey "don't date abusive/crazy people just because they're hot" and "don't treat people poorly or misjudge them based on how they look." I never took it to mean that physical appearance plays zero role in attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 01:54 AM
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Entertainment. Trash talking someone you don't like for whatever reason with people you do like is a common past time, for better or worse. The anonymity of the Internet makes it even more appealing for some. I tend to take any alleged moral/sophisticated reason outside of "it amuses me" with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 06:11 PM
1

Thank you for your concern. I sincerely mean that, since I know a comment like this takes time, and I can tell you're just looking out for me. I'm truly sorry about your experiences with the church and any pain it caused you. I agree that people can be selfish, and for all I know my spouse may turn out to not be the person I thought. In the case where the relationship is a threat to myself and/or my children I am fully prepared to have a civil divorce as allowed by the church. That would mean co…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 03:17 PM
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I have a resting :-) face. Not very fun though since apparently my face screams "come talk to meee" even when in reality I don't feel like associating with anyone. I think my dad and my (maternal side) grandpa both have whatever the male equivalent of RBF is. It was great because my mom says their first meeting was one big scowl fest and she knew he was the one because he was the first guy she brought home who wasn't intimidated by her dad's expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 10:21 AM
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I only got two hits from 4 and 5 years back, one was about facial implants or some shit the other was whether or not women like assholes, and that went just about as you would expect. Can you link me to the specific threads you're talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 02:55 AM
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Red/purple women? Well yeah, their entire schtick is looking for soft alphas and high betas. Most of the blue women don't even acknowledge the existence of the alpha/beta dynamic. On ask women the results I got were literally making fun of men who refer to themselves as alpha and beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 02:52 AM
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Mmm gonna have to hard disagree. But for a lot of men here "not dtf" = "despises me", so I guess it's a matter of perspective. It's the same for women who get fuckzoned, though instead of "hate me" you get "uses me."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 02:04 AM
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Nah women like beta providers, but being "liked" isn't the same as getting laid. That's where the problem comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 01:40 AM
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I don't think it would be that extreme, though based on Japan's situation men might be more likely to pursue dream jobs instead of putting those aside in favor of high-paying/high-stress jobs for the sake of supporting families. There's a good chance women would start filling in those gaps as the scarcity of male partners results in their not facing the pregnancy/childrearing-related complications that often lead them to opt out of the workplace earlier than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 12:39 AM
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Disclaimer: I'm Catholic so my answer is pretty deeply influenced by that. Love is two people committing to be faithful to one another, ride-or-die. Anything beyond that is fantasy. We're taught that at a young age so we don't go nuts the first minute our fee fees try to lead us elsewhere. Two of the most valuable things that a religion teacher taught us was that there's no such thing as soulmates, and to stop saying "falling in love" because it makes your choice in partner sound like a total ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:37 PM
2

I personally don't care as long as my partner has a similar level of education. So even if, say, he has a random humanities degree and doesn't make quite as much as I do I would still be down. A lot of male teachers throughout my life were married to well-off women they met in college while pursuing degrees, so it could be the same deal with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:24 PM
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Interesting. I know a lot of people who married in their early 20's (including my parents) who fought like crazy at the start of their marriages and advise young people to wait longer than they did. Note that these people are still together and perfectly happy now, but the early years were...rough, to say the least. For reference my dad pledged a couple months after I was born and couldn't see or contact us at all for several days as a part of his frat initiation. My mom was so pissed and it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 01:19 PM
2

Is being liked by women as long as they behave like good little beta providers an advantage that men appreciate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 09:39 AM
0

In power trip fantasy world they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 09:15 AM
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My all-time favorite was the one who literally claimed that he was in bed with a woman while writing the post. I'm not sure which would be worse, if he was completely lying or if the first thing that comes to mind for him after sex is indeed "hold up, gotta tell Reddit about this."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 10:20 PM
1

Anime/manga/video game?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 10:15 PM
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Trust me, when so-called natural alphas try to sound like badasses online I laugh at them too lol. Thankfully most don't because they're satisfied enough with the respect they get irl not to go fishing for it from Internet strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 10:09 PM
1

Nah lol. Most nerds treat their Pokémon cards far better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 08:53 PM
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I think my stupid crushes on anime boys growing up might have something to do with my preference for clean-shaven men. I wish I were kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 08:30 PM
1

Going to an all-girl school is pretty much the epitome of learning to be as feminine as possible whether men are around or not, so for me not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 08:25 PM
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I'm assuming you're specifically referring to the Reddit sub. I have several issues with it but one of the more grating aspects for me is just how cringy it gets. Men who command respect and authority irl have a certain "it" factor. It's a kind of presence that doesn't necessarily translate well to online bodies of text, yet men will often try it anyway. So you see these guys (particularly mods and EC's) trying to flex and one up each other by conveying those personas through text, but instead o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 08:22 PM
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That's not how primal urges work, but I think we're going to have to agree to disagree here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:41 PM
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Yeah, I'm a woman. I'm not that picky about height (I've dated guys from 5'5" to 5'9", not any taller), but I'm not sure I could be attracted to a guy shorter than me (I'm 5'2").
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 05:52 PM
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If that were the case men wouldn't fuck "sluts" at all. The attraction wouldn't exist at all. They are generally dtf but don't want to ltr them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 05:46 PM
1

Yes well this is the simplest part of the brain, the "reptile" brain; you generally don't fuck people on the basis of this alone, which you are arguing for. That is literally the opposite of what I argued for. As for the rest, you just described psychology and then inserted biology at the end again with zero reasoning to back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 05:43 PM
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Most of the time that principle is based on a lack of attraction, so I don't see your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 10:40 AM
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That's not how biology works. Biology "tells" us to mate with the people we find physically attractive, which is why we can still be sexually attracted to people we dislike or wouldn't necessarily want to have relationships with. Our minds decide who is or isn't relationship material based on other information our bodies/instincts don't take into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 10:05 AM
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Mens emotional attraction is compromised by high-n count, women's physical attraction is compromised by short stature And this is exactly where the problem lies. One involves consciously rejecting someone you would otherwise be attracted to for a reason many consider irrational today, the other is a matter of the attraction outright not existing and doesn't involve a conscious judgment made by the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 09:51 AM
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If the two standards were comparable most men would have zero physical attraction to high-n women and most women would be willing to fuck short men but avoid dating and/or marrying them. That isn't how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 08:58 AM
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No lol. For me getting validation from a BF was a good way to feel better about myself temporarily and then feel like shit again within an hour. I had to put in the effort to improve my own self-esteem in order to get anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 01:27 AM
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Wait, I thought he was just banned from PPD lol. He left Reddit altogether?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 08:47 PM
1

I think that age factors in quite a bit. Women in their teens/early 20's (I happen to fall in this category) are generally more receptive to feminine physical traits in men than say women in their 30's. Which is probably why artists whose major demographic is the former group often have the pretty/metro look going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 08:30 PM
1

Reread my comments. Nowhere did I say that men who work out a lot to look attractive are unattractive. I said they are less impressive than men who seemingly could not care less about attracting women and are keeping their bodies up for another purpose. Like I said, being a generically muscled up gym guy is not special. You do not need "special" to get laid on the reg though, so if casual sex is the priority this is not a bad thing. I said people who make it look effortless. For most women on a …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:17 PM
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A high school BF who didn't go to the same school surprised me on the morning of my birthday by having a mutual friend of ours deliver my gift, a set of Tsum Tsum plushies. We still met up to celebrate that weekend but he wanted me to get them on my birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:43 PM
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Noop, not what I said. You do not need to look like a roided-out gym bro to be healthy. People who try hard are less attractive than people who make it look effortless. This is a known thing. Guys who spend a significant amount of time at the gym just to look hot often carry a specific set of markers with them. Some of the signs I've experienced irl are that he talks about the gym constantly, loves to take pictures of his body, posts said pictures on Instagram all day, constantly sends shirtless…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:33 PM
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It only takes a single anecdote to shoot down the assertion that "all X are like that." The real problem is when people argue in absolutes and then bitch about anecdotal evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:11 PM
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Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:03 PM
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Nothing personal, love
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:02 PM
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Fair enough. There's nothing inherently wrong with "good enough for sex" or "not as great" if a guy's main goal is casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:01 PM
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You still have the flair from that game we played ages ago? Lol, that brings back memories.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:33 PM
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The marathon runner at least provides the illusion that he is staying in peak physical shape for reasons that have nothing to do with his desire to be attractive. It's simply a side effect of his overall ambitions and goals in life, which creates the image of a more interesting man. The women he happens to attract as a result are just along for the ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:21 PM
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As I said, good enough for a fuck. Still not as great as the other guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:51 AM
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There's a lot of factors at play that can increase or detract from the appeal of a man who "looks like he works out all the time." Why is he working out all the time? I find that women are generally more impressed by men who at least pretend to work out with a specific purpose in mind (e.g.job requirements, running marathons, scaling mountains, etc.) than just trying to look hot for his Instagram followers. A guy who has enough time to invest in turning himself into the Hulk solely to get laid i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:17 AM
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For most kids their parents teach them what the world should be, their peers/friends teach them what it actually is. I was lucky enough to learn from both, but many aren't, and that disconnect often contributes to teens growing apart from their parents, no longer listening to them, and getting much of the advice they seek from people their own age or somewhat older. However as kids are becoming increasingly antisocial they're learning from, well, no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:12 AM
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Laura Harrier? I've never heard of her before, but it's a decent match. Edit: Ohh, she's the actress who plays Peter's crush in Spiderman Homecoming.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:54 AM
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You'd probably be pretty disappointed lol. Can confirm, am black female.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:36 AM
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Lol I gotchu fam. Still thinking over your ideas, but I'll post more if I come up with anything meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 10:21 PM
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I think OP says: Both men and women are conditioned to be "betas" by their families. The difference is that women are "liberated" from it by feminism while young men have no means of liberation. Therefore young men fare better in the SMP when they distance themselves from their families and do their own thing for a while. The ones who play the dutiful son role for too long fall behind in the SMP. That's what I gathered from it. Could be wrong but Idk. This was a tough one to decipher.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 10:06 PM
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