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Not everyone is 'cut out' to be in a long-term relationship. I recently saw an interview with Scott Galloway, a prof at NYU - https://youtu.be/vK4y6C1Uuhw - talking about the situation for young men today and how it is actually a return to the way things were pre-WWII. He argues that in the West (and especially in North America), governments 'propped up' the middle class so that most men could be financially capable of having a family. The implication is that prior to this a small percentage of …
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 02:48 PM
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If you can't be happy alone there's no way you will be happy with someone else. Invest in yourself. Stand alone.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 11:37 PM
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She wants every last penny that she and her lawyers can extract. We signed a separation agreement years ago and divided the assets equally. But they keep coming for more and more. You might be surprised at how long these types of proceedings can be stretched out. Every situation is different and what might seem outrageous to one person can be someone else's reality.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 11:31 PM
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Perhaps I wasn't clear - my buried feelings aren't hatred for her. I could care less about her one way or the other and do not miss her one bit. From the bits and pieces of information that I am able to piece together from our kids her life today is not so great either. It is the legal system that has me paying 70% of my monthly pension to her in support (including child support for a university graduate - who, by the way, hasn't spoken to me in seven years - since she was 16 ) that I'm trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 07:37 PM
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For me, the idea of opening myself up to ever having a romantic relationship seems extremely unlikely at best. Of course, I now live my life such that I rarely meet new people and refuse even to consider dating apps. So I'm not even meeting/interacting with women who could be considered as future partners. At 58, it has already been 4 or 5 years since I have so much as hugged a woman that I was interested in romantically. More and more I have come to believe that men and women were simply not de…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 05:07 PM
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Yes. Get out now. It doesn't get better. You are still in a position where getting out won't destroy your entire financial future. I wish someone had given me this advice when I was one year into my shitty marriage and I could have still escaped (mostly) intact. I actually envy you. You still have relatively good options. In a few years, it will be nothing but bad options.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 12:15 AM
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From "The Departed": - treat 'em like worms, feed them shit and keep them in the dark.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 10:05 AM
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I'm pretty sure if I had tried that with my wife she would have tried to have me put up on charges for verbal abuse and assault. She had 911 on speed dial LOL. Ain't worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 10:02 AM
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The best thing about divorce is that it gives you the opportunity to move on with your life. So move on with your life - close that chapter and start writing the next one.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 09:59 AM
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If the only way a man can be successful in life is to read one goddamned book then fuck it, I'd say the institution is to blame - not the man. Women are people above all else - not some foreign species. Our society has taught women to think in a way that is not conducive to having a successful marriage. It's time for the balance of power to swing back towards men - until it does, men should refuse to get ensnared by the institution of marraige. Go ahead, live with her, have sex with her. If kids…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 02:14 PM
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Amen to that, mister! I feel like I got 'sucked in' to a dying institution. Any man getting married in 2023 better know that the deck is stacked against them. Even the odds, get a prenup and have an exit strategy. I know it is the last thing a man is likely to think about when 'in love' but it is time to grow up and face the fact that getting married has the potential of destroying your life in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 01:55 PM
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Good for you for being so honest and straightforward. I have also turned my back on dating or even seeking casual sex. Occasionally, I miss intimacy and having a special person in my life. But in many ways I know I'm better off - like you, the other things in my life (hobbies, work, etc.) have become more important. More than ever, I regret even getting married in the first place. I love my kids and am glad that I have them. But other than having them, nothing about being married really worked f…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 08:20 PM
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Honestly, it's too painful to recount all the details. Suffice it to say, she has unlimited support from her parents to afford lawyers and employs every stall tactic known to humanity. In fact, I just decided to wait until my 23-year-old daughter finally decides to move out of her mom's place - likely 2 more years - until I bite the bullet and invest the estimated $15,000 CDN to go to court and hopefully get the current order changed.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 05:01 PM
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Well friend, I'm on year 6 and counting. It can take a long time it the other party is disagreeable. Sounds like you have an open and shut case, but hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 11:10 PM
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And by the time they are 18 they want to be on their own! Just make the most of the time you have with them right now. Or you could go $ to $ court $ to $ try $ and $ have $ the $ access $ agreement $ changed $$$$. lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 04:17 AM
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This is a valid concern. I was screwed financially for the last 5 years trying to keep up with crushing support payments. Even living EXTREMELY frugally and earning as much income as I could, it was an uphill battle. In the end, I had to retire earlier than planned and am currently living with family in the house I grew up in. But, yes, I have my 'freedom' from her soul-crushing personality. It was all still worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 02:29 AM
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It's not that far off, though. My ex is still trying to control my kids even though they are adults. She may think she loves them, but they can't wait to get away from her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 02:20 AM
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I lost half of my pension as she didn't work and had no assets of her own. I think a prenup is an excellent idea!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/21 03:36 AM
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I was miserable when married. It cost me a fortune to leave her and she was awarded half my pension because she didn't work. I pay significant support as well. I am less miserable now (5 years later) but I have to watch every penny and I'm still uncertain about retirement. And I live in kind of a s-hole basement rental. There were 2 kids - Now, my youngest talks to me daily and spends alternate weekends with me. The other one has been out of my life since 2016. That part never stops hurting but …
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/21 09:51 PM
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...well for me it's envy. Coming up on 5 years and she still won't go through with getting a divorce - I suspect because of the costs. And since I can't justify the legal fees, either... I'll probably die <only> separated.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 04:39 PM
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I tried to do this. I started thinking about leaving in like 2008. I made it until 2015 when the kids were 13 and 17. Unfortunately, the 17-year-old couldn't/wouldn't forgive me and prevented me from attending her high school graduation and hasn't had any communication with me since. On the other hand, my relationship with my younger child is wonderful to this day. We talk/text every day and she lives with me part-time. I have made it my priority to provide my (remaining) daughter with unconditi…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/20 12:08 AM
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