sparusaurata Archive

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2	Girls staring at me in the gym. Lots of eye contact. Yeah. Don't get your smile fixed. How is it fixed anyway? Surgery? If it's canted then it's canted, own it, it's not a problem.	/r/askTRP	29/03/21 07:07 PM
2	LTR has gone nuts... I read it all. I won't get that time back but I'd say she is NPD / BPD. But does it matter? No. You can't fix her. Just walk, it's the end, get your stuff, move out, get on with your life.	/r/askTRP	28/03/21 09:50 AM
3	Any good cologne recommendations? Buy a few decants until you find what you like. (decants are small 1ml / 3ml / 10ml bottles. Plenty of online shops dedicated to selling them. You don't need to buy a full bottle). YouTube reviews too. Decants are £3 per 1ml. 1ml is 10 sprays. Enough to work out if it's for you. Depends on your age / character. I'd buy a summer one and a winter one. Summer : Navus / Nio / aventus / Millesime imperial Winter: Oud Wood / naxus / Black iris These are ones that I like. Work out what you like. Creed,…	/r/askTRP	21/03/21 07:35 AM
1	Anyone ever deal with emotionally unstable partners? '... If so, I don't think the risk of her stalking you is too great...' Said no one, ever, who has been in and escaped from a BPD / npd relationship. Think I'm joking? Check out the BPD / npd reddits, it can get serious fast and for a long time.	/r/askTRP	03/03/21 06:38 AM
12	Anyone ever deal with emotionally unstable partners? Yeah... That's goodbye. As above, might be npd / BPD / cluster B. Whatever is wrong with her isn't fixable and certainly not by you. Save yourself alot of drama and pain, tell her it's over, block her on every media and walk away. She will chase. Your phone will blow up. You will possibly get phone calls at work / to family / to friends.... After a month, you might think you have escaped, but no, it escalates and she continues to try and get to you. Comes round to your house, to you family's hou…	/r/askTRP	02/03/21 07:30 AM
1	How to breakup with LTR with Borderline Personality Disorder? (BPD) If she is BPD or NPD no doubt she'll try and contact you repeatedly over the next year by various ways. Phone calls, messages, post, sending stuff to you, making small payments to your bank account with messages.... Check out the reddit groups for BPD / NPD etc They play serious games... The hoovering is one to watch out for. If you waver at all and go back to her then the cycle of abuse starts again. They are untreatable and will not get better. As mentioned here by others, no contact at all. B…	/r/askTRP	12/02/21 06:37 AM
3	How to break up with cluster B LTR of 7 weeks? Realising this after 7 weeks is an upside, at least its not years. Run. If she is cluster B / npd / BPD then they don't get better, you can't fix them, they are toxic. The problem would be if you continue for much longer it'll be harder to break off and she'll be even more inclined to try and drag you back into a relationship. That might happen anyway. One course would be tell her it's not working for you, that's all someone needs to know, no massive explanation needed. Block her on anything and…	/r/askTRP	07/02/21 10:43 AM
2	Ex messaging me after 5 years. We broke up when I was 14. Now I'm 19. And she wants to fuck now(kinda how I think it is). What do? i i i can't tell if it's Alice or Bob or everything else...	/r/askTRP	31/01/21 09:05 AM
1	Investing It's gambling, not investing. Put aside whatever you can afford, each and every month in one of the Vanguard funds. Ignore what the market does, invest on the 1st of each month, never sell. Wait 15 years to 20 years, retire happy.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 01:34 PM
1	Co-workera made plans without me They are work colleagues. Not friends. People you work with on a professional basis. I don't hang out with people I work with. Don't get me wrong, I have made some good friends over the years with people I have worked with. Maybe they don't like you? Does it matter? Turn up, do your job, be polite, earn money, progress professionally, don't complain, get stuff done. Friends are outside of work in my opinion.	/r/askTRP	10/01/21 09:15 AM
1	When a woman hides the fact that she has a boyfriend A - you keep hanging out with her, nothing happens (you become her orbiter) B - you try to close, fail (you become her orbiter, she gets validation) C - you close, she blows up your phone (she wants to swing to you, pushes for LTR....) You either LTR her, get oneitis, she then loses interest and meets a guy closer to home... Or, sleep with her a couple of times, discard, move on but expect alot of noise from her, phone blowing up.	/r/askTRP	10/01/21 09:09 AM
5	Below Average IQ, redpill me If that is your IQ then it's at the lower end of the scale. It is what it is. Try and get a basic job you can do well. Depending on your country you may want to get an official test, you may be entitled to some kind of benefit or help.	/r/askTRP	02/01/21 08:25 PM
1	Red pill and fragrances Buy decants online. 3ml won't break the bank and let's you work out what is congruent with you. For example, you probably can't wear Tom Ford Tuscan Leather if you are a slight build 5foot skinny dude. Sure, it's smells good but won't fit who you are. Buy what smells good to you, don't buy it to attract solely. If you've got the rest of your sh1t together then fragrance is just a complimentary addition. Loads of info on the fragrance reddit...	/r/askTRP	31/12/20 03:57 PM
3	Perfume In winter, Xerjoff Naxos. Tom Ford Oud Wood. Amouage Jubilation. In summer, Creed Millesime Imperial, Creed Erolfa, Navitus Navus. Other ones I like, TF Tobacco Oud, Amouage Interlude. Easy to buy decants of 3ml to try out. Alot of people wear Aventus/Sauvage etc. Plenty of scope to find something you like, if she likes it too then that's good.	/r/askTRP	30/12/20 10:23 AM
4	You guys were right. I think she's texted so you don't go, then when you don't go she'll carry on with the ex and justify it. She has probably been sleeping with the ex for this 2 week period. Don't be surprised if she tries to contact you after the holidays to get back together with you and denounce her 'mistake'. Either way, all the advice is spot on. Ignore her, move on, rule #7, lift, read, eat well, sleep well. I'd also add, don't drink too much, it's easy to have one too many drinks and find yourself in a weak…	/r/askTRP	28/12/20 08:20 PM
1	Smelling good? Buy samples until you work out what you want, what suits you. Lots of online places sell very small amounts for testing. Have a look on the fragrance reddit to find some advice on something suitable for your age / budget etc. Try to pick something you like first and foremost. Wear it for you. Work out why you like it. It should compliment you, if it's incongruous other people will notice that. One spray. If you have everything else sorted out then a decent fragrance is just a gentle emphasis, it…	/r/askTRP	27/12/20 09:46 AM
1	Girlfriend became "asexual" after 4 years of relationship Yeah, what everyone said above already. It's over, right now she still has a splash of respect for you, she's probably hoping you'll just get it and end things now. The next step is she loses respect, you try and get out of the rut, it splutters along for a month and then falls off a cliff again. Or plan A: realise that it's over, calmly untangle your life, move out or get her to, work out what your values are, work out what you want, work on yourself (standard diet of lift/read/think) and get b…	/r/askTRP	20/12/20 10:10 AM
2	Boosting testosterone naturally Ashwaganda had an undesirable effect on me: anhedonia. Ymmv	/r/askTRP	08/12/20 07:38 PM
3	Has anyone here got destroyed by a BPD women? How did you recover? BPD / NPD is no joke. I've been out of that kind of relationship now for 10 months. Free at last! Good year, no LTRs for me, happy to dip in and out. Definitely makes you wary. First couple of months were rough, as you try to make sense of the push/pull roller-coaster ride that seeing a BPD/NPD is. Hard to get out but glad I did. It's like crack. If you have any doubts, walk.	/r/askTRP	08/12/20 02:12 PM
1	Boomerang ex, no contact, and sharing a child OK, you might want to look into narcissistic abuse / borderline personality disorder (BPD / NPD). Not saying its that but it may give you some perspective.	/r/askTRP	25/10/20 07:38 PM
3	Boomerang ex, no contact, and sharing a child Why does she come back? Why does she leave? Does she come back, treat you like a king, then slowly disrespect you and finally discard you.... Then repeat?	/r/askTRP	25/10/20 07:27 PM
0	LTR isn't bi but her best friends are... She won't say that she's bi etc. Probably doesn't want the label. But I've found that after a while a LTR will admit that she's had a tumble with another girl. Just to see, just for fun, just for whatever reason. If the opportunity is there she will try it, it doesn't make her bi, at least in her mind.	/r/askTRP	03/10/20 07:27 PM
3	She kissed me ? She kissed you and you didn't escalate. If a girl wants to fuck you, she'll find a way.... If you pay attention. What happened after the kiss, did you just say oh thanks, I'll call you and go home by yourself?	/r/askTRP	11/03/20 06:58 PM
1	My ex was seriously the best fuck ever and looked like a porn star. I have been spinning in circles for 6 months and nothing has even come CLOSE to the sex we had. It is seriously depressing. I cannot go back to my ex. What do I do? It's not love, it's abuse in denial. She sounds toxic as hell. Probably npd/bdp? Go no contact (which means DON'T contact her, not don't contact her as much). Give it 6 months, chill out, keep busy, skip women for a bit and work on yourself, sounds like you are in need of centering yourself again. Reboot required.	/r/askTRP	07/03/20 07:19 AM