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Erm, I’d say sex Ed classes could be used to teach young people about porn, what’s healthy/normal and what’s not. Is that not…a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 05:50 PM
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Did you read the Vice article? I’m not gonna engage much further unless you did, because I just scanned it and it doesn’t do a terrible job at backing up my point if I’m honest. The last sentence literally says there are no answers yet as to why women are searching for violent porn... So you’re not really providing me with much to counter there I’m afraid. ETA: What is this infantizing you talk of? I’m taking about making very adult decisions about our sex lives but unfortunately looking for ans…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 11:19 AM
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Talk to schools about their education level, not me…lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 11:12 AM
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Curiosity probably and also likely that they’re watching to try and learn because they believe that this is what all men want...because men are creating the porn and so the cycle continues. There is also a difference between sensation play and a lot of the BDSM seen in porn. You can participate in very rough and (enjoyably) pain-filled sexual acts that are hugely intimate, if that’s what you want. Who knew?! I only discovered this in my 30’s after believing that being disrespected and having my …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:42 AM
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In response to the Doja Cat reference: Singing about something she enjoys participating in with someone else is absolutely her taking control of her sexuality. To give consent to someone to inflict pain upon you or put you in dangerous situations and trust them to keep you safe, is a huge show of strength and takes massive amounts of control as a woman to be comfortable with wanting it, let alone expressing it to your partner. It can be legitamately dangerous to do so. She is empowering women to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:33 AM
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I’ve been thinking about this comment before responding because it feels that, by condensing everything I wrote down to ‘stop whinging about people whinging’ feels like a manner of gaslighting in itself… I put a lot of time and thought into giving/sharing my opinion, with an opportunity for people to respectfully disagree and have a discussion about it, while adding in some advice to both sexes that I thought might be helpful about how we could communicate better with each other, and was met wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:27 AM
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Self-Pity. If shit’s going wrong, attempt to fix it, if you want something you don’t have, make an effort to go get it. Like, REALLY try…or don’t complain. A dude can be a 10/10 in every other department but if I see/hear anything along the lines of ‘XX is so unfair and I can’t do anything about it’ the panties are likely staying on lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 12:00 AM
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There’ll be no gaslighting here. If people come with thoughtful comments they’ll get thoughtful responses from me in return :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:00 AM
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Understood about expecting people to flock, however it applies to both sexes and if I take away the slight exaggeration it is actually effective… Working on yourself and improving your interpersonal skills, finding hobbies and interests to occupy yourself, getting outside to exercise etc opens up opportunities to show these new skills off to new circles of people (because you usually expand socially when expanding emotionally, it’s a natural byproduct) and therefor romantic relationships become …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:59 AM
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It’s a CMV though?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:52 AM
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We go for older men because they tend to be more emotionally mature than the little boys you’re talking about who still need to ‘figure their shit out’. For me it has nothing to do with their career path/options but everything to do with whether they can act like a grown up in a relationship or not. Spoiler: MANY men under 30, regardless of how successful they are, act like complete children in intimate relationships. *edit typos
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:36 PM
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Cries in ‘87
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 10:48 AM
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You really are blowing this way out of proportion, I waited 6 dates over 4 weeks and sexted throughout. The fact that he respected my wishes is even more of a turn on and made me want to wait less time. That’s what actually got him laid. Maybe if more men showed this kind of patience they’d realise that a wait until a woman is comfortable doesn’t necessarily mean a sexless engagement for the next XX amount of time and it might even mean better sex, because you both reaaallly want it...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:45 PM
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Who said anything about a couple of years?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:01 PM
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Well, not really no lol. The fact that the two of us (and plenty of commenters here) exist proves that your suggestion that withholding is a strong signal of disinterest just isn’t true. Which is what I said. I went further to say that more people like us exist, it is in fact common. The whole population doesn’t have to be anything for you to be wrong on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:12 AM
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That’s just not true. I made my current partner wait until I was comfortable and I fancy him so much. We sexted and talked about likes/dislikes, I just wasn’t ready to have sex with him for a while. This is totally normal and common and NOT a strong signal that you’re not crazy about someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:50 AM
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Absolutely this. I’m 5’0 on the nose and tend to go for big/tall men. I’ll sacrifice height for width lol, so if they’re a stocky dude but not super tall, that’ll do just fine! It’s not just about height but also tall people are generally more physically imposing so they immediately make me feel safer. It’s nice to feel protected by your partner. Being small is kinda scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:29 AM
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Just curious, did the men share the same opinion or was it only the women who thought they were losers?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 09:08 PM
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Who said I chose to stay? Lots of assumptions there pal. I was simply pointing out that communication before sex isn’t always the answer to vetting out those you’re incompatible with...In response to your comment that implies a discussion is all that’s necessary. *edit phrasing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 01:49 PM
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I talked in great depth about likes and dislikes with a guy before we slept together. Sounded like we were on the same page about all things foreplay. On the day, dude does NOTHING other than try to pull my knickers to the side and go for it. I kid you not. Nothing but a little bit of kissing on the mouth and a butt squeeze or two first. And no, it wasn’t in a sexy ‘can’t wait to rip your clothes off’ kind of way. There is no guarantee that he doesn’t just talk a big game and cannot deliver. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 01:22 PM
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"Some women literally joke about using guys through their sexuality more of than they are oblivious to it. But go ahead and play dumb" FTFY Go ahead and play like your opinion of the women you've come across is accurate to the entire female population.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 03:43 PM
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Has it ever occurred to you that maybe the women aren’t even aware that the ‘nice guy’ in question has a crush on them? What if the dude has never said anything or made his true desire clear and as far as she knows, he’s just a good mate who offers to help her out? Why would you say no to that? I wouldn’t. I have plenty of male friend who offer to help me out with stuff. That’s pretty normal. (Married men, men in LTR’s and single men alike. I also help them out with a variety of things that are …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 03:24 PM
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Sounds like the fault of the people not researching how to properly create a pre-nup to me. If it’s so important, put the effort in, or don’t whinge when you get half of your money taken after marrying someone knowing that it could end in...wait for it...half your money being taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:03 PM
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I feel like this about every single ex of mine. I’m a woman, it’s normal for both sexes. That’s what happens when relationships end or they’re ending. You question everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 11:51 AM
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Hard disagree. I have literally been cornered in bathrooms and pinned agains walls by very aggressive lesbians when I used to work in a gay bar. Literally had to have bouncers kick someone out for being too fucking creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 07:23 PM
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I am INCREDIBLY surprised how few women have answered Physical and Mental Abuse. It’s 100% my biggest fear after being in more than one violent relationship is being manipulated into another one. Why is it so scary? Because they’re always the ones who are the nicest at the beginning so I no longer tryst my own instincts/ability to identify dangerous people. Which is my own problem to deal with, I know) and they’re also the hardest ones to leave. I’ll survive another heartbreak but I might not su…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 10:31 PM
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Yes, it would be weird. Bring it up in conversation by all means, offer to send a pic or she may even ask for one to check it out for herself... But, I’d advise against just randomly sending a photo of your face. Shaven or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:51 PM
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Dated a guy who very clearly wore concealer. The only thing that really bothered me was the constant desire to blend it properly for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 05:06 PM
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Actually, I’ll clarify maybe he didn’t technically ‘ghost’ me, but he left the city we live in days after without telling me until he was gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 07:39 PM
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Dated mid-October til mid-December. Knew him for over 6 months prior and crossed paths weekly due to a shared hobby. Went on 7 dates and continued to see each other weekly in social situations (the hobby) at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 07:37 PM
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I’ve had someone ghost me after we had sex when we had wined and dined for over a month prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 07:01 PM
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I’ve dated a man who I had already known for some time, for over a month that told me he wanted a relationship, talked about our opinions on marriage, kids and futures (all instigated by him) which were seemingly aligned. I decided that I believed him and that surely no one could bullshit consistently for that long so I went ahead and had sex, only for him to apparently change his mind and ghost me. Now, yes it could have been that he didn’t enjoy the sex, but he didn’t seem to dislike it much a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 06:17 PM
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Agreed, I swipe left on all men with other women in their photos, even if it’s noted to be a family member (because, I may get to meet your mum/aunt/sister/niece eventually, why are you advertising them to strangers on Tinder?! Weird.) I will always give men the benefit of the doubt that they are able to socialise with the opposite sex and these photos kind of make me think otherwise, like, if they feel the need to prove it, maybe they’re not actually very good at it. Also, trying to figure out …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 01:10 PM
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I agree with everything you’ve said except that mixed gender relationships are nearly non-existent. Two of my best friends are of the opposite sex to me (separate friendships ,not a little trio, both lasting over a decade) and I’m almost certain they’d recoil in the same way I do at the mere suggestion of anything other than platonic. It’s definitely possible, the majority of people I socialise and work with have many mixed gender friendships, it’s really common.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 06:01 PM
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I’ve had that approach on the surface because I’ve learnt that apparently being anything more than coy is too much for a lot of men to deal with and becomes a turn-off. Once I get the feeling that interest is reciprocated I will up my displays of interest in them. It’s very hard to know what is ‘coming on too strong’ or looking desperate these days, so I err on the side of caution. It’s not because I’m NOT taking it seriously, it’s because if I do it too soon, men run a mile.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 10:01 PM
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I understood that. When I suggested it might become less entertaining for you after a while, you responded by saying that people should get used to the attention using celebs as an example. I was using average Jane as an example of someone who didn’t consent to the attention, much less put herself in a position that she should be expected to accept/get used to it. A continuation of my first point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 07:12 PM
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Ok, well your opinion on how you’d feel after a lifetime of it, is yours. I think it might eventually get a little grating and end up quite unwanted, but you know yourself better than I could ever pretend to, so we’ll take your word for it. The difference between celebs/famous people is that they’ve chosen to be in a position that attracts attention. So I agree, they should get/be used to it, and shouldn’t complain while they do. However, average Jane just going about her daily life, didn’t choo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:54 PM
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How about if it happened to you multiple times a day? Regardless of where you are, who you’re with, what you’re doing. Walking to the shop first thing in the morning to grab some milk, waiting for a train, working on your laptop in a cafe, having lunch with a friend, in the reception waiting for a doctors appointment, waiting for a train in the other direction, and then walking into your front gate. All different people with varying levels of intensity. Repeat. Do you think that’d still feel fla…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:37 PM
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Of course women want the attraction of men they find attractive, but it’s also important HOW that man shows his attraction. If a perfect 10 (in my eyes) spoke to me/looked at me/reacted to me in the same way that ‘creepy men’ do, he would immediately become one of those creepy men. Good looks will only get him so far, he also needs to be a decent human being that has control over his urges.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:20 PM
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There is an in-between. You can be attracted to a woman you see on the street while also being adult enough to control your emotions and resist the urge to behave in a way that makes that women uncomfortable. Better still, you behave so nicely that she isn’t even aware of your attraction to her. I am a woman, I appreciate the male form, occasionally I see a man on the street that I find attractive. Unless I intentionally walk over to him, to hit on him, he will never know that I had noticed him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:15 PM
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I’m glad someone picked up on this, I recently realised that is actually a turn off for me if a man’s hands are soft and weak looking. It definitely gives me the impression that he hasn’t done a hard day’s work in his life, not attractive. Manly hands are sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 06:52 PM
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