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| 1 | The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted. The experiences of trans people is further proof of this.It sucks, but I’ve absolutely found that perception matters deeply in how people treat you. I wish people were better about it. But when you’re conscious of it, you can use it. There was a stage in the middle where it seemed like my way of presenting myself really broke people’s brains. It was a blend of being visibly trans, being pretty, and dressing and carrying myself as a professional (I’m an attorney, and tend to dress in a fairly professional and securely upper middle class way). There was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 01:43 PM |
| 1 | The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted. The experiences of trans people is further proof of this.Huh. I’m a trans woman, and I hadn’t heard of the cotton ceiling. Honestly, I think a lot of the struggle you’re talking about with trans women is based in “pretty privilege”, or lack thereof. People treated me like shit until I got to the point where I started coming across as pretty. Even before I started passing, it was “pretty” that mattered in terms of how I was treated. I was actually really bitter about it for a while after I had facial feminization surgery. Because after I had that done,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 01:05 PM |
| 2 | 49% of women, compared to 38% of men, go on to university in the UK.Law school is about memorizing facts. Practicing law is not. | /r/MensRights | 04/10/12 10:29 PM |
| 4 | A wife's consent to donate sperm? That's sexist and absurdMost states have enacted some version of the Uniform Parentage Act, which has a specific section concerning sperm donation. Here's an article that talks about it: Link. In general, so long as you comply with the requirements in the statute donating sperm doesn't make a person a father. While it varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, the statute usually provides that the donation must be made through a specific service (i.e. a sperm bank) or through a doctor. If people enter into their own agr… | /r/MensRights | 28/08/12 10:59 PM |
| 0 | Why we have no common ground with feminism.Why do you think there will always be a PR problem? Most of the individual causes MRAs fight for aren't met with the same type of resistance that the overall movement receives. You don't see fathers' rights groups get nearly as much hate, the innocence project gets a lot of respect even though much of their work involves exonerating persons convicted of rape, anti-circumcision activists, while often treated in a dismissive fashion, aren't met with the vitriol that MRAs in general are treated to.… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/12 07:21 PM |
| 0 | Why we have no common ground with feminism.I believe posts like this are incredibly harmful to the men's rights movement. MRAs have a huge PR problem, and simply ranting about how feminists are the cause of all of out problems only makes matters worse. This subreddit often just comes across as shrill and paranoid. Most outsiders' only experience with feminism is with equality feminists, so it's shocking and disturbing for them to see such a vocal opposition to what they think is equality. A big part of the problem is that there isn't a s… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/12 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Feminist say 'a gender-based capital gap for new ventures” exists. Women CEOs face a 'green ceiling'. Will the whining stop?In light of your comments I downloaded the paper from SSRN. There's some interesting stuff there. I was too dismissive. I'd like to see what the results would be from a survey done of people who actually work in the industry rather than just MBA students. My main worry is that MBA students have little to no experience with the criteria used to evaluate companies, and as such might be more likely to fall back on their prejudices related to gender and technology. The paper is also unclear regardin… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/12 03:42 PM |
| 12 | Feminist say 'a gender-based capital gap for new ventures” exists. Women CEOs face a 'green ceiling'. Will the whining stop?This is a manifestation of the general gender gap in the high tech area. The high tech fields that are generating significant activity in the startup arena are dominated (in a numerical sense) by men. When tech businesses are in the startup stage, virtually all of the successful ones are run by people who have a background in the technology in question. There's also the question of how tech ideas are generated and launched - if someone isn't involved in the high tech scene, they won't be able to… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/12 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Debtors prisons are alive and well in the USWhat case is that? I would be very surprised to learn that they had overturned Turner so quickly. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/12 02:09 PM |
| 1 | "Scientists have made a major breakthrough that could soon see human sperm grown in the laboratory."I'm just saying that being able to reproduce is one of the strongest indicator of survival, rightfully so. Yet you provide no reason to think this is the case. There could be all sorts of reasons that someone is no longer able to reproduce without medical assistance. There is no reason to think that inability to reproduce without assistance actually is a stronger indicator of survival than any number of other indicators. Are you claiming that there are other genetic faults linked with this inabi… | /r/MensRights | 02/01/12 11:52 PM |
| 1 | "Scientists have made a major breakthrough that could soon see human sperm grown in the laboratory."So? I don't understand why you're placing such a premium on pure reproductive ability as compared to general survival. From what I can tell, you're drawing your arguments (partially) from the idea that you don't want genetic flaws being propagated through generations. However, there's no reason to think that a flaw that results in sterility is any worse than any other sort of gentic flaw. There are all kinds of harmful or even fatal genetic disorders that don't affect the ability to reproduce, w… | /r/MensRights | 02/01/12 10:42 PM |
| 5 | "Scientists have made a major breakthrough that could soon see human sperm grown in the laboratory."And that difference is what, exactly? | /r/MensRights | 02/01/12 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Woman punches man in face, faces charges of "endangering the welfare of a child"That's an improper definition. "Fear" is not necessary - the actual requirement is that the target reasonably percieves that he is about to be subjected to a battery. Most of the confusion here comes from the traditional definition's use of the word "apprehension" rather than "perception"; apprehension can refer either fear or perception. The latter usage is the correct one. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/12 10:14 PM |
| 3 | "Scientists have made a major breakthrough that could soon see human sperm grown in the laboratory."So should people who survived a disease that would have killed them before the advent of modern medicine also not reproduce? After all, disease is another way nature can prevent someone from reproducing. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/12 10:06 PM |
| 14 | Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans?My answer would depend on what kind of relationship I was in with that person. One night stand/brief fling? I don't need to know, and to be honest it's none of my business. Committed relationship? I think I would have a right to know. Even though she would have left that part of her life behind, I can't imagine that her experiences of being physically male won't influence her outlook on the world. I'm not convinced that I would really know who she was if I didn't know about that part of her hist… | /r/MensRights | 12/10/11 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Today on The People's Court: Woman chases man with her car and when he backs out of his parking spot she hits him: He's guilty and has to go to domestic violence counselingIt's actually not. It's binding arbitration. It only has whatever power the parties before it agree to give it. | /r/MensRights | 12/10/11 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Can we get rid of the 'conspiracy' bit in the sidebar?It needs to go. The tone that it sets does far more harm than good. Also, the term itself isn't accurate for what I see. For the most part, the actions being complained of, and the purposes behind them, are stated pretty openly. In addition, I haven't seen any evidence of the type of active collusion (i.e., an agreement) that is a necessary predicate of a conspiracy. | /r/MensRights | 08/09/11 07:39 PM |
| 14 | If women want to be equal in all things, why are they not required to sign up for the selective service?From what I've seen, and I don't in any way claim to speak for anyone but myself, most men's rights advocates don't claim to represent women's interests. In fact, a major thing men's rights advocates take umbrage to is the way that feminist women claim to be representing men's interests yet leave men unable to participate in any meaningful way. From what I've seen, MRAs say that they want equality, but that's said to make it clear that they are not seeking special privileges - they only want fai… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/10 10:47 PM |
| 2 | There is no *one* Feminism.Feminism certainly isn't the friend of men in any of the variations you mentioned. There really isn't a place for most men in feminist spaces, and as a result men can't be represented in that movement. What I mean by this is that the structure and tradition of feminist discourse is set up in a way that minimizes or eliminates the possibility for men to meaningfully contribute. Feminist discussions have a whole host of background devices that have this effect. The "PHMT"/"WATM" and "check your pr… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/10 01:53 AM |
| 14 | How TheEnlightener got banned from /mensrightsThere is a difference between anonymity and posting of contact information. His accusers certainly are no longer anonymous. The accusers' names are out there, and their actions are slowly being revealed. As the facts come out, the women's character will be scrutinized on a global stage. However, this type of scrutiny is very different from personal harassment, which is what distributing their contact information is encouraging. What legitimate purpose does having their contact information serve? | /r/MensRights | 10/12/10 04:40 PM |
| 4 | For some feminists, voicing concern for male victims somehow equals to marginalizing female victims.That's basically what I was trying to say. I should have been clearer. In general, I was just referring to the attitude of skepticism toward accusations that any judicial system needs to take in order to function in a fair manner. | /r/MensRights | 07/12/10 02:54 AM |
| 0 | Thank you feminism: Female child molester's identity kept secret. Men who are just accused of rape are exposed and shamed before proven guilty.we as a society have decided that relations with a minor is a crime, and therefore, the pediliac's physical culmination of an optimal sexual experience is justly forbidden by law....but that doesn't get to the heart of the theoretical matter. Sure, it doesn't get quite to the heart of the theoretical matter because you simply don't have the right rationale under which the majority of progressives are arguing for gay rights. You premise your argument on: if we are looking at solely sexual desire,… | /r/MensRights | 02/12/10 01:03 PM |
| 1 | "A WOMAN has been given an eight-week suspended sentence and ordered to pay compensation to the male victim of her false rape allegation"-The wording alone pisses me off.I wouldn't be so touchy like that. The reason that they used 'male' was because it's serving as an adjective in the sentence. 'Man' can't really be used as an adjective. The sentence would have to be restructured and lengthened to change it to use the word 'man' instead of 'male'. (i.e. A WOMAN has been given an eight week suspended sentence and order to pay compensation to the man who was victimized by her false rape accusation.) The altered version has a somewhat awkward syntax. Since this was… | /r/MensRights | 21/11/10 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Op-Ed Contributor - Women Don’t Need the Paycheck Fairness Act - NYTimes.comI have a real problem with using the "lingering effects" rationale for what is essentially sex based affirmative action. In the racial affirmative action sphere, the lingering effects rationale has been used to justify certain time-limited benefits for blacks based on the history of discrimination in America. These programs were designed to correct the effects of the history of racism we have had in this country, effects which have propagated down from generation to generation. However, the effe… | /r/MensRights | 19/11/10 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Tomorrow the Supreme Court will consider whether American Fathers have the same Rights as American Mothers to ensure their Children are Citizens at Birth.Does anyone know to what extent the situation here is different from that in Nguyen v. INS? From what I understand, the Ninth Circuit relied on that case in this decision. It was a Supreme Court case from 2001 that I believe addressed this very issue; that is, it was an equal protection case about that immigration statute. The statute was upheld (wrongly). EDIT: When I had a spare moment, I glanced through the briefs. The petitioner (Flores) argues that the distinction between this case and Nguy… | /r/MensRights | 10/11/10 12:53 PM |
| 1 | "Don't Question Rape Accusers"I see nothing here to indicate that .08 is the standard they are using. .08 is the legal standard for driving. Drunk to the point of mental incapacity is an entirely different standard. Also, as to your links, they cite nothing. They don't cite cases, they don't cite statutes, they don't even cite secondary legal literature. The first one was written by an undergraduate philosophy student. Not a judge, not a lawyer, not even a law student. The second is an article on about.com, for god's sake. I… | /r/MensRights | 06/11/10 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Well MensRights, it's official, I'm now much more terrified of false rape charges than STDS.Sorry, I realized I had missed part of your argument. Here's Colorado: "(1) Any actor who knowingly inflicts sexual intrusion or sexual penetration on a victim commits sexual assault if:... (h) The victim is physically helpless and the actor knows the victim is physically helpless and the victim has not consented." This has been interpreted by the Courts to include intoxication. Again, here you are conflating intoxication and incapacitation. The statute that you cited here specifically requires … | /r/MensRights | 05/11/10 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Well MensRights, it's official, I'm now much more terrified of false rape charges than STDS.This has been interpreted by the Courts to include intoxication. “[t]here is more than sufficient evidence to prove that Mr. McMurdo and Mr. Surrell were aware of [J.S.'s] level of intoxication when they had sexual intercourse with her.” It concluded that “the likelihood of obtaining convictions against both suspects under each statute is great.” Sure, intoxication can be evidence that there was no consent. But this case deals with a high degree of intoxication. Let's look at some of the facts f… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/10 04:33 PM |
| 6 | "Don't Question Rape Accusers"According to the law, just her getting drunk makes it legally rape - according to the idea that she could not consent due to being under the influence, even if she'd been eager & willing. I have seen a few people spreading this idea around lately. It simply does not reflect the current state of the law. Where are you getting this? Also, don't you see the problems with this theory? Let's look to the most clear example. Immediately after my wife and I were married, we went on a honeymoon. On the s… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/10 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Well MensRights, it's official, I'm now much more terrified of false rape charges than STDS.In a civil sense, it's never happened. But, there are any number of cases in which a man has been convicted of rape for sleeping with an intoxicated female. My point is twofold. The current state of the law is such that it is criminally wrong to sleep with someone who is intoxicated. No. The current state of the law is that it is criminally wrong to sleep with someone who has not consented. Simple intoxication, by itself, is not enough to invalidate consent as the law currently stands. This is t… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/10 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Well MensRights, it's official, I'm now much more terrified of false rape charges than STDS.What tort are you referring to in this scheme? What are the elements of the cause of action? Can you point me to a case? Or are you talking about recognizing a new tort? If so, why should such a tort be recognized? Also, as far as I know you're simply wrong about the current state of the law. I have never heard of a case where simple intoxication was enough to establish liability under the circumstances I have been talking about. Again, can you point me to a case? To a statute? To anything? Also… | /r/MensRights | 04/11/10 06:59 PM |
| 4 | Well MensRights, it's official, I'm now much more terrified of false rape charges than STDS.Ugh. Again with this nonsense. You're wrong. You're wrong, and I have called you out on it before and you did not provide any type of reasoning to back up your assertion. Voluntary self-intoxication does not necessarily destroy the ability to consent. Why should it do so? There are plenty of reasons to say that is shouldn't. First off, you're suggesting a kind of constructive failure to consent. That is, you're saying that because someone is intoxicated, we will ignore the fact that they did in … | /r/MensRights | 04/11/10 12:00 PM |
| 2 | A Liberal Argument for Men's RightsOne can certainly be an MRA for socially liberal reasons. The divide between liberal MRAs and conservative MRAs is one of the main issues I have with the movement as it stands. While I think that a big-tent movement would have the most success, quite honestly I find many of the views held by conservative MRAs to be disgusting. I do not want a return to traditional values. I do not want there to be socially proscribed roles for women and men. I absolutely despise the usage of the term slut, or an… | /r/MensRights | 01/11/10 10:21 PM |
| 1 | A Liberal Argument for Men's RightsUhh... Read any of the posts about date-rape, acquaintance-rape, or any of the forms of rape which aren't "Beat her and violate her". Lots of men here still make the argument that a woman who drinks to excess is responsible if a man has sex with her without her consent, and some have even talked about women who dress like sluts deserving it. You're going a bit far there. You will occasionally see people here making that sort of claim, but I'm pretty sure most of that is trolling. When you see th… | /r/MensRights | 01/11/10 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Only Rapists Can Stop RapeI was mainly using Lucy v. Zehmer to rebut your assertion earlier that "IF SHE COULD NOT SIGN A VALID CONTRACT IN HER CURRENT MENTAL STATE, SHE CANNOT GIVE CONSENT FOR SEX." Zehmer shows that just being drunk isn't enough to destroy the capacity to make legally significant decisions. In your assertion that it is rape if two drunk people have sex with each other, there was no provision made for fraud, misrepresentation, or sharp dealing. It was just two people willingly engaging in an act togethe… | /r/MensRights | 15/10/10 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Only Rapists Can Stop RapeTechnically, as neither could give consent they each raped the other. That is completely absurd. It is legal formalism at its worst. The law of rape, like any other type of law, needs to take into account circumstances as they happen in the real world. Consent often isn't given verbally by either party - it's inferred from their actions. It's a well-known phenomenon that people will often do things that they wouldn't normally do after they've been drinking. Someone could willingly have sex with … | /r/MensRights | 15/10/10 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Can somebody fix this? Found in Domestic Violence, wikipediaThat article is already further down in the wikipedia page, and they try to counter it using another article that doesn't really address the main point of the original studies. It's another part of the article that needs to be fixed. Look at the "misconceptions" section of the wikipedia article. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/10 02:13 PM |
| 5 | "she didn't realize she wasn't in family court anymore"I really doubt it will do any good. Many states already have this type of law on the books, and it is rarely used. There is also a common law tort claim for interference with visitation, but that is also rarely used. Some commentators also fear that if someone were to bring the common law claim, the judge would just send it back to family court. One thing this article does not say is what type of offense the bill would make interference with visitation rights. Many states treat it just as a pett… | /r/MensRights | 07/10/10 03:55 AM |
| 1 | No evidence, but suspected of child porn… oh wait, he also had encrypted content! Jail time!I'm not sure that your characterization is correct here. It's not just the fact that truecrypt is installed and there are seemingly-random bits. To try to bring this stuff in, the prosecution would lay out their other information that indicates that the defendant has the files they want (this would be the information that the rest of the case is based on) and get an expert to testify that the seemingly random bits are encrypted data. You don't seem to have to prove that there unquestionably is e… | /r/MensRights | 07/10/10 12:00 AM |
| 1 | No evidence, but suspected of child porn… oh wait, he also had encrypted content! Jail time!Which is bullshit if the prosecution can't prove that there is encrypted material on the hard drive. Eh, whether or not there is anything on the drive doesn't have all that much to do with whether or not it's testimonial. What you're talking about goes more to whether or not being forced to turn over the encrypted documents themselves implicates the Fifth Amendment, which is also a somewhat hazy area of law. Also, at least in the Second Circuit, the government has to meet a fairly low standard i… | /r/MensRights | 06/10/10 09:21 PM |
| 2 | No evidence, but suspected of child porn… oh wait, he also had encrypted content! Jail time!Even in the US your right to remain silent will probably not help you when you're ordered to turn over the contents of an encrypted drive. There are two ways the court can get around this. The first and more controversial method is for the government to assert that encryption keys are non-testimonial. The information in the key isn't what is incriminating the defendant: rather, it is the documents on the computer. The other way, which was what a Vermont district court did in US v. Boucher, is to… | /r/MensRights | 06/10/10 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Did they say, "Grow up and get married?"You're absolutely wrong about how to advance the men's rights movement, and quite frankly, your attitude is disgusting. Comments like this do far more harm than good: they paint MRAs as angry, paranoid, and incapable of communicating like a reasonable adult. Your comment about demanding that women respect your authority before you will speak with them is particularly over the top. Simply telling women to shut up is not going to solve any of the problems confronting the men's rights movement. You… | /r/MensRights | 05/10/10 10:26 PM |
| 14 | Get a lawyer before sex: 27 precautions before risking sex with a woman (check ID; prove she was sober & never withdrew consent; maintain proof on file for years; watch your sperm to prevent artificial insemination, ...)The real point is that you should be able to have sex with whomever you wish without the worry of being forced to suffer through a lifetime of legal and economic consequences. Nobody is (well, very few) quite paranoid enough to take the article completely seriously. What this article does, however, is illustrate the very real risks that men have to take in order to participate in what should be a simple, fun activity. To be sure, the vast majority of women will not participate in these kind of t… | /r/MensRights | 04/10/10 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Men are more often victims of DVThanks for the link. When I get the chance I'll have to look into Gelles' full article. I was mostly just playing devil's advocate. It bugs the hell out of me when people try to refute scholarly work without any actual evidence. I am actually not convinced by Kimmel's paper for several reasons, but primarily because I am utterly unconvinced by his reasons for throwing away the use of the CTS. His main reason is that it doesn't take into account the context or severity of the violence. A man coul… | /r/MensRights | 30/09/10 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Men are more often victims of DVDon't disregard arguments out of hand like this, particularly when you haven't read the article in question. In a somewhat surprising move for Cracked, the author of the article has linked to a bibliography that was collected from 275 different scholarly studies that show that women more frequently perpetrate domestic violence than men. If you disagree with the argument, disagree with it on the evidence. It's not as if others haven't attacked this study. A prime example of this would be an artic… | /r/MensRights | 30/09/10 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Equality QuestionI don't think I would really be interested in tagging myself as a law student. I can't have the things I say being taken as legal advice. Very often people come here for advice about what to do in divorce and custody situations, and I would prefer to be able to comment without worrying as much about how what I say will be understood. If there was some sort of designation with my name, I worry that what I say might be taken as being in some sort of official or professional capacity. Regarding the… | /r/MensRights | 29/09/10 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Equality QuestionYou might be surprised just how many law students and lawyers subscribe to MensRights. Law student here, long time lurker. To an extent, I have to agree with the OP. You guys do tend to get a bit shrill from time to time, and as such the general tone here can be somewhat offensive to outsiders. That said, I have a great respect for the work you're trying to do. I have seen you guys bring up some very important legal and social issues. Mens Rights is a woefully underdeveloped field of law, and th… | /r/MensRights | 29/09/10 03:23 AM |
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