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tall, smart, extravert, butt
/r/seduction28/03/16 01:27 PM
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something along the lines of "that's cool. i'm really into what we're doing right now, though", and keep making out/touching. she might change her mind, and she might not. you have to be okay with either possibility. if you want a cuddle bud that night, def stay and cuddle. if you're just doing it in the hopes that she'll change her mind and fuck you, take your leave and tell her that you want to see her again. (be honest with yourself. if you don't want cuddles and you stay anyway, she'll notic…
/r/seduction18/10/15 05:28 PM
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it means you're visibly needy. you look like you're trying really hard. try to be happy with your current situation. or at least look like it?
/r/seduction18/10/15 05:17 PM
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who do you think got laid more: jimi hendrix, or bill gates?
/r/seduction18/10/15 05:14 PM
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throw parties, have friends that throw parties. bonus: be buds with some djs/musicians (and/or be one yourself).
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:09 AM
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yes. but "don't place your self worth" isn't an atomic action. you have to train your brain to stop doing it, and a step toward that is to avoid dwelling on it by distracting yourself.
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:01 PM
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hang out with photographers. (or just anyone with an instagram account, really) you'll want good photos of you, so hanging out with people likely to take them is a good idea. after a while, some of them are bound to be good. you could also pay someone. or be a guinea pig for a photography student.
/r/seduction07/08/15 03:25 PM
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as long as you're not faking it during those initial stages, you'll be good. well, you'll be no worse than you otherwise would, but you'll be meeting more potential partners (which is better). if you misrepresent yourself to get them into bed, you're shooting yourself in the foot, though. relationship tips: when she hints/asks for your attention, give it. even if you're busy, give her your attention long enough to tell her you're busy and need a few minutes/hours/whatever. never ignore her. this…
/r/seduction07/08/15 03:14 PM
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or just tell her you want to fuck her while you're making out in the kitchen, and then go to the bedroom (or just stay in the kitchen, depending on roomie situation/condom availability/etc.). yep. work out and eat well. this will be good for basically every aspect of your life. good to be able to do, but you can also just tell her to take it off. if it looks like a tough one, or you didn't get a chance to see the mechanism (some have like, 10 hooks. some have a zipper. some don't have any mechan…
/r/seduction21/07/15 01:13 PM
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i think it's because of the "don't mention sex" thing. if you want sex, you should mention sex.
/r/seduction19/07/15 05:50 PM
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if you stop being weird about sex, you'll have more+better sex. (hint: people who have sex more are typically better at it)
/r/seduction19/07/15 05:45 PM
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drop the red pill shit. it will do terrible things for your outlook on life. it might seem like an improvement over what you were doing before, but it's a local maxima, not a global one. try reading "models" to start down that path, and keep whatever confidence you gained from red pill. also, if you want to have sex, stop making shitty excuses. lesbians manage without a cock; i'm sure you can manage to get each other off without doing anything that requires a condom.
/r/seduction17/07/15 12:13 PM
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tell them that the others will be there. if they're not cool with it, they can not show up. (also, prepare for the possibility that they'll be upset about it) i was dating three people for a while, and i wanted them all to be at a party of mine. they all knew about each other, and two of them had met before, but i was still nervous. so i sucked it up and invited the three of them anyway, plus the married one's husband. it went totally fine. i was still a bit nervous until i came into the living …
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:33 AM
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this is some of the dumbest shit i have read. you were escalating. she told you she has a boyfriend. she told you she's not into dumping him, cheating on him, open relationship, or anything of the sort. where's the fucking mystery? also, stop assuming people are shit testing you.
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:22 AM
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try breathing exercises/meditation/similar before you go out. get familiar with how being calm and collected feels. then when you notice yourself acting like an asshat, bring yourself back to that feeling.
/r/seduction17/07/15 02:47 AM
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you only need the focus of one woman at a time. instead of trying to interject to the whole group, direct your energy to one woman in that group at a time. (skip around until you find a hint of interest, and then stay with that one to see if you can make it go anywhere with her). also, split off solo, and have your friends there for the "i'm gonna get back to my friends" exit, and for people to hang out with when you want to take a breather. you don't need to be glued to them the whole time.
/r/seduction17/07/15 02:35 AM
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and now that i watched the rest of the video: someone with no concept of body language asked how he made the part with the woman not awkward. he said that he didn't, and just asked her to pretend she was into it for the sake of the talk. she was obviously nervous, which makes sense given that she was on stage, etc. he also mentioned that you should meditate on it. i think that meditation could use more emphasis than he gave it, though. he's telling you the "what", and meditation is the "how", or…
/r/seduction15/07/15 09:30 PM
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do as he says, not as he does. that bit with the woman on stage was super uncomfortable; she wasn't into it at all! i hadn't really thought about being sexual this way before. i have thought similar things, like "express what you're feeling", and "try not to think about it", but he really gets to the core of it here. this is a really good place for meditation to come in. meditation is basically practice for exactly what he's talking about; dismissing those anxious thoughts that will put you out …
/r/seduction15/07/15 09:19 PM
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do you think you have better odds being one of the 5 men a not-very-attractive women fucks, or one of the 50 men a more attractive woman fucks? (the thing i'm hinting at requires a somewhat naive interpretation of statistics, but i think having a fuzzy view of the stats is probably good for you in this case) also, the woman that's all dressed up, covered in make up, and speaking confidently, is probably going to go home with someone that night (it could be you!). the shy woman who just threw som…
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:57 PM
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there are many healthy ways to not have sex, but shrugging you off isn't one of them. does he have that sort of response with other things, or just sex? like, what does he do if you come over and kiss him on the cheek (when you're not trying to fuck him)? or if you try to show him a photo you thought was interesting?
/r/seduction21/02/15 10:11 PM
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you know how most men don't approach much? most women don't either. so, if you're not terribly attractive, the women that do approach are busy approaching someone else. women do approach men. you can pretend they don't, but then you're losing out on the possibility of passively attracting women by looking better or more interesting. (i like to wear crazy patterned tights. when i do, the number of women approaching me increases) but, even if you are being approached, you should probably still app…
/r/seduction19/02/15 10:34 AM
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i don't text new women much because i don't text anyone much. i have a phone so that i can meet up with people more easily, not so that i can have conversations on it. but, if you text other people all the time, i see no reason to avoid texting a new woman in your life. having a rule about how long you should wait, etc. seems like a whole pile of bullshit.
/r/seduction08/02/15 01:11 PM
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mainline molly i'd rather do molly orally.
/r/seduction09/10/14 01:54 PM
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i don't use deodorant or perfume, and i have had people positively comment on my smell. i mean, it's possible that i just smell unusually good. but, i think it's more likely that humans usually smell okay, and the whole "you smell bad" thing is a marketing tactic to make people feel bad and buy more deodorant and perfume.
/r/seduction09/10/14 01:50 PM
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generally positive. and if they don't like hugs, they're usually glad i asked, instead of just going for it. if they don't extend their hand, sometimes i'll ask if they want to hug, and other times i don't. pretty much always positive reviews if i do, though.
/r/seduction09/10/14 12:58 AM
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if someone extends their hand for one, i'll often ask if they want a hug instead. i do this with men and women. less in business contexts, though (maybe i should do it there, too, to see how people react?).
/r/seduction08/10/14 08:59 PM
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using exposure therapy on myself. so, for anything i'm nervous about, i try to find something not-so-bad that's in the same direction as the thing i'm nervous about, and do that until i'm comfortable with it, then find something a little closer, etc. it's a general technique. works great for approaches (try asking strangers for the time, to start).
/r/seduction06/10/14 07:08 PM
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wall of text, here: don't watch porn. use memories and your imagination; you want to be getting hard to the thoughts of people you might actually fuck, and in the ways you might fuck them. (you can also remember/imagine smells, feelings, maybe tastes?, that you wouldn't get from watching porn). but yeah, think someone you saw that day was a babe? think of them while you rub one out. change the amount you masturbate. for some people, stopping/reducing frequency helps, for others, doing it more he…
/r/seduction06/10/14 07:03 PM
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i like to use the first date to get a sense of their character. i'm usually not a particularly sexual person, so in my head, sex is just something that we might do occasionally if we like each other. i have been in a few situations where there was a girl in my bed on the first date, or i was in theirs. one or both of us weren't really into sex those nights, though; just kissing and touching and such. that said, everyone i have had sex with, we had sex on the second date. i have never planned it …
/r/seduction04/10/14 10:30 PM
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act as sexual as you would actually like to be. so, if you're horny, or you're usually a very sexual person, you should probably act like it. if they're into it, you'll get laid faster. if they're not, you'll filter them out faster. if you're not very sexual, or you aren't really feeling it that night, don't pretend to. you won't seem genuine, and you might end up having unpleasant sex, or a disappointed woman, or some other sort of bullshit that you don't need to inflict on yourself.
/r/seduction04/10/14 09:11 PM
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not yet. but there's something that's been on my reading list for a while now. reviews are good, and a friend that i trust with this sort of thing told me about it. Impro: Improvisation and the Theatre i skimmed a bit, and there's a section (abut 1/4) of the book on status play, which seems like it's full of good/interesting stuff. some of it probably relevant for seduction, or just social interaction in general. also, "yes, and..." seems like a good mindset to be in. especially in a group setti…
/r/seduction04/10/14 07:24 PM
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you interpreted that as getting shit tested, and then wasting time and a drink on some girl. you could interpret as: you made out, had drinks with, and danced with someone. what the fuck were you expecting? a blowjob for buying her a drink?
/r/seduction03/10/14 04:09 PM
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at first, i didn't understand this at all. why the fuck would your friends be in your room uninvited? but now i get it. you literally share a room with someone. not 'roommate' as in 'housemate'. do you drive? does she drive? pretend it's high school, and fuck in the car. or drive somewhere and fuck outside. walk somewhere, and fuck outside. find a single-occupancy bathroom. ask your roomie to fuck off for an evening, and use your room. whatever. just find a spot. a couple weeks ago, i was on a d…
/r/seduction03/10/14 04:00 PM
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...is this guy furiously fapping?
/r/seduction17/09/14 10:08 PM
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you should 'like' a photo of them from three years ago. actual suggestion: post a photo of you being a babe (or doing something manly, or whatever. just make sure the focus is you, and not the thing you're doing). send messages to the people that like/comment on it, asking them to go for a coffee date.
/r/seduction17/09/14 07:34 PM
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might not be your thing, but you can turn one (or more) of those relationships into something more serious, and still keep going casually with the others. i just like to let people know that being exclusive isn't the only way to deepen a relationship. (look up polyamory, or consensual non-monogamy, if you need more info) but, either way, don't compromise. if you want to be friends with them, and don't want to fuck them, then be friends with them, and don't fuck them. if they want to fuck you, th…
/r/seduction17/09/14 05:24 PM
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as a rule, don't learn sex from porn. pay attention to her. if you can't read her face/body, ask her questions. if she's not liking it, go back to something you know she's comfortable with before trying another new thing. if there's something you like done to you, try it on her. ask her what the sexiest thing someone has done to her is (you can ask earlier. like, at the dinner table) know that everyone is different. one girl might like getting her ass slapped, another might hate it. also, if you…
/r/seduction17/09/14 04:57 PM
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i'm kinda skinny (not ideal for going as a spartan), so my plan is to go as a sexy witch. long black boots, tattered orange skirt, see-through black shirt (or no shirt, if i can't find one that looks good), and pointy hat. whatever you do, go as a sexy [whatever]. no masks, no props. show some skin, or wear something skin-tight. make it apparent that you don't give a fuck, and don't try to temper it by being hipster "look at how bad this is" funny. (i could do my witch costume as campy drag with…
/r/seduction17/09/14 04:38 PM
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nothin' wrong with flirting at a party. just don't make out with anyone (unless the girl you went with it is cool with that. which she might be. ask her?).
/r/seduction15/09/14 10:09 PM
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if you have not done it before, i suggest you try mdma. do it somewhere that you'll have people to talk to (preferably something lower energy than a rave. but that'll work, as long as you make sure to sit down and talk to people, instead of just dancing all night). i'm not suggesting you do it all the time, but it can give you a taste of what being a more emotional creature feels like, and you can then emulate that feeling later when you're not high. with any drug, i suggest reading up on it bef…
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:53 PM
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last week, i was on a date, and asked something like "have you ever been talking to a date or partner about a thing you did together, and then realized you actually did it with someone else you were seeing?". she responded with "omg, i did that to my fiancé just the other day!", and then went into the story. so yeah. just be open about it. lying (even by omission) is just going to cause you unnecessary stress.
/r/seduction15/09/14 02:25 AM
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drink red wine while you cook. clean your kitchen (dishes. wipe down the counters, sweep+mop the floor). invest in good kitchen gear. your life (dating and non-dating) will improve, and if you get decent stuff, it will last longer than you do. cast iron frying pan, chef's knife, wood cutting board, long metal spatula, wooden spoon, decent size pot. also, curl your fucking fingers when you chop things. no, curl them more than that. you don't want your date to end in a trip to the hospital.
/r/seduction13/09/14 02:00 AM
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had a girl come over for breakfast, and cooked her an omelette. i did this style (the first one): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=57afEWn-QDg i eat vegan, but i can cook a pretty good omelette.
/r/seduction13/09/14 01:44 AM
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i just open with this one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qr2bSL5VQgM
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:25 PM
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they're different. well, under the definition of 'best' that i'm using, which as far as i can tell is the most common one: strictly better than all others. you're not better than bill gates (he has more money than you, and uses it to save poor people from terrible diseases), or brad pitt (he also has more money than you, and is famous for being attractive and charming), or that asshole playing acoustic guitar at a party (well, maybe you are better than that guy. i dunno). 'not worse' is a more r…
/r/seduction09/09/14 11:36 PM
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this is ridiculous. in general, i have not found women to be shitty. maybe you're either filtering out the cool ones with your behaviour/personality, eliciting negative responses from otherwise good people by being a total dickwad, or simply labelling totally normal human behaviour as shitty? you don't need to think you're the best. you just need to not be worse than anyone. (if you find a man that's a pareto improvement over you, hit the gym, or get better at playing flute, or something). if yo…
/r/seduction09/09/14 11:21 PM
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i think a bunch of you guys are missing the point here. this does work, and it's not about being assertive or 'alpha'. it's decision avoidance. basically, people don't like to make decisions. it takes energy, and we're a lazy species. by asking her to tell you when she's free, you're asking her to decide between a possibly large set of times. but it's even worse than that: if she tells you when she's free, you might tell her that you aren't available those times, which means she's going to have …
/r/seduction08/09/14 09:05 PM
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i think his arguments to counter "don't you think this is wrong?" are entirely valid. a friend (who was trying to sleep with me while i was in a monogamous relationship (and she was in an open relationship)) told me a similar line, and it's pretty much why i stopped doing monogamy. "i love my partner. if he found someone so perfect that he would leave me for them, how could i want to stop him and still call what i'm doing 'love'"? so, i don't really have any moral objection to people cheating. b…
/r/seduction08/09/14 04:16 AM
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active transportation. don't date chicks that live in the 'burbs. show up in a suit on a longboard. "wanna ride bikes?" bonus: people that will put up with your lack of car probably have awesome legs.
/r/seduction06/09/14 04:50 PM
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if you're doing it because she doesn't give a fuck, then yeah, text is fine. if you're going to run into each other again, and you have even a little bit of respect for her as a human, it's probably better to at least call. this is probably less of an issue for people in larger cities.
/r/seduction06/07/14 05:34 PM
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try to break it off in such a way that you won't have to stand in opposite corners of the room if you see each other again. "this isn't working" is a good suggestion. or something similar. you can do it over breakfast. phone is fine if you have only been on a couple dates. don't do it via text; they're too easily misinterpreted, and she'll think you're a bag of dicks (rather than just uninterested). i have had a few super clingy/stalker types. after the initial attempt, they don't go away. for t…
/r/seduction06/07/14 01:37 PM
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i usually tell them the truth. but i also don't usually go solo without a reason to. "they're dancing at [other bar]. i might meet up with them later, but i wanted to see [band playing]" "it's tuesday night, and they have normal-people jobs." "it was scotch night last night, and most of them are still recovering"
/r/seduction06/07/14 01:07 PM
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When I got divorced in 20s your marriage lasted 20 seconds you got divorced in the 1920s you got divorced when you were in your 20s
/r/seduction06/07/14 12:49 PM
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self evaluation is good. in addition to using a mirror, you can also use acid. it can make you super introspective.
/r/seduction06/07/14 12:41 PM
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i tried it. i think it works for some dating styles, and you could game it, but it's a different game. my results: i only messaged people i thought looked good and seemed interesting. reply rate of about 1/5, date rate of about 1/15 (or 1/3, if you only count ones that replied). upon meeting people in person, i found they were mostly not attractive. there were two i found attractive. one of them hates being touched (like, seriously hates it. she knocked her best friend out for hugging her once. …
/r/seduction05/07/14 01:28 PM
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advice: assume she actually does have a boyfriend. don't assume it's a 'no'. but, if you're uncomfortable with pursuing things with a woman that has a boyfriend, find someone else. if you're cool with it, see if she's in an open relationship, or willing to cheat, or willing to dump him for you (whatever of those you're comfortable with. personally, i prefer open relationships, and i'm okay (not thrilled) with cheating. wouldn't date anyone that dumped their partner for me). but yeah, people in a…
/r/seduction03/07/14 07:59 PM
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non-exhaustive list of possibilities: she's just okay with flirting, and you'll hit a wall somewhere she's in an open relationship. she's willing to cheat. she's looking to get a new boyfriend.
/r/seduction03/07/14 12:01 PM
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4 out of 5 are not. So, online dating sucks 80 percent of the time. looks like somebody doesn't know bayes theorem. edit: seriously? downvotes for pointing out that their understanding of statistics is completely missing, when the whole point of the article relies on it? P(online date | married) == 0.2 P(married | online date) =/= 0.2 it's almost certainly far less than that. real life dates are also almost certainly less than that. (do you marry 4 out of every 5 people you date? i highly fuckin…
/r/seduction03/07/14 02:27 AM
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go for it. respect her boundaries, not his. i mean, you can respect his wishes if you want, but it's not like he owns her.
/r/seduction19/05/14 07:09 PM
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this is clearly satire, you asshats! i feel like commenting on them anyway, though, due to a recent experience: last week, i used "i really like you" (we had met for a couple minutes, then exchanged numbers), "!", "lol", and "happy ides of may". we met up on saturday, and i am in the best kind of friend zone: the fwb zone (plus some of this: http://www.qwantz.com/index.php?comic=2615). also, the 'sorry' one should have an exception if you're canadian. here, if someone bumps into you, you say "so…
/r/seduction19/05/14 01:38 PM
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most people (both men and women) seem to not be lifelong monogamous. most are either serial monogamous, or they cheat, or they're openly non-monogamous. i don't think your exception of married people holds up. in places where it's not terribly difficult to divorce, most marriages end in divorce and both people date and/or marry other people. also, cheating is rather common. so yeah. as far as i can tell, this is a human thing, and not a men thing. the cultural expectation of "maybe fool around f…
/r/seduction18/05/14 10:10 PM
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i would pick one (the one i liked more, or the one that seemed more into me, or just the one that was available first), go on a date with her, and tell her that i think her friend is cute/hot/awesome, too. i'm a relationship anarchist/polyamorous, though. this probably doesn't work as well if you want to be monogamous (or maintain the illusion of monogamy by being "single").
/r/seduction18/05/14 02:07 PM
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this sort of crap is how PUA gets a bad name. this is slut shaming. it's blatant manipulation. it's not going to work on women with solid confidence/inner game/whatever you call it. (so, the best ones)
/r/seduction17/05/14 11:58 AM
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even then, there's some key times. think of it like a game between present planning self, and future lazy asshole self. some key times: when you first wake up. right after work. etc. if you dick around on the internet, you're probably going to keep doing so until some event forces you to change tasks; it's easier not to start than to do it for only 10 minutes and then stop. (so, do your internet bullshit after your work out, or watever)
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:33 PM
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i have heard that too, but it doesn't seem like practical advice unless you're a time traveller. in the case of a hug, when they loosen their grip, you do the same. don't wait until they're pushing you away. or, if you have your hand on their leg, keep it there and run your fingers along said leg, if they're comfortable with your hand there. move it when you need to make hand gestures or something. what i was trying to focus on is "don't stop because you think there's some arbitrary time limit",…
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:27 PM
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sometimes there is a 'right time'. you still won't necessarily feel like it, but there can be a distinct time where you should do something, and it will be weirder/harder otherwise. like, when you part ways, that's the time to go for a hug or a kiss or get a phone number, if you have not done so already. or when you first notice someone across the room, you should approach immediately, or when you go to get another beer, or something. approaching 3 arbitrary minutes later is going to be a lot ha…
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:14 PM
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some people are totally open to touch. some aren't. some in between. i have opened with a hug a few times and got to making out in under a minute, before any words were even exchanged. key thing: as long as they're still enjoying it, keep doing it. don't stop a hug at 30 seconds because your brain told you that they're not supposed to last that long; only stop if they're signalling that they're done. another tme, i went on like, 10 dates, and they were still uncomfortable with most forms of touc…
/r/seduction16/05/14 02:47 PM
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i find a lot of human interaction seems alien to me, so i look here (and other places) to make sense of it and get better at the parts i'm bad at. i don't seem to have much trouble finding people to make out with, but i'd like to be more aware of how it happens. right now it seems like i have figured out how to make myself attractive and inviting, but my control is mostly limited to turning down/dodging people i don't want, rather than actively choosing people i do want. i honestly don't have mu…
/r/seduction16/05/14 02:15 PM
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i have had success with complementing them on something unusual about their clothes. it's always been a "hey, i noticed that thing you did". if the focus is on the quality, rather than the novelty, i have had no luck. probably because i feel uncomfortable giving complements, and it shows (i don't take them well, either. it's a part of human interaction that just seems foreign to me). but yeah. about about a week ago, i was laying on a bed at a party with my head dangling off, and some platform s…
/r/seduction16/05/14 01:53 PM
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so, i'm not into threesomes (or foursomes, or any other form of sex with more than one person at a time). i have turned them down/dodged them a number of times, and some of my friends have them with some regularity, though, so i have seen some patterns. find one woman that's interested in the idea, and in you (at least sexually). this could be a fb, fwb, comitted partner, etc. it's going to be way easier if you have a solid relationship of some with them, rather than someone you just met 10 minu…
/r/seduction13/05/14 02:57 PM
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