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| 309 | Probably the worst double standardIn all seriousness, the most responsible thing a man can do is to freeze his sperm at 18, get a vasectomy, and then when he and his partner want to have a baby, unfreeze it and inseminate. Healthier sperm, no risk of causing any unwanted pregnancies. Cheaper and less side effects than any women's contraceptive, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:32 PM |
| 14 | Vetting Men by their job position"I want my child to have a good job" is one thing (and can be either motivated by 'I want my child to be wealthy and not have to worry about food and housing' or by 'I want a child I can brag about on parties'), but there's a lot of people who don't seem to want the best for their child. For example, wanting your child to be a big law lawyer = wanting your child to have a high risk of substance abuse and heart attacks before middle age. Then there's also definitely the inverse of wanting the bes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 88 | Vetting Men by their job positionMen in a high-risk profession who dream of having a child (son) follow in their footsteps. "I got shot at, almost died, and now have PTSD. I want my loved ones to also get shot at and die or get PTSD!" is not the type of man who'd make a good partner or parent. This kind of rhetoric is common among police and military but can happen among any job that has a high rate of death/disability/injury/PTSD/alcoholism/suicide. (Honestly I consider it a red flag if any person or parent is puts a lot of we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:20 AM |
| 318 | "friend" refuses to accept "no means no"."I neither accept her 'no' nor do I accept that I need to brush my teeth." I'm getting some missing missing reasons vibes here. Or when the missing missing reasons aren't missing, vibes. But honestly it's nauseating. "I am entitled to sleep with you" is terrifying, but "I am entitled to sleep with you and not even my unbrushed teeth are a valid reason for you not to desire the same" is a whole other level of scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:25 PM |
| 4 | What's FDS opinion on Anna Bey?As for her advice on Youtube, it's largely focused on sugar babying by a different name: it's all "Don't ever show unhappiness or expect emotional support from the man, he's rich! he doesn't want you if you do that" and "You can't honestly expect him to be faithful, he's rich! just pretend not to notice" And then there's this, which I haven't checked the validity and truthfulness of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:34 AM |
| 29 | Cry me a river.This reminds me of this song, from the musical Twisted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 11:02 AM |
| 13 | How male entitlement starts young and from top-down: Boys at an Anglican school asked to rate their ideal girl. ‘Virgin’ is worth 6x as much as qualities such as ‘generous, adventurous, sincere’. Girls were instead taught to ‘stay pure’. Cue smooth brain scrotes defending this garbage.Good PEDIGREE???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:11 AM |
| 74 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'The problem with all of these things - non-monogamy, BDSM relationships, heck, even porn - is that advocates compare the best of their worlds to the worst of ours. Equating non-monogamy with love and monogamy with control and coercion. Equating BDSM with consent and 'vanilla' with rape. Equating porn with enlightenment and non-porn with repression. But people are coerced in non-monogamy and love monogamously. People are raped in BDSM and consent to vanilla sex. There are (many) people (consumers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:40 PM |
| 7 | What do you ladies think ?Yes. (And why "all women, and gay/bi men"? Why not "straight/bi women and gay/bi men"?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:14 AM |
| 49 | What do you ladies think ?His argument is, what? All of society 'validates' (harasses) women and therefore women and gay men should 'validate' (worship) men? He's victim-blaming, dictiming, rape apologising, all of which we've seen before - but it takes a real leap of logic to say "Men are mean to men. Women have a duty to fix that." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:02 PM |
| 9 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesOr disabled folk! So few public toilets have one that meets some definition of accessible. (Even 'accessible' toilets that meet building code or ADA standards don't meet the needs of many disabled people - but that's a story for another time.) It's ridiculous. The big cities here have many free urinals, and few pay toilets, and no free toilets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:39 PM |
| 84 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesIt's so ridiculous. Women need to use the bathroom more frequently than men, and they take a little longer (because of needing to undress, because of menstruation, and because we actually do wipe). Yet most bathrooms have more spots for men than for women - for example, the women will have two toilets and the men will have one toilet and two urinals. In other words: women need more fixtures than men, though men usually get more fixtures than women. Potty parity is a thing. Some places have impro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:36 AM |
| 301 | Just imagine all the NVM raging at this 🤣It's easier to implicitly call yourself a golddigger than to say you were groomed. I hope she's alright. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 11:14 AM |
| 219 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.How's this for motivation? Studies have shown that in heterosexual relationships where the woman earns more than the man does, the man tends to do less housework and is more likely to engage in domestic violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 11:09 AM |
| 78 | Support Corner: We have ALL made mistakes in the past which brought us here! Embrace your errors, forgive yourself, and CELEBRATE the fact that you're changing little by little.I don't know what low vibrational means but I hope it means "like a cheap broken vibrator that does nothing to get you off". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 10:07 PM |
| 78 | Paying while dating: meet the men who pick up the check (and those who don’t)Exactly! Gender norms aside, the inviter pays. No one is making you invite them out, geez. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:04 PM |
| 220 | Performative love (what men want) vs the real thing (what women want).Your distinguishing by performative love being what men want, and real love being what women want, reminds me of that study that found that both men and women look for a partner with a sense of humour, only men define 'a partner with a sense of humour' as 'someone who laughs at my jokes' and women define it as 'someone who makes me laugh'. Women want a partner who is funny. Men want a partner who reassures them that they are funny (and laughs, rather than takes offense, at rude comments and 'jok… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:57 AM |
| 4 | After a post about a marriage counsellor obsessed with making couples stay together to the point that he recommends a woman forces herself to have frequent sex so that her husband might stop abusing her, I received thisNote also the activity in NoFap... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:22 AM |
| 62 | Can we talk about this concept for a minute and why it should bother you as a woman?https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2032712668?book_show_action=false lists a couple of quotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 10:03 PM |
| 601 | Can we talk about this concept for a minute and why it should bother you as a woman?The book "The five love languages" is an awful load of misogyny written by a priest whose main priority is to keep couples together (i.e. keep women from leaving their spouses). At one point he recommends that the woman gives frequent oral sex 'while thinking of Jesus!' to stop her husband from abusing her. The specifics of the abuse are conveniently glossed over. It's also extremely self-congratulatory. Once he's told the women to meet the need of the husband, they lived marriedly ever after ('… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 10:00 PM |
| 42 | What the frog just came across my timelineHIV is primarily transmitted from the penetrating to the penetrated (applies to oral, vaginal and anal sex) - the reverse is possible, but happens far less often. Not sure about other STDs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:48 PM |
| 142 | What the frog just came across my timelineThis is the (only) argument against male birth control pills. Some women would trust their partner. Other men would use 'but I'm on birth control!' to manipulate women into foregoing condoms, as another variation on 'I've photoshopped negative STI test results and you are on BC!'. And the women who lack agency or assertiveness to stand up to that don't deserve to go to the traumatic experiences of being misled (sexually assaulted, honestly) and having to go through pregnancy or pregnancy termina… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:11 PM |
| 36 | young girl posts tik tok about being flat chested, middle aged plastic surgeon comments.Most plastic surgeons have had botox themselves. Facial botox inhibits one's ability to feel deep emotions and to emphatize. This seems mostly down to the 'happiness causes smiling, smiling reinforces happiness' phenomenon as well as due to mirror neurons. Don't date a frozen face! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:10 PM |
| 149 | young girl posts tik tok about being flat chested, middle aged plastic surgeon comments.Cosmetic plastic surgeons are so creepy. 9 in 10 plastic surgeons are men, compared to maybe 2 of 10 patients. (I looked up the numbers once and don't feel like doing that again.) They're literally cutting women open to make them look more like a porn-based beauty ideal. (Somehow I suspect that the few female plastic surgeons work mostly in reconstructive, not cosmetic, plastic surgery.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 2 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I don't want to marry. If I did, though, the ring better come with a guarantee of ethics - no blood diamonds, no gold mined by children or in such a way as to release lead into the environment, etc. Any man who would even consider supporting these exploitative businesses is one that I'd rather not know. Proposal: in private, with ample opportunity to discuss it. These are the bare minimum though, I wouldn't call them standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:51 PM |
| 119 | FunnyHa! I saw a video of a men's breast milk pumping room once. All the amenities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:40 PM |
| 41 | Our culture teaches men that it isn’t romantic to ask for permissionI'd like to respectfully disagree with this. Our culture as a whole does not teach men they should not ask for permission - it just excuses them when they don't ask, or when they don't bother to care whether she is interested. (Boys will be boys!) The media industry - which is extremely male-dominated - shows an image where asking for permission is unromantic. As most people have watched more romcoms than they have had relationships, they then consider this the way they should do it as well. But… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:55 PM |
| 49 | Some additional ideas on what to vet for.Along with not wanting daughters and homophobia, be wary of men in high-risk professions who dream of having a child (probably a son) follow in their footsteps. I just can't get my head around it. "I risked death and disability in the military and I want my child to also risk death and disability in the military!" Normal people don't want to increase their loved ones' chance of getting blown up, PTSD etc. (This is not just the military - any dangerous profession applies.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:36 AM |
| 22 | ~Anyone anywhere bringing up women's issues~ Men and pickmes: bUt WhAt aBoUt MeN? wHaT aBoUt MuH pEnIs?http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/ohara/ The TL;DR is that male circumcision has a massive effect on female's sexual pleasure during PIV: the decreased penile sensitivity increases the agressiveness of the man's thrusting, leading to less clitoral contact, lubrication being removed from the vagina rather than retained, and women self-reporting higher scores on matters like "Felt I was being used as a masturbatory object" and "My vagina does not like this". People - intact or circumcised - who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 08:03 AM |
| 6 | Is it work if you can’t put it on your resume as experience? If ‘sex work is work’, would they encourage their mothers, sisters, or daughters to pursue it?I don't think it really matters to be honest. The risks - of violence, doxxing, and societal consequences like job loss or child custody loss - are the same regardless of the amount of hours worked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 08:16 PM |
| 1104 | It’s lowkey empowering to embarrass old scrotes that try to approach you lol.Someone calls this "returning awkward to sender". They're trying to give you an awkward feeling, but you are free to refuse delivery and leave them with the awkwardness. Guilt-free: you're not the one causing awkwardness, they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:32 AM |
| 22 | Is it work if you can’t put it on your resume as experience? If ‘sex work is work’, would they encourage their mothers, sisters, or daughters to pursue it?https://xsrus.com/the-economics-of-onlyfans Turns out it's the median, not the average. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:08 AM |
| 11 | I tried to highlight the worst parts, but it's all so bad... 😬"I personally think he is very handsome" and "He is beautiful to me" always make me cringe - it's an insult phrased as a compliment. Perhaps least of all in this context. You see it frequently when someone becomes disabled and especially disfigured, and then their spouse/friends/family says, "You are beautiful to me!" That's such a slap in the face. If you think someone is beautiful, tell them they're beautiful, don't qualify it with a "to me (and to no one else and I totally understand why, whi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:51 PM |
| 32 | I’m so disgusted and sad for his wifeHe's not even consistent in his excuses! So the affair started when he stopped ritalin and when, after he re-started ritalin, he spent five years drunk? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 495 | Is it work if you can’t put it on your resume as experience? If ‘sex work is work’, would they encourage their mothers, sisters, or daughters to pursue it?The average Onlyfans worker makes 180/month. In return for that, one risks, - stalking, violence - trauma - doxxing, being fired from current job, being fired/not hired at future job, having it held against you in family court That's a net loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:59 PM |
| 80 | If your man doesn't touch these then you've failed to properly vet... How would you edit this? Swipe left to see mine 👈🏼I disagree. If you're in a relationship with a person who, without prompting, changes his child's diapers, does laundry, dishes, and cooking - the only thing that says is that you may possibly be dating an adult. (There are other qualifications for adulthood, such as whether one cleans, tidies, communicates, etc, so these four things are not yet sufficient proof.) I don't like this tbh. It seems to imply "If a man does household chores, he respects his partner" but that seems to imply that house… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:38 PM |
| 54 | Men: Marriage is till death do us part, not till "I don't feel like it anymore". Time to get off your entitled high horse.Society would like you to believe that spending 10 years married, realizing it doesn't work for you anymore, and they divorcing is a failure - whereas being 50 years married, the last 40 of which didn't work for you anymore, and then dying in your sleep is success. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:28 PM |
| 308 | Men: Marriage is till death do us part, not till "I don't feel like it anymore". Time to get off your entitled high horse.Technically it's not even marriage that's til death do us apart. Marriage is a legal contract that is binding until dissolved by a judge. The vows -"To love and cherish you and in sickness and in health" etc- is "til death do us apart". When a man stops loving, cherishing, supporting, honouring you, he's the one walking out - not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 11:18 AM |
| 263 | Weird "Male oppression" myths on redditA lot of men compare themselves to the "1%" (more like 0.0000001%) of women. You know, the 1% that got a seven-figure job as a receptionist just to serve as eye candy or something. Male logic is: "A friend of a neighbour of a cousin once heard a rumour about one woman that used her womanhood to her advantage. Therefore no women are oppressed and all men are." (That's rather LibFem logic if you think about it.) The male oppression myth is that men are oppressed as long as there is one man in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:55 AM |
| 16 | This scrote has an affair, wants sex from his wife and fames it in a way that makes it seem he just wants her to be happy and wants sympathy because she won’t sleep with him?!? This is from his point of view so who know what’s really going on in this relationship...Why didn't he just cOmMuNiCaTe? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:50 PM |
| 31 | Overweight men have shorter penises. (and my thoughts on obesity and body positivity)It's not just subcutaneous fat! Fatty deposits and plaques build up in the arteries of the erectile tissue, reducing blood flow to the the erectile tissue, which causes erections to shrink with age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:53 PM |
| 89 | We need more kink shamingThe weirdest thing about kinksters is the way they tend to heavily kinkshame shit fetishists. Is sex involving poo disgusting? YES. Is sex involving poo more disgusting than sex involving violence, namecalling, restraints, control? NO. How on earth is "attraction to physical/emotional violence" more socially acceptable than "attraction to bodily waste"? Neither is healthy, but only one of them kills people on a regular basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:58 PM |
| 3 | The Vetting Process: A List of Minimum QualificationsThe C's of adulthood. Clothing: laundry, mending, dressing decently Cleaning: cleaning self, cleaning up after oneself, cleaning one's spaces and possions Cooking: knows what nutritious food is and how to prepare it. Can follow a recipe to make it taste good as well. Currency: budgeting, is not stupid with money Communication: respectful communication even when frustrated, being a good conversationalist, remembering to call one's mother on her birthday, is honest self-Control: relates to emotion… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever had skid marks? (The concept of skid marks confuses me (toilet paper exists!) and I am wondering if this is a normal phenomenon or a "filthy men" phenomenon, hence a survey!)Skid marks in underwear occasionally get mentioned on TV, in cartoons, by frustrated mothers/wives online. I don't ever have any so I'm wondering whether this is really a thing that occasionally accidentally happens to people, or just a thing that happens to men who don't do their own laundry and don't wipe their own butts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:10 PM |
| 5 | Scrote wants to divorce his wife that recently gave birth to their child because he's no longer in love and he's mad that they haven't had sex in FOUR months (she just have birth!). Now he's upset that his family and friends see him as selfish (not the fact that he's created a single parent home)."Being a present coparent" "Raising our child together" WTF he moved out on his three-week-old and a wife who's still wearing maternity pads how is this a present coparent I don't have words for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:17 PM |
| 24 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"Male plastic surgeons make me nauseous. (Including Dr Youn.) 90% of plastic surgeons are men, 98% of clients are women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:22 AM |
| 40 | Hint; this is done on purpose. It's not that men/grown boys can't aim, it's an assertion of dominance over women.Splash also happens at urinals - we've just got the good fortune of not entering the men's room too often. The unfortunate biohazardous littering committed by scrotes pissing standing up. (One of the most enlightening facts of this article: apparently many men are only concerned about this when they wear khaki pants because then it's visible. Whut? Do you only wash your hands after a BM when there's visible feces on them? Never mind, probably you do...) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:48 PM |
| 24 | This man has found himself a mother.Thanks! That's nauseating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:13 PM |
| 23 | This man has found himself a mother.I can't see the picture. Do you have the link for me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:25 AM |
| 104 | 19 year old college student, Kristin Smart, was walking home from a party with Paul Flores, who was also 19 at the time. He murdered her, but the police botched the investigation, and he was free until he was arrested 25 years later at age 44. Four other women have said he sexually assaulted them.This is a pretty harrowing TED talk about that time the police lost, misfiled, and 'forgot to submit for dna testing' thousands of rape kits. I believe the TED talk includes statistics on how many repeat offenders, moved-from-rape-to-murderers etc were in there. It's awful. And the US rape kit backlog in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:30 PM |
| 31 | Plan B, abortion, and adoption are not convenient alternatives to pregnancyIt would be awesome if men just banked their sperm early in life and got a vasectomy. The sperm will be young and health and the men won't cause an unwanted pregnancy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Men who have ''furry'' fetish?In my opinion there are "organic" fetishes and "porn-ganic" fetishes. Organic fetishes 'just happen' like someone who's inexplicably attracted to an object or smell. These have roots in childhood. Porn-ganic fetishes are things like furries, choking, spanking etc - these develop because people watch porn that has the fetish in it and train their dick to respond to it. Easy way to tell the difference is, 'is this fetish gaining popularity?' Organic fetishes don't, porn-ganic ones do. Porn-ganic =… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:45 PM |
| 13 | Any other disabled women here?I'm disabled. I don't feel safe having a relationship because it makes me even more vulnerable than I would be otherwise - rates of abuse and intimate partner violence are sky high among disabled folk, and it doesn't help when you live in a country that makes social policies like "You're not entitled to [type of financial/medical/in-kind government assistance] if you are living with someone who can provide that assistance for you!" Jessica Kellgren-Fozard describes her own experiences in the UK … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:05 AM |
| 40 | I want praying mantis sex ed. My school preferred "first a couple kisses, then come touching, then blowjobs, then PIV, and then maaaybe cunnilingus but most couples prefer not to" misogynyThis is what happened. They basically suggested that blowjobs were a part of any sexual relationship (even a non-PIV-sexual relationship) - and for relationships that weren't ready for PIV - but that cunnilingus was so intimate few people felt ready for that ever. Like wtf. I think blowjobs are, in a way, more next-level than PIV because PIV is at least theoretically (though not in practice) for both partner's enjoyment and blowjobs are purely for one party's benefit. Think of non-sex activities… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:48 PM |
| 22 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingWe were taught about this in high school! People have a HLA-type (human leukocyte antigen - it was discovered on leukocytes, but exists on most human cells), that's basically a blood group but for the immune system and also plays a role in determining organ transplant compatibility. Without hormonal birth control, women are attracted more to men with a different HLA-type - this is likely evolutionary, children with mixed-HLA parents having stronger immune systems (though some have suggested it's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:08 PM |
| 44 | If a woman cures cancer, she'll get as much praise as the guy who washed the dishes once in his life. Remember to always lift other women up, and when you level up, don't let anyone minimize your accomplishments.What is a W's acount? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:55 AM |
| 82 | Beware of men who say stuff like "I used to respect you, until you did X" or "I would have more respect for you if you did Y"On respect, Tumblr user Autistic Abby once said something extremely profound: Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person” and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 181 | Of course Reddit somehow convinced her this obvious case of porn sickness is ok...If porn is just a fantasy that no one mistakes for real life, why do so many women get strangled out of the blue by men who 'thought they'd be in to it'?" (Though honestly I'm not sold on the 'thought they'd be in to it' - it's far more likely the man was into it and thought he could get away with it at least once.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 12 | How is ass guy and boob guy a thing but a height/ abs/ beard gal is not?Science supports you on liking your dicks uncut! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:10 PM |
| 0 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatI don't think I'm managing to communicate what I am trying to communicate (which is that, however you choose to structure your (financial) relationship, make sure you maintain a good credit score) so I'm going to delete my post so that I don't end up spreading misinformation/bad advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:16 AM |
| 0 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatI disagree. If a man forgets or 'forgets' to pay a bill once, you've just found out he's irresponsible and can't be trusted. A late fee is a small price to pay for that information - far cheaper than finding that out only once you are married/have kids/have a house/have wasted several more years of your life. If you need to pull teeth every month, leave him. I think utility bills are fairly safe because you can check whether they've been paid off once a month, and the amount due is generally pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:02 AM |
| 1 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatThat is true. I'll edit my post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:34 AM |
| 0 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatDo you mind explaining why not? It seemed like a good solution to the credit score thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:23 AM |
| 2 | No, he didn't choke you, and we need to stop saying he didI'm so sorry that happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 16 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerI have a relative who's the opposite - he can make nutritious meals, he's just not very good at cooking and doesn't like doing it. So what does he do? The easy answer, of course. He cooks every single day. Someone has to, he and wife and kids need to eat. (Wife equally hates cooking, but unlike him, she doesn't mind laundry and cleaning, though the weekly housecleaner service does most of the latter.) Their kids got used to bland food just being what food tastes like so they don't mind. They enj… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:16 PM |
| 43 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerThere is a valid reason not to be able to cook: severe physical or mental disabilities. Barring that, everyone can cook. Just boil vegetables for as long as Google tells you to, or follow a recipe. It's not hard. Most people who say they can't cook just don't want to cook and are faking inability in order to have an 'iron-clad' excuse. If he truly "can't" cook, and he's willing but it's just too difficult, he needs a lot of practice. He can cook every day for however long it takes for him to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:18 PM |
| 33 | VOX recruiting on reddit for more libfem bullshit. Tell us how you split the bill 🤡🤡🤡 Also bonus for age gaps, poly, and throuples! 🤡🤡🤡What kind of poor writing is that?! "I'm looking for couples of all [xyz]. A couple that's of [lmn] age would work." That's a contradiction. First he says that everyone is welcome, and then he says you've got to at least have an age gap. Oh this is even better. The TL;DR is I am a reporter, and you can contact me at the info in my bio if this sounds like you! In other words, he's saying that you should contact him if you are a reporter as well. (A TL;DR is a summary, not a closing paragraph - … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 29 | Is there a term for people who abstain from watching porn for ethical reasons? Should there be?I think words generally work better when they focus on what you are, rather than what you aren't. Vegan/vegetarian comes from vegetable, for example. One word I like a lot is intactivist - people who oppose circumcision, and thus advocate for babies to remain intact. (Study: Women report that when men are intact, they experience sex as more comfortable, experience more orgasms, and don't feel as used as an object. This is because intact men are more sensitive and therefore feel what they're doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:43 PM |
| 344 | I don't have words for thisYes. Lower down - if you click on the "400 more replies" thing - there are a couple of stories that don't get upvoted. Including one where a woman has a friend who sells pictures of her feet, in response a man sends unsolicited nudes. The redditor was saying how this was awful especially considering how that man was married (to a friend of the redditor) and has kids. But no, half of Reddit falls over her - including a couple of sex workers - about how unprofessional it is for the sex worker to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:19 PM |
| 145 | From that thread about sex workers' most emotional experiences. Such a sweet, poor lonely old companion ready to pay to use your body 💖💖💖 the cognitive dissonanceIn those types of thread there's usually also a couple of stories that come down to, "We sometimes had sex, but usually he just wanted to talk. I saw him for about a year. He said I was like a daughter to him." WTF DID YOU DO TO YOUR ACTUAL DAUGHTERS, DUDE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:06 PM |
| 12 | He gave another woman a Christmas gift, spent a weekend with her at a hotel, has an entire gallery of photos on her phone, but let's marry him 🤡This is so manipulative. Woman does not want to marry or have children. Man does wrong. Woman confronts him and somehow in that conversations he manipulates her into agreeing she's the problem and it's all caused by her refusal to marry him or have children (!!!) with him and she really should marry him and have children (!!!) with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:13 AM |
| 10 | What is the best tool for protection?None of this is a substitute for self-defense classes. But it'll tide you over a little bit - you may have covid, financial, availability, or disability reasons for not being able to take classes at this time. Combat sports aren't a substitute for self defense classes, though they can be an addition. You want to learn how to survive with minimal harm against an attacker - you don't want to learn how to safely use judo techniques against an opponent who is also trying to safely use judo technique… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:02 PM |
| 536 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”I can already hear the conversations. "Honey, won't you have a C-section? I can't bear the thought of our baby coming smugly out of your vagina!" "How about, instead of breastfeeding, you just pump and we'll bottle-feed? Otherwise the baby will smugly spend more time on your breasts than I do!" Edit: forgot a smugly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:27 PM |
| 30 | What is the best tool for protection?Look at what's legal where you live. Heavy objects in your purse can be premediation or groceries, depending on the object. Pepper spray is illegal here but travel size deodorant hurts the eyes and fits your pocket. There are special keychain attachments that double as a weapon. I saw a "how to escape a stranglehold" video once where the person just held a lighter under the strangler's elbow, which could work. If you haven't had self defense lessons: youtube can teach you how to make a fist (one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:23 PM |
| 3 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.\Edited to add: this is not about anyone's situation in particular. This is just my general views on when it is and isn't alright to bring up old mistakes. I wrote this before reading your responses to* u/jackrusselterror1. I do agree, at least to a point. If you agree to move on, it can be disingenuous to continue holding on to past mistakes. When you forget to take out the trash one time, it's not fair for your partner to then bring up that time, decades ago, that you forgot to tell them you h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:41 PM |
| 48 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceAngela Brown runs a housecleaning emporium of some sort and makes youtube videos about housecleaning and how to run a housecleaning business. Two days ago she made this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8k_ge6H0qtE Turns out her husband wasn't taught any domestic chores, so she showed him once (hopefully with the same amount of condescension as in the video!) and then expected him to do it from then on. He did. I'm certainly not advocating moving in with a man without vetting whether he c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.Edited to add: this is not about anyone's situation in particular. This is just my general views on when it is and isn't alright to bring up old mistakes. I wrote this before reading your responses to r/jackrusselterror1. I do agree, at least to a point. If you agree to move on, it can be disingenuous to continue holding on to past mistakes. When you forget to take out the trash one time, it's not fair for your partner to then bring up that time, decades ago, that you forgot to tell them you had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:24 PM |
| 104 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.Yes. And to add on to that, for all the people who say "I've changed" like that somehow means I owe them a duty to forget what they did to me, I've got only one response: "You may have changed, but you haven't changed the past." I get to be upset about wrongs that were done to me, regardless of whether the wrongdoer would still do those things today. And really, by making this all about *you* and *your* life's journey and *your* growth and *your* reasons for doing wrong in the first place, the o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 09:17 PM |
| 2 | ED is no excuse for a dead bedroomI doubt that's sufficiently motivating. Erect penis size decreases with age due to buildup of fat deposits etc. in the erectile tissue but men aren't suddenly all eating healthy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 24 | ED is no excuse for a dead bedroomWe've got equal amounts of sex experience then! So if I understand you correctly, you're using the word sex to refer both to "naked people doing stuff for pleasure" in general as well as "PIV" specifically? I think seeing sex as PIV (penis in vagina) and/or other activities as foreplay is a very male way* of looking at sex. The woman getting off** is the foreplay, the optional side dish, the commute to the event that needs to be completed in as little time as possible. The man getting his six mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:44 PM |
| 29 | ED is no excuse for a dead bedroomDo you mind if I ask what you mean by foreplay and why you are describing things you mean by foreplay as foreplay, rather than as sex? Edit: that sounded a little direct/challenging, sorry. I'm genuinely curious though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 17 | Allure Magazine Posts The Most Toxic, poorly thought out, male pandering, Sex Advice. Women’s magazines are pick me garbage.And why is the author's advice "Maybe you would be open to letting him spank you" (and, for that matter, "slave/master" instead of "slave/mistress") instead of "Maybe you would be open to occasionally kneeing him in the crotch?" Or a non-violent suggestion like "Maybe you would occasionally be willing to let him cook you a three-course meal and then let him eat you out while you eat the food?" She's defaulting to the assumption that his kink is to be violent with her, and then excusing it and su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 03:28 PM |
| 22 | Allure Magazine Posts The Most Toxic, poorly thought out, male pandering, Sex Advice. Women’s magazines are pick me garbage.That's called sounding and it's a thing some BDSM folk do. Given the damage intermittent urethral catheterization does to the urethra, I can't believe sounding is healthy, but some people do it. But "femdom" bdsm is such a weird beast...men who want their women to wear corsets, men who want women to tease and deny them (but only to let them have an amazing orgasm eventually), and the weirdest of all - men who somehow consider it female DOMINATION to be humiliated by... get this... dress up as a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 03:16 PM |
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