spontaneousvibration Archive

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3	She slept with another guy quickly, but is taking things slower with me. How should I interpret that? If she was putting you off for a month or more then yeah, I’d be concerned she didn’t find you as attractive as the other guy. However, she was drunk then, and it sounds like things have been getting hotter between you guys as things have progressed after just a few dates. If you had your own apartment, things might have “happened” already, but it sounds like it’s purely logistics at this point. Make an effort to find a way to be alone (and not in a car) and you’ll be rewarded. Just make sure yo…	/r/seduction	18/06/26 06:54 PM
2	Is being known as the womanizer of a group a bad thing? I would say lean into it a bit. Show that you’re not afraid of women and know what you want, but you’re not aggressive. In my experience, confidence and direct engagement with her eyes is where it’s at, while throwing in the occasional joke. So many people today are so afraid of engaging women directly, it’s rather sad. GenZ is practically a lost cause. https://relevantmagazine.com/life5/relationships/45-percent-of-guys-18-25-have-never-asked-a-girl-out-in-person/	/r/seduction	15/02/26 02:56 PM
1	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort if she was high value she most certainly would not msg first no matter what lines u feed her before she leaves. And there it is. Pride and self-importance forcing you to never be the first to respond. Good luck with that. Any guy I know who hears a woman say she’s “high value” causes the guy to run the other way.	/r/seduction	09/02/26 05:25 PM
2	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort People change. Circumstances are different. Fair enough if it’s been years since you’ve had a ONS. However, a ONS with somebody else within say the last year or two, and holding out now for a month or more would never go over well with a guy. You could say “you’ve changed” all you want to that guy, but your past is your past and if you make a guy wait for more than a couple dates and he finds out you engaged in sex sooner in your recent past, then that potential relationship is over. Try to defe…	/r/seduction	09/02/26 05:07 PM
1	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort I guess you didn’t see (or chose to ignore) where I said I would most likely text first. That said, if I felt it was a strong mutual connection, I would also make it clear before the woman left the first time how great the night was and how I’d hope it wasn’t the last time I saw her. By saying that, my intentions would be clear and I’d be leaving it up to the woman to either say something in reply in the moment or else give her time to process and text me the next day. In that case, I probably w…	/r/seduction	09/02/26 04:51 PM
3	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort Here’s the thing - one of you would need to text first in order for things to continue. But it’s sort of like negotiating, I guess - the expression is “he who gives a number first loses”. I don’t necessarily think women should have to respond / text first, but whoever does “shows their card” by indicating they like the other person. Personally, as a guy, I would most likely respond first. However, you taking a stand that you will never respond first after being invited over as a guest? That seem…	/r/seduction	09/02/26 04:14 PM
3	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort No, this backfires big time for women. After they’ve been in a relationship with a guy for a year and the guy finds out from her friends that the woman held out on him but gave it up freely for a ONS when on vacation or out clubbing in a different city just the month or two before, the guy will drop her so fast because he’ll either think she’s been playing games / manipulating him this whole time, or else she’s settled for him (because he’d make a good provider and get her to her kids only) but …	/r/seduction	09/02/26 04:06 PM
2	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort Why would you ever hold back on a guy you really like? That will backfire big time. If you did ever get serious and engage in sex with a guy only after a month of dating him and then he finds out later you gave it up to some random dude for a ONS because you just wanted to have fun, he will not see this as anything positive. He’ll think 1) you’ve been playing games with him, trying to manipulate him by holding out or 2) you really didn’t like him / find him as hot as the random dude. This is one…	/r/seduction	09/02/26 03:59 PM
1	how i manage to get girls to come over directly from dating apps with no effort And now that you know it could have been a test, would you act in exactly the same way (refuse to text first) if you found yourself in this situation again?	/r/seduction	09/02/26 03:38 PM
4	What is the rules/dance of texting? Rule 1: Match her energy. Don’t text a lot more than her or a lot less. Let each response be similar in length to hers. Rule 2: Don’t ask questions when setting up dates. Instead, when trying to schedule something, let the questions be assumed. For instance: “I was thinking of taking you out for Italian food this Thursday at 6 pm.” Let her respond to that statement in the affirmative or negative. Women prefer decisive guys and a lot of unnecessary questions looks weak. If she starts asking you q…	/r/seduction	02/02/26 10:26 PM
1	How do I turn this guy into a fwb? Assuming there’s some kind of spark / chemistry between the two of you on your first day, I would suggest just making it very clear that you’re really only looking for something casual right now in your life. Blame it on your prior marriage if you want. As for not wanting to tell him where you live, tell him you’ve just met him and after a bad experience in your past, you want to play it safe. If he questions where you two could hook up for some FWB activities, then suggest a cheap hotel for now…	/r/seduction	02/02/26 10:16 PM
1	Not sure how to manage post hinge date. Tomorrow (Monday), make a joke about her asking if you like plants (indicating if you have any or not, uphill battle keeping them alive, etc.), but keep it short. Then, if you don’t hear back from her before early Tuesday evening, message her: “I’m thinking of [xxxx restaurant] at 6pm on Thursday for our next time out together.” Stop asking her questions. She hasn’t committed to a time yet because she wants to know where you plan on taking her first. Give her the chance to respond to this text. …	/r/seduction	02/02/26 04:58 AM
-1	Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends? It depends on how often they’re dating. I’m assuming they’re seeing one another only once or twice a week. In OP’s case, they’ve only had 4 dates so far. Two months at twice a week would be 8 or 9 dates. That seems reasonable to me.	/r/seduction	28/01/26 05:16 PM
1	Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends? Don’t do it. Too many bad things could go wrong. You need to solidify things with her first, over a period of at least two to three months.	/r/seduction	28/01/26 02:12 PM
15	Sleeping on first date and not feeling connection Agreed. Unless you yourself saw this as just a ONS, the only way to counter this anti-slut defense mechanism is to tell her the next morning how special the time was, how amazing she was, how you feel really honored that she would share herself with you in that way, and that you yourself would like to now step back just a bit to get to know her better. Hopefully you can get all this out before she says anything.	/r/seduction	09/01/26 01:48 PM