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I did grow up around mostly people with blonde hair and blue eyes, so yes, that is my insecurity and I recognize that and have done a lot of work to unlearn. But that’s the standard I was raised to believe was attractive. Because you grew up around East Asians, it’s the same thing for you. It’s fine that you’re not offended if I said I don’t find East Asian men attractive, but I am offended by someone thinking an entire race of people that I belong to is not something you couldn’t be attracted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:56 PM
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okay, just think about why you have those preferences though. Is it based on the fact that you were raised to believe blonde hair and blue eyes is beautiful? Or that some races are made out to seem less than others? Also you can’t discount an entire race. If someone said they’re not attracted to anyone who is the same race as you, would you be offended? As a south Asian woman, I gravitate towards south Asian men because they understand me culturally but I definitely don’t limit my attraction to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:26 PM
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(Am also south Asian)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:37 PM
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Agree, while I know there’s problems with south Asian, it’s racist to remove an entire race or nationality based on stereotype
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:37 PM
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It’s so wild! Like at this point they know they’re not going to get a date so they stop trying as soon as I say I’m not comfortable with something. During a literal pandemic. Men are so weak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:52 AM
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yes. As a female I also feel more anger, resentment, and self pity which has caused me to become disillusioned and quite honestly, not pleasant to be around. Moreover, every guy I’ve talked to on a dating app has lost their shit when I tell them I don’t want to meet in person (note that I live in an area where covid cases are rapidly rising still every day). Like really gotten angry or upset with me, a person they’ve never even met. I’ve never really experienced this from perfect strangers, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:08 PM
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Omg SERIOUSLY!!! Then we start caring TOO much, become TOO nurturing, and are called clingy, sensitive, or over emotional. I have tried both ways. Both have me screwed over in the end, so I might as well try and do things on my own terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:59 PM
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lol as a POC woman this is why I can’t trust white men. They will never get it. Even if they truly don’t have a fetish there’s always some preconception they have of my race before they get to know me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:10 AM
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Ugh I needed to read this! Also “looks like a potato” made me laugh so hard 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:12 AM
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LOL my ex was so into the idea of calling him daddy but he was like not jacked and not much taller than me and I low key laughed the first time he suggested it. Decent size dick, Ivy League educated, making $150k+ but fragile fucking ego when even a girl 5 years younger than him wouldnt fulfill his fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:21 PM
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omg YES, I used to live in one of these cities and actually have the same job as these men, but when I dated my ex I wasn’t as high up. Now that I know how much bullshit these high paying fancy sales jobs are, nothing gets past me and I realize how full of shit he was. It is so WILD. Being on the same level as these men has made a lot of them noncommittal because they know I see through the BS. The last guy I dated with one of those jobs broke it off to go back to his ex who was much younger tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:47 PM
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please know nothing was your fault and there’s nothing you “should have” done to make it go any differently. The only person who is responsible in these situations IS THE PERPETRATOR. I have had so-called friends tell me I “should have” done this or that, and to this day, I still struggle with not blaming myself for trauma inflicted on me by someone else. I’m glad you have people you can trust in your life. There is no reason for what happened to you other than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 04:48 PM
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this post and these comments made me cry. I’m glad someone said it. Thank you for validating what i have been struggling to put into words for almost 2 years now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:07 AM
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Damn. We are really all living the same life huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:59 AM
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You’re doing amazing! I have a similar background and experience with relationships and fuckboys and have the same cultural pressure to get married before 30. I’m so excited for your growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:11 PM
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The first guy I ever slept with ghosted and came back a couple months later (I know, I know, different times). Said he bought a motorcycle in the time we had apart and I asked him seriously if he was going through a mid life crisis. He said no, then asked me if I thought it was hot he had one. I said no LOL Anyways, there’s more story here, but basically we slept together again a few weeks later, I lost my keys in his couch, and found them next to another girls underwear. Then he proceeded to te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:22 AM
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Congrats! I really resonated with what you said and had a similar situation. Looking forward to continuing to level up 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:48 AM
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ugh SAME. She’s such a pickme but got me thru some rough times. Drew Barrymore, the most pickme song of all, was my most played in 2017 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:20 PM
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That is so sad lol...I LOVE jhene, she is my go-to heartbreak music haha but I have no respect for her and her tactics after she keeps going back to big Sean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:17 PM
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Yeah unfortunately Nicki is super problematic :( but I love that your making a playlist! No scrubs is a go to for me. Another good song for your playlist is don’t start now by Dua Lipa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:15 PM
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I’m screaming who is making this shit and also who is retweeting this shit 😭 They need saving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:33 PM
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Yeah, I definitely feel like this needs to be a spiritual level up which I’ve always struggled with....hoping I can make some progress soon! Thank you for your words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:18 PM
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Thank you! I will have to check it out! I appreciate the well wishes too, and you deserve the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:17 PM
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Thanks! I hear you on the residual pickme feelings after a rejection, that happened to me a couple of weeks ago too. Been really difficult to manage my anxiety. I hope things get better for you! My inbox is always open if you want to chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:17 PM
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