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Fundamentals srosete/r/seduction14/09/25 11:55 PM
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the issue with being too invested is that girls can sense it, and acting needy or nervous is the fastest way to lose interest. If she feels like she got you wrapped around her finger, it's game over. A quick tip to improve your convo and come off as less needy would be to be more daring. I don't know how you carry yourself atm, but if you are worried about losing her, you probably aren't taking enough risks. When flirting, it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
/r/seduction19/12/25 02:20 PM
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do women reject you right after your first move or do they drop you after some time? If you provided more details, we could be more helpful. Anyway, based on your post, it seems like you are too invested. Think about it this way, would you feel more attracted to a girl that has her own life and is passionate about her work/hobbies or a girl that only thinks about dating and having a boyfriend? if you are anything like me, you'll pick the first option. Well, the same thing applies to women. They …
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:55 AM
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You say you can feel a "spark", what do you mean by that? have you guys ever flirted? have you tested the waters with her before? It's difficult to tell where do you stand at the moment, and so is giving you advice. First thing you must understand is that you will have to take some risks. Zero risk means zero reward. And given your intentions, yes, you will have to risk hurting her feelings. Taking action, I would try to invite her out for dinner or a coffee, whatever breaks the typical between …
/r/seduction15/12/25 03:14 PM
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maestronorberto on insta
/r/seduction08/11/25 10:00 AM
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maestronorberto on instagram. He talks about various topics, but of course seduction and sex advice are his more popular videos. It's all in spanish though.
/r/seduction06/11/25 12:24 PM
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I'm not experienced myself, but I saw some advice videos from an old argentinian man a while ago and I took some notes. He seemed very experienced at sex and also had some knowledge on tantric practices, so it seemed like he had reached a different level. I loved that his advice was so straight to the point. His main advice about sex (for men) was to stick it in first and DON'T MOVE. Just gently and slowly put it in, as deep as you can (which may not be much as this is your first thrust, but sti…
/r/seduction06/11/25 10:43 AM
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As I mentioned on another response, being genuinely nice doesn't mean lacking boundaries or self respect. Those are traits of a morbid nice guy, not a healthy one. It's been a while since I read the book, but I think it's also mentioned there, that there's not an issue with being genuinely nice. Of course, a nice person is more exposed to abuse, but if they have self respect they will cut it out.
/r/seduction30/10/25 12:07 PM
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True, but I think it all comes down to being authentic. The way to get over the fear of rejection is by choosing to be yourself, as genuine as you can. When you are afraid of rejection you do the opposite without noticing: changing your ways to please the other person. And that's the biggest turn off in existence. About the nervousness/anxiety thing, I think you can show a little nervousness and still pull it off. Again, as you are being upfront with it. Some aknowledgment like "I'm a little ner…
/r/seduction30/10/25 09:35 AM
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I wasn't making a summary of the book. I just mentioned one of the many ideas that appear in it. And I think you have a really twisted concept of what being genuinely nice means. Oxford dictionary defines it as "good-natured, kind". Being nice doesn't equal not having boundaries or lacking self respect. I know a bunch of nice guys that also get laid a lot, so I wouldn't say they are incompatible. Those who struggle with seduction (of course they also exist) are the ones who doesn't have those fe…
/r/seduction29/10/25 09:14 PM
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Good video. As Robert Glover says on "No more Mr Nice Guy" (a book that you should 100% read if you feel like one) one of the main issues with nice guys is that they are not actually nice. They are actually manipulative individuals that do nice things only expecting something in return. Actually nice people do nice things just because they like doing them. So, when they try so hard to be respectful and "different from other guys", they are losing themselves in the eyes of the other person, like …
/r/seduction29/10/25 11:16 AM
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That's flirting 101. Read about shit tests. She was clearly testing you and you messed up hard by pulling back. One solution would be to "agree and amplify" by telling her: "wow, looking at your reaction you could as well be dressing up as a baby". And now you are displaying a childish attitude by complaining that "you didn't ask for it". If you go out, different people may approach you, therefore you have to learn how to handle different situations. Some of them will be nice and easy, others wi…
/r/seduction26/10/25 09:36 AM
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Dude, there's places where you just don't game. Simple as that. Workplaces being on the top of that list, undisputedly. If you dig a customer, all you can do about it is being "extra nice", maybe taking extra interest on their request, initiating some casual generic conversation about the weather or something like that, but never show any intention whatsoever. Even if the customer hits up on you, you may just give a papernote with your phone number (if they ask for it) and you better be smooth a…
/r/seduction14/10/25 11:06 AM
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I don't see why you should act any different The girl also started acting differently. OP has already been a good friend. He asked her about it, but she refused to share. So he's right about refraining from doing something else.
/r/seduction11/10/25 04:28 PM
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As you've found out by yourself, it won't reduce anxiety. That's because even when they are both girls, they are completely different things in your head. They trigger completely different stimuli in your brain, so your reactions will also be different. Now, having friend girls is still beneficial. First because they make half the population in the world and it would be absurd and almost impossible to always avoid them, and second because even if it isn't helping with your anxiety, it's probably…
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:38 AM
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It's normal, has happened to me a thousand times. Some advice I can give you from experience: Don't enter a new friendship when you are already attracted. You will be subconsciously doing it because she's hot, and that's the worst possible way of initiating a friendship. I feel like friendships are easier and more genuine when I'm not really attracted. If there's no scape from a friendship with a hot girl (i.e. she's part of a current friends group) or you develop feelings down the line, my advi…
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:04 AM
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I've had a majority of friend girls within my friend groups since I was a teenager (I'm 28 now) and I still behave differently and get nervous around those whom I'm attracted to. I think the only way to actually be always chill around attractive women is already having a girlfriend or fwb, having food in your plate. If you are starved from attention and intimacy, you are usually gonna struggle.
/r/seduction07/10/25 07:50 AM
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ok, so the exact same signs than when you are ugly. Got it!
/r/seduction03/10/25 12:19 AM
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That may be correct, but you don't want to get involved with a girl who's insecure or doesn't trust herself. If you enter a relationship with her thinking you can fix her, your life will be ruined. If you just hook up with her, there's a high chance she will feel "used" afterwards and you may end up in trouble. I talk from experience here. You need some kind of trust with a girl you are getting involved with, and that can only happen if she has some confidence in herself first.
/r/seduction02/10/25 05:56 PM
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I agree that being nice to oneself and positive self talk is always helpful. I also agree that confidence is really hepful, but not for the reasons you point out. It's been said a million times that confidence is necessary for the reasons you mention: to show that you can provide and protect. But I think most of the time that's not the reason girls like confidence. Specially nowadays, girls aren't looking for a "protector" or a "provider". Those are good features, of course, but there's somethin…
/r/seduction02/10/25 10:08 AM
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You seem to be trying to fight the situation. Just read the room and flow with it. If he's cracking jokes and everybody is laughing, just laugh along. Try to improvise another joke on top of that one or bring up some funny topic or story that is related to that. Believe me, it's much better to have someone funny and talkative in the group who can carry through the plateaus of silence during the meetup.
/r/seduction01/10/25 07:59 AM
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wait, are you guys getting likes?
/r/seduction26/09/25 08:10 AM
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Everybody is just destroying you in the comment section (deservedly) but I will try to be constructive and tell you scenarios where you could cold approach almost completely safely: A rest area at the mall, or any other place where the girl is just resting or waiting for something or someone a book shop a club/bar or even a coffee shop a park (better go for people sitting or standing still) a dog park (if you have a dog) any kind of social event: manga/comic convention, concert, fest... any work…
/r/seduction24/09/25 10:55 AM
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So you got yourself an older nynpho. That's really good. But I'm worried that you may be catching feelings due to inexperience. My advice for you is to keep it real. You won't marry her. She won't even be your girlfriend. You are just a toy to her. She probably have more like you in her roster already. If you can accept this reality, then you have a good opportunity in front of you. If you try to get something different from that, you will suffer the consequences.
/r/seduction22/09/25 10:45 PM
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Either you are not escalating enough or your conversation sucks. If you want to keep a girl interested it's not enough to just keep talking about whatever. You want to escalate at some point, get more personal, find out her hobbies/interests so she can talk about that endlessly.
/r/seduction20/09/25 02:03 PM
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Women's interest isn't binomial, as if she can only be all over you or completely uninterested. There will also be neutral women. Those women would have sex with you but only if you set the right mood. You've probably have experienced this yourself. Think about that girl that you wouldn't ask out, but still would hit if you had the chance. Same thing applies to women, and I would say that it's much more frequent on them. These neutral women are different from those who make it difficult, as the …
/r/seduction19/09/25 11:45 AM
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but then the feedback I get is usually they felt no "spark". He says this is what usually happens to him after a first date. A girl that tells him this clearly doesn't want a second date, so she's rejecting him. Telling OP to move on is the only proper advice.
/r/seduction18/09/25 12:08 PM
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pay attention how OP says "once this spark has been lost", meaning he's asking about getting back a woman who has already rejected him, which of course is a terrible idea.
/r/seduction18/09/25 06:16 AM
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Thanks too for clarifying your point. In your OP you said “the girl has to be the one to give some kind of innuendo first”. This is just untrue, there are plenty of women that hardly give IOIs in the early stages. I agree with the last statement but how does women not giving any IOIs in the early stages invalid the fact that they have to be the first to insinuate? I think it's possible to have a scenario where no one is giving innuendos at the beggining. But ok, I guess you dive more into that a…
/r/seduction16/09/25 11:51 AM
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?? I think I answered, but ok I will be more direct Innuendo: non explicit cue of sexual interest So your typical direct approach that goes like "Hey I thought you were cute..." that's showing sexual intention directly (thus the "direct") which is a different thing from an innuendo. But both contain sexual interest, which is what I "pleading" against in a way. And where am I contradicting exactly?
/r/seduction16/09/25 08:00 AM
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Man, I've learned this the hard way. If you want to get something that's worth, you will probably have to bother someone to get it. Do you really want a job? then you will have to get there and bother someone talking about your resume. Do you want to understand the lesson? then you will have to bother the teacher so he explains again that part that went over your head. Do you want a shoe that fits you? then you will probably have to bother a worker so he brings different sizes. Same thing applie…
/r/seduction16/09/25 02:10 AM
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I mostly agree. Of course, I'm not saying there's just one valid approach. It depends heavily on the circumstances and what you're looking for. Like you say, if you are just "playing", of course, shoot your shot early, but I still think that with some patience, the success rate could be increased overall. But hey, if you can talk to 10 girls and get one, who am I to judge. You tried and you won. The friend zone thing you mention hits close to home. When you are in the friendzone, meaning that yo…
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:51 AM
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I appreciate the post because it explains why,” people I like don’t like me and people I don’t like like me,” This is one of the main reflections that brought me to this point. You read me like a book with that one.
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:31 AM
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Another assumption. That behavior can be interpreted as indifference, arrogance, or even sexual preference, and feigned indifference only works if the woman is interested in you. I'm not talking about feigning indifference. That's a different thing. I'm talking about feeling attracted, but using that as fuel for the interaction. An interaction where you have to show genuine interest on the other person, just not sexual (yet). Feigning indifference would be talking to her as if you weren't attrac…
/r/seduction15/09/25 11:38 PM
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I'm not so sure about that. Maybe it seems absurd, but the occasions when I was most fearful and anxious were the ones where I scalated the most, with mixed results that ended up badly. One year ago I had a girlfriend for a month (I'm more of a hookup guy) and I was actually scared of losing her, for different reasons. She left me because I messed up, guess how: because I rushed too much. I didn't notice that I was doing too much from too early because I was afraid she would lose interest. But t…
/r/seduction15/09/25 08:35 PM
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why is it limited to that? I'm not a cold approach expert, but I've been arguing within other comment threads that escalating too early might actually reduce your success, and I think it applies also on cold approaches. My idea includes approaching the girl and initiating/carrying a good convo, and I think that's enough because from the moment you approached her, she already knows what you are up to. That's why some girls will shut you down even if you only said "hi". So I think it's better to k…
/r/seduction15/09/25 07:56 PM
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or pushing a drink in front of a woman, the message, “I want you and I don’t care if you know it.” The thing is, there's no need for that. Just by approaching a woman, even if you don't show any sexual intentions, you are already doing your part and she already knows. They can smell it. Even if you explicitly said you didn't have intentions, it still would be in the back of her head. But then, when you don't give yourself right away, when you show restraint in front of beauty, that's a nice disp…
/r/seduction15/09/25 06:09 PM
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I'm not saying you should never make a move. That would be suicidal. I'm saying that you want her to give you a sign for you to pick up on before doing so. It also depends heavily on the context. If you already arranged a date and once it takes place she looks excited to be there, there's probably no need to wait for a cue. You don't want to go back home without at least holding a hand or hugging her after a "perfect" first date. But still, I mean, if they really liked you, not many woman will d…
/r/seduction15/09/25 02:01 PM
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well, my example on the joy issue wasn't the best. I meant that both are important. Of course there's a stage where you will be nervous and suffer from heavy AA. It can happen even if you are experienced. But if you are suffering, the odds of getting the pull are usually lower, and also you aren't even having fun. what is a direct opener to you? the classic "hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", for example, wouldn't just be an innuendo. To me, it would be completely direct approac…
/r/seduction15/09/25 01:48 PM
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I agree it could become a trap, but I wasn't saying you should stop approaching other people.
/r/seduction15/09/25 01:36 PM
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exactly the point I was making with my post, even if the approach is not exactly the same. But again, it seems to me like we are a minority.
/r/seduction15/09/25 01:28 PM
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I would rather not escalate until she has made herself a clearer idea on wether she's attracted to me or not. I think escalating before getting any clear sign that she wants to be escalated equals doing too much, and I also think that if she's attracted she will eventually give you the green light. A woman that's attracted to you won't be a stonewall that you need to bump into or she will lose interest. It's actually the opposite.
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:43 PM
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But have you been approaching them and being social? because if you do that in a constant basis, I have the theory that you should get a chance at some point.
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:29 PM
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there are other comments being upvoted that say otherwise. Most people here actually disagree with that quote.
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:26 PM
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"Does it give you control over her." It depends on the context. As I mention in the conclusions, if you have already approached and carried convo, going for the innuendo/escalation too, without getting any prior sign, means that you are doing everything basically. In the wiki says she has to do half the work. What work are you leaving to her?
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:23 PM
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The title wasn't literal. I intended to make a small paradox with it and criticize those who try too hard on applying the techniques every time they see a pretty woman (myself included). Those quotes you call "trendy shit" are just a summary of what was considered trusted knowledge less than a decade ago. I remember reading extended lessons with strategies and step by step guides on how to be perceived as a love interest instead of a friend.
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:10 PM
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If you escalate before she gave you any hint, she can also become disinterested. If you already approached and also started/are carrying the conversation, you have to leave some work for her too. And if she does nothing, then you already have the answer.
/r/seduction15/09/25 11:38 AM
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I was just sharing my first impressions on a different approach, but I also mentioned that I've spent years wandering around here and experimenting IRL. Even if I still have some work to do, I wanted to share my impressions just to see your opinions. I'm not giving a lecture here. Also, you mention "having fun" as if it doesn't matter that much. I think it's all that matters actually, and I was starting to lose it. If I had to choose between fun without girls or girls without fun, I wouldn't eve…
/r/seduction15/09/25 11:27 AM
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Correct. The issue is that it's really unbalanced. The average guy will never be simped, and sometimes be simped by low tier women. An average girl will be simped by other average men a lot.
/r/seduction05/09/25 04:18 PM
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The fact that you refer to disappointment as “emotional Russian roulette” says a lot: for you, a lack of reciprocity is the metaphorical equivalent of a bullet in the brain Not exactly. It's not something desirable, but I get it's necessary. Lack of reciprocity is a bullet only within the given context: when you have invested emotionally and you really crave that intimacy, which is something that I see happening if you go down your particular view of friendship. it’s never been more than a brief…
/r/seduction03/09/25 05:04 PM
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about 70% of relationships start as friendships. I would bet that only a small part of those frienships kept going normally after an aknowledgement of attraction on either side. I think the typical pathway to those relationships, and you seem to agree with me on this one, is the "I feel the same way about you" one. opening myself to the possibilities of friendship becoming something more is just one more prong on the fork. If you don't care much about it, then great. But again, having zero intim…
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:18 AM
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Having a friend girl that accepted you in spite of you being attracted to her while dating other women isn't the typical male experience, I would say. 64% of men are single in the U.S., so I think statistics may back this affirmation up too. Of course, you can be friends with a girl you are attracted to. I've done that before. But being an average guy, again, you won't get any intimacy with a girl out of that friendship. So there's not only a risk that she uses you, there's a risk that you catch…
/r/seduction03/09/25 02:38 AM
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Her saying that doesn’t mean anything. Experienced so many times women said to me “this was a mistake”, “what are we now” after we slept together. It's not the same. That was a girl doing the complete opposite of what she was saying, so of course you paid attention to what she did (having sex with you). However, here the girl said to OP that she's down to go 1 on 1 out with him, but that doesn't equal an invitation to intimacy, specially after OP accepted the girl's requirement (no intimacy). So…
/r/seduction03/09/25 12:52 AM
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Even if OP wants to be friends, trying to build a friendship with a girl you are attracted to is something prone to failure.
/r/seduction03/09/25 12:39 AM
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I'm a little confused. You suggest to ask her this ask her if SHE’s o.k. with being friends knowing that you’re very attracted to her. but then you suggest to handle the friendship "for now". I mean, if she's down to go out one on one while knowing he's attracted to her, that's not a friendship, not even a temporary one. That's dating already. If he has to wait for a "chance by invitation", then OP will be in risk of wasting his time.
/r/seduction03/09/25 12:37 AM
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good advice, but sometimes that level of boldness could backfire. I guess this is why FORD method separates "occupation" and "dreams". Sadly they are not always aligned, so I guess it's more safe to treat them separately so you don't frame her as a frustrated person by accident. But I think the approach is good otherwise.
/r/seduction29/08/25 09:32 AM
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I agree sex has to come into discussion at some point, I just think that first convo might be too early in most cases. Worst case scenario, it could come off as innapropiate. But you know, it's also not bad to take risks. Sometimes it's good to break some rules here and there. So I respect that.
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:35 PM
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"Who are you?"- Really open and funny/teasing question that will give you a ton of info: how she presents herself, her level of confidence and self perception. "what are you looking for at the moment?"- More basic, but this will tell you wether she's on the same page as you, so you will know how to proceed.
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:28 PM
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has it ever worked for you? because I don't think a first convo is the right moment to ask about someone's sex drive.
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:00 PM
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who does seduce you more? someone who gives all the time and is always available or someone who has their own live and other priorities out of giving to you?
/r/seduction26/08/25 02:46 PM
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Neither a turn off or a turn on. Just something that has to be spoken through. A girl being nervous around me usually means that she's attracted, ok, but I won't get turned on until there's actual sexual tension between us, and not just nervousness on one side.
/r/seduction25/08/25 03:49 AM
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"straight away"? well, if she's attracted it may work. If she isn't you may end up reported to the police. I agree with the dating apps take (unless you are super attractive).
/r/seduction24/08/25 08:43 PM
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Bad post. The fundamentals you share are wrong, the real life example isn't even an example of anything. Seduction doesn't revolve only around giving. It's actually about trying to receive more than you give actually. Focusing on giving only is the fastest way to kill attraction. If you wanted to make a post about erotic massage, you could have done that instead of this mess.
/r/seduction24/08/25 04:48 PM
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You are just chasing that high, which is somewhat natural. We men are designed to hook up with different girls (and impregnating them) all the time. But that doesn't mean that's an ideal thing to do. Obeying your reptilian brain is usually a bad idea, and you will have a better life the more you fight it.
/r/seduction24/08/25 09:43 AM
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First off, is it a friend you actually like or are you just playing? this is important because you are at risk of blowing the friendship, wether she rejects you or not. So if you actually care about the friendship, don't do it unless you are serious about her. About flirting through text, given that she's already your friend, I think the most effective tool you can use is talk to her about your future date. Asking her about the food she likes or talking to a place you wanted to go and ask her to…
/r/seduction20/08/25 11:21 PM
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It's difficult to make a proper assesment, but it seems to me that you are taking it too seriously from too early. You say you struggle with flirting. I don't know what concept of flirting you have in mind, but proper "flirting" is different to the classic "Johnny Bravo" approach (with many compliments, boasting etc.). Proper flirting is a combination of different techniques: good conversation, teasing, double sense, humor, kino... And you may read this and think "oh, so I just have to be funnie…
/r/seduction19/08/25 10:57 AM
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This. Boasting is when you don't think you are enough, so you think you have to perform all the time to be attractive. You are also much more vulerable to external opinions about yourself, so you are more easy to manipulate but at the same time you have a hard time admitting you were wrong. When you are confident, deep down you know you are valuable, and every action you take is aligned with that. You know you are good so you are not afraid to show it. That doesn't mean that you can only do good…
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:28 PM
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A little complicated if you ask me. When asking to go out for dinner, I rather go for the "I know this place, you are gonna love it" and keep it mysterious. Humor isn't always your best bet.
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:12 PM
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he's not a red flag, he has his own "style"
/r/seduction18/08/25 05:23 PM
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Does liking my message without any words back show a sign of disinterest or its neutral? I agree with the other comment, it's just neutral and it isn't double text. Would YOU message again and if so say exactly what??? You should have inmediately double texted her with "I had a great time bla bla" actually, but now it's too late. Just try to arrange another date as the other comment suggested and then you will know if she's in or not. (next comment) You are not simping if you just say "Back home…
/r/seduction18/08/25 02:54 PM
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I would wait until some of those stares to look back at him, maybe make him a "wassup?" head gesture, raising my chin a bit. If he didn't stop after that, I would walk up to him and politely ask him if there's any issue. If nothing works, I would talk to the gym staff. Chances are they also do the same to other people (I've also been paranoid and stared at guys that looked at my girl. Not proud, but I know what I'm talking about), so stacking complains against them might work.
/r/seduction18/08/25 09:54 AM
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I already answered to all of that on a previous comment. I was giving my two cents to help you out and maybe arise some discussion, but I guess that's not your thing. Have a good day.
/r/seduction18/08/25 09:09 AM
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I’ve learnt if a woman enjoyed herself she would say it unprovoked There's a difference between giving "too much" and communicating well. You are not simping if you just say "Back home. It was fun! looking forward to the next one". You are just acting as a normal guy who had fun on a first date. Again, doing the bare minimum is just a bad idea, specially when it comes to communication. Also, women saying/doing things "unprovoked"? again, that's rare. I don't care what it is, they want you to say…
/r/seduction18/08/25 12:57 AM
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I know, but it seems like you spected warmth after that really dry message, so I told you you shouldn't. That girl that responded well was extra invested, because if someone sent me "home now" after a first date, I would ask "me too" at best, and honestly, I would be kinda pissed (just like you are right now after her like). I agree with the other comment, it's just neutral and it isn't double text. You should have inmediately double texted her with "I had a great time bla bla" actually, but now…
/r/seduction17/08/25 08:48 PM
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well, you just messaged a dry "home now" and expected her to hit you back with a "I had a wonderful time bla bla...". Look, as a man, you always take the lead. This is a small thing, but if you need the girl to do more than you always, you will end up frustrated. When you meet someone new, you have to "educate" them on how you want to be treated. The best way to do that is to lead by example. You want the other person to be talkative and enthusiastic? be talkative and enthusiastic yourself first…
/r/seduction17/08/25 04:06 PM
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Interesting analogy, but context matters in this situations, and if I'm giving advice to strangers on the internet and I randomly quote someone, it's clear as day that I'm doing it because I think it's content may be valuable for OP, not as implicit propaganda or because I'm a follower of YB. Even if I was, that's clearly out of the spotlight. I will give you another analogy, not meant to insult you, but because I think it fits here: when someone points to the sky, you watch the sky, not the fin…
/r/seduction14/08/25 12:21 PM
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should I worry about people who make assumptions about me based on a quote I mentioned? I don't think so. I like to be polite, but I don't live to please people that I don't even know. Have a nice day too.
/r/seduction14/08/25 09:15 AM
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Thanks for the info, but again, I rather use ideas based on their quality, not the mind behind them. If the quote is good, I don't care if it's Osama Bin Laden who's actually behind it. It's absurd to dismiss ideas just based on who had them, specially if you don't have anything else against them.
/r/seduction14/08/25 09:13 AM
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I don't know about him. I just think he was right about what he said and also just like the quote. I don't like arguments from authority, you can be a bad person and still spit some facts.
/r/seduction14/08/25 08:00 AM
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I think the way you describe the issue talks a lot about the issue itself. By the way you describe it, it seems like you are tying to flirt, be bold, be the funny guy... See, the issue starts when you "try" to be something. You are performing, putting on a show for their entertainment. Girls inmediately recognise that, and yes, they get the feel that you are needy and desperate for attention. You don't seek for their approval. This is just a game that you play, and being a game, it's fine if you…
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:02 PM
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The connection through feelings works, but your approach is wrong. You don't mention the feelings or talk directly about them, that's weird (unless you are confessing to her or something specific). It's the other way around: you talk about other things (normal conversation), or better yet, take action, and let the emotions flow naturally. For example: - says: I'm trying to keep it together, but it's difficult when you are looking at me like that [wrong] - says nothing and just mantains eye conta…
/r/seduction13/08/25 05:36 PM
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I would say that we as men are more visual on physique when it comes to attraction and women value how you present yourself more. Wether you take care of your appeareance, you are funny, polite... It's good to keep that in mind, but the rule of gold here is that you don't care at all about what girls like. Do you think that Jason Statham ever thinks "oh, what do women like in men?". No, he just does his thing. Well, you can't be Jason Statham, but you can build some charisma and care less about …
/r/seduction13/08/25 12:37 PM
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You are only 19 and you are thinking you should already have a job, your own place, be mature... take it easy man. You just had the same experience that all of us had at your age: being in your head too much, feeling insecure... it's normal. Even if you are still lacking some things, you are more than fine for your age. One thing I would have loved to hear when I was your age is that you just go out to have fun, not to go after the girls. If you go to a party, parade or whatever, just dance, get…
/r/seduction13/08/25 12:11 PM
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how is suggesting a headlock a way of flirting? And the X-rated things... straight guy here, talking about adult things with other friends is our common ground. To me, you are jumping on conclusions big time. Testing the waters isn't a way of telling for sure either. I make homo jokes with friends all the time too. So my advice here would be to just respect his persona. If he says he's straight, take that as a fact. Don' waste your time on someone who can't be clear about their sexulity. You wil…
/r/seduction21/06/25 02:05 PM
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Pointless question, since it depends on taste. It's like asking wether blond or dark hair is sexier.
/r/seduction25/05/25 08:27 PM
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I can agree with this, but my question is, what about ourselves then? are we ready to meet the standards that we push on women? I mean, if you are ready to stop going clubbing with the boys, stop talking to any other hot girls, stop making trips without her etc. then it's fine. You have managed to create a peaceful relationship, and no one can tell you wether it's "healthy" or not. But my guess is that most guys around this sub are not ready to leave any of that behind. If your plan is to enforc…
/r/TheRedPill25/04/25 09:45 AM
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I only see other comments giving you advice that involves getting in your head, but I think that's probably the problem, not the solution. Have those girls explained to you why they left you? If you are too worried about "keeping frame" but you don't even care about her and you don't pay attention to her needs, then it's game over. I've been there. After some dates, you start to worry about what your next move should be, because you feel she is starting to lose interest. The problem is that, ins…
/r/seduction15/03/25 03:40 PM
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Last girl I kissed, we were both sitting on a bench, but there was a bag with some groceries between us. So, after some sweet talking, I picked the bag to get it out of the way. She noticed it and was quick to say "but I have never done this before!", even though I just moved a bag (yeah, she was unexperienced). I just said "but do you want to do it or not?" and, after a nod, I went for it. I will cherish that moment!
/r/seduction14/03/25 09:19 PM
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that's he fucked up part about seduction and even life: sometimes it just won't happen. Even when it's really unlikely, there's still a possibility that it won't ever go your way. I understand why someone would tell you that will eventually succeed, it's good for motivation and it also fuels hope, which is good for taking action. But still.
/r/seduction14/03/25 09:09 PM
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Nobody has said it already, but as I guy, I wouldn't mind at all. I'm 5,8, so basically the same as your guy. I see beautiful women that are taller than me all the time, and I would really enjoy kissing with some of them. Maybe if I were shorter I would be self conscious about it, but at least with my height, I'm not, and that guy is probably on the same page as me, specially if we consider that the difference in height is really small.
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:49 PM
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Good idea. It usually happens while sitting anyway (or laying even)
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:42 PM
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Ok I think I got it wrong. You are asking about taking a girl out the same day you meet her right? If you are asking for screenshots then that's fine, maybe someone can provide them (although I doubt they would help you a lot). If you need mentoring, then you should provide more context about you or the situation you are dealing with so people can help you.
/r/seduction12/03/25 10:05 PM
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I understand different people have different needs, but do you really need guidance for inviting someone out? I mean, you can make it more interesting/misterious (like "I know a place you will love for sure..."), but even if you go straight for it will be fine, as you will come off as assertive. A more interesting topic would be about setting the mood before inviting someone, but that's a really open topic too.
/r/seduction12/03/25 09:58 PM
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I can't figure why she blocked you
/r/seduction12/03/25 09:49 PM
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That's good advice, but I think it isn't the advice that OP needed. Saying those sentences, as you say, only works after you have created a proper mood, but OP is clearly afraid of girls right now. He is far away from a place where he can use that advice. I would encourage OP to get in touch with girls who are genuinely interested first. If he tries to build the roof of the house first, he will get frustrated.
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:49 AM
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I think luck plays a big part in flirting. You have to go for a move when you see the opportunity. Maybe it goes well, maybe not. Even the best move can go wrong. This is what matters in the end. If the girl was interested or not is not important in the end. She can be interested and still leave after a bad move. So just choose a flirting style that suits you. Maybe it involves communicating moves, maybe not. Sometimes it will work, sometimes not, but that's ok.
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:41 AM
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Spain. I didn't mean you are generalizing. Maybe you are right and there are many boring girls, even if we don't know for sure. What I meant is that, even if the conditions are not good, there is still at least a small percentage of girls that will be a good fit for you. Not to sound harsh, but you are not that different from other guys to be the only one left out. If other guys in your area are getting girls, you probably can do it too. You just need to try more. Be responsible. It's easy to pu…
/r/seduction13/02/25 03:26 PM
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I spent some years in the past, since 18 y.o. to 21 y.o., without really liking anyone. I was in the opposite side of the spectrum compared to you, I was socially awkward and girls left before I could even catch feelings (if I even had a shot with them to begin with). The turning point for me was when I started to meet female friends that I found attractive. I usually met them through mutuals and groups of friends. By spending time with those girls, I actually got to know them and make memories …
/r/seduction13/02/25 11:56 AM
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I live in southern Europe and sadly we have imported most of your american culture already, so your experience sounds really familiar to me. Dating apps are really popular here too, and women have bios like "if you are not blond or don't have any shirtless pictures, don't bother with me". The only regions that may fit your needs are Asia and South America in my opinion, as they are more traditional when it comes to mating dynamics. Aside from that, I refuse to believe you have no chance at all i…
/r/seduction13/02/25 10:31 AM
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I'm a guy, so I don't know much about flirting as a girl, but I can tell you some details I find attractive on girls: Being active on social media. Share some highlights of your life every now and then, also memes that make you laugh and anything that is related to your interests. I also find cute when girls make themselves vulnerable and share some insecurities on social media. The target is to lure new people into your social circle and also keep those who are already into it engaged. Be passi…
/r/seduction12/02/25 04:23 PM
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I don't think it's a problem of women talking too much to each other, I blame it on social dynamics. And it's not like there's something inherently bad about those social dynamics, it's just that I think that they can prevent men from approaching women as a side effect. Anyway, thanks for hearing my story. This discussion was a treat.
/r/seduction21/01/25 03:06 PM
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First off, thanks for your understanding and sweetness. Really appreciate it. I was talking about past experiences with approaching women, from different groups sometimes, and pointing out certain social dynamics and how they directly interfere with my willingness to approach woman in most scenarios. That was I wanted to focus on, and again, that's why I didn't provide details on other topics, but I understand you got that from my words. Luckily, I've never been seen as someone who is "trying hi…
/r/seduction21/01/25 12:11 AM
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I get what you say. Maybe I didn't express myself well enough. I said "hit a girl" but I never show a sexual intention right away, but most of the times, between these little circles, even starting a casual friendly convo is quickly shared with her acquitances, and instantly seen as "flirting". Being sexual straight away? with someone from my social circles? That would be my social death. I'll give you my most recent example. There's a girl in my closer group that I fancy. One day I sent her a r…
/r/seduction20/01/25 06:30 PM
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I have a different approach to this. 27M. I live in a relatively small region, and women I meet through my hobbies or career usually have some friend in common, even among different towns. So, basically, if I hit on a girl that belongs to either of these "parties", the rest of the girls will know. Even their male friends will also know. Even my friends that share the hobby will know, and tell me about it. So now I come off as "needy" in front of my social circle and I'm stuck with that one girl,…
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:00 PM
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She won't be "negging" you consciously to attract you, this is called a "shit test" for a reason That's why I pointed out I was talking about negging "not as a shit test", so I meant negging as actually being mean, not as a way of calling your attention. I was talking about my experience during the years as a normal guy, I'm not preaching here. Anyone "negging" you, be it a man or woman, are just trying to elevate their status and lower your own Generally speaking, that's true. But I was only ne…
/r/seduction10/12/24 09:59 PM
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I've been negged by women, but not as a seduction technique. I got it when they actually disliked me and wanted me away from them. If a woman is putting you down, not a as a shit test, but because she actually dismiss you, it's game over. I haven't seen much DHV either. What they enjoy doing is humble bragging, which again is a little different (but with similar result). If course there are more socially capable women out there, but they don't apply PUA techniques, or at least not with the same …
/r/seduction10/12/24 10:44 AM
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As Varys from GOT said, "power resides where men believe it resides". If you call men weaklings and they believe it, it's game over. We can't be insulting each others in hopes that men will "wake up". We must find strength in our current state and work from that.
/r/seduction26/06/24 12:20 AM
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This is aimless. Even if you go out of your comfort zone a lot and approach loads of girls, that doesn't necessarily leads to success by itslef. And if someone else's show their techniques, they may work on you or not. Being your natural self is an idea that gets completely abandoned because "you aren't getting laid, so it doesn't work", when the problem is that almost nobody has reached their best version of themselves. It's better to work towards that, even if it's harder and requires some rea…
/r/seduction26/06/24 12:11 AM
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I like your enthusiasm, but you talk about having multiple sex partners like it was something easily attainable. I have met a lot of guys during my life, and very, VERY few had more than one sex partner simultaneously. Don't believe everything you see in this sub either. Remember, 90% of girls go for 10% top guys. Anyway, if the girls gave you their ACTUAL number and then shut you down, it means you are screwing up at some point during convo. Work on that.
/r/seduction05/06/24 12:19 AM
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the real question here is if your partner know about you messing around with other chicks. Why rejoice on being clear with a plate when you are lying to your actual girlfriend.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/23 12:48 PM
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depends on the definition you picking. Maybe you are looking for a punchline, but if you are just messing a little with someone it can also be considered joking
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:31 PM
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really well put. Had similar experiences so I know your point of view is authentic. Specially at the passive girls topic. I usually get bored/think they have no interest cause they contribute zero to the interactions and miss the opportunity. But IMO, it's a loss I can take since it wouldn't been so exciting anyways.
/r/seduction23/06/22 10:37 AM
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Glad to see people who advice a relaxed approach. 90% of this community always go for the "you are cute lets go on a date" thing right off the bat and forget to make here get interested in the frist place
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:31 PM
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I don't think that a book that tells you to say a, b and c, that works for everyone and that can be considereed good and helpful actually exists. Those characteristics are incompatible between themselves. And still, if you are reminding some precise guidelines from a book while trying to have a conversation, I can only foresee disaster.
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:22 PM
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yeah actually if Im making out with a girl, specially the first time, I usually get nervous and find really difficult to make eye contact for a while. Then there's people who never make eye contact with anyone too, because the get uncomfortable or whatever.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:58 PM
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People like to make assumptions about others. That assumption is a bit weird, but if you are interested in getting women, it is really helpful if they think you have some things going on already.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:53 PM
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you got it right in that last line. If you are friendly, then that's great. However, if you never sexualize with chicks, then that's bad, because they will assume many things (that you are not interested, that you are gay, and so on). So you should start showing interest in a non needy or creepy way. It will take time to be comfortable about it, and some girls might say they don't approve that. But that's the key: you don't do stuff because they approve it or not. You do stuff that helps you mee…
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:47 PM
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Although times change, some basics about dating remain the same. For the mentality, being positive and funny is a must. You want her to know you, but in a first date there's no place for something bad that happened to you. Second thing, try to make it more about her and less about you. If you have some doubts and spend the date thinking about the next right move, you won't have fun and neither she. However if you pay attention to her you will get the hints needed to go smooth on the date.
/r/seduction12/06/22 04:17 PM
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This is good advice. However I find the first one a little too much for the OP, who says that finds difficult to deliver a similar line to a group of people. So I would go for something random or funny instead that I could tell to the whole group, and then go for the main target. This eliminates the weight and seriousness of that "I find you really cute..." line and you show her that you can be funny and social, so you also increase your chances. F.e. you walk to the group and say: Hey guys, lis…
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:42 AM
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I think you did well there. You tried to set up two encounters already and received little feedback, so now it's her turn. Also a little pro tip: if she had real interest, she would have rearranged that last launchmeet. If she just gave an excuse and nothing more, it's better to leave it there. There are little details and situations that tell you when you sould insist or not. Once I was told by a girl that I was never getting with her, but I had some IOI's that said otherwise, and a week later …
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:09 AM
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When you are feeling really confident it's probably because you are "in state". This is a very extended seduction concept and you may know about it already, but in short, it's that state when you feel anything you do will be success. For me it happens when Im out with friends and I've been having fun for a while, getting out of my head. You should remind of those times you got "in state" and find out the steps it took to get there. If you recreate the same scenario, you will probably find yourse…
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:38 AM
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I guess you will be a little group of people sitting around the fire. My advice would be to get involved as much as you can in those group activities. If you are constantly looking for a chance to talk to x girl, you won't go flow properly with the situation. If you participate in the group however you will have the chance to share some funny stories, showing the girls you are interesting, and you will be a social guy in their eyes. So you have 2 fundamentals covered and haven't even tried to fl…
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:30 AM
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When I find myself calling names to a girl I'm usually interested. It serves as a teaser, to call your attention. Bu you have a date so you will find out there ;)
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:18 AM
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If you are stressing out about it, you are probably imagining that you approach her and tell her you think she's cute or something, and then she makes fun of you or ignores you. Right? My tip, and I always go for this when flirting in any situation, is change the approach and go for something funny or random. Have something prepared in advance, walk to her during breaktime and deliver it with grace. Now you are less nervous because it's not like you are asking her out or something, you are just …
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:03 PM
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Dancing as a first move may work, but I think is more suited for experienced guys who can actually feel the situation really well and act accordingly, which is not your case at the moment. In a party environment, even with loud music, I would generally do the following steps: approach: you seem to do this step pretty well already, but always do a front approach. Works better with previous confident eye contact and smiling. the talk: I like to have something brief and funny under the sleeve. Some…
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:27 PM
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I would need some background knowledge in the first place. No more Mr Nice guy and Models would be my go-to books. Then I would try to put in practice what I've learned as a starting point, and get better from there
/r/seduction10/06/22 06:48 PM
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Bro, first line from OP > I went to a laid back, EDM show last night alone. doesn't sound much like a rave to me. Anyway, I probably jumped on conclusions with my statement before and understand the callout, but with no details provided I had no other option but guessing.
/r/seduction10/06/22 06:33 PM
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For me, the first step to be charming is putting yourself in the other person's shoes and find ways to make her feel better or have fun. If she sees you're not all about yourself, then you'll come off as charming. The second ingredient would be passion. Either having a passion for yourself, or showing interest on hers. Someone passionate is always charming, and you can make an endless conversation from it.
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:26 PM
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If most women weirded out, probably your approach can be improved a lot (don't know how since you didn't provide any details). And about that last girl, I've had similar experiences in the past and to me there's 2 possibilities: 1. she just wanted to dance in that moment and that's it, so she had no interest on taking it any further, and 2. she had some interest but your later approach was weird again and lost it. Just because she swowed interest before doesn't mean you can do whatever afterward…
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:14 PM
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Flirting is literally that: communicating with someone while showing attraction. If you tried and got no success, or girls took advantage of you, different causes may be behind that, but probably the main reason is that you don't know how to flirt. It may sound a little harsh, but reading your post it's pretty obvious to me. You don't have the toolset to show attraction while having fun. And it's fine! we've all been there. And this subreddit it's not a bad starting point.
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:04 PM
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100% agree with this comment. By reading the post, I feel like this fella is taking things too seriously, and therefore no fun can come out of it, which makes it almost impossible for her to like him. Other comments says OP did perfect and she just didn't like him, but I feel like she was into him and with a little shift in the approach he would probably have success. I mean, no girl go on THREE dates with a guy she doesn't like at all
/r/seduction10/06/22 12:15 PM
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Those may be some ioi's but you still have to test the waters to find out. I don't know how often you can get to talk to her, but getting to know her more and having some casual conversation, if possible, would be great. Also, at some point you may go on and try to get her number in order to meet outside the hospital, while being discrete of course
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:50 PM
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I just responded to another similar comment in this thread, but now I'll go with a personal experience. Once I had a date (wasn't even a girlfriend) that would phisically prevent me from getting even close to any attractive woman. Even when trying to talk to female friends in social situations. She eventually stopped doing it, but if I had told her at any time to not do that, that would be me setting a boundary.
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:56 PM
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for example: you told your date in advance you were going out with friends but she tries to change that and make you go with her instead. When you tell her no, you are setting your boundary. If she puts you down for not going with her, then that's a big red flag and you should leave ASAP.
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:42 PM
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This practice is good for overcoming approach anxiety, that's for sure. But I think if you overuse this practice you might get frustrated along the way, since the whole situation and performance, aside from the showcase of courage, is setting yourself up for failure. Talking to a walking girl in a crowded street is hard to pull off even for experienced men, and telling her "cute" right off the bat reveals you're not there at the moment (you are activating her deffensive mode). My suggestion: con…
/r/seduction15/05/22 09:10 AM
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You’re not gonna get laid if your circle is small This is true. I tend to fall in this trap, and I think most people do. You know, you're with your group of friends and talk to no one else in social events. In the end, getting too comfortable in your group leads to no good. Thanks for your knowledge.
/r/seduction22/12/20 10:28 AM
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your comment is great but crumbles in the last part. You say that real bonding relays heavily on the sex of the parties involved, and present some examples of femenine behaviors. That is bullshit. I've had gay friends with those traits, and found difficult to bond with them, since their game is drastically different. And also found myself imitating those behaviors because of them. So it's not limited to woman. Good freakin comment otherwise, gets better everytime I read it.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/20 08:04 PM
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I get your point, it's well crafted. If you don't invest emotionally on her, then it's fine. My problem, again, is that real interest often leads to emotional investment for me. Come to think of it, how you chase a girl without investing emotionally? If I don't think of her, I don't feel the urge of asking her out. I wanna highlight that I'm not saying you're wrong. I'm saying that I've got the self love, but don't quite understand that "love without emotions" thing. And in my experience, reject…
/r/seduction12/06/20 10:52 AM
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As Cristiano Ronaldo said, "talent without hard work is useless". Same could be said about genes
/r/TheRedPill12/06/20 09:55 AM
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My problem is that if I love her already, and I "play" her (which at this point is not just playing for the sake of fun because I'm actually interested), then I won't love a negative outcome. I may accept it, as it doesn't depend on myself entirely, but it's difficult to take something positive out of it (again, if I was really interested. If I ask a random girl at a club and get rejected short after, that's good). Maybe I'm lacking an abundance mentality, but I only get really interested in a g…
/r/seduction11/06/20 10:56 AM
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I wasn't answering that question. If someone just wants to get laid, it's totally fine and this post contains some good advice to actually make it happen. I somewhat disagree with other replies just saying "there's more about life than getting laid", since it doesn't really contribute to the discussion. ​ When I talked about other things out of getting laid before, I was just sharing my experience on getting an "abundance mentality", as it was very different from yours.
/r/seduction03/06/20 12:55 PM
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I like that you call people to action and it's true that sometimes it's ok to do some compromises to get laid. However, I disagree with that "lowering your standards" thing. I once read from Mark Manson something like "You should only flirt if you're attracted. Otherwise it feels like work". Of course it depends on the context. If you get a really good chance with a below average girl, you probably should take it, specially if you have no experience. But in most cases, you've got to work some ti…
/r/seduction03/06/20 12:05 PM
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It's difficult to tell where did you go wrong with that little context you provided. That being said, if there was distance between you and her, it's obvious that you failed in escalation. By her response, she seems to be attracted. But, you know, you only get to bake if the oven is already hot enough. Hope it helped
/r/seduction02/06/20 11:55 PM
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Really good post. Just missed a point or to about having also a plan to follow after the kiss. Maybe it's not a content intended for this post, but I just recently had this experience where I made out with a girl (not a tinder date, but it also applies to that) having everything planned and under control until that moment, and then went completely blank and did some incoherent moves after that. Just a reminder that kissing doesn't mean it's over
/r/seduction28/10/19 06:17 PM
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