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| 1 | Stop chasing women who put you in second placeAbout to become a John. To begin hiring escorts (legal in my area). After all, if it ain't love, it's just a matter of ego. If you're smart, you don't care about ego. You just care about getting to bang a girl every now and then and getting a need satisfied. Ask for a GFE (that is GirlFriend Experience), you even get to make love, passionate sex. Most escorts even enjoy getting banged by good looking and well mannered guys. All of this legally, of course. Never ever go against the law. Legal are… | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Are restaurant bars a good place to meet women?Dude, YMMV. Try to emotionally detach yourself. If she's interested, she'll come back to you eventually. Otherwise, keep on looking until the right one shows up. In need of sex? Hire an escort, where legal. Never ever act sexually desperate, that's a major turnoff. No other way. It's a fucking war. | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 05:06 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Central Italy, man. Huge town. Feels like every damn girl is already taken. Every-FUCKING-girl. As if there's a serious shortage of girls or something like that. Tinder? You see everyone flashing these damn engagement rings around, some of them proudly with boys. "Only friends". Match with them, they unmatch or ghost as soon as they get the feeling you're looking for a LTR, provided they do answer at all. Almost as if you're doing dirty talk or sending nudes. WTF are you on a dating app, then?! … | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 06:15 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Yes i am. Though never the clingy type, always able to keep distances and some "mystery". Unfortunately, i can't shake away the fact that i'm a military brat, so that's how i have been taught to behave like. Respecting others comes naturally to me, due to this. Though, i have Chris Evans looks. Not joking. | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 05:07 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]100% agree with this one. Feel exactly the same. Tell them too i like their smiles and their voices. They seem to understand i'm not after sex, not to say i'm asexual, but perfectly understand that sex just happens, within a sane relationship. Pity they're always already taken. Not losing any hope and seriously working on game, looks and clothing now, now that i'm approaching 30 still a virgin. Though, should things stay like that for too long, i'll be calling it a day and hiring a GFE escort (l… | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Just got rejected for the first time!Wow, so they also give away food and coffees for free or apply heavy discounts constantly to everyone (that's what they did and they're still doing). In the middle of a pandemic, too. Nice to know. I prefer calling all of that "if only i met that guy earlier...". An intermediate between friendzone and romance. Someone regretting having to put someone else away in the friendzone. That's what i think i saw in the asked out-failed girl's eyes. For months. Saw her eyes always fluttering while talkin… | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Just got rejected for the first time!I don't think so. Never seen them do this w/other people, acted rather cold with anyone else. Seemed (and seems, already have 3 of them acting like this, basically sexless+kissless GFEs everytime i meet them) like some genuine attraction building up | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Just got rejected for the first time!Then watch the girls go "You're really cute but i'm already taken". As a barlady who showed clear signs of attraction replied to me this April when i asked her out. Installed Tinder as a result. And that was like opening up another can of worms, but it's another matter. | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 01:38 PM |
| 1 | What’s the best way to make girls chase you?1)I drench myself in perfume. Noticed some serious interest (a really cute barlady always likes to leave the counter and come so damn close to me to have a chat, i notice she's often removing her facemask and having a sniff while doing so, and even rubbed her body against mine on one occasion). Doesn't have to be expensive stuff. Stuff such as Playboy New York will do. 2)As another poster commented, build some mistery around you, but be yourself in doing that. You have to show you're different f… | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 09:26 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Unfortunately, i believe that even a guy approaching all girls within eyesight in itself can be considered a creepy thing. Even if he switches area i believe talks about a creepy random guy cold approaching random girls would soon spread around. A deliveryman who's really laid back and respectfully flirty with all barladies and waitresses of a certain city is a way less creepy instance and grounds for some good talks spreading around about a gorgeous and nice single guy, for example | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 04:06 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]One half of the truth: there's always room for improvement. The other one, sadly, is that the engagement rings are there for anyone to look at. Lately, my eyes have been pointing at fingers first. Which is why i always keep what i jokingly call the "escort fail-safe" should clocks keep ticking way too long without anything happening. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 03:39 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]In reality, at least where i live (Italy), it's more like you talk to 50 girls and after the 25th one tells you she's already taken or just shrugs you off, you start giving off either a sexually desperate vibe or a kind of robotic one. That is, if cops haven't been called, showed up, ID'ed you and told you to stop harassing people on the street yet, and if you haven't had a "chat" with one of their SOs yet, too | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 03:22 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Problem is, after the 10th girl telling you she's already taken it becomes boring, and even if you're not desperate, you start looking like someone on a mission (an undercover cop) rather than giving off a genuine vibe | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Well, not so much difference between being labeled as creepy because you're ugly or straight away asked for sex, and being friendzoned because you're good looking but they're already taken. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 02:02 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You gotta be lucky and meet single ladies only then. Already taken ones can be so cold. True, a barlady seemed to like me very much for my boldness. As a friend, that is. Already taken. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]As DaydreamingMister said, it's a matter of how much laid back vs desperate you look while you're doing that. Problem is, the majority of girls you'll be meeting that way is going to be already taken and, unless you have some real nerves of steel, you'll become desperate looking in no time (and even if you have some real nerves of steel, you may still eventually end up giving the vibe of an undercover police officer, rather than a genuine guy vibe). Sexual desperation=huge turnoff. I prefer frie… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 01:51 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Yup. It all boils down to how you're doing it. And if you're desperate for a girl - it won't work. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with slip upsLifting some weights, doing some abs & pushups, always trying out some new shower gels. But most importantly, ham radio. That rocked the world for me. Press the PTT and everyone's listening to what u're saying, everyone with a license can have a word about what u're saying. Perfect strangers hearing your voice and getting to know what kind of guy you are, for the first time. Feels a little intimidating at first, gets you so confident later on. As a matter of fact, Marlon Brando was a ham radio o… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 02:26 PM |
| 1 | How To Have Sex When You Live With Your ParentsPandemic yo. Economy's messed up pretty bad. Has been like that for a decade btw, and now it's like death blow. He's likely doing his best | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 08:15 AM |
| 2 | How To Have Sex When You Live With Your ParentsWe're in the middle of a pandemic. It's not like the OP said he wants to live with parents forever. | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 08:12 AM |
| 3 | How To Have Sex When You Live With Your ParentsThe thing is, not everyone is able to. We're in the middle of a pandemic and economy is pretty FUBAR. Not saying one shouldn't stop trying to. But few will achieve that, matter of fact. One thing is being a man-child who refuses growing up into the adult world and taking responsibilities. Another is being unable to find real means beyond crime because there aren't enough high paying jobs around. I'm in the same situation as OP. All i can do atm is deliver food on a bike, yet i have a STEM degree… | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 08:05 AM |
| 3 | How To Have Sex When You Live With Your ParentsGreat point, especially since i feel like there's no change in "perceived man-childness" (real one is another thing; one can still be able to live on his own yet be a total moron) between living with parents and have them paying rent for you. These are hard times. In my country, lots of ppl are still living with parents well above 30 btw. | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 08:00 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]I'd just let her or plainly ask her. If you're getting friendzoned, then i don't think you can change her mind. Should she sense you're just PUAing her, it could make her even more uncomfortable. I think someone comfortable with physical contact (non-sexual one obv) would be standing close to you all the time. Once had the "honor" of being basically rubbed by a barlady's body without initiating anything, facemasks and glass shields+music were a communication issue and she just left the counter a… | /r/seduction | 24/09/21 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Is there such a thing as a "plateau" effect with an already taken girl?Thanks for your fair warning. He won't. As i said before, he'll be running circles around me and facing the law. Fact is, i'd be that 1%. Should i lose my girl to someone else, it'll be only my fault. | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Are restaurant bars a good place to meet women?I do deliveries and i'm friendzoning barladies+waitresses all the time. Just act really professional, laid back and respectfully flirty all the time, lots of eye contact and smiling, maybe pay for their coffee every now and then, and watch them begin loving you, so much that they trust coming so close that they're rubbing against you or they enjoy drinking coffee together with you while having a nice chat, almost feels like you're dating them (had both happen with the same person). Pity they're … | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Smiling at a cute girlI think it's a matter of looks. A Chris Evans kind of guy smiling might yield a completely different reaction than a fat, short, smelly, unkempt nerd (not saying all nerds are like this) doing the same. Also, it's one thing if it happens casually, another if you try and follow the girl so that she sees your smile. Above all, i'm sure all girls are able to tell if you're just PUAing your way into them or you're genuine and it's just your style. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:36 PM |
| -2 | Is there such a thing as a "plateau" effect with an already taken girl?Waiting for any of their bfs to show such blatant signs of immaturity. That'll only turn their actual gfs off. A girl isn't an item you can claim possession over. Your girl starts liking someone else, it's only because of you. You could have spent a little more time with her, for example. Grow up. If someone tries to kick my backside, i'll be running around and calling the police till they desist. Delivering on a bike everyday, hilly city, makes you athletic. Know how to handle such a situation.… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Is there such a thing as a "plateau" effect with an already taken girl?The fact is, i feel like a love story, even a short lived one, would actually help me sort these things out in my life. Girls (barladies actually) already seem to respect me a lot. In fact, whenever facemasks and these tall glass shields they put on counters nowadays become a communication barrier, they leave the counter and get so close to me so we can talk better. One of them actually rubbed me (not there, obv 😁) in the process. I don't think they'd be so comfortable with doing that, were they… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Is there such a thing as a "plateau" effect with an already taken girl?Experiencing lots of prolonged eye contact. Seems like i'm dealing with seriously attention starved people | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there such a thing as a "plateau" effect with an already taken girl?Reason is, unattached ones are way too rare or when you somehow manage to find one they're either ugly as fuck or really erratic (and this means it will be you cheating on her eventually). I'm starting to get old, family is always arguing over silly shit, Tinder, Bumble and another app are leading me nowhere. So tired about people matching then ghosting/unmatching. Discos closed due to covid. Went to a speed dating event and no one gave me a like. No fucking one I have Chris Evans' looks, not jo… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:31 PM |
| 0 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.Barladies, they usually break the ice first 🙂 It's me gradually acting sweeter and sweeter the more i feel like i'm polarizing their attention, until they start always greeting me with "Hey, how it's goin" and a flirty voice (always hoping that one fine day the next step is going to be "Hey, i'd like to know you better, shall we exchange numbers?") Though yesterday i hit on a brand new one with "You're new, ain't you", a smile and eye contact, and she seemed really pleased (let's see if she brin… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:01 PM |
| 5 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way."Also, a guy from her social circle will always have edge since trust is hard to gain from cold approaching." This. I'm basically able to get free GFE's (only talk, no sex no kisses obviously 😁) from already taken barladies as a deliveryman. See them nearly damn everyday. And we're always acting like a couple everytime we meet. Can't hear me due to facemask and that damn glass shield on the counter? No problem, she leaves the counter and goes so damn close to me she's rubbing me, no joke. So muc… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 11:45 AM |
| 6 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.Not to mention they're practically always already taken. It's not because someone tells you "I've won 1 milion thanks to the lotto" that you should frantically start wasting your money in lotto hoping for the same thing to happen to you. One thing is beginning or ending a delivery shift with a coffee and a nice small talk with a cute already taken chick like i do everyday (drive way better this way, and who knows how well the chick's actual relationship is going; friendzone a lot of already take… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 11:30 AM |
| 1 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.As long as you manage to find one that's unattached, that is. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 11:20 AM |
| 1 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.One once matched with me on Tinder and then wanted to be contacted on her Instagram handle. She had a private profile and immediately added me. As soon as i got added, i messaged her (courteous stuff, just wanted to small talk about something she liked the most). One week goes by without any answer. At this point i tell her there's no reason to go on and then unfollow her. Found out later she was attached. Some of them just want to fuck around with lonely men. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 11:18 AM |
| 1 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.I personally find being a CB radio/ham radio operator (i'm the latter) to be of great help with approaching barladies (the most easygoing and talkative girls i know, pity they're always attached to someone else by the time you get to know them). Ragchewing (that is, small talk about random things on a radio channel) away, knowing anyone is listening to what you say, just makes you more confident and talkative, and approaching girls with a handheld radio on you might make them really curious (you… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 08:56 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Waitresses are just way too busy, outcome might turn out the same as hitting on a girl @ gym. Barladies tend to be WAY more talkative, like you could likely end with one giving a number away herself should she be single & inclined to. Just respect them all the time, be nice to them and let them do their chores, and you'll be friendzoned in no time, then you'll have the chance to flirt with them and get more, should they be inclined to. Saying this because i know a cute girl who used to be a wait… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 08:32 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Women are everywhere indeed. Already taken, that is. Even on Tinder, most people just show off their engagement rings/boys without a care they're ruining it for serious people. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 01:03 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I'd have no problem biking to & fro my girl's place, big city. Also, one without a place but with the means could even book a hotel room every now and then. Renting a place only for making a potential partner happy is stupid IMHO | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 01:02 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]At least take care of the physical shape. An already taken girl made a clear point she found me real cute and would have dated me immediately if her bf allowed it. Athletic shape you get by delivering food on a bicycle every day and a little workout at home is all it takes, no need for gym membership. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:55 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Befriending lots of new waitresses as a delivery man (bicycle, hilly city, so pretty fit; basically i look like a muscular G-Man from HL:Alyx), guess i'll just have to wait for the single/just broke up one to somehow slip through then | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:42 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]As long as he won't grow too old in the process... Keep in mind economy is pretty fucked up due to C19 | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:35 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Had one of them start approaching me last March. "Hey, how you doin" while outside the restaurant and messing around with my handheld ham radio, and making a little exception about social distancing only for me when i came inside. Liked to come so close to me, basically liked to rub against me, almost like she trusted me as an alpha. Eventually asked her out. Answer: "It's like i've accepted, because my bf is jealous". Wanted to ask her "Then why the fuck were you trying to lead me on? You just … | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 11:58 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I guess it all boils down to your own standards. Went to one, saw gorgeous ones in their early 30s too. Ones not too different from the barladies i'm always speaking about. Ones i'd personally find attractive. Some of them just broke up and are just plain busy with their work. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 09:46 PM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]28 yo kv+hv. Trust me, you can get friends. And, if really lucky, even more. It's just that economy's pretty fucked up. I'm living with parents as well, no car (no real sense in having one though, living in a big city, a scooter might make more sense), not making lots of money either though i have a STEM degree but pretty fit (bike deliveryman+some workout taking place @ home), yet i'm making lots of friends by now. Restaurant workers who seem to love my military-like yet laid back attitude, mor… | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Expectation of Sex!Agree. I've seen some advice about "gently touch her, or you'll get friendzoned". In my country, it seems touching a girl's arm with sexual intent and without her consent can lead to a sexual battery attempt charge, should the girl choose to press it on you (no pun intended). Sad but true. Thanks, but i prefer friendzone rather than doing time. I actually once asked permission before touching (gently touching her hand while i talked to her, nothing out of the ordinary) a barlady for this very re… | /r/seduction | 11/09/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Expectation of Sex!28 yo kissless hugless virgin here. Drop any... Not saying anyone should be hiring an escort (illegal in many areas, not where i live though, be aware and carefully check for laws), only speaking for myself. I find the thought of a GFE (basically an escort acting as a GF and dating me, then anything else unfolds from there) relaxing. It's what makes me able to relentlessly test friendzones i've been put into by a number of already taken girls, all of this without showing any sex starvation signs… | /r/seduction | 11/09/21 03:52 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on a girl approaching a guy?My own experience about a girl initiating "intimacy" Have been really uninterested about the opposite sex until this March, when a nice barlady in her late 20s actually approached me (started giving me random stuff for free, always smiled, wanted to know my name and then told me hers, went really really near on her own, wanted to chat with me a lot). Saw her 3-4 days a week since i'm a food delivery man (27yo guy then), both bought and picked stuff up from her place a lot and she was the one giv… | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Stop chasing women who put you in second placeReally true. Seeing a lot of interest in girls lately (changed clothes, working out, perfumes). Doing food deliveries, unassisted bicycle, plenty of hills everyday. Barladies flirting with me and smiling all the time. Unknown cashiers and recipients greeting me with a cold "Good evening/morning" and then saying goodbye with a warm and flirty "Bye!" and a wink. Confident tone and look. The problem is, too easy to lose confidence over time if every woman you meet is already taken (whether they do … | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Stop chasing women who put you in second placeThat is, as long as you manage to find a single one. Otherwise, "pick up" becomes "friendzone". Then, if you have time to waste, you can try testing that friendzone and making her reconsider who her SO really is (like i'm doing). Not all SOs are kind, smart and literate, for example. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 10:00 AM |
| 0 | Stop chasing women who put you in second placeThat is when you discover everyone worth considering is already taken, and this advice is only going to get you friendzoned and nothing more. Had a really nice barlady act exactly like this with me, nice, i'm finally gonna get laid i thought. Asked her out, "You're really cute, but I have a jealous bf". Bam, friendzone time. Losing time on Tinder since then. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 09:47 AM |
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