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| 115 | I was going through my camera roll, came across this, and thought it’d be appreciated here! | QUEEN SH*T | stackofwits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:20 PM |
| 103 | We don’t sleep with those kinda men around here | FDS HUMOR | stackofwits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:08 PM |
| 41 | LVM will always be LVM | LEVEL UP | stackofwits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:20 AM |
| 29 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom? | DISCUSSION | stackofwits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:27 PM |
| 23 | Saw this on Facebook. The tomfoolery! | stackofwits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:13 PM |
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| 2 | Feelings of loneliness is realHe is the best!!! I don’t think we’re allowed to link to photos here or I would share one of him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 05:42 AM |
| 55 | Feelings of loneliness is realHonestly, my therapist says I’m triggered by loneliness, which for me is related to ambiguously losing my little sister to a meth addiction. I’ll be honest that many times I’ve tried to fill the hole she left with LVM, and it didn’t work out for plenty of reasons, etc. What I’ve been learning to do is be an only child when, for over 20 years, I had built in sidekick in my life. This might sound silly, but what has helped me the most is getting my cockatiel. I have always loved birds in general, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 02:45 AM |
| 12 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)This is a work of art. A masterpiece. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:54 PM |
| 53 | “Men aren’t loved unconditionally, women are”Where he at 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:44 PM |
| 27 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.You’re right for that. Thanks for pointing this out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 04:32 PM |
| 185 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.Yessss! I do the same. And if they text me to confirm we’re still meeting up and I haven’t heard from them in days, I tell them, “oh sorry! When I didn’t hear from you, I assumed you weren’t interested and made other plans.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:48 AM |
| 43 | Did you guys see the house wife unpopular opinion post on front page?The best thing my mom ever did for me was repeatedly tell me as a little girl, “don’t you ever depend on a man.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:53 AM |
| 5 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?I wish someone told me that the older guy in a band that I had a huge crush on and who texted me sometimes was a fucking creep and groomed me. At this point in my life, he’s 30 and I’m 26. I ended up going out with him several times over the last several years and only realized after joining this group that he groomed me. As a reference, the only reason I ever met him is because he would hang out at my best friend’s house all the time because he was best friends with her older brother. I just ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 02:43 PM |
| 17 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightThis happened to me! I’m the same height as you and this guy said on his profile he was 6’2”. He could not have been taller than 5’10”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:04 AM |
| 18 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksCan’t help but think about that post here the other day attacking Gabby and saying we were all treating her differently and how poorly it aged. Rest In Peace Gabby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Keep that same energy sis(ters)Yeah this post aged terribly didn’t it? Shame on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:45 PM |
| 23 | Keep that same energy sis(ters)Why would you post this about the probable victim of a crime? Are you just looking to tear apart a missing woman? I’m not here for it at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:09 AM |
| 22 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areMy biggest pet peeve is when they list their height and then follow it immediate with, “since apparently that matters,” as if they aren’t also judging based on appearances. Like, I’m 6’0”, Chad, of course it matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:30 AM |
| 25 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴I could never see the Harry/Hermione pairing until I played HP Lego on Switch, actually, and then it really clicked with me that the cliche would’ve naturally paired the two of them. Specifically, it’s the moments like this in Deathly Hallows and Ron’s jealousy at the thought of them together that made them a plausible pairing for me. As a side note, I always wondered what kind of person Malfoy might’ve been if he hadn’t been born, raised, and indoctrinated to be a POS. It’s probably my childhoo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:44 PM |
| 15 | True Crime Discussionit’s better to be tried by 12 than carried by 6 Wow, this was so moving to me. Thank you so much for sharing his adage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:48 PM |
| 2 | True Crime DiscussionI am admittedly obsessed, and the way that I always look at it is that every case I listen to and learn about is another recognizable warning sign to put under my belt. I’d liken it to reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. When I consume true crime content, I feel like I’m studying, like I’m doing my homework. I feel safer knowing what’s out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 77 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Like okay Chuck bartering your girlfriend isn’t a real thing but, sure, trade her for a hotel! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:42 PM |
| 533 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴You know that shit is fiction because I feel like if she was a real person Hermione Granger would never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:40 PM |
| 25 | Always keep your coins snatchedLike my mama always told me, “don’t you ever depend on a man.” 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:40 AM |
| 60 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rnI too have had a guy tell me that a man who doesn’t watch porn is “a tall order.” Like, it’s actually not, you’re just a skeeze. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:13 PM |
| 1 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Solidarity ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:36 PM |
| 5 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Can confirm – have PTSD, turn my hate inward, in therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:12 AM |
| 2 | NVM's wife raised the kids and managed their home for nearly two decades yet he resents her for not working? Feels like an abuse victim?? He has the option to retire early and live a comfortable life together but comments he rather have her work a cashier job "for the principle"Oh my god his responses to comments under a new account are even worse. This guy said he’d be happy if she worked at a grocery store for the principle. What a dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 12:03 AM |
| 9 | This is why we can’t even trust the “good” guys.That has to be bone chilling that his crimes hit so close to home for you, and I don’t blame you at all for sitting this one out. I don’t know if I could have stomached it if in your situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:04 PM |
| 219 | This is why we can’t even trust the “good” guys.On a real note, I would call The Stranger Beside Me an American classic simply because Anne Rule’s point of view can never be beaten. She was a journalist at first and worked closely with the police department, and she was writing about Bundy the killer at the same time as she worked with Ted at the suicide hotline for a long time before ever having a clue they were one in the same. If you’re into true crime, it’s a must read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:34 AM |
| 19 | If your partner does this, RUN in the opposite direction. This is abuse and a power play.When I was in high school and incredibly naive, I had a boyfriend for two years who was training for the Marine Corps and would make me go running with him – I am a jogger at best. I don’t concern myself with timed distance running because the best mile I’ve ever run was 7:15 in the sixth grade. Both of my parents are smokers and I was exposed to a lot of secondhand smoke - I cannot run like someone doing USMC conditioning. If I stopped running to walk for a breather, he’d run in circles around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 01:15 AM |
| 21 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Omg I almost posted this here earlier today! Men will really have you thinking you’ve lost your fucking mind and as soon as they’re gone it’s like the most foul fog disappears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:57 AM |
| 3 | I just felt like this belonged hereI loved this movie so much and now I’m going to rewatch it. Thank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:06 AM |
| 20 | Just sharing this set of reminders. :)Fucking thank you. I have CPTSD and this is the first time I’ve felt I belong here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:31 PM |
| 14 | Just sharing this set of reminders. :)I love this sub and it has genuinely changed my life, but as someone with cPTSD and actively going to psychotherapy preparing for EMDR, #3 just makes me feel like shit and like I don’t belong here. I often feel like I don’t belong here because I’m mentally ill. Edit: While I’m at it, #6 is shitty too. Having grown up in a home with domestic violence and eventual divorce, breakups are inherently a thing I can’t just “suck it up” about. I hate this graphic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:28 PM |
| 21 | We are not far from this time. I’m just saying, men have been trying to gaslight her forever.My English teacher taught this in high school and in a college course she taught as an adjunct. It is truly unforgettable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:13 PM |
| 2 | LVM will always be LVMThank you so much LMAO. I’m thrilled someone enjoyed the wordplay like me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:00 AM |
| 5 | LVM will always be LVMYES!!!! We here will remind you that child is just tormenting another woman with the same shit he did to you! The only difference between you and her? She puts up with it and you don’t! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:59 AM |
| 6 | In Memoriam 💔😢It was a privilege to have known him and a greater one to share his memory! The pleasure is all mine, really ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:00 AM |
| 28 | In Memoriam 💔😢I want to personally address someone who made the ignorant statement below: He was diagnosed as stage 3 four years ago. Stage 3 colorectal has a 5 year survivability of 75%, and that number mostly comes from cases in much older people. Right. I want you to know that my graduate advisor also passed away on February 2nd of this year with colorectal cancer at the age of 67, only two years after his initial diagnosis. I guess that must have been due to some anti-science blithering he was doing in se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Periodt.Ugh thank you so much it is legitimately life-giving 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Periodt.Oh yeah no doubt!! I was giving my experience as an example since I’m asking other people for theirs! The five days is the exact reason I dumped him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 16 | Periodt.This might be better as its own post, but, out of curiosity, how has everyone else been doing since COVID-19 turned the world upside down? This tweet really hit home for me because I myself have struggled with balancing how I want to be treated by a partner with the implications of a global pandemic. In fact, I ended my relationship with a man I considered a HVM; we live ~3.5 miles away from each other, and the fact that we only spent 5 days together between March and July was an insult to my pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:53 AM |
| 9 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?Sometimes they do both, I guess for the pizzazz lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:12 PM |
| 47 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?For me, it’s future fake after future fake after future fake. How the fuck are you supposed to know? My last ex daydreamed about moving in together... until the pandemic set in. Then, it was excuse after excuse after excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:11 PM |
| 46 | “You’re so sensitive”Men will say, “I have to walk on eggshells around you,” before their brain will ever be capable of arriving at, “I know what I want to say will upset you but somehow you’re to blame for my fear of honesty.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowBut it's ok, I'm thriving, educated and I give all this love to myself, none of it ever goes to waste. Adding this to my journal for today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 77 | ExactlyOne time I caught another TA in my department on Bumble. I knew he shouldn’t be on there because I’d been interested in him, and after asking around learned he was dating another TA and had been for a while. I would’ve ratted on him regardless, but I SUPER ratted on him because this woman was and is and always will be way too fucking cool to be treated that way by anyone, least of all someone who claims to love her – she’s gone on two voyages in Antarctica for months at a time doing research for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:08 PM |
| 20 | TruthThere’s a chart somewhere that shows how as he’s aged his girlfriends have gotten younger. Brb Here it is LMFAO of course it was /r/dataisbeautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 05:40 AM |
| 5 | trueLmfao this made my day ty ❣️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?This is so so so long, so if you do read all of it, I have the upmost admiration and gratefulness of you. I can’t help but leap at the chance for an unbiased opinion of the details. No worries at all! But yeah, absolutely — up until the pandemic began, we were slowly building a life together and daydreamed all the time about when we’d have our own place in Houston together. We immediately clicked because we’re both in academia. I’m about to start year three of five in my PhD program and teaching… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:25 AM |
| 10 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?From my POV it’s like his mom needs him to need her. I left this relationship feeling sorry for him that, with wealth I’ve never had access to, his parents have failed him so masterfully in raising him to be independent. I could be compensating or sticking up for him, but my family was fucked all the way up and still I think they’re weird as shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:13 PM |
| 13 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?Definitely a new-to-me kind of breakup. It’s hard when you love someone yet see the terror ahead, but I’ve dodged a bullet. I even told him that he should let his mother choose his wife and then try to learn and love that woman because it would be easier for him LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:06 PM |
| 9 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?Omfg and when I shared my worries about specifically this with him he actually said, “I don’t think that’d be anything to worry about.” Like, I cannot imagine the mid-life crisis he’s going to have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:03 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?I’m actually so, so excited lately because my stress over the situation prompted me to check in with my EMDR therapist about where I was on her waiting list, and someone had canceled an hour or so earlier. In a way I’m thankful they put me through their bullshit because I got so lucky to have emailed her when I did after 8 months on the list haha. It has been a long, long journey, but I’ve read the books and am doing the work. It’ll all pay off! Thanks again! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:02 PM |
| 14 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?Thank you for saying this to me as I really needed to hear it. I grew up in an abusive home, so dating has been rough for me in general. It’s hard for me to see sometimes that just because it’s the best I’ve ever had still doesn’t mean it’s the best I could have. It’s why I joined and love this sub so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:46 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?So he might not have been an LVM but he is def not an HVM. I needed to hear that so badly. Sometimes the gray areas are incredibly tough for me to navigate. Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:40 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?This is so, so validating in every way. Like, I might have dated an only child in the past, but obviously if I did it doesn’t stick out and their parents must have been reasonable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:24 PM |
| 15 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?Interacting with her gave me this, like, truly horrifying premonition that if children ended up being in our future, she would view them as her grandchildren, not my actual children. I’m not sure if you have children but am curious if that sentiment rings any bells for you haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:23 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?To be honest, I’ve not much expected him to because of his current situation. To put it concisely, Most of our differences take root in my parents having been blue collar (a car wash mechanic and a waitress) while he’s had a very white collar life with his parents (a lawyer and a nurse-turned-SAHM). His parents pay for all of his graduate tuition, and he lives at home to save money. Meanwhile, I’ve essentially been on my own since I started college. That’s all to say that when I’ve pushed the is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:15 PM |
| 56 | Jacinda hasn't tried to turn into a male version of what a prime minister should be. She's empathetic and polite, and communicates well while TAKING NO SHIT. Women can lead countries just as well as men think they canThe fact that he reduces to Jacinda his “plus one” 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:12 AM |
| 9 | never ceases to amaze what men will demandMaybe I’m biased since I’m an academic, but this is a red flag if I’ve ever seen one. As someone pursuing a doctoral degree in atmospheric science, if my boyfriend, who is seeking his PhD in philosophy, ever asked this of me, it would be the last thing he would ever ask me. Full stop. I’ve only just secured my candidacy but can already say beyond a shadow of a doubt that there are far, far too many sleepless nights, tears, grueling hours of hard work, etc., for me to ever attribute my eventual d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 01:37 AM |
| 3 | I literally can’t stop laughing. Scrote pressures wife into “open marriage” doesn’t go the way he thought it would...standing ovation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 05:12 PM |
| 4 | Reminder: LVM say anything to get what they want.I saw this on Twitter and when I sent it to my boyfriend via DM his response, verbatim, was, “Wtf are these men smoking that they think this is normal behavior??” and I think he nailed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 08:19 PM |
| 23 | The men of asktrp won’t let “moral responsibility” stop them from spreading disease. Yet another reminder that men dgaf, and will knowingly harm you just to get off. 🙄🤮Jail. Straight to jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 03:46 PM |
| 10 | Truth Hurts.PhD candidate checking in with you. Solidarity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 46 | “She is crazy!!” is any man’s favorite description of a woman he used to date 🙄Yep! I know for a fact my ex told everyone I “tried suicide,” as if trying to kill oneself is an appetizer worth sampling, when really I was experiencing extreme side effects from the birth control implant I got to ease his anxiety about an unplanned pregnancy. He simultaneously daydreamed with me about our hypothetical first born down to what we might name her and what she could look like only to tell me later he’d been feeling impulsive when we had that conversation. That was two years ago, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:33 PM |
| 162 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleMy alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude. — Warsan Shire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 08:18 PM |
| 13 | Men use you for lots of things, not just sexThis was a truth bomb ty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 05:16 PM |
| 12 | No more!I’ve noticed this too. At first on Twitter I thought they were funny as far as bad dates on the extreme end of things, but it’s really become this entire, “y’all the bar is on the floor,” trope that’s so normalized I even started to view my negative dating experiences that way. Like, ha ha, this fucking loser just made an absolute idiot out of me, how quirky and ~relatable~ ha ha. Some of these women are (I think) trolling, but the amount that are both (a) serious and (b) believable is alarming.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 7 | New Year's Resolution : Drop your pickmeisha friends.This!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 05:14 PM |
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