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Mini caprese salads. Cherry tomato, mozzarella cheese ball, basil leaf on a toothpick with a balsamic glaze. Crab cakes I make from scratch. Lean cuisine has these Thai chicken roll ups that are surprisingly good. A Small charcuterie- random mix of sliced meats, cheeses, fruits, nuts.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:35 PM
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Cross country runners are skinny nerds. I’m married to a former cross country runner and my best friend’s son is a current cross county runner. Skinny nerd is accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 02:27 AM
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Yeah. I’m with you. Food poisoning isn’t a choice. My husband constantly belching in the car where I’m trapped with his gasses or me indiscriminately farting as I walk past him; those are choices. We have each expressed what we are and are not comfortable with when it comes to voluntary (or at least controllable) functions. Clipping/biting/picking nails is absolutely something that an adult should be able to manage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 02:16 AM
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Appetizers. He comes home super hungry but not ready to sit down and have dinner/interact/have a conversation. I make something small so he can have a few bites and then retreat and recharge before we come together for dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 02:06 AM
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I don’t even think of myself as someone who understands or likes marketing. I have had sales rolls and hated every minute of it. On line dating for me lasted 4 days before I met my husband. I would and do recommend it. OKC worked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 12:57 AM
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First husband: His parents got married after 30. That was his plan. We met when I was 19 and he was 20. By the time I was 21 and we were living together I gave an ultimatum. He caved. We wed. It lasted 9 years and 2 kids. It was a very BP relationship. Second husband: We met on a dating site. OKC. He stated in his profile that he was looking for a wife. I was only clear that I didn’t want more kids. He already had 3. We mesh perfectly. I think it’s ok to have clarity about what you are looking f…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 02:43 AM
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Ours is Vlad the Inhaler. He’s a good boy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 10:50 PM
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I’m a Cheaty McCheaterson because I do have a housekeeper come every other week. We also have a robot vacuum. However, I make our bed and tidy up the bedroom every morning. I think it really helps my husband appreciate that he comes home to an orderly house - since the bedroom is the first place he goes. Even if the rest of the house is a bit messy (we have a new puppy and toys are everywhere) he can retreat to his bedroom sanctuary.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 10:02 PM
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I think it’s something to keep in mind that a man making a very good income does not generally want or need a career driven woman. He is looking for a woman who will add value to his life in other ways. Homemaking, cooking, nurturing, etc. So my advice would be to develop and display those skills.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 08:06 PM
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I met my husband when he was in his mid30s. I’ve seen pics of him in his earlier years and I would have been repulsed by him in his teens, and totally disinterested (though not revolted) in his 20s. He’s honestly gotten hotter since we met, as I’ve encouraged him to grow and style his hair and beard the way I like. So I will say that SOME men do age into being more attractive. Does that mean my husband is now objectively hotter than a 25yo hard body Chad? No. However he is objectively more attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 10:36 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 12:56 PM
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My husband is ravenous for me when I roll out of bed. Hair everywhere. Morning breath. No make up. That said, five minutes of putting myself together leaves me much more confident. A full 30 minutes of shower, tooth brushing, and a dash of makeup and I can take on the world. I do wear an apron when cooking though. Because even if it’s a T-shirt and jeans, I don’t need to deal with grease spots on my clothes.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 09:31 PM
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I couldn’t bare to go back there for days/weeks after reading one woman’s posts. She was living with a self professed MGTOW who wouldn’t marry her, wouldn’t have biological children with her, and also wouldn’t tolerate her furthering her education or career. She was licking his boots for scraps. She was obviously not happy ... and it was ok? Granted he was paying her (like a high priced call girl). I don’t know. My situation is unconventional, but my husband and I are both content. Is that not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:49 AM
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Hey just a heads up for anyone who happens to read this: Tylenol will fuck you up and kill you slowly and painfully by causing liver failure. Be very careful with Tylenol. With yourself and with your kids. It’s not a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:30 AM
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Ha ha ha. No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:52 PM
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Hi there! I married a doctor who I met when I was 34. He was about to turn 33 when we met. Different scenario from yours. We met on a dating site and immediately both indicated that we were interested in more than friendly chats. You mention these text conversations but you don’t clarify what you are talking about. You obviously know a little bit of his romantic background. Are you two friends on FB since you went to high school together? You must know some of the things he is interested in - ty…
/r/RedPillWives01/10/18 01:02 PM
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Kids. Second marriage. Kids (5 of them) are all from prior marriage. Two mine. Three his. We parent differently. They are all unique pains in their own way. Runner up: drinking. I drink too much according to him. It’s really not that much. Yeah... we are not your typical RP relationship. We are fumbling our way through it. I think we are better off for the ideas here. Actually now that I’m really mulling it over, we probably fight about food when we are together twice as much as we fight about a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 02:28 AM
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I knew a guy who was smooth enough to get a B.B. female. But are you that chick that can pay for everything? Even if you aren’t the one he faps to? ETA: And if you are... do you really want that?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 03:05 AM
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This feels like a gut punch. My sister has been with a total loser for longer than I’ve known my husband. They don’t have kids together. Recently she told me that she wants to stay sober long enough to legitimately decide if she wants to stay with him. Because she hadn’t stayed sober that long in all the years she’s been with him. They probably deserve each other. But I think she’s better than him. Maybe I’m wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 03:02 AM
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Can you clarify how immigration plays into your RPW views? Not trying to instigate but my husband and I are likely more politically left than most here.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 02:55 AM
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I guess the part I’m still struggling with at this point - and I’m pretty RP - is the assumption that women don’t enjoy sex. Like... maybe I’m not ready to be serious... I just want an orgasm. Is that not okay because I have a vagina? Both of the men I ended up marrying started out as one night stands. I would have been A OK if that one night was where it ended. Just to be clear, I was super BP during marriage 1. I was super BP until 2 years in to marriage 2. I’m currently 4 years into marriage …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 03:11 AM
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I get that. I was looking for 6’ and “settled” for 5’10”. I was also looking for someone older than me and “settled” for 18 months younger. At the time my man responded that the book was all about game theory and playing to your best odds. He was right.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:21 AM
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I saw that book at a bookstore and sent a photo of it to the guy I was dating at the time. As a WTF moment. I was 35. Divorced from the man I married in my early 20s. He was “good enough” when I was young and stupid. I wish I could go back and skip that whole fiasco. Now remarried to a wonderful man. The guy I was dating at 35. We married when I was 36. The world doesn’t end in your 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:05 AM
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Our wedding was probably in the $40k range if you include the rings and the dress. We have great memories of an awesome party to celebrate our love. If you can afford it, why not? One of the ladies that attended our wedding recently got engaged and is insisting that I help her plan her wedding (I’m so happy to do it). She said our wedding was the best she’s ever attended. I think going into debt for a wedding is a bad idea. Throwing a great party that you can afford is totally fine.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:10 AM
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Sure! One was just too young and didn’t have his life together. He was more like a rebound/pass time for me. Eventually I just moved along. It was never very serious on my end. I tried to be clear with him about that but at times he got a little carried away and made indications that he wanted to be with me long term and saw us have kids together. Nope! The main guy though... I just never fully trusted him. We were together for two years and lived together. He wanted to get married. I offered mo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 10:28 PM
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So “move along”?
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 02:47 AM
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I’m 40 and my N count has literally never been a topic of discussion with my husband. So shed the idea that it’s a big deal. We’ve only been married 4 years, together 6. A man who is constantly accusing you of cheating is either ridiculously insecure or he himself is fucking other people. Period. There is no other scenario. My advice would be to move along. I feel like it’s so easy to give that advice and it’s so hard to follow that advice. That’s the world we live in on reddit though...
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 01:38 AM
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How old are you? There are a couple of red flags in your post. The fact that he frequently accuses you of cheating is very, very bad.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 11:30 PM
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Let me preface by saying we have a yard guy, a pool guy, a bug guy, and a bi-weekly Housekeeper. I do not work. I handle 100% of the dishes, laundry, and cooking as well as attending to car repairs,home repairs, appointment scheduling... I also have a roll in assisting with his side gig, which doesn’t bring in much money and doesn’t take up much time. To be honest though, all of that’s a very small portion of my day. Mostly I spend my time training and exercising our dog. We have 5 kids. None of…
/r/RedPillWives26/08/18 05:54 PM
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I second the idea of speaking to some attorneys. Depending on where you live/where you get divorced (if it unfortunately comes to that), the assets you bring into the marriage might be easily kept outside the realm of marital assets or community property. That’s sure to get complicated if you use a portion of the money to buy something in both your names: a house, for example. If you do go the route of a prenup, there are a few steps that can greatly reduce the likelihood of it being challenged …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 09:50 PM
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I feel like the advice is different if we are talking about a boyfriend, a fiancé, or a spouse. Can you clarify because it seems that boyfriend is the assumption.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 09:55 PM
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Ha! My husband is also a doctor. A doctor who is repulsed by blood. I let him know about my periods because it means he will avoid sex for a few days - his choice, not mine. He also knows that I have endometriosis and my periods are unbelievably heavy. He reminds me to bring extra tampons when we leave the house. We both know about each other’s medical appointments, as well as dental appointments, work meetings, and social gatherings either one of us is planning to attend. I can’t imagine feelin…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 10:26 PM
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Perhaps my opinion is skewed because I live in Florida... but... NEVER!!! Ok, so even setting aside the heat, there is nothing flattering about a sweatshirt. Yoga pants - yes. Sweatpants - no. Tank top - yes. Sweatshirt - no. Maybe if you are wearing his favorite team sweatshirt and nothing else while climbing into bed. Maybe then.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 02:10 AM
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In what context did she even get his number? Maybe it’s just me but my man doesn’t go around giving his number to single women. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 02:03 AM
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I married a hot doctor when I was 36. He’s younger than me. I would say we are both quite attractive. We both had kids from prior relationships. Still going strong 4 years later. TRP is all about generalizations. AWALT, for example. There are exceptions. Loads of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 01:50 AM
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I was raised being told “Men are pigs. They only want one thing and they will tell you anything in order to get it.” This came from both my mother and my father. I’m sure they thought they were protecting me. I wish they hadn’t drilled that into my head. It’s been a hard road to recover from the misandry I grew up with.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 08:06 PM
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I stopped doing my daily Spanish lesson four days ago. Still haven’t started back.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 09:20 PM
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I have two girls. 11 and 15. I try to tell them and demonstrate that the way I behaved for the first 35 years of my life was woefully ignorant and damaging to me and everyone around me. Specifically: Don’t marry a man you meet at 19. Wait until you know who you are. I’m encouraging a late 20s marriage. (They ask me all the time how the heck I ended up with their dad - my ex - and the truth is that I was young and stupid. We have zero in common at this point. And they aren’t disparaging either of…
/r/RedPillWives14/08/18 08:48 PM
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I don’t see my husband for the bulk of most days. I dress for my activities- typically shorts and tank tops because I’m either at the dog park, training the dog on the dock, or out on a boat. I would like to get into the habit of changing into feminine dresses and presenting as a submissive housewife when he gets home. Still trying to figure out where to get the clothes. It’s kind of on the back burner right now. I dress up for him when we go on dates and he loves it. However he also can’t keep …
/r/RedPillWives14/08/18 03:13 PM
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What disturbs me about the way that feminism has evolved is that instead of getting the message “You can be anything “ girls are being led to believe that they can and should be everything. They should get an education, be a great employee, have a spouse, have kids, breastfeed, keep a clean house, cook gourmet meals, look hot always, and be a sexual dynamo. Anything less and she has failed as a woman. The part that gets left out is that one person can’t possibly do all of that. Not well, anyway.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 08:28 PM
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Ok Cupid. We were a crazy high match percentage.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 11:03 PM
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I can’t think of a single good example in my social circles. At least not any that I know well enough - beyond “he works and she stays home and she seems ok from the handful of times I’ve seen her”. I am pretty close with a couple that has been married over 20 years and they are a train wreck. They’ve each cheated and been caught. She takes every opportunity to complain about him, even to the point of emasculating him in front of others to his face. If she drinks too much (which happens a lot) s…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 12:23 PM
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Are you married or are you trying to be less serious to dating partners? My husband doesn’t want a flake of a wife. I’m not clear on what value “less serious” adds. Can you clarify?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 12:22 AM
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I totally agree. Adoption is a norm in my family. My grandfather (dad’s dad) was adopted. My grandmother (mom’s mom) was raised with an adopted sibling. My parents adopted my brother. My other brother adopted a daughter. I always figured I would adopt. Life didn’t pan out that way. I still feel like I would adopt or foster if my husband were to die. (He isn’t interested) Giving up a child for adoption is a beautiful and selfless act. Consider it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 12:12 AM
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I am married to a surgeon and therefore our social circle includes many physicians. Female doctors who hold out for a man who can match their earnings abound... and they are single. Find him during training or you probably won’t find him. Men who earn lots of money aren’t looking for a woman who also has a demanding career. They don’t need that. On the flip side, we know a handful of female doctors whose husband’s are the stay at home spouse. I’m not sure if such a thing is compatible with TRP. …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 06:03 PM
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I’m a second wife. I already had 2 kids and he already had 3 kids. He got a vasectomy about 10 days after we met. He asked me if I was opposed to this. I answered “no opposition! Please do!” I didn’t need any more kids and neither did he.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/18 01:48 AM
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Yowza! Med school and training caused the death of my current husband’s first marriage. It’s a nightmare and I get that. But 8 years of undergrad and he hasn’t even started Med school? Have you guys been living on loans? I’d have a hard time being accepting of a man putting me through such a tough time, spending so much time and money, and then just up and changing his mind. To me, that indicates a lack of follow through and self discipline that is going to lead to long term issues, no matter wh…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/18 11:37 PM
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I would not have been comfortable giving up my career if my husband didn’t make a considerable amount of money. If I hadn’t given up my career I wouldn’t have felt the need to nurture my relationship by showing appreciation for his contributions and bending over backwards to keep him happy (belly full, balls empty, house an orderly sanctuary that he is happy to come home to). I wouldn’t have swallowed the red pill. This is marriage #2 for me. The first one was very BP. He would have liked it to …
/r/RedPillWives29/07/18 10:23 PM
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I can sew- not only cross stitch, I can also make clothing/costumes from scratch or with a pattern. I take exception to “dog mom” as basic. 😜 I have a high energy dog. We are always on the go and training. We are working to get certified as a therapy team to visit retirement homes. She trains in obedience and dock diving. My husband has had many dogs and frequently expresses that he is in awe of how well I am raising our girl. I definitely cook and bake. I’m not sure I’d call it a hobby. It does…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/18 10:05 PM
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Sorry about the loss of your friend. Being a great dog mom is an important part of my life too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 06:15 PM
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What breed of dog? If I have 4 labradors, I don’t need no man. If it’s English bulldogs, I’ll need a quadruple amputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 12:32 AM
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With 5 kids in the house, (one is a pescatarian and another is an extremely picky eater - effectively vegetarian since he refuses to try any meat) meal time is a constant source of stress. When my husband asked me today what I planned to do for dinner I actually responded: “I’m considering opening my veins and just giving these bloodsuckers what they really want.” Ok. It’s dark, but hubby and I share a sick sense of humor and I honestly feel drained at the idea of deciding on and preparing meals…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 07:08 PM
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The only time in my life that I was big was after having babies. I gained 70lbs during my first pregnancy and (SURPRISE!) the baby was only 8lbs9oz. It took years for me to figure out what to do to get back down to a normal weight. MyFitnessPal was key. Logging my intake showed me a clear picture. I had a boredom eating problem. Armed with that knowledge I was able to fill my time with more productive habits that distracted me from putting food in my mouth for no reason when I wasn’t even hungry…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 07:00 PM
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I think my husband has some of the same tendencies as yours. One huge difference: he is aware of it, has sought treatment for depression, is medicated, and when he’s having a rough patch he makes it a point to remind me that his mood is not about me, it’s a chemical imbalance in his brain. To be honest, even with his reminders, it’s hard not to take it personally when nothing I do can make him smile. You mention that you have a bunch of kids. Chaos really drains my husband and can cause him to s…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/18 08:27 PM
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He sounds like a good man and you sound like a great wife. You can do this. For both of you. I look forward to updates on your progress. You’ll be feeling like Princess Leah in the gold bikini before you know it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:40 PM
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Sometimes cheating is a symptom of an already very broken relationship. A marriage suffering from a dead bedroom, for example. Other times cheating is just a part of someone’s personality. Opportunistic cheating because he could get away with it. No other reason. Which do you think is the case for him?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 06:59 PM
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As a lab owner I have the say that the golden personality is a total turn off. Needy much?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 02:16 AM
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I prefer an introvert mate. I have been with an extrovert “life of the party” guy. Guess who was ignored while he was working the whole damned room? Me! I’m not the girl who loves being the center of attention. I have one on one conversations and hop from person to person. I wouldn’t call myself an introvert. (My husband actually hides at parties so he can be alone and recharge. That isn’t something I’ve ever done) But I’m not a class clown either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 02:13 AM
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I meet women everywhere that want to be friends. Most recently, the dog park. I’m a stay at home dog mom and go to the park almost every weekday. I’ve met two women there - one who doesn’t work and the other is a hairdresser and works odd hours. So we make plans. Go to brunch or the beach. My hairdresser and I hang out on a regular basis. Different lady than the aforementioned hairdresser. Former co-workers. People I went to high school with. Ladies at yoga. I’m also learning Spanish via Duoling…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 11:16 PM
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I dyed my hair darker. I’ve been dying my hair for decades but in general kept it around my natural color - a medium brown. He likes dark hair. I progressively got darker and darker. It’s not black. Just a very dark brown. It looks good on me and he loves it. He likes when I look good. He does not care about modesty. He’s happy to have a woman that other men check out when we walk by. That said, I’ve never been the type to wear super short skirts or backless dresses. Not that I’m morally opposed…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/18 12:00 PM
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Ok. Yeah. Getting and staying fit is much easier when you don’t have to work full-time. Undeniably. What do you appreciate about your husband? What do you think he appreciates about you? Obviously, his love is not dependent on your weight. Do you feel like your sex life has suffered at all because of your weight? When I was heavier I didn’t want anyone to really see or touch me. It definitely effected my sex life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 12:40 AM
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It absolutely all comes down to maximizing you SMV. I’m 40. We are on the other side of the hill. It’s all down from here, but why help yourself fall faster? Can you tell us more about your life? Is your husband providing for you to the point that you don’t have to work for income? If so, it is your job to please him. Having a not fat wife is pleasant. In the same way that having a not nagging wife is pleasant. He should be proud to have you. I see that you snapped back about the how. You know h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 10:54 PM
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To be honest, at your height, being rigid about getting a man taller than you is going to seriously limit your dating pool. (Perhaps less so in a Scandinavian country, but it will have an impact.) I’m 5’6” and I strongly prefer men taller than me. However, that means I’m attracted to men who are at or above average (5’9” being average in the US). If I were significantly taller I imagine I would have had to be a bit more flexible or I wouldn’t be married. I know very tall women who are my age -40…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 06:47 PM
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I totally agree with your first point. It is something my husband and I have discussed on numerous occasions. (Second marriage for both of us) While he could get laid outside of marriage, it is very difficult for men to develop close intimate friendships. As a woman, I stumble into those types of friendships on a regular basis. I would guess I meet 3 or 4 women per year that I am quite close with for a time - the length of which depends on how much the two of us foster the connection. My husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 03:57 PM
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So I’m thinking of hosting New Years Eve this year. Where can I hire the topless dancing girls with puppies? And are the puppies available for adoption to my very inebriated guests? Seriously though, good tips. I would hire you to coordinating my party.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 10:20 PM
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I gave up a career for my spouse and marital happiness. For context, I made 60 to 80k US depending on bonus. My job was stressful as all get out. I worked with people who were toxic in every sense. I sat at a desk 40+ hours a week. It was hard to disconnect from that. It was terrifying. I was frightened that I would give it up and we wouldn’t work out and I’d have nothing. I was afraid that relying on him would make me weak and vulnerable. So far (2 years since I started to stop working - I tape…
/r/RedPillWives16/07/18 02:55 AM
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I think it is a beautiful thing to be open to life but please don’t stress about it. I spent years in my 20s trying to conceive (with fertility issues). It can be traumatic. Please be open but not insistent. If you must have a baby, perhaps also consider adoption. Best wishes
/r/RedPillWives16/07/18 02:45 AM
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My husband told me today that sometimes I’m a pain in the ass. I asked him to clarify so that I could try and improve. His answer was that his life would be easier if he could sit at home and not worry about anyone else’s happiness and the fact that he wants me to be happy stresses him out sometimes. I’m grateful that he worries about my happiness. Meanwhile I worry about his happiness. It’s nice that we both try to nurture each other.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 01:02 AM
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I love the app suggestion. And yeah, as someone who lives in a brutally hot climate and spends much of my day outside with a very active dog, skirts and blouses and dresses are not what I’m donning in the morning. I have been thinking of trying to revamp my afternoon/evening clothing to be more feminine though.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 11:55 AM
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It’s not just you. Been there. Done that. No thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 02:57 AM
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Amy Schumer is a horrible example. She has too much self esteem maybe, but she’s crying into her Benjamins about any negatives in her life. While I agree with you that male self esteem is trampled on in our current culture, the fact is that Amy Schumer has 1000% a chance of being happy vs her “looks match” male. Why shouldn’t she capitalize on that? I’m not really sure how this relates to RP. It’s honestly more black pill.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 10:18 PM
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Yeah. Growing up I saw my grandmother basically treated as a house pet. Her opinion was not valued. She was there to tend to the home and provide companionship/sex. My grandfather actually remarked at one point that “the only thing worse than a woman who thinks she is pretty is a woman who thinks she is smart”. I’m honestly not trying to disparage my grandfather. He took excellent care of his wife. I take excellent care of my dog. Same same right? I think there are many benefits to being a house…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 01:46 AM
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Oh geez. Our love was a sordid tale of lots of fun (hiking, kayaking, beach trips) but it always led to sex. Honestly, I think now that we know about this stuff, he would worry I was treating him as a Beta Bux except for the fact that we were going at it like rabbits in the beginning. Ours was not a model RP relationship. Like I said, we came to that later.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 02:00 AM
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I thought my current husband was just going to be a hook up. I made a joke about “happily ever after” while I was making his bed one morning. He responded “I don’t see why not” Making a mans bed as an act of service was one of the earliest feminine traits I picked up. I stumbled into red pill - probably more like I was dragged kicking and screaming Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 12:48 AM
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Get a leather couch. Then fur isn’t an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 05:28 PM
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Basically that certain provisions cease to apply after a set amount of time. So I waived my right to alimony if we get divorced in the first 10 years. After that I can ask for alimony. (In my state you would almost never be granted alimony in the first place unless you were married 10+ years)
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 04:44 PM
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I signed a prenup. We both have kids from previous marriages. It just made sense. That being said, he waited WAY too long before the prenup was presented and agreed upon. I could easily challenge it based on the fact that I signed “under duress” (basically if the prenup happened after the wedding invites went out). I don’t anticipate that being an issue. Also, ours has a sunset clause after 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 11:51 PM
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I praise my man directly. I don’t need to involve other people. The comment was in regards to when he isn’t around. Which is most of the time in my life, since he works.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/18 03:12 AM
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I was told by my grandmother not to speak highly of my man because I’d just be selling him to the next woman. She also cautioned me not to speak ill of my man. Ever. Her path was neutral. I think maybe that’s ideal.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/18 01:06 AM
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Congratulations! I’m in the middle of making dinner but I’ll be back w some tips. The one that immediately sprang to mind is: Don’t forget to eat! With everything else going on that day it’s really easy to forget about food until you are hangry (hungry and angry).
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 09:31 PM
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I do trust my husband. I have always trusted him to the extent that I was capable. (I was raised with some very negative messages about men. I also had a few scoundrels in my immediate family who reinforced those messages. I’m damaged from that but I do my best to keep my husband separated in my mind.) We are both very open with our devices and accounts. I could log on to his email or social media right now and read anything I could find. I can log in to his bank account or credit card account a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 01:14 PM
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We do Hawaii every other year. It started off as every year but we decided to alternate with different destinations once we felt we had seen most of what the islands had to offer. We live in Florida so we also have ample opportunity to rent beach houses and just chill closer to home. That’s always nice. Charleston is lovely and so is Savannah, but I wouldn’t go to either one in the summer. Too much walking around town in high heat and humidity. If you opt for a small sleepy romantic Southern tow…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 02:03 PM
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Geez. This brought back a recent kind of traumatic experience for me. Husband and I went for a hike that was essentially like walking upstairs for 25+ floors and then back down. Already at high altitude from the start. We were with a couple that was more used to hiking at high altitudes. My husband just generally has better stamina than I do. I was winded. Practically hyperventilating trying to keep up. Ended up sitting down and having a quick cry at one point. Husband, who was pretty far ahead …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 03:35 PM
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Wow. This is an alarmingly bad idea. You say you don’t trust anyone’s opinion except your alcoholic, abusive mom though. So... why are you asking us? You think we know where to find a guy you can use as a prop in your lifestyle while you refuse to love him? That’s not what RPW is about. I’m guessing you want a surrogate because your eating disorder isn’t controlled to the point that you could cope with pregnancy. My advice is to tend to that first. Next, learn about what makes a marriage work. I…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 03:19 AM
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I think 8 months is too soon for your situation. I’m not 100% on feeling that you need to be engaged first, but I wouldn’t move in with a man who has roommates. It’s just an extra layer of complications that no couple needs as they are navigating cohabitation. Talk to him. If you aren’t able to openly and honestly convey your desires and expectations, he can’t read your mind and meet them. At 8 months (and considering your ages) you are still vetting. Take it seriously. Can this man provide? Is …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 02:47 AM
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I expect my husband to drive, but sometimes he’s tired or bored with it and he asks me to drive. That’s fine too. He expects me to fold the laundry. If I’m tired or bored with folding laundry, he will not step in. Relationships are full of expectations. Many of them gender based. It’s up to all of us to decide for ourselves which we accept and which we reject. All 3 of your scenarios would be turn offs to the point of deal breakers for me. I can’t even answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 01:45 PM
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I would probably get a dog or two and start doing stuff with them. I hang out with my dog all day now. She keeps me from getting lonely, gets me out of the house, and we have a blast together. I started out planning to train her as a therapy dog and volunteer at retirement homes. She’s still puppy wild and needs to chill first though. We are now working on competitive dog diving.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/18 06:19 PM
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Women had fewer options 50 years ago. They were WAY more motivated to keep a marriage functional and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 12:46 PM
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I met my husband on OKC. My experience: I created a profile on a Thursday, answered a ton of questions, and the messages came pouring in. Just reading each one took hours out of each day. By the weekend I had whittled the options down to two or three guys I was actively talking and texting with. I was planning to get around to going on some dates in the next week or two. Sunday I got a message from a guy who was a little too young for my tastes (less than 2 years younger than me but I was used t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 05:38 PM
2

Well it’s obvious that the wife is being insulting to her husband in regard to his ability to handle home repairs. On the flip side, we have no idea if the husband is overestimating his skills, underestimating the amount of time it would take to complete the job, or if he has 10 other projects going on right now, as well as being behind on yard maintenance, and he’s been working 12 hour days. Regardless, the way this should have been handled wouldn’t make a compelling ad. Honestly this conversat…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 05:09 PM
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It sounds like you have a great dad. I don’t want to be a downer so I’m not going to talk bad about my dad. I will say he provided for his family financially and he “did the best he knew how” with the rest of being a father. (That’s what my mom says and I think it’s accurate)
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 10:18 PM
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I’m on marriage 2 and right there with you age-wise. Currently 40. Trying my best to stay married this time. I’m pretty new here too. Even before finding RPW I cultivated a habit of acknowledging what my husband does for us/me and telling him and showing him that I appreciate him. It’s just such a great way to be. I didn’t have a sense of appreciation for my first husband. Sadly I think I just saw him as a means to get what I wanted. The wedding. The house. The dogs. The kids. He was part of my …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 09:13 PM
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Have you two been to couples counseling at all? I’ve just scrolled back through your history and there’s a lot going on. He comes to your posts and claims you misrepresent some facets of the relationship. You rebut his perception of other facets. Reddit is not a substitute for professional relationship counseling. You two need an objective third party helping to work through your decade and a half of issues. Ideally you would have been doing that work together during the pregnancy, rather than a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 12:13 PM
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When I (40F) started dating my husband one of my best friends came to me and said “he is not good looking enough for you”. I had been engaged previously to a socially charming, tall, square jawed, conventionally attractive guy (who legit drove me to the brink of insanity because he was a horrible person). I think she felt like he was my “looks match” and anything else would be settling. My husband is not comfortable in social situations. He does ok but he doesn’t charm the room. When we first me…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 11:13 AM
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It’s called pegging and many very heterosexual men enjoy it. If you encounter the issue again, perhaps reading on kink related forums might help you reconcile your unease. If not, it’s perfectly fine for you to have things that you are not interested in doing. Better to clarify that early rather than go down a rabbit hole and try to back out. I’d worry a lot more that he would find a willing woman though as opposed to a man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 01:41 PM
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When did you even buy the granny panties? Comfort clothes are like garbage snack foods. If you don’t want to use them, don’t buy them?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:59 PM
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If you are in the states this is by no means how divorce works at this point. Nice moving the goal posts from “he’s fixed” to “oh but he saved some sperm” and also “I need to go with his leadership” to “maybe I can convince him to let me use said magically just coming up out of nowhere sperm”. Glad you got some suggestions you wanted. You clearly weren’t looking for truth or objectivity.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:57 PM
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Question: Do you mean fillers and Botox or eyelid surgery and facelift? My (surgeon) husband has a hard line when it comes to changing my face. Particularly with surgery. Maybe that will change as we age further... Currently he says “absolutely not”.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:05 PM
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There is no solution. When one partner wants children and the other doesn’t, it’s a no. There is no way to get past it or stop thinking about it. Honestly, it’s a deal breaker. We can’t answer your question because there is no answer.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 08:58 PM
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You still don’t have a family. Not a husband. Not a child. You have no rights to any child he adopts. Again, you are a live in sex worker, maid, and nanny. You are not part of a family by any measure.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 08:52 PM
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What do your grandparents think of this? They can’t possibly approve...
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 07:39 PM
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Then you are not only giving up having a biological child, you are giving up having a child at all. He can kick you out at any time and you will be back to nothing overnight. No family. No education. No source of income. You can choose to trust him and obviously you do, but you are getting nothing out of it. He is getting a sex worker, maid and nanny for as long as he wants to tolerate you. I truly hope it works out for you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 07:38 PM
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You gave up getting your education, gave up getting married, and you are giving up having a biological child. Do you think you have no value? I’m not clear on why you would sacrificing so much for ANYONE.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 02:51 PM
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I’m also 40. Had the boob job and tummy tuck last year. Money well spent. I’ve never been happier with my body... ever. My husband is all over me all the time. My friends are jealous of my now visible rock hard abs. I had wanted the tummy tuck for a decade (ever since my first pregnancy wrecked my belly with stretch marks and extra skin). Hubby talked me into the boobs. I was happy with the slightly droopy small ones but he’s a breast guy. As to the OP, I don’t do a super ton to maximize my look…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:41 AM
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This is so true! I was 5’6” and 160lbs from the birth of my first child until my 2nd was almost 2. That’s 6 years of feeling miserable and avoiding photos as well as sex. My fitness pal was very helpful in identifying my overeating. I was great during work days and I crammed my mouth in the evenings and on weekends. I’m a boredom eater. Setting tiny rules is a huge help. I’m currently 130 lbs and fairly happy here. I never eat breakfast. Ever. It’s usually garbage (biscuits, pancakes, waffles, c…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:14 AM
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Trying to do more with his kids this summer so that they are tired and happy when he gets home rather than bored and all over him the minute he walks through the door. This is the first summer that I’m not working at least part time. Previous summers I’ve basically parked them in front of electronics most of the day except maybe an hour a day when I sent them outside to swim. Trying to keep them consistently busy most of the day this year. Which includes having them help exercise the dog, going …
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 03:29 PM
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I see the comment stating that men in general don’t care much about decor but my man has strong opinions. He would pitch a bitch about super feminine art. We have lived in our current home for two years and still have many blank walls. It’s not a stressor. We both know something will come along. We go to our local art walk a few times a year. We have artists that we follow on FB. We have picked up pieces on vacation. One of his patients actually gifted us with some antique maps that we had matte…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 01:15 AM
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You are exactly right and that is where I came to RPW. I had been told I not only COULD have it all, but I SHOULD have it all. The career, the kids, the husband, the house, etc. The message that didn’t get through is that each of those things is a job in its own right and “having it all” really means working yourself to death, falling short left and right, and resenting the choices you made to get there. I talk to my daughters about that exact concept: You can do anything, but you can’t do every…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 01:36 AM
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I see. I misread. (Then I got caught up in step mom duties and haven’t been able to sit back down until now.) I will caution you that the way you feel now will very likely come up again. His kids are going to come before you. I agree with the comment that you should trust his judgment and not express any negative emotions to him about that. It’s part of what you are signing up for as a step-parent. It honestly sounds like your current situation (long distance and family drama) is quite temporary…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 06:21 PM
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Can you give a little more info? How old are the girls? Is he leaving their county just to marry you or was he moving for work anyway? How far away from them does he currently live? How often does he currently see them? I would be super hesitant to be the reason a man left his kids behind.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 03:56 PM
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I expect that the best you can do at this point is just to keep the interactions you do have pleasant. I wouldn’t push him right now. He is pushing himself to advance and be the best provider that he possibly can. Show him appreciation. Do you have girlfriends you can spend time with while he is working? You may need to outsource your emotional support right now. It’s great that you are hiking together on the weekends. I’m sure he appreciates you getting him outdoors. It’s good for his mental he…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 04:32 PM
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I threw around ultimatums when I was young and stupid. I wanted to be married: ultimatum. I wanted to have a kid: ultimatum. I wanted kid 2: ultimatum. He caved each time because my SMV and RMV were light years beyond his. I had no respect for him. He was to do as I said or get out of my life. My personal opinion is that ultimatums have no place in a healthy relationship. I give up when the bad outweighs the good. See above. As long as he was giving in to my demands, I stayed. At some point he s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 11:01 PM
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Deciding on a man in your teens is a truly terrible idea. It can work out. There are success stories. More often though, it’s a failure. You don’t really know who you are yet, much less who he is. Your early 20s are for vetting. Note that I’m not saying “ride the cock carousel and bed every guy you go on a date with”. But date. Get to know people. Determine if you feel like there is a match. If it isn’t a match, don’t be afraid to move on. Learn more about who you are and what you want. Determin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 12:36 PM
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Waipi’o Valley (Valley of the Kings) is awesome. We’ve done that one both times we were on the big island. It’s strenuous. We also walked to the green sand beach (Papakolea) rather than paying a guy with a truck to drive us out there. That was a longish hike but flat. And there is a unique beach at the end. We have also done the hike to Captain Cook Point. Bring your fins and mask. Great snorkeling.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 11:38 PM
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This is a solid idea. I was a 100% “nope” until I read this. Not something I had ever even considered. Silly me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 09:41 PM
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I am a huge fan of going to Target and trying on the abundance of styles and cuts they offer. Ps. We’ve been to Hawaii five times. What island are you going to? I might have recommendations for good hikes and other stuff (but mostly we hike, dive, and lay by the pool).
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 09:36 PM
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I have a type. Sure. I think most people do. That said, I’ve found myself quite willing to deviate from that type for the right guy. My husband is WAY harrier than I prefer. He even has a furry back. Before I met him I found back hair totally repulsive. I love every inch of my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 12:17 PM
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It happened by accident. I was totally raised BP. “Men are pigs who only want one thing and will lie about everything to get it” Seriously, my mom and dad (who are still married to each other) said this to me repeatedly. I met my first husband when I was 19 and married him at 22. I think I did that because I recognized that he was a decent human being and I thought that was SUPER rare in men. He wanted me to be a SAHM. I rejected the idea. I needed to stay strong and independent. I needed the op…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 02:32 PM
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Aging has so much to do with genetics, diet, exercise, and upkeep. It really is crazy how many people believe “the wall” is lurking for women at 30 and everyone with a vagina is garbage after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 01:35 PM
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Of the issues in your post, sleep jumped out at me as the biggest. You cannot be healthy or productive in any meaningful way if you are not getting enough sleep. Research sleep hygiene. Bed and bedroom are for sleeping only. Get a white noise app. Wirecutter has reviews. I think we use MyNoise. It’s great and very helpful. Look into melatonin. If none of this helps, consider a very short term use of Ambien to help reset your rhythms. You intentionally didn’t post about the issues in your relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 12:44 PM
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I think there is a huge disconnect on this sub about when women near the wall and when their SMV begins to decline. It’s not uniform. Regardless, OP never states her age, never indicates that this man is capable of being a good provider, and (in the comments) she details all the ways she finds him unattractive. Indications are he probably isn’t a high value male. He sounds like a super nice guy, but is that enough?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:19 PM
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Statistically, marriages that occur at or after 28 years of age are less likely to end in divorce. Yes, start seriously vetting at 23. Have a long engagement. Make sure he is established in his career and able to provide. Commit for life at 28.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:12 PM
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You don’t mention your age, but I’m assuming you are young. 21ish tops? It really sounds like you’re just not that into him anymore. What you want at 16 isn’t always right for you at 21. And you will be a completely different person at 30. I think it would be wise for you to wait until you are in your later 20s before you commit to anyone for life. I know this isn’t the advice you want. Forcing yourself into a box that isn’t comfortable isn’t a good long term solution in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 12:47 PM
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I think you need to just calm down. Your insecurity is going to be REALLY unattractive if he picks up on it. Be you. Be confident. He probably barely remembers 80% of those encounters and only remembers the other 20% because of how awful they were. Casual sex is rarely good sex. Good sex involves knowing a person well enough that things come naturally. In the future (assuming this guy doesn’t work out) I’d recommend not inquiring about n count. Nothing good comes from that conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 12:07 PM
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40 female red...ish. Once upon a time (first marriage) I would have dealt with it for a while. Maybe 6 months. I am capable of making $80k/yr and him being out of work for a bit wouldn’t have ruined us. These days (second marriage) my world is quite different. I couldn’t support the lifestyle we live. If he were to be out of work for very long we would be looking at foreclosure. Would I leave him? Not necessarily. But there had better be a damn good reason for him to trash our whole lives. He ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 03:29 AM
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I was happier, more confident, and objectively more attractive at 30 than I was at 20. I turned 40 a few months ago. I do feel like I peeked in my 30s somewhere and I’m on the decline at this point, but I’m also married and have funds to afford upkeep and attire to look my best. I’m still far more confident and attractive than I was in my 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 11:27 PM
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It is interesting to me that none of your Chads are successful in any way other than getting pussy. To me a Chad has more to offer than a cock. Often he is a great salesman. Chads naturally fit the bill and can make bank in sales roles. Otherwise he may lie about his wealth and success, but the illusion is part of the allure. I’ve been accused of being a “sapeosexual” so I’m not sure I’m the typical Chad target anyway. Either way, I don’t think Chad is the loser you paint him to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 01:27 AM
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I read here because I feel that defined traditional gender roles are a net positive in most relationships. I do not believe that patriarchy is a net positive for society. Also, it makes very little sense for property to pass from male to male when only the mother can know 100% (without DNA testing) that a child is her offspring. Property should follow the mother’s line logically. Edit: Not that I’m suggesting that become the case going forward. It’s just one example of why patriarchy makes no se…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 01:35 PM
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I have great natural nails. I leave them unpolished on my hands. I just take good care of them and make sure they stay clean, not too long, and well shaped. I get regular pedicures in French on my toes. I’m in a state where flip flops are standard more than 6 months out of the year. It’s good to have toes that appear professionally tended.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 12:40 PM
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My husband is very well balanced according to this list. I would say the one red flag trait he shows is that he doesn’t want to lead at home. He has enough going on at work and in his hobbies and his side hustle... he does not want to be the boss of me also. He actively rejects that role. He wants me to make decisions at home. He is willing to veto if he feels strongly opposed to something, but mostly he just wants to follow my lead. I’m okay with that most of the time. I think it shows that he …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:38 PM
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Like you said. To each his own. Current husband doesn’t feel slighted at all. I’m not and would never cheat on him. He is my everything. I get that it’s offensive to some. Life is weird. What was offensive to me 10 years ago is normal now. The point of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:34 AM
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We were already told we didn’t need to be there for the kids. (Daycare) Why shouldn’t we try to be happy in our own right? I’m playing devil’s advocate here. I understand the error of this logic now. It just took fucking up before I gained clarity. It’s heartbreaking and I hope others avoid the mistakes I was led into.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 12:33 AM
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I fully agree with you. I may have to forfeit my RPW credentials (don’t worry I’ve only been posting there under this alt for a few days) but I went against the grain and my divorce from my first marriage was a shit show. Gave him primary custody of the kids, the savings, the house, and I pay child support. I just wanted OUT! Check in 9 years later. I don’t regret leaving him. He wasn’t the man for me. If I had known then what I know now, I might have suffered through it for the sake of my kids.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 12:23 AM
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Jehovah’s Witness. It’s quite likely I misspelled that because I’m not religious and I’m a horrible speller.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 08:56 PM
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My husband acknowledges his total oneitis toward me, to the point that he says I’ve ruined him for all other women and if our relationship ends/I die first, he won’t bother dating. He takes “happy wife, happy life” seriously. He also struggles with depression and is an MD so he is fully aware that I cannot control or remedy his intermittent unhappiness. I just asked him and he says oneitis only applies if you aren’t with the person you are pining after. Once you are with the perfect person, onei…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 08:30 PM
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What were your brother’s stated issues with your SO? Have other people expressed the same concerns? Sometimes it’s easier for people outside the relationship to spot red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 08:54 PM
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For sure! I have a credit card he pays for AND a cash allowance for incidentals. I don’t want to have to ask for money. That was the biggest, longest, most tearful conversation we had before I quit my career. The one that enabled me to be financially independent. It was a leap of faith. That was my career of decades. Not a summer job. Big difference. If he is cool with floating her through a summer, that is less of a risk for both sides. Could be a great learning experience.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 12:38 AM
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You need to do pre marital counseling. That’s the best way to identify any issues. My husband and I established a relationship with a counselor before marriage and we go for “check ups” annually. Obviously, you need to know about whether he wants kids/has a rough idea of how many. Is he ok with you staying home? Financial planning. Where to live. How much you vacation and how. There are a million things you should talk about but it’s the unique intricacies in your relationship that will grow int…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 12:02 AM
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My path to this lifestyle started with Dr Laura. I was rejecting listing to news/politics and she was light yet interesting enough for me to tune in on my way home from work. I read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands on a lark. It resonated with me. After I began talking about it my husband read it. It’s a quick easy read. It resonated with him too. Now I stay at home and he’s thrilled with that. It wasn’t something either of us ever envisioned until it happened. Disclaimer: We are much old…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 02:17 AM
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I think the best you could hope for at this point is perhaps a 5 year plan, if he’s open to that. It sounds like he doesn’t have the same values as you do when it comes to traditional gender roles. That could change with the right influences, perhaps. Do you have friends that SAH? Maybe spending time around men who are appreciative of their SAHWs would open his eyes a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 08:26 PM
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It sounds like he really appreciates you and that’s great. My husband and I actively try to cultivate and acknowledge our appreciation for each other. We don’t ever want to be taken for granted. I think support can play out in many ways. One thing I like to keep in mind is that I have lots of people in my life that I can vent to when I need that, but he really only has me. So if he is dealing with a tough work situation, I’m his sounding board. I actively listen, ask questions, and throw out tho…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 04:01 PM
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My husband didn’t have the slightest interest in my N count. Likely he assumes it is quite high. I was 35 when we met. We mutually pretend to be each others’ firsts. Which is comical considering that we both have children from previous marriage. It works for us.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 09:54 PM
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Interesting read. I met my husband on OKC. I was only on there for 4 days. In that time I answered hundreds of the questions that determine match percentages. It paid off. We are a great match. We agree on politics. We share the same views on religion. Neither of us were particularly interested in having more kids. Etc. It would have taken me a long time to get to know someone organically in the way I was able to get to know him by reading through his answers. I felt like at that point in my lif…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 12:58 PM
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I too came to RP post divorce. I was primed by Dr Laura and listening to her advice that was so opposite to everything I wanted to hear. And also it was truth. The moment I felt LIED TO was when I realized that feminism morphed while I wasn’t watching. Maybe I wasn’t born when it happened. Feminism initially: You CAN do ANYTHING. Feminism now: You MUST do EVERYTHING. Like... wtf? I can be a great mom or a great employee or a great wife. I can’t be all three. Why did “feminism” sign me up for all…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 12:08 AM
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I like a man who gets it when I joke about a song or cartoon we grew up with. I’ve dated older and younger. I prefer one in my age bracket. I would also caution, because I’ve read the responses and your responses, you have NO CLUE what it’s like to deal with an ex wife and step kids until you live it. That is hard. It’s not the normal “baggage”. This “baggage” comes before you. Before your wants. Before your needs sometimes. Go in with your eyes open. Second marriages involving kids from previou…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 10:57 PM
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I always end up WAY over cooking when I have that many people. I cook for 40 somehow. Anyway, jot down a menu of what you want. Appetizers that can be prepped in advance and/or heated up briefly are great. A dip in a crock pot is generally a winner. Does your husband man the grill? That could be a great way to have him help and get him out of your stress bubble.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 10:47 PM
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I came to RP later in life. It’s a long story, but suffice to say that I now see clearly. Earlier in my life I read Sex At Dawn which is essentially a polyamory manifesto. The book pointed out that a monogamous pair bond is really only important when it comes to inheritance. Once we converted from hunter/gatherer societies to agricultural societies, the ownership of lands and assets became paramount. Thus female virginity/fidelity and ultimately marriage evolved an importance where those things …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 10:35 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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