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Okay, if you say so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:35 AM
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Yes, I agree. As I said, it is the maximum with a harder vetting if someday OP met guys with that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:27 AM
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I would do 25 (if the guy has finished his studies/is already working) to max 35 (and I would vet "harder" after 30)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:01 AM
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I was going to comment that too ! My father is LV and he barely passes one category (when we are in danger). Definitely great post here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:37 PM
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They all have irregular menstrual cycles yes ! But I was talking about the other symptoms that are usually used to identify PCOS, like body hair, acne, weight gain etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:21 PM
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I don't really know what to say to you OP because when reading your answers to other FDSers, I feel like you are not satisfied with our response and just want "dick" (which I perfectly understand). However, dick is abundant in itself, the real problem is quality time is not. So I would recommand you to check up with a therapist, not necessarily to help with you libido, but to make up some distractive techniques when you start daydreaming. A lot of people are caught up with a daydream syndrom, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:14 PM
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I have PCOS and I know some women who have it as well but don't have those symptoms. This syndrom is definitely tricky. But I agree with checking with hormones. I was a bit like OP as a teen (probably around 14 when my periods started until 20). Like I used to "daydream" a lot about sex and turns out i had a little bit higher than normal testosterone (I had excess body hair too but not "that much" considering PCOS. Like everyone just basically thought I was hairy because of my genes and origin).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:04 PM
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This is a pretty nice strategy that can even work outside of OLD. I can name a bunch of guys around me that would quickly jump into sexual stuff which is pretty innapropriate. I find it sad that truth or dare is usually associated with sex by the way, now that you mentionned it, it's a pretty funny way to get to know someone/warm up around someone. Especially if all players keep it nice and don't try to include innapropriate question or dare. Still a little bit annoyed with OLD as of today (I pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:47 PM
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Yes I went to see it and this sub is literally iinfested by LVM. Like I feel that most of the answer are written by men (when they don't say it themselves). So glad that FDS exists... thank you again Mods !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:45 AM
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OK but the gaslight in the post is astronomical. Her """"friend"""" remarks are so innapropriate. And you are being downvoted for saying the truth ??? Are you sure this is reallyyyy a feminist sub ?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:04 PM
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I support sex workers too. You know, sex workers' rights to be respected, to not be abused in total impunity, to have a life beyond sex(work), beyond the trashiness of men. Pickme women really are the level 0 of feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:58 PM
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And that Ladies, is why YOU level up for YOURSELF but don't cheerlead for other people. First thing, never talk bad about yourself in front of anyone but especially in front of men. Most of them don't know empathy. I'm really shocked that she repeated to him "wow you're so cool because unlike me you know what to do with your life" hm no ? I think OP probably went throught depression or anxiety syndrom and I'm really sorry for her. But see how her LVM bf only uses her for bangmaid and bob the bui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:11 PM
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The fact that pick me girls be like "hihihih steveeeeen you're so funnyyyyyy and edgyyy you have such a dark sense of humour". Nah sis, he isn't even trying to hide how little he thinks of you. ​ + someone calling you "mate"... that's a hell of a red flag (one of the many in this vid).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:53 PM
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Honestly, I already knew they threated me like ****. But FDS made me unapologetic about myself and the whole situation. Like yeah throw a tantrum if you want, I'm busy doing my high value things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 01:48 PM
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Love how Low Value People only knows to be sorry for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:52 AM
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I agree so much. I have experienced it recently, when one of my girlfriends crossed a boundary. She keeps saying she is sorry that she "didn't mean to hurt me". I stay on my position, applying FDS principles and enforcing my boundaries. I thought that maybe I was going a little too hard and that she has been hurting in the process since she keeps hiting to me that she is sorry and after all, we are friends. Lol, after talking with common friends about the situation, it turns out that no, her fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:39 PM
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Sometimes, I feel like it is a form of negging. They are the one messaging you, so you answer and then, nothing. So you (i mean pick me days) start to wonder if you did something wrong : "should I have been more enthusiastic ? Was I cringey ? What did I do that bothered him ?". So you are going to lower your guard just for him to acknowledge you and reassure you that nah it's fine... until next time. And it ***king works. I see so many women losing their mind trying to figuring out "how to keep …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:05 PM
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Well if my man pays for sex work, I guess I shall thank you for outing him as the trash he is. And I'm sorry your work forces you to deal with trash all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:25 PM
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Okay but "no i am not interested in you" is enough. You don't have to do others stuff for men to understand you're not interested in dating them anymore. Especially paying for something they ask you over. Men understand signs and words just like we do. They know what no means. It's THEIR strategy to not take any responsability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:29 PM
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Wtf girl wake up, live your life, don't settle for old scrotes like that !!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:22 PM
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Yes, and it's the same with friendship !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:17 PM
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Men will always complain one way or another when you start refusing sex with them. I stopped arguing with those who act like cry babies about it, they bring nothing good in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:45 PM
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To me love bombing always, at some point in the convo, comes off as innapropriate and so, fake. The most basic example that comes to me is the famous "i'm fat", "oooh but you're still beautiful 💕💗💌💜💗". Yes, I know. I didn't say I was ugly, but the love bomber will translate this from your words and this is innapropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:48 PM
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I want to vomit. Girl, dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:43 PM
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How can people be so full of hatred towards other human beings ? These guys terrify me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:40 PM
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And Pick me still be like hihihi so funny lol 😆🤣😂🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:54 PM
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But the direspect for her """friend""". Like yeah, they all are LVM here (the husband is ewww, good extreme vetting strategy tho : you just have to show him a lingerie picture, telling him it's his bday gift and see his reaction ahem). I am trying to imagine if someone told me "yey wanna drive 6 hours for my husband to fuck you while I watch/touch you too as his birthday gift ?". How in her twisted mind OP did think this was OK to text ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:31 PM
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I hate men. See how they speak about us, "bitches", "whores". And they dare to throw a tantrum because we have standards for our love/sex life. They even dare murder us and commit mass shooting because MuuuUuuuh my penis can't get laid. I'm so angry. I'm so angry for the whole world like the fact that almost everyone refuse to talk about terrorism. They talk about "isolate incident". Fuck off, why are women lives threaten all around the wold ??? Men are always trying to isolate us, to control us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:11 PM
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Yes. Also when you express anger, i cannot count how many people are shocked and say "But ... why do you have a problem with men ???". Duh. Excuse me, doesn't our whole life explain it ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:06 AM
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I'm feeling so much pain for all these women who gives so much time, energy, consideration, love, for men are not even ashamed to admit "they're not sure to like her back" but still profit from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:28 PM
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I agree, I can't thank enough FDS and the mods for its existence 💕 i know other women spaces only on the Internet (they are in my mothertongue so less "worldwide") but even there, you are still plagued by pickmeisha mentality and libfem... it's so exhausting. FDS really is the only space where I feel we can talk about dating under patriarchy or our lives in general (see FLUS and AskFDS) with peace. We don't have to polish our tone and it's refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:44 AM
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Well, considering that Kim K was first and foremost a victim of REVENGE PORN aka a man trashiness + she is not known only for sex, this is once again an example of a man trying to neg women (no matter what you think of the Kardashian). So yeah, huge red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:07 PM
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Don't want to scare her but "he is not into teenagers", well you would be surprised by how many men suddenly start looking after teen girls or barely twentish women just because they miss their own youth and think they can "go back" by going out (ahem abusing ahem) young women. Which is a low value behaviour. High Value people accept their age and live by that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:51 PM
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Love your analysis ! I used to dislike Taylor Swift because of 1. I felt like most of her songs were about love and break up (which isn't true) and 2. Misogyny (yes I was part of the hate train "she only writes songs about her exes", like duh, most of artists do that and at least, she WRITES her songs which is pretty rare in pop music and very impressive). Then, I fell in love with Evermore, which is one of my most listened to album of 2020/2021. I dived into her discography and, while I am stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:08 AM
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“In Capitalism, we all sale our bodies anyway” Yeah, tell that to the 90 per cent of women who are forced to prostitute and do not get any of the money :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:18 PM
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I think he is projecting hmh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:01 PM
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Nah men wish that could be them with * females * /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:34 PM
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Her power at the end tho 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:35 AM
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This is so wrong. I'm at loss of words. If someone reads it and is in the same situation, these are rapes as well as sexual, physical and mental abuse. Please, do not stay alone, do not stay silent. There are many associations and safe spaces, all around the world, to help with you talk about it. Check a legal counsel immediatly too. This is not a "mismatched libido", you shouldn't have panic attacks about sex with your bf/husband/whatever : your body is telling you to run away and to get safe b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:48 PM
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OLD is so time consuming. I see some of my friends and/or coworkers spending sometimes their whole week-ends talking to men who do zero effort to make it interesting. Then, because their free time revolves on OLD only, their only subject of conversation are men, how blah they are, how disappointed dates are... Meanwhile, I go shopping, walk through a park, do some jogging, go to the cinema, read new books and newspapers, meet up with my friends... Yeah, honestly life sounds so much fun and inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:15 PM
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Misandrist accusation are so dumb and far from reality. You don't see women murdering, raping or destroying physically and mentaly men because they are men. You don't see women preventing men to build their career and to access high jobs in society. You don't see women militate to reduce men autonomy and control over their body. Sexism is real, women are dealing with it since we are born. Misandrism is not. Men pretending otherwise is yet another form of abuse and gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:28 AM
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Yes, in France, statistics eestimate that in a classroom of 30 children, at least 3 are victims of sexual abuse within their family. But they alert that reality is 100 per cent much worse than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:23 AM
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It's terrifying how far men think they are entitled to sex (well I should say porn shit sex). He is even hiding it's his main point with FDS. Ciao loser, we do not care about you anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:17 AM
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What disgust me the most is probably the fact that it is just about his dick. See how many times he repeats he touchs himself on her picture. He doesn't even know how to love. I'm so sad for his wife and her friend, they are just being friendly, enjoying their time together and now maybe their friendship is doomed because of some scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:08 PM
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Each time some dude complain about his height being the big criteria in the dating game, I remember that these short guys exist, and they do not have problem to date (even before there were famous) : Tom Cruise, Al Pacino, Joe Pesci, Martin Freeman, James McAvoy... the reason men have trouble to date is because they are either unattractive (poor hygiene, no sense of basic fashion style...) or their personnality is awful. The standards women have for men are usually so low that just answering nic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:56 PM
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I feel you so much. Honestly, I think each time I go outside, a man or some men try to hit on me. Like you said, it's so exhausting. Men will never understand the fear you feel when a stranger starts talking to you or following you. Like how am I supposed to know you won't hurt me if I tell you to leave me alone ? "But it's not all men !" I don't care. You are not entitled to my time, I don't owe you to take 10 minutes of my day just to hear you talk shit seduction words to me. I don't know you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:28 AM
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I'm not sure to understand what you are asking but it is not your responsability to make up a sort of safe space for a man to act. Always remember, if he wanted to, he would. And secondly, if he is a coward in dating, he will be a coward in other life aspects. Telling from experience, a friend of mine made the first move with a guy. One day, we were going to see him and we got seriously harrassed by a man on the street. Her BF was literally at 2 meters of us, saw the whole scene, but didn't come…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:33 PM
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Yes, that's a LVM strategy to make girls think they have to do all that male gaze-shit to find a boyfriend and if you don't have one, you are a loser, no matter what your accomplishments in life are. Pick-me behaviours are normalized everywhere in our society because of that. And personnally, I dare to say that I have never catch so many eyes than since discovering FDS and following the handbook (i.e not caring about men and their useless opinion until I have vetted one that is worth listening t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:55 PM
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100% agree. I prefer to go on a date with my smart and beautiful HVW friends, whom I know will bring me joy and elevate me in many ways, than go on a date with a man I barely know (covid restrictions are still huge where I live so, beside with luck or OLD (ew) there aren't many ways to meet people).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:45 PM
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I really like this post because this is quite my fear to show up on a date, the guy is not here, i'm waiting five or ten minutes to see what's happening, then I try to call him and he never answers. The idea of being such a clown and losing my time seriously terrify me (one of the reason why I have trouble with OLD, like how do I know I can trust you not to make me lose my time ?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:03 PM
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I do that all the time too ! It helps that english is not my mother tongue, so it is easier to forget the actual lyrics and replace them with another meaning lol. One of my favorite : when a song has the b-word, I always imagine it refers to men, especially LVM or NVM, and not other women. It then becomes a musical masterpiece (for example : Flawless by Beyonce. I don't like the fact that it is basically saying, despite including a famous feminist speech from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, "Look at m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:10 PM
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HVM are hard to meet, even in high school/college where people may still be single or with zero love/relationship experiences. That's why it is best not to focus too much on dating : especially for young ladies here, working and studying will always pay off. Chasing after potential HVM will not. I mean, good if it does but the odds are not in our favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:47 PM
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"She told me that I dont understand what she is dealing with, which is not true by the way" Excuse me while I am laughing. You're not pregnant, never will, so no, you definetely don't know what it is like to be pregnant. Sending thoughts to his gf and her child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:36 PM
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Okay but this is literally a nightmare like am I the mother of a 2 year old or your gf/wife ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:21 AM
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So True. Like, yeah, sure John, that's why every granddaughter I know has her grandmother telling her "work hard, study well, be independant" :))) the audacity of men really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:18 AM
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Thank you for this, i really love this comparison !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 11:47 AM
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What, marrying someone after one month of dating ??? (Sorry i go back to read the rest but i needed to scream that first) Édit : well, why am I not surprised. I am sorry for your loss and hope you are okay. You don't have to deal with her at all, put yourself first because you need it. Her situation is abusive but you can't do all the emotionnal support here. Because clearly, she isn't returning you the favor (even if she couldn't come, there are other ways to tell people you are with them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:40 PM
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Ewww the disgust in me after reading this. Also, this story makes me think a lot of the Madonna-Whore complex. I mean, am I the only one who is seriously disgust by the whole "are you a virgin ?" narrative from men, meaning if you are I am going to be so slowww and nice and gentle but if you are not that is my free pass to do all the porn shit I want. Like wtf is wrong with their minds to think like that. Even if I already had sex, I want to it to be nice and pleasant. I see so many dudes being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:12 AM
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Sometimes I just stop at the age gap. Like i don't need to read more to know it's abusive and the girl is doomed with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:28 PM
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This is so true. Nothing has more effect on men than the ignorance you grant them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:56 PM
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Men distrust towards women : oh my gawwwd i hope she is not a gold digger who is after my 1k per month salary and look at her face, hope she is not fake with all that make up and wooow why won't she have sex with me, i paid her a coffee with extra sugar ???? Women really are weird like who understands them Women distrust towards men : i hope he won't rape me or kill me :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:33 PM
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Moreover, male feminists are usually predators in disguise, they are very good at manipulating you to let your guard down so they can bullshit you (or worse...) one way or another. If he really understands feminism, he won't speak about it, he will act accordingly so. And it starts with being silent and listening to women, which most men are unable to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:24 PM
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Poor kids omg. I hope the daughters are OK...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:31 PM
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Lmaooooo after the famous "yoU nEeD tO cOmMuNiCaTE" here is "yoU nEeD tO AdJuST"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:13 PM
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Yes I agree. I hang out in many LGBT safe spaces and it is crazy how many men comment on women bodies straight to your face, stare at/touch your boobs and be like "i'm gay so you can't say I'm harrassing you". Men are still men and low value is everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:11 PM
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This is why I don't trust men who are overjoyed when playing with children. Men who want to play with kids as if they're part of the group are scaring me. Can't trust their twisted and disgusting brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:55 PM
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Why so many women love to be clowns ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:38 AM
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Do men realize that begging for sex is literraly against our consent ? I swear rapists are everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:44 PM
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This. Men will only call you prude when they want free access to your body with low/zero effort. It's one of the many wayyys they use to override your boundaries and especially your consent, which is borderline criminal when you think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:43 AM
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Personally, I now don't give people the benefit of the doubt. The slightest red flag is still a red flag and I act accordingly so. Doesn't mean I cut people out of my life but I stay cautious and careful, especially with people I have barely met or known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:16 PM
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And even mothers should not be pressured into supporting no matter what happened their child. A friend of my mother is literally stold by her son (he is 25, has no job, no diploma, he spends his time getting high and waking up at 3 pm) but she cannot throw him away because of the pressure of being "à good and supportive mother". Meanwhile, the father has refused to educate his son since he turned 15, busying himself with his new 21 y.o girlfriend (the father, not the son). And he gets a free pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:42 PM
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So you are telling me a grown ass 39 years old adult is still acting like a stupid 12 years old. This dude is irredeemable, no matter how football is important in his country (which is probably the dumbest pickmeisha excuse but OK whatever makes you feel better girl). Next time would be what ? "I create a drama by nearly dying and now my BF who was drinking with the guys is mad at me" oh wait it's already there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:54 PM
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Not gonna lie, you almost got me before I saw the tag lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:06 AM
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Short dicks jokes are not even a real thing. Like honestly, outside of woman safe spaces where we rant about men to help us process all traumas they inflict to us, you literally hear zero jokes about it. However in men mind, everything is about their ugly penis. That's why they always feel insecure about it, because they think everything is about their dick. They doom themselves, so no pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:34 AM
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This is so disrespectful for sex workers. Like you are basically telling them to sacrify themselves to the lowest people in society. I have lived for sometimes in a street where there was a lot of sexwork. Men here were absolutely horrible with the girls, there was so much violence, I cannot describe everything I have seen or heard during this time. You cannot wish this to any woman on the world. Double shame if you are a woman encouraging others in this way. You are direspectful towards them, n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:10 PM
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Men never get compliments because : if a woman complimentes them, they will either be like "let's fuck" or "ewww this ugly cow wants to fuck me" if a man complimentes them, they will be like "okay but NO HOMO" They are lonely because of themselves, they created this whole system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:07 AM
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🤢🤢🤢 wtf did I read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:47 PM
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Ah yes, the famous myth about ugly men being gentlemen, nice, supportive and loyal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:47 PM
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Thank you for this master post ! I really appreciate the LVM and Cats because I have never realized it until now but this is so so true. How many guys do I know being like "oh my cat is so strange, it has weird behaviour". Nah, poor creature probably got PTSD from your absence of caring. It is so true that the ways people treats animals is so telling of their personnality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:57 PM
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This might sound dumb but I honestly don't flirt with men because there are high probabilities that I will invest too much energy on boosting their ego for them to threat me like shit. I have actually never catch so many eyes (i.e men being intrigued by my behaviour and wanting to know more about me) since I have followed FDS principles regarding seduction/flirting and I do not mean that to brag because I'm still single and don't see anyone. But just to let you know that men do see when you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:46 PM
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This is so true, especially when you realize that most men are living paradox. I knew one who volunteered to charity but that didn't stop him from being horrible to people who does poor jobs. It's also true that charity field (or every social justice cause) is filled with predators. Moreover, you can't know if a man is a HV after many many months. I see so many comments here of queens being like "oh my HV boyfriend who I have known for 3 months". Girl, I truly hope he is but is it too quick cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:35 PM
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Thank you for sharing this ! The fact that society prefers that women die with no friend, no support but with a LVM by their side rather than celibate with dear friends and close ones is so so telling of patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:41 PM
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Wanting to punch someone in the face and breaking their teeth has never been, will never be, normal like wtf are men inventing now to justify their hatred towards women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:14 PM
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Men feel entitled to everything. Spending some of their time with a woman makes them think we owe them sex so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:34 AM
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The disgust in me after reading this oh my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:29 AM
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??? Next we'll see "my boyfriend wants me to get tortured, should I leave him ?" I'm so sorry for the OP but girl, the disrespect is real here, if you accept that, he is going to push even further. Protect yourself and cut him out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:52 AM
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I agreeee so much. I hate OLD but my hate for Bumble is so high. This is basically the app that makes you feel like **** because it forces you to chase after dudes that are not even attractive, that have zero cconversation skills but will still act like greek gods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:55 AM
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You're not a failure, you shouldn't blame yourself here !!! You're healing and he should have respected that, he should have respected your boundaries and the time you need. Being cruel to you is his own fault and he is the one that fails here. He is making it all about himself, when you have been the one who suffered the most from the situation. He is showing to you his ugly face and, I know it's easier to say than do, you must not let him go throught that smoothly. He direspected you once, it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:39 PM
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This makes me want to cry. So many things wrong in this relationship. I hope OP got/will get the strenght to tell him to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:33 PM
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Ex husband I hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:02 PM
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I agree, a man that refuses to see your friends is a red flag. But a man who insists more than necessary to meet them is also a red flag. Manipulators know their way to someone's heart and by that, I mean it will be easier for him to isolate you from your friends if none of them believe or take you seriously when you talk about him and his suspicious behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:09 PM
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Well, I think I have this relationship with my only boy friend from nearly 10 years ! He is gay so I think it's not the same dynamic as the one you're describing which is clearly suspicious. I don't mean he is cheating of course but how many couples I see going on with a third wheel by their side, always making comments and judgement about what is happening in the relationship... definitely pay attention to iintrusive people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:04 AM
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Congratulations !!! We're so proud of you (and hope you are proud of yourself too) !! You deserve all the best, no matter what !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:57 AM
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The fact that he says "especially with women". Abuser outed himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:59 AM
138

My mother did all the school related stuff with me. Like helping and monitoring my homework, talking with teachers, going to class events. My father never did one of that because he "worked". My mother did too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:16 PM
35

Bravo girl 👏 you were so right to not waste your energy with an explanation he wouldn't have listened anyway !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:27 PM
88

I agree and I especially worry for younger generations that seem to think it's a perfectly normal sex behaviour. I generalize here of course but I see so many tik toks of teens praising BDSM (and even hardcore BDSM). A lot of them seem worried about being "boring in bed". Hey, sex is not a circus, you do not have to perform or entertain anyone here. It's about sharing an intimate and vulnerable moment with someone you trust. Moreover, i think it goes along with the "virgin shaming" that have bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:23 PM
34

Don't worry, men know it's all men. They just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:15 PM
66

I clearly have noticed that too. Men are usually nicer with women they found attractive (which is not really a good thing since they also feel entitled to everything when they behave nice for 10 seconds). For example, I have clearly noticed, when they are introduced to a girl group friends, they tend to ignore (in a rude way) or brush off those who they consider "basic" or "uninteresting" and they are super (i.e too much) invest with the other girls. They are obvious and embarassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:14 PM
2

Yes thank you for this 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:04 AM
5

My father is so like that when we have an "argument" that bother him. He basically shuts down and throw bad looks at everyone, saying he wants to be left alone since, ALLEGEDLY, he is the only one here to be respectefull of everyone's opinions. Because of course if you don't agree with him, you are not respecting him and his freedom of mind. The fact that so many men act like that and are never call out in public like the cry baby they are is just so so annoying. A woman acting like that would b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:52 AM
15

I'm just laughing so hard. Men are so dumb, they don't even deserve that we lost our time trying to explain them the many wrongs here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:44 AM
5

I'm sorry to scream it again but please, tell me she dumped him... tell me he is no longer near her... this is such a violation of her body and autonomy. Pregnancy can literally kill us and he wants to force that on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:27 PM
133

Imagine being so self centered and disgusting Imagine us caring for this sort of scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:04 AM
13

I'm sorry but before this big argument, he was already critical/obsessed with her sister and OP tolerates it ? Poor sister....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:59 AM
6

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:56 AM
147

That's so lovely to read !!! I also seriously consider never ever turn my eyes on men again. I'm still a little scared of homophobia and a little bit of biphobia too. But I don't lose hope and know my soulmate and I's roads are going to cross one day ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:19 PM
57

That fact that so many women think like that "uhuhu he may have many mistresses but at the end i'm still THE ONE" yes girl you're the one having all the con's of a relationship without the pro's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:55 PM
26

Boo hoo Sobbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:47 PM
52

Yes and at least they know if they want it seriously with you or not. A friend of mine kept pushing in a FWB relationship hoping for more. Turns out that yes, they are now a couple but he treats her like his bangmaid, neg her often and keeps it open with other girls (like telling them "oh your skirt is very Nice today" while making a joke about his GF one....). I truly hope she will see the truth soon but pick meisha runs deeply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:13 PM
131

Do you have a daily reminder to tell her "you're beautiful" ? If you need a reminder for that, then reconsider you capacity to be a boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:30 AM
81

Lmao she completely misses her point : the fact is that women and men are NOT equal on this. Be honest, do you know many women who comment down male celebrities (sexy or not) pictures ? I don't. Well, I mean, the girls I know who do that usually keep it very innocent and sincere such as "congratulations on your work/mariage/pregnancy" Meanwhile, when men write comments on female celebrities pictures, they are ALWAYS making a sex reference in the wording or in the emoji they use. Girls, don't be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:51 AM
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Most men don't know how pregnancy, post partum and baby caring work anyway.... and they certainly don't want to know. I will always remember when one of my relatives gave birth, she decided to breastfeed and her husband acted shock and merely disgusted when he realized breastfeeding cannot be control or ""stopped"" especially when the baby is crying. And after learning that, instead of normalize it, he would alwats complain about how inconvenient it is, how weird it is... dude it's breastfeeding…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:03 AM
87

YES thank you for pointing out how garbage Bumble is. I hate this app with all my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:53 PM
73

I agree, OLD are such a waste of time for women... think about the many many things you could have done with all the time you spent : selecting your best pictures, writing a good bio, then selecting guys (who most of them are below the average physically AND mentally), then talking to them, suffering disappointement with their garbage personnality... The only plus of OLD is for LGBTQ people. As a bi woman, I find it really difficult to find other women IRL without just ending being friend (and i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:50 PM
74

Men trying to neg us because we spend quality time on ourselves while them barely having a decent hygiene... (not saying that having your nails done is part of a good hygiene but I meant to say it is laughable that they are trying to disminish women for enjoying our time and money on taking care of us while they are most likely to do the bare minimum to keeping in good mental and physical hygiene) Good for you girl !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:05 PM
30

Exactly, I'm pretty sure he ass**lted her and it didn't happen in the role play context. Also I'm kind of doubtfool she was the one to bring this """fantasy""" because 1. It fit too perfectly his narrative about being innocent and his GF trickering him into """being rapey but not that rapey""" 2. It's usually a male fantasy, and by that I mean it's totally male gazed. The few girls I know (all online) that say they have it also have it to "excite the man", "please him". They fool themselves by s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:27 PM
31

I'm glad to say all men because all men benefit from women suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:55 PM
75

Yes I dated a man for barely 1 month (is that even dating ?) that was just above my height (i'm not short but i'm not tall, like model-tall) and he was ALWAYS complaining about his height, always making sarcasm about girls being shallow for not hitting on him. I quicly realize that he was just being so mean and insufferable, that's why his GF quickly dumped him (like I did lol but really he was such a pain about it, like i couldn't wear some sneakers because it made me slightly taller than him. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:13 PM
7

Are you describing my LVM father ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:25 AM
43

You seem to be so much happier !! Congratulations and keep going with that energy 💕👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:07 PM
28

As we all should 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:45 AM
109

How can you stay with someone you know talks bad behind your back ?? It doesn't matter if he is cheating or not, that alone should be enough to end it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:12 AM
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Men that talks """with passion"""" about issues YOU are facing while them not being concerned is a red flag for me. For example, a man that talks a lot about feminism even if you don't bring the subject up. Or if you are a POC a white man that talks a lot about racism. In my experience, they ALWAYS turn out to be the exact opposite of their performative wokeness. They will always try to mansplain you about the issues YOU know, YOU deal with while not experiencing them themselves. Or worse, they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:57 PM
49

They are attracted to controling us... not considering our individuality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:34 PM
33

So he would prefer her at her lowest, wanting to **** herself just for his sex pleasure... Yes, Men are trash, you can't convince me otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:25 PM
22

And even some pick me women themselves watch porn and / or support it because of sEx pOsiTiViTy and cOoL giRL vibes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:17 PM
24

Ah yes the whole "bUt it'S mY chOiCe" with the famous "i jUsT doN't liKe haiR oN Me bUt nO pRobLem oN otHeRs", (i.e especially on men, who most of them don't even shower on a daily basis), "i JuSt dOn'T liKe tHe texTurE oN my SkiN" blablabla
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:47 AM
14

Wtf the fact that people asks OP to be comprehensive with him I-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:19 AM
9

Imagine proudly admiting you can't even meet basic human standards. Men never cease to disappoint me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:29 PM
10

Aaaand in my experience, I have observed that a lot of "ugly men" are actually quite womanizers or serial cheater. They know how to target women that have low standards (because of that bs "ugly dude attract less and they are kinder because theys see true beauty blablabla") and thanks to patriarchy, there are a lot of women that share the same beliefs... Those guys are frustrated because they know deep down they have nothing to offer : no good looks, no nice behaviours... and to them, the fact t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:33 AM
187

The audacity of CRIMINAL men to tell you that so casually. But yeah, they want us to believe it's the whole "women destroy lives when they accuse men of rape" all over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:11 PM
65

I haven't even read the whole story but the very beginning screams "RUN AWAY GIRL" when I read "we have done a bit fair of kinky sex and I'm always trying to improve myself so I can please him more". ... Please, stop engaging in """"kinky"""" activities that you absolutely do not enjoy just to please a stupid man who don't even care about your well being. There is nothing empowering or liberating in engaging into mediocre sex that brings you nothing but pain, sadness and disappointment. EDIT : I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:44 PM
5

Men are so goddamn cringey. Learn to shut your ugly mouth and stay mad in silence for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:38 PM
23

OMG yes the whole "you should kiss/have sex quickly to know if you have chemistry" is driving me MAD. This is so stupid like intimate interactions with strangers are not """instinctive"". To me, it's perfectly clear that there is very very little reason that people will have chemistry in bed if they have only known each other for 2 days. I mean, it can happen (and that's good for you !!) but honestly, the odds are against us when you look at the vast majority of men and how they view sex and int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:34 PM
22

I agree because men on Bumble feel like gods all the time and think they are entitled to everything because you contact them. One of my worst experience in OLD there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:09 PM
72

Yes !!! Men loveeeeee to blame women for being too """"needy""" while they try their best to use every psychological tricks they know to make us feel co-dependant of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:33 PM
21

That I definitely agree on ! Thank you for clarifying this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:59 AM
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The fact that on every post like this, the woman ends it by "I'm expecting too much ?" ............
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:56 AM
30

Honestly, I kind of disagree here but only because Low Value is everywhere. I know hot men that are completely trash and feel entitled to everything (especially when it comes to women's attention). On the opposite, there are ugly men like you describe. So, what do I learn from that ? Well, because there are so many risks in dating, at least, let's take those risks with attractive guys. Scrotes stay mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:36 AM
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Never forget that attracting scrotes is a curse, not a blessing. Patriarchy wants you to feel otherwise, that's why there is so much pressure on women to settle for less or to accept the strict nothing that men offer. The true act of resistance and feminism is to embrace your standards and blossoming in your celibacy (in regards to het relationship).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:45 PM
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LMAO, fun fact tho, before c-19, one of my friend introduced her new BF to our group. We were chatting and the topic of children came on. He said the "i don't want daughter bs" and I was like "bruuh imagine giving birth to a BOY like ewww". The dude litteraly trew a tanthrum saying I was being disrespectful towards him and all the men in the convo, that I was intolerant and totally unfit to be a mother. Let's just say that my friend did what she should have done from the start : DUMPING HIS CRY …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:28 PM
7

^^ This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:59 AM
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The fact that most women are ALWAYS making excuse for those guys behaviour (at least, some of my friends). Sis, he is not a successful CEO that is working 16 h / day, he is not a super athlete that needs to work out 10 h / day and follows a strict schedule, he is not explorer that doesn't have internet because he is always traveling in wild places. He would have responded if he wanted. Not because "he is not into messaging", not because "he is super busy". Busy to what ? Watching TV, playing vid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:57 AM
13

To me, LibFem only adresses individual issues and refuses to see the larger picture. Like the fact that many many women, who don't know each other and live all around the world, share the same traumatic experiences with men. It remind me of the body-positive movement. Yes, it's cool that I love myself but loving myself will not make discrimination disappear. It won't make doctors or employers respect me. IMO, body positivity has been depoliticized as soon as it has made "loving yourself" the pea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:41 AM
1

Exactly, I experience that too. You should see them as they are trying so hard to make eye contact because otherwise they wouldn't dare approach you. They are so ridiculous, looking like cry babies everytime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:50 PM
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Yes, I'll even go as far as to say that Bumble is ideal for men because women have to send the first message. And usually, most men never answer. So they better stop their whole cry baby behaviour when saying that women never respond on OLD, they are doing the same when given the opportunity. To me Bumble is really a loss of time, the vast 95 per cent of men there are LVM who hide their misogyny behing being nice and not talking straightforward about sex, pretending to want a GF when they are lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:54 PM
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Yes I think it depends more on the attitude you have than the clothes you're wearing, the make-up you have on... Of course, those elements are a part of your attitude but they don't define alone what you give off. I know some girls who dress in sweat pants and hoodie, but they still emit high maintenance vibes. I don't know how to explain it but it's something that you can feel with women, in their eyes, how they stand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:12 PM
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Exactly most men don't show us the same courtesy as we do. Doesn't mean we have to be mean. But they should know that we always can and choose not to because we are decent people unlike them. They feel so entitled to comment on woman bodies. Well, Sir, prepare yourself to taste a little bit of your own medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:26 AM
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I feel bad for her but at the same time, girl, how can you be so blind ??? The problem is not your bully, it is your trash can of a husband like wtf. Hope she got the strenght to take her kids and ran away from this mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:36 PM
29

I just want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:45 PM
5

Omg this. Never really tought about it but it couldn't be more true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:27 PM
14

To me, a man that is disrespectful towards other people hobbies is a BIG red flag. And by that, I mean perfectly normal hobbies, not weird or creepy stuff. Typicaly, a man that says "oh so X is listening to Dua Lipa ? She is such a mainstream and commercial artist blablabla", "oh so X loves to read that kind of books ? This is not even good writing unlike * insert male writer that don't even know how to write decent female characters *" ​ If he can't say he doesn't like something without insulti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:23 PM
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Yes I agree. Moreover, 20's y.o HVM are more likely to stay focus on studies, learning stuff, practice sport, discovering new things than dating... Exactly what FDS advise young women (especially below 25 imo) to do : not invest time (or at least, too much time) in dating while you're still growing up yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:03 PM
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^ this 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:08 AM
22

Yes that exactly how you put it !!! I don't care in itself if a man look at many women. But porn is not JUST looking at women. It's seeing and enjoying seeing them being violented, abused, tortured for men sadistic pleasure. Nobody will EVER convince me that men who are watching women being abused do not suffer in return of some brain damage or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:26 AM
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There is definitely a question of opportunities. Sometimes, there is literally no HVM around you and sometimes, there is. And even if there is, you may not be attracted to them, they may be already engaged... A lot of possibilities can happen that can explain why you're not with a HVM already. The goal should be to avoid the pain and the suffering that come with hanging out with ZVM/LVM (the vast 95 per cent of men). Not being pressure to find a HVM before your X years. The fact that society (an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:49 AM
1

Don't continue the convo if he didn't ask you out within one week. Two if reallyyyy you feel the chemistry AND if he did not shy away from calling each other or face timing. You will lose less time and feel less attached to this kind of scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:27 PM
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The audacity of LVM... And the sadness that comes with reading that she thought her relationship was perfect before that, while there were big red flags that she perfectly describes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:23 PM
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Imagine being such a clown you are proud to post on internet how your man is doing the strict bare minimum for you and how happy you are for it 🤡 Joke aside, I'm always deeply sad to read or hear this kind of stuff from woman. Some of my friends are like that too and I find it horrific how society has brainwashed all of us to celebrate the little sign of respect men show to us ... so depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:06 PM
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Exactly ! By that, I do not mean to insult any woman but to point out how most men consider women. In FWB, the idea is first and foremost to be friend but for scrots, no, it only means being available whenever THEY want to have sex. Most of them don't value friendship, anyway. Looking at the men groups around me, they only talk for fun time, bitching over woman or men they hate, but never to discuss intimate subject, personnal difficulties... As soon as one of them has a problem, they all vanish…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:25 PM
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Needed Reminder. I never forget the prime reason why most men label what they want on Bumble as "we'll see" (idk if it's the exact translation but it means that in my country). We all know that most of them certainly do no want to engage themselves in something that require them to put some effort. They definitely aren't looking for a relationship. But they definitely know that saying they are looking for a FWB will requiere them too much effort, especially since most girls aren't stupide enough…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:08 AM
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I have been introduced to FDS by a friend and I think it particulary click with me because I was already processing the FDS views without even knowing them (idk if it's clear ?) For me, if you try to introduce FDS to a friend who is in a relationship/dating a ZVM or LVM, there is a lot of chance that she will brush it off (in my experience). Because facing the truth is hard, especially for us women that are brainwashed since birth to accept and justify men bullshit all along. So, my take is, don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:17 PM
15

French girl here and I relate so much with your post. LibFem is definetely dominant here, i know a lot of men that think it's conservative to pay dinner for the date and that it's woke culture performance if the girl pays her part (bonus point if she pays for both of them). However it's still NVM and LVM dating strategy, they invest zero effort in the date and everything and they even success at making you feel ccontented by it because of fEmiNiSm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:59 AM
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Yes it's so true also for make up !!! Never trust a man when he says "i love natural girls, without make up", usually he will also think that Kendall Jenner never wears make up "unlike her sisters" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:28 AM
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Also, you can add that if you don't orgasm because the dude only offers you mediocre sex, then it is YOUR fault after all, maybe you don't know your body well 🤡 maybe you don't add "kinky spice" to your intercourse. Kinky sex is soooo libertating for women after all, only true feminist perfoms it 🤡 ah and you SHOULD watch porn with your BF, it means that you're pro-sex positive 🤡 and then you can both learn your mutual fantasies 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:05 PM
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