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Right I've seen so many sob stories that are just emotional ploys to get you to donate or give them money/attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 12:35 AM
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Sorry you have to hold yourself back! Many guys underestimate the care instinct of a woman and will hide any emotions that would have him appear weak or vulnerable. So many have seen her pull away when a man lets down his guard. But as humans we are wired to care for each other. Sometimes a woman's "care instinct" can feel invasive if it comes off like "Don't forget to wear a coat, it's cold outside!" Or "Let me help you pick out some better clothes so you look nice." Even if you mean well. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 12:06 AM
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Ha! That's so funny to see. The disillusionment of the fantasy is definitely a good part of it!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 11:46 PM
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Your story gave me the feels. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 08:06 AM
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I can see that. I once dated a girl who had a lot more "street" experience than I did and she would often feel very protective of me. She saw my innocence a very attractive trait and didn't want to see me get used. She said something along the lines of "you are too pure for this world."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 03:13 AM
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The saga continues... Hannah recently posted a video of her getting her nipples pierced (NSFW) on YouTube and the comments are filled with concern. One of the top comments, "Another soul sacrificed on the alter... Shame." The weird thing is that her mother was filming and obviously knows about everything. I find this whole scenario and the cognitive dissonance it causes fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 02:44 AM
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Giving it some thought, the only comparison I could come up with is the military/draft. If a young boy is recruited (or drafted back in the day) it can be seen that he may have been forced into it, or coerced or manipulated by a recruiter. Especially if that boy carries an aura of innocence about him and doesn't seem like he's totally capable of making his own decisions. He could also be tempted by the easy money and overlooking the risks. That would break the heart of any woman in his life. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 02:33 AM
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Well said, sounds like my journey.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/18 04:45 AM
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Right and grounded confidence comes from accepting your flaws and being comfortable in your own skin. TRP encourages disowning your feminine traits or killing off anything that could be perceived as beta, which is a sure fire way to kill confidence and make your ego very fragile.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/18 04:45 AM
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I know the alt-right guy you're talking about. It's the guy that Vice used to make a "documentary" about the evil white male nazis. It was all a fucking staged shit show. Also, so many of the anti-jew white nationalist crowd are jews themselves or have close relations and ties. After awhile you see they don't even believe the shit they're saying. They are also doing exactly the thing that gives their opposition (the left) ammo to use against them. Who does this? Fake narcissistic attention whore…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/18 04:25 PM
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I left because I continually felt shitty about myself after reading TRP/manosphere. I was recovering from a divorce, dead bedroom, etc. I was betrayed and hurt. But I was still under the impression that I needed to fix and improve myself to prevent women from betraying me again. That it was MY JOB to be GOOD ENOUGH for women not to be shitty. TRP was just one part of several avenues of self improvement I took. Now, to its credit TRP and self improvement in general has some aspects of truth to it…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/18 02:57 PM
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I agree that women are turned on by dominance, but it seems the past 3 years there has been a surge in "dominant" behavior with the intent to seduce/manipulate women. It's a kind of virtue signal like "look how dominant I am!" And women I talk to say it's annoying how men are doing that now. It's almost like it's become the reverse NiceGuy, where everyone's a Dom now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 03:50 PM
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After I integrated my inner "asshole" Chad by reading RP for a couple years, I was able to have "success" in not getting friendzoned and creating some decent hookups and FWB relationships. By leading with sexual intent, being direct and upfront, expressing my desire, and making it clear I was not interested in platonic friendship, I was able to create satisfying sexual experiences right off the bat with women I was attracted to. The couple years I was into red pill, I was able to OWN my sexual s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 03:42 PM
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Could be. My mind started coming up with its own reasons, like maybe it was something I said or did, or the other employees didn't like me, etc. When you're ghosted, your mind just jumps to the worst conclusions. Fortunately, I've been ghosted enough via online dating and Instagram DMs that I learned to stop investing in people who drop off or take forever to reply back.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 01:15 AM
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Reminds me of when I worked at Starbucks for a three weeks. They were talking of training me to be a shift supervisor, but I saw that I wasn't being scheduled much that week. Then I noticed I wasn't scheduled at all the next week. During my time off, I realized I didn't really want to work there anymore so I decided to quit. I agonized over how to word it over text to my store manager, but he never replied. I felt extremely guilty and uncomfortable for a week or so after because I never had any …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 02:10 PM
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His "attempt" could be a passive "hey honey, wanna have sex?" while she's in the middle of watching a show. He knew he was making a spreadsheet, and probably wanted to to be rejected so he would have more incriminating results. I can't imagine trying to initiate daily with someone who never seems interested. How could you NOT feel like you're pestering?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 06:12 PM
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170 times? That's more than I had in my entire 12 year marriage!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 06:04 PM
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"But I just got out of the shower, I don't want to get dirty again!" I've also heard this one, "But these are clean sheets, I don't want them to get dirty!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 06:01 PM
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'Whites"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 11:11 PM
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I see transgenderism promoted a lot - I feel like it's an "evil" that the right uses to lure people to it's side, and I feel the left uses them as victims to promote their ideology. I think actual trans people just want to live normal lives and be accepted as humans, but they're kind of a political tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 11:03 PM
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I think you bring up interesting points. /r/purplepilldebate might be a good place to voice your opinions
/r/ExRedPill25/11/18 02:06 AM
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I mean is it not an inherent right to express oneself? It doesn’t mean there are no consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 09:14 PM
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Yeah I agree to an extent. It’s not the job of everyone else to walk on eggshells to avoid making other people uncomfortable. But I think some self awareness and compassion goes a long way. Like the example of wanting to dress provocative and complain about the attention. Or if I want to express my appreciation of what is beautiful to me by complimenting or noticing, that’s my right. I usually never do unless I know the person and know it will be taken as genuine. But with strangers I almost nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 02:30 PM
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It sounds like a consent issue. We are all bombarded with sexual stimuli in advertising and we just take it as part of normal every day life. When ads do it, they are intentionally stimulating arousal for all sorts of manipulative reasons. Manipulation is the intent. Men’s sexual response is manipulated and intentionally provoked every day. Just like any other insecurity or open vulnerability humans have. We can’t bombard someone with loads of sexual stimuli and then say it’s their fault for bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 08:18 AM
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Depends where you live too. When I was in Austin, I had several female friends who had 70+ and that was pretty normal for unmarried 25-30 year old. It seems insane to me as a guy growing up in a small town and married the girl I lost my virginity to. I’ve been divorced for three years and managed to hit 15 and that feels like a lot. The girls told me they can “catch a dick” any time they want to and it’s not even fun anymore. One has been trying to find “the one” for 5+ years when she was turnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 03:50 PM
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I’m trying to get out of the seduction/performance “game” and back into authenticity. I never really left being authentic but I was hurting myself by being so afraid to be my emotional/sensitive self. I’m reading a book now called Deeper Dating and so far it’s pretty helpful.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/18 01:46 PM
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Sounds like you're really close to hitting that realization point where it stops being about finding the right partner, and about finding yourself. It's not really a WASTE to do all that stuff you mentioned, but doing it with the hopes it will attract a mate or you will find love out there, is the "wrong" reason. I put "wrong" in quotes, because you are more than welcome to try it if you feel motivated, it will just lead you to the same realization you are at now. That it didn't get you what you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 08:08 AM
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Thanks, good additions as well. Iron John - https://www.amazon.com/Iron-John-Book-About-Men/dp/0306813769 Perhaps a love and affection they have never experienced, but can only imagine? As one would imagine heaven. Or some other end state, when there are no end states. Yes absolutely. For me, as an INFP personality type, I have an inner knowing of an idealized form of love. It's like a union of the divine masculine/feminine. In orgasm, it's like touching the void - getting a glimpse of heaven. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 05:27 AM
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Not every guy is the same. That explains why some dudes play football, some become engineers, some become artists, etc. There's all sorts of male archetypes. The NiceGuy was probably never very dominant from an early age and learned to survive and cope with stress by being accomodating and flexible. From my own experience, I had a scary alcoholic father who would get into rages and fight with my mom. My mom would say to never be like my father... but yet she'd stay with him. He would be emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 04:57 AM
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That's some good advice. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 04:24 AM
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Sounds like she was out of touch with her actual sexual desire and her (likely alcohol fueled) college exploits were more of an ego boost or raunchy shenanigans where you aren't actually having to be real or intimate with anyone. When real intimacy is there, people get scared and avoidant if they are uncomfortable with themselves. I was reading a book recently about girls using their sex appeal to get stuff and appear desireable amongst their peers, but not actually to satisfy any genuine sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 09:29 PM
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Try what my buddy did, he found himself chatting about a nerdy hobby they shared and he asked for her number to watch the show they liked sometime. He got the number and they are now FWB. Getting a number is a lot easier when you're talking about a mutual interest and you want to keep the connection going. Just that act alone implies more than friends. I thnk sexual intention in a daygame pickup is only possible for really attractive guys or men that are just more grounded sexually and can say c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 06:02 AM
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I tried this one and got an incredibly awkward response. We were at a conference (which I was the founder, so "alpha male" status basically). I went up to her and after a brief small talk said "Hey, I'd like to take you on a date sometime." And she stopped and nervously replied, "uh, but how? we can't! We don't have any time." And I said, "Well, sometime, I can come up to your town." And she just kind of awkwardly avoided answering the question, so I saved face for her and change the subject and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 05:58 AM
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Try the kink community. Being direct and upfront is the baseline and the sex part is already implied. So most of the communication is about hobbies and other things. Eventually you get to the "what are you into" part and if you guys are into the same stuff, you figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 05:50 AM
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I've got a friend who's a 39 year old 400 lb neckbeard who literally lives in a nesty basement with computer games and fast food leftovers. He's shy and anti-social, but he managed to ask out the cashier at the local Joann Fabrics and they became semi regular FWBs. At checkout, they were joking and making small talk about the sci-fi show t-shirt he was wearing. While walking to his car he thought "I should go back and get her number, she was cute and nerdy. Fuck it, lets do it." And he turned ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 05:45 AM
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Hahaha, I stand corrected. I assumed OP was a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 05:59 AM
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Do people really tell men to be more pretty? I haven't heard that in my experience. I mean, "take a shower, shave, put on some clean clothes" maybe, but not "you should start acting more like a girl."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 05:52 AM
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When people tell you that you should be more feminine, they probably mean have some empathy and compassion, listen rather than lecture, etc. It's also the "right brain" which has to do with creativity and intuition, which balances out a rigid logical/reason based worldview. Think about it, the yin/yang work together to create a balance. Many men view masculinity as strong and feminine as weak and that makes it hard to accept any feminine energy within ourselves. If you can allow yourself to be v…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 05:41 AM
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Red Pill philosophy is largely for/by men who have been ignored or hurt by women in the past. All their ideas have a weird revenge fantasy. It's usually about the men reclaiming their power and not about equal partnership. Equal partnership is what most of the TRPers originally believed in the "blue pill" world and were ignored or betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 07:53 AM
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Red Pill philosophy is largely for/by men who have been ignored or hurt by women in the past. All their ideas have a weird revenge fantasy. It's usually about the men reclaiming their power and not about equal partnership. Equal partnership is what most of the men originally believed in the "blue pill" world and were ignored or betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 07:52 AM
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Yep, my teenage brother's girlfriend was joking about liking the BBC. Kids these days lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:57 PM
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I think it's both. I think young women are both repressed and pressured to perform like a porn star. Performing like a porn star could very well be her authentic choice and brings her joy, or it could be a way to gain approval. From my perspective, sex has become more transactional and divorced from actual relationships. It's become a product... or an image. Sexual liberation is more of a marketing illusion than an actual reality. The "Girls Gone Wild" mentality is mostly just performative. Girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:52 PM
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If mewling peasants are going to treat you like a king, then you'll treat them like mewling peasants back. This is a great metaphor to remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 06:56 PM
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Good point. I just updated my OP, a little late, but good reference for anyone who stumbles on this post from now on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 06:53 PM
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Yeah that's the thing about IRL vs (social) MEDIA. It's media. It's an image. It's inherently objectifying. It's made to be looked at. It's made to receive likes/comments and reactions from people. You don't see a woman doing her thing IRL with a comment box and a like button. And IRL it's obvious her intention is to just do whatever the fuck she's doing. Maybe if she were to stand there and pose for the passersby. Then people will look and feel invited to comment. Like a performance where peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 06:43 PM
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Fascinating. I'll check it out!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 06:00 AM
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The big difference was we met because of a sponsorship deal. She wanted a copy of my book on depression/anxiety which I mailed to her. To which she felt a "soul connection" to me which began our long email exchange. To me that is a lot different than most IG-model/fan dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 05:15 AM
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Yea, that sounds very accurate. I think you are spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 05:14 AM
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/r/iamverybadass
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 05:11 AM
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All that sounds manipulative, which is what I'm trying to get away from. I'd rather be authentic because it's so much more sustainable. TBH, when I'm trying to game her, I think it's ultimately gaming me. As I'm the one putting in all this effort trying to manipulate her opinion about me. But I can see her wanting to be dominated in a trusting relationship. It's just that she's overwhelmed with fake "doms" trying to game her constantly. I can't imagine what that must feel like. Probably why she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:29 AM
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I don't know, mid to late 20s I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:26 AM
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There was a great book about the friend zone called "The Possibility of Sex: How Naïve and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly" that's really worth checking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:24 AM
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The Friend Zone is the Deprivation Zone. Feeling like you are giving but not receiving. For men, it's feeling deprived of sexual attention while giving her plenty of emotional support, entertaining conversations, resources, or services. For women, it's feeling like you're only desired for sex and can't seem to get anything else of the man. Struggling to get him to open up emotionally, commit to anything outside of sex, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:19 AM
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There are before/after shots of her when she was a "normal" girl and her thighs touched at the top. Now they are like bones with a huge thigh gap. That's not "I'm just naturally thin hehe."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:00 AM
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Honestly, as exciting as it sounds for her to spend time with me, I can't imagine her constantly on her phone, distracted, shooting selfies, blowing up my apartment with all her stuff, etc. I think I'd feel just as ignored as I do now. Despite what she says about wanting to feel me in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 03:57 AM
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She'd be paying, not me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 03:56 AM
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Lots of good points there. And helps bring some clarity. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 03:55 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 03:53 AM
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This helps me understand not just her, but all online personalities we feel connected to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:38 AM
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I'm getting so disillusioned with social media for this reason. So much fakeness, even so called "authentic" people. It's eye opening and reality shattering (painful but good) to get betrayed. I guess thirsting after one of those "not like most IG models" is a painful lesson. I've mentally rejected her 5 or 6 times in the past two years but she always comes back somehow. Typical narcissist/codependent shit I'm in. I've already quit facebook and twitter and now I just uninstalled IG because I jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:36 AM
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Thanks for the emapthic response. I did ask her why, but she hasn't answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:30 AM
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What keeps pulling me back in is wanting some sort of closure. I have a sense she's lying or hiding something. And I just want to know! I get obsessive about wanting the truth... it's a common theme in my life. She's not really adding anything of value to my life, but my desire to know the truth of this mystery of who she REALLY is. Which is probably what she's protecting by hiding away anytime it gets too close. I may never know the truth and I need to come to terms with that and move on. I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 12:53 AM
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From all our emails, I think it's mental illness, anxiety, and fear. She read my book about depression/anxiety and said it was like reading her own words. She is abnormally thin but claims she's happy and doesn't have an eating disorder. There are threads online of people doubting her claims and being suspicious of how she caters to the pro-ana crowd. I'd say who she is, but I still want to respect her privacy. She tries to be all positive in her IG posts. But from what I got to know of her, she…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 12:47 AM
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I agree, but for my own well being, I need to walk away and don't look back. She could be a good friend, but we don't live near each other and I'm too attracted to her. It's tough pulling away from the attraction, feels like pulling apart a magnet. But it keeps hurting me so it's no good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:58 PM
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Thanks for sharing. Good to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:55 PM
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Fair point! I've held back any sexual interest for my whole life because I already knew it was weird. But then I got "I just don't see you like a sexual option" because I never made those intentions clear. There's a way of being bold and direct with sexual language that can be appealing, but not to someone who already has issues with an over-abundance of sexual attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:54 PM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:51 PM
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Starting to believe that is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:35 PM
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I wish she rejected me. That would save me the emotional vagueness. She's too "nice" to give a proper rejection. But it's me that needs to stop putting up with it and walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:32 PM
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I know there are many good reasons why sex-drives shut down or go "underground" for awhile. Usually it's a protection mechanism against a painful experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:30 PM
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I'd love to have an honest chat with one of these girls. I used to know a domme who did all sorts of nasty things to her clients for money. She had a pretty low opinion of men, especially wealthy men who acted like since they were paying her, she had to listen to their demands. She was totally cool being sexual with me (for free, as friends) as long as I was "on her table" and she was in control. But as soon as I wanted to have sex with her like a normal human being, she got scared and flaked ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:22 PM
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Yeah I agree costume and make up art art forms. No doubt she's a talented artist in that regard. But it's a business for her... I've listened to interviews from porn directors and performers and they believe they are creating art. Which they are. They are creating a fantasy and leaving out all the uncomfortable parts that come in reality. While I fully understand the difference between fantasy and reality, I have a longing to know the real person behind the mask. And that's where I get into trou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:18 PM
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Harsh words, but true. I'm an INFP empath and tend to be magnetically attracted to the vulnerability of a cute girl who acts innocent especially when they admire me in some way. There's a book called the Human Magnet Syndrome that explains this empath/narcissist attraction pretty well. Super intense attraction that is impossible to resist. But more and more I'm wising up and catching it before it gets bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:08 PM
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Sad but true. No matter how much I feel like what we have is "different." It's what every person who gets scammed feels like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:05 PM
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She seems to get flakey as soon as she has to be "real" with me. I have a history of girls checking out when they have to own up to some responsibility or authentic feeling. I'm tired of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:04 PM
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In this last instance, it was a casual reference to a dream that happened to be sexual in nature. At first I just mentioned it, but then she asked for specific details, which I gave. Then she got weirded out and started flaking. Edit: Specifically, the dream was simple. She was getting a tattoo on her pussy. She said "what do you me on?" And I described it. Which of course, is weird, but she asked? She appreciated my honesty but that's when she said just doesn't like being seen in a sexual way. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:03 PM
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This is very eye opening. Makes sense. I know personally that any hobby that I do for money ends up killing some if not all of the enjoyment. In her case, she thinks she's making "art" by creating cute outfits and makeup. She's constantly sexualizing herself and her body and the "chafing" you mentioned is spot on. It's no wonder she becomes asexual and wants her IRL male friends to be neutered male-girlfriends so she can have some reprieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 11:02 PM
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Yeah, she literally said it "hurts to not be able to be with you" and has mentioned wanting to fly out to meet me. She's invested a good chunk of her time writing novel length emails to me about her feelings and personal life. So I really doubt shes just being nice trying keep me as a follower, seeing as I'm not really a follower. We met through a sponsorship deal and she read one of my books about depression/anxiety and she felt a "soul connection" with my writing. I think she has a lot of ment…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 09:30 PM
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In her case, I think she's got a people pleaser mentality where she tries to interact and reply back to everyone and doesn't want to let people down. This leads people to think she's actually interested in them and she can't keep up with all of it. Edit: it's also great marketing to "appear genuine" and engage with fans. But in her case, I think it's a mix of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 07:48 PM
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I totally agree, but what made me "fall" for her was our email exchanges. I felt like I saw the real girl underneath the dazzle. At least enough for me to want to keep pursuing. She said she would prefer an in person connection, and said it hurts that we can't be together. She even started making plans to fly out to my country to meet me. It's a very complex chemical/spiritual attraction that I don't feel with your average Instagram model. But still, the end game of just move on and don't get wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 07:46 PM
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I agree. And it's not just IG models, but a core component to feminist empowerment ideas. My body, my choice. I can be naked and seductive, but fuck you for noticing... I'm trying to put myself in their shoes, but I just can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 07:43 PM
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Let me try to change your view. Women are attracted to aggressive men and are turned off by behaviors that indicate a man is low T. Current western culture is basically ruled by feminism and women don't want to admit that they don't want an "equal" partner but in fact a dominant high SMV man who they can submit to. For starters, this is a story you are telling yourself and believing. Try asking yourself "is this really true? Maybe I'm wrong? Maybe there's something I'm not seeing." This is a nar…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 07:31 PM
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Right, to alleviate the butthurt is to be up front and straightforward from the get go. The more emotional investment you put in, the more "loss" you feel if she isn't romantically interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 07:09 PM
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I was convinced through my own pain and betrayals, that the reason I was cheated on, ignored, or rejected was because of my beta traits. Basically, expressing emotion, talking about feelings, being a good listener, etc. Thise are boyfriend traits and I wasn’t trying to get into a relationship since I was just divorced. I worked hard on developing my inner alpha/dominant, which I think was integral to my healing. But I went so far as to fear my feminine side. It started to stalk me with intrusive…
/r/ExRedPill25/10/18 05:14 AM
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If you can successfully eliminate everything about yourself you feel makes you beta, do you think that will make you happy and you'll get what you're seeking?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 04:30 AM
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Forget alpha/beta definitions. You want what you want. You get to decide what kind of energy is around you. If it feels gross, and you want no part of it, say no to it. Don't go to the party. The important thing is to be true to yourself. Sometimes that means admitting you're not into ego posturing pissing matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 04:28 AM
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Yes, but it depends. Some people are attracted to narcissists or BPDs because they have codependent, pleaser, or caretaker personalities. But if you aren’t like that, you will probably find BPDs crazy or unattractive. But sometimes they are good at pretending and you can fall prey to emotional manipulation. Just don’t be so needy that you overlook red flags just so you can keep getting laid. The book Human Magnet Syndrome describes how narcissists/codependents are unconsciously attracted to each…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/18 10:52 AM
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She wasn’t diagnosed but she had lots of borderline personality disorder traits. Specifically the waif and hermit archetypes. Her depression and fear ruled the relationship. There were good times of course like any relationship but ultimately had to end it after the cheating.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/18 10:11 AM
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I used to be into redpill after my divorce. It helped me in many ways to gain confidence and deprogram from feminist illusions that led to a sexless marriage, being cheated on, etc. But after awhile the toxic/angry parts of redpill turned me off and I started moving away from it. What helped me get “red-pilled” on redpill was a regular meditation and self care routine mixed with research into narcissistic abuse and recovery. I also healed my addiction to being liked and validated by women by spe…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/18 08:28 AM
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Been addicted to TRP and technology lately, a good reminder to unplug
/r/ExRedPill19/10/16 07:11 PM
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Another reminder to get clear on what I want out of it and be real about it with her. The problem I have sometimes is when she will maybe give me a scrap of what I want and I accept it because it's better than nothing. That's the habit I need to break.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 12:42 PM
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That's a great strategy, and "making the most" of my 4 months here is legit.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 12:38 PM
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That's really it. Being clear with my motives. If I gave any desire for sex with her, anything less is settling.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 12:11 PM
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Good points. No LTR for me as I mm moving away in 4 months. I do enjoy her company and conversations, but what I am after is a richer experience which includes sexual growth and excitement. I'm trying to figure out when to bring this up... go on another date and try to escalate (feels kinda grabby or pushy to me) or simply start fading on her and get her to chase and do the work and then bring it up.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 12:07 PM
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I bet this has a lot to do with it.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 11:21 AM
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Can you explain why these seemingly good human qualities are counter intuitive?
/r/askTRP13/10/16 11:20 AM
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