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You sound young bro come to age of 30 and reading this makes me tired already thinking I have to go out do all of this. There are some good points that girls in late night pizza places etc and at hotel lobbies are most open minded but going after these places selectively with a stealthy bottle of vodka in my hand (lol) is just cringe, why not get a life and go out on nights out normally, approach actively when you're out and see where you end up?
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:29 PM
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Poland is an “easy” option because there’s thousands of Ukrainian women that live there and I guess a lot of the polish women are a bit open minded to foreigners but I personally don’t like the country, a lot of the people there are rude, unfriendly, got no heart etc. If I lived there I’d be unhappy but that’s just me. Also like you mentioned somewhere it’s overrun by passport bros who for the most part give a bad image to their team mates. Eastern Europe, especially Kyiv, Ukraine is fantastic t…
/r/seduction03/03/26 09:08 PM
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IMO if you speak French it’d be stupid not to go to Paris and just stay there. Grass is greener on the other side, Europe isn’t same anymore (and was it ever really a place for easy conversations with women?), there are no “ideal” cities or countries in Europe for a foreigner to have an easy time. In France you know the vibe, language cues, etc, people disregard it completely but it’s one of the foundations for success. London is a good place if you’re British and target foreign girls because th…
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:53 PM
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I mean you already know the answer yourself it does matter, especially in England. I’m white but an immigrant in the UK, now a British citizen, still have a “foreign” accent… when I open my mouth some girls make their mind up in a split second even though I’m a 6”2 tall white guy objectively good looking. I suppose the main thing to do is not care about it, yes it does affect you, yes a lot of parents will judge their kids for dating a non white person, or a white foreigner… its just life and an…
/r/seduction30/01/26 02:20 PM
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Great post and really as much as I hate the word “frame” standing your frame is basically the key. I find that even if the girl is visibly in bad mood if you’re talking loudly, saying something funny or interesting you can snap her out of it in a positive way for you. This whole thing about I shouldn’t waste even a second of my time if she isn’t into me is for beginners, people that are a bit more socially calibrated know there is nuance to psychology. I’m all for avoiding wasting time though, a…
/r/seduction20/01/26 08:56 PM
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The opinions in the comments above are just a bunch of bollocks. Ask yourself if her favorite Hollywood actor that she has a crush on got her number on the street would she also not pick up the phone when he called? She’s either excited about you or not, and if you haven’t warmed her up enough in the initial conversation that you had when you approached her some texting and voice messages have the potential to get her excited to go and meet you. Sort of playing it safe. A direct call when she’s …
/r/seduction19/01/26 08:48 PM
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I mean these are just guidelines not rules. You chatting to a girl on text all day is just a risk you’ll slip up somewhere and she might change her mind about you. If you don’t care about that do what you want. I personally say whatever I want and sometimes touching on a subject we’re both really interested elevates her desire to see me. But if I don’t know what her interests are it’s texting for logistics only it’s just a shitty idea to try get her to open up over text.
/r/seduction24/12/25 07:07 PM
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This advice should be in the wiki if there is one in this sub. I’ve lost countless of women by overtexting when I was younger. The easiest explanation to this is if she likes you enough all you need to do is just not fuck up. A guy with a busy, interesting life who works, who has close friends he spends time with, who allocates time to his close family etc is not going to keep texting some random girl throughout the day. You don’t know her, so she doesn’t deserve your full attention and time. Yo…
/r/seduction21/12/25 02:00 PM
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Yh I set her up 2 days off 1 day sex then 2 off she was a drama queen about everything, even when I genuinely had something to do she would send me a manipulative text to try make me feel guilty. She did message me a lot herself like 80-90% of the time, I usually messaged if I wanted sex. In the end I met her outside my house to break up with her and as we were walking down the street some paint dropped on her and me from the roof Lol so I had no choice but to go my place with her to clean ourse…
/r/seduction17/12/25 09:06 PM
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I mean. It's worth it until you had enough. I had a similar situation and was seeing her because the sex was addicting but at some point I called it quits and obviously she went crazy when I told her about it.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:22 PM
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Did you read what I said? I said, hypothetically, if Brad Pitt was in his 30s. And implied the same for Cooper.
/r/seduction10/12/25 09:58 PM
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I mean the parallel I like to make is ask yourself, if a Brad Pitt in his 30s approached her would she make the same excuse? Or picture her favorite Hollywood actor approaching her. Would she say oh sorry Bradley Cooper but you’re 31… No, she would pee her pants and drop her shift at Starbucks to go see him the next day. Obviously you’re not Brad Pitt, but why waste energy and time on someone who’s not interested? There’s enough girls out there who are OK with age gaps, some who will be hesitant…
/r/seduction10/12/25 07:30 PM
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99% of women will say no to this shit because you haven’t built rapport, interest or anything for that matter. Unless you’re a celebrity or an extremely looking good guy (in her eyes) then this is a stupid move.
/r/seduction06/12/25 02:46 PM
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Best thing is just to take this slow and go there once a week, try chat with her a bit longer, don’t flirt, but be playful with a good sense of humor, best thing to do is to say something funny you can use to giggle together about every time you see her or talk about a a subject that spikes her interest. You gotta gain her trust first because a lot of girls won’t give you the number even if they like you at their workplace, it’s awkward, she has her boss to worry about if he sees her doing it, e…
/r/seduction30/11/25 10:54 PM
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IMO unless you’re super good looking your cold approach needs to entertain the girl while you being persistent at the same time. Meaning you approach, make her feel an intense emotion like a joke or something and keep walking with her talking as a lot of them will keep walking and not stop for you. Most guys I’ve seen just approach and say I saw you from over there and you look great, if the guy is good looking they’ll stop and listen but if he’s not their top choice they’ll exit the interaction…
/r/seduction28/11/25 03:07 PM
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Nobody knows what your game is like OP. If your game is shit then you won’t get girls on the younger side. One of the top comments said that you need young man energy, which is absolutely true. Long gone are the days of 1950s - 1970s when young women preferred older men that portrayed “stability”. A lot of girls can provide for themselves now so they are looking for some fun not some serious 40 year old dude who’s trying to double down on his mysterious calm posture. It’s what a lot of guys don’…
/r/seduction28/11/25 01:19 PM
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Just get fucking over yourself. I got approached by women and men throughout my life for a variety of different reasons whether I wanted it or not. And OP was in a bar. You’re in the wrong sub. Go back to your feminist little hole
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:57 AM
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I mean I agree with you to a certain extent but depending on the woman in question it can also be a shit test. It can mean so many things in general; maybe she got back with her ex that she's not 100% sure about so wants to keep you on the back burner. Generally I wouldn't waste time tho dating is exhausting as it is.
/r/seduction10/11/25 08:16 PM
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Don't waste your time. It's likely a product of something that you are doing wrong in your behavior and approach. If you have a huge connect together on common interests, topics etc and you really are keen on just keeping in touch then perhaps you can stay friends but if it's not anywhere near that then move on. Staying friends long term can translate into a relationship later on but it has to be really worth the effort of staying friends. In my 30s I realized that except the very few people I k…
/r/seduction10/11/25 07:15 PM
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I think the biggest point missing here is just to stop wasting time on women who aren't into you. It takes practice notice the difference between a woman not into you, a woman playing games but into you, a woman playing games but not into you. A woman into you is easier to notice but overfriendliness doesn't mean she's into you, she might not even reply to your text the next day. The ones that will be playing games with you might even lead to something some day if they're into you, but is it wor…
/r/seduction31/10/25 02:03 PM
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Probably best course of action is try smile back at her and see if it she smile back or blushes.
/r/seduction12/10/25 01:03 PM
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Yeah that's exactly what I meant by closing.
/r/seduction06/10/25 01:10 PM
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Closing is so subjective. I used to have a buddy who lied to every girl that he'd be in a long term relationship with her just to close her. He had a high % close rate and was seeing multiple girls. I'd say a few girls at MOST if you're treating this very seriously and approach consistently. Whether you're being honest with her, how aggressive are you in trying to close her, etc too many factors really.
/r/seduction06/10/25 12:59 PM
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Cold approach is generally low numbers success the good side is usually the quality that you'd get is better than online. I hate taking Instagrams though women these days give it out like candy for obvious reasons. Also if she sees your Instagram it can play against you, ruin the first impression, the mystery and interest levels die down etc. You should go for the number for whatsapp and if she's showing resistance to give it to you then she is probably not worth your time. Out of 100 approaches…
/r/seduction06/10/25 12:49 PM
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I'd say to get laid it matters a bit less but to date seriously your skin color matters. Sorry to say this is no sugarcoating. White women tend to date white men. Why don't you date your own ethnicity or someone similiar? There'll be exceptions everywhere though there are white girls that date black guys and asian guys etc but these are exceptions and you'll have to be pretty thick skinned to ride out the multiple rejections before you find one. And no being overweight is the worst position to b…
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:22 PM
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Your “friend” is an asshole and tbh you’re a loser for posting this. Should have just blocked him and found another wing without the need to feel butthurt and write this out. Or better just go out on your own.
/r/seduction27/09/25 02:30 AM
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Shit advice for introverts though. I can probably get myself in the mood to be like that for a whole day when need be but if I have to step out my house knowing it has to be a psychological minefield/warzone it’ll get tiresome very quickly.
/r/seduction15/09/25 02:23 PM
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Contrary to what people are saying here I’d say the best way to react is just hit her up in 2 weeks. Something like a half witty message but very short. See how she reacts, then ask to meet at X. Throughout our life we experience different moods, one week we’re cold, next week we feel a bit more open minded. I definitely would only try it one more time, sort of “giving her a chance” maybe she’ll feel a bit vulnerable in that specific moment and meet you. It happens. The mentality of “oh fuck her…
/r/seduction12/09/25 12:15 AM
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You have to ask her "Do you want to make the sex?" and then give her a wide green while moving your eyebrows up and down. Don't back down.
/r/seduction08/09/25 08:20 PM
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You're right in the sense that 60 seconds is not enough for a woman to decide whether you're worth going out on a date with. That's why I usually aim for conversations of at least 5 minutes, longer if possible. I mean, the whole idea of approaching is for you to 'hook' the girl onto something about you, so that she's interested in going out with you. Obviously there'll be situations where you're in a rush or she's in a rush, but I know for a fact asking for a number in the first 60 seconds is us…
/r/seduction03/09/25 08:41 PM
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In the main post I said that I'm talking about a pattern Im seeing my life. The one example I've written about is pretty similiar to most cases I've seen. I've never ever in my life (in my social circles) have seen a woman that says her obese friend looks great, dating an obese guy. I'm sure it happens in the world, but I am talking about where it's the opposite which is what the whole cognitive dissonance is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:33 PM
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The second point seems to make some sense to me, although I do find it somewhat hypocritical that most women I know pick out slim, fit, good looking guys (which I want to say is -perfectly fine to do- as it's their choice who to date and sleep with, and picking someone attractive is perfectly fine) but then they talk about how beautiful her obese female friend is and she can't grasp why is she having issues in her dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:21 PM
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Objectiveness and beauty standards can be argued all day long but surely common sense should prevail? I understand that "looks" are objective, but her friends find her beautiful and they truly believes it, why aren't their boyfriends obese or look bad for their age or anything along the same issues that her friend is experiencing? I've never seen them follow what they "genuinely" believe in their personal life. Again, I'm bringing an example that isn't universal as in it doesn't apply to everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:12 PM
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Generally you'll have a bigger edge offline because you can lead the interaction and press on the right buttons to get her emotionally invested. I've seen "ugly" dudes get with very attractive girls met via warm/cold venues, but never have I seen it happen on dating apps. I'm generalizing a bit but you get the idea hopefully. But I have to say as I get older I'd like to be less bothered with the bullshit that comes with cold approach and meeting women in real life. And if dating apps worked for …
/r/seduction13/11/24 08:44 PM
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If you can play the game right it works but generally it's a place where women have the edge. And it draws a certain audience. I don't like it. It's been pretty consistent in my case that the girls I met outside of dating apps have been more "interesting" - they have hobbies, never used dating apps, more open-minded about life in general, etc. Whereas dating apps is always the wannabe Instagram model that's only interested in makeup and travelling. Sure, not everyone, but a lot of the girls ther…
/r/seduction13/11/24 08:25 PM
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Let's hope so in regards to qualifying as an individual. I probably have better chances finding an Ukrainian girl who's a refugee here as a girlfriend than ever mingling with an English girl lol let's be real. The only hookups/kisses I had with British girls was in school days in London when I was part of the same social bubble. Which says a lot. But it is what it is. Cie la vie.
/r/seduction29/05/24 07:05 PM
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Don’t know where in eastern europe you were living in but in Ukraine all the foreign guys I know did pretty well, they didn’t use Tinder. They were all 20-30 years older than the local girls they were seeing and got a lot of attention. One thing to note is they were quite extroverted, good talkers and had game. Not “wealthy” at all. In Ukraine foreign guys are generally seen as a “high” class, sure not everyone will date them but they have options. I’m pretty sure it’s the same in Russia as I kn…
/r/seduction29/05/24 10:05 AM
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I was talking about cultural differences in the UK compared to other countries and brought friends as an example. If expats and immigrants are having a hard time becoming friends with the locals, how likely is finding a girlfriend who’s a local? You can integrate all you want, but you can’t erase your accent and the way you were brought up. Don’t understand the PUA hate reference either.
/r/seduction28/05/24 11:41 PM
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Cold approach is mostly building rapport, and rapport is easier built when you understand "banter", are culturally similar, your accent doesn't break the vibe, etc. Go to /askuk or wherever and you'll read about immigrants living years in the UK but still haven't got a single English friend. It's a good indicator to show that they're not particularly accepting of foreigners.
/r/seduction28/05/24 10:29 PM
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Here's my theory, but keep in mind I may be wrong on some things as it's just a theory based on multiple anecdotal experiences I've read about and situations from real life that me or my friends have related to. I've lived in different cities in England and the experiences I had as well as what I saw other people have are similiar. I don't know if you're an immigrant or have a non-English name, but generally, if you are, then you're already a turn off for most English girls. I have a similiar st…
/r/seduction28/05/24 08:38 PM
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Let’s say you weren’t option B though. She was talking to you in the very beginning when another guy came around in a bar setting, she was tipsy, it was an emotional decision to have sex. Once that was over, she still wanted to see you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:34 AM
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Interesting. I get where you’re coming from. In today’s day and age, people don’t really think the way you do. Morals and values can easily be scrutinised into being seen as insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:30 AM
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I broke a string there it seems lmao sorry if this post makes you upset!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:18 AM
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Yea, there's been a lot of scandals after the 2014 conflict when corrupt officials used these benefits to get free houses and ran other schemes. Some MPs even went to "serve" in the war for a month or two just to come back and claim these benefits. Nobody saw them in the frontlines but they were registered as ex soldiers in the gov registry afterwards.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 08:06 PM
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If they get out of there alive there are some benefits like free housing, heavily discounted utility charges, free medical care, discounted fuel, good pension in Ukrainian terms.. among other benefits. that’s if you get out of there alive…
/r/MensRights21/11/23 04:01 PM
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It's frustrating that the western news outlets rarely comment on these outrageous comments by officials. Only news about poor women and children, which don't get me wrong I support, but everyone's seem to have forgotten about men.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 01:31 PM
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Well Im sorry to say dude but there are no such places like that. Couchsurfing is pretty shit as well for some reason it's mainly men that come to meetups. Also even if you join up a hobby like dancing where there's usually some young women there is a chance you won't mingle with anyone there. Cold approach is the answer. You go out, you approach tens and hundreds of women and see who wants to stick around. Some of those women will only want you for a hookup, some will want to date you, some wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 11:57 AM
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Well, I did have the same theory as you based on my experiences, but there are so many variables to consider here. War aside, if you had gone to Ukraine in the past, you’d find that there are far more conventionally attractive women than men. And those women have to settle with someone, right? A similar situation is in Russia with more attractive women than men. As for the western world, 25% of UKs population is obese, pretty sure US is not much great either. Your theory might apply in some coun…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 09:40 PM
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I sense that your frame is fragile. Just focus on your shit and tell her you're busy. Life is too short to care about what someone else thinks, especially considering she probably won't cry too long if you die in a car accident tomorrow. Think about that and put her on a back burner.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 10:31 PM
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Sounds really bad. You should move onto the next one because you won’t be able to get out of this one unless you accidentally meet somewhere.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 11:21 AM
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"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." - Tyler Durden, Fight Club. This got me thinking a lot about this. While a mother's love and nurturing helps set the right moral grounds for the young man, it absolutely doesn't touch the aspects of reality that he will need to face. - The fact that he will need to take responsibility for his actions and words, even when society will be against him and call him names, such as being the "bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 11:01 PM
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It takes time to change your behavior and perception of people. Traumatic/negative experiences change your beliefs about yourself and the outside world. Then comes a moment when your reactions (anger, etc) are automated because you are now seeing life through these lenses. You're doing things on autopilot to cope with the feelings or it's your way of preventing people from hurting or making fun of you again. The best defense is a good offense or so they say. Obviously I generalized a bit there b…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 10:36 PM
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I related to what you wrote because that's exactly how my defense mechanisms work when I'm around people, especially women. I've been hurt a lot - by girlfriends, family (psychological trauma of being left behind) and bullies in school, just like you. Life teaches us to be warm hearted to the people that do us good, but also to stay wary and keep our guard up. To love, but to also predict the worst possible outcomes. To believe in sincerity between people and then again, opening yourself up to s…
/r/askTRP16/04/20 06:00 PM
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