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SEEKING ADVICEstaynelaley/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:08 AM
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It seems like you’re not being yourself and people can sense that. Changing shallow things and expecting to be owed a prize is shallow in itself. You can’t possibly keep these phases up long term. The real you will creep out eventually. So what happens when you’ve manipulated someone into thinking you’re one thing when you’re the opposite? What are these guys you’re dating like? Why are you taking their word/opinion as gospel that will apply to all men? Things are not black and white. There’s me…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 10:35 PM
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You need to verify this person with more than just pics from Reddit. Those can be faked. Be very cautious.
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:22 PM
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Yes and no. When I initially started fooling around with guys (didn’t do piv in the early days with people I wasn’t official with), it was def part pressure and being naive thinking they wanted a relationship. Some of them were quite good at future faking. I had a long break between that and now. I’ve been fooling around more in the last year and I’d say only two of them were born out of me thinking something serious was happening. One of them straight up future faked. The other just didn’t work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:46 AM
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I say use both! It only feels terrible if this is your only method. The upsides of apps: -see more people who you may not have ever met in your friend group or at the store or club -helps your conversation skills over text, which is important nowadays. -can get you more potential dates if done right -you’re probably more likely to actually meet someone who is your type and has specific things in common as opposed to simply choosing based off what is physically close to you. Downside: -meeting so…
/r/seduction13/10/21 11:07 AM
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I suspect my ex did this at least occasionally. He would brush his teeth when he came home from work or before bed but there were mornings he hopped in the shower and I didn’t hear any tooth brushing. Unless he did it in the shower?? There were for sure times where i suspected it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:18 PM
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Agreed. I understand the concept of the man paying for dinner, but that's appropriate when you're out on a physical date and all you need to do is not reach for your wallet. But you're essentially having a phone call to see if meeting up with this person you don't even know seems crazy or not/if there's any chemistry. To ask a stranger to send you a gift card or food for a virtual date seems insane. It would drive a sensible person who wasn't a doormat away and I don't think that's pickmeisha at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:18 PM
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MY GOD I just went through this same thing and his name started with J. Maybe it's the same dude 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:52 AM
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I try to think of them as lessons. I've had some suck the life force out of me, but by and large I can bounce back pretty quickly and realize the lesson. Sometimes I've needed to learn it twice for it to stick, but lately I've been getting it quicker. I've been really growing in my spiritual journey in the last few years but some men have distracted me. I still struggle sometimes. The more lessons you learn, the stronger you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:43 AM
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Thank you 🤗 I'm making progress in the sense that I know what needs to be done and I can sort of mime what I should be doing, but I haven't quite internalized it yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:21 AM
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Yeah I was taking a half hour/hour or going to bed and not responding until the morning but it still didn't feel like enough. I just HATE games, so it's hard for me to play them. But I'm learning they may be necessary in some cases. A real one won't be playing the games, though. That subtlety is what I'm trying to figure out. IF I do get another text from him, I don't think I'll be responding. Depends on what it is. If it's something that I could respond to, I'll take a long ass time to respond.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:41 AM
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Thank you! I think he's got some stuff to deal with with his last relationship and his own mental health. He texted me today, I responded with something short that doesn't keep the convo going and haven't heard anything since. If he wanted to talk, he would. I feel like he kinda was using me for sexual gain, even if it wasn't physical. But maybe he realized I wanted more than that. Yeah rotation has never been my game, but I do think I commit too soon to one person. I just like to see where it g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:03 PM
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He seems a bit avoidant. Yesterday he straight up told me being cared for scares him so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:26 PM
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Yeah he was saying stuff about losing a part of himself in his previous relationship and yesterday he even said straight up during a convo that being cared for scares him. I don't know if he's being manipulative in a psychopathic sense but he's clearly someone who needs to work on himself and these issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:11 PM
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Yeah it makes no sense that he would even agree to a second date if he wasn't feeling it. I don't see the point in wasting your own time like that. I'm definitely not pulling anyone's teeth in this situation. I may have in the past, but I'm just basically suppressing the inner urge to push.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:35 PM
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Yeah I tend to think that the respectful thing to do is be upfront and honest but sometimes it’s better to be indirect and just fade. Like if you get a response, just don’t make it a priority to respond. Don’t keep asking questions that could lead to furthering the convo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:37 PM
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I figured since the relationship itself only lasted about 4 months, another 4 months later would be enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:09 PM
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Logically, I know this. I’ve experienced inconsistent guys before which is why honestly the flag went up during that first time of silence. What was different was that he seemed completely fine after and even had a pretty plausible excuse. So I just thought ok well maybe I over reacted. I doubted my red flag. The second time it happened is when I knew i wasn’t over reacting. That really led to my frustration and this post. I’m more frustrated because I’m sick of guys that act like this but I nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:58 PM
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For sure. Like I said in a previous reply, I’ve never experienced the love bombing or anything like that before, so I wasn’t really looking out for it. It just felt like a really instant connection. Looking back at the things we talked about and certain things he said, it does sort of feel like he wants me to be his therapist to help him heal some stuff. But maybe it’s just when it’s convenient for him. He did the long silences and then comes back completely fine. I don’t want this kind of incon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:50 PM
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I think I remember him mentioning being manic depressive at some point so that could be the reason for that long first phone call and being all in. It felt very energized and like someone going through an episode, If I think back at it. And I was going to delete the app because of the way it works but he happened to be the last person I matched with. It’s not something I’m going to be using again. As far as revealing too much about myself, like I said, he was honestly doing that much more than I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:40 PM
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Yeah that seems to be the case just on a quicker pace. It’s never happened to me before so I feel like I wasn’t really looking out for it. And you are correct about the psychology. I do have an anxious avoidant attachment style. Unless you mean him or both of us. I haven’t really worked on it but I make sure to not show it. Like this whole post isn’t something he would even know. I can /act/ cool but be 100% not cool inside. It’s definitely something to work on with myself. Sometimes it feels li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:22 PM
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Thanks! I did think I had built up enough confidence to date again, but clearly not. I’m not sure why I felt so emotional so soon because I hadn’t ever felt that way before. So I think that’s why I mistook that feeling for “the one”. It was rather dumb looking back. The whole post is really but I just needed to rant. I think the lesson here is to step back and try to keep myself clear headed when I do talk to someone. I’ve never experienced love bombing before so I feel like I wasn’t prepared fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:15 PM
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They want a woman to be the support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:56 PM
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It can be hard! My ex swiped right on me on a dating app and I go back and forth between matching or not. Half of me is curious and sort of misses him a little. The other half is saying "he dumped you and should stay in the past. if he wanted to reach out, he could do it another way".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:56 AM
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Can confirm, as a chick. It allows me to not even let my mind wander into the romantic aspect and not worry that I'm going to be tricked. I can respect it and feel more comfortable, especially if he's willing to go at my pace and not pressure me to do anything I'm uncomfortable with. And like you said, it's very rare, so it stands out. I would say the woman needs to be attracted to you at least somewhat for this to work, but if you handle it wrong, it could kill any attraction she had.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:56 AM
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Exactly. I don’t think I’ve ever thought about how much a man makes when considering if I want to date him. I also enjoy sex. I don’t do it as a transactional treat for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 01:19 PM
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I feel this! I too was a late bloomer. I think two dudes liked me in high school but I wasn't keen on them. Suddenly in college (and beyond) I seemed to start attracting guys left and right and the attention was addicting because I had never received it before. I would do things I wasn't comfortable with or try to be the cool girl. Which left me dumped. I'm better about it now. I'm testing myself now it seems. This really smooth Latino guy at work is extremely thirsty over me and I mean...I feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:29 PM
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