stillemptyinside Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	Just signed		stillemptyinside	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/25 11:41 PM
16	Divorcing an abuser		stillemptyinside	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/25 09:00 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Just signed We'll find out. My understanding of uncontested divorces is that they mostly rubber stamp the agreement. My attorney said a lot of divorce settlements that get approved are not legally sound. So, the judge (at least here in Oregon) doesn't verify the legality of the agreement. Obviously, IANAL, so this is just what I've heard.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/25 01:55 PM
2	Just signed 8 years 😢 (Could have been much worse)	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/25 05:46 AM
2	Just signed Yeah, been a wild ride for the past year. Two more years of co-parenting, then I don't have to see her. (Just pay her monthly)	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/25 01:14 AM
1	Just signed Thanks, brother!	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/25 01:13 AM
2	Divorcing an abuser I really appreciate your comment. You put a lot of details here for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/25 05:58 PM
1	Divorcing an abuser Yeah, you are probably correct. I don't think she will confess, she believes she was entitled to abuse me. (She is a narcissist with no remorse)	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/25 05:57 PM
1	Divorcing an abuser I get your point. The money wasn't spent for that. It happened while we were "together". We were saving up to buy a property and she spent it on herself and her friends to take vacations. I tried to get her to stop, but she spent any money we had. That's why it seems like financial abuse. But I guess the court wouldn't care.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/25 01:49 AM
2	Divorcing an abuser Point taken! Thanks for coming in with a real world example.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/25 01:42 AM
2	Divorcing an abuser I think they do take domestic abuse seriously… but only in the case that the person makes less money than the other one. There are no real precedents for the opposite.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/25 09:32 PM
3	Divorcing an abuser So far we’ve been trying to settle outside of court. It may seem weird that I am realizing my abuse now… but it takes awhile for the Stockholm syndrome to wear off and for some of the PTSD to dissipate.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/25 09:30 PM
1	Divorcing an abuser Oregon is a no-fault state… so I don’t think that is an option anyway. Yeah, I think everything will be hard to prove. She was careful in her abuse when outside the home. She was abusive in front of family and friends, but no one will take a side. (She is a narcissist / sociopath so other people thing she is a “nice” person) The finance one is the only one I might be able to have hard evidence for. She blew $100k over 4 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/25 09:27 PM