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Quite possibly. I don't want to have sex with the women that would have casual sex with me. I'm OK with that. I'm not currently willing to put forth the effort necessary to have a relationship with a woman I do want to have sex with. I'm OK with that also. I believe your original statement is correct in my case. I don't think I learned anything though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:32 AM
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Well go do that stuff then. Nobody is stopping you. There are some women who are in to that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:43 AM
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Meh. Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 02:59 AM
1

Had they said "Replica A-Team Van", I woulda got it. I don't think I would enjoy driving a Ferrari. Fast cars just don't do it for me. I'll go back to scrolling chubby goth chicks now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 04:51 PM
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If they're doing that for a sex transaction, no sympathy. Nobody is making them do that. I'm 42 though. You don't do that blindly at my age. There are women that I find attractive that would date me. I'm not dating them because I do not want to take on that set of challenges for any of the ones that currently would date me. You're not a slave to pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:33 PM
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Maybe we'll evolve into those fish where the male is tiny and just attaches to a female just to provide semen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:07 PM
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That's a fair statement. I don't break it down as seeing the person as a commodity. I see it more like hiring someone to do something the person can't do for themselves. Like hiring a mover or a plumber. They're all selling their bodies. I have also never been in a position where I ever considered hiring a prostitute though. At 41, I've also never hired a plumber or mover either. I'd honestly just rather jerk off than whatever mess is involved with hiring someone. I think people forget that it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:20 PM
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Religion has always been used for control. This is not a complete incel sub, but it can lean that way. IDGAF what any of you do. I've dated two women who drank too much and that's a never again. You will never be more important to someone than their Religion or their chemicals.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:14 PM
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Yes, a bunch of times. I was asked if I was gay several times. I was once told that she would say I tried to rape her. I was told men don't say no to sex. Most of the times though, nothing weird happened and if it was a girl I was potentially interested in dating, they took it as rejection and were no longer interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:21 AM
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I definitely do not want them passed on. What makes any of you think that you're so great? I don't believe this line needs to keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:15 AM
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Oh, I did a bit of raising siblings. I've been ready to not have kids since I was about 6yrs old.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:07 AM
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Except for two of them for sure. Anyone else, I'd answer the messages. Two of them I wish I'd never met and would politely and effectively exit the situation if I encountered them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:57 AM
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It all depends on what "Passport Bros" means to you. A guy going to find a wife and have a relatively normal monogamous life and such isn't really anything too many people would take issue with. I assumed we were talking about guys going to Thailand, going to brothels, and selecting a woman to have sex with at $30 a pop. I knew a guy who did that for about a month. Not specifically for that. Went scuba diving, toured on a rented scooter, saw the country, bought 15 hookers. That's more what I tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:46 AM
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Well yes its better and ideal. That is if both parents are functional though. If one or both parents are not functional or completely mental, then anything else is better for the kids. No kid out there doesn't want two functional parents. Unfortunately very bad parents still have children and sometimes think they're very good parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:28 AM
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All people are different. Some share similarities. I knew a guy who would rather be married with a wife and kids. I wouldn't. That didn't happen for him. Probably his own fault. He went to Thailand and fucked hookers. I wouldn't do that. He would. We're different people. I don't think he would care much if his wife was attracted to him if she had sex with him. I would think everyone would have to prefer it. I have dated women who were very attracted to me. It's way better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 05:27 AM
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What are you doing to yourself man? Where did all this come from? I feel like somewhere you got a bad set of instructions on how life works and are just hammering through it trying to smash the puzzle pieces in place. If you did smash a piece in place, and find a woman to be in a relationship with, would you even love her or is she just your preconceived idea of the role a woman should be. If the gender was flipped, I would see red flags everywhere, think you were chronically depressed, and not …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:01 PM
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I don't think you worded your statements very well for a debate of anything. You just stated things that you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:29 AM
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My buddy went on a drunk rant about that at his superbowl party. Something about all these women want is money. I said "Why is it that money is the only thing you have to offer a woman." It was a mic drop. One of his female coworkers high five me. He went and ordered a hooker later that night. He's back towards reality now. Everything is good. Pretty sure he's still smashing bar trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:06 PM
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That's where I'm at. I have no doubt I could date or be in a relationship with someone. I'm not looking for a second set of problems right now. Maybe later.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:11 AM
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Right. So be honest and don't get laid that much. You will see a few of the women that turn it down, go for some dude that will spin some bullshit, and then be single again after he cheats or leaves. You will think "I could have done that and got laid for a few months", but you didn't. You get to make the right decisions and know that you never took advantage of a drunk girl, or lied or manipulated to get laid. You could always find a fwb who's down, fall in love with her and then get heartbroke…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 09:04 AM
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Honesty is the best, and most moral way to go about it. Being a piece of shit will get you a lot more sex though. I've slept with 19 women in 20yrs. My former best friend was over 1000 by our late 20's. He has almost nothing for morals when getting laid is possible. You can guess why we're not friends anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:43 AM
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Dunno. Ask that guy who is posted in r/mesaaz holding a sign about women being property. He probably knows the answer. Edit:This guy. Ask him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:01 AM
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Yeah nothing wrong with trying to understand shit. This thread really let's you know how closed minded people are here. There is a commonly referenced video where a porn star attempts to explain how to make a woman orgasm, and here is a debate thread regarding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:06 AM
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I think I understand where you're going here. It makes sense to understand women and what gets them off, what it feels like to them, the psychology behind it and all that, all in order to try to have a happy healthy relationship. You're not going to learn that through your asshole. Men have a prostate and women don't. It's often mostly clitoral stimulation. Learn how to go down on a woman. Most of them like it. There are those that don't. Not all women are the same to begin with, and like differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:18 PM
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AI will just assign you someone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 11:32 PM
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Low self esteem. Savior complex. History of receiving emotional neglect and abuse. He may think he's finally got his life together enough that he can make a relationship work like he previously couldn't. He may think the work he's put into himself is finally paying off. Might just have a crush on you and he's picked you as the one he wants, based on the fictional version of you that he's made up in his head. To you, you're a 5.5, to the world you're a 6.5, but to him you're a 9 and he doesn't ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:04 AM
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Ideally, the planet should only have about 30 million people at most. 2000yrs ago there were 190 million. 100yrs ago there were 2 billion. That has quadrupled to 8 billion in 100yrs. The reality is that probably nobody reading this should be having children. Probably nobody reading this should have been born. Say the ideal human population is 2 million. We have 8 billion. Are any of you in the top 0.025%? I'm doubtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 10:44 PM
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I know four guys who have told me they've used prostitutes. 100% of those guys used prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:27 AM
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Not living with your parents is always better for dating. Women can want me to be 6' and making 100K, but I'm not. They can date someone who is if they can. It isn't weird to be under 6' or make less than 100K. I think your question was answered at 25. Ideally someone would be out by then, but it doesn't always happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:55 AM
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I have dated both of those. On medication was definitely better, but the medication did not solve the problems. Those problems were still there and ended the relationship. On meds is better than Off meds Deunk and high off meds is worse than those, but not needing medication is always going to be the best option. I'm just not on the level where I can click with that level of functional, so someone on meds is an option for me. The drunk or off meds is decidedly not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:13 PM
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"Did you know that 25% of US women are on some kind of psychiatric medication? That's terrifying. That means 3 out of 4 women are just running around out there completely unmedicated!" Being on psych meds is a red flag. Something went wrong. Not being on psychiatric meds when you should be is a red flag x10.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:39 AM
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They'll change when vasectomies are free and fully reversible. Accidental kids won't be a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:31 AM
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You're wrong about the last part. Poor people with a lack of access to family planning and education are always going to keep breeding. Go to any trailer park or housing project anywhere. They have nothing to lose. The survival rate isn't going to be as high, but they'll keep having them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:26 AM
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But she is travel-o-holic and no to offspring. Perfect?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 08:48 AM
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Then what accounts for the women who date broke ass dudes that offer nothing? I think it's just a lack of middle ground. You could say that men who are willing to do more than 50% are just simping or just in it to get laid and breed and the reason women are like this is because men made them this way. You could say all kinds of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:07 AM
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That's not even possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:51 AM
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It could definitely do better, but going underground would be worse. With most of it coming from onlyfans, at least the participants are getting more of a cut for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:32 AM
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I think you're right. TBH, in the US, we need a public education system that has people career ready at 18 if they need to be. I don't buy that they're not physically mature enough to be an adult at 18. We just don't teach these kids reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:31 AM
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You could maybe make it illegal to sell. Not every country is going to make it illegal to produce. Can't think of a time that I've bought porn anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:11 AM
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So people are getting their doors kicked in and being incarcerated for downloading porn on utorrent in this scenario? Sketchy dudes at gas stations selling flash drives of unregulated basement sex tapes of women who might be trap house meth hoes? I think a regulated industry is far better than an unregulated one and feeding the private prison system.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 03:09 AM
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TBH, waiting was a waste for me. Dunno what tour experience will be, but I hope it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:30 AM
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I mean, that's gross, but how do those stats of college age men being willing to fuck grandma's have anything to do with my (40m) chances of finding a healthy monogamous relationship? The fact that any woman that I'm willing to date can find an NSA hookup if she wants? That's always been the case. If I'm not worth not banging random dudes, then I don't want it anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 11:53 PM
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I suggest you don't get married. I think any guy who attempted to marry you, would have no room for error. It also sounds like you don't really want one. I say stay single. I also don't want to get married though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 07:29 AM
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So don't. I'm 40 this month and didn't. I've seen far more bad ones than good ones. I'll pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:23 PM
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Well yeah. They died in battle, were prisoners of war, were enslaved or just died of natural selection. If your argument is that men who arn't reproducing are surviving to adulthood, then yes. Even with that, the men who could had a lot of children and most of them died. Regardless of the reasons, it has always been that women are more likely to reproduce than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:39 PM
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You have more female ancestors than male ancestors by a lot. It's always been that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:20 PM
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It's a free market economy. People do whatever they want. I don't know why people don't get that. It sucks to be on the losing end of anything. Everyone wants what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:39 PM
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All your shit is wack.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:01 PM
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Same and did. She's cool. Does tarot readings. Fun to hang out with. Wouldn't date her ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:15 PM
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The hookup culture is bad for both genders Is it, or should these people just not get married and have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:45 PM
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I have had two pretty bad relationships in my life. I am much happier single than in either of those relationships. Not as happy as I was in other relationships, but I'm decent looking, with a house, a job and a car. If I wanted to go on a date this weekend I could. Probably going to regrout my shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:57 PM
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It gave me stats for three different metrics I think. two were idea weight and the 3rd was a range. I forget, but at 185 I'm over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:41 PM
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I just did mine at 39m 5'9". I've been 152lbs and I looked thin. 175 when I was working out was my best weight. Edit: just did it for 27f 4'11" which was the last girl I dated. She would have looked good at 123lb, but 91lb would not have been attractive to me for her body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:56 PM
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Because you want something from them that you don't offer. You want someone who held out and waited for you, but you didn't hold out and wait for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:55 AM
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You can want whatever you want. Is it hypocrisy? Yes. Can you be a hypocrite if you want to be? Sure. Will anyone feel bad for you? No. If you shame your partner for not being a virgin when you're also not a virgin, then you're an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:11 AM
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Very true, and I check most or all of those boxes. You have to be introspective about yourself though. Sounds like you date a lot. If that works for you, cool. If it works for the people you date, cool. A lot of people would see that as less than functional or possibly emotionally detached. Do you have your own theories on why you are the way that you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:30 AM
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I think it doesn't hurt it as much as a man, if you want to date single moms. There are more of them. Share the parenting. Already raising one kid, might as well raise two kids with help.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:49 PM
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Sure. I'm well out of my prime though at 39, and didn't even want to date a 27yo recently, because we just had nothing in common. I'd have been all about that girl when I was 27 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:40 PM
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Guys who have the ability to get a lot of partners are going to pick and choose what they want. Same with women. If your guy has a high count, can easily replace you, and judges you for his own double standard, why are you even fucking with that guy? There are tons of guys out there. If you want a guy like that, then go for it. Everyone else wanted to fuck him too, and he was down. If that guy is what you want, I guess that's what you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:11 PM
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Hell yes. There are a lot of attractive women on the planet. Looks are a pass/fail system and everything else moves that line one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:05 PM
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My buddy Nate and Daniel. The blue eyed blond guy with train tattoos on his arms that worked at courtesy diner, Me, young Keanu Reeves, Robert Pattinson and Brad Pit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:12 PM
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My father was self righteous cult neglect trash who wanted so many children that he could have two soccer teams full to play each other. My mother was an idiot, but I was better off without him, so I was a frequent run away. You're talking out your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:39 PM
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Then ignore the advice. It isn't a rule. It was a statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:55 PM
2

Nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:22 PM
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Well yeah. If it hasn't happened because you're more concerned with looks, stay the course and look for mutual physical attraction. If you're more concerned with getting a girlfriend that you love, than look for that. Have female friends. Treat them all nicely. Politely friend zone any that you're definitely not interested in and see who you connect with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:03 PM
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Well there you go then. If initial physical attraction is what you require, and understand, then you're going to have to find someone who is initially physically attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:48 PM
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If you'd ever fallen in love with a woman that you were not initially attracted to, but had an awesome personality and solid self esteem, then you would know how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:48 PM
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I know what you meant. Its just a pet peeve of mine. "The original (and current) meaning of invaluable is "valuable beyond estimation"; the word describes something so precious that one cannot assign a price to it. This, clearly, is the opposite of the meaning "having no value; valueless" that the word might seem to carry." I know, and I promise I don't do this on dates, people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:23 AM
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Cool. That's a huge asset to bring to a relationship. I fucking hate doing mine. They're not even anything special.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:53 AM
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Hmm... Will you do their taxes though?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:00 AM
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I used to feel that way. After a few bad relationships where the woman moved on and I was worse for it, I just avoid that now and pass them up if I encounter it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 07:11 AM
2

Damn. I better get to the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:14 PM
2

Maybe dating you is a risk, and vergins are averse to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:17 AM
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I don't think it's intentional.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:16 AM
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All those women are relatively young and pretty. Any of them are varying degrees of attractive at this point. Their weight is only one factor. They all pass. I was completely in live with a woman who was 5'1" 165lbs probably. She was thick. I liked her. Many other women at their weight would be less likely to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:41 AM
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Not off the table at all. I'm 39m who nevet wanted his own kids or met the kids of anyone I've dated. I dated a woman with a 3yo boy for over a month earlier this year. It wasn't going to work out for various reasons, and ended. Went no contact because I was more attached than the situation called for. For scheduling reasons, and because he was only 3, I was around the kid a lot and it was really cool being a minor adult figure in his life for a minute. Kinda miss that kid and hope he's doing we…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 04:04 PM
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It would be of little relevance because it would have more to do with how I felt about the woman. I would go for the one who had a long term relationship with a lot of sex, because I would like a long term relationship with a lot of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:25 AM
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You misunderstood. I've dated two women in the last 2.5yrs. One for 3 weeks, one for five. One was only down for casual and bounced because I liked her. I was the rebound. The other was a friend of friend who had a kid, so we didn't even sleep together because it was kind of an all or nothing just see if it works out. I'm still cool with both of them but we don't hang out. In the past, I would have gone all in on either and it would have taken up to 2yrs for my house of cards to cone crashing do…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:55 PM
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Well that's possible. Probably even necessary. We were breeding exponentially. Everyone was becoming parents. Even the fully unqualified. My quality of life is just better without a woman in it. I spend money on me. Not trying to make a woman happy, that's too screwed up from previous relationships or her own mistakes to ever be happy with me. Life can be a lot happier with a women you love, but it can also be miserable. At 39, I'd just rather be boring, go on vacation 3x/yr and fund my retireme…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 06:49 AM
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It sounds easier until you make friends with gay men. They invent problems, get in feuds, cat fights, crush on straight guys, complain all the time and don't want to listen to each other. I think it's just the general mental health and social skills of the men and not if they're gay or straight. Maybe that's being friends with them as a straight man though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 09:36 PM
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Wtf is dating age? I'll tell you how it is after that age then maybe. I'm 39m single. One of my best friends is 36 or 38f. Married. Decently attractive. Knew her before she was dating her husband. 10yrs probably. I was an usher at their wedding. Occasionally people think it's weird that we're friends and he's so cool with it. They offered to let me stay at their place after a breakup, and when I had an arm injury. I went to a concert with the husband once. otherwise we've never hung out just me …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:39 AM
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no. people who could otherwise not even survive, are having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:18 AM
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I don't think that's as much of an issue. Dont know her circumstances. It's if he dies in 10yrs. His estate, if he has any, might not go far or any to her. Hopefully he's contributing the 6.5K annual max to her roth IRA so she's got something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:39 AM
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If the man does all the earning, and funds a comfortable lifestyle for a woman who wants to raise children and not work outside the home, that probably works for a lot of women. That may not be commonly what they get, and I don't want that relationship, but there are those that want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 05:05 PM
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I came from a very isolated, cultish, somewhat misogynist environment and had very poor social skills. I don't think anyone really knows how to have a functional adult relationship right out of the gate unless they've been around them. I had to get out of my comfort zone a lot. Learn how to have a good time. Not have to control everything. Not be afraid of what I don't know. Stop being possessive, and just build a good relationship where I'm not sacrificing myself for some future goal that might…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:38 PM
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Different strokes for different folks. Some of them probably think they'll be more likely to be judged, some prefer inexperienced guys. The quote I hear is " I want a boyfriend, I just don't want to train one". Relationships are a learned skill in my opinion. I didn't know what I was doing in my 20's. I owe a lot to the women who dated me then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:35 PM
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I'm 39m, and agree. At this stage in my life, I'm more concerned with funding my retirement and improving my quality of life than I am with dating. I'll get around to it if I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 05:27 PM
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Tell the woman "If you have this baby, you're on your own, other than what the state makes me do, because I don't want the baby." That already happens. This is a non-post.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:45 AM
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If it is anything other than her making her own decision, then that's what we are talking about. What method of encouragement did you have in mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:33 AM
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This is written like a 16yo boy. The only difference between "encouraged" and "forced" is the strenght of the will of the woman saying no. This is not a new idea. Eventually there will be male birth control, but not yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:04 AM
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I completely agree. This is why I am single. Life is more fun with a girlfriend, but it's also more difficult. Also I don't want kids, and am good with dying alone. I think creating people so that you don't have to die alone is selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:07 AM
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His argument is that if too many men treat women decently, there won't be any left who will let him use them. This guy wants to be a chad, but doesn't have the skill set.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 01:18 PM
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I've definitely known guys like that. I think a lot of their issues are because they don't have female friends, so they don't have much of an understanding of how to be around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 03:26 AM
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I would never refer to someone as "recreational use". That's just saying you're using a person. As far as would it change my opinion if she didn't want to hook up immediately? No. I would date her if I wanted to date her, and not date her if I didn't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:50 AM
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I mean that's legit. I wouldn't do them, but let people know the score
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:21 AM
0

I'm the opposite there. Yes to all except #8. I think it's the catty expression or the blonde highlights. Just not my style at all. That just comes down to personal preference though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:18 AM
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And life with a bad gf is the worst. This is the thing. I have been down those roads. I'm not in a desperation mindset. Any woman is going to have to be an upgrade from what I have going. I'd rather pay my house off in a couple years than get laid for a couple years and maybe be miserable. If it was my priority, I could have a decent looking girlfriend. It's just not the highest priority at the moment and I know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:32 AM
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lol, maybe a few. It's more that they are hella damaged from previous relationships and their own bad life choices. Life with a girlfriend can be a lot more fun. Life without one is just a lot easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:10 PM
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It's a more difficult second job that isn't worth it in that case. It's still going to be work though and when both people are into each other it's something you'll like doing. Just my opinion. My ex did a lot of work planning and organizing my social life. I did a lot to help her with all kinds of dude related things. It was great. We balanced each other well. Other than the paranoid mental breakdowns every 2 to 6 weeks that would last hours or days, it was a great relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:55 PM
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lol. Some chick said something like. If I tell guys what I'm looking for, they're just going to pretend to be that until we're in a relationship and then I find out what they are. I'd rather they just be themselves and I find one I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:49 PM
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There are women who would date me. I just don't want to date them. Same the other way. Do you understand how relationships work, and the level of work involved? It's a second job, so you better enjoy it and like your coworker. If you use dating apps and the effort you put in is wasted if you don't get the outcome you want, than it's going to go bad. Enjoy the process and get better at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:47 PM
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despite she not being chaste herself I used to be very judgemental from the morman/catholic bs I grew up with. Really fucked me over on dating in my 20's. Not interested in chaste.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:39 PM
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For real. I'm 39. If a women I date hasn't been having sex, it's because she doesn't like to. Also, I didn't know her back then, so the past is take it or leave it. If she's attractive and wants to have sex with me, I'm going to weigh the pros and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:35 PM
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I was unaware how difficult it was for women until a female friend showed me. She was a decent blond who drank a bit much. She would download tinder on Monday and swipe. Get blown up with messages. Sift through bullshit and talk to guys Tuesday and Wednesday. She would delete the app on Thursday and text with 4 or 5 guys. Schedule a date for Friday night and one for Saturday night. Either something bad would come up in conversation or a guy would flake and she would usually get one, but sometime…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 01:05 AM
1

I would have only been laid twice if this was true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:04 PM
2

Agree. That's what I was going to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:00 AM
2

I used to view them as above equal. I will admit that my ideals have now shifted more towards equality. I now subscribe to the slipknot philosophy of people = shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:21 AM
1

It's a numbers game I'm told. Women will talk about dumb shit they did when they had no standards, went through a breakup or just wanted to get laid. That's the one they're looking for. Try 100 times and it will probably work once. I knew a guy who did that. Slept with over 1000 women. Probably sexually harassed untold.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:32 AM
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Start by volunteering at big brothers/big sisters. There are a ton of kids that don't have dads. You will get to have a positive impact on a kids life and learn about how to raise a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:55 AM
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There is a large enough group of women who get off on that sort of thing. Probably not relationship material, but they will take that shit. I dated a girl who was all about dating inexperienced guys. She's a vice principal now. She was all about being a teacher.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:58 AM
2

Gotcha. Yeah I'm for both. Definetly should be age restrictions on content though. All that shit can be 18+
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:27 AM
2

I'm too old to understand what any of this is about. Can I get an ELI5? or in this case 38?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:11 AM
1

Earlier in life I was going for the first one and only wanted that. At 38, having not made that happen, I'll definetly take the second choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 07:14 AM
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If you marry a woman who doesn't want kids, but you want kids, it doesn't make you alpha or beta, disrespected or not. It just makes you an idiot. Someones decision on wanting kids or not has nothing to do with their respect for their partner. Its a personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:44 AM
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I think that a lot of the men here are probably resentful that they have been unsuccessful, therefore having a low count. They want someone with a similarly low count. I had a very judgemental/religious upbringing and turned it down a lot when I was younger. If I had it to do over, I certainly would have a much higher number. Accepting that my low number as a man means very little, was difficult, but it is what it is. I would put high as double mine, and low at half mine. I have only twice dated…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:07 AM
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I agree that there should be a regulated sex industry in the US. I'm still not going to use it. I'd rather go for individual happiness and have no kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:31 AM
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Not enough prostitutes. Everyone would just have herpes. Condoms break. Also, most men do not want to have sex with prostitutes. Part of having a relationship is figuring out if you are compatible with that person for long term. You don't just fuck random prostitutes and then buy a wife at the store if you decide you want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:14 AM
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I don't think that's realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:45 AM
4

If there were no STD's or unplanned pregnancies, you might be on to something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:09 AM
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Yeah, I've done that also. It would make sense if we had flair tags for genders but thats not a popular subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:52 AM
1

I would feel differently, but not more or less cheated on. If it was a dude, then I got beat on the same playing field. If it was a woman, than I got beat at a game I'm not going to have the same equipment to play. I'm not a jealous person, but if it was nailed down as a monogamous relationship, then the monogamous part is over then and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:47 AM
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Yeah, that was my buddy J.R. He was in great shape and learned how to dance, and would just play the numbers and hit on everything. He practiced that skill though, and had no fear of rejection or offending or harassing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:47 AM
1

If I'm doing all the prep work, like having a functional life, staying in shape, self care, hygiene, doing well at work, maintaining friendships, and am in a good mood, happy, and less concerned with any specific woman, I do far better at dating. That's because all the groundwork is done, and that is work. For some guys, they are just born into money, are tall or attractive, had a happy home life, etc, this work is already done. Other people have to work harder. Most of the work of dating is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:25 AM
1

Here to study the human condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:41 AM
10

Do whatever the fuck you want. Don't get pregnant or std's. Put yourself in a financial position that doesn't require a man so you don't end up dependent on one, and have a choice. Go have fun, so that you know what fun is and what it isn't. If you want to hook up with randos, then do it, but don't do it just to do it. What is this womans life plan? Does she want a ring and 3 kids by 30? Does she want a condo by the ocean when she's 40? Doing what some incel wants her to do shouldn't be on the l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:01 AM
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Maybe its amazing that he doesn't care? At least she likes to fuck. I'm not having kids reguardless of how many dicks she's had. Maybe just don't impregnate a woman you don't want. Maybe have better social skills and just be the 30 dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:39 AM
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I'd argue its not worth it for either. You could, but why? Shits never going to be the same. Just make it an open relationship or quit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:29 AM
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This sounds like it was written by a teenager. I definitely don't recommend getting married. That's me though. Just get snipped and live your life. You shouldn't have children anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 10:30 AM
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Now that you're aware of what is going on, you have to ask yourself why you are letting it continue. Its better for both of you to end the friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:45 AM
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If Nate went through "conversation therapy" in the church, and is now engaged to a woman, as that is gods will, it makes a lot more sense. Guess you won't know until she turns the sex on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:20 PM
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I followed this sub strictly for entertainment and hope everyone else does also.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:34 PM
2

Every other time I see this sub, ya'll have a new acronym or abbreviation that I don't know. There should be a glossary for you guys. Edit: googling "BB dating meaning" gets you "best before" or "bareback".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:51 PM
1

Well yeah. This guy is acting like its an imminent death sentence. If she doesn't manage it I guess it is possibly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:53 PM
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Mentally ill? Yeah, I've done that a bunch, lol. As for diabetic, sure. I'm not trying to have kids anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:27 PM
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You have to take into account that the men saying this have poor social skills, and anything but an altruistic outlook. Yes, for these men, unattractive women may be the only ones willing to put up with them to just not be alone. I have dated women that were objectively less attractive than me. They had bomb ass personalities, were fun to be around, and had no trouble finding men willing to date them. I habe dated women that I thought were more attractive than me. They were often problematic, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:54 PM
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Their solution is to validate themselves on why life is specifically unfair to them. Doesn't even matter who we're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:39 PM
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"We're off to find the mythical clitoris!"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:02 AM
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Taking care of yourself is attractive to women. There is definitely a point where adding additional muscle won't make much difference or even be less attractive. Being overweight isn't a death sentence to dating, but if you can't control your eating, what other areas do you not have in order?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:39 AM
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I think what you're missing here, is the desire to please a woman sexually, and instead have a desire to have a woman who accepts being unhappy sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:58 PM
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Never thought of it. No idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:42 PM
3

I feel an obligation to protect women from being raped. Its not because they obey me in return, its because I don't want anyone to be raped. I have a mother and a sister. Maybe that makes me biased. The idea that women who do not obey me should be allowed to be raped is completely full tilt insane to me. There surely are still places in the world where it is acceptable for women to be slaves who obey a man or are subject to rape. I see that some of those places now have access to the internet. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 10:17 AM
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At the very high end, being a man is better. This right here. Would an extremely attractive poor man or an extremely attractive poor woman have it better? Assuming you are in a first world country, don't get sex traffic'd and can make your own decisions, the poor woman is going to have it better and is far less likely to stay poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 10:41 PM
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Seems as though you've got it all sorted. If you are both happy that way, and everyone is living their best life, that might be what works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:08 PM
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"Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed." I don't think I was that far off. It seems that one person is labeled as the needy one, and the other one needs to be needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:05 PM
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That would make you a dependent in the relationship. If you are dating someone who also needs you, than you will be codependent. You may also be in a relationship that neither person actually "wants" to be in. While there are plenty of people in codependent relationships, it is not often the healthiest form of relationship, and not something people generally aspire to be in. I would rather not be with someone who needs me. I would prefer someone who wants, and chooses to be with me. If your girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:19 PM
2

You need to reread what you just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:06 PM
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Those people are speaking of an ideal situation, and that is good advice. That is not how a lot of people approach it though. If you are unhappy, you are often just dumping your issues on an unsuspecting person who will only find out about the severity of it a year in. I am dealing with some shit right now so I'm not dating. When I've dated people who had problems, I helped them with the problems, they were better, I was worse, and they broke up with me. Its better to do it the recommended way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:05 PM
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No man. I asked. I wasn't going to do it if she hadn't, and wouldn't have been talking to her if I'd known beforehand. Getting off on it seems kinda messed up. You should probably talk to a therapist about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:45 AM
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I guess you've found a new hobby. Did that once. Didn't know it when I met her, but before I had sex with her. She said she had cheated on the guy before. Never felt great about it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:29 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:04 PM
2

Dating anyone who works 70-80hrs/wk would be impossible, so yeah, that's out. I could care less about femininity as long as she is female and someone I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:15 AM
2

You may be right. It looks like the definitions I'm seeing are along those lines. "a woman who considers her job and success in her job to be very important in her life." "a woman who is devoted to pursuing a professional career." I'm totally down with that though. I would rather not have a woman who relies on me for her happiness in life. I want to be part of it, but not her only sorce of it. I would rather be a partner than a caretaker. Until my current job of the last 5 years, I had never dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:54 AM
2

I have dated women who have careers and I have dated women who do not. I prefer the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:23 AM
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Greetings!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 10:10 PM
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Oh you're on to something there. My grandmother ran two husbands to the grave, and my mother was passive to a fault after her father's death. My father was a nutjob that she enabled. I had my time with aggressive women and I'm done with that. I now only date functional independent women and they are not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 10:08 PM
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I was not saying it is a bad thing that men have to get women to like them. People no longer marry for basic survival. That is a good thing. You are trigger happy and hearing what you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 10:03 PM
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You just googled a word that you don't know the meaning of. Chivalry has more to do with battle conduct and sword fighting than how to treat a women. It also applies to noble women. Get out of here with your archaic 12th century nonsense thinking it is a guide to how to treat women well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 10:00 PM
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Rural Missouri
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:29 PM
0

In my experience, cleaning hair out of a clogged sink trap, vehicle maintenance and start the lawn mower. Now with the proper motivation and youtube they could. Also they could just call someone to do it. Its easier to just do it though. Tbh, most of the women I've dated can't even cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:28 PM
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I wouldn't want to date anyone but a career woman. I make 65K but I'm a heavy equipment mechanic, and your body can only do that so long. I don't want kids, and work for what I have. Career woman sounds great.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:19 PM
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This is the first time in history that men have to actually get a woman to like them, and she can leave him if it doesn't stay that way. The rules have changed. There is less incentive for a man to get married. You're going to have to work, do house work, raise your kids, and keep your woman happy. If you don't want that, don't have a family or get married. I don't want kids, so I don't date women who want that. There are a lot of women that are available and that I could date, but none right no…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 08:39 PM
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Nah. Relationships are a lot of work. I know several women who would date me. The relationship has to be beneficial and worth it to both parties for it to be worth having. Plenty of desirable people are single because they haven't found an ideal match that is worth it. People who get into a relationship with the best option they have at the time just to not be alone, are not people that you want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 10:27 PM
1

I didn't say it never happens. It happens a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:00 PM
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I used to be one of the kids who didn't talk much in high school, and hung out in with the skaters. Most of the girls I knew had been raped and that was when I was 17. You probably know a lot of women who have been raped. They're just not telling you about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 09:01 PM
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True, and some of this is culture. Women don't have the option of being as freely sexual as men, without repercussions. I'm not going to be slut shamed or possibly raped for going out on the town and trying to find someone to hook up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:18 PM
1

Well sure. You can also say 10 is the top 10% if you choose, then 9 is top 80-90%, then 1 is bottom 0-10%. Its the phrase "perfect 10" that is open to interpretation. This would be very objectifying if we were saying it about physical attraction, which is why were talking about the person as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 03:43 AM
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10 is the person you've found most attractive ever in life. There is only one. Everyone else is 9.99 at best. 5 is whatever is average in your age group and geographic area. For me, that is sexually attractive enough to have a relationship with if I like them. 0 is the least attractive person you've ever seen. I see the rating system as a pass/fail thing. You would either sleep with them/date them or not. I don't sleep with anyone that I know I don't want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:27 PM
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This is an interesting question. I believe dating is essentially a free market economy. I think at best people will get feedback they don't want on what isn't working. I also think there will be a bit of "I am handicapped by being too respectful of women, and not taking chances of offending them, where douche bags don't care about that and get laid all the time". I used to be resentful of that. Why can't woman see that I'm a better choice? The fact is that a lot did, but I lacked the social skil…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:47 PM
2

I've definitely seen attractive women support deadbeat men. It seems to be due to trauma and daddy issues. It does not work out well for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:53 PM
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Less attractive to many women, sure. Shoes or surgery. A complete lack of self confidence, a defeatist mindset and being a perpetual victim are far bigger hurtles than being short. Get over those first, then worry about height. I've known many short, working class guys with smoking hot women. They were always fun happy guys with great social skills that treated their women well. Its like fat girls with a great personality. People make up for their deficits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:42 AM
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Yes. Absolutely. Skinny doesn't mean attractive. You have eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:03 PM
2

It increases your likelihood of being able to if you are on good terms still. If they did not like it, then probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:40 PM
1

I think the difference in our opinions is that I don't think makeup improves a womans appearance. If it flawlessly made them look better without anyone knowing they wore makeup, then men could do it to. Society is not what stops me from wearing makeup. I don't want to. I don't want the women I date to wear it either, but if they like it, that's their choice. Doesn't ever make them look better, just looks like they have makeup on. Go ahead and wear makeup. Nobody is stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:43 AM
1

Do your women only date 7' tall men on tinder then? Do men there also commonly complain that nobody will date them because they're not tall enough then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:26 AM
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Some people are taller and some people are shorter. I have no interest in women who won't date me because of my height. If I was tall, I would still have no interest in women who only dated me for my height, but I wouldn't be able to tell. 14.5% of US males are 6' or over. I'm sorry that you're not in the top 14.5% so you can date shallow women who don't actually like you. Also, makeup isn't fooling anyone. I prefer not to date women who are into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:18 AM
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If its someone's preference that you look that way, or you just like to look that way, then it is the correct uniform to wear. It is not something that I ever got used to, so I prefer the point in a relationship where they stop doing it every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 05:52 AM
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I have definitely seen that type of stuff, and rarely the height requirement. Might be that I'm in my late 30's though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:45 AM
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Makeup does not create an illusion as much as you think it does. Where I grew up, women didn't wear makeup. It just looks like a woman with makeup on. When I present myself as a functional organized man, there's your illusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:41 AM
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If you're saying that women can cheat at looks by wearing makeup, then men can cheat at looks by dressing and grooming themselves well also. When I brush and style my hair, wear contacts and dress well, girls talk to me. When I don't, I'm a long haired neck beard with glasses that are repaired with a twist tie. I go from Billy Hargrove to Silent Bob real fast. I'm definetly not spending 30 minutes to get ready every time I leave the house, and I'm going to wear clothes right out of the hamper mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:12 AM
2

I'm getting why you're not having any luck with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 05:44 AM
2

You clearly have not seen two partnered gay men get into an arguement. There was no turning that shit off. Neither played silent. They were kinda both queens though. We've got a shitload of humans on this planet and its still increasing. There were less than half a billion people on the planet in 1500, and now there are almost 8 billion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:40 AM
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Hell yeah. Two of my best friends are women that I never dated. They're awesome. Both have since met and married dudes that are cool AF. Great guys. Of course I do know some of their relationship drama, but I'm not involved in any of it. Thats Chris and Jesse's problem. Its only when I have sex with a woman that I'm responsible for all their problems and they are difficult to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:29 AM
1

Alright, I'll bite. What does CAP mean in this language?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:48 PM
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Have you witnessed the social skills of the incels on here? Some of them are completely delusional. Women don't want to be stalked and murdered or be anyones sex slave. Most of these guys are simply angry they don't get sex without doing work to improve themselves, gain empathy or improve social skills. People either make your life better or worse. Some make it worse, leave them with further trauma, and don't go away. That's what they're afraid of. It's a risk vs. reward scenario. Most of the gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:30 PM
3

My leading option is not date, do whatever I want and have expendable income. Its my favorite option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:23 AM
1

I don't even take the decent options that are thrown at me. Kids/herpes/mental issues/ex issues, I'm out. They are all hot, but I'm a king and I know my worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:21 AM
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My Dad never paid shit on 4 kids. My mom didn't go after him for it though. He's not much of a worker, so she didn't see any point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:12 AM
1

Public transportation mechanic. 99.66% male, however we do interact with drivers on a regular basis, and the company as a whole is probably 55% male.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:21 AM
10

Calling women garbage will get you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 07:41 AM
1

How is this possible? There are roughly the same number of males and females of our species?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:36 AM
1

Are there more single men than single women all of a sudden?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:59 AM
1

Sure. The second category you mention are often the more motivated reproducers who want to populate the world though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:32 PM
5

I have more respect for guys who raise other peoples kids, than the guys who make more of them. Wouldn't bother me at all. I had a father who wanted as many kids as my mom would let him have. I've never understood breeders. You have to really be searching for validation to think you are special enough to create a lot of children. The reason I'm unlikely to is purely financial. I don't want the financial burden of children reguardless. I grew up dirt poor and not going back. I make above median, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 07:56 PM
8

Thank you. I appreciate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:53 PM
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I'm not "the catch", and anyone who refers to themselves as an "alpha" is probably their own red flag. I'll get the ball rolling though. I am a pretty good catch. I bring my emotional maturity. I'm confident but not arrogant. I'm secure with myself. I have no desire to manipulate anyone. I don't mind "rejection" at all. If she thinks we're not a good match, then we're not. If I don't think we're a good match, then I'm not going to try to get laid anyways. Also, I'll wear a wristwatch, so I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 09:57 AM
3

Well, I was raised a bit different. I wasn't allowed to have my girlfriend over with the door closed when I was 20, and was told she had to sleep on the couch if she stayed over. She lived an hour and a half away. There was a lot of religious judgment of women's virtue or whatever. All four of us are 30 to 40 with no kids, and it is unlikely anyone intends to habe any. I would say it worked very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:17 AM
1

"1 in 6 Filipino girls are married before they are 18 years old or the legal age of majority." Yes, if women are our slaves and have no rights, then they will be less likely to cheat on us, because we can murder them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:00 AM
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The only way for a man to be sure to not have a child is to not have sexual intercourse with a woman. That is just how it is. I have turned down plenty of sex because of the risk of having a child. More sex than I've had honestly. If a child is a results, you are responsible for half of the cost of the child, as you should be. Unfortunately you can not have an abortion on yourself to terminate the pregnancy. I suggest you remain celibate, have a vasectomy, or only have sex with men. Having sex w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:23 AM
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I'm not traditional whatsoever, but I'm a guy, so I just pay it. Its a cultural thing here in the US, and probably everywhere else. I will say that I do ok and have a low cost of living, so its not something I have to budget. I will notice if the woman doesn't offer to pay or split it, and will take that into account. If she offers to pay, I'll say "its ok, I've got it". If she says anything after that, then we do that. Its customary for women to offer to pay, or split, and you pay anyways. If t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 07:58 AM
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My buddy got a divorce because of his wifes shopping problem. He earned about 65K/yr and she was maybe 25K. Paying child support and alimony with split custody was way cheaper and kept the debt from climbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:14 AM
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That guy has a drinking problem. I would assume OP is talking about a functional marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:08 AM
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I've been in that one. It mattered that everyone she knew thought I was attractive. They did. It didn't matter who I was. It was toxic as fuck. Stay away from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:04 AM
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Anyone spending hours a day watching porn has a serious problem. I don't think that is common. If you are in a relationship where you could be putting that effort into having sex with your partner, then porn can definetly be a problem. If you're single and hitting the gym already, porn sometimes stops me from going for sex I will regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:23 AM
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If dating apps banned attractive people it would be called Plenty of Fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:15 PM
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"My ex had a similar routine, but with a lot higher numbers. Its a good start though. He's also in a band and rides a motorcycle."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 09:00 AM
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The more I have my shit together, the less interested I am in women who don't, and dating in general. I have a decent career, own my house and have an 800+ credit score. I wouldn't be willing to take on the problems that women I've previously dated have. I wouldn't be able to stay in shape and eat healthy as easily. Women can be great, but often at incredible cost, and I'm not just speaking financially. Not dating isn't the worst option for me. It would take a pretty decent offer to change my ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:08 AM
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Only just found out there was a name for that. I think most woman who have them are generally in good shape, otherwise there would be too much fat for them to be visible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:14 AM
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There are concerns, but there is also free will (allegedly) for people to do whatever they want, and people are going to do whatever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:27 AM
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Its a psychological thing for people. My dad said it was a form of immortality. A way of staying in the written history. I see it as insecurity. People who don't know what else to do with their lives have children. It is written in our evolution to want to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:41 AM
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I can say no for a fact. I've been in that exact situation with at least three different girls and it was a no every time. In all three situations, a girl threw it at me while inebriated on the way to her or my place. Was obviously too drunk, and probably wouldn't even know if anything happened. I like knowing that I'm not a rapist. I do know two guys who definitely can't say that for sure, and we're not friends anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:54 PM
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Depends on if they are a good person or not. If its better for me that we don't, then we don't. If its better for them that we don't, then we don't. There are none that I am in regular contact with, three that I have had friendly correspondence with in the last several years, and only two that would be a hell no, never.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:44 AM
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I agree with that. I could afford a stay at home wife if she took care of things and wasn't expensive. I could do that on 65K/yr where I live. I'd rather date a career woman that is ambitious. That's just what I prefer. I don't want someone to be dependent on me. I would rather they were with me by choice, and had the resources to leave if they wanted to. Having someone stay with me, just because I was providing for them, would suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:57 AM
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A lot. If you're in shape, not smoking, not drinking too much, and generally take care of yourself, you do a lot better. There are still options out there, but I'd rather have myself together and date people who have themselves together also.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 02:55 AM
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They are all dopamine addictions. Overeaters Anonymous uses the same book that AA does. All you have to do to quit drinking, is stop drinking alcohol, which you don't need to survive. Said that way, it sounds simple. Managing eating disorders is not more or less difficult than managing other addictions, and is approached similarly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:17 AM
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I'm 5'8" and avoid women who care about my height. Most of them do not care. I used to avoid dating women taller than me, because I thought they all cared, but that was my problem to get over. I also asked one why she wore heels, when she was already tall. She was mildly upset because she just likes to wear them, and is self conscious about doing it because she is maybe 5'11". Evidently I was doing the same thing that I don't like, and I was the dick. Never occurred to me. I like that some women…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:54 AM
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Yeah, I did read it. I used to kind of fall along the incel lines because I was homeschooled and got a lot of misogynist Ideas from my bible reading Amish idolizing father, so I do get the point you are making. It does come across as trying to justify the behavior though, and that is messed up. You have to remember that a desire to have sex is something you're born with. Evolution did that. Its not an addiction that goes away if you don't use it, and women and/or the universe don't and won't eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:25 AM
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Overeating is an addiction just as drinking, smoking and drug use are. Its one that is very visible and takes time to get healthy again. If the person is not making good choices with diet and exercise, it is often because they are otherwise unhappy and in my opinion is a symptom more than something that just happens. If the problem can not be addressed, then it is a deal breaker, same as if it was alcohol, cigarettes or drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 11:09 PM
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Love is a drug. I've been madly in love with women that were a terrible idea, but I probably would have done anything for. Its also a feeling that doesn't happen very often. Finding someone that you love altruistically, putting their happiness before your own, in a situation that it does not often bite you in the ass, is a lottery ticket that can't be ignored. There are people who are head over heels in love with each other. That would do it all again with each other without a second thought. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:23 AM
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200 comments, +12 upvotes. I believe you are correct though. I used to do ok with OLD. Last run was definitely worse. I'm a mechanic, and don't work with women, but most of my dating has been through extracurricular activities or friends. Definitely beats online. Also, don't forget, just staying single is an option. A relationship has to beat the already good life I have. They arn't setting the bar, I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 02:31 AM
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I only know one girl who did this. She was 18 with borderline personality disorder and it was evidently a phase. She is attractive. She said that she would try to talk to guys and usually would kind of get brushed off. It is very possible that her behavior seemed unusual to them, and they were just there to work out. There absolutely are guys who will flirt with or even harass woman at the gym, but most of us know that they are there to work out, will maybe look, but leave them alone. I'd rather…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:16 PM
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Life is the ultimate RPG
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:41 PM
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Its a free market economy. That's like saying sober girls are ruining the dating market. Why would I date woman who show up drunk and puke on my shoes when I can just not have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:56 AM
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My buddy is red pill. Previously, he was in an on again, off again relationship with a chick that didn't really have her shit together, he had a sporadic drinking problem, but they fucked all the time. Now, he dates older women because they are less drama, sometimes fucks prostitutes, and has a sporadic drinking problem, but works more hours and does better financially. For him it was probably a slight improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:16 PM
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Could, probably. Not very high on priority though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:25 AM
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I feel ya dude. Haven't been on a date in a year because of this. I have expendable income, most of which goes toward investments. I can buy what I want. Do what i want. Its predictable, pleasant and maybe a little boring. There is no drunken chaos. No being accused of cheating every few weeks. No being lied to. No cleaning a litter box. No fixing things and buying things for someone who resents you for not being weed and alcohol. That's not one specifically. Dating is more interesting, but sinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:55 PM
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I do believe that is the response that you would have gotten. This guy was there primarily to play tennis. If you end up talking to a girl and get the impression she'd be down to go out, then you ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 10:42 PM
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oof. To the tune of two years and about 10K im guessing, but yeah, it sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 10:14 PM
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at this point I can only LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 10:08 PM
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I have not been on a date since discovering this sub. It is entirely possible that this sub has encouraged me to not date and just do other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 03:22 PM
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try to be a little less triggered
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:12 AM
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It has to be more than 2%. In my experience, its the insecure guys who lack purpose that want to populate the world with their seed. I'm guessing that a higher percentage in this subreddit want children though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:05 PM
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My guess is that BDSM DOMs are disproportionately attracted to you. Maybe its changed, but it used to be that guys were trying to get women to dominate them. They even pay a lot to pro doms. Maybe porn has changed this, but you are finding these guys, they are finding you, or regular guys feel comfortable trying it out with you. Who knows, maybe its geographic, age group or the social scene you are exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:09 AM
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No shit. Sure banging every chick I wanted to would be cool, but imagine the cost and work. That's for the people with trust funds and no careers. I buy my T-shirts in a 5 pack. They are all pretty much the same. Sure 5 different designer shirts would be nice, but these are affordable and I know they fit. I also drive a 98 subaru. It was about $900 and 10 hrs of wrenching all said, but its pretty reliable and gets me to work. Pretty fun in the snow. Sure I could buy a new Vette off the lot, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:59 AM
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Personally I would prefer "I'm not interested", followed by the reason why if there is one, so that I'm aware of what's not working. I fully understand why this is not done. I'm not going to be upset by it, and will just say, "OK, thanks for the info", but I understand that it would be met with bargaining, contempt, or other negative reactions from other guys. This was my honest answer to the question, but not something that has any practical execution.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 07:51 PM
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I would, but would not expect to compete, and therefore would not invest as much into it. I find women more attractive than men, so I don't see why she wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:24 AM
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Lawrence : Damn straight. I always wanted to do that, man. And I think if I were a millionaire I could hook that up, too; 'cause chicks dig dudes with money. Peter Gibbons : Well, not all chicks. Lawrence : Well, the type of chicks that'd double up on a dude like me do. Peter Gibbons : Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 02:11 AM
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Assuming this isn't a fake post, It is possible that he wanted you to be healthy, and it was within his power to do that, whether he got any other benefit from it or not. I have definitely done things for women that I was totally into, and also ones that I did not find attractive, just to help them out, without expecting any other return. Certainly not on that level though. They may regret it in 10 years, or have felt bad in 10 years if they hadn't. If someone I cared about was sick, and it took…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 02:04 AM
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I've been on the flip side of that. Never going there again. There is a line of dudes who will date that woman and they can have her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:07 PM
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I'm not going to stop finding other women attractive, so why should she. If it is obvious, and she does it in front of you, or the relationship isn't happy then definetly break it off. I saw that happen, she eventually broke up with me and dated that guy. I should have ended it then. It just depends on the degree of it. If one of you prefers someone else, break it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:18 PM
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Why don't ya give me ape tit for 200
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:00 PM
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Eh, let him get the girls attention. Didn't cost anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:08 AM
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Well that was my dad. He didn't let my mom work. Isolated us in a rural area. No SS numbers, homeschooled, etc. He was mostly self employed because he couldn't get along with having a boss. Made just enough to get by. Stopped working when he found out my mom was set to inherit 80K. Turns out he was raped when he was a kid, and was sent to live with a relative for a year, due to alcoholic parents. The relative rented a house from an Amish community. He decided the Amish had it figured out. Mom fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:53 PM
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This is a dude with a defeatist mindset. There are plenty of people doing more with less. I'm 36, work a trade. I don't want kids, and that has chased more women away than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:30 PM
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Women despise guys like you. I have no doubt of that. I feel sorry for a woman that thinks you're a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:04 AM
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Fuckin what? Nope. I'm single, not currently dating, and this is way better than even a mediocre relationship. I literally do whatever I want, all the time with expendable cash. I'll start dating again when I'm ready to give this up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:02 AM
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My friends George and Laura both used tinder. Both were slightly above average. George would message 100 girls, get 10 conversation, and on average one date. Laura would download tinder on Tuesday, spend Tues/Wed sifting through hundreds of solicitations and dick pics to find 8 or 10 guys who could carry a conversation. Delete the app on Thursday. If she found anyone that was interesting she would schedule a date with a guy on Friday and one on Saturday. Usually something would come up, so most …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:34 AM
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Ok. You still don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 02:36 PM
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Not even concerned with her being a single mom. There are so many other reasons to swipe left.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 05:25 PM
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You don't owe anyone sex, ever. The person you have sex with doesn't owe you anything after sex. Have sex with someone if you genuinely want to. Do not, under any circumstances, have sex with someone that you do not want to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 01:06 PM
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Definitely no reason to keep in touch with people you don't like. None of your breakups being amicable seems unusual to me. It is not uncommon, and does not make someone a beta male.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:05 AM
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Childhood trauma can definitely effect your adult dating life. The people you date are not responsible for that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 03:31 AM
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I get the impression that you don't have any ex's that think you're a good person, so you have not had the experience of being civil with an ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 03:22 AM
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I've never heard anyone say this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 03:49 AM
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Right. So who is to say what the market demands without input? This is better formatted as a poll, unless you've already talked to everyone in the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:10 PM
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Ok, than who writes these rules? Can it be posted as a poll, with various qualities listed? OP had asked career vs mother. I was just casting my vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 05:54 PM
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I have no idea what that says to you. I have no desire, and feel there is no altruistic reason to have children. I believe that if people do have children, raising those children should be their first priority in life. I see no reason I should devote my life and the bulk of my resources to doing something I don't want to do, and is borderline immoral. I am glad that some of my taxes go towards education and social programs for other peoples children, because i did not have access to those things…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 05:14 PM
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Children are expensive, a lot of work, and I have no desire to have them. A woman who does not want children is rare and of much higher value to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:21 AM
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For me what makes a women high value in looks department. Naturally attractive without makeup or fake anything. No specific type. what makes a women high value in the personality Mentally stable. No substance abuse. Generally genuinely happy. Independent. Affordable. Other traits: Has a job she likes. Doesn't want kids. Doesn't need me, but prefers to be with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:20 AM
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I don't want to date people that I don't want to date either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 01:36 AM
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You seem defensive about your breeding, and I think with good reason. I don't care to discuss you further.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 12:18 PM
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Don't know you, so I don't care if you do or not. I just answered some questions. Sounds like you'll do your best to ensure that nobody else has to clean up your mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 03:31 AM
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I think that if you are from a dying culture, there could definitely be a good arguement for cultural diversity. Also, are you uniquely qualified to raise children that will make the world a better place? Do you have genetic health issues that would be passed to your children that would impact their quality of life? Not height/eye color type things, but genetic diseases, hereditary joint problems, etc. If you are capable of raising healthy, well adjusted children who are likely to lessen the bur…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 02:24 AM
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If you're saying that was your reason for having children, I feel sorry for your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 11:15 PM
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"people are just following their basic instincts, don't want to die alone, and see breeding as a form of immortality." Find what you want to find wrong with it. If this is your reason for having children, I would prefer that you didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 11:05 PM
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You can think that if you like. We have killed all our natural predators. My parents had 4 children. grandparents had 5 and 7. That is a population that had more than quadrupled in a little over 50 years. No natural selection is taking place. 80% of my country's population believe angels exist. This is not a species that need to senselessly keep breeding. You're not that special that the world needs more of you. These people are just following their basic instincts, don't want to die alone, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 01:55 PM
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You've met people right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 07:44 PM
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Very possibly. I don't recommend that anyone get married. Man, Woman, Gay, Straight, just don't do it. If you want to be with that person, just be with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 06:58 PM
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I have infinite respect for men who raise someone elses child. I don't want any kids. I think having children is immoral. There are far too many people on the planet, and the world definetly does not need any more of you. You're not that special. You're just afraid you aren't important enough to leave a legacy and are afraid to die alone. Get over it. Any dude who raises a kid that isn't theirs is making the world a better place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:10 AM
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I have experienced similar. I was 30 and would get hit on by 17yr olds that thought I was early 20's. can't really grow a beard so i would be clean shaven. It is what it is. There will be women 10 yrs older than you who will jump on it when they find out your actual age.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:07 PM
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Why would you enter a relationship with someone who you want to berate about their past? If you are upset about a womans past, do not date that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:03 PM
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If you decide to enter into an exclusive relationship with someone, and they are honest about their history, than you don't get to be upset about it after that, because you are accepting the deal. You have the option of saying no to a relationship. If you don't want to have a relationship with a woman who has slept around, then don't. There is nothing wrong with that choice. There isn't anything for either party to be upset about though as long as the conversation is respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:11 PM
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37/m 8
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:54 PM
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Pretty close to the same, although she wasn't typically into conventionally attractive guys, so me being conventionally better looking than her had little effect on the relationship. Super dope chick. She was dead set on having 3 kids by 30, and I was not. She did that with the guy after me, divorced him a year ago and is getting remarried. Glad I was able to recognize that we didn't have the same life path.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 02:46 PM
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He can't expect shit. He will have to actually do things. Get a decent job. Stay out of the Bar. Not fuck with girls who drink even if they're hot. Understand that raising children is a shitload of work. Treat his partner as an equal. Clean the bathroom and kitchen half the time. Forget about a stay at home wife unless he has the income to back it up. I know a ton of dudes that think they are not tall enough or attractive enough and completely ignore the reasons they are taking themselves out of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:54 PM
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That's totally fine. I didn't make the rules. I'm only talking about the place that i work for, and the regulations that apply to me. They do have to do a sleep study first, but as far as I know, they all end up wearing the machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:27 AM
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Weight is one of 3 things you have to fail on to have to wear a cpap to keep your job. Weight, neck over 17", and I can't remember the 3rd, but i want to say blood pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:09 AM
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Its a dopamine addiction like everything else. Some people try not to drink too much, some people try not to overdose on heroin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 12:37 AM
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We have to take a Department of Transportation physical exam every two years. The fat loads have to use cpap machines if they fail certain things. Everyone tries to not be that fat. I like going to the gym on my lunch break though. It's pretty convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:47 PM
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mostly garbage. You can use food stamps to buy soft drinks and junk food. I work for a government agency that is so fat, the health insurance company made them put a free gym in the building to keep costs down. nobody uses it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:50 PM
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I believe that's true. I'm a mechanic. I've worked with two guys who were happily married with a wife that was a SAHM until the children were grown. Both were in their late 50's/early 60's and close to retirement. Their wives were rather frugal, and took care of all the house work other than repair and maintenance, etc. That arrangement is just something that isn't done anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:01 AM
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Every species of plant and animal is obsessed with sex, otherwise they would no longer exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:10 AM
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Right on. Hope that works out. There are some good ones out there. I definetly work with some guys who lost badly in divorces. One guy was getting ready to retire, but his wife left him for a 40yr old dude, he had to mortgage his house to give her half the value, and now he probably won't ever retire. The guy who had it figured out was happily married, and set to retire with his wife the same time, but she died of cancer that year, and he didn't retire because he didn't have anyone to retire wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 11:02 PM
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eh, maybe. Half my friends are female, so i can see both sides of it. I was mainly just dating women from bars, which is not a good idea. Not going to date anyone who isn't self sufficient, and not going to make an effort to find one at the moment, so maybe that is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:33 PM
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This is correct. I do not have a very strong understanding of what TRP is. I have a buddy who is into it. Hes said enough to know he shouldn't be dating right now. Most of what I see is cherry picked from by people who are very biased I'm sure. Ill go ahead and follow it also to get a better understanding of what it is. Haven't looked there in a while. I'm not young, at 37, but I've made the tries I'm going to make right now. I'm not pursuing my goals in order to attract women, though it likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:18 PM
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I lurk FDS to recognize what i don't want and learn how to avoid it. I have browsed some TRP just to understand how bad it can go wrong, and make sure I don't act like any of those guys. Haven't been on a date in a year, and life is pretty dope just stacking cash and pursuing my interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:22 PM
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I have the opposite experience. I would date women who needed financial/emotional support at the time, then once they were in a better place, drop me for the guy who wasn't drained by all of their problems. I would rather be an unnecessary accessory now. Not looking to build a relationship anymore. I work on making myself happy and secure. when i meet women who are happy and already have their shit together, i talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 12:19 PM
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I understand that I am a different case. I avoid dating women who wear makeup daily, fake eyelashes, etc. Its not because of the cost. I was homeschooled in a rural area of coastal Virginia (new age hippies). I was largely unaware that women wore any sort of makeup or shaved anything until i moved to a different area. I'm not passionately against it. Its just something that gets in the way of practical life occasionally and doesn'tdo anything for me. I dated a girl, that i am still friends with,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:56 PM
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The average US marriage lasts 8 years last I checked. Marriage is archaic, and no longer needed by either party. I do not need a wife to bear 10 children to work the potato fields less I lose my land and starve in the winter. A woman does not need me to work the fields and hunt and provide less she starve. It is no longer a matter of survival by either party. It is also the first step to divorce. Nothing says love like a legally binding contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:03 PM
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You don't think clearer after getting off. Actually the opposite. You just think with the sex drive temporarily removed. Its like a minor addiction. If you don't smoke often, and you smoke a cigarette, the desire for a cigarette is temporarily gone, and you just stink of tobacco until you want another cigarette. If you love and care about the person, then you develop an oxytocin addiction imprinted on them, and still want to be around them and cuddle and such. If a guy has a crush on you, hes st…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 08:08 PM
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I'm not really trying to date and wonder if being subscribed to this, FDS, and AreTheStraightsOK is part of the reason I'm not. The intention was just to learn about dating culture to be better at it, but i think its more helpful in running from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 02:28 PM
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Guys who are insecure as hell probably do want that. It would create dependence and they would not have to compete. I don't think I would be attracted to women who would go for that, so I'm safe there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:24 PM
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Probably not under 30. I dated a girl who was 25, about 4 years ago and we just didn't have any common life experience. She dated guys older than her, but i guess it just didn't work as well with me. I think there is some sort of change with women after their 30th birthday. I guess that is a big milestone or something for them. Getting older has a lot more to do with how well people take care of themselves than anything. A friend of mine only dates women older than him because he says they know …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:16 PM
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You definetly hit on something there. I am in the do not want kids category so that makes it harder. I'm a public transit mechanic, which pays decent, but if i had kids i probably couldn't retire. I'd rather be able to travel on vacations and not work till I'm dead. Average US marriage lasts 8yrs, so odds are not favorable. Guy i work with had to mortgage his house to give his ex half the value. His kids are grown, but he won't retire. Its similar for a lot of guys I work with so that's always i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:07 PM
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I'm not looking for a "good catch". A good match would be welcome. At 37, i have had several relationships, and that is not my default setting. If i find a match that Is better than being by myself, and better for her than being by herself, or her other options, that would be great. Putting energy into myself right now is great though. Much of what you say is true though. After having relationships that have made my life worse and taken much energy, I am not actively looking to catch or be caugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:20 PM
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like divorce papers
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