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the dynamic is not leader follower Spot on. She's extremely submissive in bed, but never submits outside it (even for small things, e.g. fetching something in the other room). you needed to STOP right there [...] Her refusing is clear sign of lack of respect [...] and leave genuinely to do something you actually enjoy with a smile This is all great advice, thanks. I considered leaving but there were two major issues: I was emotionally upset by the lack of respect, and I could not think straight.…
/r/askTRP23/12/18 02:14 PM
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You need to pretend you don’t care at all about it. At that moment I felt disrespected, and I believed that "not caring about it" would have made her think that she could get away with pushing my boundaries. In hindsight, I acted like a little bitch. I need to control my emotions more
/r/askTRP23/12/18 02:04 PM
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She does. In my mind I didn't want to "reward" her for being disrespectful... but I just ended up being a little bitch.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 02:01 PM
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I overreacted on the pants issue. I felt she crossed a boundary by staining my clothes in public while I had been careful not to do so. If she had said "sorry, won't stain your clothes again" instead of doubling-down and calling me a baby over and over then I would have let it go. I felt disrespected because I made it clear that she crossed a boundary and she didn't care. She recognised something that made me a bit insecure and exacerbated it on purpose. That's what made my mood go to shit. All …
/r/askTRP23/12/18 01:17 AM
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Point taken. I still do not think that her staining my clothes is an acceptable retaliation. How can I make that clear without appearing butthurt?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 12:48 AM
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Got it. What's the correct way to react to this without appearing butthurt but still make her understand it's not OK?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 12:36 AM
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The issue is that the remaining 10% is unbelievably frustrating. I literally couldn't sleep because I was horny. I escalated only to be rejected and be called a frustrated baby, which made me even more frustrated and sleepless. All I needed was a fucking handjob and I would've cuddled her to sleep. Instead now we're both frustrated and sleepless.
/r/askTRP20/10/18 06:11 AM
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give a little extra push and pull Can you give me an example of that when we're literally both lying naked in bed? I tried escalating as I always do but she wasn't having any of it. I couldn't sleep due to the horniness and when she randomly woke up in the middle of the night I escalated again just to be rejected. She sensed my frustration and called me a baby, then went on the sofa. I feel pathetic.
/r/askTRP20/10/18 06:09 AM
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How'd you manage to get 6 girls by 23? Met one at uni, one while traveling, the rest from Tinder. I know it sucks but crying over it doesn't change anything. We both are greatly disadvantaged because of our height, but we have no control over it. Better suck it up and keep grinding
/r/TheRedPill27/08/18 08:55 PM
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I lift and read, and will likely start meditation soon. I agree that I should not focus on them, but it's really really hard when I'm surrounded by people taller than me. E.g. I approached a few girls in a club last week, got immediately rejected by all of them. Then some very tall and muscular guy walked in, and I could see one of the girls that rejected me literally not being able to take her eyes off him. She approached him and they left together. That kind of shit fucks me up, as no matter h…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/18 08:52 PM
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I am 5'5'' and my penis is 5.4 inches. N-count at 23 is 6. I'm the top 20% of debt and earnings. I have no control over my height and penis length, which means I'll forever be handicapped against other men in those aspects. How am I supposed to accept this and prevent it from bringing down my self-esteem?
/r/TheRedPill27/08/18 03:23 PM
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I didn't mean to imply that they wouldn't benefit from TRP. Unless they internalize it in an exaggerated/autistic manner, they would become even better with girls. My concern is that before learning how to keep pussy you need to learn how to get it. They seem to have no need to do research for the latter.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 03:09 PM
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Can you elaborate on this? TRP knowledge involving women seems to be a logical and rational analysis of evolutionary behaviors. I am not talking about PUA routines and "how to pick up girls", but explanations regarding female behavior around men seem spot-on to me.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:17 PM
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Most of them are very close friends since childhood which confide in me. They obviously had problems, "temporary break-ups", and all that shit, but in general they had regular sex / traveled together / etc. The impression I got is that the positive experiences outweighed the negative ones. As always, it's just your turn - but my friends have had way more turns with girls than I did. I am not denying AWALT or TRP principles, I am just upset/confused about the fact that my friends got to experienc…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:16 PM
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That's 7 years of "living" that I only dream of experiencing at the moment, though. It's useful to know why relationships fail over time and how to rekindle them (e.g. dread), but that knowledge is wasted if you never get into one in the first place.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:12 PM
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That sounds like a great plate to have. Out of curiosity, how did you meet? are a fucking train wreck for a long time because they never see it coming That's an important point. I felt like a train wreck when my last LTR ended, but knowing that I only had myself to blame and knowing the reasons why it probably ended helped me cope immensely.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:11 PM
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I agree that having that knowledge is extremely useful. On the other hand, I do feel jealous that "they lived" while I did not: maybe they were in a relationship for a 4~ years, then married for 3~ years until shit happened. That's 7~ years of experiences I currently only dream of.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:08 PM
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Also, were you somewhat of a loner growing up? Sort of. Had (and still have) close friends with similar lack of success with girls, we used to play games together or just go out and chill. Also had and still have some "natural" friends that have a lot of alpha traits (but also beta ones) - definitely not redpilled but great with girls. I wasn't into parties and I wasn't in any popular social circle ever, though. Low number of female friends as well. You have a successful career and all that so w…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:03 PM
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Instead of having multiple non-exclusive relationships at the same time, their goal is to "get a girlfriend". When they get one, they are exclusive until they break up, then the cycle continues. In other words: no plates, no FWBs.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 04:37 PM
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Do you do this on the actual dance floor, or on girls that are on the outskirts? I can't imagine this working while actually dancing, but it sounds good if the girl is near the dance floor maybe having a drink. Does the girl have to be on her own? What if she is in a group? Also, what if you don't get any eye contact at all? I had the impression no girl made eye contact with me last time.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 05:45 PM
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I always never approach girls from behind; always position yourself where the girls see you. Make eye contact before targeting the girl you are going for. I tried, but literally every girl was dancing in circle-like group. Unless I jump in the middle I can't really be in front of them. I also tried making eye contact, but got unnoticed. You tried to escalate to fast with the girl who danced with you. What's the best move here? Just dance for a prolonged amount of time without escalating much? It…
/r/askTRP15/08/18 03:38 PM
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You sound like you can't read social situations. That's why I'm on asktrp and why I struggle to get laid, no? You'd have to be celebrity attractive for that to happen. This seems incel-like. Are you suggesting I should never attempt approaching on the dance floor unless I am super-attractive?
/r/askTRP15/08/18 03:14 PM
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Were you there alone? I was with a group of 15+ friends, mostly men with some of their girlfriends. On the dance floor I was in a group of 2-3 men all the time. Were you there to approach or just have fun? Mostly to approach. I was having fun dancing on my own an the beginning, but I did want to approach. How exactly did you try and escalate? I'll talk about the girl I spent most time with. I reached out to her with my hand after tapping on her shoulder. She took it and I spun her around. We sta…
/r/askTRP15/08/18 03:12 PM
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I do lift. I am short (168cm) but my body/face are decent. Would probably rate myself 6/10.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 03:08 PM
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I was referring to CainPrince's post - he mentioned that the text would be the reward for fucking me twice in the morning. That sounds reasonable to me, but I'm still unsure whether to do it as she refused sex at the beginning. I think that a low-effort text of me doing something cool without follow-up would at least prevent her from telling me "you never even texted me once" if she doesn't initiate and I attempt initiating when I get back.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 01:31 AM
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She texted me out of the blue a few times, but I'm always the one telling her to come over. She rarely refuses though. Are you against the idea of sending her a pic of me doing something cool? I feel like being completely silent is autistic
/r/askTRP15/08/18 01:13 AM
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It's Spain. I've approached 4 girls on the dance floor tonight but got rejected by all of them. The last girl's boyfriend jumped in my face and tried to start shit, which ruined my mood. My approach was tapping on their shoulders and putting my hand out. Two reached me and we briefly danced, but they avoided eye contact and I wasn't able to escalate. This is why I cannot have abundance mentality, constant rejections fuck me up.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 01:11 AM
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I think my post gave you the wrong impression: I'm definitely enjoying my vacation and I will attempt to game girls. No way in hell I would avoid fucking a girl here because of some FWB. I am concerned in keeping her interested because frankly that's just what I want and I do not have better options at the moment. I envy my friends that without any RP knowledge and with worse looks than mine can keep girlfriends for 4+ years and have fulfilling relationships. Why can't I do the same, even if it …
/r/askTRP14/08/18 12:18 AM
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I can't understand why you care so much about her sticking around after you fucked twice. She's a FWB, not an LTR, correct? I'm craving the companionship that an LTR can offer (recently got out of one), which making me act needy. I fucked up. She wants to leave because she's bored sounds like one of the most honest things you'll ever hear. True. I reacted like an idiot because I couldn't accept the fact that she thinks I am boring, which as always... is due to scarcity.
/r/askTRP14/05/18 10:40 PM
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why would you want her to stay? I enjoy relaxing/cuddling/sleeping with a girl after fucking her, maybe a little bit too much. There's underlying neediness that I have to get rid off. You came off as really needy and low value it's probably over Fair enough - I know I fucked up. If it's over it's over, but there's no harm in giving it one more try. Should I go radio silent for a while? Or just act as if nothing happened?
/r/askTRP14/05/18 10:36 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind. I've used this to sploosh some panties before the first date, and sometimes even replace the first date venue from a coffee shop to my bedroom. That sounds very impressive considering it was purely done through texting. Do you remember what you said? I'm very curious
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:28 PM
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Once you committed yourself by asking her to your place, you painted yourself into a corner. There was no getting back out. Yeah, that's where I fucked up. Since the conversation on Tinder was very sexual I thought she would have been DTF - I usually go for the "let's get drinks" route... and I'll keep doing that in the future.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:59 PM
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