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/r/askTRP10/02/21 06:14 PM
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I have never been shy about kinoing and escalating. "Always assume attraction." There's really no way to know if a girl is going to fuck you unless you escalate. I also think that erring on the side of escalating too much is better than doing too little -- sometimes it backfires but it's better to have tried rather than regretting not even giving it a go.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 02:22 AM
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Yeah
/r/askTRP05/02/21 01:02 AM
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Fair enough. I understand what you're saying and I do actually agree. After a second no, hands off and stop. Let's say I do that... what next? Should I just end the date? But how would I do that without appearing butthurt and keeping the option of fucking her for a next one? I don't really feel comfortable giving more time and attention to a girl that's not willing to get intimate with me, it feels onesided and unfair.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:55 PM
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I honestly must be completely retarded because I still don't get it. What's wrong with a little bit of blood? I've fucked girls on their periods before, and there was no problem. Can just use a towel. I also wasn't trying to finger her or ram my dick in her for 30 times, I actually just wanted to play with her clit! She didn't even let me touch her clit.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:41 PM
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I am spinning plates and have abundance. Yet I still want to learn from my mistakes and I want to provide as much context as possible so that I can understand where I went wrong and people can help me. I don't mind writing and I actually enjoy journaling and venting out my frustrations.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:40 PM
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Just say yes, you don't need a written confirmation like you're staying at the Hilton. Fair enough. I guess I just wanted to plant the seed. I've had some dates where the girl was clueless/inexperienced/attention-seeking and was just actually looking for a drink and a chat. I want to filter those out. But I get what you mean, I will refrain from doing that in the future. You should've thrown the framing back at her here, as you never mentioned sex. She's already rejected your attempts twice, you…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:38 PM
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Except i usually just stop giving a shit after the first attempt. Does that result in the girl chasing you and eventually putting out? Or did you figure out a better way of avoiding this from happening or breaking the LMR? I've had this happen last year as well, it's super frustrating and unexpected.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:34 PM
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If she's really difficult and normal escalation doesn't work I've done cave man role play where if you don't leave now I'm going to rip you to pieces Interesting, can you elaborate on that a bit? Would have it been appropriate in my situation where she was almost naked on my bed and dry humping me?
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:33 PM
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Also from the little I did read, don't tell a girl the last time you fucked was last week. Just laugh it off and say you forgot or let me check my diary or "in a few minutes time if you're lucky" you get the point Point taken. I will avoid doing that in the future. Lol how do you think that's gonna make her feel Uhh... what does she expect? I actually had fucked yesterday, I told her "last week" to not seem too much of a fuckboy. But is she actually gonna feel bad or surprised? Does she expect m…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:32 PM
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Once you escalate and get a no, take a breather pull back and change the conversation. If you start screwing around again and are met with another no it's a wrap, night over. That's usually my plan. But this situation is a bit different, she was literally fully naked except for her panties in my bed, stroking my dick, moaning when I was humping her through her panties, and visibly horny and aroused... Her rejections happened when I tried to touch her clit under her panties. She was fine with any…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:29 PM
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I didn't make up the contact. Stop fantasizing.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 03:48 AM
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I think you're more upset that your initial assessment was wrong rather than not giving a fuck, otherwise you would have not replied any further. Chill.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 03:03 AM
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Isn't it possible that it was just LMR + ASD?
/r/askTRP01/01/21 12:40 AM
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Why exactly?
/r/askTRP01/01/21 12:16 AM
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I don't understand your reasoning.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 07:33 PM
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Girl 1 just reached out of the blue to set up a meeting.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 07:31 PM
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Girl 1 just reached out of the blue to set up a meeting.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 05:57 PM
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I don't get it. Doesn't TRP say that women are supposed to chase you, rather than the other way around? If I initiated and made plans for dates 3 times in a row, isn't it a good strategy to let her initiate the next one to avoid showing neediness?
/r/askTRP31/12/20 05:12 AM
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I like this. Do you eventually make a "real" move, or do they end up doing it?
/r/askTRP24/12/20 06:38 AM
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Fair enough. It's really hard for me but I like this mindset you just proposed. I still don't understand why a girl would keep repeating that in her mind. Wouldn't she want to have sex with an hot guy? Isn't she feeling frustrated now as well? It just seems so stupid.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 09:39 PM
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She deleted me from Tinder and blocked me on WhatsApp as soon as she left, so this one is gone. Just trying to understand what I could have done better. TBH, I cannot help but feel like the vibe has been killed after being explicitly rejected twice in a row. I can't imagine being completely unfazed by it.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 09:30 PM
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You are completely correct. It was always about control. To be precise, I didn't break up with her. I tried a power move which backfired. We had discussed some issues between us a week prior to the breakup, related mostly to sex -- that week before we had a fight, we got emotional, and we had great intense makeup sex. We spent the rest of the week together in a very positive way. The day of the breakup, we had just woken up. I was in the mood and started teasing her. She was responsive, but not …
/r/askTRP12/11/20 10:13 PM
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I had and still have an unhealthy addiction to porn. I tried stopping multiple times in the relationship, but every rejection made me crawl back to it. I remember being horny deciding to jerk off to porn rather than initiating during the late stages of the relationship as she would have likely rejected me. I also watched a lot of amateur couples. Their sex looked so intense, visceral, and genuine. I rarely experienced that level of intensity with her -- the few times it happened was when the rel…
/r/askTRP12/11/20 09:45 PM
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It wasn't just that. I always felt a lingering sense of sexual inadequacy with her. She initiated extremely rarely, I was always the one doing it and risking rejection. She sometimes rejected me out of the blue after spending a great day together -- e.g. when we were having a nice vacation, spent a great day together, and then when we were in bed in the evening "she wasn't in the mood". That shit was stuck in my head after it happened. It never felt like the attraction was balanced. She never se…
/r/askTRP12/11/20 09:41 PM
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It should normally be fairly obvious if a girls not feeling coming back to your place so you’ve gotta act accordingly and keep adapting. I've had cases where the girl looked very uninterested, or even rejected my kiss attempts, then came over and fucked me without resistance. I've also had cases where the girl looked very eager in person, was very physical and touchy, then straight out told me she wasn't feeling a spark when attempting to take her back. My problems are: inconsistency and calibra…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 01:34 PM
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How exactly did I give her validation? Was it too much kino and trying to pull her close? I thought that physical touch and kino were key points of turning a date sexual.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 01:31 PM
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LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLL, read the sidebar Of course I know it's BS. Regarding the other points, I've done the exact same things with other girls and ended up getting laid. Talked about past dating experience, pulled her closer to me, heavy kino, then came back to mine and we fucked. My main problem is that I don't understand why sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I am getting lays, but also missing out on many opportunities because I don't know how to calibrate depending on the girl. I need h…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 01:30 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. First, she sits next to you from the get go. If she sits across from you just look at her with a smirk on your face and then look at the sit next to you. She will get it cause she probably was waiting for that, just to see if you're a beta bitch. I did pull that move before and it works. In this case, she sat on the sofa next to me, but with quite a lot of space between us. Who the fuck talks about sex and dating life? I was of the impression that talking about those thi…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 11:37 AM
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To me this gives off scarcity vibes. I will avoid doing this in the future. The reason I said that is because... I wanted her to be honest. I am happy to be told "I had fun but I'm not interested", but I really find it frustrating when mixed signals are given (e.g., strong eye contact, kiss, no resistance to kino, then she gives me the cheek). I just wanted her to stop wasting my time. it you sounded like you were desperately trying to fuck and she could sense it (shit test was given so she coul…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 11:34 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. Taking 30 to 40 minutes to escalate is too long. It looks awkward and forced. Start right away. I guess I wasn't clear on this. I did start kino and was touchy from the very beginning. Touched her hands (bracelets, rings) very soon in the date. It wasn't all at once. At 30-40min I increased the intensity though, by brushing her hair, playing with her earrings, and then trying to pull her close to me, which made her feel uncomfortable apparently. Don't talk about relation…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 11:32 AM
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I honestly don't get it. TRP explains that girls break rules for guys they're attracted to. Therefore, sex on a first date is a great indication that she's genuinely attracted. A kiss is also a good sign. Why do I have to be the one that needs three dates to score when she's going to fuck someone else on the first?
/r/askTRP04/09/20 09:13 AM
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I don't get that reasoning. Every long-term relationship I had started with sexual desire and evolved into something more serious. If she thinks she's "vetting" for somebody who just wants to fuck she's actually vetting for somebody who is desperate enough to chase a girl that is probably not attracted to him. It stings to get rejected, but ultimately it's her loss. I fucked up in terms of sexual strategy, but it's baffling to know that she could have been vetting me.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 08:27 PM
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Did you attempt kissing on the first and second date? Did you invite her over on the second/third date, or did something else. Very curious to get some data on this. By the way, I know I lost my cool and appeared butthurt. I could have probably fucked her on the second date if I didn't end this one on a sour note -- that's entirely on me. That said, I'm still puzzled to why a girl would have such a boundary!
/r/askTRP03/09/20 08:07 PM
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I've had experiences in the past where a girl says no and immediately afterwards we make out, or other cases when she rejects the first attempt but is keen on the second one. This is why I keep pushing, because sometimes it's bullshit... Regarding the SMV, I don't claim to be a Chad. But I was much taller and fit than her. She complimented my muscles and incorrectly guessed that I was a personal trainer due to my fitness. She did reciprocate kino and kept eye contact. This is why I don't underst…
/r/askTRP03/09/20 07:36 PM
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I've tried multiple times. They always reject the idea and either ghost or say something like "I'm not gonna meet you at your place, let's meet somewhere public first". It does seem reasonable, to be honest, for their safety.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 04:30 PM
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So you would suggest keeping it to light kino and still try to get her home without kissing first, and then escalate from there? It seems weird to me because other than kino and eye contact there's no indication that I want to get physical. Wouldn't that scare her off from coming to mine?
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:42 PM
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I guess the problem is that I don't know how to build sexual tension except kino and eye contact. For me the kiss was part of turning the date from two friends talking to something more sexual. It feels like it would be less sexual if I don't try to get physical
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:39 PM
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Why do you think so? I want to avoid girls that are not attracted and wasting my time. Her reaction to a kiss is useful to gauge her level of interest.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:27 PM
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Have you tried not being the one to escalate to sex? I didn't really push for sex until the last date, where we gave each other oral and she came twice. She seriously said she wasn't ready and that she wanted me to get a STD test. I was a bit frustrated that she didn't put out and could have definitely played it cooler, but it wasn't a big deal and the rest of the date went well. I'm not that invested so I will soft next. If she reaches out again, we'll see.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 09:37 PM
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I just don't consider this situation as "slutting around". We had two dates limited to kissing and getting to know each other, and escalated the other two dates. We also chatted a bit before dating, and we were honest about our intentions. It could have evolved into a FWB or relationship. It's not like she met me at a club and I tried to fuck her that same night.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 04:12 PM
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You could probably turn her into a total freak Let's say I want to try. How would I pursue that without appearing needy and falling into her frame, since she blew me off? Should I just text her "So, do you still want to see me?" and try to schedule a date as normal?
/r/askTRP30/06/20 02:21 PM
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The only problem I see with your suggestion is that she might still put out a lot of resistance in person when I try to escalate to sex, leading to a dynamic where I am chasing her for her pussy and she's getting attention and time out of me for nothing. I am worried that without even realizing it I'll be on my 10th date thinking "today's the day" while she keeps giving me breadcrumbs.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 11:08 AM
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #3 Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait. I understand your point of view, but on the other hand it can also make for a difficult relationship where the girl doesn't ever let go and always feels guilty about revealing her inner slut with you. Do you really want to risk getting into that?
/r/askTRP30/06/20 10:51 AM
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Is it, really? I am not a bad person. I am successful in my career, take care of my body, and have a lot of affection and experiences to give women who I like. I also accept the fact that men need sex, and that sex is important in a relationship. This girl lost an opportunity to be with a man who could have made her happy and a better person because she values her virginity over anything else. She is more likely to spread her legs for any desperate loser who falls in love with her and chases her…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 10:47 AM
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I agree that reasoning was a mistake. I tried to avoid it, but when she pushed me I didn't manage to control myself and my logic brain took over. I am not sure how I could have "rewarded her vulnerability" without falling in her frame or chasing her - could you please give me an example?
/r/askTRP30/06/20 10:29 AM
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She's 22, I'm 26
/r/askTRP30/06/20 10:22 AM
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She actually doesn't believe in God. The impression I got is that she grew up with the idea that sex is an extremely big deal and that her virginity is some sort of gift that should be given only to her true love.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 01:28 AM
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No, I will think about this until I am on my deathbed.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 11:59 PM
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Ah, sorry. I was giving a lecture at a local tech meetup and she was an attendee. She kept staring at me, then introduced herself when I was done. Then she added me on social media and contacted me.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 11:11 PM
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She needed more comfort. I wasn't cold to her, especially in person. We cooked dinner together and talked quite a lot in person, and spent the rest of the time escalating in bed. I also didn't want her to assume she was going to be my girlfriend, so maybe I erred too much on the side of coldness. I never texted her much, but she didn't either. I would have replied to her if she texted me. It's not like I ignored her - she expected me to kinda chase her via text. She probably gone with a last min…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 11:04 PM
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I tried to close the deal, but she didn't feel fully comfortable and really wanted me to take an STD test. She had shown similar resistance at every stage, but kept progressing on each subsequent date - I assumed it would have been the same. And yes, she was extremely inexperienced (couldn't even kiss properly) and she told me I'm the first one she's ever touched, touched by, or undressed for.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 10:57 PM
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Because I don't want to make the same mistake if a similar opportunity arises in the future. How the fuck am I supposed to improve my game for future girls if all you can say is "don't care and move on"?
/r/askTRP29/06/20 10:11 PM
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Any advice on the situation...? Why would ask more details and say "Nice!" when there's not much to be celebrating about?
/r/askTRP29/06/20 10:03 PM
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Ukraine. Do you want her number? :p
/r/askTRP29/06/20 09:58 PM
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HB7. Eastern European, brunette, green eyes, thin.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 09:55 PM
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Nah, you're right. Of course every single girl is a slut and there's no such thing as a virgin. Nowadays girls are born without a hymen. I will surely completely ignore Occam's razor and my personal experience with the girl and believe your assessment backed by no evidence.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 09:37 PM
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Why would she keep staring at me, stalk me online, chase me, go out on a date, make out with me (like an inexperienced 12 year old having her first kiss), blush and avoid eye contact, talk nervously and giggle to herself, and genuinely behave like a shy and inexperienced girl... and lie about her being a virgin? It is illogical. I'm also confident she's physically attracted to me - if she wasn't trying to protect her virginity so hard why would she not bang me yet act like a puppy in love around…
/r/askTRP05/06/20 09:24 PM
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I can't be sure until I fuck her. Her behavior was, however, genuine and congruent with her claims. She's an engineer and her social skills are terrible, couldn't keep eye contact while talking to me due to shyness, and had no idea how to kiss. I am inclined to believe she is a virgin.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 09:07 PM
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For sure, I don't disagree. I am just wondering whether it's a huge shit test and she's going to sleep with me in a few dates, or if she's actually one of those girls who believes that virginity is the most important thing in the world. The only thing that pisses me off is that - when I drop her - she's probably going to discover her inner slut with someone else, as it always happens.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 08:45 PM
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That's what I would do So, I did exactly that, and she... called me. She told me she wanted to be clear and that she is looking for something serious. She told me usual bullshit about her country being conservative and her wanting to lose her virginity to the right man, and she's likes me but she "is not expecting to sleep with me after a few weeks, and that she thinks it will take months". I was pretty indifferent to all the BS and told her "OK, I'm not going to rush you and I don't have anythi…
/r/askTRP05/06/20 08:34 PM
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"into me" doesn't mean she's head over heels, it means she's attracted and just not seeking attention. You're being delusional.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 11:01 PM
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I am not going to rape her or make her do something she doesn't want to, obviously. I'll give another go at escalating and if she is still very resistant I'll drop her. I also think that sex is not that big of a deal, and if it's not me that deflowers her, eventually someone else will, and the likelihood that guy is "more than just a hook up" is quite low.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 03:52 PM
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Most end up marrying the first or secone guy they date and live haplily ever after. Provide statistics for such claims. there are you just fuck them and leave them If I enjoy fucking her, why would I leave her? You sound like a tradcon retard. Sex with somebody you like and date is natural. Fucking a different guy every night and being gangbanged isn't.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:07 PM
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Of course, LMAO. I don't think there's anything wrong with us fucking, as we both want it, and I don't want to ghost her afterwards. If anything, I'm showing her that sex is fun and natural.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:02 PM
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...how am I "corrupting" her?
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:00 PM
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Bloods are fine, E2 is under control
/r/askTRP27/05/20 07:41 AM
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/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:19 PM
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The only sentence I disagree with is the last one. It is obvious TRP is truth. Not accepting it would be willingly closing one's eyes to how the world works. You can't really go back once you see it.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 02:00 PM
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Mate, it's just annoying when I am trying to learn from an experience and you immediately claim "oneitis". Of course it's bothersome.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:28 PM
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I care about behavior of women in general, not this particular one. From this example I can improve my knowledge for the future. Is it that hard to understand that an example does not mean oneitis?
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:25 PM
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Don't care about this one girl in particular, was curious about the 180 change in behavior.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 07:54 PM
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Fair, but we did build some rapport over FB beforehand. Will keep that in mind for the future
/r/askTRP25/05/20 07:53 PM
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It's not that hard to understand. TRP and posts like yours made me paranoid on every LTR being a cheating harpy. So, I checked. And there was nothing. That removed my paranoia. And you, again, are wrong. My LTR is not cheating on me.
/r/askTRP05/04/20 12:19 AM
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Use this time to practice resisting physical urges Every time I think about this, my mind replies with "why would you want to resist your urges and deny yourself pleasure?" and I can never find a compelling answer to that question when I am horny. How would you answer your own mind in that case?
/r/askTRP03/04/20 12:17 AM
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trust me when I say she IS cheating on you and she gives zero fucks about it See comment above, she isn't. TRP made me so paranoid about this I even checked with some keyloggers and other tech. Everything was clean. Very high SMV men have LTRs and plates that are bending over backward to make him happy and keep him engaged during this quarantine. If your girl is not working to keep you right now then demote immediately and go find some plates. This would make sense if I were a "very high SMV man…
/r/askTRP02/04/20 11:46 PM
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Nah, she isn't. TRP and people like you actually made me paranoid in the past which made the relationship go downhill. I relaxed, and with some tech-savviness also checked her phone, emails, histories. Everything was clean. I have no reason to believe she's cheating on me, and evidence points in the direction that she isn't. Stop making people paranoid. You're not red pilled.
/r/askTRP02/04/20 11:44 PM
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A servient girl that admires you is basically a dog you can fuck.
/r/askTRP02/04/20 11:42 PM
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Were they multiple year LTRs?
/r/askTRP02/04/20 11:41 PM
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I feel that, overall, my gf enhances my life. The sex is far from the best I've had, but the affection and companionship she gives me is something that makes me happy. There is definitely some girl out there which is a better match for me, but "perfect is the enemy of good". Another thing I forgot to mention is that this girl is as far from a whore/slut as a girl could be. No Instagram or social media, rarely goes out with her girl friends, etc. I like that about her.
/r/askTRP02/04/20 05:39 PM
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While I am trying to rationalize, it is also undeniable that biologically women cheat for different reasons. If a woman cheats on a man, it is because she lost respect for him and doesn't see him as her best choice. If a man cheats on a woman, it could be just because he wanted some variety. It is much worse to be cheated on for a man than a woman. If anything, women are more attracted to cheaters and assholes!
/r/askTRP02/04/20 05:36 PM
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Morally I don't feel bad about fucking someone else just for fun. But I would feel devastated if she knew and got hurt because of it, she's sweet. Having to break up with her would also suck and it would be stuck in my mind for years. On the other hand, cheating on her might actually be good for the LTR. There definitely is some boredom, and girls prefer anger to boredom. I'm conflicted, just want to know what you would do to have different points of view
/r/askTRP17/01/20 12:43 AM
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> you need to remain consistently consistent with setting and enforcing your boundaries and expectations for her behavior IF she wants to continue to be with you I understand the principle and I agree with you. I don't know how to practically set and enforce my boundaries. The only thing I can think of is to tell her what I want, and break up + ghost if she doesn't comply. But that is a "nuclear" option and I don't want to break up with her. I would like to know what actions I can take to make h…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 07:28 PM
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I read NMMNG, but didn't read your second suggestion. I will rectify that. I can see the "covert contracts" in this situation, however I thought I made myself explicit and outcome independent by telling her that's she's welcome to break up with me if she doesn't like the way I do things. But she doesn't budge/obey, and ends up crying and making me emotional. I told her that I want a woman that trusts me and does what I want and that I'll break up if this continues. Maybe I'm just too much of a p…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 06:42 PM
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I get the idea and the mindset I should have, but due to my lack of experience I find it hard to imagine what to do in practice. I don't want to end up being perceived as abusive or unreasonable. Can you give an example of a "super dominant" way to handle a situation like the one I described in the OP?
/r/askTRP31/12/19 04:42 PM
1

Dancing sounds interesting. What kind of dancing would you recommend?
/r/askTRP22/12/19 06:08 PM
1

I find that boring to be honest.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 05:47 PM
1

I have an excellent job in a major city. She's having trouble finding a job because of the fierce competition and because her skillset is not sought after. It would be a big downgrade for me.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 12:53 AM
1

Thanks. This is what I needed to hear, and I'll prepare myself to be proactive. Maybe I should have been clearer in the OP, but she does have other opportunities lined up that do not require moving, which are respectable. She also said she would travel in the weekends to see me if she had to move (to another city, not another country). These two factors make me reluctant to break up so early - I think that it could end up working out. I'll talk to her again as she gets closer to the point where …
/r/askTRP22/12/19 12:10 AM
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If you "punish" her for her behavior after she asked you to do so, you're actually rewarding her. If you "punish" her and she gets off really hard from it after she got crazy drunk... she will get crazy drunk again so that you do it one more time. Is that what you want?
/r/askTRP07/11/19 02:54 PM
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I agree with you on principle but my SMV isn't that high to warrant this kind of behavior on my side. As I work towards increasing my SMV, I still want to keep this LTR as I find it positive overall. While she's submissive in bed and often outside of it, it's nowhere as near as She gets to be with YOU. YOU do as YOU wish, and she does as YOU wish. I still have a long way to go with my SMV until I can get to the point where girls do that with me.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 03:03 PM
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That's not going to work for me, as I don't really want a new pussy, I want to have some girl on the side that desires me in order to increase my confidence and abundance mentality. Paying for a hooker would not help with that.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 05:25 PM
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I think a good deal of dread would fix this relationship. Any tip on how to naturally do that? Our hobbies do not really involve going to placed with young attractive women. I would appreciate suggestions for activities where I can genuinely talk to other women without it feeling "forced".
/r/askTRP21/10/19 04:30 PM
1

do you try talking dirty to her? what happens? Update on this: I usually call her "my slut" during sex and she seems to like that. I tried calling her "my bitch" and "my property" recently during rough sex to escalate but that turned her off completely and she asked me not to say those words again, but that she's OK with "slut". So even there... mixed flags.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 04:29 PM
1

This doesn't make sense to me. TRP explains how biology is more powerful than culture and demographic. Why would women be attracted to a feminine man? Biology wouldn't allow that.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 06:50 PM
1

Thanks, this is a really valuable perspective and makes sense to me. Out of curiosity, what did you open the 4set with? I'm quite bad at opening multiple girls at once
/r/askTRP09/10/19 01:22 AM
2

Thanks for the advice, I will look for some dancing classes near me. How can I get a girl's attention before approaching? My eye contact doesn't get reciprocated. I would also appreciate some tips on how to make the conversation flow after I go over and say hi
/r/askTRP06/10/19 09:51 AM
1

Using me for what? As I mentioned I never spent a dime on her. If it's for attention, then I'm consistently getting sex back.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 11:30 AM
1

Up your game and apply some light dread and start acting more like a man gradually even if it's too late. I definitely want to do this before moving on, even though I am considering the latter. I need some more concrete advice and/or resources on how to improve my behavior with her. What are some ways I can apply light dread that don't feel out of place? I'm already unavailable for most of the week, travel frequently for work on my own, rarely text, and have my own life (martial arts, side proje…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:36 AM
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Nope, I did not want to take the opportunity in the first place. I brought it up with her as I wanted to see her reaction and apply some dread.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:33 AM
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Seems you've become complacent and not mixing things up, so she's starting to get bored. I do agree that she's starting to get bored. Any concrete way I could fix this? I am not sure what you mean by "not mixing things up"? I try to introduce new things in and outside of bed. Should I randomly stop being available on the weekends? Act differently? Date someone else on the side? You're trying to please her in bed This is true. I feel like she won't be satisfied if she doesn't orgasm, so I try har…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:33 AM
1

Makes sense. The fact that you've locked her into monotony is compounding the problem, reinforcing the bites of her subconscious. If you want to fix it, use dread, adventure, and a little asshole game. I need some concrete advice on this. I did try having some dread/adventure/variety: I attempted introducing kinks/sex toys and being more dominant in bed; I talk to other girls in her presence when we're in a social context, but we're often by ourselves when we go out; I try to do something fun/un…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:25 AM
1

I agree with what you're saying, I always feel some paranoia with her due to the points you mentioned. I've talked about her kinks and previous sex life, and she has always said she has been vanilla and doesn't have any particular fantasy. I don't know how to verify that without confronting her in a beta manner. She didn't really "refuse" to add me on social media. She just never did, and I never added her. I've brought up the fact that it's weird for a girl to not be on Facebook, but she uses I…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:18 AM
2

Most of all I get the sense that there's no "fire" between both of you. There's no chemistry. Especially on her end. No tingles, she seems detached from you. I have the same feeling as well, even though some times it does feel like there's some chemistry. Any concrete tip on how I can verify/improve the situation? What's the relationship she has with her father? Not good. Her father is very controlling and old-fashioned (very religious). She told me that he constantly argues with her mother and …
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:14 AM
1

> Are you expecting people to just show up? No, I'm looking for suggestions to take action like yours. Fighting is not really my thing, but I might try to force myself to do it. Any particular meetup idea in mind?
/r/askTRP02/05/19 11:20 AM
0

Your quote makes sense to me. I am a commoner working towards becoming more than that. I can either be: A commoner without a girlfriend A commoner with a girlfriend Provided that the benefits of having a girlfriend outweigh the negatives, I don't see why I would choose (1) over (2). I also don't want to be the guy in my social circle without a girl, so that's why I think it improves my standing in that context. Is she on top while I'm a commoner? Sure. I'm happy with that until I become somethin…
/r/askTRP01/05/19 02:52 PM
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I know, but I have no better options at the moment. I am looking for them.
/r/askTRP01/05/19 02:34 PM
0

I honestly didn't downvote anyone, chill. She behaves well in social situations. I don't respect myself much, but I am working on that. If anything, she improves my SMV in public.
/r/askTRP01/05/19 02:33 PM
0

It wouldn't provoke a response by itself - it was a random joke/insult ping that we use to send each other, but she always replied back in 24hrs in the past. As far as I know, she prioritizes work even through she's stuck in a shitty job. She doesn't have any hobbies other than gym, due to laziness and a long commute (2hrs+ per day). This is unusual for her so that's why I am asking for advice
/r/askTRP01/05/19 12:47 PM
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Obviously not, but I am neither Brad Pitt nor a hip local DJ. While I am working on myself (gym, career) I am still short, average-looking, and not fully confident in myself. My SMV is far below Brad Pitt's and that's a fact. I am attempting to generate new plates through online dating, but while that happens I also want to keep having a gf for sex, companionship, and social status.
/r/askTRP01/05/19 12:37 PM
1

I understand. Just wanted to know if my text game was bad (e.g. too sudden)
/r/askTRP05/04/19 03:36 AM
1

I think that I incorrectly internalized TRP and that Twitter is ruining me. All I see on TRP and Twitter manosphere is stuff like: "She is always horny for the right guy" "If you aren't fucking her you're her orbiter" "Don't give out your attention without sex" I also see a few people such as Andrew Tate with harems of extremely hot girls that do whatever they say. I think about all that shit and then my GF doesn't even get wet for me, so it makes me feel like a failure. How can I stop this way …
/r/askTRP28/03/19 12:16 PM
3

Thanks for the analysis. It helps me understand. I think I internalized TRP in the completely wrong way and it's ruining my relationship. I can't help getting rid of the following thought processes in my mind that start from TRP principles: "She is always wet for an Alpha" -> she doesn't get wet for me -> she doesn't see me as an Alpha -> I get upset and think about her cheating on me "Women give sex, men give attention" -> she doesn't give me sex -> she doesn't get my attention "When facing LMR…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 12:01 PM
1

She does it from time to time. Some times I can turn her on by persisting, other times it ends up similarly to what I described in the OP. I don't understand why she is not consistently turned on by me. Every time this happens I just get more and more paranoid
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:44 AM
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She turned me down after I tried turning her on. I caressed her body, kissed her, teased her pussy, and tried stimulating her. She did turn me down verbally twice before I stopped (I ignored the first time). Is it really normal that I have to try hard to turn on my LTR? My understanding was that she should be turned on easily if she's into me. That's why I felt rejected, my brain instantly assumes that she's lost attraction. I don't want to feel like I'm begging for her pussy or trying hard to g…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:23 AM
5

Who cares? She either didn't want to go out in the first place or there's a slim chance she might just suck at social skills and didn't reschedule because of that.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:33 PM
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Try one more time after a few days. If she still flakes or doesn't reschedule, GHOST. NEXT.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:26 PM
3

"I'm busy before that" ? Doesn't sound like a shit test to me.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:24 PM
1

You can't. If she wants to cheat, it's already over. Next her. Or as I said, tell her to choose between your and her ex. You'll know what's more important for her.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:14 PM
10

So if she told him she doesn't want to have sex, does that mean she's genuinely not going to sleep with him. He does know i'm dating You know what: ignore us and delete this thread. Let your girlfriend fuck her ex. You will probably think nothing happened. She will slowly get more distant and more disrespectful. Eventually it will come out, and you will realize how much of a retard you were. Some people learn by listening to others, some people need first hand experience. You might be the latter…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:04 PM
7

That is some amazing progress, pat yourself on the back and keep going hard! Mind sharing some statistics? Your height/body weight/approach failure ratio - would be really interesting to see.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:02 PM
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You will get cucked. Actually, you're already cucked. No man that respect himself would stay with a woman that is in active contact with her ex and admits to finding him attractive. She probably thinks of him while you two fuck. You're in denial. Do you think we're wrong and exaggerating? Then tell your girlfriend to not see your ex, as it is disrespectful for you. Tell her that if she cares more about you than your ex, she won't do it. If she does it, you have your answer: NEXT. If she doesn't …
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:17 PM
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Been dating and sleeping with this girl for a few weeks and she's hanging out with her ex boyfriend soon. You will get cucked. Actually, you're already cucked. No man that respect himself would stay with a woman that is in active contact with her ex and admits to finding him attractive. She probably thinks of him while you two fuck. You're in denial. Do you think we're wrong and exaggerating? Then tell your girlfriend to not see your ex, as it is disrespectful for you. Tell her that if she cares…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:17 PM
12

Not an answer, but I'm curious: how did you get to such an high bodycount? What did you implement that was so successful? Cold approach?
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:31 PM
53

They will fuck. Tell her that she's free to see her ex boyfriend, but she won't have one after that. If she still goes to see him, NEXT, no matter how painful it is.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:30 PM
7

You do you. She is going to flake anyway.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:46 AM
1

That's quite far for a girl you don't know. Your chances are greatly diminished.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:19 AM
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Girls from Tinder are extremely flaky as they have literally hundreds of men talking to them every day. You were one of the options, she probably found something "better". Starbucks had nothing to do with it. Do you think she would refuse to meet Brad Pitt at Starbucks? Don't contact her again, it's useless. Game other girls.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:18 AM
4

She's basically like a cousin to me. So what? If you both wanted to fuck, what's the problem? Regardless, if you don't want to fuck her again, just don't.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:16 AM
2

Why the fuck are you trying to date girls outside of your city?
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:15 AM
10

Send her the photos and NEXT. There must be a reason why she is an "ex" plate.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 10:53 AM
2

It is very beta. You should bite her clit as hard as possible to establish dominance.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 07:10 PM
2

You sound exactly in my same spot. Personally, I'm getting fed up with shit tests but I am not leaving her exactly due to a lack of abundance. Consider dating another girl on the side if you want, and see how it goes.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 06:17 PM
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I took that as an insult, I feel like intimidation in related to being attractive. That is beta behavior. Stop caring. I hate the fact they perceive me as polite, nice, kind, big hearted exc. Those are good qualities that an alpha can have. Being kind is not the same as being a pushover.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:51 PM
3

Up to you. Is the sex worth the constant shit tests and headaches? Are you with her because you like her or are you afraid of not being able to replace her? Think about those questions and take action.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:31 PM
7

Ask a qualified doctor. Keep eating enough protein.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:30 PM
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Take action. Small steps. If you're too scared about cold approach yet, try online dating. With your height, body fat, and body you should have zero issues getting laid there. After that, start talking to girls either when doing hobbies or in cold approach. Good luck, your looks and height put you further ahead than 90% of the males.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:17 PM
1

Take it easy and don't force her. She's definitely into you so no need to be insecure.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 04:36 PM
3

Nothing to worry about. Enjoy it while it lasts. She is showing her attraction and desire. Keep your frame up and don't become more beta. Fuck her well.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 04:32 PM
1

Act as you always would. If she's just a plate, talk to other girls and get numbers.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 04:11 PM
1

Yes, keep things interesting and hold frame. But your girlfriend telling you about other men hitting on her on social media is still a red flag/shit test. Withdraw attention slightly when that happens.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 03:56 PM
5

Your LTR having guys message her on Instagram is a red flag. It's only time until she's bored and a hot one messages her. She shouldn't be whoring around on a social media site. Tell her to block the guys and stop using Instagram. Otherwise, next.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 03:37 PM
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