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But women like you are not. Find someone more suitable.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/16 09:26 PM
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LOL I broke up with him over text. but my one mistake does not trump the wonderful thing that we had together. I am scared it can turn into abusive territory So what I'm hearing is you're the victim who made one small mistake and want to know how you can make him love you again. Makes total sense. It sure beats having accountability. IMO focus on improving yourself until you're not so crazy. Admit failure and let him decide what to do while trying to show in ways he understands that you care and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 05:22 PM
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Then he is skilled at portraying authenticity and showing vulnerability in a mature way. It's not vulnerability itself that is an issue, more so the approach used to communicate and what it presents about the underlying character.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 07:47 PM
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OK. And do you also want to have sex with him when he is like that? Or is it more that it increases intimacy. Because most men don't really experience intimacy with women without involving sex in some way. Not that vulnerability is necessarily sexual, but more so that it's connected for us like that. Just that for most men, that expression of vulnerability doesn't exactly get them laid. Just the opposite. All the while women are telling us to share our feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 06:40 PM
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And if that one bitch who was giving you over, what if it happened again, albeit in a different way, and then again. Until you started thinking either you must be doing something wrong, other people are crazy, or your core perceptions are off. Anger in that case, albeit perhaps unjustified, has some warrant. And when there is great cognitive dissonance because one's core beliefs are shaken, a general temporary anger can be used productively to inspire action and change. It is when anger turns in…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 06:29 PM
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It takes a strong, independent woman to be the voice of men and reveal the real truth that only women can reveal about who men ought to be while battling the system at great personal cost.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/16 07:56 PM
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He needs to find a source of identity and stability for himself on his own terms. You are his backbone? What? Codependent or dependent relationships generally do not end well. He's using your relationship as a chemical crutch to find a little bit of happiness in his life. He is not yet himself, despite being 40 because of the trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 02:33 PM
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You are fucked. In every way except the way you want. Run, use whatever network and advantages you have gained from your association with her, and move on in life. "I need a woman who I feel wants me" Eh. More so, you need to lift.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 05:10 PM
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It's how your writing comes off. If the reality is different, then the words you chose do not convey it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 08:24 PM
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So... 1) Go flirt with men at a bar (I never do this, honest! Swear to god, someone forced me. I have no agency.) 2) Imagine yourself in all kinds of situations with a grass-is-greener man you meet (But SO does this too, so it's okay, I'm not doing anything wrong! It's normal!) 3) I'm really loyal (obv! except "if there were doubts")! 4) Watch a show about sex and when feeling emotions are 100% sure.... when you have the emotions. Your man is not the best possible. You will meet better men. You …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 08:08 PM
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Is this really what Christians read and learn from about how relationships should work? Lord, have mercy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/15 10:02 PM
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I'm not sure how to convey this. It's a shared experience most men can relate to. When we are younger boys, there are no good ways that are generally taught for how to sort through and experience through the range of emotions we have. And upon reaching puberty, we experience a dramatic transformation where the influx of testosterone fills up with yet another level of... need, without a directly taught way for how to deal with it. That need is this combination of various lusts. A lust for blood (…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 05:54 PM
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Woe, woe is me. I'm sick and it's not my fault. It's my destiny! Fate! Not in my control at all. The cure is owning your shit.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/15 07:05 PM
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Consider if you engaged in the world under the idea that if you worked hard, provided for family, were loyal, honorable, and tried your best, that if you gave it your all based on what people told you they wanted, they would do what you wanted in return. This has been an idea that has underpinned marriage for many generations. Then you do your part, but the other person not only doesn't do what you ask when you are clear about your needs, but then goes out to screw you and all your sacrifice, cl…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 10:56 PM
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Oh I see. You don't have the testosterone or other thing that creates this mental state. When one looks upon the world and sees that one has been duped, and when values honesty and honor, then a response is rage that one has performed his part of a perceived contract that others have drilled and taught, without others fulfilling the other part of the bargain. When I say this message to many men, they know exactly what I mean from personal experience.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 10:50 PM
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When done well, it transitions to a male-based system of letting whoever is best at a task be a leader and others with less experience learning. Few fathers are able to consistently achieve that level. Most transition into a peer role. I was on my own at 19. Maybe your example is more cultural.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 09:34 PM
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nah, mate, You have to look at historical context. Men have often been what can be termed some variant of poly. Especially very high value men. Women have not. They were constrained. With the sexual revolution and experimentation, women, less so men, had to find a social narrative that supported what they wanted to do. Some claimed it was for equality. Some wanted to not be shamed and create a way to counter slut shaming. Whatever the reasons, the non-monogamy approach stuck. Yes, it has a place…
/r/TheRedPill17/12/15 03:36 AM
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Ouch, well, in that case I would smile and keep going. Some people are territorial, I suppose.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 09:22 PM
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Yeah, see, you demonstrated that you are in the "out" group. if you saw what was happening and kind of followed the herd (or were among the first ones) and seemed like you were just like everyone else, it would likely have been not a big deal. Especially if you just went in and started doing something. I don't think anyone complains when others pitch in to help. I mean, what, is someone going to fight you to clean the dishes and tell you to go away? Maybe, but seems unlikely.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 08:30 PM
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They all have hustled for position, roles, and have some kind of established group dynamics. A new entrant represents an unknown, and possibly a threat. Or at least change and work that upsets the status quo. You have to either demonstrate submission, by showing you are vulnerable in that this is something you really want to work on. Or, add value immediately by showing that you understand the rules, getting up right away, and going to start cleaning or participating instead of waiting for a pla…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 08:07 PM
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No contact. No excuse for that.
/r/askTRP13/12/15 06:30 PM
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You know all that shit that goes on in your head that likely your SO would find uncomfortable if he really knew? That ruthlessness that is part of your person, and that you work actively to manage so that you are the best for your partner? Well, men have that, too. In different ways, such as having a drive to father as many children as possible with as many women as possible. There is no "destined". Every day and every action is a choice given the same basic biology. Today, choose to love and tr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 12:43 AM
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so... you conditioned your husband to not be open and vulnerable with you about a delicate situation (not being into sex, denying, fighting, etc). And then you are not attracted to him. And then you want him to fix it and nag him. You sound like a bitch with wandering eyes. I am interested in women who are also interested in me. Men are generally not stupid, we can tell. And we hate duty sex (although many will take it, better than nothing). If you are not attracted, you can't negotiate and forc…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 01:32 AM
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It's very true. I started a company headhunting for fortune 500 corps exactly for the reasons you mentioned. For people re-entering the job hunt, networking has a higher ROI than going the classic application route. Also, many qualified people have terrible resumes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 09:40 PM
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This is the general case now regardless of gender. And by this I mean the job market is tough. One has to be smart by cultivating a network and seeking out contacts and ways to demonstrate value. For example, could volunteer and run a project, getting to know people who may recommend for a job. Nobody gets that far (unless STEM + experience) with job applications alone.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 08:55 PM
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Standard shit testing. Have to seem above and beyond the average, as their self-interest is attuned to the most base emphases on the dualistic imperative of their mating strategy.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 08:44 PM
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When an outsider critiques a way of thinking, that critique is rooted in the underlying thoughts and ideas that the outsider believes. So approaching the world with the unexamined perspective that people have some kind of underlying goodness (instead of transactional utility), or that human rights apply in a universal unalienable way (with an ever-expanding idea of rights, often without corresponding responsibilities) creates a gross distortion of what red pill ideas advocate. And as a result of…
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 08:31 PM
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There are no differences of any kind. We are all the same: equal and free. The reason different people follow predictable patterns that are similar is because of individual differences in the unique ways those patterns are expressed. Given enough data, the mind spots patterns that are truly random, but that we cannot help but categorize. Say with a sincere face and tone. College is no place for reality.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 08:12 PM
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You are removing the possibility of vulnerability and openness very early. Similar to how women often evaluate a man's capacity and willingness for commitment and leadership, men evaluate a woman's capacity and willingness to defer. If you make the choice for a man that you are not available to be discovered, it is a frustrating experience. It is frustrating because normal conversation does not require a lot of commitment from a man. And some part of him realizes that if you are covert and not v…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 10:34 PM
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I have a story about a couple who are both friends of ours. She's a farmer's daughter, went back to help her dad after her master's. He's a farmer, ex policy planner. He asked her out, and she would dress up really cute with feminine dresses. And what won him over is that she did that while being willing to engage and be part of his life. They told me one time they went on a date, and he was doing chores. So she came over in a cute summer dress and makeup while he was milking the goats, and he s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 02:50 AM
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What? No. Why are you defining your perspective from a feminine framework? Your commitment is expensive, why are you reducing it to an activity of aggregating security and provision?
/r/TheRedPill23/10/15 03:39 PM
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You work for someone else? LOL, you puny little insect, running around thinking you're people. Cute. Your drive for validation from others has taken the flipside. Now you gain power for yourself by putting other down, whereas before they gained it by putting you down. Break out of it. Become the origin point of your story for yourself. Not an emotional parasite who feeds off the anger and disgust.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/15 08:10 PM
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Yes, but this has been a huge point of contention, the whole expitation/propitiation issue. The reason this dance is necessary in the first place historically in Christianity is 1) Augustinian tradition requires a non-Pelagian approach to saying we're OK, which he does through the contrast of an all-loving God, and a completely fallen man, via convenience of original sin. 2) Calvinist clarification goes a step beyond and says this is not an issue at all because we can just say logical contradict…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/15 09:48 PM
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Right, it's the situation that if a person realizes shit, I can do something about what I'm going through. And I don't have anyone to blame but myself. It is not going to help that much now, but if I work, I can be better off in the future, and take responsibility now. That is several metric tons of internal work. For one, it means the reality of feeling all the feels is still there, but it is put internally in its place in favor of a longer term approach of accountability. And then one has to f…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/15 08:34 PM
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Because accountability is painful and disrupts the current narrative a person has. It's an extremely potent disruptor. So much so that religions have come up ways to help people cope (eg it's karma, it's the devil, it's Christ's sacrifice and atonement, it's the animal offered on your behalf so your sin is taken away, etc)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/15 07:22 PM
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It means you crave connection. It's normal, healthy, and can be beautiful. But, it can also cause you extreme distress. I would try to fill my life with other forms of connection and other ways of having support. Friends, community, volunteering, hobbies, self-improvement, etc. But do it for you... not as a bargain with God that if you do X, you will get Y. Or look at it as a more brutal way. If you want better and the competition is tough, then you have to be competitive.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:37 PM
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Huh. Reason I say next is because one of my good friends is orthodox, and married a man eerily similar to the one you describe (different passion). I didn't realize it was that similar of a situation. She rationalized her choice for the reasons you mentioned. She is profoundly unhappy now. Maybe you can make it work, who knows. It will not be easy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:07 PM
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so... 1) Crazy, yet emo dude who doesn't have his shit together. Strangely compelling because he's helping kids, so part of you is moved. 2) Makes you feel a lot about all kinds of topics and gets you hooked on feeling the feels. Aka vibe and chemistry (aka game). 3) You know you don't have to work that hard because he doesn't have his shit together, so by comparison, it means it's OK for you to fail, too. Let it go. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 06:59 PM
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The point is that have a reference where you do not think you are under siege. Pull her into a different reference point using humor or something else or ignore. It's just a question. Don't engage and ask what makes her say that or how it makes you feel, or how you are not well or are under stress. say you're busy or say nothing, or put her into a different frame of mind.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 11:33 PM
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"Yeah, I had to cross a minefield this morning while a lion chased me down because I shot his gazelle. In the end, he turned out to be cool and we shared a happy meal. I'm so pumped up now because how often do you meet a talking lion? Won't be crossing that ghetto again, though. Why do you seem so off? I'll show you a button that can turn you on later" Come on, man, don't take it so seriously. "confront?" what are you under siege by a group of talking lions or something?
/r/askTRP15/10/15 11:26 PM
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Here is what he is doing: "Shit, I should be planning more for getting married. And making more money. Even she is making more than me. I better get to it and work harder. I hope that's enough, but probably isn't. She'll probably find some way to make it about her and complain about that too, just like she nags me about marriage." Here is what you're doing " Commitment. I need commitment. Why am I not good enough for commitment? Me and my needs, and now he is working harder and harder because he…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/15 05:42 PM
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I hear you; it's not an easy situation because he's a grown man and must make his own decisions. I would maybe say my concerns once and then make my peace with it and if the money is lost, that's that. It's not a tremendous amount.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 11:56 PM
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Any kind of payment should be based on outcome with joint responsibilities. For example, we will deliver X result together. You are responsible for dependency XYZ. If we hit X, I will get paid. If we do not, in case of overshoot or undershoot, I get paid more or less, depending on the metrics for milestone completion. Paying for "services" is BS. It's so vague and a bad deal for the client to just pay for work without results. As for how he should handle it, that's a tough one. He should be open…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 11:29 PM
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You vet the person. Look for patterns of commitment in other ways. is this a person who always follows through on his word? Do his friends think highly of him as a man of integrity and leadership, or is he a woman chaser having his fun? Does he seek pleasure and thrills, or does he think about the future and plan for a life where he is growing his value? It's a combination of all these things and more. You never really know. It's always a risk. But for most men, if we are satisfied, we don't go …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/15 11:43 PM
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Yes, although I had a job at 19 after I graduated from university. shrug. Just have to work your ass off. Don't be mad for fish being fish. Focus on your own shit. Oh and get two 18-year-olds instead of one 20-year-old.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 06:47 PM
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See, the word natural is manipulative. it implies a gold standard. And so that whenever someone is not at that state, they are falling short. That's the nature of language, to imply binaries. When you apply it to something as big as the fundamental way the world works, the situation creates haves and have nots. It creates power differentials. Add in some metaphysical ideas, and quite literally anything goes because the fundamental aspect is power, not the is-ness of things. So whatever can be us…
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 04:32 PM
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Both are, because neither are inherent perpetual states. All of one or all of the other would not serve our species well. You're comparing dissimilar aspects. In karmic ontology, there is a single right answer for the nature of being, for the is-ness of things. In TRP, there is more of praxeological continuum, because TRP makes few to no ontological claims.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 03:54 PM
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OK. Reread what you said. "Natural state is ego free" "99.99999 blah have ego" therefore, ego not natural, when pretty much everyone works that way? because, what broken bla bla chakra alignment? Evil? Original sin? demons? Isn't it a bit more straightforward to just say that hey 99.999% blah% have ego, therefore perhaps, seeing as how everyone has it, that is the actual natural state of things?
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 03:12 PM
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Body language and tone. You know how two people can say the same thing, but it is interpreted in different ways? Set the stage as everyone is having a great time and you're not taking this seriously, so nobody else is taking it seriously, and you can say whatever you want. eg: grin, and say "yep, this is so condescending. Let me show you how much." Then do something ridiculous like the thing where you say "I am crushing your head" with your thumb and forefinger. Then spin her around, take her ha…
/r/askTRP10/10/15 02:54 PM
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One of our good friends is a single gal who went abroad to work and traveled in Europe. We talked to her about her experiences and she said that she loved her travels, but purposely minimized where she went because she wanted to have places to see and experiences to have together with any possible future SO. I thought this was very sweet and very smart. If someone told me that she traveled, I would be cautious. If someone told me she traveled because she loves language, or architecture, or cultu…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 02:00 AM
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One forgotten tradition are elocution parties. This is where everyone picks something to read, then it is read and optionally discussed. Make food and see what literature people enjoy. Can be adapted to a ladie's night, but someone has to host. Works best when 8+ people.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 01:49 AM
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Synapse burnout. Basically, we as people get burned out on experience over time. It takes more novelty, more change, more experience to experience comparable levels of pleasure. It takes a balance of suffering and pain to balance that out chemically if we want to experience the same level of pleasure without novelty. This is challenging in the mating dance because 1) Pain damages people. Most people do not do well with painful experience and develop psychological issues. Men avoid this for LTRs.…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 06:23 PM
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Using logic, it follows that in your view shared experience justifies not looking your best and not being pleasant. So basically, entrap someone, have experiences, then let yourself go and become a bitch. I wouldn't stop there, though. I would try to make sure others also let themselves go and become bitches. Because one should share success!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 02:04 PM
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I'll put my phone down for 15 minutes to have a shower and get dressed and I have 14 missed messages, 3 missed tweets, and 5 missed snaps; at 8am on a school day. OK. A man who has his life together at ~25 by 8 AM has most likely worked out, sorted out the day's tasks/schedule, as is in the office dealing with irate clients, a demanding boss, perhaps subordinates who need training or assignments, and tons of other real shit. He doesn't have time for your lifestyle because, although it might be y…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 03:39 PM
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The mind has processes that act in ways to preserve itself by creating drugs that direct attention away from self-knowledge. One of the ways this is manifested is that during any deconstruction and systematization of relationships or social dynamics, people have a deeply internal reason to use any kind of strong tactics to prevent self-examination. It's there to ensure procreative success overall, and social stability.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/15 07:12 PM
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Next time a new guy tries to holla his words wont sound so sweet to her. exactly. Best to practice behavior that creates harm for life experience. Empower herself. Instead of seeing the situation and exercising agency to withdraw and improve first.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 03:12 PM
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leave both. sort out your shit.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 05:30 AM
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Humans do not owe the kind of dynamics (captain/first mate) that make for a healthy relationship to the whole world at large. People can do what they want. As a structural issue even in RP relationships, it is very helpful for both people to have an overlap in their skillsets. Because when life challenges arise, either one can step in to support the unit. Skills do not necessarily equate to how one is inside or one's efficacy as a mate. One can be masculine and pursue interests that are often mo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 05:30 PM
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Absolutely. there are tradeoffs when taking a certain philosophical stance. EG biological determinism/sociobiology (mid or hind brain primacy) vs existentialism (fore brain primacy). And at best, the explanations cover 60-80% of dynamics. A better approach is a more neurobiological one in which there's an understanding for how our experience of reality combines the different parts of the brain to shape our mental states. And that approach is not exactly the evopsych that tends to underpin RP. Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 11:29 PM
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Your point about figuring out in advance is important, yet consider that people change over time. And one of the core drivers for change is biology. Our hormonal cycles, our motivations, our sources of meaning affect our perception of reality as humans. And figuring out in advance, while useful, offers little guarantee or assurance that one's mate will remain like this. Women and men both undergo predictable biological changes, that within a western social framework can be abstracted for the lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 10:44 PM
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He's talking about a very specific dynamic that may be different than the one you have in mind. He's talking about the "yeah baby, it's going to be so good later. Just wait." All the while the situation is that genuine sexuality is closed off in favor of some kind of rule, creating frustration for the man and setting up crazy mental states because hormones. All the while, the woman has often secured what she wants... validation/companionship/status/feelings/etc His point is that men shouldn't bu…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 07:52 PM
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One of the greatest gifts you can give a man is your genuine and unreserved vulnerability. You have to be careful in choosing a worthy person, because in my experience many men have no idea what to do with it. And many times women think giving crazy is somehow similar to being genuinely vulnerable. But when done right, and it seems you are on the right track here, you can discover extraordinary intimacy together. And if you give up control and are vulnerable, it frees you up to be light, so that…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 05:52 PM
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Phrase it in a way that leaves him options and ability to choose. Not "You need to drive slower" or "Slow down, you'll cause an accident", but more like "I feel anxious and have a deep fear of accidents and driving too fast. I don't feel safe." Activates his protector/provider mode so he can feel fulfilled without feeling like he gave something up.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 05:36 PM
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history will remember you as the bigots that you are. Exactly. Bigots who won, had productive lives doing cool shit, building cool shit, and fathering progeny.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 06:20 PM
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Then don't go for a 9, adjust for what matters to you and work with what you have. If you can afford it, get braces. Stay fit and eat well. Dress well. Be feminine in your demeanor. If you can't get the guy with the 6-pack who makes 150K, is intelligent, driven, and with high social acuity, find someone to match you better. Maybe an average looking man who has a solid job, is independent, and has some dreams for where he wants to go in life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:21 PM
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Take the standard steps that women take in filtering and choosing. Select the highest value man from a society you know. Meaning whose reputation you can verify by asking around, and where you reduce the systemic risk of being lied to by determining the nature of his character through past actions and performance. it is this expertise in social manipulation and management that is one of the traits of women's mating strategy, and where the modern world with its emphasis on artifice makes it more …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:43 PM
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Find a therapist so you have alternative means to let out some of this energy, and hopefully get feedback about other coping mechanisms that you may develop to help deal with the grief. It is shitty to bring such rawness of experience to another human being without balancing it with more positive interactions. Biologically, it can short-circuit a rather delicate relational feedback loop that makes for enduring, healthy relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 12:11 AM
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I am sooo mature now. So much better. So much of a different person, not the person I was then. So it's not really my fault NOW, although maybe it was my fault THEN. That person then is gone so it's really her fault and not mine. Please see that. Please?
/r/askTRP25/08/15 04:55 PM
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It was your turn for a while. That turn ended. Do not use your emotions so they lord over you, but you lord over them. Use them to get what you really want. And what you think you want is her, the version of her you believed in your mind, not the version of her that she is. She is a slut. So either cut her loose and act in a way so you make the best of this, or figure out some way to be together and accept who she is. Beyond the her you want is the reality that you want yourself more.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 04:35 PM
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Goddamn. That is some straight talk.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 01:07 AM
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"oh he hates me now." So what? Own your shit and fix it and do better. Feelings are transitory. But you can choose to be pleasant, which helps him to see you in a positive way. he possibly didn't feel this way any more. So what? He can feel that way again. You can't make him, but you can do your part to eliminate the barriers. Men generally follow a pattern, which is covered here in RPW. We want to love our women. But women often make it so damn complicated. Make it less complicated.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 12:37 AM
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Flip the idea. Instead of one concept/country per show, focus on an ingredient and cover it at length in terms of its relationship to fitness. For example, Heston used this idea https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03h5T_tiyx0 . And create a template for all the shows using the classic 5-act play structure.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 04:54 PM
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There is a speech he did where his point amounted to that young people are soft and full of shit because they do not celebrate culture and past achievements of the poets and writers. He said great art requires suffering (prison) or sexual denial, or both. And that modern artists are too soft and too in touch with their feelings, so that instead of writing about drama from a place of strength, they write from a place of pussified feel-good bullshit. Well-educated dude.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/15 07:41 PM
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I think I'm approaching 80-85% mastery after a decade-long career as a non-fiction writer. I possessed some talent when I started and focusing on bad habits helped build on that foundation by shaping my mind into a way of thinking about language that constantly deconstructs ideas for clarity and conciseness. Although I'm not in the business any more, I wrote 25,000-30,000, 300-word pages during that time.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 02:53 PM
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It's how I started, too. Took me years of messing up to see that there are a lot of similarities between many core dishes in different cuisines. Like the potatoes and greens mentioned.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 10:17 AM
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Sure, I agree. Am saying it's tough. Takes a half decade or so of dedicated writing to achieve an acceptable level of habitual mastery AND a good editor. I was in the publishing business for a while and saw editors transform rather shitty work into near masterpieces at times. Good part about blogging is it's always possible to ask and engage through comments. Makes somewhat unpolished work more acceptable as a whole.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 04:17 AM
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It's his style. Logical linguistic constructs often demand that the reader buys into a core universe of shared vocabulary and background ideas. This shorthand is necessary to convey complex meaning in short sentences. However, there is a tradeoff that happens when the shorthand moves too far from the original, core truths. On the one hand, using hierarchical ideas enables more meaning to exist in fewer words. And on the other hand, this style alienates readers who have not bought into the univer…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 03:14 AM
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Eh, everyone can benefit from the work of a great editor. It's tough to fit in complex ideas into clear language, especially without multiple revision cycles. If it helps you, here's what Rollo means: Men may pass through an initial filter that women use for mate selection by seeming like other women desire them, regardless if this is true or not (called preselection). But once a woman bonds to a man, the stronger the attachment, the more anxiety a man may create by demonstrating that the woman'…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 02:58 AM
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I have cooked for a living, and cook about as much as my wife. One approach I use is to actively note favorites. Meals that are very well received instead of the usual "it's good. thanks". I try to deconstruct what about that meal is liked best. Maybe it is one or more of the presentation, smell, combination of flavors, cuisine, ratio of macros, seasonality, etc. And I note each person's preferences (and allergies), meaning write them down. Then whenever I make food for that person, I can create…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 09:45 PM
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A sensitive man who listens to me and goes out of his way to do what I want. A nice guy. (come on!)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/15 07:03 PM
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Maybe. Also might be that men like that give in and surrender power, knowing that the woman can use it to grant or deny. I think I see your point. Goes back to power and that a woman usually doesn't want to be the one in charge, and knowing that a man does not submit to her helps with that dynamic. The word intimidation doesn't seem to fit, though. I wouldn't call that the experience. edit: If you're considering this kind of situation as a filtering criteria, I still think it doesn't quite work …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 10:35 PM
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Beta men are not intimidated by feminine women. They pedestalize. More awe-struck by. Women are intimidated by strong men and disgusted by weak men. (so much passive voice in trying to match original language). Women find strong men intimidating in some way. Not the other way around. I understand the point made here about how "real men" are not intimidated. But not-real men are also not intimidated. That's generally not what we men experience. Most men respond to femininity in the same way. But …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 10:05 PM
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Here's a guy who is promising me commitment and the future I've always dreamed of.... after 6 weeks You get that much of a validation when something/one fits in to the man-shape hole you have in your imagination for the life you want to lead? This is not sane. Make choices with the integration of your heart and mind. This is not a good choice.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 03:40 PM
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Then why is your writing so filled with genuflective adulation?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 09:50 PM
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You still are so severely attached to the idea that there is some kind of ideal and some kind of standards that you permit yourself to elevate random people to some kind of high status because they exemplify some traits that you find worthwhile. Nope. Just shitty humans, all of us. That's the beauty of it. You're in love with a lie, just a different kind of lie. Love the truth instead. However, if you are actually saying that you find it inspiring that there are others who work hard to live by a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 09:42 PM
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You mean run the existing masculine strategy that men run against women, but against a man? To what end? Get power to accomplish and mold some behavior?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:17 AM
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mmm, I see it as more of an expectation that readers want their feels catered to. These days, what sells is the ideal that there is such a thing as a standard, and that standard is good, and the good wins over evil in the end. Atticus represented the height of masculinity and unwavering goodness. Go Set a Watchman paints a more realistic, more complex scenario that forces the reader to look inside and understand the inherent hypocrisies and complexities of all of us. And like a child who for the…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 09:29 PM
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For me, it is not that my mother nagged me, or that I think women are inferior. It is that without exception, personally, whenever I have voluntarily given up power (to "change because I love her" or whatnot) or have had it taken from me because I did not know any better, I have come to resent the outcome. In the first case, even when I negotiated or we agreed upon what a woman had to do in exchange, what I wanted never happened, and it was never enough for her. Like the power acted as poison to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 03:18 AM
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You need to surrender your goal of wife and kids to a greater growth opportunity. Examine why you want that and what it means for your life (likely some version of legacy). Understand how all of you is your legacy. And how family and a supporting spouse adds to the legacy. Embrace the pain and growth. It's a hell of an awesome ride. That's the endgame. Not a 40-something player, not that there's anything wrong with that. That said, if you do want kids and a family to be part of your legacy, then…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 02:54 PM
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A subtle point being made in several comments lately about AWALT is that all women have a set of tendencies that their natures will push them toward, and in a society that gives them unilateral support to do whatever they want without consequences, they will act on those tendencies. AWALT is not a guarantee of particular behaviours if there are constraints. This means love is possible. This logical fallacy is a version of the hasty generalization accomplished through an inductive approach. In yo…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 01:56 PM
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Some variant of https://rationalmale.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/smv-timeline1.jpg Biologically, what I am talking about is the period between Rollo's party years and epiphany transition. This is not as intense as adolescence, but it marks the period of time where women re-evaluate their past strategies. Those who were "good girls" try to make up on missing out. Those who partied begin to get more desperate. Those who have been in committed relationships get some variant of the 5-7-year itch. An…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 02:13 PM
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I didn't convey the idea clearly. The biologically driven switches that happen for women happen because AWALT. You are her party stage. What in others takes place as going out and "finding themselves", for her is happening within the context of your relationship. And all the highs and lows are like a substitute. Wait 5 years. You'll see what I meant then. Wait 7 more after that and you'll see again. it might wind up being fairly subtle for her, especially if she manages her nature, but it will h…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 12:48 PM
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Sure, there are decent people out there. But, grow up. She doubled down because she is in a stage of life before the switch of the mid 20-s. Only she replaced the highs and lows of partying with the highs and lows of your shit, of which you provide plenty. If you were boring, not strong, without the power to affect her, she would be gone. Once the first switch happens in the mid twenties, or the second in late twenties or early thirties, come back then. because those are biologically driven chan…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 12:25 PM
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https://vimeo.com/97370236
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 07:17 PM
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Oh look, the classic game of putting another down to elevate oneself up instead of constantly delivering value that people see and doing your thing in a DGAF manner. "I am a confirmed alpha and I spin 1000 plates". Please.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 05:01 PM
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The reality of the world is that it takes vision, strategy, tactics, and execution of all of these to get to some change and some goal. When one wages a culture war based on feelings with loosely defined goals and no real way to measure the connection between an action and the consequence (eg "awareness" decreases rape or some such), then logically any action can be attributed as helping, because the target is ever shifting. It's brilliant. Yell loudly enough and someone will get tired of that s…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 04:16 PM
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Most of us seek balance and when younger undergo a process of separation and individuation. Because her experience is of a strong masculinity, she rebels against it. Not that different from a girl with an authoritarian father who goes for an artist type or a sensitive type. It's temporary. She'll get tired of it when her hormones tell her around the age of 22-26, or perhaps later due to the prolonged youth that the western world of affluence affords.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/15 03:30 PM
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Yeah, I'm not saying that egalitarianism has ever been the norm. But there is something poignant in exactly what you point out: title, ownership, and accumulation. When you have to deal with tough shit all the time, and are nomadic to follow the food, there's just not enough time or energy left for civilization, accumulation, or having a ton of stuff. Within such a structure, though, it makes sense that people had different roles. Some men, for example, were better warriors. Some might be more a…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 05:39 PM
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So agriculture somehow magically changed everything. Yeah OK. The entire fundamentalism of TRP relies on and plays on the distinct biological, social, and societal differences between men and women, both contemporaneous and historical. Not everything. Not like women used to be super strong and could go and hunt the same way. However, much of life was about survival as a group, and role specialization helped. There is a decent point here that agriculture did change the dynamic, and reduced the ki…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 02:19 PM
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I just suddenly feel rage but I don't know how to focus it. Help appreciated. Focus it on transformative change for yourself. So much wrong with what you wrote. For example, why on earth are you being a commitment slut?
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 03:44 PM
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She displayed a rare honesty about her true perception of you, her power, and relative SMV. Even if you drastically increased in value, underlying situation would remain, just be more subject to her dread-based actions. Leave. Now. Work on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 03:41 PM
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Get out yesterday. Seriously.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 03:39 PM
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What do you want from her? What do you love that she does, or a quality she possesses, or a skill that really works for why you picked her and not someone else? She is giving you a comfort test in a way. Wants to know when she is doing well and how to please you. So tell her, and give her feedback so she feels engaged and useful. Some part of her knows that she must perform, and you aren't giving her an opportunity to do that with feedback on the quality of performance.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 03:18 PM
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and not giving her any positive feedback about anything she does. You are not rewarding and punishing her. Not giving her a range of emotional expression. When a woman says it's about you, what that means is that it's about her and her perception and experience. Focus on the truth of what she is saying. Give her a target for success and help her reach there, because seems like she wants to pleasure you. Being stoic does not mean always being a robot.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 02:57 PM
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You are missing out. You are missing out on the whole range of world views and justifications that are routinely called blue pill here. The sex-positive attitudes that all manner of physical contact can be removed from the emotional or mental. Or if not removed, then all experiences are to be celebrated because anyone can rationalize poor decisions as "I wouldn't be who I am today without them" You are missing out on that way of looking at and living in the world where anything goes (disingenuou…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 06:27 PM
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I give a lot of credence to people's ability to grow and change and learn new skills that increase various forms of intelligence. For whatever reasons, I see very high IQ people who are not so well adjusted. Perhaps from being treated poorly, as you say.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 06:59 PM
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True, I overgeneralized. Actual studies support some level of correlation. In my personal experience, there's a kind of tradeoff that practically happens, at least earlier in life, during which IQ or EQ dominates in people who are at extreme ends of the spectrum (such as sigmas). There are also issues with measuring both as meaningful indicators of anything.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 05:31 PM
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You must understand that before he possesses value enough to match yours, he must look deep within himself to develop ways to respond to pain and draw strength from it. All your desire to nurture and support him does not change the fundamental fact that you two are poorly matched. Right now. And all you have is right now. You are not necessarily treating him like a mother. He put you in that place within himself. He doesn't "get it". Let him grow alone until he does. Life must be pain for a man …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 03:31 PM
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Try to be an objective viewer of the world without biases. That is all. Not possible. Our brains prevent it. Even the view of going without biases is a kind of bias. Best to adopt a perspective that maximizes whatever it is that you value after you define it for yourself. It so happens that for most men that is respect and growth through overcoming challenges.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 10:16 PM
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It takes time. Be consistent in your femininity and he will grow to trust it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 06:48 PM
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but I find myself comparing him to my ex who is extremely proactive and would constantly call, text, and could anticipate all my needs. It's good to know that this is all about you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 01:44 PM
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Friend of a friend. Oddball deviant types are hard to come by because it takes a kind of perfect storm of situation and personality/genetics. Take a more sensitive kid who has great parents and is well-adjusted and who receives attention and validation, and you have more of an alpha track. Take the same kid and put him in a military family that moves all the time and you have a different outcome. Another example is a friend, a Marine. Guy comes from a rural kind of farming, hard-working life and…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/15 12:26 PM
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And if they don't pay attention to them, you generally don't want to commit to a man like that anyway. It's not that there's a morality to these things exactly, but it's somewhat like clothing and style selection. If you present yourself a certain way, you will be perceived a certain way... and no matter how much you try to disclaim you're a special, complex person and "not like that" and "why can't he love me for me", there's an order to making an impression and demonstrating that you are worth…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 03:21 PM
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Reminds me of that one book, "Your money or your life", which advocates a more minimalistic approach to possessions and following one's passions instead of being a good consumer.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 01:03 AM
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eh... but think about deviants. There are always going to be people who fall outside of the 2-3 sigma normal distribution. They tend to have it rougher than most because IQ and EQ and inversely correlated. But once in a while you get this combination of someone who is just wired very differently. It's not that it's a group of males that are alpha but not alpha. It's more so that they are complementary. for example, religious leaders can be seen in some societies as sigmas. Like early shamans... …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/15 08:35 PM
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Right, that's what I was trying to express. So for example, I knew this one fellow who was a little odd. A somewhat sensitive, dreamer type, but not in the way of an absent-minded mathematician or a painter. More so, I think he saw the world through very different eyes than more people. One time I heard a story about him doing some volunteer construction work. There was a leadership hierarchy in place with management and the like. And he didn't like the pace, or maybe it was something about the …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/15 06:45 PM
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IMO, one of the distinctions between the two is the source of validation. Let's be real, we are social animals and enjoy validation through our connections. Those who curate group connections and followers deriving some power continuously by influencing others are more on the alpha continuum. Those who are more disdainful of connections because they either have better things to do, or perhaps never got into the pattern of exercising their influence (eg due to heavy trauma in life) are more on th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/15 05:31 PM
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Even if not, the range of expression that is possible within the dynamics of mating are breathtaking and beautiful. It is like the difference between thinking that sex is only about fucking powerfully in the missionary position vs enjoying all the different ways one might fuck. You constrain yourself to restrict abundance. Why?
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 04:09 PM
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There's more to life; go out and discover it. Or perhaps you're just trolling.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 03:24 PM
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From where does your idea of "perfect" arise?
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 03:00 PM
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Nah. I'm trying to point out how your word constructs speak to a state of mind in which you depend on external validation for meaning (a job, a virgin wife, etc). Why do these things have a hold on you? Or to put it another way. You say "women have ruined". I say "I have surrendered my power to allow another to command my sense of self"
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 02:52 PM
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No. Your thinking that you must rely on women (or a job) for anything, let alone important aspects such as identity, motivation, and drive are what have "ruined your mission". You let it happen and you fucked it up. Now get up and go fix that shit. You are the source of your happiness.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 02:43 PM
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Go find a man who deals with real shit and has enough to challenge him in life so that he appreciates a sweet woman. Heh. "put him in his place". What, as your bitch so he can lose attraction to you? smh.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/15 06:42 PM
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Classic powertalk. Attract women ("wow, this man of great status wants me in his club. I better join and conform"), men will follow because pussy, and money keeps flowing. Oops, I mean salvation. Gotta save (money). For Jesus.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/15 02:40 PM
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Absolutely. That's where the creativity and art of business comes in. No reward without risk. Sometimes, situations warrant taking a greater risk, and sometimes a lesser risk. In the case of coca, maybe it's worth it to bleed money for a while. Like what Amazon did in the diaper business. I'm more with the originator of the coca discussion, though. Because some of the better successes in modern startups get cashflow quickly and do a more agile launch strategy so they can refine without sinking a…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 09:43 PM
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Cost of customer acquisition. I would say this is #1 reason of startup failure today. Think of it in terms of lifetime monetization of a customer based on your product/service offering. It costs a certain amount of money to acquire a customer. And a customer will pay out a certain amount of revenue over time. What most new startups do is say cool, we are going to be an app or be online/cloud. So how to get customers? I know! ads! google, etc. So they spend $200+ to get a customer because the con…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/14 10:16 PM
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In a way, yes. Uneven environments meant that it required a mastery of the core dynamics underlying food: heat, timing, flavor combinations. But the life also followed a cadence. EG, milk in the morning, have clabber at night. And growing up with the skills from a young age made for an ability to have those skills early on.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/14 10:21 PM
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There is a difference to me between an absolute standard of respect that uses some kind of benchmark of measurement to gauge one's relative position against a known standard, and a relative standard of respect that uses rationalization to measure the standard based on how one feels. OP currently, to me, used the same rationalization based standard as before, though it took on a different form. It's not fundamentally different. And in this way, the respect she has now is the same respect she had …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 10:23 PM
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Yeah, I'm not putting you down or making any kind of moral valuation, am just saying life has all these growth opportunities. Yours seemed to have been fairly tough, but you wised up. You can create a happy life when you remember the fundamentals of who we are as humans and the differences between the sexes. I wouldn't say that PUA is about self-respect. It's about power and demonstration of value. One might have a great deal of self-respect, and yet in the presence of a high-value person (real …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/14 10:02 PM
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I have a hypothesis that only women who don't value/respect themselves fall into the traps of PUA guys, or be the type of women to constantly wonder "What's wrong with me, why can't I find 'the one'". Your story is absolutely in line with the average experience of modern women, but you got smarter and also got lucky meeting a decent man before your youth faded. You are the same person as before, but with a failed previous strategy, who, pursued the other side of hypergamy. Meaning stability firs…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/14 07:34 PM
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I respectfully disagree with this. It's the opposite. Both men and women want to maintain a power position when they achieve it. For the sake of explanation, let's examine the highest degree of sexual power: the alpha male and the alpha female. Both have unique ways of maintaining position by flexing their power. Yes, true. I'm getting at a different point, didn't explain it well enough. That thing of the structured order in a military with clearly defined roles and structures... when applied to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 11:47 PM
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People have found a way to a semblance of happiness throughout history while having many contradictory frameworks and mental perspectives that they use to explain reality. The underlying core of what makes it function is the interplay of biology with everything else. Because it is the immutable signals and drives of our bodies that shape personality, the expression in society, and the ability to make sense of all the stimuli we experience as humans. So what does that really mean? It means that i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 08:20 PM
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equal-relationship type dynamic works for others What does that even mean? It doesn't exist. Equal-dynamic for most people really means they take turns and trade off for who has power at any given point in time. If you really look, the most successful relationships that claim to be equal dynamic actually follow fairly traditional roles for the way power works in real life.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/14 09:21 PM
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Somewhere after the experiments of Freudian-inspired social conformity came the backlash that advocated extreme self-discovery and self-efficacy. All things of the self were celebrated, and self-esteem became a kind of idol. It became so pervasive that the nature of commerce changed fundamentally, driven away from selling the products and ideas of creators, to designing and creating based on focus groups. Whenever anyone goes against this fundamental, modern narrative of celebrating the self at …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/14 03:55 AM
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Because there is a fundamental belief and even underlying desire that people should care about each other (because you care), and that with a spouse, it should be that effort should have some aspect of relational equity, in which some semblance of what you put in, you should get out in a way that is meaningful to you. But, there are no "shoulds" when it comes to reality. There is just what is. She doesn't care when you care, as there's no incentive to perform. She will care when there's an incen…
/r/TheRedPill27/09/14 04:31 AM
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Yep, and in that case, I think most men who get to that stage will just get married anyway. But it's a somewhat challenging matter up front because to mitigate risk before having a history of performance and a shared, entwined life, a man may want to not marry and instead opt for some other kind of arrangement at first.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/14 04:15 PM
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All you have is today. Tomorrow, you may discover that one of you may have a serious illness, or an accident might take place. Tomorrow, you might undertake a great adventure together that challenges both of you to remain joined. Tomorrow might not come at all. And today you can choose to love your man and make life good for him, and accept his leadership so you are both fulfilled. If you are concerned about the benefits of marriage (health access, etc), then create contracts between the two of …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/14 03:03 PM
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From a perspective of a man, of course, one must have the attitude that I will keep working hard and improving. That if my relationships are not fulfilling, then I have the power to change that and improve, and not dwell in anger and impotence. However, from an overall perspective, "manning up" and "digging deeper" don't really work the same way as they have in the past. The entire reward system and social support system and structural conditions are no longer there. And this is mostly women's r…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 12:10 PM
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Redpill is about unlearning all the BS about morals, values, and self-worth.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/14 05:12 PM
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Dude. Just dude. You are relying on her, depending on her for happiness. You should be generating and creating happiness. So much happiness that it spills out into your life, and she can join in and add to it. You're relying on her for comfort. Why? Why do you want to be weak instead of pushing yourself to grow and grow more and more? the heart of redpill is not what you said. It doesn't really define itself by women necessarily. It is defined by what you want and your growth and constancy of in…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 09:46 PM
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No. You are demonstrating neediness, which surrenders your power. You can't do that. Communication in LTRs doesn't work by reason. By negotiating attraction and establishing boundaries. It works by raw motivation and doing shit. Meaning, your value is so high that she WANTS to spend all her time with you and please you because you make her feel that way. And/or because there's a negative feedback loop in the form of dread, where she knows that her nonperformance will not be tolerated not as a sh…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 08:06 PM
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Hi, I really want to conform to what I know is the best for my relationship. But I want to do it in a way where I do that and also I get to have my way. So I'm going to try and come up with the most clever position that makes it look like I am conforming to the stated belief, while secretly without realizing it undermining what I know is best. So I'm going to use self-contradictory statements like "lead him" and "I don't want to change him". And some part of me realizes what's going on, and I ca…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/14 10:07 PM
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Frame control?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 07:35 AM
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ENTJ with INTJ SO
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 01:14 AM
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He doesn't need to go from poor diet to ultra gym rat bro guy 90% protein shake 6x/day. He should see this change in your life as an opportunity to grow. Why does he dislike gym culture? I wouldn't consider myself part of that, but I work out regularly, eat well, and the people who take gym so seriously are at worst amusing, and at best inspiring. another dynamic that might be happening is that due to past pain, he's unwilling to make any practical commitment, because some part expects for you t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 08:27 PM
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Talk is cheap. IMO, he is driven by pain. The pain of past relationships has made him pain avoidant. To be RP, a man MUST experience at least one traumatic/difficult event and learn to pull himself out of it. Must deal with real shit and keep going in pursuit of his mission. Otherwise, he is not committed to personal growth at all costs, and not committed to leading from a place of confidence, but from a place of pain. I think you have in some ways become his oneitis because you genuinely do car…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 08:22 PM
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This. Often what happens in relationships is that as one partner's SMV increases, the other feels threatened. And instead of stepping up to the plate and seeing it as an opportunity to grow, the other person pulls you down. Huge red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 07:43 PM
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