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stopdrinkingsk00dge/r/askMRP07/06/21 08:50 PM
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EDIT** The marriage counselor called and had an opening for an appointment. Even trying to schedule that led into another argument. We actually had a pretty rational (as could be) discussion which is heading toward the path of 'we'll work better apart then we will together'. She's pushing for a 'separation', I'm just going to call it. No point in wasting more time going around the wheel with this any longer. Horns called it: It was already over and I'll say that I definitely think she is pushing…
/r/askMRP09/06/21 10:04 PM
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Understood. I'll take a look at the program/app. Thank You!
/r/askMRP09/06/21 07:17 PM
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Cool, I’ve already got a good start. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/askMRP09/06/21 01:30 AM
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Roger that. I disagree with your conclusion, but respect the fact this isn’t a subreddit for Goggins or his material.
/r/askMRP09/06/21 01:29 AM
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Acknowledged. I’ll be posting my first one this week. Thanks for all the explanations and tactics. This is how I knew I was in the right place.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 08:58 PM
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I’m not wondering at all - I know exactly who to blame for this - and it’s me. Is there a different method you’d recommend for taking ownership and starting the work?
/r/askMRP08/06/21 08:41 PM
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Thank you for the positive mindset on my questions. I have definitely been trying to get across the moving the speed, but not heist point. And I really liked your correct assumption that I’m not here for the easy way out - because I’m not. Divorce and MRP implementation are both difficult, but one choice is infinitely more final than the other. And thank you for taking the time to write out a thoughtful reply. That’s kind of where I’m at. The Hail Mary approach for 5-7 months, then accepting the…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 07:57 PM
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Yep, definitely acknowledge that. I do really value the drive that underlies all of this. The relentless need to improve oneself - not for validation but for ones own betterment.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 06:41 PM
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For someone who just discovered this two weeks ago — it’s a lot. It’s simple, but not easy.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 06:11 PM
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Using your analogy - if you stopped for two years but started back up you'd work off your debt in different ways but the hope would be that you start back up. It would be up to me to terminate the relationship when it was no longer viable. Most folks would do that immediately but we're talking about children, values, and lives here not just mowers, grass, and dollars. I get your point, though. Really, I do. It's like that moment before you jump off a diving board and the kids at the pool are beh…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:42 PM
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I understand that I'm emotionally compromised, so I get that my conclusions will likely not be based in reality but in mental gymnastics to try and stay 'comfortable'. The more conversation that takes place around the topic - the easier I'm finding it to intake new information to change my opinion - especially in relation to this. Don't mark me as out just yet, coach.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:35 PM
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Which is exactly why I came here and started digesting the information. And also why I posted all of this. I just need a good counsel of men to advise me of what I already know: marriage is over, need to do the hard work of actually making it official.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 03:31 PM
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I know, man. I’m rationalizing the shit out of all of this to avoid the truth. I will agree with you it’s probably an emotional affair. I can try and split hairs about probability all I want, but at the end of the day I know she’s checked out. That’s where the ego I have comes through. And the beta mindset as well. Removing the focus from her, understanding that it’s over, and doing the hard work of taking action with what needs to be done is what I actually need to focus my efforts on. Not whet…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 03:03 PM
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Yeah, I feel you. Like I’ve stated, everything else is going gangbusters. I’m definitely enjoying life. Just not this aspect at this moment. It’s interesting. A lot of folks here talk about respect - once it’s lost it can never be earned back. I believe it can be earned back (this includes self respect). For me, respect is earned and not freely given. Example: She treats me like shit because of hormones or whatever it is, I step up and pass shit tests, don’t put up with her games and eventually …
/r/askMRP08/06/21 01:26 PM
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When she’s work from home and her office is 30 feet from mine? Anything’s possible and I was blue pill for years... Definitely not trying to be a dick. She’s gone into the office 4 times this year so definitely possible there.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 01:02 PM
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I literally went to the gym for the first time in 15 years (to lift) yesterday. I started reading the material and sorted posts by “best of all time” to get a feel for the subreddit. All of them say: lift, STFU, read the sidebar (and the content within it!) and stop thinking about what she wants and think about what you want.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:57 AM
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She said “I love you” after the first date. She’s been kinky and wild with her exes but not with you. She wants to move fast. How many more red flags do you need? At this rate you could form your own flag football league with 32 Teams.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:49 AM
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The M in MRP represents “married”? But the more I read the more I am thinking that MRP is a mindset for relationships in general. “I’m on a mission, either get onboard or GTFO”.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:41 AM
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Already unsubscribed from both those subs since finding MRP. In my area, you can file your own papers with no lawyer unless you can’t agree on something. She is very agreeable and downright reasonable when it comes to the kids. Part of me is hoping that my actions, words, or otherwise will be like the last 10 seconds of the 2018 playoff game where the Vikings’ Stefon Diggs scored the winning touchdown against the Saints. I can hear the only Joe Buck call I’ve ever liked: Pass is... CAUGHT! DIGGS…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:32 AM
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Dude. You got me on that one. This made me stop and think and I’ll be sitting on this. Thank you.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:17 AM
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u/hornsofapathy: I’ve seen your name on many posts I’ve saved for quality content - thank you for your thoughtful and lengthy reply. You’re right on the money. Her last relationships were with “abusive” men - I later found out she has lied about her previous partner being physically abusive (he was “verbally abusive”). I’ve met the dude and while he seems like a drunk captain (literally a functioning alcoholic) - he loves his kids (one of whom is my stepson), provides for them, and seems to be h…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:16 AM
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I’m definitely outcome independent here. I’m in a state where her things are pretty favorable, and she is in the mindset of doing what’s best for the kids. Already met with a lawyer last week to explore my options. Of course, I’m sure everybody says that before things go down, but she really will sacrifice everything for our children. If it means getting not putting the kids through a court battle where she doesn’t win any significant amount of money for herself, she will do that. At least she’s…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 03:40 AM
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Like I said, my personal boundary is I would get divorced before I would do anything like that. We are just now starting to have friends and family back over after COVID and what not, and even then she still acts passive aggressive around me. I make an effort to get to know her best friend, be interested in her job and other things that she talks about. Before you ask, no, her best friend is not attractive and is a 4 at best. No interest there whatsoever even if I were to get divorced and go for…
/r/askMRP08/06/21 03:36 AM
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Holy shit. I think you may be on to something. Prior to her getting pregnant, she had an IUD that was end of life. It was randomly spitting out hormones there towards the end and her behavior was pretty much identical. At the time I had no clue so I chalked it up to a “one off”. She got off birth control, she got pregnant, and after giving birth got a new IUD. Behavior was almost back to “normal”. Then she had some issues with a cervical cancer scare, a few LEEP procedures, ultimately resulting …
/r/askMRP08/06/21 03:18 AM
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This year? Twice. And she has one singular female friend. Shockingly other women don’t stay friends with her for very long. My wife can be very loud and obnoxious.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 11:03 PM
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Not making any moral judgments there. That’s why I stated that integrity is doing “what is right” followed by that itself is subjective. People will do what they think is right - morality is subjective for many individuals. For me - I won’t cheat on my wife, I’ll get divorced first. But again, that’s just for me.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 11:02 PM
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I literally meant I wasn’t drunk since I was sober from booze - but point taken. I was an inebriated captain and failed - no doubt about it. Thank you for the solid linked post - that’s what I was looking for! You definitely had it stated well when you said there’s a middle ground. I’m not friendless but have spent too long obsessing over my wife’s feeeeelz and could have gone out with my friend group way more often. Right now I’ve got about 4 core male friends that I’ve been friends with for 10…
/r/askMRP07/06/21 10:58 PM
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Roger that. Working on it. Can’t drink milk or I piss out my ass for days. Current plan is to lift 3 days a week.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 10:53 PM
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That’s pretty much what discovering MRP has already been for me. Just doing what I want without giving a single fuck about what she thinks. If anything, she’s shown me she’s a petulant toddler when she doesn’t get her way and refuses to discuss it or calls it “emotional abuse” when I’ve DEERed it before learning about STFU.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 10:12 PM
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I mean - we’ve both been locked down since COVID. Before then she’d rarely go out. She always brings our boys with her, too. She told me she hates going out or going on vacations alone because she feels guilty she’s leaving her children (as I’m standing here asking what the fuck she’s talking about when I’m perfectly capable of caring for them). I can count on one hand the number of times she’s gone away for extended periods by herself on vacation - despite my encouragement and reassurance that …
/r/askMRP07/06/21 10:09 PM
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Well, as the sidebar and many other resources here state - it’s for me and my own values. I wouldn’t necessarily regret putting in less than 100% - but I definitely know that I can. If I don’t then that’s on me.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 10:06 PM
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No, I hear you man. I think it’s important to move with speed, but not haste. My knee jerk reaction here is to draw up papers yesterday. My strategic plan is to do truly everything I can in the span of 6-12 months to end things with knowing I tried everything I could before finally calling it. But I also ain’t nobody’s bitch, hence looking for more opinions from the fine folks here.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 09:17 PM
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I believe that one of the core character traits of a highly successful man is integrity - doing not only what is legal but what is right. Obviously, “what is right” is subjective. I was raised religious so that probably has some bearing. Otherwise, beyond all that - at the end of the day I’d be able to say that I really did do everything in my power to make things work.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 09:13 PM
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Why do I keep my word? I try my best to operate with integrity. I don’t want to see a rough patch and just say, “fuck it” and repeat my mistakes in another relationship. Although coming up on a year of this it is getting to the point where I’m questioning if it’s even worth salvaging.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 09:04 PM
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