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There's an excellent book on attachment styles called How We Love, by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. They are Christians and the book has some of those themes but you can still learn a ton if you're not interested in that aspect. You may find you're avoidant and/or something else. It's truly a wonderful book and they have a lot of information online, also. Something else to look into is childhood emotional neglect (CEN, especially Jonice Webb's work). She has material in Psychology Today online and an…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 04:54 AM
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Do you know for certain he's telling the truth on why his marriage failed? Regardless, the possibility of losing custody of children I have with him if I leave would have me nop!ng out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/26 04:37 AM
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This is excellent! My comment was going to be if he's so insistent on reuniting why is he not making every effort to visit you, rather than have you making every effort (even if it's his $)?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 04:33 AM
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Yes, the fact he couldn't accept her request to pay her own way is a red flag. Why does he care, why is his offer better, a relief? Does he ever accept her requests? And I think the age gap has a lot to do with the dynamics, though both may deny it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 05:02 AM
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I encourage you to get a full work-up at a functional medicine practice. You could be helped by testing your blood (and there's a dry-urine test called DUTCH that some practitioners do), and find what may help hormone-, supplement-, and sleep-wise, etc. (sleep science is fascinating). Among other hormones, you could have a thyroid imbalance, which is easily treated, but I urge you not to go the traditional medicine route as they typically don't thoroughly test and treat.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/26 11:03 PM
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If you haven't read The Five Love Languages, it's a good resource and easy read. Spoiler alert: besides gifts, the other languages are quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch (not necessarily sexual).
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 05:50 AM
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Ask her if she knows any other tunes or is a one-hit wonder (meaning single-topic bully).
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/25 01:43 AM
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Simply say, "out."
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/25 05:26 AM
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You don't need to have a conversation with him. Just tell him this relationship is not working for you and you wish him well.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/25 05:53 AM
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It's not a subject I can discuss, but the /Reformed sub had a post recently on whether Christmas should be celebrated by Christians, and there were several comments disputing the pagan origins. Might be worth reading?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 12:29 AM
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I'm a mom of a young man in a different branch, so I have been exposed to some stuff on social media about how women in military are treated (I'd otherwise be clueless). No woman wants poor treatment, toxicity, for another woman. I only want to address that, and suggest getting as informed as possible how to respond, react, interact, with men (and other women), from Day 1. I don't know what the answers are but your experience will be much better if you can gain some knowledge. And no recruiter i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/24 12:07 AM
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Don't forget the 22-year age gap.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 05:37 AM
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I understand the communication issues, layout of the home, and your husband's desire that his dad stay with you. Besides cultural norms re a hotel, I wonder if there is some hurt or deficit from his childhood that he's trying to get resolution for if his sister's home isn't an option. With his insistence that his dad stay with you, it seems the only option is for you to stay in the bedroom with the baby. I'm guessing you didn't mention this as an option as it could/will disturb your husband, but…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 03:15 PM
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Learning about your attachment styles might be helpful. He sounds avoidant, from what you've said.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/24 02:45 AM
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It sounds like he has sexual addiction (lots of info online if you need to understand the brain and behaviors). I didn't look back at your post history to see if I've already replied about that. It's difficult, though not impossible, to treat and takes time, but he needs to recognize it's a problem and want to change. In the meantime, the book Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer might be useful to you as you navigate how to move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/24 05:15 PM
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Interesting take on those verses. I believe in biblical marital submission and not teaching and having authority over men, but I don't believe those verses extend submission. And I've not heard teaching on that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/24 02:04 PM
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Did they give a scripture reference for that?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/24 06:28 AM
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I don't want this to sound right, but I know you'll get good advice from others here. I want to offer that the excellent book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" may be really useful for sleep-training your infant.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 06:01 AM
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Porn use is quite difficult to quit. He needs to want and be determined to quit, get treatment, ideally be in a men's group where he has accountability. You might benefit (in your copious free time, ha) from an Al-Anon or codependent anonymous (CODA) group, to help you set boundaries and decide how to move forward. The book Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer may be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 08:08 PM
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I think it would be very rare to have a successful relationship with a 7-year age gap when the younger is a man in his early 20s. And then add everything else you wrote.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 07:26 PM
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I'm also a Christian, and am sorry he doesn't want to provide for the wife and child God has given him. I also see the age-gap as problematic. Is there a counseling ministry at your church, or an older couple you could meet with? Or did you have pre-marital counseling? I think a few or more sessions at church or with whomever did your pre-marital counseling could help.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 06:54 PM
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This is some practical how to do food advice, not what you asked. What about finding healthier recipes for foods he likes? I've seen recipes for healthier "fried" chicken made in the oven. And a rotisserie chicken (Sam's Club and Costco have especially good ones) can be really satisfying, especially when eaten shortly after purchasing while it's warm. Leftovers are easily made into soups and added to salad, etc. And I've been learning how to lower my A1C and lose weight, and learned about starti…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 02:15 PM
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I was in a marriage like this. It started well before we married and I still volunteered to stay. He ended up divorcing me and his life went further downhill after that. I found a lot of wisdom in John Gottman's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and I suggest binge-watching Dr Les Carter on YouTube. How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich was also helpful in regard to my naïvete about about attachment styles (look them up online for an idea of their teachings).
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 05:17 PM
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When it first came out, I read "You Just Don't Understand" by Deborah Tannen, about the ways men and women communicate differently. It was eye-opening and would be interesting to re-read 30 years later. One point from it that I was intent on practicing and taught other women, is not to say a serious statement with a smile or partial smile in hopes of minimizing any hostility/disrespect/whatever that could be perceived, so that it is taken seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 03:45 PM
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Henry Cloud and John Townsend
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 03:27 PM
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Are you sure he's not a romance scammer? Do you know how they operate?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 05:34 AM
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I just listened to this today and I think it'll resonate. 13 signs you're having $ex with a narcissist https://youtu.be/3wEaPLgW87Q?si=VEo3t7McLcxM5nMD
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 07:09 AM
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See if nearby there's a shelter/residential program/home for women who've given birth but are struggling in life. They may need volunteers to rock babies while mom is in classes, sleeping, etc. A hospital's maternity ward may offer the same volunteer opportunity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 05:01 PM
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Shaunti Feldhahn (a Christian) just published a book, "Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference." I heard her talk about it on a Christian call-in counseling show but haven't read it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 03:32 AM
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If you are regularly buying bottled water, consider a Berkey countertop filter. It's a bit expensive upfront (for myself I got for a little lower price a flawless scratch-and-dent Travel size and it's perfect for my use), but you can fill your own bottles for toting and whatever you drink from at home. I also make icecubes with it. It's so easy to use the sink sprayer to fill it (~every day or two) and know I have purer water than just out of the tap. To beat this subject to death, mine sits rig…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 08:10 PM
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Jordan Peterson on yt is well-worth listening to. I increase the speed to 1.25 because they're lengthy and usually it works fine that way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 06:15 PM
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Greta Beresaite
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 11:09 PM
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I believe you mean leery. I see weary used often when it appears leery is the correct word.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 05:11 PM
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My city has an actual non-profit org called (City) Volunteer Network. It's a listing of and way to connect with all manner of volunteer opportunities. Maybe your area has something like that?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 11:38 AM
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Volunteer at an animal shelter or rescue?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 12:41 PM
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So all of your friends were inappropriate and you can't spend time (without him) with women if men will be there, and he can go to strip clubs and pay for dances and whatever else? Yeah, keep wallowing in naïveté and sacrificing your integrity on the altar of wealth.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:22 AM
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I set my alarm clock to wake up to the local classical station and keep it on for the hour until it automatically shuts off (it's the public radio station). It's a calming way to start the day, but I also happen to love classical.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 10:12 PM
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I'd like to suggest you tell him (every time, as I believe something will eventually change) whether it's jokingly said is up to the recipient. He's making that decision when he's on the receiving end so it only seems fair?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 09:26 PM
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How about draping one edge of a sheet over an ajar or open door to dry? No struggle involved, just hoist it up there. Mine come out of the washer well-wrung so there's nothing dripping.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 10:49 PM
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Check out Lynette Yoder on yt and IG. She's Mennonite so her clothing style may not appeal to you, but she's very feminine. She does a lot of home decor, lifestyle, cooking content. I'd say she's far less an influencer than the typical influencer.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 12:41 AM
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Coconut cream pie I worked with a woman who brought this in one day. It was divine. Mine, not so much, but everything someone else made tastes better to me. Coconut Cream Pie 3/4 c sugar 1 can unsweetened coconut milk 1 1/2 c milk, divided 1/4 c cornstarch 5 egg yolks (note: she used 3) 1/4 t salt 1 c flaked coconut 2 t vanilla extract 1 T butter 1 baked pie shell Meringue for topping (recipe not given) or whipped cream Combine sugar, coconut milk, and 1 cup milk in saucepan, and scald. Whisk re…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 10:45 PM
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Because I don't have much space to roll out a crust I was thrilled to find this recipe you mix and press into the pie plate. It's good enough for me but I'm under no illusion it's actually good. https://12tomatoes.com/no-fuss-pie-crust/
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/22 11:16 AM
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In the sub for the university town I live in (I believe it's the bluest town in a red state), people regularly post in that sub their demographics and that they're thinking of moving here and what is the area like for their lifestyle. It can include job prospects, cost-of-living, housing, school system (if you must), social life, cultural events, outdoor activities, single life, family life, etc. You could join the subs for towns and cities in states you could see yourself moving to (for instanc…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 09:07 PM
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So many things in OP's comments were my reality. I had plenty of evidence before marrying but was older and had always wanted to only be married and have children and I didn't want to exchange whatever pain came from ending it and perhaps remaining single forever with the anticipated unhappiness of what volunteering to marry him was going to bring. I was fairly naïve in terms of relationships and although I had obvious evidence of his character I actually didn't have anything else to compare the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 07:19 PM
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The book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich is an excellent source re attachment styles and how they work with/against each other (they have a lot of info online and you can read the ebook). Also, when he does what he did in this luggage discussion, can you say it's a response to his perception of sexual innuendo in your speech, regardless the topic? That might tell you a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 02:42 PM
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I think Old Navy has plenty of young (and appeals to older), modest, feminine styles for a huge size range (more sizes online). They have a lot of floral blouses and dresses, among other things. I haven't shopped with them for over a year because I realized I have plenty of clothes so I don't know if it's still the case, but for several years in a row they had the same style blouse but done in new fabrics each year. I always knew what size to buy because it was the same style and pretty much sam…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 05:17 PM
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Wow, what a treat to get an award! Thank you, kind soul!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 07:45 PM
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I read your post and relived my past. I thought my (three years) boyfriend-then-husband (seven years) checked some important boxes like faith, family values, career, finances, but also knew, though I was too naïve to be able to name it, that others were missing. Things were fine with him as long as I didn't try to get too emotionally intimate, which I wasn't really capable of doing anyway. But he definitely let me know how right he always was and I believe that in the way he did that it kept me …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:39 AM
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I may come back and say more about my experience in settling, being divorced by him, and what I learned about people (myself included) in the whole process. But I have two book suggestions. I learned a lot of completely new concepts after the fact from How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich, about attachment styles and how they work in combination. Regarding weight loss, the Jason Fung MD book The Obesity Code, was eye-opening. I checked out the ebook from my library. There's an active fb group,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 07:09 PM
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Maybe the cinnamon and nutmeg flavors?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 12:27 AM
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