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Yeah men and women hae different needs. Cultural background and upbringing will affect how a person thinks but I think men and women just have different needs in almost every aspect of life. And yeah treating women badly is also subjective. I know men who full on shit on their girl friend and call them a moron and other dudes consider teasing a girl being mean.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 03:44 AM
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Depends on the woman and usually their mindset on life and building a family. Ive been involved with women who later told me they were dating someone after we had sex and ive been friends with women who were ride or die for their man no matter what.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 03:38 AM
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everyone has a different idea of what red pill is. I left the red pill space online since it just seemed to be a breeding ground for unnattractive and socially awkward dudes to go to complain about women. Also the youtubers who made red pill content were usually full of shit. I think about 50% of the redpill stuff at its core like work out, dont rely on women's approval or attention, get a good job, earn more money and be social are all positive. The negatives are when you start using the "facts…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 03:36 AM
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bro if you are going to Italy just to fuck an italian chick you are going for the wrong reason.
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:10 PM
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such a fine line between over texting and under texting. I can never find the balance to keep the interest without looking needy or like i have nothing going on.
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:37 PM
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i liked no more mister nice guy but the author has been divorced like 3 or 4 times at this point. It seems he doesnt practice what he preaches like so many other dudes in this space.
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:37 PM
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I tried your approach for a long time and got nowhere. Being too nice is just not interesting to them. you need to give off the idea that they arent that important to you by being busy. This may sound dumb as shit but ti really works. Ignoring people who are invested even just a little works to your advantage because it makes the girl wonder what you are doing all day. ​ Try it out, I know these tactics sound mean but you havent done well with your approach so might as well try it. Read some boo…
/r/seduction08/12/21 04:23 PM
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Yeah I can't say texting is perfect but its better than snap chat, instagram or whatsApp. I checked out of dating these past 3 months just cause every conversation felt the exact same online and I found myself misreading conversations or not following the texting rules of shit like "don't text back right away." Dont get me wrong i wouldn't text back within 5 minutes everytime but its impossible to get a conversation going when you only text one time every couple hours.
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:57 AM
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Online dating is a complete waste of time. Social media is not an area to be social and men are almost always getting the short end of the stick on these platforms. If you cant monetize your social media accounts there is almost no reason to have one. Dating apps are really useless unless you are in the top 10% of males in looks and even good looking guys can get fucked by not having "good pictures." I've seen so many men get their confidence destroyed by social media and dating apps its insane …
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:23 PM
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I used tinder for 3 years. Every match was heavier in person and had a pretty terrible personality in person. I'm not sure if this is just bad luck or if this is pretty standard. I honestly think online dating is a huge waste of time.
/r/seduction04/12/21 01:25 AM
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I feel like 25% of the people who post on the site are actually legit trying to improve their dating life and the other 75% are jus straight up lying or are incels/redpilled/black pilled. ​ There are some good posts every once in a while but I would honestly read some books on dating, attraction, style and other shit. It takes a lot more effort to write a book than a reddit post(obviously there are a lot of shit books out there too but there are some really good ones as well.)
/r/ExRedPill29/11/21 01:31 AM
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meet in person if you havent already. I have met up with girls from dating apps before who look nothing like their profile picture or they have a terrible personality and all attraction died within moments.
/r/seduction17/11/21 07:12 PM
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dating apps and social media. When people say they're "talking to a girl" they mean chatting with girls and trying to get something going, not necessarily that they have already fucked or gone on dates.
/r/seduction05/11/21 04:17 PM
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I think to add on to this 90% of men should avoid trying to get laid through social media and text. While it can work out it's so much harder to pick up on subtle nuisances of the conversation that would be easy to see in person. Also easier for women to string you along when your brain is only thinking about sex and when in person the vibe is easy to sense between you and a girl. Social media is honestly a massive waste of time unless you are able to monetize it without destroying your public i…
/r/seduction05/11/21 04:15 PM
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Try to talk to literally everyone possible. The old grandma, the yoga mom at the coffee sho, the meat head at the gym. Socializing and conversation skills are like a muscle and if you dont work on it often it beings to atrophy. As for the confidence issue I would start looking into colognes, your style and working out at the gym 3-5 days a week to start with weight training and some light cardio. Try to keep in mind that if you try to appeal to everyone you are interesting to nobody so have your…
/r/seduction27/10/21 02:02 PM
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I was in the same situation as you at 19. I used tinder to lose my v card but wouldnt recommend it because the women are usually more overweight than their pictures would lead on and you WASTE A TON OF TIME SWIPING. I dont know why people dont talk about it but the average guy on tinder spends 90 minutes a day on the app and its just an incredibly low rate of return for time invested.
/r/seduction05/10/21 07:41 PM
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sunshine man is right. Compare game to building a bigger chest in the gym. If you say "im only gonna bench to build my chest" you will take forever to improve or may never improve your chest. You gotta hit the chest with plenty of different angles and weights to see significant improvement. The same goes for approaches, approach anyone and everyone. This doesn't mean you are trying to fuck ladies your grandmas age, it just works your social muscle and gets you better at conversations. Part of ga…
/r/seduction30/09/21 01:04 AM
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You might be giving off a bad vibe when you approach a girl or maybe you just live in a super liberal area where people feel the need to white night for women to win imaginary pussy points. In the SE US I only see this shit happen in major cities by dudes who never get laid. Find a way to make a joke out of the conversation or just try and spin it on the guy like "excuse me, I was trying to have a conversation with this woman until you interrupted me" and if he says "well she looked uncomfortabl…
/r/seduction29/09/21 03:00 AM
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Ive slowly deleted all of my accounts over the past few years. Im a 21 college male and I noticed that I was getting depressed looking at everyone's "highlight reel" because thats really all social media is. People post fun shit they do once a month and in reality their life is a fucking mess. Im by no means ugly, out of shape, or anything like that but its unbelievably artificial. Also Ive noticed that women in general never really look like their pictures. Almost every girl I know can make the…
/r/seduction29/09/21 02:50 AM
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average body and face can be worked on with a basic gym routine 3-5 days a week and a basic skin care routine. The Cerave value pack from walmart has a face wash, morning lotion with sunblock and a night lotion. It works super well for the cost and helps to give you a fresh look.
/r/seduction28/09/21 04:31 PM
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you sound conflicted. You could give him an ultimatum in order to try and date him again but it really depends on what you want. If you are just wanting sex and to be his side girl then don't raise hell over it. If you want him to date you then make it known and that you won't do anything with him unless he is single
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:55 AM
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its not worth the turmoil that it would cause in our friendship. He has told me on multiple occasions that he knows she is going to dump him when she realizes he isn't that invested and that he is basically just seeing how long he can go with having fun with her. He is actually very socially queued into what is happening with people and is very observant. He actually sat in between us last night while we were watching a movie and he was doing his homework for college. I can only imagine this is …
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:26 AM
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Thats a good one. I didnt read think about the financing one but that is a more well rounded mind set for life in general.
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:19 AM
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these things dont have to be expensive. It's more about what works for you and by all means Im a huge proponent of living within your means. A solid colored fitted t-shirt for 15 bucks is gonna look better that a poorly fitting gucci shirt that cost 200 bucks.
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:19 AM
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As a woman this could work. If I were you I would purposely wear some super skimpy night gown that is basically see through with no bra and a pair of lingerie type panties on. It will be more subtle and then see how he reacts. Maybe even motion with your finger to come up or blow a kiss at him when he looks at you.
/r/seduction27/09/21 09:05 PM
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I didn't say these were the only things you need, its the basics. Pillars are what you build the rest of your game off of, the base of your game if you will. I was just trying to help some of the newer, more social inept guys break out of their shells with some of the tips that I used myself that I've noticed have helped me out over the years. Would have been better if you gave constructive feedback on the post since this is a community trying to help people with dating and social skills in gene…
/r/seduction27/09/21 08:26 PM
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everyone can have their own opinion. I just think too many men try and dress up jordans with suits or other professional attire.
/r/seduction27/09/21 05:12 PM
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thats why I chose DPS. It's already in people's minds who grew up with video games.
/r/seduction27/09/21 04:27 PM
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100% agree, men get very complacent with women in relationships. They stop trying to impress her, stop trying to seduce her, stop trying to be clean around them(farting, leaving crap everywhere around their place, body odor). I have a friend who has been dating his girlfriend for about 2 months. Ive met her a couple of times and we have been very nice to each other every time. Last night I showed up at his place and she wouldn't stop complimenting me, laughing at my jokes and she would engage wi…
/r/seduction27/09/21 03:30 PM
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some people need to know the basics. I'm not selling anything or saying shit like "ive slept with 1000+ women." Some people really overlook the basics and/or need a place to start with getting more social in general. I'm just trying to help people who are in the position I used to be in and give them the tips that worked for me.
/r/seduction27/09/21 02:58 PM
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If you have no hobbies and basically just need her to have fun that is a turn off. Find your own hobbies, hit the gym, and analyze what you are doing on your end that may be turning her off. If you are constantly trying to have sex it is a turn off, if you are constantly giving her attention and/or constantly trying to get her attention its a turnoff, if you need her to have a good time it is a turn off. Doing your own thing is attractive in a relationship and out of one. Doesn't mean you never …
/r/seduction27/09/21 02:12 PM
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Ive noticed that very attractive men are usually oblivious to IOI's from women. My brother is a fairly attractive man and I have had female friends who I watch literally get wet in front of my eyes when they meet him. Im talking bitting their fingers, twirling their hair, initiating touching as soon as possible etc.. He NEVER picks up on the signs. I believe it's because women have found him attractive since he was about 14 in high school. He had seniors giving him their numbers and asking him t…
/r/seduction26/09/21 04:35 PM
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yeah I get that. My college campus is still making us wear masks everywhere even to football games so cold approaching is so different. Just try and do the best you can with what you got.
/r/seduction25/09/21 01:53 AM
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Disclaimer I wouldnt recommend this: I had zero experience until i was 19. I was on tinder for a while but sucked at messaging and tend to look fairly young in my photos. Matched with a girl as I was moving out of my dorm room and driving back home at the end of the school year. She went to the college near my home so I said "fuck it" and met up with her to "watch a movie and hangout" on my drive back home. I met up with her and she was wearing a baggy hoodie but still looked fine in the legs an…
/r/seduction24/09/21 08:18 PM
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you should read "the game" by neill strauss and listen to "the black phillip show" by patrice o'neal. I wouldnt recommend any of the canned openers from the book but it gives a good guide on what not to do in the book and basically sums up how the process should go. Dont fuck around at a bar for hours, invite her to your place with something intriguing, show her your talent(something like playing guitar) and then close. If you waste a bunch of time and let the girl drag you around to random rest…
/r/seduction24/09/21 08:00 PM
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I went from 210 to 185-190 lbs in about a year. Im 5'9 , 21 years old, I have a baby face, and hold fat in my face pretty hard to the point where I needed to get visible abs to lose the double chin. Im not super huge at the gym(I still have made great progress for the year and fill out my clothes very nicely) but after a solid year of 6 days a week in the gym, proper technique, proper diet, and proper sleep patterns my body has changed significantly. Women notice me for my body outside of the gy…
/r/seduction24/09/21 07:44 PM
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This is especially true for Americans. We have the some of the highest rates of obesity in the world so just being slightly toned is enough to get some second looks. It is a great confidence boost when women or men admire your physique on the streets. Three days a week is a great start and anyone who has been in the gym for a 1+ year and has done their research will tell you that you can make the same if not better gains on 3-4 days a week.
/r/seduction07/09/21 07:59 PM
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Ive never been able to find that balance when texting a girl between not interested/being unavailable and being too available. Some dudes say "if she takes 6 hours to text you back you take 6 hours or more to text her back to give the illusion that you are super busy and she isnt that important" Ive just always found this makes conversations impossible to get rolling and really just sizzles out any attraction when you try and keep it going for more than a few times.
/r/seduction04/09/21 04:25 PM
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what is a direct opener? "want to come back to my place and drink and fuck"?
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:32 AM
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Exactly the vibe of the conversation and your confidence behind your words is almost as important as the content of the conversation itself.
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:09 PM
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read the game by neill strauss. You will realize these canned openers dont always go the way you want them to and then you get flustered and dont know what to say. This is teh problem with how pick up artists teach people game. Game is basically being able to talk to anyone at any time rather than a predetermined script that will get girls to want to fuck you. Literally just open to every person in your day to day life you come in close proximity with. It will bring down social anxiety when you …
/r/seduction27/08/21 04:04 PM
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coming up from behind is very awkward and puts people in a defensive mode because they cant visually asses you and your body language. At the very least you should be parallel with her and start off with something simple such "as good morning" or comment on what she is doing. If you make a joke keep it light and non sexual because you don't know what people's sense of humor is like until you get to know them a little more so airing on the side of more socially acceptable jokes is always better a…
/r/seduction27/08/21 03:55 PM
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Im in the middle of reading the game rn and although some of the stuff seems cheezy or over dramatic I can agree with some of the core messages Strauss is writing about.
/r/seduction23/07/21 02:34 AM
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wheres the reading list? Ive been looking for some material to read on game, attraction, etc.
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:15 PM
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interested in you doesnt mean romantically. You can be interested in what someone has to say and therefore make eye contact to show it. Eye contact is just a sign of interest not a direct signal that she wants to sleep with someone. Im glad you are able to recognize checking your phone while someone is trying to talk to you is rude but as a college student it is pretty common and very annoying.
/r/seduction28/01/21 09:00 PM
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It depends on where you met the woman and your relationship with them. Ive noticed a good 80% of women solely use dating apps and social media to get validation and attention. They dont actually want to meet up with most of the guys that they are "talking to"(this is a piss poor excuse for talking since most of them barely engage). Keep in mind that if you met a girl on a dating app she is assuming you are there to get laid and nothing more and that she has 100+ dudes hitting her up all day long…
/r/seduction28/01/21 08:26 PM
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Eye contact is more to gauge the girls interest level rather than anything else these days. If she is looking into your eyes, not looking checking her phone even though it is ringing/giving notifications, and seems engaged in the conversation then she is probably interested in you. You can show intent by asking them to meet up outside of school and asking for their number(get the number first and get to know them a little so they feel comfortable enough to come over). Try to avoid over texting a…
/r/seduction28/01/21 08:23 PM
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keep in mind waitresses will be nice and talkative with you in hopes to get a tip or make you a returning customer. I know it may suck hearing this but keep that in the back of your mind whenever flirting with someone at their work, especially if they work in the service industry.
/r/seduction28/01/21 05:43 PM
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you could ask if she needs a spot, I saw a girl film herself recently at the gym doing a squat(obviously for the angle it gave her butt and made it look bigger). She had to place her phone on her water bottle and I thought about asking her if she wanted me to help her film herself but I resisted because I was breathing heavy from doing squats myself. Ive heard girls say they hate when guys approach them in the gym so you have to find a good way to do it like "hey I saw you were doing "x" during …
/r/seduction28/01/21 05:37 PM
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I find that it depends on where you met the girl and your relationship with her. If you are a friend they would rather you respond faster. If you are trying to date a girl it is better to not answer right away before id say 5pm. This gives the impression you are busy/working during the day and are available during the night. Ive also found women are more willing to have a better conversation later at night. Im a 20M for reference and Im in college.
/r/seduction28/01/21 05:21 PM
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Agreed. You can always change your physical appearance naturally through diet and exercise, improve your career, or work on your social skills but trying to convince someone you are attractive when they have no interest in you doesnt work. The aforementioned ways to improve yourself take time and require dedication.
/r/seduction20/01/21 12:00 AM
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