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It shows. Look on YouTube for posture workshops. How a person stands says a lot about their confidence. Confidence is what gets you things, looks only help improve your chances.
/r/seduction11/05/21 02:17 AM
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Work on your posture
/r/seduction11/05/21 01:54 AM
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Did she see the beard before hand?
/r/seduction23/07/20 01:18 AM
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Simple rule for seduction that women watch for. Dont talk about sex. Dont even think about sex. Girls already know you want it. But do you want more than it? If you want something more than the shiny prize then you will be more willing to invest in the long term. Women want security and stability. The exception to the rule is fuckboys. Only about 3% of men are attractive enough, confident enough, popular enough, rich enough, famous enough etc to be a fuckboy. If you want to be a fuckboy then thi…
/r/seduction18/07/20 10:36 PM
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Okay. She likes some things about you. How is your confidence game? As in, how good are you a pretending you want the whole package, wrapping and all, not just the prize in the middle of the box?
/r/seduction18/07/20 08:18 PM
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Good question. There are lots of different answers though. And, depending on her, some of them are the wrong answer. How comfortable are you with her? Is there touching? Joking? Staring? Quick glances?
/r/seduction18/07/20 07:11 PM
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No. You should suggest she asks you out. Asking her out again will remind her of when you were needy.
/r/seduction18/07/20 05:22 PM
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Agression is winning for the sake of winning. Assertive is winning because you have the best moves. Confidence is key. If you are casual you are going to be less aggressive and more assertive as well.
/r/seduction22/04/20 12:06 AM
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Go out with more than one girl. Be honest with her about it. If she wants to be exclusive then she will be exclusive too. If she is willing to lie about it then she will be found out and only end up hurting herself in the long run.
/r/seduction17/02/20 06:44 AM
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Rythm. If you change it too often she won't be able to maintain.
/r/seduction17/02/20 06:25 AM
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In high school though...
/r/seduction11/01/20 01:45 AM
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Church.
/r/seduction27/12/19 10:09 PM
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Go to basic training. Join the Peace Corp. Even becoming a merchant marine will refocus your life on someone other than yourself.
/r/seduction18/12/19 12:24 AM
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Just ignore her. She doesnt matter to you so ignoring her avoids conflict.
/r/seduction22/10/19 01:05 PM
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She probably engages with you to create rapport. It's good customer service. This doesnt always mean anything. If you like her find out what she does outside of work first. Then figure something that you both could do that you would both enjoy and invite her to go.
/r/seduction17/10/19 10:45 PM
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I'm going to put it to you straight. Does she still make you feel good when you are together? Do you still make her feel good when you are together? If either one of these is no then it's over. If you dont get two sold yeses then it's over. She made a mistake and told you about it. She knows it was a mistake. What is she willing to do to never make that or other mistakes like it again? It sucks, but you will get over it, with or without her.
/r/seduction29/09/19 06:06 AM
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How you speak is only part of it. Your body language is going to also impact how others view you. If done right it can take things to a whole new level. This video is just one of many that demonstrates this. My advice is spend 30 minutes a day working on body language. After a month you will have an entirely different life.
/r/seduction27/09/19 05:27 PM
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Have other friends around her. Especially other female friends. Feel free to flirt in front of her. It's just friendly, so what if it's another person. She needs to see you as a sexual creature, and this will do it.
/r/seduction08/09/19 05:04 PM
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You dont want to be with women who want to be the prize anyhow. Otherwise you will find yourself competing with everyone.
/r/seduction08/09/19 07:45 AM
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Autistic is such a generic term. Does you autism keep you from interacting one on one or just make you overwhelmed when too many people are around? Are you extremely clumsy all the time or do you find yourself really good at one particular thing but everything else just doesnt make sense? I know a lot of people on the autism spectrum. It has taught me a few things. For one you can be social, but it can be draining. Or you can be social, but not with large groups. Sometimes reading body language …
/r/seduction05/09/19 04:44 PM
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As a guy that "escaped" the "friend zone" yes it can happen. I'm curious as to which steps you used though.
/r/seduction02/09/19 11:51 AM
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Hi. Ask about something in their profile.
/r/seduction25/08/19 01:14 AM
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Fail a lot. Then you will learn your strengths and weaknesses and know. Confidence is knowledge manifest.
/r/seduction23/08/19 01:54 PM
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Read "The 5 Love Languages." Have her read it too...
/r/seduction21/08/19 02:07 PM
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Be suggestive without being overt. Women like to play and flirt. But they dont like it when you are obvious or being a creap. Play with everyone too. They will want you to play with them and will even initiate to entertain themselves.
/r/seduction12/08/19 04:04 PM
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Rejection hurts. Betrayal hurts. The only thing you can do is improve yourself so this doesnt happen again. Focus on yourself, not people you dont need in your life.
/r/seduction12/08/19 01:52 PM
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It's the sheep you got to worry about. They got syphilis.
/r/seduction02/08/19 01:33 PM
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I think this is reflective of their view of consent. For them they wouldn't have sex with a man if they were not pursuing a relationship. Having sex without this caveat would not be consensual in their mind. I suspect these women dont think they need the consent of a man, but the man needs the absolute consent of the women.
/r/seduction02/08/19 11:13 AM
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"Hi." Smile. If she says hi and smiles back continue the conversation like she is a human and you are a human.
/r/seduction02/08/19 10:59 AM
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You probably dont. But subtle changes in posture can convey different messages. I can change my posture to be more aggressive, more passive, more confident, more arrogant. It all depends on what you are going for. By being having an approachable posture (open hands, stand straight, flowing body movements, eyes at eye level with no head tilt) people feel comfortable approaching me. This makes it easy for me to approach people as well.
/r/seduction23/07/19 12:50 PM
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Posture. Improving one's posture has a huge impact on approach. There are a lot of videos on YouTube about this if you are interested.
/r/seduction22/07/19 05:20 PM
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Did this in Turkey. The problem down the road is converting to Islam to get married. Needless to say we did enjoy the next few weeks I was there. Just couldn't close.
/r/seduction03/07/19 03:24 PM
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Now are you the kind of girl this guy wants? Probably not.
/r/seduction01/07/19 02:17 AM
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Ask yourself what it would take for you to be attracted to a person that you were not attracted to before. We have free will. People don't just allow themselves to be manipulated into situations like that.
/r/seduction17/06/19 11:33 PM
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you should meet us both, and then tell me which one is more fun to play with
/r/seduction21/05/19 10:13 PM
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I get it. It isn't magic. Its biology. Tall athletic handsome good fashion sociable witty. It draws people, not just women. He isn't married. So you aren't the third wheel. Marriage will change him though. It will become more about him and her more. And then she will decide who his friends are to some degree. By being with someone who she can spend time with she will want to spend time with you. I honestly just went on a rant. Dont know why I went into advice mode. Maybe because I need to hear i…
/r/seduction09/05/19 10:29 PM
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My best friend is kind of like this. When I spend time with him I am trying to be his best friend. I'm not trying to game. I'm doing everything to be as awesome as I can, and still pale in comparison. This is the thing 90% of girls orbit him at such a great distance they dont even matter. And the first 10 girl he was with had self esteem issues which opened her up to being manipulated away from him. Right now he is with a 10 personality. Happily married. When you can have whatever you want you w…
/r/seduction09/05/19 10:10 PM
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I can vouch for this. It works.
/r/seduction08/05/19 05:34 PM
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My brother calls this prison face.
/r/seduction08/05/19 05:31 PM
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Make mistakes. Seriously. Can't learn to walk without falling down a few times. Yeah it's going to suck. Make a game out of it though. That can make it easier. Because then you aren't playing to win for keeps but rather for fun.
/r/seduction08/05/19 07:43 AM
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For some women, yes. But not most. Of course everyone has their preferences.
/r/seduction06/05/19 10:23 PM
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Be patient. I was a late bloomer. When I was in my 30s it took little effort to find partners. The thing that worked best for me was simply not worrying about it and focusing on improving myself. Mind body spirit and social.
/r/seduction05/05/19 12:31 PM
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I ask because it is entirely possible for a person to have romantic inclinations without sexual inclinations.
/r/seduction28/04/19 08:53 AM
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Is she asexual?
/r/seduction28/04/19 03:27 AM
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She probably wants something but doesn't want to ask for it. Have you changed your behaviors as well?
/r/seduction20/04/19 12:13 PM
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engage in conversation with her. don't ask her out.
/r/seduction18/04/19 01:08 PM
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Nice is too nice when you expect something in return. Being nice means being nice. That's it. Dont have expectations.
/r/seduction10/04/19 02:42 PM
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Dont put friend on the table
/r/seduction06/04/19 07:52 PM
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I'm going to put it this way... go to a Ferrari dealership with a jar of pennies. Why would you expect any car if you dont have any ability to give them value for what they are giving you?
/r/seduction05/04/19 10:33 PM
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First off, what is your goal? If your goal is to get sex you are going to come off as being needy or creepy and fail. What will help is to set up an alternative goal. Not get a number. Not get anything for that matter. Set up a goal to give. But make sure it is something valuable. And also something she will want to come back for. For me I give them fun. Fun is a great thing to give. It is easy, has value, and most importantly also makes everyone feel good. This being said I didn't just start do…
/r/seduction05/04/19 09:46 PM
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Girls like confidence. How confident does inquiring about your relationship seem? Roll with it. If it works it works. If it doesn't it doesn't. The number one reason relationships dont happen is because someone seems too needy. Dont be needy.
/r/seduction31/03/19 09:07 PM
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I inadvertently did this to lose my virginity. Girls like to know they can please you. Especially when you please them.
/r/seduction29/03/19 07:11 PM
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Would you like a dozen sexy ass dudes to approach you and ask if they could suck your cock every day?
/r/seduction27/03/19 06:00 PM
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This. It took me too long to realize this but it should be one of the first things we all learn. Role reversal. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you want somebody approaching you about something you want nothing to do with when you can't say no? She will just give you a fake number. And then every encounter will be awkward. What do you do? Suggest she stops looking at you like she likes you. Doing this gives her an easy out. Its playful. And it gives her the ball.
/r/seduction26/03/19 09:20 PM
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Non-verbal communication. I was in a foreign country and saw a girl and her friend. I just walked up to her and started talking. We didn't share a language but still said a lot. She will look at you. Everyone does. Then she will look back. This is one cue. This is when you walk up and say hi. Have a conversation. Don't assume they are going to like you. It is quite possible they won't. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you respect their personal wishes and earn their trust and respect. If …
/r/seduction15/03/19 08:28 PM
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Who needs luck when you got skills?
/r/seduction15/03/19 02:07 PM
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There is no "the one." This idea of monogamy is flawed. People change. So does "love." As a matter of experience I have had better "relationships" with those i have less in comon with. It will help you grow as well to date with greater diversity. If you dont want to grow you might as well start by unsubscribing...
/r/seduction19/02/19 05:15 PM
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Dont. Think of this from a slightly different perspective. A girl you know but dont have a physical attraction to tells you that she likes you, physically. But you have a gf. What do you do? My advice is to let go. Even as a friend. If the desire to be more than friends impacts your friendship then you might need to work on how you view friendship with women.
/r/seduction19/02/19 03:39 AM
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Not playing the hero. Playing the comedian. Get to know her. Talk about things. Casually bring up how they must get hit on all the time. Let her talk about it. Dont bring it up again. Talk about other things. Mention how you should "hang out" some time. If she says "like a date" then say "maybe, but i wasnt really thinking like that until now." If she doesnt say like a date or its equivalent then wait til you talk again later. After a while mention it again and offer to exchange numbers. Yay, my…
/r/seduction18/02/19 10:54 PM
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Jesus christ my grammar is bad. Good luck interpreting my second sentence.
/r/seduction18/02/19 10:37 PM
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I wouldn't. But anyone willing to try might want to bypass the fact that every guy asks baristas out so they have more ways to casually reject dudes and bros then there are one liners with the indirect approach. Get to know them. Get to be the guy that busts on other guys that ask them out. This implants the idea in their head that you arent one of those guys. And that is your in. Good luck. (For the record this is basically the advice i gave a friend who ended up with the barista he liked. No p…
/r/seduction18/02/19 10:36 PM
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Let it go. Bf probably knows.
/r/seduction08/02/19 01:12 PM
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You are fishing in the wrong pond. Find a lake or a river and you will catch different fish, but you will catch fish.
/r/seduction29/12/18 04:02 AM
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Sure.
/r/seduction17/12/18 08:57 AM
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Read "How to make friends and influence people" Also dont be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes define you, but you will learn more by making them.
/r/seduction15/12/18 04:30 PM
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Well girls are just distractions. Study. Get good job. Get girls. Keep in mind that you should be making connections as that is a better predictor of your success than good grades.
/r/seduction15/12/18 01:10 PM
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Neither of anyone is a "trophy." There are no objects. Just energy. And as energy you have patterns. Do your patterns cross or overlap hers? Are you in sync? The goal is to change to where there is some overlap and then let her sync up with you...
/r/seduction15/12/18 01:05 PM
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No job? Get one. No car? Get one. Et cetra. Now i know it isnt as easy as just getting one. But who is going to put effort into you if you put no effort into anything else?
/r/seduction15/12/18 01:55 AM
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Yes, and no. There is always room for improvement. If onr insists they have no room for improvement then they will fail at many more things...
/r/seduction15/12/18 01:53 AM
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She is, but do you deserve her? That is the question to ask...
/r/seduction14/12/18 03:56 PM
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Oneitis, nice
/r/seduction14/12/18 03:55 PM
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Copy paste from another thread... There are millions of girls out there. Why is this one so important? You are just hurting yourself and your game when you obsess over one person. Play the field. The more girls that are interesed in you the more girls will become interested in you...
/r/seduction14/12/18 12:48 PM
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There are millions of girls out there. Why is this one so important? You are just hurting yourself and your game when you obsess over one person. Play the field. The more girls that are interesed in you the more girls will become interested in you...
/r/seduction14/12/18 12:42 PM
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Dont ask us. Ask her.
/r/seduction23/11/18 11:57 AM
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Yes. And no. Its like food. No food is perfect. You like qualities of certain food. It might even be your favorite. But would you only eat that food?
/r/seduction16/11/18 01:55 PM
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My experience is that from the womans perspecrive it isnt about sex. The things she wants are stability and security. Until you get those things there is almost no competiton. The way you win her is with fun. That is where you can beat this dude. Be everything to her. And good luck.
/r/seduction16/11/18 01:41 PM
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Girls care less about looks than personality
/r/seduction15/11/18 09:24 AM
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You might have confidence issues. But you arent ugly.
/r/seduction15/11/18 02:47 AM
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"Beauty" is based on symetry, proprtionality and health. For a male you arent a model but you rate high enough in those three things to be considered above average in appearance. What country are you from?
/r/seduction15/11/18 02:40 AM
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20 6'2"? Can you hold a conversation without coming across as being arrogant? The fact that you are asking here tells me something is wrong...
/r/seduction15/11/18 12:53 AM
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Are you teasing her, or insulting her? Is there malice? Are you being manipulative? Its okay to play, but it is not okay to bully. Dont be a dick.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:03 PM
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There is a huge difference between removing oneself and cutting them out. Make yourself unavailable. If she likes to spend time with you you will see signs. For example when you prep to go she will want to talk when she didnt want to talk before. As for being honest... Gradients of honesty are best. Most people cant handle the raw truth. But if you mention that you are worried that your feelings for her are getting stronger so you are going to spend more time doing other things to try to keep yo…
/r/seduction08/11/18 12:08 AM
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No. This isnt about avoiding her its about cutting her out of your life. Just be an "asshole." Otherwise you will come across as being a creap.
/r/seduction07/11/18 07:20 PM
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Dude, she probably 'likes' you but doesnt want to risk losing the friendship. Simple solution is remove yourself from her life. When she asks why tell her you like the friendship but started having feelings and didnt want to hurt her or get hurt yourself. She will probably be hurt bby this and angey but it will work itself out for the better.
/r/seduction07/11/18 05:45 PM
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Looks help, but they arent everything. Confidence can get you much further in life...
/r/seduction24/09/18 02:29 AM
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Your goal shouldnt be to make it about sex. Make the whole encounter about something positive so she will have positive feelings about you. Then make her feel comfortable. Then be playful. Physical play can lead to sex.
/r/seduction17/09/18 12:24 PM
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I don't know about you, but for me, it's all in the head. And the problem with this is that the fantasy is almost always better than the reality. Reality sucks... ​ So here is what I do. Let go. It's not about pleasuring myself. I make it a goal to fuck her like she has never been fucked. Most of that is doing the "hard work" of foreplay. Make her your everything. Make her want to make you cum. If the goal is just a race to a finish line you might lose interest in all the work you are doing and …
/r/seduction27/08/18 05:13 PM
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Consequences...
/r/seduction27/08/18 05:00 PM
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Yes, and no... ​ Do girls have boyfriends? Some do. Does this mean they are going to tell you when they do? Not always. Does this mean when they don't they will lie about having one as a test? Possibly. ​ Think about it this way, a girl asks you about your relationship status, how do you answer? Your answer has little bearing on the truth. It will have more to do with how you want to define your relationship with her than your relationship with anyone else. ​ My advice, either conceptualize that…
/r/seduction27/08/18 08:24 AM
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But so many people see them as the same thing... Do you see the problem now? Power corrupts. And corruptable people are drawn to power.
/r/seduction13/08/18 02:25 PM
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Because there are those who view the art of the pick up as being chauvinistic and manipulative. And then there are people within the community that are chauvinistic and manipulative. Not all mind you, but it only takes one...
/r/seduction13/08/18 08:17 AM
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What is your budget for food per month? Do you live in a food desert?
/r/seduction05/08/18 09:15 PM
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Metabolism is a complex thing. The genetic factor is quite prominent though. The period of time where I was at about 145 was when I was in the military, and we ran a lot. Honestly I think it might have increased my metabolism. Interestingly enough I knew a guy who was skinnier than I was and was told he would need to consume more than I was if he wanted to gain weight. Right now I'm in shape enough to not have to worry about that aspect of things, buy only because my job has physical requirement…
/r/seduction05/08/18 08:03 PM
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To maintain 145 pounds for 3 months while working out i was at an average of 6000 calories a day. I'm an outlier. Regardless, not everyone is like that. I found other ways to compensate, and I do work out, I just don't eat enough to bulk up. My height is about 5'6"
/r/seduction05/08/18 07:45 PM
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I would love to work out as much as I could... with the problem that my metabolism is so high I would have to spend close to $1000 a month on food just to maintain what is considered to be "healthy," let alone be muscular. This isn't everyone though. If you cannot devote at least an hour to some form of grooming beyond the shower every day you might as well give up. This is what I do. If a girl sees that you take care of yourself, she is going to be more attracted to you. Don't ask me why, it is…
/r/seduction05/08/18 07:07 PM
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Absolutely. Women will compete with each other. Just be worth it, as they can also compete together against you.
/r/seduction26/07/18 03:35 PM
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How do you talk to women? You sound needy...
/r/seduction22/07/18 02:04 AM
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Ice cream. Chocolate. Flowers... Maybe a puppy or a kitten. I mean, what is your game plan? Edited spelling
/r/seduction21/07/18 04:40 PM
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Advice is a bitter pill. Most people don't want to take it. I am usually reluctant to give it. I guess I could answer your questions though. For my friend instead of trying to turn the negative into a positive I simply try to point out the positive. Then I try to "joke" about the negative. This is the nature of humor though, it allows us to look at a "negative" thing in a different perspective. Simply put, focus on the positive, make light of the negative. I don't know your therapist. You know y…
/r/seduction24/06/18 07:31 PM
1

Depends on the source of the low self esteem... for example I have a friend who has a "victim mentality." Nothing good happens to them (in their mind). Positivity can help with this. So what is the source of your low value/esteem?
/r/seduction23/06/18 10:56 PM
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I get what you are saying. However, "playing" a role is not the same as being a different person. If a person isnt capable of playing there might be bigger issues they need to address. Ultimately, in my experience, women want lots of different things. Right at the top of that list is "fun." Not always... But those that are more willing to play are more willing to play. Let's just say that its okay to lie if its obvious that its all in the name of fun.
/r/seduction02/06/18 09:25 PM
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I said goal is to have fun. I didnt say goal is to anything else. I didnt say to not treat anyone "like a human." Take what im saying one step further though. Treat everyone like "a friend." Not just her. Not just your friend nd family. This is how you get noticed. And what is the best way to treat people like a friend? Have fun.
/r/seduction01/06/18 05:18 PM
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My method is simple: have fun. If your goal is to fuck her she will see that and run, and never look back. But if your goal is to have fun, she will want to play. All of this is avoided by simply having fun and playing. Even if that means playing a role that isn't you.
/r/seduction01/06/18 10:17 AM
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"We should probably exchange numbers before our date" has worked for me.
/r/seduction28/05/18 06:21 PM
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Psychologically speaking, we know that rejection hurts. Living things avoid pain. But we also pursue pleasure. So we pursue scenarios where we may be rejected at the hope of being accepted.
/r/seduction27/05/18 08:33 PM
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So do many other things.
/r/seduction26/05/18 10:51 PM
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Human nature: we want to belong. Part of this is "pairing off." How many others want you to pair off? To keep it simple... We like to see others happy. Especially those close to us. And these people want to see you happy. And some of them are convinced that you need to be with someone to be happy. Now i dont know you. So this limits where i could take this... But one thing told a friend of a similar mindset is you cant expect to find anything of value if you havent found yourself.
/r/seduction26/05/18 10:50 PM
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So do many other things
/r/seduction26/05/18 10:35 PM
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Why do you need to have sex/female companionship?
/r/seduction26/05/18 10:31 PM
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The best feeling in the world: falling in love. The worst feeling in the world: being rejected by those you think love you.
/r/seduction23/05/18 11:30 PM
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What is your "goal?" If you only chase tail girls will sense this and ultimately string you along. If your goal is to "play" they will want to play too. This usually leads to other things. Just keep your focus on play.
/r/seduction13/04/18 06:25 AM
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