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#KickHimOut2021subgirlygirl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:58 PM
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Such a liar. He knew exactly who he was sending it to. I'd make sure everyone in your circle knows what he's up to and that his wife (if married) gets a screenshot. And that would be the end of that friendship - outside of school, anyway. He's not safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 05:38 AM
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Yeah, they do it all the time. Just think of them like the crazy people you see yelling into the void while walking down a city sidewalk. Folks glance at them now and again, but most give a wide berth or cross the street, and not a single person cares what they have to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:19 PM
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Being single is the worst thing they can imagine. No one to cook their food, wash their streaked undies, lie bored under them for 5.5 minutes.(on a good night). They project their worst nightmare as an 'insult' not realizing it lands flat. I know there are lonely people out there, you see it all the time in the dating subs, especially this time of year. Spoiler alert: I'm not one of them 😊 I actually really, really like my life. I'll invite a man into it when he's a benefit, not one second befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:16 PM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 Women are nothing but fetish dispensers for a lot of men. It's gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:41 PM
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'Pickme' has definitely become a blanket word/term to define any woman who's putting up with undesirable behavior. But that's not what it is - or at least not what it originally meant - and it most definitely doesn't refer to women who are in precarious or dangerous situations dealing with volatile men or family members acting on cultural norms the rest of us know nothing about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 05:46 AM
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Thank you 💖 It was a fun moment, memory, and gift! (And it was fun to make!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:13 AM
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This is so stupid, but it still kills me. When my son was 7 I got a discount code for a free product through Snapfish. We didn't really need anything, so I decided to make a gift for his grandparents (my parents) and great-grandma. We took a piece of clear glass and basically smashed his face under it in a bunch of different poses, and I took pictures... then we had them made into photo coasters. So each coaster was a different picture of his smashed face. Basically every time you'd set down a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:52 AM
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Because we're shooting for 'fine'? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:31 AM
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"Your thoughts are noted, but I'll be moving forward with my children's and my best interests in mind. I thank you for respecting my decisions." Ignore the chatter. Don't address it. Don't explain. Don't engage. Don't give them anything to argue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:02 AM
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I love these guys who feel equal parts trapped and self-righteous martyrdom by staying "f0r ThE cHiLdrEn"... despite EVERY SPECIALIST IN THE UNIVERSE saying it actually harms children, and it's better to split early and as amicably as possible. We see you, scrotes!! You're not doing a damn thing for anyone but your weak ass selves. You're scared to leave, that's all it is. You know you gave shit effort and you're sticking around until she's had enough and finally walks away and you can play the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:27 AM
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You're his Emotional Support Vagina™. The fact that he hasn't been inside said vagina doesn't mean he's not going to continue his best efforts to get there. (Rats on amphetamines will literally run into a wall trying to access more drugs until they're dead.) I don't fully understand why you didn't cut him off the second he 'joked' around about the strip club. You know he wasn't joking, right? He was testing the waters to see how much scrotatiousness he can get away with. It appears to be quite a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:05 AM
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Didn't Poof Smarmy literally have her dodging bullets at one point? I swear I remember something about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:57 AM
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Omfg. The one with long blonde hair actually looks like me... but I would get slaughtered in the Dating Over groups LMAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:57 PM
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It's a dealbreaker for me, personally. I've always joked that I'm ok with "BBQ smokers"... Meaning that if we're at a friend's bbq or pool party or something like that, and he takes a hit or two, I'm not gonna sweat it (though it's a pass for me). But buying it, doing it at home, anything like that? Big no. I don't want it touching my life in any way whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:08 AM
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My last date was in March. I had some pickme tendencies rush to the surface, but I beat them down and said NO MORE until I get that shit handled for real, no more slips. Walked away unscathed, but humbled. So, I'm handling it. Doing my thing. Relearning. Remembering. Recommitting. I'm whip quick with 90% of it, but that 10% with a good story still gets me sometimes. So, I'm thinking maybe early Spring. Maybe...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:40 AM
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"I'm married," with a quick means-nothing smile, then walk away.👣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:37 AM
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This is gold.🏆❤ What's really sad is that first mom/wife/servant is no doubt hailed as a real trendsetter.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:29 AM
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The first birthday without a thoughtful gift would've been the only birthday spent together.🎈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:11 PM
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Thank you for your theories; some of them resonate with me. I've always been a true crime aficionado, and I love legal anything. So I should give credit to the folks who simply like well-written and -acted shows. And you're right, more often than not, the bad guys do get theirs in the end. That's nice to see, and for some of us, it feels good to live vicariously through the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:52 AM
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I don'treally watch it anymore, and more than once I've wondered why people are drawn to that show. I mean, why did they make a L&O specific to sex crimes? And it's so popular. I'd like to think it's because people want to arm themselves with information, use the storylines as a cautionary tale to keep themselves safe. But I know that's not it. It's trauma porn. People find it titillating. I can only imagine that first conversation after the pitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:26 AM
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Oh jeez... I swear I read serial killer 😂 I still think the same with serial cheaters, though. Even if they don't pick up on their father's habits (which they probably would), they'd internalize and normalize how their father treated their mom, and if they loved their mom and thought she was great, hope to find a woman as blind and accepting of bullshit as she was/is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:18 AM
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The William Lewis episodes. They both acted the shit outta those roles... it was so real. There were a couple other episodes I could mention off the top of my head (but won't) that hit me the same way. I can usually watch that show without issue, but Criminal Minds? Nope. Nope nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:19 AM
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Thank you!! I agree wholeheartedly 💖 I have a friend who will only date divorced dads. She wants a man who understands the trials and responsibility that comes with marriage and fatherhood. 'Oh, but I'm the best uncle ever!' *block*😂 To each their own! I'm tall, so I like taller men, but starting to go bald? Totally ok! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:31 AM
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This should be a sticky 💯✌🚩👍🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:05 AM
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Edit: I read and watch a lot of true crime, and I totally read this as serial killer, not serial cheater...lmao 😂 My advice still stands, though! I haven't read the other comments, so this may have been addressed. If he was raised at all with his father, I would avoid him. Serial killers are notorious for involving their children, particularly their sons, in their abductions and kills, often when the children are too young to know what's happening. Years later they come to understand what some o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:00 AM
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Oh, man. I get slaughtered for that ALL the time in the 'dating over' groups. Sorry, but I have a masters, and in my experience, there's a valley of difference in intellect, income, financial savvy, wit, etc. when even talking with a date who has a 4+ year higher education versus someone who doesn't. It doesn't mean someone who doesn't is a drooling imbecile, or that there aren't many self-made men out there. It's simply a trend I've noticed. So now it's a filter. Die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:42 AM
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Some of those are flat out red flags (alphas?🚩🚩), but some are definitely preferences (e.g., I prefer clean-cut men, so the beard thing is a no). But yanno what? They're HER preferences, so all y'all boys can go cry in the corner cuz no one wants to hear it. I'm sure you didn't shed a single tear when you typed 'Must be HWP' and 'No kids' on your dating profile, smart guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:32 AM
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Omg, the facial expressions! 😂 Thanks for doing these! I found one that's kinda close to what I look like, so I'm gonna nab her...💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:28 PM
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I guess I've never really thought that about a hug...but in my experience it's always been the quick social ones you see in British friend flicks 😊 If it was some lingering, groping thing I'd knee him in the nuts. Gross. But definitely something to think about. Regarding sitting next to them, I've had that happen a few times. Once it was sort of ok because the place was so loud we literally couldn't hear each other. And I say ''sort of' ok, because now I know it wasn't ok at all... a venue where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:18 PM
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Right, because you have the lowest of NVM like Kurt egging him on then telling him how proud he is of him. So disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:07 PM
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I never sit next to them, unless it's a Hibachi style restaurant (or otherwise requires it); and if they suggest it, I next them immediately. It's a total creeper move, imo 😒 The only reason they suggest it is to get handsy. As far as anything else, I'm fine with a hug at the end of the date (unless he's a dick, then I'd just leave... but that almost never happens). I won't shy away from a quick one at the beginning, but I won't initiate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:49 PM
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I'm true to myself with plenty of people. There are simply things I don't bring up with her, and over the years she's learned that I don't give information (gray rock), so she's stopped asking. "Are you seeing anyone right now?"... "I'll let you know if there's something to report. Do you want to go to MAC? I still get my discount...' We talk about a lot of things, some right down to the nitty gritty. Just none of my nitty gritty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:02 AM
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Holy shit. We share the same brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 12:02 AM
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Twinsies!! 👭 Yup. And when they didn't immediately hop to, I was like WHO IS THIS WEAK SPECIMEN STANDING BEFORE ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:48 PM
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“I had nothing left. I had been trapped in a trauma cycle dating back to my youth. The hands that typed out Craigslist ads, the legs that spread in strangers’ cars, and the mouth that took in wrinkled flesh – those things weren’t mine. They belonged to my past. They belonged to the part of me that still felt voiceless, choiceless, and desperate for something resembling love from men who had none to offer. “My freedom was a facade. I hated myself. I hated the warm PBRs and the cheap tequila shots…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:11 PM
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My mom and are are very close... talk every day, etc. But I don't really tell her anything important, never have. I've always avoided it because I've learned my lesson over and over. Because she judges the shit out of everything and everyone. Very, VERY long story (somewhat) short, I started doing a deep dive into why I've struggled with relationships, and I landed on something where the root cause led straight to my relationship with my mom: Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). There are a handfu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:59 PM
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Oh, dang... great point. The problem for me is that's the only finger I'm comfortable wearing a ring, so I wear one often (though obvi not a 'wedding' ring). Guess I gotta start training the other other hand! 💍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:16 PM
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Me 👋 I'd always been drawn to older men (not anymore), and I didn't know why, but it never seemed problematic, so I didn't look into it. It became apparent when I explored something seemingly unrelated, then suddenly a bunch of things fell into place, and BOOM, I was like "Oooohh! That's why my (17) high school boyfriend was 28, any why my (30) son's father was 52. Because of fucking course they were." *slams head repeatedly against wall*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:12 PM
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Yes!! I love that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 03:49 PM
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I'm with the commenter who suggested she terminate and leave immediately. Even if she leaves this second, if she has the baby, she's stuck with this asshole - to some degree - for the next 20+ years. And there's a very good chance he'll abuse the baby, as well. And if it's a girl? She's fucked. He'll ruin her. Edit: Oh, wow. Everyone is saying the same thing. She needs to leave immediately and have no remaining ties to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:21 AM
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I don't think I've ever just made out.😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 02:04 AM
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I need to know that the tornado swept him off to the Bermuda triangle. Someone get back to me with good news. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:26 AM
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Fair point, but you probably wanna let this one go. Kanye is next level scrote, regardless of his brain chemistry. He works hard at it, and has turned assholery into an art. He's irredeemable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:02 PM
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LADIES, THE MAN IS DEAD. PLEASE STEP ASIDE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:58 PM
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The first time I saw this new ordering/paying method, I was like WTF. 😐 I was with a girlfriend, and I asked her how she handled it when on a date. She said she looks at the menu before going to the restaurant, and when they're seated and he pulls up the menu on his phone, she'll just tell him 'I'll have the sliders and a mango margarita' 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:36 PM
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You can be bipolar and still be held accountable when you're a garbage person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:31 PM
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But...but... That's not progressive enough! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:24 PM
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I worked in a clinic where the office manager was super nice and friendly. She was very open and loved to chat about personal things, and she created an intimate atmosphere that made it entirely too easy to spill pretty much everything abour your personal life. She was quick and clever and funny as hell. And, come to find out, a total fucking lying whore bitch rag who'd tell everyone everything you said, and totally mock and denigrate you behind your back the second you walked away. Sadly, despi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:19 PM
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Thank you! Good for you, too 💖 My mom is 71, and every year she grumble-brags (did I just make up a new word?!) about 'having' to get something for distant step-grandkids who she hasn't seen in 7 years, who are adults, who never reach out, and who never thank her for or acknowledge anything, anyway. My response has been the same every year: Cut them the fuck off. I will never understand people who choreograph their own victimhood under the guise of being 'nice.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:58 PM
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Not overreacting. At best, he was awkward and socially inept. At worst, he absolutely overstepped and was fishing for your relationship status or who knows what, and depending on how you responded, it could've gotten a lot worse. If you're comfortable doing so, you might consider emailing a complaint or 'concern' to the hospital. Even if it didn't rise to the level of harassment (based on their criteria), it was inappropriate. And if he did it to you, chances are pretty good he's done it - or is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:12 AM
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Good for you! She didn't need help at all, she's a pickme who wanted to waggle her ass baboon-style for her scrote ex to make sure she's still wanted, because being wanted = desirability = self-esteem. 🤮 I enforced a boundary myself yesterday. About a month ago I texted my sister and told her this needs to be the year we no longer buy gifts for each other's kids (I have one, 19, she has three, 20, 22, 23), plus she's married... so her family of 5, my family of 2. I'm not doing it anymore. She di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:49 AM
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"Go away or I'll scream."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:51 AM
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Yup. This is an automatic get-your-purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:49 AM
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Oh, god... me, too 😩 They always have to test the waters, if not the first thing out of their mouth, very shortly after. Thankfully my dumbass days are behind me. When they come straight outta the gate with anything sexual (even 'hello, beautiful') I've always blocked immediately. But if they seemed smart and clever and interesting and snuck in some innuendo a day or two later, my overly indulgent brain would pull the 'Well, just wait and see...' card. Any guess what happened when I waited and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:19 AM
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One of the best books ever; should be required reading in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:06 AM
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Send him an invoice for a consultation fee, due in advance. You know his bitch ass doesn't work for free. So much audacity. Men have so many pockets, and there still aren't enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 11:22 PM
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That's worth a sub search for any new member. Absolutely genius. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 10:07 PM
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Thanks for the offer, but no. My project days ended when grad school did. I'll take a complete, whole person, thank you very much. No warranty required; if something is significantly wrong, it's getting junked.🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 10:05 PM
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Thank you.💖 That said... I totally skipped over the part where he ordered it before her proclamation.😩 BUT! He should've had her wellbeing in mind and taken it to his office, in that case. Or given it away. Something. Anything but given it or mention it to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:06 PM
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That... guy has had... sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:02 PM
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I think I'm on high alert because I've seen so many men try to sabotage their partner's efforts to level up. I remember my aunt - my diabetic aunt - trying to lose weight, and my loser uncle bringing home a dozen donuts the very next day. Women typically go out of their way to embrace their partner's new ambition... looking up recipes, making things that are healthy, packing them healthy lunches (like a 4th grader), and on and on. So yeah, I'm not willing to give the benefit of doubt here, becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:58 PM
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I swear to fucking god 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:01 PM
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So, in a typical day he plays from sun up to sun down while she cleans up after him and works? Istfg these women have been brainwashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:15 AM
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Exactly. 'Things' will 'go' in and out of my vagina until the moment I ask him how he's feeling about where things are... then... well... umm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:30 AM
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That's what I figured; it does seem like a po-ta-to, po-tah-to situation 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:57 AM
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If you're unsure, it's a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:36 AM
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This is so sad.😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:35 AM
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Yet I'll bet my next paycheck he still sticks his dick in her twice a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:26 AM
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What do you (asking anyone who wants to answer) say when someone says they want to "see where things go"? I've seen so many FDSers say that's an immediate block, but not why. I personally don't like the wishy washy, "I'll try you on for size" attitude, but I'm doing the same thing... Seeing where things go! Obviously if they say they're looking for casual, I next them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:21 AM
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Jesus Christ 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:00 AM
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That's some Talented Mr. Ripley shit right there. While she researches attorneys, she seriously might want to consider a name change. This dude is clearly a psychopath. (Only half kidding.😒)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:09 PM
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That's scary af.😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:28 PM
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I stopped reading when he said he was unsure if you're The One™. The second either of you feels that way, the relationship is over. No harm, no foul... just done. Thanks and bye 👋 Get your stuff and leave. Oh, and you don't have sex with someone hoping to feel a spark. That's a dick move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:10 PM
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"In conclusion..." 🤡🤡🤡🤡 When will it penetrate their thick beefy skulls and smooth, smooth brains that WE. ARE. NOT. JEALOUS. 😞 Christ, y'all! I have choices. I've always had choices. I've never been told or had to convince myself that something I'm doing to pay my bills is empowering. People in positions of power do not need to be reminded of it in hashtags and on picket signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:30 PM
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All it would take is one woman to jump overboard. Can you imagine? Show up at the hospital or a police station soaking wet, tell them you were abducted and managed to escape when you were about to be assaulted. Let's see who laughs last, chuckles.🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:14 PM
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Go straight to management NOW. If it's the middle of it night call them and leave a message, then show up on their doorstep first thing in the morning. Tell them it's no longer physically safe to work with this fucking creep and one of you needs to be reassigned immediately, or a supervisor needs to be present to ensure your safety. (It doesn't matter if either of those demands is unrealistic for the position, you need to make it clear that's a condition of your employment.) My guess is they'll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:10 AM
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That's EXACTLY what it was!! Well, that and him having zero self-esteem and needing to share that he can 'get' young girls, which makes... him... desirable? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:57 AM
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In no world is it ok for a 28 year-old man to try to court an 18 year-old girl. I'm so glad you stepped away and called your parents; at 18, I 100% would've stayed on the date and no doubt loved the attention.😞 In March my what-I-thought best (male) friend told me that he, 48, met a women on Tinder and slept with her. And she was really young. How young? Really young. Really, REALLY young. I started to feel uneasy because he was making a pointed effort to discuss her age. Finally I was like, jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:00 AM
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Pretty sure he knows it, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:08 AM
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Yeah, I got banned by a scrote mod from Dating over 30. He makes women pay for their own coffee...lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:48 AM
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He spelled "you're" correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:27 AM
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He probably thinks it is, and when a woman doesn't immediately laugh, she doesn't have a sense of humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:26 AM
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💀💀💀💀💀 Also, stealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:24 AM
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I would Bobbitt him, and I wouldn't care if he unalived me while I did it. With this stupid theory, the population ends with us anyway, so at least I'd die knowing he'd spend his remaining days alone with a little bloody stub.🔪🚫🍆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:19 AM
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The link isn't formatting right on my phone. Is it showing up for you? Edit: I fixed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:29 PM
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I could write a book about this, but thankfully someone already has. It's not specific to BDSM, but I think you'll find it resonates with your situation. Worth a look. Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect https://www.amazon.com/dp/161448242X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apan_glt_fabc_KVAKPV6BQNG6TH7F7K37
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:27 PM
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Of course it's deliberate. They're trying to catch younger women who are searching for men under 50 (or 40 or whatever). It's shady af, and I know for a fact Bumble will boot them 😋 My faves are the ones who think they're clever and original by saying 'I accidentally put the wrong bday and don't know how to change it... har har... drool...'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:21 PM
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I know a lot of older men click 'might want' thinking women will believe it means the man is open to accepting their children from a previous relationship. I've heard more than one man say that. I'm like... yah... that's not what that means, and it makes you look like a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:07 PM
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I did that a long time ago 😄 The first time it happened it took me a minute to realize what what was going on, and I couldn't stop laughing. Can you imagine something like that being the only way to 'get' someone? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:03 PM
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Eh, 54 and divorced isn't a big deal to me (he's in my target demographic) but putting the wrong age on a profile is an automatic report and block. Either you're a lying sack of shit who's already blasting through women's explicitly set boundaries (age parameters), you're careless and punched in the wrong birthdate when setting up your profile (and will be careless with other things in your life), or you're too fucking stupid to function in society. I wouldn't even read past that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:56 PM
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I did, and I wish I hadn't. When I divorced him, that was the first thing out of my mouth when meeting with my lawyer. Seriously, unless your maiden name is Assmunch or his is Rockefeller, don't do it. It's you. Don't give up you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:33 PM
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You paid for his breakfast?? NOPE. That's where the story stops. There's nothing to analyze. ETA: You're going to get trafficked if you're not extremely careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:53 PM
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wanting men to take care of me, which by the way, elicits so many negative responses from men afraid of losing money they don’t possess 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:36 PM
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When I started reading I thought 'Oh, no...' because maybe he was 19 or 20 and you took things a little too literally. But 40?! Uh... no. BYE!!👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:24 PM
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Yeah, wishy washy is 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:59 AM
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I don't know where you're from (India?) or what your cultural norms are, but I would cut her off because of her behavior prior to the wedding, not because of the wedding itself. On the flip side, you could see what she wants; if she needs help (e.g., wants out of her marriage) and you feel she's redeemable and can be helped, it might be worth the hassle. But it's totally your call, and only you can decide if the impact of someone else's mess is worth the hit to your personal peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:56 AM
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It's so simple. That's literally all it takes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:50 AM
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He looks unkempt to me. And his use of exclamation points is immature. And he didn't have a place locked down by the evening prior. And he asked what you wanted and didn't wait for you to respond. And he suggested a place close to him. I would next him without a second thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:48 AM
120

The only slight exception to this (imo) is the tone trap of texting. Sometimes things simply don't come across the right way (either direction) and a quick 'Hey, wait...' can clear it up. (I have a dry sense of humor, and I know I've come across unintentionally rude before...lol 😆) That said, I don't think anything even remotely heavy should be discussed over text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:15 AM
32

That would be so refreshing. Especially in young guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:30 AM
152

I would love to see women setting and maintaining boundaries, holding back on having sex without looking like they're playing games or being a 'cock tease' (🙄), and really modeling what that looks like so other women can use the language in their lives. Casual sex is portrayed as this carefree, fun thing, and while it might be for some, for most women it's empty and leads absolutely nowhere. A female lead who waits for the right time with a quality man would be awesome. (Provided they could actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:14 AM
34

It's so sad because you know she's going to get pregnant, think they're going to get married and live happily ever after, he's not going to want anything to do with her and will do the bare minimum regarding the baby and will likely be a shit father, and she'll have to witness his scrotiness with other women the rest of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:27 AM
119

hE 1s vErY n1cE 🤡 She's an idiot for a lot of reasons we're all well aware of, but not insisting on condoms? GAHHH!! Might be harsh, and I feel bad for her, but c'mon! You're giving girlfriend benefits (probably cleaning his place when you're there, too), and you think he's going to change anything about this set-up? There's literally no reason for him to change a damn thing. Walk away, sis. You've served your sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:20 AM
17

Tell him you need $10,000 for startup costs, then block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:14 AM
164

Your parents are ok with her bringing men home when they're gone? If so, can you have a friend stay over when she's 'entertaining' these losers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:08 AM
70

Message settings are key! When they can't directly reach you, they rage inside. It's fucking hilarious. Imagine being so pathetic that you FOLLOW SOMEONE AROUND REDDIT. Once I click 'post,' I move on to other things... 95% of which have nothing to do with the online world. (Ok, that's a lie. Maybe 80% 😄) These lost souls sit there hearts racing, hands shaking, teeth clenched, going 'Where's that bitch now...' while they think of the perfect thing to say... SCROTE...🚨📢📣 YOU. DON'T. MATTER. And yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:03 AM
228

I had one following me around responding to comments I made in other subs that had nothing to do with anything relating to... well, anything. 😂 People were like 'Dude, what the fuck?!' and 'Are you lost??' and he'd inevitably get booted and his comments removed. Me? I didn't acknowledge him at all. Why? Because he's a nothing. He's not a blip on my radar. He can't touch me. And he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:33 PM
9

This one kills me. "Absolutely not." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:13 AM
12

Absolutely. I'm 50, so meeting a man my age who's never been married is a huge 🚩🚩🚩 I'd much rather meet a man who's demonstrated that he can commit to someone for a long period of time versus skip from woman to woman. When I was in my 20s or early 30s? No way. Hard no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:07 PM
124

The comments are BULLSHIT. Was she supposed to stay there and get shot? She did exactly the right thing, exactly what any real man (what this man) would want her to do in that situation. The scrotes commenting would've gotten robbed and killed, no doubt after using their girlfriends as a human shield first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 07:25 AM
151

'Meisha has no self-esteem what. so. ever. She missed a prime opportunity to knee him in the balls and walk away for good, but alas... another scrote shall continue his scrotatiousness another day. Pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:13 AM
54

I guess I don't see the problem. It seems like you handled things really well...? It's been a lot (read: a LOT) of decades since I've experienced virginity, so I'm not familiar with the 'promise' talk you speak of... Was he saying he wanted sex, and he wanted it without commitment? And that's why you (appropriately) parted ways? *cue shocked face*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:39 AM
24

Dang, I was waiting for the ever-so-intriguing "Ask me"... 😍 Such a panty dropper, that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:11 AM
331

There is no such thing as mixed signals. Mixed signals = "I'm interested enough to keep you around as an occasional Emotional Support Vagina™, but I'm not interested enough to make any real physical, mental, emotional, or financial investment in you." Tl;dr: warm hole feel good sometimes 🤤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:07 AM
1

I LOOVEE YOOOU SOOO MUCH!!! 💖❤😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:59 AM
24

I'M CRYING 😭 Also, I need video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:39 AM
2

Hey, I'm glad to hear that! I don't write in that genre anymore, but the message for women (empowerment, safety, etc.) remains very much the same 💖 I've thought about changing my name and other handles a million times, but it's how people reach out to me, so I'll leave it. It is what it is 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:33 AM
95

I don't know or care who the other two are, but Pete Davidson is a puke. 😖🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:22 PM
35

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:09 PM
19

There was a post a couple weeks ago in one of the dating subs where a woman felt bad because she wanted to end things with an 'otherwise great' guy who, if I remember correctly, didn't have a job, and had breath so bad she couldn't stand to be in the same room. 🤡🔫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:46 PM
43

Sleep is my favorite.💖 It truly is. It feels amazing, and it's a huge part of why I look so fucking good 😋 And sorry, but I'm not giving up even a tiny bit of it for mediocre peen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:09 PM
79

Keep your hope in check - and your receipts. Edit: I'm just being cheeky 😄 Don't spend your money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:18 PM
86

The dudes bleating about high maintenance women are the same ones complaining about their girlfriends growing 1/16th mm of hair on their legs or 'letting themselves go' after not losing baby weight three minutes after giving birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:16 PM
8

Oh, no way. She's probably bitten her tongue a million times because of her father-in-law (and who knows because of how many others). Time to say bye-bye to useless weight 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:39 PM
207

It might seems drastic to some, but I couldn't stay married to someone so incredibly stupid. How could he not recognize that a comment of that nature is offensive and rude? He's stupid and he doesn't have my back? Nope, he doesn't get to be my husband anymore. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:17 AM
195

If you report him to Bumble, they'll boot his ass. They're usually really good about that sort of thing... I've reported a handful of men for being creepy assholes, and every single one of them was kicked off, even one that probably shouldn't have been...lol 😆 I even told the rep that I was more annoyed than anything, and when she wrote back, she said he needed to learn to not be a dick and he was no longer on the platform! 😮😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:39 AM
216

I stopped reading at 'fiance of 9 years'... 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:32 AM
24

Then they were never high value to begin with. But yes, always have the most faith in no one but yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:27 AM
50

Came here to say this. HVM don't leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:02 PM
3

$100 says it was written by someone who's never seen another person naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:29 PM
5

All other things aside... If someone isn't eager to please me first, it's done. I won't see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:26 PM
51

If he had the skills to 'get' a woman, he'd have a woman. He doesn't. End of. These are the types of men no one should help. No tips, no guidance, nothing. Let their intrinsic awfulness continue to be a repellent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:08 PM
28

ESH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 06:57 PM
4

This was posted earlier today. The guy is a total piece of shit. The good news is it's Idaho,so... yeah. Not a huge draw already. The president of the university is Marlene Tromp, so if one were inclined to write to her about how this makes the University look, she can be reached at: [email protected]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:51 AM
40

I love how this is snarled as some sort of spinster 'Gotcha!' 🙄 One side of their mouth complains how sex is so easy for women to find, while the other drools out how we'll never find anyone. Here's the thing, boys: WE LIKE OURSELVES. I'm not going to speak for all women, of course, but me and my girlfriends? We LOVE our lives! I've honestly never been happier 💖 I date periodically, but men are typically more trouble than they're worth, and I usually have a lot more fun with my friends or family…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:38 AM
208

Yeah, the 'You're so different...' smoke blowing.🙄 No, I'm not. (Well, I am now.) But back then I was like every other pickme who fell for that stupid shit and believed their lyin' ass. Now I see through that nonsense immediately. Any favorable comparison to other women and they're history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:55 PM
56

Depends. Is he a surgeon doing a quadruple bypass? Is he on a cross-Atlantic flight? At a family reunion? Doing a long shift with a strict supervisor? No?? Couple hours... even if it's just to say 'Hey! Can't chat right now, but I'll message or call you later' 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:24 AM
240

This is FACT. And deep down every woman knows it... they just don't believe they're worth the time or effort. And until that changes, lazy low-effort men will continue to be rewarded for the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:35 PM
23

I always drive on the first couple of dates; I could easily uber, but I like them knowing I have that little bit of extra independence and can leave easily.😁 Beach picnics can be beautiful, but on a first date I want to sit comfortably... not be ''surprised' and have to sit criss cross fucking applesauce trying to cover my undies because he doesn't want to spring for a nice restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:38 PM
31

No car, told you the location the day of, made a picnic... Yeah, no. There wouldn't have been a date. 🙄 Edit: Let's pretend for a moment that he had a car, he gave ample notice where we'd be going, and it was an appropriate place; I would 100% drive myself so I could leave whenever I wanted to, should he turn out to be a dud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:24 PM
3

Look at their actions, never their words. I'd give him until morning to realize 'Oh dur! I didn't get her number!' before unmatching him and casting him into the shadows for all eternity. Two days?? He'd be all but a cautionary tale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 04:53 PM
3

And really, 99.9997% of the time a man you've only dated x1 'apologizes' for anything it's because he's hoping to get his dick wet. He's not really sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 04:44 PM
38

I get it. I've been in situations where I had to process wtf was just said, then later I was like DAMN, why didn't I say/do ___?! I went back and read your post. The only thing I would've said to Kendall is 'This really isn't any of your business' 🚫 Time for some new friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 03:08 PM
125

I try to play it off That's where I stopped reading - and where you should've left and blocked him. 'Playing it off' is only appropriate when you're alone with a scrote and acting however you need to act for your safety. Otherwise? The date is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:59 PM
9

You think women are 'being too harsh' on men for 'low tier' bad behavior such as lying? I'm glad there are pickmes like you around to keep those guys busy! Thank you for that.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:35 AM
38

I would never move in with a boyfriend; my advice is to get that out of your mind completely. It's not an option for high value women. Also, it's common to say your gross pay when discussing finances, but it sounds like he was lying over and over. Any lie = it's over. But really, he didn't respect you anyway, otherwise he'd ask you to marry him... not give wife benefits for free. Dump this loser and spend time working on your self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:06 PM
11

He would be literal history. Unless by happenstance, he would never again lay eyes on me. And the 'friends'? Anyone who laughed or stood silently by would be deleted and blocked. There's no gray area here, absolutely none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:00 PM
2

I love that throughout the story you referred to your soon-to-be-ex in past tense. Bye, boy! 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:28 PM
26

I have a tactical pen ('stabber' 😀) that I keep in my hand any time I'm out by myself, going to/from my car, etc. I know how to hold and use it, and while I won't say it would necessarily be easy (depending on the situation), it could kill someone with a single blow. At minimum, it could rupture a testicle, take out an eye... stop someone in their tracks, especially someone who isn't expecting that kind of resistance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:57 PM
196

Imagine being so broken that you can't enjoy Spongebob 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:42 PM
91

Exactly. Everything we do or say is rated on a fuckability scale, but say 'I prefer tall men' or 'I like a guy with a full head of hair,' and they're suddenly bleating about 💥 TOXiC FEMININITY💥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:15 AM
6

Ugh, that's so sad. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:25 PM
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