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substancehub/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:58 PM
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Fucking her hard, repeatedly, doggystyle, from start to finish
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 04:58 PM
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OYS 37 Summary 6'2'' / mid-30s / ~182lbs (~17%BF) BP - 200x3 / OHP - 120x4 / SQ - 260x5 / DL - 270x6 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), Extreme Ownership (finished), The War of Art (finished), Man's Search for Meaning Summary: Overextended myself for the last few weeks with a combination of client projects and an unexpected home reconstruction project. Stress is a good test of discipline—I find myself wanting to indulge in bad habits: porn, smoking, and snacking. Almost find it enj…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 01:36 PM
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If you get banned, consider it a gift—one of the mods cares enough to give you a slap in the ego. If you can push through the butthurt long enough to see it as such, you’re on your way to “getting it.”
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 11:14 AM
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About the meditation rut, sometimes taking a few days or even a week off can help you return to the cushion with a refreshed mind. Or push yourself to sit longer, 20-30 minutes at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 03:13 AM
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“I’ve advised her to go to grad school in a very sunny climate...” How is this not rule 10’d? Cutting all the unnecessary details about your kids, generalizations about alpha male dynamics, etc. could’ve easily made this update one post instead of two. Also, did you win the fight or what?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 03:03 AM
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OYS 36 Summary 6'2'' / mid-30s / ~181lbs (~16%BF) BP - 200x3 / OHP - 115x4 / SQ - 260x4 / DL - 260x7 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), Extreme Ownership Recap: Delegating so I can grow my business and focus on the things I enjoy doing most. Owning my decisions and the mistakes of the people I've delegated to as failures of leadership/communication. Health / Fitness Added a second friend to my backyard workout roster. I enjoy working out alone but working out with friends is awesom…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 05:21 PM
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Not doing BJJ isn't going to help your sleep situation. Motivation for your discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 10:47 AM
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OYS 35 6'2'' / mid-30s / ~183lbs (~17%BF) BP - 200x3 / OHP - 115x4 / SQ - 255x3 / DL - 250x7 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), Extreme Ownership Recap: Went through a week of feeling depressed and irritable. Realized I was playing a victim in my head, believing the same old stories and using rationalizations to justify why I can't live the life I want. Accepting areas in which I've been complacent and making some uncomfortable decisions has renewed my sense of purpose. Health / Fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 10:38 AM
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Yup, 99% of the time when I get into the same arguments you tried to help with 2 years ago, it’s because I’m still insecure. If there’s a difference, it’s that now I see the insecurity isn’t because I truly believe “I’m a bad bad patriarchal man”—that’s the surface level—it’s because part of me still believes I need to prove my value/intelligence/worth by showing other people how stupid they are. “How is this adding value” indeed, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/21 01:15 AM
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Yes, exactly. I still care / let other people’s reactions be my final measure of success. Ironically, pushing past the fear of “what will people think” is what got me to finally do the social media thing after putting it off for...years. I also like to remind myself of the ephemerality of all this: • My post is a flick of someone’s thumb • My sexual performance won’t be remembered a week from now • My freelance work is a minor component of someone else’s much larger and complex goal
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:03 PM
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OYS 34 6'2'' / mid-30s / ~185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 200x4 / OHP - 115x4 / SQ - 255x3 / DL - 245x7 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), NMMNG (again) Summary: Paying attention to limiting thoughts and beliefs this week. The more I put myself out there, the more petty the fear-based thoughts seem. Overall still pretty happy and grateful lately: I'm healthy, have few major responsibilities, a flexible work life doing what I love, hobbies I enjoy, and good friends. Coming to grips with the fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 11:38 AM
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My knee jerk reaction was “What the fuck do you people want from me? I’m doing everything I’m supposed to do. Why don’t you see that?” hahaha yes my default response as well. What's really twisted is when you start to love when those thoughts come up, because it's the ego's cry for help and you know you're getting to the good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 01:23 PM
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OYS 33 Summary 6'2'' / mid-30s / ~185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 200x4 / OHP - 115x4 / SQ - 255x3 / DL - 245x7 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), NMMNG (again) Bans are good for shutting down my out-of-control ego. My inner Nice Guy is still trying to play RP OYS like it's a school test. Finished TWOTSM, seemed like a good time to re-read NMMNG. Signed up with a counselor. Grinding on my business. Little sexual appetite. Generally happier than I’ve been in a long while. Leveling up combat sk…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 01:17 PM
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OYS 32 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 195x3 / OHP - 115x4 / SQ - 250x5 / DL - 235x7 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), TWOTSM (again) At the suggestion of HOA and u/JCX_Pulse, I took a long look at my mouth hole and decided I needed to drink a big glass of STFU the last couple weeks. I talk too much, and when I do, it's often manipulative wants, covert contracts, or "Mommy, look!" validation. I experimented with some playful nonverbal (literal STFU) communication…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 12:03 PM
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From TWOTSM: As of now, spend a minimum of one hour a day doing whatever you are waiting to do until your finances are more secure, or until the children have grown and left home, or until you have finished your obligations and you feel free to do what you really want to do. Don't wait any longer. Don't believe in the myth of "one day when everything will be different." Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you've been born to do, now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 12:28 PM
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Thanks for all the input. It’s clearly not a straightforward yes/no answer. Case in point: after adding it to my workout routine over the last week, my body tells me I benefit from using it during the last squat (245x6) and OHP (115x4) sets, but it’s not necessary on deadlift (250x4) yet. And while I’ve squatted more weight without one in the past, I’m using much better form and going deeper now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 12:20 PM
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"Most men lead lives of quiet desperation" —Thoreau If you have the slightest inkling that you would be happier starting a business, you should try your hand at it. There will always be more jobs paying $50k (or more). Don't quit your day job cold turkey. Working remotely (if possible) and/or cutting out bullshit at work can free up several hours per week to start prototyping and market testing ideas. You can find a balance between job, business, and social/family life—lots of people on here wit…
/r/askMRP11/03/21 02:13 AM
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Hmm yea I was squatting around 275 and deadlifting 315 without one a couple years ago. I guess I’m paranoid about screwing up my form on a rep and slipping a disc or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 12:33 PM
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"I have made space for it to explore our sexuality together." You're right, my hesitation is the feelings of unworthiness and guilt talking. It's hard to explain, but you can't have an imaginary conversation relaying complex ideas to a woman who doesn't know how you think and what you want. For a long time I've used an incomplete mental model of STFU be an excuse to shut down conversations I didn't want to have because I didn't know what I wanted or was uncomfortable acknowledging my flaws. That…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 09:28 PM
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Do you think the words really matter that much? Probably not, but recalling the conversations help me figure out why I act/say what I do. It's the relationship equivalent of taking video of myself doing BJJ to figure out how I could have escaped a choke or landed a submission I missed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 09:13 PM
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Also, you aren't squatting enough to need a weight belt. What's your rule of thumb? I read 1.5x bodyweight on squat/deadlift.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 09:09 PM
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This belongs in r/productivity, not the subreddit for "...sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men." Lifts, sidebar, etc
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 12:09 PM
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OYS 31 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 190x4 / OHP - 115x3 / SQ - 245x6 / DL - 230x6 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), TWOTSM (again) Health/Fitness Started jogging again for the first time in two years. Holy fucking sore calves. Hoping to see improvements in my BJJ game and sex stamina. Bought a weight belt. It's like getting a hug from the All-Spotter every time I do a set of squats now. Did some personal training with the wife. It was a fun way to practice swa…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 12:00 PM
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The agree and amplify plus broken record approach you’re taking works well for shit tests. Even if you’re pissed but for a dumb reason and she’s just poking the bear, then responding with, “Yeah, I’m fucking livid!” owns and releases your emotions. Acting melodramatic is funny and reminds you (and reassures her) that you were overreacting. Also, you might have a case of resting bitch face that’s TRIGGERING her shit tests. Relax 😎
/r/askMRP03/03/21 12:16 PM
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Yup, inner control freak's been overcomplicating it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 10:57 PM
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You're a control freak. You have no outcome Independence. Which belies the truth that you have no abundance and thus no choice. You control because you are afraid. You are afraid because you suck … and you know it. This chain of suck makes it clear that at the root of my control issues are fears: of not having enough money, that I won't be able to achieve my fitness goals, that my wife will reject me, etc. It's ALL your fault. When does anyone EVER sign up to be "micromanaged?" The fact that I o…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 10:13 PM
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This is 100% the opposite of what we talk about here at MRP. We don't control women. We invite them along for the ride on our awesome life. This is what's dawning on me more and more each week. It's like me and my wife's sexuality is a plant I tried to cram in a pot that was too small because I was afraid of how big and wild it could grow, and now we're root bound.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 10:02 PM
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I'm just going to continue to train my pelvic floor and try to relax during sex. Yea from what I've been reading it seems like it can take a while (months) for the technique and training to click. I've only kept at it for a month here and there, which is probably why I never saw results.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 09:49 PM
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She wants you to train her & work out with you. Yea, when you put it like that it's very obvious now
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 09:45 PM
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My goal is to avoid porn even if I occasionally give in to masturbation. I have a lot of fear at the thought of not having masturbation available, either for relief or as an escape. You might be surprised at how quickly the needy kind of masturbation desire goes away after you stop watching porn. At this stage, slowly weaning yourself off your hand is for you to learn that there are other ways to find release and contentment with life. When you're satisfied with your progress on abstinence, brin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 12:22 PM
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OYS 30 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 190x4 / OHP - 115x3 / SQ - 245x6 / DL - 230x6 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), TWOTSM (again) Two related bits of wisdom from the sidebar I've been thinking about this week: Pook Approaching isn’t a mission, it’s an opportunity to have fun. TWOTSM Your work will never be done. Spend an hour a day doing the thing(s) you tell yourself you’ll have time for “someday.” This week I responded to these aphorisms by: Going skiing wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 12:15 PM
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TLDR The best thing you can do for your marriage is to get a (mental) divorce so you can cuck your (former) self
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 03:30 AM
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“You’re right honey, you really don’t deserve me. I’m going to find someone better.” Then wink and slap her ass. You don’t need to reciprocate identically for every compliment or nice thing she says to you. Learn how to take a compliment (“Thanks”) or respond/acknowledge her non-verbally (e.g. squeeze her hand or give her a kiss).
/r/askMRP27/02/21 12:25 PM
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Thanks for the tips. I’m gonna try some of these supplements and see what works. And jogging. No excuse not to put in a few miles per week anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 06:59 PM
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It definitely doesn't. Better than it was just a few weeks ago, but still haven't gotten out of the mental habit of keeping score.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:35 PM
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OK great, I'll look into those supplements. My cardio is pretty good from BJJ but that's a good motivation to add in more biking as weather permits. Would you say it was more cardio or the supplements?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:34 PM
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OYS 29 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 185x5 / OHP - 115x1 / SQ - 245x6 / DL - 230x6 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), TWOTSM (again) Sex / Game Been less obsessive about sex this week and counter-intuitively (to my lizard brain) got my fill of it. Sex is like a Chinese finger trap—the less I focus on it the more likely I am to get what I want. So now I'm going to spend 90% of my OYS talking about sex: I have an issue with premature ejaculation that makes me inse…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 12:32 PM
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You're totally right. I have a hard time playing the game without expectations of a sexual reward—I'd rather focus on work or hobbies where I know I'll get rewarded with money, skills, praise, and endorphins.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:21 PM
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OYS 28 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 185lbs (~17%BF) BP - 185x5 / OHP - 115x1 / SQ - 245x6 / DL - 230x5 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), TWOTSM (again via audiobook) Sex / Game Sometimes inaction is the right action. For example, most of my initiations are half-assed because I listen to a half-baked thought that says it's important to tell these people in an online forum that I initiated and/or got laid 8 times in a week. Two things I've been keeping in mind are only initiating wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:14 PM
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Next level! I need to try that. Is gay a form of dread?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:57 PM
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Fear crept in a few times last week, realizing I was becoming the leader and all the responsibility that comes with it. Good leaders still feel fear—the difference is that as a good leader you'll come to relish that feeling. Reframe fear as excitement and progress. Recognize it as the feeling you get when you're pushing your comfort zone outward and taking risks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:35 PM
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Light some candles and add in a few drops of essential oils when you're ready to gay harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:28 PM
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Another quality progress timeline. The desire = 6th sense metaphor is super useful. Seems like the mental muscle strengthened by awareness practice (like the practice of meditation, or the process of interrupting bad habit triggers) will be useful in identifying when you're feeling genuine desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:11 PM
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HOW YOU SAY NO is very important. Apply WISNIFG methods and always the suave, charming... This. I was pretty good at saying no before finding MRP, but my delivery was harsh and robotic and came from a place of insecurity. There's a time for being a dick but most compliance requests are just another opportunity to play the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 03:33 PM
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It's causing me to think thoughts that I try to avoid. Nothing sinister, but places I don't wanna be. Then find some hobbies to occupy your mind. Where's the rest of your OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 03:21 PM
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The first week of no porn was by far the hardest. Second was easier. This last one I barely think about it. We're on the same no porn timeline, incredible how quickly the brain rewires itself. Half expecting to spontaneously dream up a Unified Field Theory by week 7.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 03:08 PM
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OYS 27 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 184lbs (~16%BF) BP - 199 / OHP - 118 / SQ - 270 / DL - 250 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), Models Sex / Game Last week I came to the enlightened conclusion that game is my biggest weak point. I don't wanna pretend that I'm turning into the Buddha because I haven't jerked off or watched porn in a few weeks, but it's been making me see how I have some good old fashioned oneitis for my wife. I've always hamstered that I'd have no problem finding …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 02:59 PM
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I eventually redeemed myself... It seems like you’re aware of this but it’s worth reiterating: your self-worth isn’t dependent on whether or not you sealed the deal more than once in January. There are many layers of covert contracts and ego validation to peel back—your continued commitment to uncovering and destroying them is the real metric to measure yourself by (unfortunately it’s just not as pleasurable or obvious when you’ve succeeded).
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 08:42 PM
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Yes! I had the same thought while reading Models a couple hours after I posted this. I spent 20 years hamstering that I could have it both ways. But the hamster lied. This is the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 08:17 PM
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OYS 26 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 182lbs (~16%BF) BP - 199 / OHP - 118 / SQ - 270 / DL - 250 Read: the sidebar Reading: Book of Pook (again), Models Mods: Thank you for the flair, I truly earned it. Captain's Log Star Date: February 2, 2021 I am on a collision course with Planet Pussy. My porn archive has been destroyed and I have taken a temporary vow of hand celibacy to reroute my sex drive power reserves into the life support systems of my starship. No porn plus no fap, combined with an uns…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 12:30 PM
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One more suggestion: make the walk/run part so easy you have absolutely no excuse not to do it. I’m talking literally walking around your block once counts. You’ll of course find that most of the time you’ll wanna do more, but set the bar so low you cannot fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 11:20 AM
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This is gold. Here are a few more: The Cross Dresser: Wife has a stuffed animal that she likes cuddling when she's feeling low. Sometimes I'll dress it up with one of her thongs, fancy gloves, a hat, jewelry, etc. and leave it lewdly posed on the bed. The Mysterious Note: Leave a ridiculous note in her jacket or pants for her to find later. Write whatever you want—crude drawings of sexual acts, a made up story signed "Morpheus," etc. Background: Surreptitiously steal your wife's phone and replac…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 09:50 PM
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Full lockdown, so what. Time to step my game up here by reaching out and staying in touch with my circle. Lots of ways to hang out with friends during lockdown—hikes are my favorite right now. and then make a morning routine to start me off on the right foot. Too many lazy mornings for my liking. Why not write it out here? Be specific. Make it too easy not to do. If I had a nickel for every time I told myself I was going to start an elaborate morning routine (e.g. get up earlier, journal, medita…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 09:08 PM
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The Oracle: ...you didn't come here to make the choice, you've already made it. You're here to try to understand why you made it. I thought you'd have figured that out by now.
/r/askMRP26/01/21 07:37 PM
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OYS 25 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 182lbs (~16%BF) BP - 199 / OHP - 118 / SQ - 270 / DL - 250 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM, 48 Laws of Power Reading: Book of Pook (again), Models Fitness / Hobbies / Social Got some bro time this week. Bro time is key to keeping me human. Started deadlifts again a few weeks ago after a year hiatus. Started loading creatine around …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 02:55 PM
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“Each of these stages last approximately 1 month.” Or in my case, approximately 1 year (glimmers of stage 3 now). And sometimes progress seems to regress randomly. Thanks for the reminder that there’s a path forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/21 01:13 AM
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This timeline of no porn > no libido > depression > back to horny should be stickied
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 09:54 PM
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OYS 24 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 182lbs (~16%BF) BP - 197 / OHP - 111 / SQ - 256 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM, 48 Laws of Power Reading: Book of Pook (again), Models Fitness / Hobbies / Social All work and no play makes substancehub a dull boy. Didn't wake up early or eat particularly well. Still working out every day though (BJJ/yoga/weights/bike). Didn't see …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 09:39 PM
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My woman is always emotional during sex, but the moment I tap into HER emotions with my own eyes or emotions - well, it's like a whole other world inside of that little bubble. Damn, I never thought of it this way. This is good medicine, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 12:52 AM
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OYS 23 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 182lbs (~16%BF) BP - 197 / OHP - 111 / SQ - 256 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM, 48 Laws of Power Reading: Book of Pook (again) Recap: This week in particular seems like a good time to call out my own bullshit on goals unfinished. I've come a long way since taking the red pill about three years ago, but I know I'm limiting myself i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 04:12 PM
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Can’t remember what sage on here said this originally, but “play your nice card” or “reset” every day.
/r/askMRP31/12/20 03:49 AM
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Wait till you hear my pillow talk
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/20 03:27 AM
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OYS 22 Summary 6'2'' 34 years old / 180lbs (~16%BF) BP - 197 / OHP - 111 / SQ - 256 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM Reading: 48 Laws of Power, Book of Pook (again) Recap: Got some good work done in the beginning of the week, then indulged in hanging out with friends, eating too much, and playing lots of videogames over the weekend. Back to business as usual this week…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 02:57 PM
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Vitamin D FTW! Took some this morning and already feel better than I have in days. Probably some kind of evolutionary response for people to slow down in winter and conserve calories. You’re right that depression can be a slingshot sometimes. “I’m a healthy person in a depressed state” is a healthier way of looking at it than internalizing “I am a depressed person.” When I feel angry I put it into BJJ and lifting. Hanging out with friends helps a lot for the “spontaneous happiness” side of the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 04:56 PM
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OYS 21 Summary 6’2” 34 years old / 180lbs (~16%BF) BP - 197 / OHP - 111 / SQ - 256 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM Reading: Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, 48 Laws of Power, Book of Pook (again) Recap: This week has been a slog. Some combination of winter-quarantine-holiday doldrums, drama from the coworking space I work in, and probably lack of vitamin D. It …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 01:02 PM
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Could also try single leg squats for variety.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 09:27 PM
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OYS 20 Summary 6’2” 34 years old / 180lbs (~16%BF) BP - 197 (+7) / OHP - 111 / SQ - 256 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM Reading: Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, 48 Laws of Power, Book of Pook (again) Dear Diary, Last week, /u/threekindsoflucky and /u/Tyred_Biggums reminded me that I'm still a validation-seeking little bitch. I keep coming to MRP for a few mont…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 01:36 PM
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I actually saved this post at some point... thanks for the reminder
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 12:52 AM
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It's easier to hold to a habit when you arrange your schedule in a way that makes it impossible to skip. Try working out on an empty stomach, you might surprise yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 12:49 AM
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This is all over the place. Lifts, context, higher goals—what is the todo list helping you accomplish?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 12:13 PM
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Eliminate the overtime excuse by working out before work, first thing in the morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 12:11 PM
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The real problem isn’t acts of childcare but that he seems to be taking on these responsibilities to make his wife happy, not because he wants to be a more involved father.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 12:09 PM
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OYS 19 Summary 6’2” 34 years old / 180lbs (~16%BF) BP - 190 / OHP - 110 / SQ - 255 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook, Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Atomic Habits, Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John, WOTSM Reading: Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, 48 Laws of Power Haven’t checked in in a while and I feel my edge slipping so I'm back here to own it with a recap of the last year. Fitness / Hobbies / Social Been hovering at this level of bodyfat for way…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 12:02 PM
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Seems like a recurring theme here is that you're depressed, so you do something to feel better (like drink), then you feel shitty for breaking the promise you made to yourself (to drink less), so you feel more depressed and want to drink more. Focus on what you're doing right. If you keep working out (good job on going to the gym), you're gonna get to a point where you won't wanna drink, because you'll notice how much more difficult it is to wake up in the morning. Yes, I’m bad at sex. I’m bad a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:52 PM
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I know approximately how much we spend monthly, including a buffer for unforeseen expenses, so I'm looking for something that's just one big number to track. The bank I use, Simple, has a 'Safe to Spend' feature where you can save for stuff and it'll hide that money from the account balance, but that's useless if you use credit cards. That said, I think you're right about just putting in the time each week to review.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:26 PM
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The most useless book I've read from the sidebar — a poorly organized collection of "OYS moves" that you should be doing anyway, not the alpha fun/adventurous idea book I was hoping for.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:19 PM
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OYS 17 (month 13) 6’2” 32 years old 194lbs (-5lbs) ~19%BF BP - 185 x 4 DL - 320 x 4 SQ - 285 x 4 Read: WISNIFG, (NMMNG again), (MMSLP), SGM, (Married in Captivity), (Book of Pook), Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves Reading: Mindful Attraction Plan, Iron John Fitness / Hobbies / Social Grinding away: Been going to BJJ 2-3 times per week and loving it Steadily losing about 1lb per week (goal is to get down to about 180-185 by July) Lifts have suffered from a combination of sore elbows from BJJ an…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 12:55 PM
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What worked for me to quit smoking was cardio. Didn't crave cigarettes after a half hour bike ride to work or a 45 minute jog. Sometimes it's easier to create a new habit than kill an old one.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 05:57 PM
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OYS 16 (month 12) Summary One year since my first OYS. Solid improvement in some ways, stagnant in others. My main goal for this year is to make a real change in my career and drain that stagnant pool of energy keeping the rest of my life mired in definitely-better-than-average-but-not-what-it-could-be mediocrity. 6’2” 32 years old 199lbs (+13lbs) 22%BF (+3%) BP - 190 x 7 (+24lbs) DL - 325 x 4 (+5lbs) SQ - 285 x 8 (+42lbs) Read: WISNIFG, (NMMNG again), (MMSLP), SGM, (Married in Captivity), (Book…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:27 PM
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That's part of it, but I think it's those things plus lower body fat. It's been shown that the majority of women are most attracted to a man in the 12-15% range. That post is good motivation to lose some body fat, now time to light the "Log of Discipline."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 06:28 PM
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IF you are not happy in these things, then maybe sex with her shouldn't be your focus. Good point — pretty clear I need to work on living my best life instead of focusing on sex. a little chub but strong and tall This is poetry ​
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 05:24 PM
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Then you've been a Dancing Monkey. The important mindset to have here is do this from a mission-oriented standpoint. Not so mommy notices and wants to have sex. Yea that's the term I was trying to remember. It's a cycle — I read something like the last chapter in NMMNG, see a vision for my life, get inspired, and go after it. All my normal tasks become imbued with more meaning and I'm feeling good. Then a month or two goes by without renewing that vision and I revert back to the dangling-sex-val…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 05:19 PM
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OYS 14 (month 11) 6’2”, 200lbs (19%BF), 32y/o BP - 185 x 7 DL - 325 x 4 SQ - 285 x 8 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook Reading: wrapping up second reading of NMMNG, starting Mindful Attraction Plan Summary Went on a week-long trip to Mexico loaded with expectations of having tons of sex and then got butthurt when SO wasn’t going for it (coincided with shark week, but I digress). It was a wake-up call because I realized that I’m still living in this sex-as-validat…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 01:14 PM
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For reference, the Michael Douglas movie is Falling Down, an excellent tale of a beta schlub who takes the red pill and goes rambo.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 12:41 PM
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Thanks for these, going down the PUA rabbit hole...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 02:44 AM
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Ha corrected
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 12:57 AM
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OYS 13 (month 10) 6’2”, 205lbs (20%BF), 32y/o BP - 185 x 7 DL - 320 x 6 SQ - 280lb x78 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook Reading: re-reading NMMNG Summary Last OYS, I went on a multi-day, play-by-play victim puke about my wife pressuring me to go into marriage counseling with her to fix her libido. I ultimately made a workable compromise by saying, "I’m open to it, but I am working through some personal stuff with NMMNG and don’t want to right now.” I appreciate …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 01:52 PM
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Yes, this was a fucking great illustration of what not to do. Resetting today. Thanks for your insights, I’ve got work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 12:57 PM
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That she divorces me? Jesus I’ve been thinking about this way too much today. I decided to proactively bring up NMMNG and frame the discussion in a positive way tonight. She thought NMMNG sounded great but quickly got back on the MC track and became withdrawn when I shot it down via a mess of fogging/broken record and DEERing. I feel like a dancing monkey refusing to go to MC, like it’s all my ego trying to prove this RP shit works.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:39 AM
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What "risks" could arise if she discusses your choice with her therapist? What "risks" might arise if she actually reads NMMNG? Worst case, her therapist is nuts and tells her it's "toxic masculinity." Worst case, she reads it and thinks it's manipulative. I think I'm getting the idea... her opinion is just an input. DNGAF
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 11:48 PM
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Yea this was an easy one to shut down because it was so ridiculous.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 08:53 PM
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I can tell you you're thinking too much. Thinking too much about her, about what to say, how to say it, and worrying if you'll fuck it up. Think less about all that and focus on what you want. The secret is you can say whatever the fuck you want, really, as long as it's coming from a position of power and not weakness. You're right —I'm gonna spend some more time thinking about what I want and less about what I think she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 08:51 PM
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I guess the "risk" is that she would still reject this NMMNG narrative as an invalid method of self-improvement. Perhaps because it invalidates her narrative of us only improving together via a marriage counselor. The marriage counselor has become an axle for her hamster wheel to spin on, where my refusal to see one with her is the sole reason for our communication issues, and an excuse to not put forth effort on her end. As I write this out, that "risk" doesn't seem like a big deal because I lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 08:43 PM
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Can’t be worse than whatever I’m doing now. What are the risks?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 01:22 PM
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Yea it shouldn’t. I am still learning how to communicate my boundaries, worldview, and mission. I suspect I have overcorrected and taken the first rule of fight club too far — stopped communicating altogether. Scripts like yours and the one u/man_in_the_world suggested go a long way towards helping me “fake it until I make it” without veering back towards over-explaining and “mommy look!” validation seeking.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 01:08 PM
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This was my favorite one: In person, she said, “I need you to write out a bulleted list of reasons why you think we don’t need marriage counseling that I can take to my therapist, because I don’t understand why you don’t want to make this marriage work.”
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:59 PM
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Demonstrate, don't explicate! Exactly. My question: did I fuck up by being so explicit? Yes. Post-coital feels are important but don't overdo it. Anything in the vagina is a shit show of starfish, pain, discomfort, wincing facial expressions, "just get it over with". This sounds like a tough situation. How does she respond to oral? Try giving her a full body massage (OI) and if she seems aroused, segue into eating her out couple times without any expectations of a favor in return (OI). Massage i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:42 AM
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1st — I have to hand it to her, it's all stuff I was reading about in NMMNG yesterday, and it's all stuff I need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:32 AM
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Thanks. This sounds like a good middle path between over-explaining my position and demonstrating that I care about her. I realize that on some level she wants reassurance that she's not married to an emotionless robot who will leave her because his robot algorithms can't deal with her bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:29 AM
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OYS 12.5 (month 9.5) 6’2”, 200lbs (20%BF), 32y/o BP - 190 x 5 DL - 320 x 4 SQ - 280 x 6 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook Reading: re-reading NMMNG What I'm Doing Lifting 3x week, added 2-3x days of yoga and jogging. Starting jiu jitsu in February. Job is going well, making good money. A maker space I've been working on is set to open at the end of the week. Discussing NMMNG weekly with a friend of mine. Volunteering to build out the maker space has occupied most…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 05:45 PM
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Thanks for elaborating, bouncing these ideas around helps me get out of my head. The light switch thing is scary — my wife reframed vague memories of starfish sex over the years into a mild #metoo incident a couple months ago. So I tried to figure out why she was disgusted with me, and I came to the conclusion I was the guy asking to play golf too often to the point where it was unattractive. Monk mode (NMMNG BF#39) has been my way of resetting and reminding myself that it's not enough to needil…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 02:07 AM
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Yes, I completely agree. It’s at least partly a failure of the imagination. What kind of stuff do you do with your SO that makes you not boring?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 11:30 AM
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Yes! Love that golf metaphor and I don’t play golf
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 11:26 AM
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Interesting interpretation, it could be... But I think my ego is more interested in seeking validation via sex. So this is my way of starving it off and proving to myself I don’t need her/sex. When I do begin initiating more regularly, I want to do it from a place of OI. What was your experience with forgoing initiating?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 03:02 AM
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Between STFU and Rambo-ing these new changes, I am not giving her the feels that she needs. For the bedroom: Read the chapter in SGM on emotion and dirty talk. Introduce it gradually. Also this recent post. For regular life: How's your game? If you're half the recovering emotionless robot I am, having a sense of humor and being playful helps lighten things up and reminds her that despite your bionic features, you're still mostly human.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 09:27 PM
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Sounds like you're going through a lot of changes — career, finances, frame, fitness. You will fail along the way, but no matter what, make losing the weight and getting fit the foundation of your frame, and everything else will come with time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 03:51 PM
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OYS 12 (month 9) 6’2”, 200lbs (20%BF), 32y/o BP - 185 x 5 DL - 320 x 3 SQ - 275lb x 8 Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook Reading: re-reading NMMNG, re-reading parts of SGM Summary Two months since last OYS post. I decided to really OMS these last couple months and in doing so I feel more alive, engaged, and optimistic than I have in a long time. We took turns being sick the last couple months. While she was down, I took over all the house chores and realized I sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 12:26 PM
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Yea second this. Sex moratorium can reveal covert contracts and unattractive needy behavior. Also opens up space to focus on OYS so you can form the habits that make OYS automatic.
/r/askMRP10/12/18 01:29 PM
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Look into mindful masturbation. I've seen impressive improvements after just a few 20 minute sessions. Don't expect miracles but worth a try. Do it by yourself first, then with your LTR if she's into it. Also +1 the kegels suggestions. Reverse kegels help relax and lessen arousal, regular kegels maintain arousal and halt yourself at the "point of no return."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 06:34 PM
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Ah such a refreshing OYS. Be a confident, sexually active, successful man that thoroughly enjoys every day and leads his family to achieve their full potential. How do you define "successful"? The more specific your mission statement, the more enjoyable it is to make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 06:26 PM
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Glad you're sticking to your guns, but fake plastic trees are bullshit. Plus, you're missing out on the pleasure of oiling your chainsaw, mowing down a tree, and lighting it on fire a couple months later.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 02:34 AM
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Funny that you brought this up, I started thinking the same thing after I posted this comment. Wife bought the book, we both read it, discussed, and nothing changed. Or rather, I didn't lead and make changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 10:27 PM
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+1 Good way to get wife on board with RP ideas because it's coming from a female perspective. Worth checking out podcast interviews with her as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/18 01:25 AM
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Well played
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 07:59 PM
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After a conversation yesterday I believe this feminism/patriarchy/sexism stuff is "shitty comfort tests." I agree it probably wouldn't be happening as much if I had a stronger frame, but until then, here we are: Her: We snuggled a lot last night. Me: Yeah, I like reaching over and feeling a nice firm butt on the other side of the bed. Her: Ha, firm like cottage cheese (self-conscious about her cellulite) Me: Doesn't look like that when you're bent over. Cue shit storm about how I sexualize every…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 06:58 PM
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It's the fundamental question of when do you want to be clever and when do you want to hunker down? What do you mean by this... going into monk mode? I still have a hard time knowing when wife feels like I fucked up vs when I actually fucked up. But I guess this goes back to frame — I'm letting her feminist/sexist/disgust outbursts short-circuit my reasoning skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 05:26 PM
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How do you know when your frame is solid, or rather, what do you do to renew it? I keep going through these phases of introspection and self-development, feeling like I’m transitioning over from phase 1 to 2, or in some areas (like the maker space) to 3. It doesn’t seem like the discrete phases described there. Reading through NMMNG again, clearly there are chunks missing from the frame, internalized sexual shame exploited under the guise of equality by feminism. I guess I need to look at this a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 12:44 PM
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She got my son now involved in her shit. Hard to give advice when there aren't any specifics. In any case, like @JudgeDoom69 said, make the focus of your next post about what YOU are doing for YOURSELF, along the usual categories: fitness, finances, game, style, friends, hobbies, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 07:20 PM
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OYS 11 (month 7) 6’2”, 192lbs, 32y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity, Book of Pook Reading: Lean Gains, re-reading NMMNG Summary This post (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9xlt7s/two_years_and_counting/) by HerukaArisen hit home. Definitely made progress on the personal stuff — hygiene, health, finances, etc — but things have never gotten to a REALLY bad point, and I’ve been slipping the last few months towards boringness. Back on here because I do better at…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 07:04 PM
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What do you mean by your brother in-law taking the low risk route?
/r/askMRP15/11/18 12:40 PM
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A Random Walk Down Wall Street - Burton Malkiel (tldr; low cost index funds FTW - don’t day trade unless you’re Warren Buffet)
/r/askMRP09/11/18 01:49 PM
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OYS Week 10 6’2”, 185lbs?, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Reading: Book of Pook Summary Missed last week. Very busy with work, upped my wardrobe game, partied too hard. Lifting / Eating Consistent with diet and lifting. Looking for used weights on Craigslist. Going to cut back calories a bit more this week. 1RM: bench 209 lbs (+0) deadlift 389 lbs (+0) squat 335 lbs (+6) Hygiene / Style Got some new clothes, got some compliments from wife and friends. If you’re fortun…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 09:57 PM
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OYS Week 9 6’2”, 185lbs?, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Reading: Book of Pook Summary Missed last week. Family visited, passed some old tests, got hung up on others. Lifting / Eating Combo of family visit and wedding had me drinking more in a week than I have in a month or so. Back on the diet this week. 1RM: bench 209 lbs (+6) deadlift 389 lbs (+20) - longer warmups FTW! maxed out my 300lb weight set, time to buy a couple new 45lb plates squat 329 lbs (+7) Hygiene /…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 10:28 PM
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Random tips (from a designer/developer): In general, no one cares about your degree. It's all about the work (although college is a great place to meet other smart people). Great programmers produce 10x-20x the output of average programmers just copying shit off Stack Overflow (not that there's anything wrong with that...). One or two good people can create truly great software all on their own. The overhead of software dev is next to nothing. So why bother climbing the corporate ladder if you c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 08:45 PM
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Aren't you using an app like MFP to track your calories and macros? If not, time to start. What gets measured gets done. Yeah, this. Sounds like you've already mapped out a few meals. Your daily calorie intake doesn't have to be exact, but using something like MFP will help you get a sense of food-macro-equivalents and you'll get some flexibility in planning what you eat. i.e. 1c rice = 1c potatoes = 1c pasta, OR 1c chicken + 1tbsp fatty sauce = 1c ground beef. And generally, if you're lifting, …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 03:42 PM
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Next week is going to be a challenge as we will be on vacation with extended family and no access to gym. Not sure where you're going on vacation, but just walking around is an easy way to burn some excess calories. It's the best way to explore and see a new place anyway. Goal last week was to pop into each of their rooms before bed This is great, keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 03:32 PM
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OYS Week 8 6’2”, 185lbs?, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Reading: Book of Pook Summary Nothing too exciting, but an overall good week. Got a lot of work done around the house, had great sex with the wife, kept frame up and swatted down shit tests left and right. Lifting / Eating Slight cut, still maintaining strength with some gains, especially on secondary lifts not listed here (OHP, dips, pull-ups, etc). Wife has dropped a few comments here and there about my biceps…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 03:22 PM
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no, they're pretty distracting, but that's a good idea. one time she handcuffed me and I almost couldn't get off because I wasn't feeling her up with my hands
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/18 05:18 PM
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“Don’t get addicted to MRP” On the other hand... read MRP every day like it’s your bible. Over a year ago I read WISNIFG, started lifting, skimmed a few posts, and went straight Rambo to dread level 9. Probably set me back six months. When I finally realized it wasn’t working I started reading more and engaging with the community on here and I feel like I’ve made as much progress in the last 2 months as I did in the previous year. I make a task to read something MRP everyday, whether it’s a post…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/18 11:56 AM
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Mindful meaning masturbating for the purpose of focusing on sensation/pleasure, less about the “outcome.” Combined with reverse kegels exercises, a precursor for male multi-orgasm. guide And no, haven’t gotten there yet. As I was writing this I remembered that I used to jerk off before rendezvousing with my girlfriends. I used to not care about anything but cumming inside during sex, but the woman I married has cum-on-me tits and I’m frequently in this dilemma of ”saving up” a load for a spectac…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/18 11:25 AM
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OYS Week 7 6’2”, 185lbs, 31y/oRead: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in CaptivityReading: Book of Pook Lifting / EatingCutting a mere 100-150 calories per day has made a big difference. Already feel less bloated and stomach looks flatter. Still making gains/maintaining.Oddly, I’ve been having insomnia/restless sleep the night after I workout (I workout in the morning). Seems counterintuitive, I would think the body would want to rest. Might be more strongly correlated with squat/DL days. Googli…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 10:41 PM
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Yea that makes sense... I was confusing consequence with punishment.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 05:30 PM
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OYS Week 6 6’2”, 185lbs, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Reading: Book of Pook Lifting/Eating Changed my mind about eating, decided I want to cut and see abs this summer before bulking again. Still making steady gains. 1RM: bench 203 lbs (+1) deadlift 369 lbs (+10) squat 316 lbs (+6) Hygiene/Style Waiting for my claw file to arrive from Amazon. Aware I need new clothes, waiting for my finances to straighten out before going shopping. Finances / Career Still owed a lot …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:30 PM
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I’ll rephrase: if OP had established that purchases over x $ were to be discussed first, what specific consequences would be appropriate?
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:38 PM
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What do you mean by consequences, and how would you establish them without sounding like a dad/control freak?
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:15 PM
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By stirring the pot, you still haven't said anything about the problem. You're simply exploring the emotional landscape of the problem. This opens the door to allow to fully explore emotions. YES. Thanks for bridging the gaps between phases in the emotional validation process. I hear a lot about validation as a concept but this summarizes how it can be used as a productive, proactive tool. You parroting: "Wow she's really talking behind your back about your lunches?" You logic-ing: "She shouldn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 08:16 PM
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Set the bar low, start with just five minutes a day so there’s no excuse not to do it. Oak and Headspace are both good app options to get you started.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 01:30 PM
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Set the bar low, start with just five minutes a day so there’s no excuse not to do it. Oak and Headspace are both good app options to get you started.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 11:49 AM
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Good stuff. I think my mental attractiveness is missing a mission-foundation. In the middle of a major career transition and while I have a vague idea of what my ideal life would look like, haven't thought about what the actual mission/values are. Will work on this for next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 08:44 PM
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She has to associate your touch with comfort, masculinity, and good times, or it's useless fumbling. Yea that's the other half of it — I tend to try to turn every kiss and hug into sex (CC). OTOH, seems like cuddling can be counterproductive, when touch becomes associated with friend-comfort instead of lover-desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 08:06 PM
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Confused, what's the diff between an emery board and a nail file? Giving comfort feels like the easy part of MRP. Don't overlook those easy points, they count. Sometimes I think we need a sidebar about 'beta shit you think you're doing right but aren't'. Turns out you can beta wrong too
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:55 PM
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Good point about not making it too mysterious. I tend to overthink things. I wrote that story because lately I've been taking the 'initiate sex frequently' advice a little too aggressively, which just comes off as needy/validation-seeking (and is) when not preceded by kino/game. I'm so obsessed with PinV to validate my personal progress (i.e. frame) that I neglect the pleasure of creating desire. Related, I have good ideas for the 'variety' component of SGM but have difficulty making the transit…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:23 PM
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As before, I'm following a keto diet, and carb intake is kept at a minimum. I drink two protein shakes per day in addition to regular meals. You might not get as exhausted from your workouts if you go onto a normal diet with carbs. If you're lifting consistently you won't put on fat. I find it easier to do 3 days of hard lifting with rest days in-between (weekends off). As I notice my progress in the past two weeks, I'm feeling stupid for having been a beta male and totally bombed my relationshi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:07 PM
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What would you suggest for improving the connection to one's own sexuality?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 06:56 PM
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OYS Week 5 6’2”, 186lbs, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Reading: Book of Pook Lifting/Eating I’ve been eating on a recomp calorie schedule for five weeks now, erring on the side of eating more. I’ve seen significant improvements on my lifts (adding at least 1-2 reps per week) and some muscle definition (some fat, too).There’s a lot of conflicting information about how to overcome skinny fat — every time I make a change for a month or two and don’t see my abs, I wanna …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 04:01 PM
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OYS Week 4 6’2”, 186lbs, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM, Married in Captivity Starting: Book of Pook Lifting/Eating Eating all the things, lifting outside, rain or shine. 1RM: bench 201 lbs deadlift 345 lbs squat 310 lbs Hygiene/Style Got a haircut. Yes, big goals. Using some product and styling it a little makes a huge difference. Game The frame works both ways — it’s how you see things and how others perceive you. Thinking of my wife as my girlfriend helps me be more playful. Seeing my w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 08:25 PM
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OYS Week 3 6’2”, 186lbs, 31y/o Read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, SGM Reading: Married in Captivity Lifting/Eating Fell off the diet/lifting during the first half of the week due to work travel, then sick during the second half of the week. Back on it today. 1RM: bench 197 lbs deadlift 345 lbs squat 310 lbs Hygiene/Style Didn’t get a haircut, got a few new articles of clothing. Game Work travel offered lots of opportunities for social chit-chat. Stayed playful even while sick, which is an improvement fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:47 PM
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Flossing might not be that useful. Getting a proper cleaning once every six months is probably more important. source Re: fixing your shit. If you don't need a major correction and are shifting teeth laterally, go with Smile Direct Club. If you need major work and are in monk mode and work from home and don't give a shit about what you look like go with regular orthodontics, or lingual (behind your teeth). It's much faster. I started Invisalign three years ago and still have a couple months left…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:35 PM
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Yea fair enough on the haircut/clothes... I’m gonna get some new clothes. The end. Re: game. Yea... I tend to make things harder than they need to be. Engineer/designer brain wants to turn one clumsy afternoon of uncomfortable overthinking into a problem to solve. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Separate accounts already exist, but the problem is the wife hasn’t made hardly any money for a year. But that’s changing now so maybe this problem will solve itself. She wants to contribute more,…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 11:34 PM
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OYS Week 2 6’2”, 186lbs, 31y/o Lifting/Eating Finally got my bench/squat rack set up outside so I don’t have to go to Planet Fitness anymore for my workouts. Walking 50 feet to get a workout feels pretty luxurious. Slipped on diet a little this week because of work travel, but mostly still on track. No major changes to make here, other than continuing to show up and do the work and sticking to the diet. As per the advice I got last week, I’m going to bump up my calorie intake a bit to put on som…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 08:12 PM
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Yeah I used to be better at having adventures. I'm actually also shit at having adventures WITH her, so even if I go hiking all day or get out of the house to work on something but come home and am boring or take her on boring movie/dinner dates she it sort of nullifies the mystery alpha vibe. Agreed on the scripting. Sharing fantasies last night was good. I think we both feel guilt/shame about our sexuality. Noted, will keep that in mind. It's covert contract touching. Agreed on bulking up. Cur…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 03:51 PM
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OYS Week 1 6’2”, 186lbs, 31y/o Been stalking this forum for a year, seen minor improvements but haven’t made all the changes I want. Read WISNIFG, NMMNG, and most of SGM. Put off NMMNG for a long time but it’s really inspired me to push myself in 2018. Lifting/Eating Been lifting heavy pretty consistently for the last year. Also bike about 20miles per week for cardio. Made decent strength gains but haven’t seen the results in my body composition that I’d like (still skinny-fat). Wife loves to co…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 06:38 PM
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