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I would say there are way too many demographic, socioeconomic, cultural & preferential variables to definitively say there is an advantage one way or the other, but you are welcome to believe whatever you like. It isn't even clear to me whether you think this supposed advantage women have is in getting sex or in finding long-term commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 08:23 AM
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As I tried to say earlier, it isn't just this post, but the sub as a whole. This post title was just about the last blanket assumption I could handle. It simply isn't true and if you are a man, I don't know why you would live in such a scarcity mindset that will only make you feel bad about yourself, make you feel maligned by the opposite sex, make you want to treat other people badly — all over something entirely theoretical
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 07:54 AM
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It's these tropes and myths that keep getting brought up over and over and presented as blanket truths. Like saying that women have all these options that aren't available to men. When reality is way more nuanced and depends on the individual. Or that all young women are non-committal sluts. That is just stupid. Or how when women reach their 30s, they panic because of age and settle for any man because they 'hit a wall'. While in reality, there's no wall. Many women in their 30s have gotten esta…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 07:27 AM
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That's it. I am done with this sub and these stupid posts. Women are like this negative thing, men are like that negative thing. We're not different species, you dumbasses. Stop blaming the other side for your problems and take a good look at yourself Peace
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 04:46 AM
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Stop putting us on pedestals in the first place. We are the same as you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 09:15 AM
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Boo hoo someone hates facts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 09:12 AM
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You can't respect women enough to grasp that some of us care about more than one dimension. You ignored everything I said about lifestyle, goals and finances not matching. Any reasonably intelligent person would agree it'd be the better thing to not waste each other's time when there's incompatibility in the big stuff. Only someone obtuse and inept would look past all that and get with whomever would reproduce with them... but hey, that's your philosophy, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 09:07 AM
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I think you have a theoretical theory on women because of your theoretical experience with them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:34 AM
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No.. it’s the same reason birth rates and home ownership are declining. People can’t afford anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 12:18 AM
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Selective reading, no reading comprehension, the debate skills of a child -- blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 07:08 PM
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Let me tell you what entitlement is. It's you thinking that a woman over 30 doesn't have options. It's you thinking that a woman who is overweight doesn't have value. It's you thinking that a woman is unreasonable if she doesn't date somebody because they don't have the same fucking life goals. The same fucking life goals, do you understand what that means? Dealbreakers like having or not having children. It isn't stupid shit like demanding anybody being in perfect shape. I made it quite clear i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:00 AM
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okay this is just drivel
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 09:27 PM
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I don't know what you're talking about. I'm 37 and overweight but reasonably attractive still — but obviously not a hot, fit 21 year old. Yet, I have not run out of options to date people... at all. If anything, dating apps are democratizing choice for all age groups. That's hilarious you think that older women run out of options. 😂 I'm still not going to date a guy if our life goals don't align. It doesn't matter how attractive he is. I don't have time to waste on the wrong person. If I'm savin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 09:23 PM
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There is a difference in fat and curvy / thick. Curvy women have more feminine proportions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 06:12 PM
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There are plenty of objectively attractive guys that I'm not 'attracted' to, in the sense that I can appreciate them from a distance but also I won't get involved because my brain knows "he's not for me". Reasons could be anything from lifestyle being too different, age difference, I don't think our careers or goals fit. Sometimes I'm not into a guy because he's TOO attractive for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 06:09 PM
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Just the fact that it's these Redpill and Incel women-hating types who are turning out to be the psychopath murderers today should tell you enough about this philosophy. They feel so entitled to women that they would rather kill them than let the woman make a choice who she wants to date. Like the Plymouth shooter in the UK, an Incel upset about a woman who rejected him.. goes on a rampage and ends up killing even a 3-year-old child. The sex addict guy last year who went to Asian parlors and kil…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 09:35 PM
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According to this, my ideal guy is just married. Since the divorce rate is so high, all I have to do is wait. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:45 PM
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Oh hahaha Good luck to him trying to keep everything after a 20 year marriage. No judge will side with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:45 PM
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That's okay. As for women being burdensome emotionally — I can recall how I used to constantly complain about my job / coworkers to my ex, on a daily basis. I was clueless and didn't know I was burdening him. Ideally in this situation, the partner being burdened speaks up, the offending partner reduces how much they complain about a topic, and find friends or a psychologist to vent to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 11:05 AM
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To be clear, my point was about women needing to be self-sufficient because anything could happen. Her loyal husband could have a terrible accident, with insurance only paying out so much. If she doesn't have any work skills, not only is she screwed, but the man loses, too. This isn't about pre-judging anyone. It's about being able to take care of oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:46 AM
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This is America, 'the land of opportunity', right? If someone has the opportunity to go to school and have a good job and live where the jobs are, when they have brains and ambition, why wouldn't they do that? By the way, good luck if you break your leg or ever need an ambulance, being content with a shitty employer, 20K job, plus choosing to live far away from any support system.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:16 AM
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I think with women they have seen enough of older, traditional female relatives being cheated on, abandoned, left with nothing. I saw this myself, when my dad left my mom, who was a housewife, for another woman when my siblings and I were very little. My mom had no office work skills whatsoever and had to move back in with her parents in her 30s, join the workforce and build herself up over several years, just to survive. Many of us were raised to be able to take care of ourselves because we can…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:11 AM
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Because he gets to bang women outside the marriage while he still lords over his wife. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:00 AM
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Haha, it sounds like you want an open relationship and still get to dominate over your woman at home even though she's also a breadwinner. You don't get the right to lord over your spouse and be promiscuous just because you're born a man. What does she get out of the relationship? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:59 AM
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You don't understand what emotional labor means.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:54 AM
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The thing about men being breadwinners is quickly changing, by the way. Women have started earning more college degrees than men. They're becoming a bigger part of the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:53 AM
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The right woman won't be turned off by a prenup. Find a woman who knows a bit about how finances work, where she has some assets herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:49 AM
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That's such a sad, myopic way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:48 AM
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Wages have remained stagnant for 30 years while housing and costs have sky-rocketed. It's a different world now and we're not going to be as well off as our parents and grandparents. Most of us can't repeat their situation. That's why most adults work, because we have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:46 AM
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Just seems like you're not willing to listen to the one point everyone is trying to make to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:34 PM
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I don't know what else to say here. I'd say your thinking sounds autistic as hell and respectfully, please understand the concept "everything is not about you".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:20 PM
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There are plenty of people telling you the same things over and over again... Women are potentially facing danger / violence, constantly People in general wanting to spare your feelings People not wanting to be rude People not wanting to disclose the reason because it wouldn't reflect well on them, make them seem superficial, etc Sometimes people DON'T EVEN KNOW why they're rejecting you, other than it doesn't feel right. Accept it, let them go easily, keep your dignity. Edit: "To people it's al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:58 PM
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How old are you and why are you rating women on their looks? Grow up. That aside, neither one of these women sound like a good match for you. One of them excites you but she isn't looking for an exclusive relationship. The other one you'd be better off with as friends. You need to keep looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:47 PM
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This. Last year I started dating a guy I thought was out of my league, he was so good looking. Ended up being neurotic as fuck, ridiculously picky eater, started arguments over non-issues, would slam doors and storm out. Not to mention, never provide oral. I would look at him longingly because of his gorgeous face and think "if only you could've been a beautiful person inside, too" :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:42 PM
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A potential mate will wonder what's wrong with you that you have no friends... so, work on that. You have to be the energy you want to attract. You have to be a winner to find a partner who's also awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:36 PM
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The reason why anyone is rejected is irrelevant. No one owes anyone an explanation for why they're not interested. Women don't need to tell you "reasons" they're rejecting you. If you corner someone and insist on asking why, of course they're going to say the most benign thing, soften the blow, and get themselves out of an uncomfortable situation. Usually it's not about you, it's about THEM. Man or woman. You're not lacking. You're worthy. You're just not a match for this one person. Pick yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:31 PM
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This is my exact mentality too. Both work hard, split the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:31 AM
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There are all kinds of women out there. Ambition and tradition don't have to be so binary. I have an amazing, cushy, high-paying career and I'm open to having a family. My work would cover maternity and provide other family resources and I could work from home often. I wouldn't want to be a full-time mom because I want to help solve bigger problems in the world and I like using my brain. I'd use a good daycare because I could afford it. Using daycare would free me up to feel personally fulfilled…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:29 AM
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You are either just a troll, or if you seriously have this view you need to go talk to a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 08:48 PM
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Yes! The people who hate themselves express that as hatred towards women. Not that long ago someone was posting YouTube videos of this good looking guy who thought he was ugly and unattractive to women, so he would act like a total dick in public and ruin any chances he could have had with someone. Men need to understand that women care a lot less about looks than men think. Even if we aren't initially attracted to you, if you show us parts of your personality that we like, we will / may become …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 11:20 PM
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You're jaded. There are plenty of women looking for real, consummate love. Just listen to the callers on Dr. Karin's "Love and Life" podcast. The accompanying Facebook group has THOUSANDS of women trying to find the love of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:44 PM
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I'm a woman, and I would never do this. But some women have no shame. This is sick.
/r/PussyPass06/08/21 08:25 AM
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Ah okay, yeah, just dancing is a bit different than sex work. Although sometimes their bosses do pressure them to sleep with the clientele. Glad things turned out well for these women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:17 AM
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It's not me saying the sex = attachment thing for females. It's science and widely known. Women attach strongly after sex because, well, pregnancy. Read about oxytocin and bonding. It happens earlier in the relationship for women. Testosterone in men blocks some of the oxytocin so they don't bond right away. Men will bond later in the game, dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and vasopressin all play a role. You men are complicated AF :) You can look up Dr. Duana Welch's research on all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:13 AM
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Having to prostitute yourself in order to pay for college doesn't sound like a society working optimally. These women could be assaulted or killed, and at the least they're risking horrible diseases. How anyone can make a positive argument for this is beyond me. Invest in the youth, make it easier to get a good salary, educate them on 401Ks, IRAs, FIRE or Entrepreneurship. Instead of promoting sex work. FFS
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:06 AM
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Thank you, means a lot. There's so much negativity on this sub and it's nice to hear some kind words.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 05:56 AM
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You're telling me that an entire generation of women would prefer to be prostitutes rather than doctors and engineers. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:05 AM
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Do you really think that all of us women are being promiscuous and having sex just because we could get it if we wanted to? 😂 As opposed to, buying toys, hoping people take us out on actual dates instead of inviting us over to 'hang out'. Most of the promiscuous women are either looking for validation or they're right out of a breakup, vulnerable, and not thinking clearly. There are very few women who are promiscuous just to be promiscuous, because that is not our normal nature.. we bond strongl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:54 PM
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Where did I say that? It's not man vs woman. I'm against sex work and all people being better than our animalistic tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:44 PM
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Consummate (complete) love is passion + intimacy + commitment. Most people are not looking for a companionate marriage where the other person is but a lifelong roommate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:40 PM
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So you can't curb your sexual desires in any other way? It has to be with women doing sex work? Help me understand. Because there are plenty of high libido women who would love to be partnered up. I don't know who you've been meeting that is leaving you unsatisfied, but I digress. And when sex work is ubiquitous, what will ever be the point of getting a girlfriend again? A wife? No, because your needs are being met elsewhere. The breakup of the family structure will be next. All of us have anima…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:56 PM
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Agree! In my early 20s I was in the rave scene and joined friends in taking Ecstasy / MDMA a few times. It was fun. It felt amazing. It heightened physicality and made me feel closer to people. But if it had been completely legal and being sold at these raves — I would have taken it many more times, resulting in wearing out my serotonin receptors, and not being able to feel happiness in the long term. I am glad there were other avenues keeping me busy, and my parents valuing my education and amb…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:30 PM
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Isn't it our responsibility to make things better for the future generations? Look at the hate toward Boomers right now. They created the conditions to enrich themselves at the expense of future generations, and you can see the consequences as Millennials have a much lesser share of wealth, birth rate plummeting, moving back in with parents, less home ownership, outrageous student loan debt. So please don't encourage the loosening of laws to get your D sucked in the short term because longer ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 05:00 PM
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Hear, hear. It's difficult for me to fathom women wanting this for other women. For their daughters. I wouldn't want a world where my daughter could easily go into sex work and paid well, and at the same time had an uphill battle and faced sexism to go into engineering and tech. Look at what's happening with OnlyFans. Women are seeing it as easy money. Instead of acquiring life and technical skills, and learning how to invest, they are occupying their time with this crap. Sex work does not set w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:37 PM
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It is imperative that if any of this is resonating with you, that you pick up a copy of the book "Attached". Attachment styles are fluid, and if you find that you are anxiously attached, you can change. Your relationship & attachment problems don't have to be forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 05:09 AM
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Sex work legalized, lmaoooo. No. Not interested in the complete degradation of society past how degraded it already is. Agree on people being upfront and honest about no-strings relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 05:05 AM
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But we can always tell when you're pretending to be our friend and waiting for "your turn" to fuck us. We can always tell the genuine friends from friendzoned 'nice guys'.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 05:00 AM
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I think it's best to ignore these fringe voices that make no sense. A good man worth being with won't think like this. So there's no point dissecting what these trolls think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:46 AM
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To clarify, attachment styles are fluid and changeable, they are not a mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 08:08 AM
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So you want to find someone who is a slut, but only for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 08:06 AM
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Actually I've learned that you should never tell them the exact time frame, because they will wait & pretend until that time and STILL screw you over. But agree on taking it slow and not worrying about the ones who walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 07:54 AM
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Lots of women have looked for serious relationships but we keep running into guys who pretend to be whatever we're looking for, for a few weeks, just to get their dicks wet. Then they drop us. so excuse me if I'm a bit jaded
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:41 PM
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It's also a good way to filter out narcissists, love bombers and pretenders. It's one thing when men are upfront about only wanting casual. It's totally another to be mirrored, told they want a relationship with you, can't believe they found you, they like everything you like, you are twin flame soulmates, everything is perfect and the connection takes off super quickly.. way too quickly. They charm you and disarm you and quickly start the seduction game. How could you not want to have sex thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 04:07 AM
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People mostly just seek confirmation bias. And that's what I've observed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 06:55 PM
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you do know that plenty of guys are into thick chicks right
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:28 PM
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.... Have you actually tried dating? Because you speak about it in a theoretical way that sounds like you have thought about things but not actually tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 07:39 AM
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I mean, sociopathic tactics will work on vulnerable / unhealed people. Question is do you want to be someone who engages in sociopathic behavior and hurt broken people further. These tactics will not work on high value women who are sexy, intelligent and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 07:33 AM
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It feels like a poisonous world view that messes up the dating pool. Instead of finding love, these types of men are out to trap women with inhumane tactics. When really, we could have healthier mindsets, assume positive intent, and fewer of us would have to be single. The main issue is that they think we find them worthless because they are average.. which is so ridiculous. Men are way more visual than women. Women can be all about someone's personality and get more attracted to them over time,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:23 AM
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You know, there don't really have to be two sides. As human beings we can have many things in common and our goals can be in alignment. We aren't two separate species. And neither side is inherently evil or trying to manipulate the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:53 PM
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The thing about Redpill Men is that this is a very small subset of eligible bachelors. They're not an accurate reflection of all men in America. Everything they say should be taken very lightly with a grain of salt. They are largely keyboard warrior nerds with low self-esteem and lack of experience, who want to blame women for their own predicament. They have a lot of autistic, black and white thinking, formulaic nonsense about women hitting the wall at 30, all women are promiscuous when young, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 08:09 PM
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EDIT: Banned for asking for more context on her place of employment 🙄 -- Hey there, sorry this person is making you uncomfortable. I wanted to ask you, what kind of work do you do? Because if it's somewhere that someone who comes in would give a gift and it be highly unusual and strange, would be like if you work at a Home Depot. Or anywhere that's a cashier type of job at an impersonal big box store or something. But if it's a very small business, with very few clients, and you all take very go…
/r/askFDS06/06/21 01:34 AM
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Do you know why he would be inappropriate knowing that other men could easily see his comments? I'm trying to understand the psychology. Apparently I'm clueless on men still 🤣
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:00 PM
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Are you asking if his name is Tren? No, it's someone else
/r/askFDS04/06/21 02:10 PM
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well I've already been through that last year and I know better, hence I'm here right :)
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:47 AM
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thank you 💕
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:29 AM
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Thanks lol. Definitely not desperate, working on myself and haven't been with anyone for months now, on purpose. In this case, it's just disappointment. I didn't expect him to be like this. We had a nice little bit of tension going. He seemed like a gentleman though. Based on the content he makes, and the personality he projects, for a moment there I thought wow, if this person is actually liking me back maybe there's some kind of potential here. So this turn of events has been disappointing. I …
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:28 AM
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He had the nerve, or he had the gall, whatever a better phrasing would be. maybe I'm overthinking but it's pretty heavy flirting on a public place, he doesn't care if there's a potential other man in my life who might see those comments. like I would not go on to his page, since I barely know him, and leave extremely flirty comments publicly. All of that stuff would be on a DM
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:19 AM
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I mean... we are mid to late 30s. It's okay to have had a marriage and children. But I agree with everyone on here that his behavior is not okay.
/r/askFDS04/06/21 05:04 AM
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He just asked me my ethnicity, and when I responded, he goes "I've never been with a Pakistani chick before, always wanted to be!" 🙄 Y'all are so right, I'm definitely in fuckboy territory. Not sure why he's wasting time with someone who lives 2 hours away though
/r/askFDS04/06/21 04:31 AM
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Thank you ❣️
/r/askFDS04/06/21 03:07 AM
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and to think, he regularly posts advice to women on how to avoid cheaters and players, and also to men on being more gentlemanly and honest. so whatever he said to me was very surprising and seemed out of character, but I guess I don't really know him.
/r/askFDS04/06/21 02:52 AM
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Thank you, I agree I'm not ready for dating, and definitely not any casual type of fun. Tried it, and it's not for me. When I say family I meant he was telling me he has a daughter who lives with the ex-wife. Also that he's been single since last year plus some non-sexual topics. If possible, I would just like for things to go back how they were; two people giving each other internet high fives. It almost feels like he was acting out of character yesterday, very bizarre and out of nowhere. I fee…
/r/askFDS04/06/21 02:44 AM
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All good points. He was also brave enough to leave a public comment on that photo that my eyes make him not want to look away.
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:38 AM
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I should mention that none of my social media pictures are suggestive. I dress fairly modestly but not necessarily baggy clothing. But no bikini pictures or anything like that. My socials are more on the intellectual, psychology, and physiology side with an occasional selfie or cat photo. So I was really surprised to be hit on based on my physicality and told I seem to have a "high vibrational sexual energy that's attractive" (I mean it's true that I'm a horny woman but it shouldn't be obvious f…
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:11 AM
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A couple of things. - It's been a year. If you've met up only twice and it's gone nowhere but you're casually in touch, then you're just acquaintances / social media friends, essentially you have friendzoned each other. I am not sure what your intentions are with him, but if you want something to happen, you will have to vocalize it and get the ball rolling, and either get an affirmative or negative response from him on if he wants that too. - Guys don't have that great of luck on dating sites; …
/r/askFDS31/05/21 11:04 PM
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Are you being serious? Because if so, get checked for antisocial personality disorder. "What is 50% of the population even good for." Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 10:51 PM
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No. Look at Armie Hammer. Easily a 10 — wants to be a cannibal. Psychopathy doesn't care about looks, nor dumb redpill generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:09 AM
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Uh, or both? Doing life with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:22 AM
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If you truly love each other and you're compatible, then her being homeless is not a factor, and you didn't actually lower your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:26 PM
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Those are just the beginning of self-discovery. The alternative is to go through life unaware and wonder why things never work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 07:11 AM
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Lowering your standards is not the answer. Some below-average looking man could come along, someone a pretty woman would've ignored... but he's so confident, persistent, and consistent, she's eventually convinced and swept off her feet. One day he breaks it off with her and SHE is the one in pain, not the other way around (speaking from experience). Looks don't matter as much as you think they do. Separately, if you settle for a woman, and consider her lesser than you in some ways, do you really…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 07:08 AM
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There are less evolved, immature people everywhere. If someone reduces friendships based on genitalia, that tells you plenty about that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:30 AM
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I wrote my above comment specifically for ppl with mindsets similar to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:25 AM
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Let's put the fakery, surface-level stuff aside. Do you want to attract a partner, or do you want to KEEP them? There will always be someone taller, funnier, better looking, bigger biceps, bigger breasts, younger, thinner, richer. On both sides. The real flex is finding someone who wants to stay. They won't stay for your looks. That's not why people get into relationships. People stay because you can meet their needs, and they can meet your needs. The best way to find out what your needs are is …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:24 AM
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Omg wait, when you said flashed I thought he lifted up his shirt and showed you his man nipples 🤦‍♀️ I see, so he exposed himself. Eww You can call the police for that shit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 09:32 PM
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thankfully you were flashed, and not mooned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:08 PM
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We've been taught to be nice even when the other party isn't being nice.. And when we should be hightailing it out of there, because being nice is putting us in danger. I see this shit with my sister all the time. She will have low quality men approach her, and I know she doesn't want to talk to them, but she allows her time to be wasted. Sometimes she'll even give her phone number when she's pressed for it, even though she has no intention of talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:08 PM
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Women have been taught to be "nice". (Such a disservice to us, by the way) We will have lenient boundaries, until one day we learn our lesson, unfortunately. Then in the future, we are more guarded — with ALL men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:09 AM
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It’s moreso toward the type of men who cannot have platonic friendships with women, which I find extremely narrow minded and sad, as theyll miss out on knowing so many lovely people who could’ve added to their lives in meaningful ways. But there’s also something to be said about someone who is only attracting sexual-expectations type people. What might be giving off the vibe that attracts people looking for sex as opposed to genuine human connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 05:42 PM
1

I am a woman, and so grateful I have some quality male friends who have been there for me 100%. They feel like they could be my siblings. Two of them and I say I love you to each other. I have been a wingwoman for a couple of them too. Also had a bestie male roommate and it was so great living together, better than any female roommate I had. The only reason he moved out was because he bought a house. I have waaaaay more quality men as platonic friends than anyone who wants to sex me. I imagine l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:57 PM
1

Both men and women who are attractive are treated better, due to the Halo Effect, a cognitive bias. "An example of the halo effect is the attractiveness stereotype, which refers to the tendency to assign positive qualities and traits to physically attractive people. People often tend to judge attractive individuals to have higher morality, better mental health, and greater intelligence. This cognitive error in judgment reflects one's individual prejudices, ideology, and social perception." — sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:00 PM
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It's only mutually beneficial if: No one has been lied to or manipulated into having sex. The intentions of both people match (whether it's sex without strings, sexual exclusivity, sex only in a committed relationship) No one is agreeing to sex because they think they can "win over" the other person and get them to want a relationship. Be honest with yourself and others. You're not having casual sex just because it's commonplace now — when you know that you're very romantic and sex causes attach…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:47 PM
1

Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:25 PM
2

I'm a woman and I have an issue with non-virtuous behavior on both sides. When women seek out a man based on his wealth, they aren't looking for love, they're not trying to fall in love with the person's character. It's so superficial. Can a guy trust that she loves him for him? And men who will bang whatever comes their way.. until one day they're ready to settle down, but will only marry women 15 years younger.. the woman has to be a housewife type so he can have power over her. It's all very …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:07 PM
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I'm a successful, independent woman in my 30s. I've had trouble for 3 years now, finding a decent guy who has his shit together. Either a guy wants to string me along for sex, or he's a fucking mess, mentally. There was someone I liked a few months ago, but he wasn't self-aware enough to know he wasn't healed from his breakup and pretty much ended up using me as a rebound. Before him, I was with a virgin guy for 6 months, but his lack of relationship experience made being with a woman very stres…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:00 PM
2

Can't really generalize because successful women are individuals too. I wasn't into older men before being successful, and I'm not into older men now. I'm not sure what you mean by 'younger' men, but I'm mid 30s and I like people around my own age. I'm looking for someone who is financially independent and doesn't need me to support him. Because that's how I am. It doesn't matter if he earns less or more than me, as long as he isn't burdening me, or taking me for granted. (Definitely been there,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:30 AM
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My only 'demand' is to feel loved, with an emotionally available partner. He doesn't have to be a rocket scientist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:56 AM
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Men don't seem to want to date / marry high value women... Seems they would rather have someone totally inept / dependent on them because they like the power and "because she's more feminine" than the woman who's been taking care of herself and is highly educated and makes big bucks. There was a guy in another thread saying that I was "full of red flags" for being a successful woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:25 AM
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These guys are not realistic and live in their own imagined version of reality. This black / white rigid thinking seems very narcissistic. If I knew someone like that irl, I'd tell them to go to a psychiatrist and rule out NPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 06:08 PM
2

Ah! Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 06:03 PM
1

Then give her a back rub, and cook a romantic dinner together at home. Sounds way nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:57 PM
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You didn't make it seem like it would be 2.3 hours vs 1.9. More like 10 vs 1. All that aside. Let's say you find the woman of your dreams who wanted to do all the cooking and cleaning. What would happen if you had kids? Would she do all that in addition to the child rearing? Because I've seen some seriously unhappy wives when all the work has fallen on them, and the man doesn't want to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:18 AM
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You would have earned that money regardless, benefiting yourself... Loving somebody else means selflessness. Doing things out of the goodness of your heart. Because she's so special, that you just want to. That includes her getting some downtime, and you taking a turn. That would be the loving thing to do. I bet she would feel really loved if she could sit her ass on the couch one night. Or like, if she got really sick and couldn't cook for you anymore. Time doesn't mean much to you, are you kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:47 AM
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There's also a stark difference in the level of effort. You buying her flowers = you threw money which took 5 mins, 1 minute if you ordered online You taking her to a nice restaurant = you just spent money that took no effort, plus it wasn't a benefit only to her, you got to eat, too Spending quality time with her = again, could be zero effort, just being present sitting on your rear u/Gravel_Roads is correct. ^ These don't even compare to the level of effort it takes to cook everyday and keep a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:00 AM
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Or how about... You outsource the cleaning. And go get couples' massages together. Then have a nice meal. Then make love. What is up with men who want a Mom Housekeeper they can fuck? Why is the woman not entitled to relaxation as well? Men should want to spend quality time with their partners. It shouldn't be transactional thing where a woman would have to clean the house in order for a man to give her an hour of his time. In that case, she would be better off single with her girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:03 AM
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There is a reason why low value people, the gutter of humanity specimens, like the Kardashians are able to marry and reproduce several times over. Men, as well as society at large has repeatedly put the wrong things on pedestals. These types of people are a mirror of us. Please enjoy our society of anti- intellectuaism, butt implants, boob implants, lip injections, and grown adults worshipping teenagers, turning them into billionaires for no reason whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 09:59 PM
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Lol, you seem out of touch with the reality of both male and female psychology, and it isn't even worth my time to lay it all out. I think the best solution for you would be to go to Mexico, the Philippines or Russia to find a wife. Find a subservient sex slave housemaid there & bring her back 👍Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 09:38 PM
2

I don't know of very many mismatched pairings like this. If you need your house cleaned, hire a cleaning service. Your wife is not meant to be your second mother. You should find an equal. This is your life partner.. not a housekeep. She should be someone you are proud to show off, who makes you look good in front of a room of fine people. I don't mean in just looks, but how she talks about you, respects and supports you, and also has a brain. If you're not finding women on your level, take a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 09:22 PM
2

Yeah. I hear all the time from people "you're so authentic!" "you're the most real person I've met!" "you're refreshing!" "you're so different!" I'm just being truthful, direct, sticking to the facts.. why is that uncommon. I can't figure out hints and games and would really appreciate the real real from others. It's so weird to be the outlier.
/r/seduction13/05/21 07:22 PM
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WHO CARES when someone "hits the wall" looks-wise? Women are worth WAY more than their looks, and the men who don't see this will always lose in the long run. You're marrying an entire person, not just their exterior. Looks fade. All of us age. Including you men. At 30+ men are supposed to have developed some depth, too. If you haven't learned to judge women for the full package, examine your shallow self. By the way, you can marry someone "hot" and she could get sick and lose her hair, get preg…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 07:16 PM
9

It's bizarre they think that all young women do is sleep around with no intention of something serious. And that women only want to be married when their options are running out. Neither of this is true. For me personally, it's totally flipped. I committed and invested way too much time into the wrong people in my early twenties, because I didn't know any better. I had much more of a scarcity mindset as a younger woman. And now in my mid thirties I'm pretty secure, live alone, can take care of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 07:26 AM
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I'm sure you're going to be very lucky with women calling them liars when they are repeatedly open, honest and kind with you, even though you act like an entitled dick and troll strangers all day long. Pretty sure you won't be able to get the faded wrinkly women either, there's no one on the planet that would be attracted to your attitude and life philosophy. Blocked. p.s. You treat your wife with such disdain, woooow. Not surprised you two have a dead bedroom. Get therapy, dude. You are unhealt…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 07:07 AM
9

Whatever you call "the wall" might actually be, y'know, "life experience" and "growing up". 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 05:02 AM
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............ or there is incompatibility. Or infidelity. Or work transfers. Life doesn't work according to your misogynistic formulas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 04:06 AM
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They were not compatible with me nor I with them. I always wanted something serious and it did not work out before 25. Work on your reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:30 AM
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Hahahahaha Some seriously misplaced frustration and anger. Easy to direct it toward strangers than look inward. Very emotionally unintelligent. Not that you deserve a response at all, but for anyone falling for your bs line of thinking: 3 boyfriends from my late teens and early twenties: Boyfriend 1: I lost my virginity to, dated for a year, then I moved to college and he started seeing his ex again. He and his wife are now friends with my family in my hometown. He FaceTimed me from my Mom's hou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 01:50 AM
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I dislike people who become friends with me simply for the intentions of getting into my pants one day. These types of friendships don't last for me because I shut them down. I am grateful for all of my male friends who are not that way. There are some I feel a sibling type of relationship with and they feel similarly about me. I appreciate that they see me as a person, not as a set of genitals. If you want to bang someone, never pretend you want just friendship. Because that person will likely …
/r/seduction12/05/21 10:18 PM
1

Can you share with me if there are any official statistics on women being more dishonest than men when it comes to new relationships? Because in community after community, I see women complaining about having shown their vulnerabilities too early on, and then being taken advantage of, because the guy knew exactly what to say and do to make the woman let her guard down, give him sex, after which he quickly moves on. To a woman who wanted more, this makes her want to be more guarded in the future.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 10:07 PM
2

Huh? My sexual history nor my intentions are a secret, and I'd want the same back. You know, grownup interactions. You do you, though. I'm sure you'll end up with the woman of your dreams by lying to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:32 PM
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Black dudes.. I can be 20 years off sometimes. Especially if they've kept their body fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 06:57 PM
14

I mean, the poor women in Pakistan who have jobs outdoors? Yeah I suppose they age quickly. But I am talking about genetics and skin pigmentation. Caucasian skin is often drier. You'll see a sudden shift in a woman's looks at around age 28-30; youthful looks seem short-lived in Caucasian women (not that there's anything wrong with aging, and I think people are beautiful at every age). A friend of mine who does aging research is trying to beat this by having a lot of coconut oil on her face at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 06:55 PM
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Also, ethnicity. Caucasian women have to take care of their skin a lot better and earlier than women with melanin. My Pakistani mom looked 35 at 55.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:56 PM
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I am glad I didn't marry the people I met in my early 20s, jesus christo...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:54 PM
4

If women were just looking to fuck I wouldn't see all these screenshots that are posted where the woman is simply trying to make date plans and the guy is turning the conversation to sex. And how disappointing it is to have to block yet another guy. I saw a guy requesting a woman to wear a low-cut top, it was only their second date, so she canceled it and blocked him. And a bunch of other presumptuous examples where the guy was expecting sex when she was expecting to go out on a date. All of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:25 AM
4

I've had dozens of women friends in the past few years always complain about dating today, that they don't want casual sex, they're looking for a relationship, but all the guys just want to fuck. Personally I know two women who do fuck around, and they are damaged/deranged people. There is one online community I'm in which has 10,000 women... many of them complaining about the state of dating today and how non-committal men are. Men dangling a relationship, or love bombing, just to get sex. I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:02 AM
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Attractive people are attractive and will get more sex, that's a certainty. But not all women are going to sleep with a man just because he's attractive. I steer clear of the obvious player types. If I were to entertain the idea of an fwb, it would be someone I enjoyed talking to, attractive to me even if he isn't conventionally attractive, and someone I could at least trust to be honest with me about STD results and if he's had sex with others in the past month.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:23 PM
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Sorry, I don't subscribe to this Chad / Beta nonsense, as I see individuals for what they are, complex, unique and weird creatures. There are too many variables in the scenario you describe and it could go any which way depending on the people and who they are. And with OP generalizing women as a monolith, where the phrase means the same thing to everybody, simply not true. People have different motivations and different understanding of the language, regionally. And it also depends on the situa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:51 PM
1

Not at all. When I'm in a relationship, I'm like a taxi with the light turned off. I don't even notice other potential people because I have somebody already. However, one thing I've noticed is that when women break up, they really mean it, and there's no going back. A lot of times women will point out what isn't working in a relationship, and men might not take that very seriously, because she's still continuing to be sweet and keep the house functional etc. So one day when she's totally defeat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:40 PM
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Men don't understand that women bond strongly with sex, yes even first time sex, it's biological. So the last thing men should do is sleep with any and every woman.. they're asking for trouble. Best to find a woman who is open to casual sex, and talk to her directly, like an adult, and make a no strings attached deal. Be a fucking grown up...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:10 PM
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If you think women don't put energy, time, money and effort into dating, then you are mistaken. Do men's haircuts cost $300? No. Fancy dresses, nice makeup, all adds up. I've also offered to pay half the meal or take a full turn paying, every time. If you are getting duped by the type of woman who is looking for free meals every night of the week, you should be more selective. Also, you should think of dating as fun and sorting, and less as a negative, risky game. Some people are looking for val…
/r/seduction11/05/21 08:35 PM
1

I have a female friend who one day went so crazy mad at her boyfriend, that she cut her hand with a knife and dragged her blood against and stained all of his furniture and walls. He called me to come rescue him and calm her down. it was one of the crazier things I've seen
/r/seduction11/05/21 07:44 PM
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Loneliness is a human thing, not a gendered thing. Lots of people get desperate, or think that's the best they can do, and settle. My ex and I certainly did. It seems like we were in love, at the time. And that was shortsighted, to not consider more of our goals and if those align. I'm not sure you understand the history of courtship.. it's always been up to the woman to approach the man she likes, but let him think it's his choice. A green light, so to speak. Back in the day, ladies would drop …
/r/seduction11/05/21 07:36 PM
2

There's a female counterpart for you
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:45 PM
3

The same goes for women. We often settle for anyone who wants a relationship, instead of choosing the person for all their great qualities and emotional availability to actually love us back. You can tell relationships where people have settled for each other — the passion dies pretty early on. Personally, I would have standards not only for someone I wanted to date, but also for hookups (I don't do those, but hypothetically speaking). Because, so many people end up catching feels / pursuing mor…
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:44 PM
3

you're saying you don't have standards?
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:38 PM
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You're overthinking. By trying to boost me when I was feeling like shit doesn't mean that they were putting other women down... Women compliment each other on looks all the time, it isn't always completely authentic either, it's an empathy / support thing, they may not even mean it to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:59 PM
4

Absolutely. I was down in the dumps, but it was awesome to have so many sisters in womens FB groups tell me "You are too pretty for this loser!!!" Instant confidence boost at a low point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:47 PM
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A woman can be all that and a bag of chips, and still get used for sex, if she doesn't understand game and pick up artistry. She needs to be able to weed out the users and wasters from the genuine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:08 PM
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Maybe the disconnect is that men think they should get sex simply because they exist, versus women who have a more transactional view of sex (you get sex if I get commitment). The in-between casual stuff happens, but for some it's more of a phase, a temporary thing in-between relationships, if at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:01 AM
1

No, you will not regret being yourself. Whatever that looks like. You may regret giving out your body based on toxic ideologies by strangers on the internet.
/r/seduction08/05/21 04:19 AM
12

There are also free courses out there on getting "Core Confidence". Don't date when you're in a vulnerable state. You will always attract the wrong people.
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:15 PM
1

Not sure what you're trying to insinuate, but my default is to not have physical intimacy outside of a relationship. Post-divorce is a weird time in someone's life, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 07:36 PM
1

There's a whole movement of 30+ women called "Don't wear white until it's right"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:16 AM
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You act like "average women" didn't get hit on / catcalled / propositioned for sex 10 years ago. You seem... out of touch. Even hideous women can get laid as much as whatever your idea of a "high value woman" is. In fact, I'd say truly high value women can be pretty lonely, precisely because they're so selective.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:15 AM
1

Yeah. There's an over reliance on OLD which is mainly about looks.. so lots of good people get passed over.
/r/seduction07/05/21 03:11 AM
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Oh wow. My last guy was a mindfuck. This is all making sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:29 PM
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Female brains also get short circuited with Oxytocin as soon as we're having sex. But the immediate drop in testosterone after sex makes males want to cut and run, so their already-lower level of Oxytocin doesn't have near the same bonding effect. We cannot outsmart our biology. We are hard-wired to attach to one man because of pregnancy. Blame evolution, but there it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:24 PM
1

Well.... what if you're just a little bit fat. Hehe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 10:49 PM
2

I just think it's become more socially acceptable (encouraged, even) to have a narcissistic / individualist existence and people seem to only have cognitive empathy, not actual, felt empathy. Also, people aren't going to sign up to shout "I'm into fat women" or "I'm into short guys" because there will be a horde of trolls attacking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:42 PM
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There has to be a base level of attraction or the other person wouldn't be able to have sex with you. If they aren't revulsed and are having sex with you, they find you attractive. There will always be someone better looking, sexier etc than you, so work with whatcha got and know that if something good is coming into your life, you're totally worth it. Don't let self worth issues make you push someone away who wants to love you. We all can't be models. Thankfully, there are lots of reasons why p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 07:11 PM
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Your post history indicates you are getting advice from 52 year olds who are banging 19 year olds, and I quote "every year there are more girls with daddy issues" Nice job on being a gross predatory loser 👍 because banging troubled teens is a life goal 😂 Sad
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:14 AM
1

So what you're saying is sociopathic behavior is fine.
/r/seduction06/05/21 03:03 AM
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Absolutely. Put these old creeps on a list. I like that idea
/r/seduction06/05/21 01:42 AM
9

That.... is gross. Is the objective to have company for a day until you're found out to be a creep and a fraud? Or to be worthwhile enough to attract women to yourself naturally? Please be the latter.
/r/seduction06/05/21 01:00 AM
3

Funny you say that to me. I made a post the other day titled "Your height doesn't matter to a lot of women."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 09:46 AM
1

In my experience - tech bros can pull women just fine - but don't want to commit or even talk about committing. They make so much money that they think they're the bees knees & are therefore owed a long line of perfect women to choose from. Even though a sizeable number of tech dudes in silicon valley are autistic or aspergers and completely out of touch with how to treat a woman right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 09:05 AM
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Right on. The girls vs women thing. Even worse is when they call us 'females' instead of women. OP is acting as if there are no average sized women for him to date. Sorry OP to be existing as a fat woman and being interested in dating :/ Truly sorry you have to see me. Or, just swipe left.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 08:51 AM
1

What I said was in response to "good looks and good credentials" and that "a guy has no chance without those".
/r/seduction04/05/21 06:54 PM
1

Neuroscience would disagree. If anything, men and women are basically the same. Different levels of sex hormones but overall same brain, reward pathways, motivations etc.
/r/seduction04/05/21 06:03 PM
1

Well, when I heard from him a year later, I certainly was sorry (and surprised) he had been so hurt he didn't date anyone else and worked on himself for a year. I did tell him I was sorry to hear that. But I don't think I did anything wrong. If I had known upfront how his reaction would be, I would've totally avoided the situation. I think he was unrealistic in his expectations.. you have to talk about wanting to be in a relationship with each other; no one owes you a relationship, and certainly…
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:11 PM
1

No, I'm just saying there are other important dimensions to people than surface-level shit, but hey whatever you're into.
/r/seduction04/05/21 04:40 PM
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OP. It just seems like you have a very toxic way of viewing women. Or, you have met all the wrong types of women. Take some responsibility. Women are not monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 04:37 PM
1

Oh yeah I was very honest and direct about why. There was no leading on. We only knew each other a couple of weeks. At first we had connected on just being friends anyway, because age gaps aren't my thing (nor are flings). It just sort of happened because it had been a long time for me after a ltr and we were both having a lot of fun connecting as two people. A relationship was never discussed. We had fun. Then when he didn't get more from me, he made me the bad guy in his story.
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:17 PM
3

I'm all about oneitis as long as it's reciprocal! :)
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:09 PM
2

I mean.. a partner, not a fuck for the night
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:05 PM
0

How about, someone with good character, who can show some emotion, be able to hold someone's pain, someone who knows how to listen instead of wait to speak, someone who steps up to help. Reality check ✔️ everyone isn't shallow as fuck.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:07 AM
13

How is babby formed
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:02 AM
6

That's crazy, dude. I don't know where you were looking, but there are so many nice, down to earth chicks and all we're looking for is someone who isn't a fuckboy, who wants long term, and values stability. Of course everyone wants someone who takes care of themselves, and I'm fine with a reasonably fit guy who's at least making an effort. I earn a good salary and while I'd love to be spoiled once in a while, my main goal would be to build a rich happy life together. Seriously so many women out …
/r/seduction04/05/21 07:59 AM
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I was kinda fat my whole life, moved to California and dropped the weight. I hear often that I'm hot / pretty. It's ridiculous how much of a pedestal guys will put me on... I'm so down to earth. There was one guy last year I rejected because of an age gap. We messed around but I didn't want to have a relationship with someone 25 when I'm 35. So when it became obvious he was trying to have a serious exclusive relationship with me, not even really knowing me, just being into my looks, I let him do…
/r/seduction04/05/21 07:54 AM
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This is not how a woman's brain or hormones work. Please read about oxytocin and bonding. Sure, women might get caught up in feminism sex-positive stuff and try casual sex because freedom or whatever... after sex end up catching feelings, then get hurt. Because casual sex doesn't align with female psychology or biology. Any woman who is having casual sex without getting too involved must find the guy a dealbreaker in a lot of areas. She must not find him too attractive and is basically thinking …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 10:11 AM
4

I've never had a problem being into shorter guys. I'm actually more afraid to admit liking them just fine, because other women might make fun of me. It's becoming more socially acceptable to be a bully about beauty preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 02:08 AM
1

It definitely does get more difficult and lonely, as a smart, high-earning woman. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRAp7uTyFb8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rnc_lyqP8oU
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:33 PM
1

It's also society's expectations and what has been true up to the past couple decades. Men have always taken care of women. Women taking care of men is a new thing. I think it's going to have its fair share of issues as we try to flip our basic natures. (Like, we always knew the guys dating Jennifer Anniston or Britney Spears were fairly shitty people in it for the money.) There's much more risk in a woman getting taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:13 PM
2

It's sounding like you already have contempt for him and this will turn into bitter resentment soon and tear you two apart anyway. The fact that his job is less pressure than yours should not matter... that's not his fault... nor should he have to suffer the same long hours as you. You are the one choosing a high salary and big workload. So, stick to the point of needing more help around the house. Ask him to arrange for cleaners out of his own budget, as you want to save up for your vacations, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:06 PM
3

Please keep your racist tropes to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:00 PM
1

No, nothing about what you're wearing. Found this quick and short explanation about feminine energy: https://youtu.be/7TRTvpwB5VE
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 07:30 PM
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That's so far from the point I'm making. I'm saying both fds and trp are irrelevant and polarized niche viewpoints. I'm saying these dating coaches have viewpoints somewhere in the middle. Of course this middle of the road, balanced, evidence and psychology-based advice is not going to be welcome in either circles. p.s. being feminine doesn't necessarily mean submissive. There are ways for women to get what they want, while allowing the man to take charge. the idea that, of course women can do a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 09:38 PM
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Then there are the large swaths of the population totally unaware of both FDS and TRP, good for them. Look at the popular dating coaches for women on YouTube. The majority of them recommend for women to come back into their feminine energy and to not emasculate men at home — even if the woman is the bigger breadwinner. That, the best way to keep a man is to allow him to feel like a man (be useful, problem-solve, protect, provide). The same coaches also tell women on how to not get played, comman…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 08:18 PM
1

Hopefully it helps younger people feel more empowered, and more self-assured when dealing with rejection. If I had a playbook on how to not get played as a younger woman, would've been helpful and time-saving.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 06:14 PM
14

I don't know how old you are, but "we should get together sometime" is adult speak for "I want to enthusiastically sound like I want to stay in touch but both of us know neither one of us will put in effort to make this happen" — I don't mean in the romantic sense, either. It's adult friendships in general (USA). Putting "sometime" at the end is weak sauce. It's like a nicety or formality. The only time my girlfriends and I get together is if someone reaches out with a very specific invite. If y…
/r/seduction30/04/21 05:12 PM
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"I'd love to take you for coffee. Are you busy tomorrow evening?" or "are you busy after working out today?" Being specific is good. If you're vague she could have said yes as a "yeah sometime this century.. or not.. sure whatever"
/r/seduction30/04/21 04:57 PM
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okay, but did you set a date and a time? because this sounds vague
/r/seduction30/04/21 10:46 AM
1

Look at my post history. I'm a relationship-minded woman who's 100% not cool with sleeping around. We don't want someone who has engaged in hookup culture at all. At all, ever? People will try things and decide it's not for them. I don't know where you live.. but here on the west coast, it's hard enough to find someone into monogamy, let alone someone who hasn't casually slept with someone at least once. This is where I think you're being unrealistic. Like, so unrealistic. I bet even men who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 03:05 AM
1

Seek therapy based on some rando and ignore my lived and observed experiences, mmmmmkay
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 02:44 AM
3

IKR. Sometimes women just want to offload about their life to their friends over drinks.
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:58 AM
3

haha bet the bartender was annoyed with you for driving away customers
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:57 AM
1

you still say "you look good!" because it's the polite thing to say and we're supposed to live in a polite society
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:56 AM
1

"Obviously you are way past your prime and could never compete with a 25-year old, but I don't have a lot of options tonight and you have a pulse, so let's go!" Lol, sorry dude. I'll be in my 40s in a few years and looking forward to the cringey comments already.
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:53 AM
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...Who is "we"? As for most men not turning down sex if offered; a lot of that is biology, motivation, psychological differences. Like, the way testosterone short circuits the frontal lobe when a man gets aroused. Also, do you live in a western country like USA or UK? This is just how men are here. That's where we're at in society. I don't like it either, but let's be realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 12:51 AM
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There are also people who will abandon hookup culture should they meet the right person. Research says men want relationships just as much as women do (they don't verbalize this often or are unaware of it. Most men will not turn down sex when it's offered. However, when it comes to getting into a relationship, men will only settle when the woman is a dream type of woman. Men 'awaken' to love whereas women seek it out)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:56 AM
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Why would she have to reveal her past in such detail, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:51 AM
2

Something about the early in life love keeps the devotion going. I've seen this too. It's like people lose their capacity to fully love new people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:50 AM
2

Actually it seems more likely to find this type in his 20s rather than 30s. The 20s guys aren't jaded yet and are more excited about getting into relationship IME
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:48 AM
5

Wow, that sounds exhausting. Pre-covid when I was dating I could muster maybe 1 date a week. Full-time work + commuting is kinda draining. I wonder if it'll be easier to date now that a lot of us will be working from home.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:46 AM
3

I'm the type who goes 'all in' on one person, but honestly, it's burnt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:44 AM
8

Well, I catch feelings with physical intimacy, so I can't ride the CC. It's either celibacy, waiting until we both want a relationship, or getting hurt. I've tried casual and didn't like it. On two separate occasions guys used me to cheat on their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:40 AM
4

Have you ever had in-laws? They make their opinions known, and often try to enforce them. My former FIL ruined my happy + secular wedding with some macabre impromptu speech about dead relatives in heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:36 AM
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Lol, the worst advice I've seen. because signing up to fight over what religion your kids should be is something to look forward to. Or overbearing in-laws who get upset because you don't want to baptize your kid. Or your parents getting pissed off that your husband is feeding the kids pork when you're supposed to be halal/kosher. Religious people should stick to religious people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:49 AM
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Honey I'm a mid 30s woman, always been relationship minded, and I'm still dealing with 30-something fuckboys and commitment phobes. Around 5% of the people I encounter might want a relationship but we're either not attracted or not compatible. My mistake was settling and getting married at your age. I'm not saying to ride the cock carousel; I'm saying to make sure to meet lots of people so you don't end up with someone who is a so-so match who will waste yours off of your life. In doing so you m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:43 AM
1

I'm a woman with a high libido but I also like to wait and see how we get along. Around 3 months is my limit though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:22 AM
1

At least I'm admitting the vanity. But I'm not a tall woman; I'm 5'5". The average American man is a little over 5'9". So anywhere from my height, 5'5" to 6'5" would work for me — I'd say most men would fall in that range. So I'm saying, that range would be ideal. But thanks for bringing it up. Upon thinking about it, I don't think a guy being shorter than me would be an absolute dealbreaker. He'd have to be a pretty special guy. Love is the most important thing to me. Everything else is a varia…
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:05 AM
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There's no doubt online dating makes everything harder for people who don't have a chisled face, tall height, and slim body. Saw a study where the same 5% of guys get 80% of the swipes. This is likely more facial beauty based though.
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:44 AM
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See, exactly. Case in point. Because of social media, online dating, and modern society in general, we have men of average height having insecurity issues. No reason for this. You all can't be 6'4". Please staahp. I have a short guy friend, he's around 5'4". About 80% of the stuff he says is something self-deprecating about his height. Like please talk about something else dude.
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:40 AM
1

I'm aware of the halo effect. I completely agree that cognitive biases exist. But are they handicapping average men to the point that they can't compete? Don't think so. Your height only takes you so far.. that being my whole point. p.s. your height is fine
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:49 AM
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You are operating from a place where your height is the defining thing in your life, and it isn't. It's only one facet of you, and you have much more to offer. See my longer answer ^
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:40 AM
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Skeletons from the Stone Age to the 19th Century do not have differences in height. Humans only started getting taller since the 19th Century and that aligns with the superior childhood nutrition promotes height theory. If women had been selecting for height all along, we would have seen taller and taller humans throughout evolution, but we don't. In modern times, I don't doubt that selection plays a role in tall men being favored slightly. There are, after all, studies on human attraction with …
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:39 AM
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Your confidence matters more. If you feel like shit about yourself, you are giving off insecure vibes.. no one's attracted to that.
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:23 PM
2

Where did I say my views apply to the world?
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:23 PM
4

That's a nice way of saying, "I'm too short." Okay? I'm a woman of above average height. Re-read the post. This is not written from a short dude perspective.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:59 PM
2

I think part of my pandemic weight gain is also armor.. to stop being harassed / aggressed upon. There was a rapey guy right before the pandemic. What's ridiculous is he would've had a green light. But some assholes think the aggressive approach is the way.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:54 PM
1

Right, and sometimes they may not even be aware or verbalize why they don't feel it, just that they don't.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:07 PM
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Just don't be like the guy who snatched my phone from me, acting like he was going to put his number in, but then called himself from my phone! Fuck that guy. I had to get out of that nightclub because he kept cornering me. I sobered up fast. Just a simple "can I give you my number?" would be ideal.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:04 PM
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Hmm I think "lack of a spark"/"lack of chemistry" is a real thing that people will reject others on. It doesn't have to always do with wealth / looks but moreso people expecting a strong 'feeling' just by being around this stranger. Sometimes the first date is fine but someone can be rejected because the other person thought "well, they're nice, they look okay, but I didn't feel something". But isn't it unrealistic to expect strong feelings about a stranger right off the bat? I've read that it's…
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:14 PM
21

No response IS a response. Ghosting IS communication. No closure IS closure. Or, you give yourself closure. When people are into you, you will know. Personally I would want a guy to fully reject me, instead of keeping me as a backup. I don't have time for someone who feels lukewarm about me, and I don't want to waste a guy's time either. Life is short. Don't waste your precious life on people who don't want you. You'll miss out on someone better the longer you let someone make you an option. I'd…
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:09 PM
2

Oh yeah! :) And it's not unique to me, it's totally based in science. Women are less looks-based than men.
/r/seduction27/04/21 06:50 PM
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I'd say I'm a 9-face and 7-body, but I've dated dudes lookswise around 5-6 because they were simply wonderful people and you get attracted more to people based on their personality, and while initially I may have thought he was a 4, he becomes a 9 to me based on who he is and how much he means to me.
/r/seduction27/04/21 05:58 PM
3

Seduction is seducing someone by being intoxicating, interesting, thrilling them, arousing their sexual desire indirectly. Because of who you are. You are the full package and have so much to offer. You're ever so slightly out of reach because you're a high value man. Your time is valuable and you're earning that bread and making a difference in the world, and don't have time for little boy games. Game and pickup artistry is using manipulation and psychological tricks on women, which works on wo…
/r/seduction27/04/21 05:55 PM
1

Sorry to hear. You might want to back off a bit, instead of lean forward. See what she does.
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:14 PM
1

Of course he was anxious when we first started messing around, but I made him feel safe. I was happy to reassure him lovingly and keep going. There were a few times early on the sex was over quickly because it felt too good to him, and he wasn't used to it. We worked on this until it was no longer a problem. He made sure to tell me he couldn't have asked for a more attentive and conscientious partner. I am drawing on these experiences to recommend a sensitive, kind soul for OP to explore with. A…
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:31 AM
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It may sound overly optimistic to some, but to me it's true because it happened. :) I was 'just friends' with a guy a couple years ago. Had no idea he was a virgin, because he carried himself confidently. We spent a lot of time together over one summer and it organically grew to something more. It wasn't until we were already making out on my couch and I inviting him to stay the night, that he told me he was a virgin. I already liked him and was happy to help him out. Ended up falling madly in l…
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:05 AM
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Uhm, no. There are plenty of women willing to sleep with virgin men, because they can be sweet, untainted, won't be players, won't neg or play dread games. I've enjoyed being with virgins but it takes an empathic person to be patient, show them the ropes, help build their confidence over multiple trysts. I've also enjoyed knowing I'm not being compared to exes, or at risk of catching STDs. OP, you should aim to have close friendships with women and over time make your virginity known. I guarante…
/r/seduction25/04/21 06:33 AM
13

As a mid 30s woman, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:18 AM
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Well, the chronological steps are not my opinion. There is research that says relationships on average have these natural milestones, and it's seen across our culture. Here's a coach mentioning that: https://youtu.be/1YJYQCWL1ts So, if you've been with someone, but they seem hesitant to move the relationship forward in ways that would feel natural, that's a bad sign. It's this "putting on the brakes" feeling you get from the other person, is what I'm talking about.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:52 AM
0

If you're an average or under-average guy in looks, I think it's good that you're working on your confidence by risking rejection from many beautiful women. Just keep in mind that people who are more average in looks can be more interesting because they've had to develop themselves in other dimensions. Some of the most attractive people I've met have been the most boring, or the most problematic.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:36 AM
1

It's interesting that the only quality you've mentioned you're looking for in a woman is that she be beautiful. Is that the only dimension you care about?
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:29 AM
5

Yeah, my last relationship too (if I can even call it that). He lovebombed the crap out of me and had his idealized version of me in his head. Someone who would want to be best friends with his ex-girlfriend that he couldn't get over.. and want to hear about all the time. lol
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:23 AM
1

In that case I totally agree. When I like somebody, I do make it much easier for them. At the same time, it'll be obvious that I am much harder to get for everybody else. The other person should be able to see that I'm selective, and they get to have my company because I find them special.
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:18 AM
2

Right, if there isn't reciprocity and excitement on both sides, then someone isn't feeling it. A push-pull dynamic is important.. can't all be one way. That wouldn't keep my interest.
/r/seduction24/04/21 03:11 AM
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This type of pain may be alleviated if people are willing to have frank, direct discussions. Unfortunately, it's common to have an imbalance in how much people like each other. Choosing one another 100% is rare, but awesome when it does happen. You have to meet a lot of people, go through the process of getting to know them, and eliminate those who don't fit what you're looking for, just like they should eliminate if you're not the right fit for them. Someone who is choosing you right off the ba…
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:40 AM
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Don't get too emotionally invested too early on. Make sure you're both on the same page, before you sink too much time into them. Early on it's okay for both sides to have multiple options.. but there should be a time limit to that.
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:35 AM
3

If she's comically easy for you, isn't she comically easy with everyone else? Would you want someone like that? Shouldn't you both be careful and discern that this is the right person for either one of you? If she's falling into your lap without really knowing you, is she a high quality woman? (edit - are you even looking for a high quality woman? or are you just looking to get laid? because intentions matter) Also, there's a difference in taking it slow and not responding to being chased.
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:32 AM
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How many instances of women getting assaulted or gunned down for rejecting men have we heard about? Far too many. Feeling shame is fine. Because the problem is with the person feeling the anger, not with the stranger trying to go about her day. Being introspective is okay. Trying to understand yourself is great. Digging deeper and solving your internal issues is commendable. That's what the angry guy should do... find out what's missing from his life that he feels the need to be angry toward a s…
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:06 AM
7

Sure. They can feel anger, but they need to be self-aware to know their anger is irrational and the other person don't owe you shit — and therefore of course don't act on it.
/r/seduction16/04/21 08:24 AM
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We're arguing semantics. Depending on the emotional volatility & psychology of the person, while being rejected they may feel things or they may not. But they definitely don't get to show that anger or harass the person in any way, because we're supposed to live in a polite and safe society — no one is entitled to anyone's number, ever. Nor is someone worthy of praise if they didn't get angry.. that should be the expected behavior.
/r/seduction16/04/21 05:58 AM
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OP as well as the commenter were acting like OP deserved a cookie for not getting angry about not receiving the woman's phone number. It's irrational and unjustified to feel anything regarding the relationship status of a complete stranger you've met for a few minutes. It would be pretty sociopathic to get legitimately angry about a rejection from a stranger who was taken.
/r/seduction16/04/21 05:38 AM
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Um, he doesn't have a right to get mad in the first place. The lady is a stranger.
/r/seduction16/04/21 04:22 AM
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