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I can tell that English isn't your first language. If it is, then stay in school.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 09:29 PM
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Compared to our struggles I love how you are taking credit for the things other men have done (I imagine you, fat and soft, sitting in your mother's living room as you type your invective). lol. What have YOU done that's hypermasculine and a credit to humankind? Ate a whole bag of Cheetos at one sitting? Wrote trash about women on the internet? Big man. . . .
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 07:42 PM
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LOL. No worries!
/r/MensRights13/06/14 03:18 AM
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Well, I agree with you, but I don't think anyone is still making this "argument." It is merely a historical fact.
/r/MensRights13/06/14 12:01 AM
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Growing up in the 70's, women wanted to be treated as equals but still have men buy the dinner and movie tickets. I left a marriage due to the same dichotomy. Dating in that age group I run into it as well. The women may make more money that me, but still expect me to wine and dine. Nope.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 11:44 PM
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"women were spared from the burden of working absolutely horrible jobs." YOU wrote this quoted passage above, offering it as "real history," when it is not. Go back and look at your original post if you think I have misquoted you. My reading skills are excellent, and you have contended in those words that women didn't work in horrible jobs. You, then, are the one that made the comparison, and as a historian, I needed to correct your factual error. Then in this most recent reply you shift the foc…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 09:31 PM
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"women were spared from the burden of working absolutely horrible jobs." Well, you can see how I might have gotten the impression that you were saying women got to sit on their soft asses at home while only the men worked, eh? In fact, (most) women were not spared the burden of work, and even those who were financially supported by men had to do laundry by hand and housework and cooking without the aid of machinery. Not very many people, male or female, had soft, easy lives in the 19th century, …
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:41 PM
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That's registration. I'm pretty sure it's just a "left over" law on the books, like sodomy was (and still is in backwater states). Legislators just haven't thought to stop the process. A letter writing campaign to Congressmen might get action.
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:27 PM
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Good list, but I'm thinking that an awful lot of these terms get thrown about from one man to another (sissy, fag, pussy, for example) rather than woman to man. Am I wrong? I'd add needle dick, pencil dick, and weenie to the list.
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:24 PM
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"anything fedora related." lol.
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:19 PM
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if child custody is higher among women, and worker pay is higher in men that it is in women, then if one is discrimination, than both are discrimination. Well, to be fair, the author DID say that more frequent custody to the mother is not right (but is instead a result of judges who are buying into stereotypes). avoiding conscription is a female privilege, even if they don't actively want that privilege. I agree, but I also see the author's point that this is not really much of an issue (since w…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:16 PM
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We're taught in schools from a young age a narrative that would make the idea of "men's rights" seem ridiculous. For example, in school history classes, when we learned about the way things were in the 19th century it was always "women were not allowed to work" rather than "women were spared from the burden of working absolutely horrible jobs." Dude, if this is what you were really taught, then your school was sub-par. Not only were women "allowed" to work in the 19th century, many of them (lowe…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 05:39 PM
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You have made a sweeping generalization here. I know that such generalizations make us feel warm and fuzzy, but that doesn't make them true. I grew up in the 70's, too, so I recognize this as the logical fallacy it is. Qualify that claim and you will find that you have a more receptive audience amongst women--particularly those of us who also grew up in the 70s but did not demand to be wined and dined. Yes, many women did and do expect this. Other women are afraid to emasculate a man by offering…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 05:24 PM
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Because of that, when we criticize feminism it might appear that we are attacking women. I have no idea on how to fix that perception since it seems so ingrained. I think the best way to fix that perception of attacking women is to take care in the language you (MRAs) use. This sub is viewed/lurked by a lot of women, obviously, so when careless posts call feminists "bitches"--as one did just the other day--or any other pejorative term, then women, whether feminist or not, are likely to think tha…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 05:18 PM
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Well, I don't think you can reasonably expect a group that is intended to advocate for women's rights to take on men's bodily integrity, can you? I mean, it would be nice, of course, but probably out of place, just as no one would reasonably expect MRM to take on female genital cutting as an issue. I might be missing something, but I can't find hypocrisy here.
/r/MensRights09/06/14 07:07 PM
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Civilized people use civilized language. Calling women--feminists or not--bitches simply gives fodder to those who think MRAs are women-haters. Call it out.
/r/MensRights09/06/14 07:05 PM
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yet care nothing about male circumcision and make jokes about it, when male circumcision is illegal in NO countries and practiced in all 1st world countries. Just wanted to say one thing: I read just the other day that there are more women intactivists than men. I'm not sure if it's true or not (but I read it on a Facebook post by an intactivist leader). That might belie your implication that women don't care about male genital cutting. I understand that this is a big cultural blindspot, but I d…
/r/MensRights09/06/14 06:32 PM
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I loved the movie. Angelina Jolie is a magnificent actress. Of course, I didn't read a political message into it. Perhaps I am just dim. On the other hand, I'm pretty sure all those wicked stepmothers and evil fairies of fairy tales more than balance out the bad guys of the original stories. What's the beef in revising one of those bad women? Especially if we'd like to see the balance this article's writer calls for?
/r/MensRights09/06/14 06:05 PM
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Nah. You can't really find a more feminist, independent character than Jane Eyre to begin with. She is literally leading her blind husband around by the end of the novel.
/r/MensRights09/06/14 06:01 PM
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Let's not call women "bitches," even if we bein' funny. Misogyny is not any nicer than misandry. Words are powerful, and it's language like this that causes the Men's Rights movement to be dismissed as hateful by much of society. If it is to be taken seriously, then it needs to use grown up, serious, civilized language.
/r/MensRights09/06/14 05:51 PM
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No. The article makes a judgment about the men who use this toy: "what kind of a lonely fuck would use one of those? The same chairsniffers who buy used women's underwear off ebay? I mean, probably." These sentences don't poke fun at the product. They poke fun at the men who dare to masturbate with it. Ridiculous and mean. In the article you link to, the focus isn't on the user, it's on the toy. QUITE A DIFFERENCE.
/r/MensRights09/06/14 05:45 PM
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I take your point, but it's hard for me to imagine just a woman's hair as a "provocation" to rape. There are plenty of western men who are without 'loving' even at advanced ages, yet extremely few of them are inclined to attack a woman to relieve themselves. I strongly doubt that the majority of Iranian men would be so inclined either. I think it's just government propaganda to control women (and really, men, too). I think it's possible that many women feel too powerless to say no and mean it (a…
/r/MensRights08/06/14 09:59 PM
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if you dress sexy, it is because you want to attract the attention of some potential mates. Well, I don't think that's a fair assessment, as even married (or otherwise "mated") women like to dress attractively. That married woman isn't--usually--on the prowl for sexual attention, so perhaps we could imagine that looking good might be for other reasons? Also, I doubt it is the "looking" that bothers most women; it is more likely ogling/drooling (which is just bad manners, isn't it?). In addition,…
/r/MensRights08/06/14 09:47 PM
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Well, how much children cost depends on the social standing of the parents. My eldest is 13, and I've definitely already spent beyond 100k on him. If my income were less, then I'm sure I would adjust downward: cheaper clothes, etc. If it were more, I'd be spending more on private schools and so forth.
/r/MensRights08/06/14 05:54 PM
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Children of both sexes should simply be taught to respect one another and dress how they please. The whole "dress modestly" for girls is the philosophy behind the hijab and chador in Muslim culture. Do we really want people to think (as theocratic Muslim countries do) that men are so sexually out of control that a glimpse of leg or cleavage will turn them into rapists? Ridiculous. The vast majority of men can and do control their sexual urges without too much difficulty.
/r/MensRights08/06/14 05:49 PM
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How many people per year get diagnosed with breast cancer? How many with prostate cancer? Does that difference explain the differing research funding?
/r/MensRights04/06/14 11:25 PM
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Yes, and that risk would be entirely assumed by the woman in that case. That's my point: the rich man would be in a peachy place to have a little woman at home, then tell her at divorce to get a job and support herself. The woman, on the other hand, would be in a terrible bind without alimony. The only way to get rid of alimony is to get both spouses earning and independent. As long as a woman depends financially on a man, she is no better than a child. I totally understand why divorced men don'…
/r/MensRights25/05/14 02:25 AM
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I love your username. And yes, I would also like to presume that "mind of her own," but gosh, . . . religion. I hate to Christian-bash, and it's really only a certain type of Christianity that calls for women to fulfill their subservient role as helpmeet to a man, but those women don't have much agency.
/r/MensRights25/05/14 01:06 AM
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Oh, no, I am FULLY aware that there are plenty of women who are looking for that meal ticket to 1950. EDIT: I'm just saying that it is not helpful that there are still men who WANT a dependent wife. It's bad for both genders.
/r/MensRights24/05/14 10:58 PM
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Well, my work doesn't suck, but maybe I'm lucky that way. Also, you should probably qualify that claim that implies "all" women have a way to avoid work. Personally, I left home when I was 17, and I've been working and supporting myself ever since. I managed to get an excellent education and move from the working class to the middle class with absolutely no dependence on anybody. I'm grateful for the opportunities I've had, but truly, I wouldn't trade paid work for housework for anything in the …
/r/MensRights24/05/14 10:57 PM
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Eeekkk! Well, I'm gonna advise you to be more careful about the women you choose in future. She is not representative of either the human race in general or women in particular. Why didn't you encourage her to work during the marriage? Did you marry her out of her daddy's home and take her into yours? Those traditional gender roles are a killer, even had she been doing the housework (it's just cause for resentment and pettiness for most women, not the stuff of a fulfilled life). You are better o…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 10:44 PM
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First of all, I don't have power to "allow" or "disallow" a thing, nor would I "demand" a thing. I'm merely expressing an opinion as to the only way Men's Rights activists are going to be in a position to throw off the burden of spousal support. They can't have their cake and eat it too. Either the little woman stays home and gets alimony upon divorce, or she seeks financial independence and has the pleasure of knowing she need not depend on another soul to feed, clothe, or shelter herself. Seco…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 10:33 PM
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Yes, I'm sure you're right about some men not registering if it weren't required. I'm not really sure why the draft is even still a thing, given the success of the "all volunteer army" over the past few decades.
/r/MensRights24/05/14 10:00 PM
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Well, I'm not a fan of marriage, as I haven't been able to work it out for myself past the 4 year point, so I guess I'd have to agree.
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:59 PM
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Staying at home is "opportunity loss." Loss of work experience and often loss of education. Housework doesn't count on a resume, while actual paid labor does count. See the problem with your reasoning?
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:19 PM
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Well, in many cases, it is the man who caused (or at least contributed) to the problem by insisting that his wife be a good, old-fashioned filly who fulfills her godly role as his subservient house slave. It's beyond me why any women still fall for this crap (okay, let's face it: religion), but if you keep the little woman at home rather than letting her get an education and work experience, then she is, in effect, infantilized and made unhireable to a great extent once she's cast out on the wor…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:16 PM
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Tens of thousands of women are in the military. I'm a combat veteran myself. Did I register for selective service? No, b/c no one asked me, too. I certainly wouldn't have minded, though, as I was already in ROTC when I turned 18. I agree with your implication that having only men register for the draft is sexist, but I disagree that no woman would be willing to register, if called to do so. Change the law rather than expecting "feminists" to do it. I don't think they'd fight you. I do think Repu…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:11 PM
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Amen! I didn't even know there was such a thing as "lifelong alimony" until last week. Good grief. As I said in an earlier post, though, alimony in general won't go away until all women are encouraged by society (and their mates) to be financially independent, in other words, workers. You (husbands in general, that is) can't insist that a woman play June Cleaver for years and then suddenly expect her to be able to support herself upon dissolution of the marriage.
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:07 PM
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Come on, there are a lot of women out there who aren't crazy, vindictive assholes. I'm twice divorced, and I could give you my ex-husbands' testimonials. No spousal support, no custody issues, no anger. Friends still, in fact. It's called being grown up, and quite a few of us are. Don't give up on the women, but I think I agree with an earlier post that society is largely better off evolving past the idea of marriage. I like the idea of short-term contracts that can be renewed (say every three y…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 09:00 PM
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That stinks. And it's why MRAs should join with women's rights activists to encourage all women, young and old, to work and be financially independent, before, during, and potentially after marriage. If we could make that societal change, life would be fairer for both sexes. As it is, too many traditionalists want to cling to that idea of the adoring wife "homemaking" while the husband brings home the bacon. If both partners are earners, then spousal support in either direction could become a hi…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 08:55 PM
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Ha. I believe that.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 11:55 PM
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Ha! I only show my tits to alpha men, and that's clearly not you (if it were, you wouldn't be begging for it). Keep working out.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 09:39 PM
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But dude, I got your attention without showing my tits! And you really haven't given a logical answer to my question. You seem to think that one or two lovers equals fidelity, while many lovers would signal the likelihood of infidelity. I don't see any logic there at all. The real reason, the honest reason, for men wanting a virginal partner is what you finally get to: if she hasn't had many lovers, she might not (fingers crossed!!!) know that your gear is smaller than average and your skills no…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 07:05 PM
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Now, why exactly is it bad for a woman to have had many partners? I'm not being sarcastic; I just really would like to know your reasoning. I can't recall a man ever asking me how many lovers I've had (it would seem like a weird, inappropriate question IMHO). Is it equally bad for a man to have had many partners? Just curious. I agree that the gf was wrong for lying, but I think she'd have been right to simply say "that's not really any of your business."
/r/TheRedPill22/05/14 06:08 PM
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Well, I didn't do it in an obvious manner because I'm not crass and size is not central to my sexual experience, but as I happened to be down there with hands and mouth, yes, I did notice that he was just a smidgen longer than my index finger. I've just rousted myself up to find a ruler because clearly men value precision while women are happy with ballpark. My index finger is precisely 3.4 inches long. There's a fact I've not known before tonight. Based on that measurement, I'd say he was a qua…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 06:53 AM
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Dude, what women do you know with that much skin? Most of the extra is well above the actual vaginal opening. Bunches around clit and urethra, but that's high up. And the labia parts when the legs are spread--just like the lips of your mouth part when you open it--so they don't get in the way at all. Admittedly, women are all somewhat different anatomically, and I have no experience with female genitalia beyond my own, but any man can go balls deep with me--nothing gets in the way except his own…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 06:46 AM
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Average is better for average women. There are small women out there who will need small men. And I've had pleasure with a smaller man, despite the fact that I am average-sized. Don't focus on the in-out thing. 75% of us can't come that way anyway. Make yourself an expert at oral sex if you aren't already. That's almost a guaranteed orgasm for me. PIV is very iffy, definitely less than half the time. The smaller man I was with had a kind of trade-mark move (side to side or kind of in a circle; I…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 06:34 AM
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Most of the women I've known over the years (and I'm older than you by quite a bit, I'm sure) have stated categorically that they avoid large dicks. I can't say that they've said "I want a small dick," as the conversations have generally come from bad experiences being cervix banged, so they are usually expressed as "I don't ever want to see a big cock again in my life" or something like that. Then almost everybody else in the conversation chimes in with a "I remember once when I was practically…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 05:41 AM
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Okay, so we add up all the sizes of all the women (theoretically), the 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 (I'm guessing that might be the top side, but who knows). Then we divide by the total to get the average of 4. That means oodles of women (50 percent) who are smaller than the average, in a variety of sizes. It could NOT be 30%. Google "determining an average or mean" to confirm what I'm saying.
/r/MensRights18/05/14 05:02 AM
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Because women do talk . . . .
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:54 AM
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Only about 25 percent of women ever reach orgasm through intercourse. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic I'm not sure I'd call that a lot, but if you want to wallow in your misery in spite of the facts (not opinions) to the contrary, then by all means do so. I'm done here!
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:53 AM
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It's possible I'm a minority, but I doubt it.
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:41 AM
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But that 4 inches is AVERAGE, which means 50 percent of the women fall below that size. You know, math. . . .
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:38 AM
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I think you should look up the confirmation bias logical fallacy. I'm sure you've noted and remembered every joke or whisper or move that mentioned either "small" dicks as embarrassing or big dicks as ideal but have either not noticed (or completely discounted) other opinions. For example, I've posted several times here that I do not like or enjoy big dicks (over 6 inches), and I won't even try to have intercourse with men who have them. I stopped attempting that after a ridiculous amount of tra…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:24 AM
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Well, we can't help our internal size any more than a man can help his external size. I'm not suggesting a woman should ever say such a thing to a man, as it would be needlessly cruel. My point was simply that any man (even average or above) could be too small for some women, just as any man average or above could be too large for some women. It's just anatomy, and there really are physical matches out there for everyone, regardless of size. It's just the searching and the finding of a compatibl…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:15 AM
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OMG, you are so wrong. I refuse a big dick b/c I have been hurt by them. Oral sex is okay with a big guy, but I cannot work around pain, as I am not a masochist, and I don't know any woman who can. Here's what really happens with a big one in an average vagina: bang goes the big dick against the cervix. AHHHHHHHHHH!!! goes the injured woman (and it is NOT a groan of pleasure). Out the window goes ANY possibility for an orgasm in the next day or two. Imagine being punched in your stomach. Could y…
/r/MensRights18/05/14 04:07 AM
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No. He was a little bit longer than my pointer finger (which was right down there in the same locale). Not even in the realm of 5.5.
/r/MensRights18/05/14 03:50 AM
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Estimate only. No ruler involved. lol.
/r/MensRights17/05/14 01:39 AM
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Well, I guess what I meant about the size queens is that it surprises me any man would stay with one, especially if she even hinted that she found him disappointing. Yes, I know about love, but still, if it goes both ways, then she should adore him for his totality, not criticize him for a single body part. I agree with you that women should keep their mouths shut (both to the lover and to friends).
/r/MensRights17/05/14 01:37 AM
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Well, I didn't intend to brush him off, truly (and if he thinks I did, I apologize). Any body shaming from either gender is horrible and inexcusable. I actually intended to be supportive of him or any other man who has the idea that he is something less than he should be. I absolutely know that my likes are not universal. In fact, I think I said that pretty clearly by the qualifiers "some" and "most." YOU are the one who claims I said "all." Didn't, dude. Go read it again. And I could drown you …
/r/MensRights17/05/14 12:21 AM
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I agree that feminism isn't (and never has been a perfect movement). In fact, most early feminists wanted to criminalize abortion, as they considered it some kind of male conspiracy to get out of parental responsibility. I think Alice Paul and Susan B. Anthony were the major leaders of the anti-abortion faction. Strange. I'm also not happy about feminism's role in the whole rape culture discourse that seems to be leaping into hysteria and absurdity. I understand the fear of rape, and as a woman,…
/r/MensRights17/05/14 12:02 AM
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No, not to refute, sorry I put my post in the wrong place. The one article mentions both a man and a woman being ordered not to procreate. The order against the woman was overturned (but the man's was upheld). The point was just that judges have tried to control reproduction in both genders (wrongly, I think).
/r/MensRights16/05/14 11:28 PM
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Well, to these women, size did matter (but they sound like they wouldn't be worth having anyway, frankly). Again, women are as variable in size internally as men are externally, so all women do NOT prefer big dicks. Most prefer average, some prefer large or x-large, and some will really need small. OP needs to keep searching for a physical match, which simply cannot be determined through the outward size of the woman. I'm 5'7"--taller than most women, but I'm just average vagina-wise. I've had t…
/r/MensRights16/05/14 11:21 PM
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Ohhh. That's a good question, and I don't really know the answer, as the smallest I've had was about 4 inches, and it was fine. I'm not sure if smaller would be okay or not (would probably depend very much on other skills the man had, but honestly, I can't say). I'm clear on what's too big, though: more than 6 inches or so is not going in all the way.
/r/MensRights16/05/14 11:00 PM
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I've found two cases of women court ordered not to get pregnant (one was eventually overturned): http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/2013/10/07/09/51/judge-orders-woman-not-to-get-pregnant http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB122230566090673847
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:34 PM
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I've never even heard about a woman "shaming" a man (or worse, a child) for penis size. Yes, I've heard women tell other women about a man with a small penis, but it's "he's too small for ME" rather than "he's too small." Of course, a very much more common conversation amongst women is "he's too big for me." As you acknowledge in your post, both men and women come in a variety of sizes. It is much easier for an average vagina to accommodate and enjoy a small penis than a large one--which trust m…
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:19 PM
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It doesn't sound like rape to me (and I'm a woman). She said no once, and he stopped, which was the right thing to do. When he started again later, she did NOT say no or stop or anything else. I would say her passivity and silence equals tacit agreement. He wasn't threatening or forcing her. She could have stood up and said, "Get out, dude," but she didn't. No rape here. It's not even a close call. She even says, "I let him finish." "Let" means "allowed" or gave permission. Case closed.
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:01 PM
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Obviously, I have only anecdotal evidence, but I see at least two or three older women in my classroom (I teach humanities at a community college) every semester who tell me that they are trying to complete an education in order to support themselves (b/c they are either divorced or widowed without sufficient means). Invariably, these women went straight to homemaking with no thoughts of ever having to support themselves. Admittedly, these are women 40+. so perhaps you are right that the younger…
/r/MensRights16/05/14 08:41 PM
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Why would women's groups be against gender-neutral rape laws in India (or anywhere)? I'll go google the news to read about it, but I'm coming up blank as to why anyone would be against that. Okay, I guess once again I'm forced to acknowledge that judges have just as many biases as anyone else.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:52 PM
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Yes, I can see the benefit of a more pragmatic view of marriage on many levels. I suspect there would be less divorce if people entered into a partnership rather than a strictly romantic relationship that simply cannot stand the test of time--sorry if I sound cynical, but I agree with Shakespeare's idea about love being a temporary madness that will soon pass. One more thing about stay-at-home parents. I'm betting that you didn't start staying at home before children arrived. However, there are …
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:40 PM
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I've heard of the White Feather Society before (calling men cowards for not going to war, right?). I didn't know about the campaign against the right of black women to vote. Ah, I've just googled it, and I see you are correct, but it was white southern feminists (still many racists down yonder to this very day) who were against black women's suffrage, not feminists at large. Sheesh, there are white southern women right now actively working to take control of my body and decimate my rights even a…
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:32 PM
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I can't tell you how surprised I am to hear that women judges are more even-handed than their male peers. I guess I might have expected just the opposite. I agree with you about the parental alienation attempts. I actually have a very good friend who is well educated, sensible, and normally quite sane, but after her husband of 25 years left her for a much younger woman, my friend starting saying terrible things about the ex to their son, who was only 8 at the time. The other children were alread…
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:06 PM
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Fair point about Republicans. I was really just joking, though; clearly my humor is terrible (sorry). Pro-gender-equality is a mouthful but will do until something more concise comes along. Thx.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 01:39 AM
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Upvote for sounding awesome, Ranger! Careful about the digs to women who "pretend" they want to be part of a man's world. I'm a woman, a former officer, and a combat veteran. I have been a part of a dangerous world, too. No pretending. I don't like war, violence, or death, but then I'm betting you don't either. I'm sure you are stronger than I am, but I'm no delicate flower. Give the women props for doing our best to share your load (I think I'd knock your socks off academically, even though you…
/r/MensRights15/05/14 01:31 AM
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I agree with you that marriage is at foundation a legal contract, and I wouldn't necessarily disagree with prenups. The only concern might be that people in love aren't always very sensible, and the "romantic" ideals of either partner could end locking them into a very inequitable agreement that couldn't easily be changed later. I acknowledge your fair point about benefits to children from a stay-at-home parent (and forgive me for not even considering stay-at-home dads in my earlier post).
/r/MensRights15/05/14 12:10 AM
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Thanks for the response, blueoak9. What would the change look like specifically? I assume by "cultural assumptions" you might mean that women are often perceived as the better or more active parent? What else? I know little about these issues, but would like to know what you think.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:33 PM
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Yes, even though I have several lawyer friends, and two judge friends, I must admit that lawyers often are the devil in the flesh. I'm wondering when the shift in the legal system happened. I know that historically men used to have all the power in a divorce. It's too bad we haven't come to a fair and equitable middle ground. If we did, though, what would that really look like? Obviously, joint custody of children, but what about financials? Are Men's Rights activists against equally sharing pro…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:28 PM
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Ha! I'm with you on Rick Santorum, but hey, you guys (Republicans, not men in general) have some other pieces of work, too (why can't Republicans say anything sensible or factual about rape, for example, or just say nothing at all?). :-) "Humanist" I am, but that doesn't quite cover the political stance (I don't think humanists take a position on birth control or abortion, for instance). Maybe "pro woman" as another post suggested might do a better job for me. I won't call myself feminist any mo…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:16 PM
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Thanks for your reply. You sound very reasonable, and I think I understand your issues better. I would find it hard to hate (historical) feminism in general, though, because of all it has given me (the vote, access to birth control, etc.). On the other hand, I don't support radicalism at all, and I do think that men should have fair and equal treatment in the courts, under the law, and in the media. I will tell you that I shared lots of the "Save Our Girls" memes, too, without ever having heard …
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:10 PM
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OHhhhhhhh!
/r/MensRights14/05/14 03:10 AM
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Oh, gosh, you've had some terrible experience with women, and I'm sorry for it. I guess I've been lucky in my relationships. Although twice divorced, my exes and I still love one another (one is even a Facebook friend). Of course, we didn't have children together, so I'm sure that's a factor. Plus, they are great guys that I could not hate under any circumstances and both divorces were amicable (also, no alimony or property hassles, as our salaries were nearly equal and we had a sense of fairnes…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 03:07 AM
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I hate to hear that any feminist organizations are positioning themselves against father's rights. I'll have to explore what those specifics are, but I can't imagine why any mother would want to deny her child's father plentiful, regular, quality access to the child (well, unless he was a pedophile or otherwise abusive). I had the notion that joint or shared custody is the current norm. Is it not?
/r/MensRights14/05/14 02:50 AM
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You've said nothing offensive at all, and I appreciate your explanation. I guess I would say that I'm not the feminist you describe, as feminism to me simply means I have sexual agency (I can sleep with whom I choose and anyone who wants to purity-talk me can go to hell), I have autonomy over my own body (I will only bear a child if I want to; consenting to sex does not mean consenting to pregnancy), I have equal opportunity to advance my career (not superior opportunity or special rights, just …
/r/MensRights14/05/14 02:39 AM
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You sound sensible! Yay! I'm glad to hear that you slave away in the house, too (and don't like it any more than I do). Good man. I don't know any women like the ones you mention, but I acknowledge that they surely exist.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 02:11 AM
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Okay, I'm an open-minded feminist and I'm very pro-penis (so much so that I refused to circumcise my son 13 years ago--before "natural" started to become trendy). I don't always recognize your definition of feminism on this sub, though. You guys seem to think we hate the fellas. I appreciate that the needs of boys and men are often overlooked (again, I have both a son and a daughter in school, so I see it regularly), but those failures are not mine or feminism's. I think the problem is larger th…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 01:49 AM
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Ha! Okay, I confess I hate house-slavery. There is nothing fun IMHO about cleaning a toilet or mopping a floor. Cooking doesn't float my boat either. However, I do have a basic competence in all of the stereotypical female "skills," including sewing, quilting, and baking! But why is that a bad thing if I don't like to do them? And shouldn't the fellas learn those skills, too (even if they don't enjoy them any more than the average woman)? The chores still need to be done, in any case. Question, …
/r/MensRights14/05/14 01:36 AM
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Well, I agree with much of what you say. Some women do seem to enjoy victimhood, something I don't understand at all. I also agree that women have more options than men in most areas, and I definitely agree that many situations are confusing for men (you mention door opening, picking up the check, etc.). However, I think many of those situations are equally confusing to women. I have never been entirely comfortable with a man paying for me (esp. if I know I make more money that he does), but I a…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 01:19 AM
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Well, I have a Ph.D. and teach at college level. When my students call me Miss or Mrs., I don't feel disrespected or oppressed, as the poor things also call male colleagues "Mr." rather than "Dr." or "Professor." However, neither men nor women at my U are fond of being "demoted" linguistically. A medical doctor wouldn't want to be called either Mr (Sir) or Miss or Mrs., either. Wouldn't it just be good to call people by the titles they earned, irrespective of sex?
/r/MensRights14/05/14 12:50 AM
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Combat positions do not pay better (they are paid the exact same as support and service support). The difference is that command positions--which are more available in the combat arms--lead to faster and more likelier promotion in rank.
/r/MensRights12/05/14 11:37 PM
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