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Ah, yes, the "At-home lazy day" dates. I genuinely hate this. It's one thing if you are cooking, doing a project together, ACTIVELY doing things together. But just vegging out watching TV with no interaction? I can do that at home. If you're dating me, shouldn't we be going out places? Doing fun things together? It feels so lazy, so low effort..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:11 PM
79

oh my god THIS. They only want to talk to have your attention again. It's pathetic. Take the rejection like an adult and move on. They don't care about you as a person or your feelings, they're just upset that their doll isn't on the shelf anymore and they want it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:00 PM
51

That's a lot of words for "Women's standards are too high for men nowadays, pls reproduce so we can have more taxpayers"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:57 PM
42

Only good man is one who respects your period, checks how you are feeling and if they can help, and also doesn't make you feel ashamed for having a period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:25 PM
145

Y'know, if a man loves a woman, and truly loves her, this kind of behavior should come naturally to him, because that's part of what love is. It isn't always the grand gestures either, it's the small things (always making sure SHE'S under an umbrella when it's raining, even if he's getting wet), the things they do without need to be told (because doing things to help your partner is apparently a chore?). Guys call this simping when this is what they want women to do to them, but refuse to recipr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:23 PM
89

Have had this behavior with a NVX. Did something important for myself and all he could say was "Now you don't need me anymore". They really tell on themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:04 PM
147

Ah yes, the usual "Man doesn't believe woman until he experiences it himself and acts like it's an epiphany" Followed by, "men only listen to other men"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:02 PM
11

It makes me sad I have men in the family that do this. I get confrontational with them about it, but it doesn't go anywhere because "that's just how they are".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:09 AM
29

Holy shit she needs to leave, there is so many things wrong with this that honestly there is no hope of saving anything. It's abuse rolled into narcissism rolled into insecurity all in one basket of bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:22 PM
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I feel like these are the same kind of couples that will be divorced in 10 years because they rushed into marriage just to say "I got married!" before some imaginary goal age/line. They sound like they don't respect your choice. Doesn't sound like a good time tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:16 PM
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So far I've only had one man who listened to me when I wasn't happy about something. The others have blown me off, or "promised to do better" (they didn't). Then acted completely heartbroken and surprised when I dropped them! Imagine! Me directly saying "I'm not happy", them changing nothing, then asking blindsided when I say "I'm done" and block and move on. I STILL have one reach out and send e-mails, confessing his love, not knowing where it went wrong... Apparently asserting my boundaries an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:08 PM
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I HATE this assumption that women need to be the managers of the house and fucking give men a list of shit to do. You have eyeballs, fucking use them! Of course it's just part of not caring. If they wanted to, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:04 PM
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bruh he really be out here telling on himself like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:11 PM
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He was ignoring her body language and knew what he was doing. Now he's trying to play it off so he can convince her that he didn't do anything wrong. Disgusting. It takes no effort to ask "Are you doing okay?" to get reaffirmation that your partner is consenting to what is happening. He willingly avoided that to try to get what he wanted. And the way he's talking- he's not concerned about how SHE feels, how upset she got. He's concerned about "when can we have sex again?". It's always "WE" as if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:01 PM
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LMAFO really the guys in speedos and nothing else get a pass but oh noooo a girl showed a shoulder!! She has cleavage!!! We can't hold men accountable for their feelings or thoughts, so we have to make sure women accommodate for them by being policed in what they wear and how they look. No wonder there's so many emotionally stunted men around, nobody has ever held them accountable for themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:31 PM
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lmafo, I told my partner about that term and he thought it was funny as hell and has started using it himself. Imagine getting this upset when there is basically a pocket dictionary of names created just to be slurs against women 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:32 AM
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What was the point of this word salad? Did he feel that entitled to your time to waste his own time with this nonsense? My god, just move on already dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:13 PM
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He was married... and his wife took the mattress? He could only afford a half a mattress, or a futon? And he was married? What exactly was he bringing into this relationship? Like there's so much to unpack here (figuratively) Don't get me started on the men can't decorate. They really can live in a literal jail cell and see nothing wrong with it lmafo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:34 AM
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lmafo really? A woman "takes time off" to take care of kids? I didn't realize raising kids was a vacation and not one of the most difficult jobs that men regularly refuse to do... oh wait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:10 PM
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She should ASK him to take photos of her??? What is the point of them being a couple then, if he doesn't WANT to do these things that inherently are behaviors associated with couples? Are these commenters delusional? Ickness aside from a man taking pictures of his cousin in a bikini with his phone, he clearly doesn't care about his 'gf' and she needs to break up and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:09 PM
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Yup, exact same thing here. Isn't that a trait of narcissists? Making you feel bad for your boundary being violated? He would do other things that I didn't want him to do, and when he'd see my reaction would blow up then give me the silent treatment until I was tripping over myself apologizing so things would be "okay" again. Ugh, it's gross to think about now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:36 PM
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Reminded me of my ex who would he very aggressive and do things I didn't want him to, until it got to the point where I would flinch when he would reach for me. He of course took that as an offense, and made me feel so bad that I ended up apologizing for behaving that way even though it was HIS ACTIONS that made me act like that. 🤡 I'm glad those days are behind me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:27 PM
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I always felt shame for having a large appetite (I used to work out a lot, and do physically demanding jobs so it was needed). It's even to the point I'll get upset when I realize I've eaten more or eaten faster than my SO-and he reassures me that it's fine, if I'm hungry I'm hungry. Hard to break out of the conditioning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:25 PM
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I've been learning that how I feel is perfectly valid, and if people want to sweep it under the rug and say I'm 'making a big deal out of nothing' or 'overreacting', then they aren't worth my time. They decided they didn't care what I thought or felt, and that I should just pretend things are fine to 'make peace'. They're angry I won't, and it's funny to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:34 AM
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It reeks of insecurity, honestly. They can't handle the existence of something they don't like, even if in reality it doesn't affect them (maybe mentally because they obsess over it, and why? They are not going to change opinions here-this is a space that is not for them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:26 AM
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That's a lot of words for "I would rather argue with you about what you think than listen to you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:44 PM
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I always feel uncomfortable when men are so eager to get me to meet their family. Like, why don't you spend your enthusiasm on me so we can learn about each other more? I can't put my finger on it but it just doesn't sit right with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:34 PM
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In Hispanic culture, this is very much expected and it still uncomfortable. An event is planned by the women, put together by the women-all the cooking, making sure everyone is happy and okay and gets what they need, etc. While the men are sitting outside smoking and playing cards or dominos until they're called to eat. This facilitates a mindset with the women where they have to stay for the family because they literally are the ones that make everything happen, while the men can do whatever. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:18 AM
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I can't get over the fucking gaslighting at the end. Implying she's fucked in the head and needs a therapist and that 'well she needs to do X so we can move on with our lives' okay bye bitch. I hope she breaks up with him and enjoys her time with her sweetheart cat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:40 PM
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He can put in the effort to do this but can't be bothered to change the toilet roll? What kind of fuckery is this? I hope she blows up and leaves him and he has to contemplate his gf dumping him for not changing the fucking toilet paper roll like an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:34 PM
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lmao what do they think happens to a woman after she gives birth? Does she walk around with a baby-sized gaping hole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:35 AM
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"It's been three months and he's doing the slow fade" This means that the sex honeymoon is over and he's bored and wants something shiny and new. This one hurts the most, especially when he made a big deal out of you meeting his family and his family adoring you. It's like on some level everyone knows you're a massive upgrade and he feels comfortable enough that you won't run away that he stops putting in effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:31 AM
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She's right on the money in her last sentence. He made HER TRAUMA about himself. Just walk away from it, not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:24 AM
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Translation: "I don't want any commitment with her but I want her available for sex because I'd rather string her along then lose out on having sex" Yeah ok Buddy. Why is sex such an obsession for these guys? It won't even be enjoyable if you don't like the person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:40 PM
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Ah, yes. The man who gives attention because he knows that is the way to get sex from most women. Or the LVM/NVM bf/husband who is distant until they're horny and act like they can just randomly lovebomb when they want sex, the just go back to being distant because their needs were filled (but fuck hers lmao). How many women have these stories? How many girlfriends wonder what they're doing wrong, being played like this? How many wives are so immensely turned off by husbands who behave this way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:45 PM
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How could you be so insensitive to the woman carrying your child? How could you stay with someone that would treat you this way? You're literally ruining your body for this man, and he is this much of an asshole to spend time doing petty shit like this? This is so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:57 PM
12

Return him to his mother so she can finish raising him is the only correct answer here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:46 AM
5

I got my nails done on Valentine's day for myself. I also have been comforting a friend that broke up with a LVM-she's doing much better now, and is able to see how unhappy she was in the relationship (he was a perma-bachelor). She's taking her self worth and self care more seriously now, and I'm supporting her as her friend group was really small (smaller because her and her ex shared friends). I'm happy to see her doing better, as she's too sweet, talented, and beautiful to be dragged down by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:47 PM
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Was talking with a friend who recently broke up with a LVM-she would express how she would be happy when he 'missed her', then become crestfallen when he would say something sexual right after, denoting he missed access to her body but not really her. I'm sure many of us know this feeling, yes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:26 PM
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The lack of basic empathy is so disgusting. I couldn't even dream of being this way to a partner that was in pain-all I'd want is to take care of them and help make sure they feel better. I'm glad she dumped him and realized how bad he was for her. I cannot believe some of the comments are saying it's her duty to give a bj. They really only think of women as sex-dispensers, don't they? It's horrid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:27 PM
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It still blows my mind that people consider this a hate sub when the theme is women should take care of themselves (by being financially independent and educated) and not date men who disrespect them. Meanwhile there are incel subs that talk about how they wish they could kill or rape women freely and that's okay? Or the pedo subs that still exist? Anyone that complains about this sub is gaslighting and justifying its' existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:31 PM
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Why is she obligated to plan everything? Is he such a helpless manchild he can't think for himself and make plans? Why does she have to TELL HIM to do something? People don't need to tell me to do things for Holidays, I'm enough of an adult I can do it on my own. This is embarrassing. She needs to leave him. This is shameful. She doesn't deserve to feel this way nor be treated this way. If he cared, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:06 PM
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The HV gifts aren't the monetary amount is damn correct. It's the thought and care that goes into them. Like picking up on your gf being sad because she's worn out her favorite pair of earrings-so you either get an identical replacement, or get them refurbished. It's small-but it's meaningful and shows that you paid attention to her. That's priceless. Even something that you work on together can be so meaningful. Every December, I would draw up a design for an ornament based off what happened th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:15 AM
13

I like giving gifts. I enjoy getting little personalized things that I know will make people happy. Which is why getting burned by a thoughtless gift is twice as hurtful. So now I only give gifts (or at least, good gifts) to those who have shown me they appreciate them and value me enough to appreciate me. No point wasting my time on those that can't be bothered to care (or only care when they notice I'm distant).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:25 AM
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It's gambling, don't put in what you can't afford to lose. Especially when you have a wife and family and it's not just about you anymore. I just feel bad for the wives and children stuck with the fallout of something they didn't even participate in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:44 AM
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Why is she cleaning his apartment? Does he live that dirty that it bothers her? Then they have different standards of cleanliness and will be incompatible based off that. She'll complain he isn't cleaning enough, and he'll complain she's picky or nagging. It will just get worse. It's sad she thinks this is something to be proud of. If he wanted it to be that clean, he would make it that clean. In fact, he should WANT to make it cleaner if she's coming over-but clearly he doesn't care and just le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:35 AM
3

Lost it at the empty walls 😂 they don't decorate and are confused when asked about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:32 PM
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OMG I love this 😂 It makes me laugh thinking of guys that say women are too picky.. when THIS is what we want-and it sure doesn't seen unreasonable at all, does it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:46 AM
2

Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:23 PM
5

It's jarring seeing the anger and vitriol spit out for a woman being proud and capable of taking care of herself and buying herself nice things-when men are given a pass for doing so. Guys buying new gaming rigs (easily thousands of $$), new cases for model kits, etc.. nobody bats an eye, but a woman buying herself jewelry and a car is somehow offensive? Is this some type of projecting I'm not getting? Whoever is reporting such posts is truly sad to get angry over someone doing well for themselv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:52 AM
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