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sunglasses90/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 02:35 PM
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Agree. Should’ve put “or”. Because it depends on what the woman is looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 07:54 PM
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I’d the guy doesn’t commit to you and isn’t pursuing marriage with you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 07:18 PM
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Next time you have to leave after cheating attempt #1. Let yourself grieve this. You had high hopes and those got crushed. It hurts. Believe me that we’ve all been there once or twice. You’re going to be fine though. Just give it time
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 07:17 PM
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They don’t have to be polished. I used to get gel nails once a month. I liked it a lot but $40/month started to get too much. Now I don’t do them, or do them myself. I get them done for a special occasions.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 04:40 PM
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Instead of trying to do that I’d have an open and honest discussion about what you value and what roles you prefer women and men to play in a relationship. My fiancé was very direct when we first started dating that his preference is for him to pay bills and for me to cook and take on household chores. He did it very politely and said he’s willing to help me with whatever and he doesn’t expect me to do everything BUT he wanted me to be in charge of those things and ask for help when needed. We d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 07:36 PM
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I used Sookie Stackhouse for inspiration. It worked for me. At first I thought her style was too girlish for my age, but I went with it and it worked. The key is sundresses and little white ked sneakers. Guys love it and It’s comfy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 04:27 PM
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I don’t think it’s unreasonable for your children to pick up the 10 items. Having a tidy space is important to him and the household. It sounds like he’s been patient but they aren’t listening and don’t understand why they should tidy up. On the other stuff, if my husband micromanaged or watched me doing chores I’d hand him stuff to do to help. If you’re gonna stand there and watch you can fold your undies here you go.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 06:31 PM
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I’m happy when my friends are happy. Different things make different people happy. I absolutely would not be cool personally with a man who doesn’t work by choice, however, absolutely no hate to someone who is happy with that. Everyone gets one life and you get to fill it with the people and things that you love. I’d simply try to avoid the topic with her. She’s being pushy and she shouldn’t be. If she brings it up just say “yeah, maybe. I’m happy with how things are now, so we’ll see” then chan…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:27 PM
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They’re scared of rejection or being called creepy for asking out a woman “of their choice”.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 10:40 PM
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Staring is rude and unsettling. If you wanna talk to him that’s fine, but just staring at him is creepy as hell. Him or anyone else. Make eye contact to communicate or when communicating.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 06:59 PM
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First 23 is very young to be married so you don’t have to be self conscious about that. 90% of my friends (college educated) were closer to 30 when they got married. I suggest waiting to at least 25 because there are some big brain changes that happen around that age 25-26. Next, what is holding you back specifically and what are you doing about it specifically? Having a specific plan to reach your goal is better than just having a goal and not knowing how or when you’ll get there. You’re both e…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 03:04 PM
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This is a super healthy take on this situation. You have a good head on your shoulders! You’re going to be just fine no matter what you decide. You deserve the things that you want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 05:30 PM
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Agree
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:14 PM
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Usually it’s not the guy who is the problem. It’s the drunk friends who “graciously” buy him a lap dance or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:54 PM
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From his point of view what he is giving you (aka money and attention and lifestyle) should be “enough” for you. It’s up to you whether it truly is enough. Do you want to be married or have a family? Because that’s off the table with him. Are you happy with your current arrangement? A lot of women would be and a lot wouldn’t. There’s no right or wrong answer. It’s your life and you get to decide. Do you want him to hide his other girlfriends better? If it were me I’d be pissed, but at the same t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:50 PM
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I would only say it if you 100% mean it and will 100% follow through. For me things wouldn’t be off. But it would forever change the dynamic of our relationship. It would take things from being perfect/pure/spiritual to more transactional and he’s definitely better off with the first one. We both are. It would remove that closeness that we have several notches. I trust him though. He’s a great man and I think he 100% realizes that. He’s not stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:42 PM
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You don’t. The good news is that people are tattle tales so if he does there’s a 98% chance someone tells you. The bad news is that people are tattle tales. My approach with my fiancé is that if he does something at his bachelor party that would be disrespectful towards me that he better 100% guarantee I never find out, ever. He’s taking it to the grave with him. If he can’t guarantee that and I find out we have big problems cause now I have to “deal with it”. If you have balls enough to do it, …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:24 PM
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Anybody can cheat on you at anytime and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. If you try to control them or if you don’t trust them you can actually push them to cheat or leave though. All you can do is vet that this is a good guy and try to be the best gf you can be. Don’t create problems where there are none and when problems arise that’s when you deal with them. Not before.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 12:44 PM
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Just use dating apps. Bumble worked great for me and all of my friends. I’m 30.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 12:49 AM
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His money won’t help you find a good husband. And his money is only available when you’re spending time and attention on him. Wasted youth isn’t worth money honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 03:40 PM
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I think you’re overthinking it. I like the bad excuse idea in theory, but there’s very few circumstances where it would work well and it’s more for when there is no other reason to talk to the guy. Usually there’s a better way to start a convo with a guy without potentially confusing him. “Hey I like that shirt it’s nice color” “hey what kind of drink is that? It looks interesting” “Hey aren’t you from Bulgaria, my family is from there too”, etc. If you’re attractive anything will work. If you’r…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 03:38 PM
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It definitely sounds like he thinks you’re dumb and annoying. Whether he’s right or wrong is irrelevant because you won’t be able to convince him otherwise. Does he have time to himself or time with just men? He sounds way too involved with your realm and possibly high estrogen due to being around you too much. Also, how often are you complaining to him? Men will try to solve your problems and when you don’t let them they get frustrated. They don’t realize you want to vent and don’t actually wan…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 01:31 PM
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Congrats!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 04:29 AM
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It’s time to make an appointment with your gyno and maybe a fertility doctor asap. I would focus on the fertility and not the PhD because baby has a time limit the PhD you can do when you’re 80 if you wanted to.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 02:07 AM
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Any books are good. YouTube is a great place to get a lot of opinions. The biggest thing is to stop thinking men are complicated beings because they aren’t. Women are 20x more complicated and men don’t operate like women. What do guys like: 1. Pretty women 2. Kind/ feminine women 3. Sex 4. Food 5. To be needed and loved. That’s it. There’s no conspiracy. They don’t give mixed signals to women they like. If he’s confusing you then you’ve already lost.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 07:12 PM
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All I can say is to listen to your gut. You feel something is off and that 99% means that it is. If it were me I’d probably push back on him and express my uncertainty about him. You can do it in a flirty way and gauge his reaction. If he seems concerned and receptive that’s good if he gets defensive and insinuates you’re stupid or anything else insulting you can see his personality shine.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 03:31 PM
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Sure, I’m 30, I’ve had quite a few men in love with me over my life. Guy friends from elementary school through high school that would show up at my house almost everyday. College boyfriends who would visit me for 10 mins before class started everyday and spent every evening with me, my now fiancé set up every next date with me within the first 3-5 minutes of our date. He would work 10 hour days plus 2 hour roundtrip commutes and still take me out on a date on a weeknight. We’d stay up until 1 a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 03:19 PM
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He’s not in love with you. You know that. I know that. He knows that, although he won’t admit it because he’s selfish and doesn’t wanna give up his free meals/sex. He’s not afraid of another guy coming in to swoop you up which is very dangerous for you. The question is what do you do from here given that information?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:25 AM
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Google says a top 1% earner is more than $800,000 per year in the US. A 1% earner and a “high value man” aren’t the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:20 AM
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The not wanting to see you frequently is concerning to me. The #1 way I know a man is in love with me is how often he wants to see me, especially in the beginning/honeymoon stage of the relationship. Also it shouldn’t take a man 2 years to commit to you. I’m scared that you’re a back burner/placeholder option for him. He’s comfortable with you and he gets sex from you when he wants it and hot meals, but what are you getting? Not even a card for Valentine’s Day? That’s a bad trade deal. The valen…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:06 AM
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Good partners are a commodity. If people have the means to pay for them or to travel to get them they will do it. You’re not wrong, and it’s not that surprising.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 01:54 AM
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I think you’re greatly overestimating your position in this child’s life. You have no position unless this man offers to marry you. Even then you’re “step mom” so you get very little say or authority. Basically you don’t have to worry about this and it’s too early to worry about it. You can ask him questions about his ex and kid and their parenting but you won’t get first hand knowledge for a long time. Dating a single parent is 90% of the time going to be a waste of your time because you’ll nev…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 08:49 PM
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Yeah if I was the dude I wouldn’t want OP to be around my kid yet either. If she blows up on the guy it’s going to implode the relationship. Which might not be a bad thing, if she can’t handle the single parent dynamic she signed up for. I’m not against dating single parents, but it’s a WHOLE problem guaranteed and you have to be prepared for that. If it’s been 12+ months then I’d say it’s time for you to meet the kid. Is this guy even trying to get remarried or is he happy just to have a gf to …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 08:21 PM
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I think it’s less about your feminine and more about you don’t like this guys energy. You may love him, but you don’t actually like him on a day to day basis. That’s not good and I don’t think it’ll get better in time. I’d self reflect on that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 04:05 PM
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You can’t really control your internal feelings, but you can control your outward feelings and actions. Obsessing isn’t necessarily a bad thing in some cases, but knowing when its inappropriate and how to hide it is key.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 12:31 AM
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Focus on what you’re looking for and advertise towards that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 12:29 AM
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I totally agree with you, but your frustration doesn’t do anything productive for you or anyone. My suggestion is to loosen your expectations for others and focus on your own life. Judging them or getting frustrated by them doesn’t get you anywhere. Vent to your husband but learn to let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 11:34 PM
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Literally anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 09:24 PM
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What does your boyfriend think about her?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 04:40 PM
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I assume the person has given reasons not to trust their words. I know when a man is in love with me. It’s easy to tell honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 01:14 AM
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It was something incredibly mundane. I don’t totally understand it myself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 11:02 PM
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If you live in an area where there are a lot of these guys I think you will have no issues at all. If you live in a hillbilly town with 1 of these guys chances are pretty low. Dating is a numbers game. Put yourself where these guys are. For me, online dating was great because there were a lot of professional guys my age in my area. Even certain bars had “types” based on what industries/jobs were nearby. One bar I called the “engineer” bar because every single guy who frequented there was some so…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 10:26 PM
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I had a literal “oh shit” moment on our 3rd date. He did something that I just had this internal reaction to that was like getting hit by a ton of bricks. It’s when I realized I could love him or he could be the one. The rest kind of matured over time as we got to know each other and actually fell in love.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 10:20 PM
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That sounds promising! I had huge success onbumble. I highly recommend it. Online dating is a boondoggle though, but it’s a good opportunity to meet people. You definitely have to spend time wading through bullshit but all opportunities are good opportunities to learn from.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 07:51 PM
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LDR’s can work sometimes for some people, but without the opportunity to vet each other thoroughly in person they can be huge wastes of time. You’re 27. It’s time to take dating seriously if your goal is to get married and have a family. You can definitely talk to this guy and see where it goes, but I’d definitely be trying to date locally and if this guy doesn’t seem like a serious longterm options over the next few months then move on. You should have at least 2 real dates with new people per …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 07:14 PM
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You need therapy today. This isn’t a healthy thought process and definitely don’t have children until you can stop obsessing over their looks. You will destroy them mentally. Focus on getting yourself healthy/treating the dysmorphia and then focus on what type of relationship you want and then maybe down the line focus on kids. It’s not normal to be obsessing over this at this point in your life. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:32 PM
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Um. Yes. Not that you can’t talk, but tone of voice definitely changes how people view you and respond to you. So does how you walk. I can’t stand women who clank around the house like they have steel toed boots on their feet that are 3 sized too big. It’s unfeminine and it’s annoying to me and these ladies were not big ladies. You’d assume they weighed 300 lbs if you didn’t physically see them. Like you can go up stairs without stomping. It’s possible. Plus your knees are gonna get messed up do…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 03:21 PM
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Yeah if anything I think overall Gen Z is going to be more traditional than my generation (millennials). They’ve seen the boomer generation, Gen x and millennials and have a better understanding of the world than any previous generation because …the internet. Tv, newspapers, and such can lie easily to people en masse, but the internet reveals the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:10 PM
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Yeah fantasy/talk is one thing. Doing it is a whole other thing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:06 PM
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I don’t think it’s just guys. A lot of women are also single/childless. Gen Z isn’t really any worse or better than millennials. They have their generational issues, but I know a lot of smart and capable Gen z who are quite traditional.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:51 PM
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First, wedding planning is hard. Second, give your fiancé specific tasks to do. Make a to do list or whatever. Guys don’t know how to plan a wedding. Third, my biggest concern is that you let your mom control this wedding and make it something you don’t even want and you didn’t stand up to her and say “thanks mom I really appreciate your offer but we’re going to have something small” and then stick to it. Instead you let yourself get railroaded and now you’re taking it out on your fiancé. It’s n…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:35 PM
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You did choose him. Don’t avoid accountability. You let him come in you and you birthed his two children. You choose this man and tied your life to him more strongly than any marriage license document would do.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:26 PM
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First idk what this has to do with redpill. Second this is super unnecessarily long. Redpill advice would be to put your children first ABOVE YOURSELF. That’s what your fiancé is doing. He seems like an overall good guy. Also get therapy. Also, don’t have kids out of wedlock. There’s tons of ways to not get pregnant and it’s on you as the person who can get pregnant to use birth control when having sex. You might as well get married and try to be a good wife to your husband. You had two kids wit…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:22 PM
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I think most men don’t want to raise a child alone.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:03 PM
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This is so true. My fiancé is 9.5 years older and I wouldn’t trade him for anybody on earth but we have to contend with him being an older father and statistically probably will go sooner so kids might have to deal with the passing of a parent younger or me a husband. BUT anything can happen. There’s no guarantees in life. I could go first, but women typically live longer anyway so it compounds when your husband is significantly older. I still wouldn’t change anything though. Life is very good f…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 10:13 PM
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You don’t. You’re not alpha widowed because you had one 1 month relationship at 21. My advice is try to get married by about age 30 if you want children. So you have about 8 years to settle down and find a husband. That’s 40% of the entire life you’ve live so far so…A LONG time. This guy was an interesting fling. Enjoy it for what it was and keep moving. You’re going to meet a lot more interesting people before you marry. Sex creates feelings so just know what you’re getting into if you have sex…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 10:09 PM
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Totally agree. I think it less has to do with what people call “maturity” which has nothing to do with age, but moreso your values and determining what you actually want out of life. To me mature just means “independent/responsible”. I know plenty of 16 year olds that are more “mature” than 50 year olds in their day to day life. But knowing what you value and what you want is another story. Those things change. Once you’re mature, you don’t really change on that. OP seems smart and well-adjusted…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 08:10 PM
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Men like younger women. And I love older men. I always have. Some people think that’s weird, but unless something is actually happening that’s questionable live your life. I think dating younger men is weird, but plenty of people do it so really it’s not. That’s just my opinion. Which is worth all of nothing to someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:37 PM
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This. My fiancé and I are 9.5 years apart. We were 28 and 38 when we met, so I think less concerning than if I was 21. We met through bumble so I initiated the conversation. We were honest about our ages upfront. I don’t think I’m any more “mature” now than I was at 21. I was graduated and working and living independently at 21. However, my political views and values are totally different now. So while I don’t think it’s bad to date someone older I’d moreso suggest people wait until age 25 ish t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:34 PM
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Dating apps. Just be smart about it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 06:23 PM
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Staying is much, much worse. Staying teaches your children that women are weak and must accept abuse. It also teaches them that you’d rather do what’s easier for you even if it means putting their lives in danger which teaches them that they aren’t loved or protected by their mother. There is no guarantee he won’t hurt these kids. If he’s willing to hurt you, he will hurt them if they piss him off enough and kids are stupid and hard to deal with sometimes. He will hit them. Eventually. And you w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 04:14 PM
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That’s good. I wouldn’t say you have to totally quit BUT there’s a difference between occasional use and regular use. Regular use is not good no matter the “drug”. I’d probably cut back.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 02:07 PM
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My mom and aunt were both 107 lbs when they got married. Over the last 30 years of my life I’ve seen their weight fluctuate all over the place. Having children, menopause, and stress, and other health issues like thyroid takes a toll. It’s not really something you can promise. You can try your best, but assuming you’ll stay what weight you are in your 20’s is not realistic. I assume he means “don’t let yourself go” which I agree people should stay on top of their health and looks because it’s a …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 01:32 PM
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“Days at a time” isn’t much. I think you’re more addicted than you want to admit. With that said, many Christians do drink and smoke, but if this is a daily thing then a high value partner is probably not going to put you in the highest esteem to be a potential spouse/parent.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 01:22 PM
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This is your heroin dealer bf?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 12:54 PM
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Give up? No, plenty of people of all levels of looks get married. Will you marry a tuxedo model? No. You’ll marry someone within your league and that’s OK
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 03:22 AM
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You’re taking your meds right?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 08:09 PM
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Have fun. Follow your gut. Don’t compromise your morals. Dating allows you to learn a lot about yourself and how other people operate. Unless you’re exclusive with someone you aren’t exclusive so you can go on dates with whoever you want.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 12:57 PM
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How old are you? How long have you been engaged? When is the wedding? It depends. Some days like the weekend we spend all day together. When he has to go into work maybe a few hours before bed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 12:55 PM
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No. There’s always going to be women around whether on Snapchat or real life. You can’t ban him from accidentally seeing them. You either trust him not to act on it or you don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 01:38 AM
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This is a really good observation. Is it ok to tell men your boundaries and expectations and such? Sure, but I agree to keep the talk to the point and to a minimum. Your values and how you engage with the world will speak more than your words to any other person. Words are just words actions are what matters. Another downside is that yeah, too much of that will scare even a good guy away because you are too demanding too fast but also will feed a manipulative man enough info to pretend to be wha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 12:13 AM
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Break ups hurt. I know that all too well. But if a relationship is something that you want then you’ll have to wipe off your scraped knees and try again just like you did when you first learned to walk or ride a bike. Take a full 3-4 weeks to just mourn this thing and then try again. Time does heal most wounds. And if you don’t want a relationship then simply put don’t pursue one. It’s ok to be happy alone. The main goal is your happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 12:06 AM
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So I kind of unintentionally dated for about 2 years Age 26-28 after a break up. I wasn’t ready to go all in and was just hoping to run into the right guy. I met a couple guys that were totally wrong for me. Overall it really didn’t work. It wasn’t a bad time, it just wasn’t working how I planned. Then Covid hit and I decided it’s time to get serious. I got a whole new wardrobe ( well going out/date clothes) and did online dating. Show some cleavage/dress younger basically.I went on dates with 6…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 10:31 PM
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If the ages were 23 and 25 I’d say it’s not time to panic, but at your ages I think your concerns are very valid concerns. First, congrats to him on being a mover. It’s a super needed job, and also super hard. Much appreciation to him on that. Second, what you’re seeing is that the 20’s are the most important financial formative years of your life. It’s when you make your mistakes and learn from them. It’s when you figure out your career it’s when you figure out your lifestyle and budget goals. …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 08:04 PM
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I’d ask for specific examples of times he felt you were disrespectful to him. Part of being a good leaders is taking charge and helping others not just “punishing” them. You’re not wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 01:04 AM
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Not to be mean but your standards are currently at a negative…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 12:57 AM
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Can you financially support yourself doing something that’s not prostitution?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 10:50 PM
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Not all, but a lot. Yes, attraction matters, but you’re attracted to someone who you describe as a sociopath so I’d do some soul searching on that. I recommend you be more open and get therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 10:49 PM
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What does a guys age matter if you don’t want children? Sorry to break it to you but 30-40 year old men probably want kids.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 10:18 PM
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Can you financially support yourself? Do you work? Also, I’m sorry for coming at you with the tough love. I won’t delete it because I still think it’s an accurate portrayal of the situation from an outsider BUT I realize going through your profile you’ve been through hell so it’s probably not what you need right now. Emotional abuse is often worse than physical abuse because people can’t see it and see who the “abuser” is. Emotional abuse is insidious because it destroys a person without leaving…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 10:15 PM
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He already has….. just not officially on paper. You’re the one raging about his cheating and asking if you should leave him. Not me. If you’re ok with the cheating then stay. I won’t judge you for that ESPECIALLY if the man is giving you lots of $$$. You do you. This economy is tough. If you’re not ok with it you either learn to accept it, or you can leave. He’s not going to change.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 09:46 PM
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She’s totally trauma bonded to this guy. It’s really really hard to un-trauma bond yourself but it’s possible.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 09:38 PM
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Sorry. You’re asking and you needed to hear it. Until you face the reality this will not get better. Coming from someone who dated someone with NPD. It’s no joke. If you actually believe that’s the case with your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 09:36 PM
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Personally, I believe my “sexiest” look is a pair of good fitting jeans and just a bra. My fiancé would probably tell you he prefers me naked to any clothing whatsoever. But something about being a skinny woman in jeans and a bra feels like a Victoria secret model. Jeans can be sexy if you have a nice shape and they fit you well. I hate real pants. I’d go with a skirt or dress before a “dress slack”. They’re more comfortable to me and looks nicer. As for the UTI’s I used to get them chronically …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 08:34 PM
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I love and I respect myself so no I wouldn’t deal with this. You clearly do not. Having self respect is hard because you have to make a lot of hard choices. Not having self respect is also hard because everyday could be a nightmare depending on how people treat you. You have no control over your life and you’re just getting battered over and over by other people. So no matter what you do the road ahead isn’t easy and I don’t envy your position/Situation. But you seem to be choosing longterm pain…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 06:35 PM
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This dude could be a great husband and father, just not in the same ways OP wants him to be. We all look for different things in a husband.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 01:00 PM
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We do if we respect him and he has more going for him that just his style.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 12:59 PM
8

I dated a guy kind of like this for 6 years. He was a great guy. He treated me well, BUT he was not meant to be my husband. Breaking up was hard, because really he had done nothing “wrong”. I was single for 2 years and then met my now fiancé who is the smartest guy I know who can do absolutely everything. Car repair? Yep, plumbing? Yep. Electrician? Yep. There is nothing he can’t do and it’s because he spent his life DOING. You don’t learn that stuff overnight. You have to start when you’re youn…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 12:52 PM
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Talk to him. You need breaks as well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 01:51 PM
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It’s the gym….. wear whatever you want.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 08:34 PM
1

Typically based on appearance for both. A guy can increase his with money and power. A woman can increase hers with above average sex appeal.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 04:34 AM
9

Yes, you should enjoy having sex with your husband. No, you’re not always going to be in the mood for sex and neither is he and that’s OK. My experience is that people go through sexual peaks and valleys. When you’re married you go through this together. For example, when my fiancé is going through stress at work he prefers sleep to sex. Especially at night when he’s tired. Now, on a week long vacation last summer where he was relaxed and having a fun time, we got back into the honeymoon phase w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 05:55 PM
4

As long as you’re both bringing value to the relationship it really shouldn’t matter much. Is he good at other things like car repair or home repair? There’s lots of value and even monetary value in specialized skills even if you aren’t using them to “make money” by being able to serve your family’s needs with those skills. I know plenty of relationships where the woman is college educated and the man is blue collar and there’s no doubt who is the “man” in the relationship. However, this dynamic…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 02:16 PM
5

Are these men that you’re in exclusive relationships with? Like you’re both in love and they just dip out when you get Covid? Or are these flaky relationships to begin with? I assume the relationship was already on shaky ground and we’re not “serious”. My suggestion is don’t have sex with someone who hasn’t committed to you. If you aren’t in an exclusive relationship then they don’t need sex. That’ll quickly weed out the guys who aren’t serious about you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 02:10 PM
4

Omg I struggle with this so much. I’m very type A. I’m a fast walker and talker and used to being independent and in charge. My fiancé (together 2 years) will literally struggle to beat me to the door to open it for me and it’s so nice but I just FORGET literally daily to let him do it. He likes doing it. I like him to do it, but it’s just never been ingrained in my yet. Sometimes I remember and wait and stand there awkwardly while he opens the restaurant door for me. I think this behavior is ni…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 02:05 PM
15

Making him food, complimenting him, listening to him, doing hobbies with him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 08:39 PM
3

If you live there someone has to deep clean. My fiancé do that together usually. Otherwise our daily chores are pretty starkly divided which works for us. Me: grocery shopping, meal planning, laundry, cooking dinner, house cleaning maintenance like vacuuming, making the bed, dusting Him: outdoor chores, car maintenance, home repair, cleans up after dinner, makes breakfast, trash/recycling We’ll also make to do lists, if we need to do other stuff like car inspections, thank you notes, anything ou…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 08:37 PM
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I met my Catholic - high value fiancé, on bumble when I was 28. Previously I met men at college. Definitely there is a skill of “knowing a good one when you see one”. Basically, how does he treat you? Is there any type of disrespect in his words, actions or tone? That’s how you tell. Good men aren’t defined by their money or their education it’s about their soul and character. It’s sometimes hard to tell in the beginning but as you talk to this person and spend more time with them they will show…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 08:28 PM
7

Secretive, Hiding his phone, staying out late. Same thing for women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 03:46 PM
1

True. Maybe she should just wait it out and see what happens.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 03:21 PM
1

Probably, but maybe she just has RBF. I’ve had some of my best friends now, come to me later and say “I thought you were really stuck up at first”. Really I’m just really shy around people I don’t know. Perception isn’t always reality, especially in the beginning. Confronting me directly would’ve caused a “wtf are you talking about” moment of confusion. Asking someone who knows me better would’ve been a good way to see if I’m really that way or what their experience has been.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 02:52 PM
6

What do you want? Do you want a clean home? People will do all types of things for the things that they want. As for practical advice I struggle with this as well. I’m not always an all star at it. Make a schedule. I use the recurring reminders app in my phone for specific things: vacuuming, washing bathroom towels, etc. besides that I have a favorite podcast. Just putting that on and tidying for 20 mins per day puts you in a good place. You can actually get a lot done in 20 mins and if you do t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 01:23 PM
5

Yes, definitely. Love is when you put other peoples needs and wants above your own without even thinking about it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 12:58 PM
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Personally I’d ask the friend about it. Typically I tend to ignore things like this, but I’d probably be like “hey xyz, what is up with Karen, I noticed she’s staring at me a lot and looks mad. You know her well, What’s her deal?” Try not to be accusatory or mean, you’re just asking a question.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 12:50 PM
3

That makes sense. The way he was explaining it really didn’t make a lot of sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:34 PM
3

Yeah…::.::::: NO. This will not end well. I promise you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:23 PM
2

I’m an extreme realist in my thoughts and personality, but I’m also extremely optimistic and positive person. I realize that there are a ton of bad people out there and a ton of good people. From just a spiritual view (not necessarily religious) the fact that most people do not default to bad and are capable of extreme love and self sacrifice is a miracle. From a realistic perspective that shouldn’t even exist. The fact that it does gives me a lot of hope. I find a lot of joy out of small things…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:20 PM
6

Therapy is good. Getting on medication (if you’re actually diagnosed with something) can work wonders in the right circumstances. But honestly…. 90% of it comes down to YOU. Humans are survivors. Your attitude towards yourself and how you want to live YOUR life ultimately determines your outcome. People have survived war, rape, holocausts, you name it and gone on to have positive attitudes and fulfilling lives. Is it easy? Nope. But it’s up to you how you deal with the bad stuff. Oprah survived …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 05:30 PM
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Gotta get the mental health under control. It doesn’t matter how feminine or hott you are if you’re batshit insane even some of the time men will run. Men want women with their lives together and a positive attitude. If you’re chaotic, don’t know what you’re doing with your life, bad with finances and emotionally depressed or problematic you have to work on those things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 05:17 PM
5

In short, our biological want to be “on top” and for our offspring to “be on top” sometimes supersedes our want for attractiveness/good sex. Women are extremely competitive. It’s in our nature. We want the absolute best for our children. If that means being with an older man who is not as attractive as he could be but provides a lot of value to us and our children then that’s a choice we may make. Do you think Melania trump cares about Trumps looks? She doesn’t. She was a nobody in a Slovenian v…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 05:13 PM
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Diet and walking. Those are the two biggest factors. Cardio is great, but you can get the same results eating healthier and just walking. You need a caloric deficit to lose weight. I’m not a fan of super strict diets, but eliminate fast food and learn how to cook. I haven’t had fast food in years and don’t miss it or the cost. Stick with mainly proteins and vegetables. Eliminate sugar as much as you can. I do not buy “snack” foods. We eat 3 meals a day. You don’t need snacks or desserts everyday…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 02:27 AM
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You have a really good heart. That’s very nice to see. Sometimes though good hearts can get trampled and cause a lot of problems. I agree with your boyfriend that this isn’t his problem to deal with, and that their untidiness will affect him and you and your relationship. You can definitely help your sister on your own without moving her into your house and making them your dependents. Cook and bake for her or offer to clean her house. There’s a million ways to help someone without moving them i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 02:20 AM
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Yeah, I’d just avoid putting yourself in a bad light which your examples do even if you don’t mean to. Saying “would I look better as a redhead” assumes you potentially don’t look as good as you could right now. That puts him in a tough place to answer even if you’re ok if he says “yea”. Leave it open ended. Don’t put words in his mouth.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 08:29 PM
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They way you’re phrasing things is making it kind of weird. You’re putting unnecessary pressure on him. Just ask him what he thinks without adding a modifier like “if that’s what you want” For example, “I’m thinking of dying my hair red. What do you think?” Or “I’m following your lead on this situation because I don’t know anything about car batteries”. Men want you to be happy. They realize trusting and depending on their man makes them happy but it’s also a lot of weight on their shoulders to …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 03:47 PM
5

Perfectly said.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 03:34 PM
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As long as it’s things other people can’t really see. Cook him dinner, do his laundry, mother him when he’s sick is all fine. Calling his doctor or boss on his behalf DON’T. Basically, avoid anything that removes his autonomy. You’re his helpmate. You’re not his boss or parent.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 09:07 PM
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Exactly. Porn is like junk food. If you have it once or twice a month (in a pinch) I’m not mad at that if it becomes a regular part of life there will be health consequences. Life is about moderation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 10:56 PM
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I really don’t care unless it is affecting the relationship. If I’m away or on my period and he wants to do that on his own I’m fine with it. I usually will initiate oral sex on him while I’m on my period, but I don’t like actual sex during that time. If it turns into he’d rather watch porn more than be with me then I’ll just exit stage left and he can have the porn and I’ll find a guy who is more interested in me. I don’t view it as cheating. If that’s what you’re asking.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 10:20 PM
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I understood your point, I think it’s valid, but I think your preference can also lead down a dark path if you aren’t careful with it. It’s a slippery slope into controlling if you don’t check it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:10 PM
2

I think sexual exclusiveness is a given. What you’re talking about is a preference you need to definitely vet for during dating.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 05:19 PM
5

Because a significant % of women are willing to have sex on the first date, or at least by date 3. That’s not me, but plenty of guys are used to women what are “easy” for lack of a better term. My rule for myself is when I feel comfortable and trust the guy. That’s definitely not date 1. But I’m hugely risk averse. I don’t take chances. Usually it’s a few weeks or months. My rule for others is at least not on date #1. I have a lot of friends who cried to me when they don’t get a call back after …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 01:22 PM
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Some people are workaholics. Some people can vibe with that. I personally can’t. Family and relationships are more important to me than ANY job or boss, but that’s me. It important to find a person who shares your values/priorities.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 03:30 AM
5

If he’s not meeting your needs why are you with him? Money? How long have you been dating?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 02:06 AM
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Not being able to have fun or flirt. Being too shy to the point a man loses interest. Playing too hard to get. There’s definitely women who think too highly of themselves and set standards too high and end up single and alone because nobody can actually fill those standards and they simply don’t live in reality and aren’t accepting towards others.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 11:21 PM
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Mainly reading books. Actual books. And actually getting out and doing things. Volunteer. Join a club, hobby, or church group. Work different jobs. Expose yourself to the world and the things and people in it. The more generous you are the happier you become whether it’s cooking homemade something for your own parents or aunt and uncle or neighbor… or coworkers and give money (if you can) to student groups, art groups, or charity. take your parents on a trip. I cannot explain to you the satisfac…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 08:26 PM
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Feminine in looks and demeanor Respects herself to a very high degree Worldly/wise (not to be confused with highly educated) education doesn’t always correlate to intelligence or wisdom. Not selfish. Provides value to her man and her family. Mentally stable. Peaceful, calm, collected, happy, positive. No crazy mood swings or initiating crazy drama. If you have all 5 you’re a superstar.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 06:35 PM
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That all sounds fine. I think you’re sometimes purposely downplaying your capabilities just like sometimes people over estimate their capabilities. There’s definitely value in being in the middle
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 02:05 PM
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Submission and allowing the man to lead is one thing. Being completely dependent is another thing. There is unhealthy dependency just like there’s unhealthy independence. I think you are actually bordering the unhealthy dependence. The swimming thing is actually dangerous. You need to be able to swim on your own and not depend on someone else. Entering bodies of water when you don’t know how to swim is dangerous. What if your husband needs help? You can’t swim to get help. What if he needs to he…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 12:25 PM
3

Sis I follow a few people just because their lives are TOTAL disasters and it’s entertainment. I realize that’s mean-spirited, but negative attention is still attention just not sure if that’s what you want. People who have their lives together aren’t that exciting, plus it makes other people feel bad because their lives are messy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 07:37 PM
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It’s really not possible to work fulltime and keep up a house AND raise a child. You can do maybe 2 of those maximum, but not all 3. He doesn’t want you to work. You want to work. You wanting to work means that’s time you can’t contribute to the house or the child. What are your priorities? What are his? You need to talk to him and know what those priorities are and if they don’t match then someone needs to compromise. He’s not wrong and you’re not wrong, you just have different priorities and e…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 01:59 PM
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I’ve never had sex with a man before 1-2 months in knowing each other. I’ve never had issues in getting relationships. I’m engaged now. Even at 28 years old I waited maybe a month or two like 10 dates before having sex with my now fiancé. Sure, a lot of guys didn’t want another after the first date if they didn’t get sex but let’s be honest those guys would’ve ghosted after sex anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 11:21 AM
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So I don’t have this backstory, my mom loved being pregnant and being a mom and had healthy pregnancies, but I’m absolutely terrified of both. I realize there’s no basis for my fear so I’m taking it in stride, but the fear is still real. Any words of encouragement from women who felt the same, but everything ended up fine are welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 12:09 AM
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Stay on the pill, if it’s working for you, but make out more. Mens saliva transfers testosterone to you upping your labido.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 08:30 PM
8

He’s a boy, not a man yet. He can be a great person overall, and maybe he’ll grow into a great man in the future, but right now he’s still a boy. If you’re looking for a man you have to date older.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 08:27 PM
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Agree. Plus, this relationship seems like a great way to get STD’s. Especially if drugs are involved. Drugs and sex are the dynamic duo.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 08:25 PM
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This is the case 90% of the time with the unfounded cheating accusations.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 07:34 PM
10

This.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 07:33 PM
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This is abuse. If he doesn’t trust you then this marriage will be a disaster. NEVER let someone track you. If they don’t trust you enough where they think that’s a good idea the relationship is ALREADY ruined beyond repair. This will not get better with time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 07:32 PM
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Ive dated people “conventionally” more attractive than my fiancé and he’s dated people “conventionally” more attractive than me. Those relationships were total shit shows. The hot to crazy scale is often a real thing. Good relationships are about a lot more than just looks. Looks are your resume to get in the door. After that you actually have to interview for the relationship with what you bring to the table overall. You gotta have confidence and contentment in yourself or you’ll sabotage every…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 03:24 PM
3

Redpill women and regular redpill are totally different
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 02:05 AM
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Idk what this post has to do with redpill but… Why would you have a baby with someone you’re not married to? That’s my #1 question. Doing that is ASKING for issues and you asked and you got them. I’m not sure what you expected?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 12:46 AM
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You should ask the kids question before 6 months into dating, especially over age 30. It’s up to you. How badly do you want kids? Also, why the hell would you put all the work into a nursing degree if you’re not really going to use it? It’s a great degree and you can make great money, but it’s not stay at home friendly. I think you REALLY need to decide what YOU want. There’s no right or wrong answer. We’re all different and different things make us happy/fulfilled.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 10:03 PM
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This. And once you see disrespect/abuse going on you need to NIP it immediately. It doesn’t get better after the first few times. It only gets worse as you allow it to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:14 PM
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I met my fiancé at 28
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:56 PM
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What about getting engaged? Have you ring shopped? And him having that timeline is fine. If your timeline doesn’t match his then you need to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you and you’ll have to find a new man to knock you up sooner lol.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:53 PM
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I think everyone is different and you should do what works for you both. Sleep is important. It’s kinda taboo in some regions not to sleep in the same bed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:47 PM
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That’s true. And communicating clearly that she doesn’t agree with his timeline and thinks that they should start sooner AND make sure that he even wants 3 kids. My fiancé proposed in 9 months. I did ALL of the things you suggested plus we would sit down together, pop a bottle of wine and talk about these things: When we want to get married, when we want to have children, how many children. We did this before we got engaged, and we do premarital counseling which I think everyone should do just t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:09 PM
1

Yeah, I knew a girl with BPD. She was totally normal, extremely smart and a great student (masters degree) when she was on her prescribed medications. Then one time she decided not to take them, she then bought a gun, got arrested for domestic violence, and spent a month in a mental health clinic. My friends have cut her off because she’s too dangerous to risk being friends with because she’s not good about keeping her illness treated. Go to therapy. BPD is a brain chemical imbalance that can on…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 03:31 PM
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This isn’t necessarily wrong information, but this assumes the man is ready for marriage and looking for this. At 29 he could be ready, or he could wait until later 30’s.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 02:41 PM
2

If you enter a relationship broken, you won’t leave fixed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 11:54 AM
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When does he want to get engaged? Married? Those should come before a baby.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 11:35 AM
1

Absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 02:26 AM
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I’m 30. 5 years ago I was reading “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandburg and now I’m focused on cooking homemade meals for my fiancé and basically “quiet quitting my job”. I may quit when we have kids. People change. It takes time though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 09:30 PM
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So you two have extremely different values about the roles you want in the relationship. He has adopted the “normal” two income household way of life and you want an old school traditional way of life. Both are totally fine individually but you can’t do both. Being “equally yoked” is the main driver of a successful marriage. My two cents is that he’s way to young to be convinced he needs to be the sole bread winner for a family. It’s too much pressure for him right now. Maybe in time he will gai…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 09:27 PM
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I think you’re a good person and the world would be really great if everyone was like you. With that said the longer you focus on mom and not on finding a man to give your love and goodness to and children of your own those people are missing out and so are you. I don’t think you totally have to cut mom off, but I think your sister has a good approach which is to set limits and boundaries and focus on her own family first. It’s ok to put mom 4th. Life should be: God, Husband, Children, and rest …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 08:10 PM
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Basically, you have to decide whether you let this situation hinder your ability to have a fulfilling relationship and family of your own or not. You can’t change the situation, you have no control over it AT ALL. None. Some people let things they can’t control control them and some people don’t. It’s literally as easy, and as hard, as just making the choice which person you want to be. I decided very young that I was the person who said “Fuck it”. And just dove full speed ahead into what I actu…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:00 PM
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You sound very stressed about it? You’re young, but you’re not too young IF this is what you want. Do you trust him? Do you think he would try to get you pregnant before marriage purposely?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 06:50 PM
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I would say it’s totally normal as your relationship gets more serious and you’re setting a timeline for engagement and marriage. Definitely get married before you get pregnant though. The timeline makes sense here even given the 5 years comment. 1 year until engagement, 1-2 years to plan a wedding, that puts you at 3 years out and getting pregnant can take time or maybe you want to enjoy marriage for a year or so before a baby so yeah that’s 4+ years from now.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 06:21 PM
2

Almost Amish
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 07:15 PM
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All I can say is that I’m incredibly happy and when I wake up everyday with my incredible fiancé in my beautiful home I’m just so thankful for the life I have and didn’t even know it was possible to be this happy. Is it work? Yeah, being a traditional couple is work for both of us, but so is being non traditional with less gain in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 06:30 PM
3

This is so true.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:51 PM
2

Agree. Plus I had a lot of people make fun of my nose both as a child and an adult. I’m confident, and I got boyfriends with my previous nose, but part of my reasoning for getting the surgery was hearing people make comments about it. No matter how confident you are it still hurts so I was like f it, I have the money let’s just fix this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:45 PM
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I got a nose job. I think it totally helped me date more attractive guys. I think it took me from a 4-5 to a 6-7 in looks. I had a large hump and and it was crooked. Definitely the quality and attractiveness of men I dated afterwards was different. I’m engaged now. I didn’t initially tell my fiancé, but it kinda came up and I told him minimal info about it. He doesn’t seem phased. I’m not against natural looking plastic surgery. Neither are guys because most of the women they find hot, aka celeb…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 05:22 AM
5

The flight thing is super manipulative. Like what
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 10:42 PM
3

I wouldn’t miss out on things I legitimately really wanted to do for just a bf. Long distance is hard. These types of things are much easier if both of you can do these things together. It makes it so much safer for you and he doesn’t have to worry all night. You’re in college. If you want to party, then party. BUT realize it can be risky and don’t do things you’ll regret, because you can’t go back in time and undo them. I partied in college. I never hooked up with anyone ever and I never got su…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 10:39 PM
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I get it. Idk exactly what to call it. Maybe lack of deep connection? Lack of a heart to heart or soul connection. It’s a thing. It took me 3 dates to get that soul connection with my now fiancé. Up until then he was pretty reserved. He was nice and polite and we shared a lot of values, but it wasn’t until he started to kind of open up that I actually fell for him, because without that you really don’t know the person deeply. It was his humor that sold me. It wasn’t like some personal informatio…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 04:34 PM
2

I’m all for not being too hasty in dating, but I think 6 dates is very solid and if your feelings haven’t developed by 6 dates it may be time to end it. Humor is important. Humor is how people see the world and others in it. Ideally you do want someone who understands yours. Kissing can improve and things like that, but authenticity is important and if you can’t get a good picture of that I’d be weary.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:08 PM
2

How many dates have you been on?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 04:22 AM
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This all seems healthy and well thought out. I’ll just say guys in their 20’s generally aren’t ready for marriage. A lot are ready for longterm relationships though. Just be cognizant that the human brain doesn’t fully develop until 25 and you’ll likely be a whole different person at 26 than you are now. Just be smart. Don’t do things you think you’ll likely regret, but take advantage of opportunity to experience life.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 08:21 PM
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Yes. Women hold the keys to sex, men hold the keys to a relationship/marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 04:33 PM
2

Ok you kinda scared me, but that sounds healthy and something to be proud of!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:51 PM
2

My fiancé and I are super traditional and I’m pretty redpill. With that said, my fiancé thinks I’m incredibly intelligent and we talk about everything and he asks my advice on a lot of things. Even home improvement stuff, which I have no actual experience with, but I have worldly knowledge and can be helpful at times. Actually, most of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 01:51 PM
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It sounds like overall he is a bad man. A good man never, ever says things like this and doesn’t take pleasure in baiting and offending others. I don’t suggest that you submit to a bad man, because that makes you complicit in his badness. It sounds like you have very little dating experience which explains why this is confusing. He’s a bad guy. There’s lots of bad men out there and lots of good ones. You’re smart though that you’re recognizing something is wrong here. You’ll have more understand…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 01:48 PM
5

You’ll have to give an actual example.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 01:16 PM
1

Then what happened?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 12:59 PM
4

This is all really good and detailed!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 07:50 PM
14

Divorce is really really hard on kids. The instability is really difficult. I don’t really know much you can do other than try your best. A kid won’t see that, but as he grows into an adult he will.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 05:32 PM
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I’ve been with my fiancé almost 2 years. We’re getting married this spring. We’ve never had a “fight”. If you have agreeable and similar personality types and also try to be as respectful as possible there really should be minimal conflict.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 04:44 PM
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This. Same experience as you. Guys appreciate the offer but 90% will refuse.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 03:56 AM
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Pinterest. That’s I get 90% of my recipes
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 03:50 AM
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Sounds like a plan! It is scary. But I’ll tell you I left a guy worse than that and stayed longer than I should too. I took about a month to get my mind right after that. That part is important. Took a lot of scenic drives where I just listened to music and contemplated and cried if the mood hit me. Then I met my fiancé 1.5 months later.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 05:02 PM
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The only real black mark here is she didn’t respond fast enough to a bad situation. Instead she froze like a scared deer. That caused her to waste precious time, but more importantly letting someone get away with disrespect causes you to disrespect yourself. Her dignity took a hit, not by him, but by herself. It’s not the end of the world though. She has time to find the right guy. I met my high value fiancé when I was 28. We were engaged in 9 months and will be married in the spring. She has to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 06:40 AM
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I’m sorry. You can’t control other people. The sooner you figure that out the less valuable time you will waste.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 06:33 AM
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Nobody has perfect parents or upbringing. The only thing that matters is how YOU decide to live your life. If you want to blame them for your issues that’s fine, but it won’t help you achieve what you want. If you live in the West you can do literally whatever you want. YOU are in charge. Redpill isn’t for everyone. It’s no problem if it isn’t for you. There’s no difference in you disparaging us and what your parents did so make a decision to not end up just like them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 05:56 AM
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Absolutely you did. No need to question yourself or your gut. If anything it took you too long to break up. He was on dating apps swiping on other women 9 months into your relationship. He didn’t respect you. Where there’s a lack of respect there can NEVER be a healthy relationship. Now you know. Good job!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 06:23 PM
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I never said it was. You can meet people that way, but you have more limited in person interactions compared to dating apps.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:50 PM
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It’s extremely hard to meet people outside of OLD. Not impossible, but difficult because society views men approaching women outside of bars as creepy and even sexual harassment. It’s always worth a try though at church, and hobbies and volunteering where you’re friends/acquaintances first. 3 years of serious OLD should get you somewhere. What types of guys are you going on dates with? How are you choosing them?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:27 PM
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Gifts aren’t the issue. Whether a person uses them against you is the issue. The first time that happens it’s time to evaluate the relationship and the guys character.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:21 PM
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This would make me very upset as well. If he has actual issues with what you cook I’d listen to that. For example, too spicy, too bland or whatever his actual constructive criticism is that’s fine. At the same time complaints to your spouse should be kept to a minimum if you want a happy marriage. You’re still going out of your way to cook which is a lot of work. I’d have a serious convo with him. What exactly does he want you to do differently? Does he want to be the primary cook? Or is he just…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:17 PM
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A very important one to a lot of people.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 04:09 AM
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Agree with you, but dating apps are fine if you’re smart. I found my very Catholic fiancé on bumble. You definitely have to be smart in how to filter matches and going on dates. Drive yourself in the beginning. Send your location or do location sharing with a friend or relative, etc. Online dating was a lot of work, but it is a way to meet people you would never otherwise meet. Think about it. Your grandparents went to weekly dances/dance halls to meet people and men back then asked our waitress…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 06:07 PM
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I avoided online dating for 2 years. During those 2 years, I had one date with a 36 year old who lived with his mom. I got on bumble. I went on 5 dates. Had 2 relationships and my fiancé ended up being date number 5. All of this happened in the span of 4 months and during Covid. Be open to in person dating, that can always work, but dating apps get you a lot of opportunities you wouldn’t otherwise have. My fiancé lived 5 miles from me for 7.5 years, but we would never have met without bumble. We…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 06:00 PM
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Appearance is the #1 thing. Appearance gets you dates. Appearance doesn’t get you a ring though. Guys won’t marry a 10 if she won’t be a good wife and mother. What can you do to improve your appearance? 1. Hygiene. Be clean and smell good 2. Eyebrows. Get them waxed or threaded if they’re bushy 3. Teeth. Proper hygiene and whitening. 4. Makeup and hair. Learn how to do a light natural makeup and find a hair color that suits your complexion. 5. Clothes. Show off your skin without being slutty. Sk…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 02:49 PM
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Agree. Middle school made me have to get unbelievably tough and while it helped me survive school which is good. It’s hard to recalibrate later in life.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 02:19 PM
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I didn’t mean ask permission or actually change her hobbies. I used that verbiage in order to information gather from him what his actual thoughts are about it. He may have zero issue with it, and actually I think that’s the case it’s just his tone was weird. You should always try to get people to clarify their thoughts especially when you think it’s something negative. 99% of the time you realize it’s not, and 1% it is and they backtrack on it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 02:17 PM
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Maybe. It sounds like things are going well. You can always just ask him. “Hey it seems like maybe you’re not happy that I’m knitting. What’s that about? What would you rather I do?”
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 10:02 PM
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Femininity is key, but men also want a partner and wife who can pull weight as life gets more serious. That doesn’t mean you have to be high earning or tough on the outside, but they do need you to be competent and capable because they can’t watch over you 24:7. It sounds like you have the feminine side down pat, but maybe you could work a little on the other stuff. Maybe do some workouts or learn something new? I’ll tell you trying to find that line of capable v. Overstepping is kind of hard. I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 09:26 PM
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100% this. I too was pretty aggressive and intimidating and boss bitch whatever. Then I hit 28, and went through a weird relationship where I got to see what it was like to love someone but they were standoffish and mean (something I thought was powerful) from the other side I realized it’s not the right way to live. I found my now fiancé 2 months later and couldn’t be happier. I’m feminine. I’m submissive (in a good way). I love cooking and being loving and gentle. I didn’t know life could be t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 05:22 PM
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That’s normal, but to drive yourself to your destination you can’t get there by looking in the rear view mirror. You have to focus on the road ahead. You can do this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 05:16 PM
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Well then you don’t have a lot of time to waste mourning over the guy that’s not your husband. You can spend some if you need to. Take a break and have a cry, but you need to spend more time dating new guys and refreshing yourself for a new relationship. Girl, after my last break up, I spent two months crying in my car in a bank parking lot because I had roommates and didn’t want to do it at home. It sucked. BUT those moments dwindled and I found my now fiancé 2 months later. Let yourself grieve…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 03:02 PM
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Delete his number. Delete his photos. Make it so you can’t be physically reminded of him. The rest takes time. Breaking up is a grieving process. You go through stages. Some times are worse than others. Other than that though you’re 27. Do you want to be married by 30? If so, it’s time to start dating again with the intention to marry. Write down the things that you learned from the last relationship about him and about yourself and about the relationship in general. Use that to help guide you i…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 02:37 PM
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Take a breath. The situation sucks, but none of this is the end of the world. Plenty of people overcome worse than this. You need to decide you want a better life than this. That means learning how to do things the right way which is much differently than what your family does. How old are you? If you’re over 18 you need to be working 40 hours per week. Whatever the disability is you have to power through it. At least temporarily until you stabilize yourself. You should NOT be losing jobs. You h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 02:32 PM
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Butter and salt and pepper and you can use jarred minced garlic. I’ll be honest I ONLY use frozen vegetables in homemade pot pies and maybe stir fry. Other than that I use real vegetables sautéed in a pan with butter or olive oil. I suggest learning to make real and not frozen eventually for your future man. Men love good food. You could make a white sauce for veggies easily with butter flour and salt and pepper. Not super healthy but tastes good.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 02:26 AM
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Wedding groups are pushing OP into having a gay wedding when she’s straight? That’s really weird.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 08:51 PM
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Why would it if you’re straight? I’m so confused.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 08:48 PM
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I don’t understand what’s particularly redpill about wedding planning?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 06:20 PM
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I don’t personally do it in my relationship and my high value man is Catholic and therefore probably would not stray outside of the relationship. At the moment he has all he wants at home with me. If you aren’t fulfilling your guys’s needs then I think this becomes more of a serious question, especially if he’s providing you with things that you want/need. Plenty of extremely rich guys have something on the side, but we’re talking a really small amount of men. Or if he’s just a cheater then that…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 04:43 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 12:56 PM
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They’re pretty simple. Whereas; women can be extremely complicated. They aren’t super emotional. They are easily satisfied with food and sex and a comfy chair. Ultimately they crave peace and kindness and goodness from women. Women often don’t crave peace. We often crave chaos. I’m pretty masculine in my personality and I’m still guilty of this especially on my period. Which is what causes a lot of relationship problems. If you realize how to make him happy and realize the pros and cons of both …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 10:01 PM
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Learn to cook and learn how men think. If you master those two things, you will have men falling at your feet to marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 08:25 PM
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I agree. You need to have a talk. Get his side of the story why he couldn’t do these things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 08:24 PM
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I don’t think it’s a money problem. It’s a relationship problem that you need to talk about. You aren’t acting as a team.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 07:50 PM
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Why couldn’t you get the gift? It’s your parents, not his. It makes more sense coming from you. Gift giving is traditionally a pretty feminine activity. Guys typically don’t care about it as much. It sounds like maybe you could be putting in more effort than you are to be a feminine helpmate to your man, which may help him sit more naturally around your family and in his masculinity, but idk the whole picture here.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:56 PM
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Don’t make the convo about how you felt about it. First try to understand his point of view. After he’s had time to respond then you can tell him how it made you feel. Don’t start with negative emotions. That’ll guarantee the convo goes straight to disaster mode.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:48 PM
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Don’t tell him how you felt. Don’t criticize his behavior. Ask him about it and why he was so tried and why he didn’t seem comfortable this time. Most times people don’t have nefarious intentions for bad behavior. A lot of times other things are going on that can be explained.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:46 PM
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I would ask him about it tonight. Non confrontational. Avoid criticism- we all react badly to criticism even the best of us. Just ask what was going on. “Hey I noticed you were so tired, we’re you feeling ok?” “I also noticed you didn’t feel comfortable getting yourself a drink and food, why was that?”
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:44 PM
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When you sat him down and asked him about what happened what did he say?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:19 PM
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As an introvert who hosted 5 of my family members for 4 nights at our house over Christmas I slept a lot too. Socializing is exhausting for me. Luckily it’s my family that I’m super close with which doesn’t drain me as much, but when you add in my fiancés family and I have to socialize with 15 people for hours on end it’s exhausting. It sounds like his social battery was low. I’d cut him some slack there. I had to chug several cups of coffee Christmas night to stay awake for my guests. Overall i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:00 PM
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Ah yes. Croatians are typically really nice. The women are sweet and the men adore them. From my experience, they’re very respectful of women. Actually went to some topless beaches there and was absolutely amazed by how the men don’t stare or do anything disrespectful even with a topless woman. I don’t know many Ukrainian, but Polish women can be mean and tough and the guys can be very disrespectful making the women need to be even tougher. I was fully clothed with multiple layers and got groped…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 01:59 PM
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I think it’s a cultural thing. I’m American but have a lot of Polish friends. They joke that complaining is a Polish past time. It’s normal/socially acceptable to complain a lot there as small talk and such, but it’s not like that in the US so sometimes it comes across as annoying and weird to me. It has come across as rude and disrespectful in certain settings as well. How you solve the problem is you can try to adapt to his preferences. It sounds like he wants you to soften up. Try leading cri…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 01:23 PM
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Men typically aren’t big on dates in general. They do it to woo you in the beginning, but once you’re in a relationship they don’t realize it’s necessary to keep things fun and entertaining. You have to tell him EXACTLY what you want and when and explain that it’s super important to you. Guys don’t always get it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 06:15 AM
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No are you? Long distance: Playing online games together isn’t a real relationship. What is the longterm plan here?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 05:59 AM
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Can you plan the dates?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 05:32 AM
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It’s not a decision for him. He’s simply not ready yet. It’s a decision for you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 02:58 AM
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The problem is she’s saying no to a thing she’s been doing for years. She’s just tired of doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 05:08 AM
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Is he willing to get therapy?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:41 AM
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She married a beta dude knowing that he’s a beta. He’s not going to turn into an alpha now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:41 AM
1

It sounds like he has issues like social anxiety.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:37 AM
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Do you want to have a husband who dislikes your family who is very important to you?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:28 AM
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You have to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you. It’s sounds like he’s not giving up this friendship. If it comes down to you or her and you make him decide….what’s his move?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:27 AM
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Totally agree. My fiancé proposed 9 months from our first date. He bought the ring about 7 months in. When a guy knows. He knows. He does not play around.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:19 AM
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I agree. Well then I guess your decision is made here?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:12 AM
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So he doesn’t like your family. That’s problematic. Are you going to leave your family and cling to him? Or will you let it be a problem in the relationship forever?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 03:53 AM
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So you’re 28. Do you want to be married by 30 ish? Do you want kids one day?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 03:44 AM
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4.5 years. When is he proposing?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 03:34 AM
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Typically with those types of phone calls being kind and feminine actually gets you better results. Always try that first. IF that doesn’t work then hang up and have husband call. That way you DID the task, but you maintained your femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 03:32 AM
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With that kind of stuff I think it’s fine for it not to happen. If he’s asking you to go way outside of your comfort zone then just say you’re not comfortable and move on. Let him do it or let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 03:23 AM
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It really depend on what it is you don’t want to do. You and your husband should have different “realms”. Aka, things that you’re primarily in charge of and things that he’s primarily in charge of. These should be agreed upon. I’m pretty sure Laura’s “I can’t” thing is for people who are not your husband. People who emotionally or physically drain you and keep you from fulfilling your duties as a wife and overwhelm you. If you’re redpill and your husband puts you in charge of something you shoul…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 02:29 AM
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I met my fiancé at 28 after 4 months on a single dating app. Location, location, location. If you know the type of guy that you want, you have to date in the areas that those guys live/work. Also, at 30, you should have your age preference 30-42 ish for guys.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 12:56 AM
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My fiancé is a high value Catholic man. Obviously the tenants and gender roles taught in the Bible do line up with redpill. You don’t have to be religious to hold these values or want these roles in your relationship, but in our case it kind of solidified those for us.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 04:04 PM
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They exist. That’s a very small minority of people though.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 03:21 PM
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It’s true for mature men. With that said, nice girls don’t equal doormat. Mature men still need you to be able to fend for yourself and your kids because they can’t watch over you 24-7. But yes they want you to be loving and kind to them and the children. Immature guys, like immature women, are often chasing more excitement. It’s normal when you’re young to want the crazy girl and not the nice girl. Same with women. So your answer is that it depends on the phase of life the guy is in. Looking fo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 06:14 AM
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I think the statistic stems from the majority of people not cohabitating are pretty devout Christians (or other religion) which is the primary reason they won’t live together before marriage, and also the primary reason they’re less likely to divorce. Marriage is a more serious sacrament to them and they consider divorce as a very serious sin against God. I don’t think the statistic actually has to do with the living together being the actual problem with the future marriage. For example, my own…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/22 02:14 AM
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I think that’s true. Luckily my count was 3 at age 28 when I met my fiancé. Which I think is pretty low comparatively to others. He doesn’t know that though. I assume his is more than mine, but I don’t know for sure. If you hold yourself in high esteem and have self respect I really doubt men are going to ask. I’ve never had anyone ask. I think if a guy asks you he’s already slightly doubtful of your self respect. Idk though. That’s just been my experience.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 11:54 PM
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It’s only important if you think it’s important. I don’t think it’s important. Some people do and that’s fine.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 07:55 PM
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Why would I want to know that? I can’t change it and it doesn’t affect our relationship now.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 07:51 PM
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Don’t do things for them that remove their autonomy. Don’t schedule their dr. Appointment. Basically anything that doesn’t involve you -you should use discretion in doing for them. Cook them dinner. Do their laundry if you want. Things within the household are fine, but avoid external things.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 01:48 PM
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Bullying people “weaker” than him makes him feel better about himself. He’s a coward and the actions stem from insecurity. I would tell you to get him therapy, but at 40 I don’t know if it’ll help. Has he ever tried therapy?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 01:16 PM
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You married a coward and a bully. I don’t know that you can make him not be those things. Did you know this before you married him?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 03:57 AM
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lol I want to know this too. Like a swinger party or orgie sounds like
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 10:07 PM
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Never been asked, not even by my now fiancé. We have a very general idea about each other’s pasts but I don’t know his n count and he doesn’t know mine.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 09:37 PM
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Watch the movie Gone with the wind. Channel your inner Scarlett aka survival instinct. You’re going to be fine. It takes time to move on but you will.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 05:23 AM
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While men generally don’t get emotionally attached during sex like women often do, they do view sex with their wife differently and more intimate than random sex. There’s actually a famous Reddit post on ask men saying if you could have sex with anyone who would it be and the top post was someone saying their wife that had passed away too young. They explained that they loved her deeply and would do anything feel that love and intimacy one more time. It was really uplifting because he could’ve s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 02:43 PM
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A man not enjoying wedding planning is normal. Most don’t really care about the details. They see it as a waste of money really and they don’t care what type of napkins you have. The bigger issue here is that you both have fundamental values that are different. That’s going to make wedding planning very difficult, but also everything else in life. One of you has to constantly yield to the other. It sounds like your values and traditions are taking the lead. He’s yielding to you, although he’s ve…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 08:40 PM
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When are you getting married? Who pays for what now? How much “extra” money do you have left over each month?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 05:08 AM
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Unsupervised heaters are very dangerous. There are electric and propane and such, but I wouldn’t leave it unattended. I’d probably just do your hook idea and leave a blanket and slippers there to wrap up in. How old are you? Can you not afford your own place with your bf? I know prices are crazy right now, but it’s obviously ridiculous that one person needs an ENTIRE fridge to themselves. But it sounds like aunt has some sort of hoarding issues or something.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 05:06 AM
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I read a book while my fiancé watches football all the time. I’ll look up sometimes and watch the guys all tackle each other, but then read my book. I wouldn’t force my fiancé to watch 3 hours of Riverdale lol. It’s ok to do separate things in the same room.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 04:57 AM
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It means you’re pleasant to be around. It could be a way to compliment your looks as well, it would depend on the context. Was he gesturing towards your outfit or was this during a conversation. Also was he making eye contact and flirting?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 07:48 PM
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Yeah it’s going to be hard for someone to accept that their partner of 8 years now wants a drastic change to themselves and the relationship. You can try talking to him and seeing if he can join you in the journey. He may want to, but I’d give it a time period. Try it for 6 months and if both of you aren’t happy with the changes it’s probably best to start over.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 07:28 PM
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Absolutely agree. I did this and it worked well. I knew I wanted to earn at least $40-50k starting out (this was 10 years ago). My dreams were to have a nice apartment/townhome and be independent so I needed at least that much. Therefore I chose accounting. Starting salary 43k. 8 years later I’m at 123k. I love my job and the money is very good. Knowing the ROI is especially important when you’re borrowing money for a degree which I had to so paying the loans off quickly was important to me. I p…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 07:12 PM
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That’s so funny. Yeah on my second date with my fiancé I saw his last name for the first time. And my brain literally said “fuck. That’s not going to be your last name. It just doesn’t fit right. He’s not the one”. But it is going to be my last name and I couldn’t be happier about it! And he’s 110% the one. I’ve seen a lot of girls and guys give up to fast or expect some sort of fairytale intro. Falling in love with a stranger is dangerous. I wouldn’t recommend it in real life. Real love takes t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:40 AM
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Could be. Just logically speaking nobody dates someone for a year without having some attraction to them. And even if they did (unlikely) nobody tells the other person that without having sociopathic traits. That’s why the “it’s not you, it’s me” is a cliche it’s a “nice” way to break up with someone because honestly the reason is irrelevant all that matters is it’s time to end it. That’s hard enough to do without emotionally traumatizing the other person on purpose.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 02:45 AM
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This is so long and honestly your mind is so chaotic I’d suggest therapy. Your school should offer it. I think it’s good you’re trying to figure things out and you’re very young so you have plenty of time. Nobody has this stuff figured out at 20. Do read the previous post about college educated women. It’s a good thing to strongly consider even if it’s not for you in the end. As for the online boyfriend or whatever. I would honestly bet that your attractiveness was NOT the reason he left. Did yo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 10:31 PM
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Totally agree. Education is an expectation of most people who are educated and come from educated families. Educated families are wealthier especially if they have been educated for a long time (multiple generations). If you want to marry into these families there are expectations that you can “fit in”. There are also studies that indicate that a higher educated mother is beneficial to children’s intelligence. This makes sense because kids spend a lot of time with mom so the better her vocabular…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 08:58 PM
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Keep improving yourself and dating. I met my fiancé at 28, engaged at 29, married at 30. All you can do is be serious about dating efforts. I think too many women don’t take it seriously. They just expect guys to do all the work and come to them. It doesn’t work that way. You have to be deliberate. You have to know what you want and be realistic about what the guys that you want want from you. Also don’t give up easily. Know your worth, but I see so many women discard a guy because they didn’t “…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:31 PM
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I mean that’s good. Looks will definitely help you get dates. They won’t help you hold down a man though or garner commitment. That comes from personality. If all you’re bringing is your looks guys will hit it, but then marry a less attractive woman with better motherly and wife qualities. Looks are like a college degree. It’s good to have because it gets you into an interview/date. However that’s where their value ends. At that point it’s up to who you are as a person (not the degree) whether y…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:20 PM
3

Average women date and get married everyday. There’s nothing wrong with being average. 80% of people are average. I’ve had rhinoplasty. I definitely think it helped in my dating life BUT don’t think it’s going to make you “beautiful” or guarantee any type of relationship. Unless you get every surgery available you’re still going to look like you. Surgery can improve a single aspect of your looks, but if you go in with the unrealistic mindset that you’re going to go from average to beautiful thro…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:06 PM
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I’ve seen as people are married longer they tend to spend less time with each other. How long have you been married? I’ve definitely seen men who don’t want to be home too much with their wives so they work extra or join league nights or whatever. For whatever reason home isn’t a peaceful or relaxing place for them. Other times guys just don’t realize how much attention women need. We crave attention from the men we love. We want quality time together and date nights and while a guy is content t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 03:45 PM
1

How would you rate your financial situation? How about sex life? Sex and money are probably the biggest 2 issues that lead to relationship problems.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:39 AM
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It goes both ways. I think both men and women view having a romantic partner as a status symbol. In that way, both men and women are commoditized. At the same time, both men and women yearn for emotional connection. Someone to share their lives with. As a woman who is at marrying age, we all love our husbands or future husbands, but we all show off our rings, and cars, and houses to show off what our man provides for us financially and not always what he does for us emotionally. We often equate …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:24 AM
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Is the parents living with you permanent? I’m all for helping parents out BUT that changes the dynamic of your relationship with your husband because now you are essentially parents AND caretakers. He’s now essentially burdened with you, his children, and his elderly parents. Even if things seem ok on the surface, deep down that’s a huge burden for him to carry. That could be affecting his mood more than your “redpill” behavior. Not convinced his change in behavior is because you appreciated him…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 06:18 PM
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When are you moving out of his parents house? I don’t care how nice parents are, your family living in the same house as parents sets a weird dynamic. Roles are confusing. There’s less time for privacy and intimacy and even the smallest things kinda blow up because your whole foundation of life is on unstable/borrowed ground. He may feel weird doing chores in his mother and fathers house. It may feel emasculating to him on top of having to live with parents in the first place. And It’s very impo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 04:19 PM
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I’m sure your husband did stupid things at age 19-20 and I’m sure there’s some you don’t know about. Not a good look to hold it against him now. Having grace is a good RP trait.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 01:10 AM
1

Quaker kid is funny AF. I’d buy him a beer and listen to him talk about stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 11:51 PM
8

My opinion is: NEVER give out negative information about yourself VOLUNTARILY when you’re trying to get a job or get a man. Would you walk into a job interview and say “oh I was really lazy at my last job, but I realize that was wrong and I’m better now”? I doubt it. Therefore treat dating as a job interview. Remember you’re trying to get this person to like you. If you need to vent or whatever go to your girlfriend or a therapist or your mom. Second part: If they ask you directly about somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 11:46 PM
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If what you’re doing is working and you’re both happy I wouldn’t change anything. You don’t want to cross the barrier into mothering him too much. You also don’t want him to get too dependent on your wife/motherly behavior. It should be equal effort which is easier to do when you live close by. He does something masculine for you and you do something feminine for him. It is possible to over indulge him. Keep vetting him as much as you can as it’s still very early in the relationship and with lon…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 02:04 AM
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Totally agree. This is a good discussion though. We as humans need answers for things and often when something bad happens to us we want to know why. This is important because knowing why can save us from going through it again. However, we also have idealized versions of ourselves and people we love. We tend to ignore the things we did or fell for out of our own naivety, ignorance, whatever, and we tend to ignore bad behavior or try to rationalize bad behavior in those we love. At the end of th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 07:22 PM
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I think literally anything can be a death sentence to a vulnerable woman. Seeing a skinny girl on Instagram can cause a girl to develop an ED and once you have one the chance of recover is extremely small. It happens everyday. That doesn’t mean skinny girls are inherently bad. What it means is that we need to treat the vulnerability in our young people and teach confidence and courage better. Overall I think this sub does and extremely good job and mentoring women. There’s always going to be out…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 05:46 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry that this happened to you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:07 PM
7

Don’t overthink it. If he asks you out then go from there. If not keep going out with other guys.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 08:44 PM
2

Absolutely
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 06:08 PM
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You’re not wrong, and yeah it definitely can lead to lack of empathy for women. Just like redpill women is meant to teach you things about the other gender and how their brains work and give you tools to navigate relationships in a productive way redpill men content should do the same thing for a guy. However, people can get lost in it and go extreme causing them to totally lose sight of their goal. It’s easy for men to just blame women for all of their problems just like it’s easy for feminists…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 05:04 PM
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Nearly all men prefer a woman to be smaller/thinner than them just like nearly all women prefer a man to be taller/bigger than them. It’s not 100%, but losing weight will put you higher on the preference list of men. With that said, men are less picky than women. However, if you want a higher caliber and more attractive man you have to compete with other women to get him so anything you can do to better position yourself is good.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 05:31 AM
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No, it’s a legitimate fear. This is why it’s very important to secure a ring/marriage and not just a relationship/sex. Wives provide a lot more for their husbands and families than just a young hot body. Make sure you are learning how to be a wife. While your fear is legitimate it also exists for the men. Plenty of men out their sacrifice for their wife and child and wife decides one day to cheat on him and divorce him and take half of his possessions and the kids.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 12:32 AM
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What was your fathers issue with him? That seems important. I’ll be honest with you that parental support for the person you plan to marry is key. Without it, things can get extremely hard.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 04:20 PM
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I agree with you that I’d be sad and upset as well. It would be a turn off to me to feel like I was the mom/responsible for him and couldn’t trust him to provide any assistance on stuff like this. He dropped the ball. You don’t have to berate him over it, bring it up one time. Tell him that you’re disappointed and turned off by him dropping the ball here. He knew this was important to you and didn’t even open the email??? Mistakes were made. Next time you need him to step up and be more involved…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 04:18 PM
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I agree to an extent, but the last thing he wants to happen is she says “ew your old creepy friend tried to hit on me” and the whole social circle gets upended. Her worst case scenario is he says he can’t meet her out for a hangout and then she’ll know he’s not actually interested. Not that awkward. At least she’ll know and she can play it off like it wasn’t really a date if she doesn’t use the word date in the invite.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 04:05 PM
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You’re both right/wrong. If you do seriously want something you’ll put time and effort into it. With that said, there’s definitely people out there with more determination than others. Counseling probably won’t help your determination. I know some people with zero ability to use delayed gratification in their lives and while those people give into every whim and have lots of nice stuff they are usually miserable. As for losing weight/being healthy I’d say 33% is food and 33% is exercise and 33% …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 03:56 PM
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I’d be casual about. If it were me I’d use the obvious excuse trick to ask him out. I’d be like “hey, I was planning to go to (insert bar/restaurant) for a drink on Friday wanna come with me? They have great margaritas”. Or whatever makes sense for you. If there’s a new place in town that’s a great “excuse” to use to go try it and invite him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:13 AM
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Bumble is fine. I met my fiancé on bumble - couldn’t be happier with it. He might be waiting for you to make the first move. Obviously it’s awkward because of the age difference and knowing your parents. You ask him out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 01:44 AM
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I don’t think it’s too much to worry about. It’s quite normal. I try to do the stuff he doesn’t like to do while he’s gone so watching girlie tv shows and baths with candles and even foods he doesn’t like I cook for myself since I wouldn’t cook things he doesn’t like for us. Writing out a list of things to do helps a lot. I get motivation from crossing things off the list. I also schedule Botox, facials and that sort of thing he thinks is silly
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 11:06 PM
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I’ve definitely experience this. It’s the result of being in love. So on one hand it’s good because you know you love this person and their presence gives you pure happiness and excitement, BUT when they’re gone it kind of turns your world upside down because they’re your favorite thing. My fiancé travels for work. Usually about 5 nights. The first 2 nights I’m usually fine and even kinda excited to do my girl stuff like take a bubble bath and read, maybe go shopping . On day 3 I do our hobby. I…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 08:29 PM
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Why would they be?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 01:27 PM
2

I think you need to a analyze exactly where these thoughts about chores being demeaning are coming from. You say from your mom which is understandable, but why did she feel they were demeaning? Have you asked her?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 11:47 PM
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Yeah, honestly a lot of modern women do view domestic work as oppression inside of a relationship. I think that’s not the right way to view it though because if you live alone or have roommates you have to do domestic work, so is it oppressive to clean your own house or clean with a roommate? No. So why would it be oppressive for you to do chores in your household with a husband? Somebody has to do it whether it’s you, him, or hired help. Why put women on this pedestal that they shouldn’t have t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 08:36 PM
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The honest answer is that it 100% depends on what you and your partner want and think and agree to. Not on what anybody else does or thinks. I know that’s not exactly what you want to hear. Was your mom wrong? Maybe. Idk. Doesn’t really matter actually. Mom and dad had conflicting views on who did what which was the problem, not the actual division on the labor. All that matters is that you and your partner have an honest discussion about who is in charge of what and agree to it. Things will cha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 06:55 PM
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There’s nothing in here that indicates there’s anything for you to be insecure about. Most women don’t orgasm from sex alone. Is he interested in learning about how to please a woman sexually? Not through porn which is not realistic. Can you show him what to do and guide him? If my guy is touching me I will sometimes guide his hand and apply his hand with the right pressure to stimulate things. Sometimes he’s too hard or too fast and I just want nice gentle pressure down there that I can work wi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 05:26 PM
1

Is this treatable?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 02:25 PM
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Unfortunately I know 50 year old men who act exactly like this and I feel so bad and embarrassed for their partners. It’s not related to age. Some people just have anger issues and whatnot, or terrible personalities and tend to take the worst of their emotions out on people close to them instead of finding a healthy outlet or working on themselves. Decide if you want this type of behavior in your life or not, because I would not expect things to change. I’ve also notice that drinking tends to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 07:55 PM
2

Absolutely. This applies to both genders and is backed by a lot of studies.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 12:43 AM
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Time to get roommates and move out. This is mom’s issue to handle. She’s a grown woman. She can handle it. She also knows your dad on a deep level.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 09:58 PM
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Sewing/knitting/embroidery Dancing Baking Cooking Reading Party/event planning Volunteering Painting/art Singing/music playing Gardening/gathering flowers Fashion/clothing Writing diary/stories/letters
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 11:27 PM
2

I know what Pandora’s box is, but the post still makes nearly zero sense. Maybe clarify exactly what you’re asking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 11:53 PM
9

I have no clue what any of this meant. It’s like word salad. Sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 11:00 PM
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Listening to someone else’s opinion about something without interjecting your own opinion isn’t “faking it”. With that said, I think there’s a lot to be said for a woman who can keep the peace. However, I also think that there are polite ways to engage and share your opinions if you’d like to without it going nuclear. If it were me I’d probably keep the peace and ignore it. You’re putting yourself in the lions den and asking how to not get it to eat you. The answer is no sudden movements. Maybe …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 08:46 PM
2

You should get a therapist before you do anything.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 04:54 PM
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I kind of agree. OP is extremely young and honestly the guy is quite young for marriage/kids as well. Her post made it sounds like he was closer to 40. In the US most men are marrying in their 30’s and having kids 30-40’s. The guy hasn’t even entered the real world yet. They’re not necessarily too young, but they’re young plus have nothing figured out.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 04:01 PM
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Unfortunately having a child out of wedlock puts you in an extremely precarious position. You ARE a single mother basically. You aren’t married to the child’s father. You learned a hard lesson here. You sacrificed yourself and decided to get pregnant when he wasn’t also putting in any sacrifices like putting a ring on it. You can’t be the only one giving in a relationship. His words are meaningless. Men and women both say a lot of things they don’t mean. You have to look at actions. Do the words…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 03:38 PM
2

Are you married?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 03:18 PM
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Body count is mostly irrelevant here. This dude doesn’t deserve any more of your precious time. If someone breaks up with you multiple times you don’t go back to them. He’s playing with you for fun. You’re a toy for his entertainment. Stop is. Block him. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 11:53 PM
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He’s probably into them on some level.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 11:49 PM
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Yup! I’m only 30, but I feel like a boomer saying this, but OP will come to understand that generally men are amazing, but they are very simple creatures compared to women. They’re primarily motivated by food and sex. If you aren’t feeding him and he’s giving you attention he probably wants sex. It’s easy to think that men’s brains work like ours and they share our wants and needs, but usually they don’t. The sooner you learn that the better. I had to learn it the hard way too when I was younger…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:08 PM
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I really wish I had something nicer to say about the situation and I’ll preface everything with the fact that there are amazing guys out there, so this isn’t hating on men or anything but yeah there’s like 2 reasons 99% of men (not related to you) talk to women. 1. Is out of obligation (e.g. coworker, store clerk, lab partner, etc) and 2. Physical attraction. I’m not saying it’s impossible for a man and woman to be friends, but if a guy is giving you non-obligated attention there’s a 90%+ chance…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 06:37 PM
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It’s basically lifestyle coaching or ideas. I don’t think you need to worry about ownership of ideas. I wouldn’t really reference anything. Make it your own. Use whatever ideas you want or exclude whatever you want.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 01:01 PM
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I would say feminine/flowy and modest. She wears a ton of dresses. She’s gorgeous so you could put a potato sack on her and she’s look like a model. If you’re in a relationship I’d go with her style. If you’re looking for a man I’d probably up the sex appeal just a bit just to be more flirty/eye catching. We aren’t all born with her genes so we need to play it up a bit more on the body side.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 10:52 PM
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You need to focus on your school and becoming independent. I know that’s hard when you’re in love. Believe me, I know. But the only way to move forward is to graduate and focus on your career SO THAT you can date and eventually get married. As for what’s happening: your hormones are out of fricken control. Being in love is like being on intense drugs. It’s nice in a lot of ways but it’s also painful and you don’t act like yourself. That will wear off as the relationship progresses/normalizes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 07:16 PM
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My fiancé bought me a $10,000 engagement ring. It’s absolutely stunning and I can’t believe it really. While we were dating he bought be flowers and is overwhelmingly affectionate and it’s amazing. Before I met him I knew men like my father (who is quite emotionless) never tells me he loves me (although I know that he does). He never told my mom he loved her or holds her hand or kisses her. It’s just emotionless. He was always like that either due to his personality or maybe a slight bit of Aspe…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 06:34 PM
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There’s no place for them in the restaurant. Leave them in the car and put them in a vase of water as soon as you get home. You can even send him a pic.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 01:17 PM
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I have a close friend with similar diagnoses and I’ll be honest with you while they were untreated they were a pretty terrible wife and mother. They didn’t hurt anyone physically, but they were traumatized and took that trauma out on everyone. It wasn’t their fault, it was the mental illnesses and PTSD that made them that way. They were a perfect wife and mother before those illnesses took hold. Eventually a doctor actually diagnosed them with schizo affective disorder and PTSD. It took 10 years…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 01:15 PM
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I’ve met bad men, I’ve met great men, and everything in between. Just like women. The more men you interact with and from different backgrounds the more you will learn that while there are some generic stereotype and gender based wants and needs of men it really depends. I think you need to focus on what you want and look for that. A long distance/phone based relationship is pretty niche. It sounds like he could’ve been anyone and looking for free phone sex. Usually women on this sub are into mo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/22 08:04 PM
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So it’s a learning experience. You wasted some time, BUT you also learned what not to do or put up with so really it wasn’t wasted. I met my fiancé at 28, engaged at 29 and married at 30. So options are out there for who you want to be with.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/22 01:48 AM
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So you never got married to him? And you don’t have children?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/22 12:54 AM
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Some people are asexual. Also, you’re 17. The brain doesn’t stop development until age 25. I’d say live your life. Do whatever makes you happy and revisit the sexuality situation in a few years. While I knew I liked men I could not get myself to be intimate with a guy until age 20 ish. Sex just scared me and I didn’t feel ready before then. I’m glad I didn’t do it before I was ready.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 04:31 PM
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Curl your hair and do some makeup + lingerie once a month or so just to show off for your guy and feel sexy. It’s not something you need to be doing once a week, but every once in a while for fun. Just because.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 03:36 AM
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Your post is a little confusing. You aren’t clear on what you’re asking exactly. But I’ll try my best: Rule 1: don’t bring up past relationships with a new partner if at all possible. Sometimes it’s kind of inevitable and the convo just heads that way. Sometimes someone will ask you directly about it and in that case it’s hard to avoid. I wouldn’t worry about it though in your case it doesn’t sound like you were really comparing or said anything “wrong”. Every relationship is different. I would …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 01:21 AM
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Your man was out of line. You handled it correctly. Meanness is never a good way to treat your spouse no matter how small.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 02:59 PM
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I usually offered to split it. Although, you also kind of need to read the situation. I don’t think it’s fair to make the guy pay 100% since I’m equally participating in the date and have a job. Most guys will decline or say you can pay next time which lets you know they’re interested in another date possibly. At the most basic level guys just don’t want you to act entitled. If you follow their lead and order similar items to them it should be no issue. If you’re interested in the date and not i…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 04:14 PM
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In her example, I’m sure she’s she never tells him that she knew. She pretends to not know. Like others have said these examples are coming from a dynamic where she knew she had a problem with micromanaging and “mommy-ing” her husband which was killing their marriage. She’s not doing these things in a vacuum. In my relationship I could definitely tell my fiancé he missed the exit, but we both have extreme respect for each other and are extremely easy going. We don’t nag. We don’t freak out if a …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 04:51 PM
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I wouldn’t be concerned about that statement. Why would you be concerned? It’s obviously meant to be a compliment. But it ends there. He’s giving you a small compliment, but he’s not over his ex and even though you might seem perfect, you’re not perfect for him. Which is fine. Take it as the half-baked compliment it is and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 04:35 PM
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I feel this 100%. I was you. I had a few men who didn’t ask for a second date and said the same thing. It hurt and I took a short break while I kind of built my confidence back up. I had to do this a few times. Eventually though I met my fiancé and everything worked out. Take a break when needed, but then get back out there. It’s not a sprint.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 01:16 AM
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I totally get what you’re saying and I agree with you that you definitely need to use your own judgement on when and how to apply her suggestions. I think we as women tend to make everything catastrophic and we stress way more than men about things. I think that’s her point. Submitting to your man, if that’s your goal, is to allow “bad” things to happen sometimes in order to not step over boundaries. My approach is the what’s the worst case scenario here? You spend an extra 20 minutes driving. T…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 09:39 PM
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The Bible teaches that marriage actually ends at one or the other spouses death. In Christianity there really is no such thing as marriage in heaven. Marriage is an earthly institution. Also, suicide is considered a sin. So from a Christian perspective there would be no point to this since your husband isn’t really your husband in heaven (you have transcended earthly concepts like marriage after death) and committing suicide would send you to hell so then it really matters even less. As for othe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 02:02 PM
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No I never dated outside of my religion entirely. My fiancé is Catholic and I’m Lutheran, but we go to a Catholic Church now and we will raise our children Catholic. If you’re religious then it’s an important part of who you are I’m sure you want to share that with your partner and your children. I think it would be difficult for your marriage. But are you dating to marry or dating to date? Also dating a coworker is a bad idea so unless this is leading for sure to a LTR it’s gonna be awkward at …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 01:44 PM
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So you can be the one to ask to meet up again. It’s not a huge deal, BUT a man who had a great time on a first date with you and wants to see you again WILL set up the next date right away. I know this from experience. We’ve all been here. I’d probably keep looking. I’ll tell you if you’re ever confused about a guys interest in you you’re in dangerous territory. In comparison, when my fiancé and I started dating he would set up the next date during each date before we even left the date. He’d al…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 01:37 PM
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If you don’t have kids you can definitely have both if you get a remote work gig. My job pays well, isn’t very demanding (compared to my schooling), and is remote so I have a ton of time for cooking from scratch and keeping up with the house. Kids will obviously throw a wrench in that free time, so I may reduce the work or stop working when kids come. I say finish the degree. Get a few years of good experience and then “settle” for a high paying, back burner job that allows you to have extra mon…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 01:21 PM
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The job thing could be it. He could feel like he’s not earning enough to support you both and achieve your goals together and feel emasculated by that. He could also be frustrated that you aren’t working and pulling more weight as far as finances go. These feelings could lead him to take those frustrations out on you. Yes, we’re actually doing part of our premarital counseling tonight. It covers topics like religion, children, communication, finances, drugs and alcohol, and family. Everyone coul…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 08:25 PM
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Ok, so it sounds like he has a problem engaging politely with you. Can you think of anything that happened that caused this hostile change in him? Why is he feeling overwhelmed and hostile? Does he think that you’re stupid? That’s not a rhetorical question and it’s not going to sound right asking him that directly. But does he actually view you as stupid and that’s why he can’t engage in polite conversation with you? When did he start feeling that way if that’s the case? I don’t want you to get …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 07:46 PM
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Are you engaged? If you’re not, I think asking his opinion on wedding venues is a way to push the engagement/marriage issue which is kind of a manipulation. If you are engaged, is he overwhelmed about the wedding budget? Men who feel stressed and cornered will act this way. They’ll react badly to these topics on purpose to get you to stop talking about them which is what is happening. Pop a bottle of wine and get on the couch and talk it out. Why are you two fighting so much? What could you both…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 06:28 PM
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The content is supposed to be inflammatory. That’s how they get views. I’d even argue those guys have a lot more respect and love for women than they show, but because being nice to women is normal and the inflammatory commentary is what makes it “oh my god” worthy and therefore the focus of it. I wouldn’t delve too much into it. It’s off-key entertainment. Is there some truth to it? Sure. But the point isn’t for you to feel bad over it. The point is to see if there’s things you could change goi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 03:33 PM
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I think when society as a whole has adopted a fairly degenerate lifestyle for both men and women then redpill content/standards can seem like perfectionism and difficult to achieve. Nobody is perfect and we were all raised by the similar types of families, community, and schools. None of us were taught redpill ideals. All it is is a set of ideas that you can use to try to improve yourself or your relationship. Being redpill isn’t necessarily better or more perfect, it’s just a set of idea that m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 02:29 PM
3

By never allowing him to know you’re influencing him. Basically, you live your life and you adore him in a way that inspires him to be the best man he can be for you. It’s kind of an abstract idea, but at the end of the day it’s just love. When a man loves a woman he will move heaven and earth for her. Some women are easy to love and some aren’t. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, so how do you change yourself into a woman who inspires love? In my opinion: 1. Is looks. Men love beautiful w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 06:25 PM
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I absolutely would. The truth is that the better you look the better everyone will treat you. I did a lot when I was dating to make sure I looked my best because I wanted a high value man to marry and have kids with. You have to keep up with it after marriage too.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 02:28 PM
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Traditional, feminine, and puts family and husband as her top priority in her life, over herself and over her career.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 08:43 PM
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If you’re working that much and plan to continue working that much then there’s just not much you can do. I wouldn’t want to cook either. I work about about half those hours from home, which leaves me with a decent amount of time to shop and cook for my fiancé. Meal planning takes time, shopping takes time, cooking is only maybe 1/3rd of your time. We do a “butcher box” from a local butcher every 1-2 months. It’s a big box of random meat selections. We’re not picky and eat everything so that wor…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 08:40 PM
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You should add to your post that this is a consensual sexual kink thing and not a healthy way to live life unless this is agreed upon and enjoyed by both partners.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 05:21 AM
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Girl. You did nothing wrong, except give a total loser way too much of your time and energy. Please make sure to block the loser on everything. You trying to get back with him when he was throwing the other girl in your face is, and I’m sorry for saying this, completely pathetic. I understand when you’re in love you aren’t thinking clearly and it makes you put up with bullshit you normally wouldn’t, I’ve been there myself so I can’t judge too harshly, but self respect is a huge deal. Make sure t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 02:37 AM
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I’ve had a nose job. One of the best decisions of my life. I also get Botox. You wouldn’t know about either unless I told you. As redpill women we know that part of our value is our sexual market place value. We want to look as attractive as possible to attract a good partner. With that said, I suggest trying to keep it as natural and unnoticeable as possible. I’ve found that men have generally negative views of plastic surgery, but are attracted to women who have had it, so it’s a double edged …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:31 AM
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I wouldn’t expect things to change much in the next 5 years. It sounds like you have good goals set for yourself. The next step is to find the person that also shares your values and goals.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:23 AM
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Ask a friend or family member who has the vision for help. You could pay them or cook for them or take them out to lunch/spa day as a thank you. I lack the artist gene as well lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 09:15 PM
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I totally agree with you. Even with the hero mindset you’re going to have bad days or seasons even where something triggers sadness There’s no way to turn this off 100% of the time. It’s going to bubble up at times. I agree. I wish men understood the hurt that we go through and some do. You just have to find the right ones. I think no matter the gender, if you present your partner with the fact that you’re a victim, of some sort, especially too early on they might run. And maybe that’s not a bad…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 09:02 PM
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He sounds like he’s very low on emotional intelligence. Luckily it can be learned, but he has to recognize that and put in effort to learn it or no matter who he’s in a relationship with it’s going to get rocky. My dad has very low EQ and my mom has very high EQ. It’s caused a lot of problems in their marriage. It’s definitely also hurtful to children to be missing emotional connection with their dad. He’s not a bad guy, he loves us all very much, but he has an extremely hard time showing it thr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 07:38 PM
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I’d ask him what he needs or wants from you. Start by telling him all the things you appreciate about him and how you wish you could do more for him but you don’t know exactly what. At the end of the day men want to share their accomplishments with you and want love and kindness reciprocated. They want a soft place to land. They want physical connection. Division of labor is great, but you can do this however you want. I took over grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, baking, etc. You’re not engag…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 06:52 PM
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I agree with you. The problem is though that if you don’t get it under control and it definitely starts mentally-Physical response is in reaction to an emotional stimuli first and foremost, a lot of men will view you as “damaged” or “too much baggage”. You will have to find someone really good hearted and selfless to agree to also be a participant in your trauma because as your partner they get to deal with it as well. These people are out there, it’s just a lot of us are not Christlike enough t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 06:43 PM
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Yeah this definitely makes it one of the hardest cases to heal from because the abuse was done by your own parents who should be the people who love you the most and are solely responsible for your protection. With that said, it sounds like they have mental health issues and/or somehow truly believe they were helping you and not hurting you. That’s hard to believe but I guess we can believe that they believed it. I think coming to a place where you can forgive them for being mentally ill or stup…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 02:44 PM
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Do you think you could ever get to the point where you hardly ever think about it and it doesn’t significantly impact your romantic relationships? I’ve noticed that if I ignore bad things that have happened to me that are painful to think about my brain has actually nearly erased the memory. I basically put my brain on autopilot and didn’t think about the bad things. Sometimes I surprise myself when I have a slight memory or something and realize I’ve forgotten a lot of the surrounding things th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 01:47 PM
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Knowing my life, you can do everything right. Not get drunk, not put yourself in any bad situations and one day someone you know and trusted and considered a friend will just wake up and decide today is a good day to sexually assault/harass you. It’s makes no sense. People are crazy and do bad things sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 01:24 PM
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Yes, trauma is offputting, regardless of the reason why it happened, because it can negatively affect the relationship. This is a really complicated topic. Obviously it’s still affecting you and your reflexes to sex and it might for the rest of your life. I don’t know that there’s any perfect way to deal with violence and the aftermath of it. Everyone processes things differently and every guy is going to react differently. I’m sure you’ve talked to a therapist about how to deal with this situat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 01:11 PM
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First, congrats! It’s all very exciting. The knot is the go to one. Pinterest has a lot of info. Just to name a few: Date/time/ location Officiant Marriage license Wedding bands Music/DJ Food/catering Beverages Tables/chairs Dishes/cutlery Cake Bridesmaids/groomsman Save the dates and/or invitations Guest list Photographer DIYing a large party/wedding is very difficult. There’s a lot of moving parts. Outdoor weddings will probably need a tent in case of rain or whatever. You can rent these. You …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 03:04 AM
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Unless he’s at church every week and not doing other things that are considered sinful I don’t believe him. My very Catholic fiancé doesn’t turn down sex or beer not even on a Sunday lol. All I can say is that if a man is confusing in his intentions with you you are in the danger zone. Men who are in love will show it. They will be eager to make you their girlfriend and their wife because they want to make sure nobody else is going to swoop in and snatch you up. It sounds like he’s playing games…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 02:53 AM
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So he’s either sleeping with somebody else, or he has no libido/asexual, or he’s highly religious. You need to figure out what it is. Because without a reason it is highly unusual. You need to define what you want and he needs to define what he wants and if those don’t match up you’re both wasting your time. In my opinion, 3 months is long enough for a guy to make it official IF his goal is to look for something official and you’re meeting his wants and needs. Longer than that and he’s either no…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 12:37 AM
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Attraction is very important. Mom is right though that after the mating like bunnies/honeymoon phase wears out you have to love their soul and who they are as a person to keep things going. There’s nothing wrong with dating older, actually I recommend it generally. My fiancé is almost 10 years older and therefore is very financially stable (29 and 39). He’s a very good provider and protector. There is a point though where things start to go sideways with age gap relationships if you start going …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/22 12:28 AM
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Are you doing online dating? It’s worked well for a lot of us. I was single for 2 years and then tried to meet someone organically. I met people but nobody that was relationship quality. I did Bumble for 4 months and met my now fiancé. I got plenty of dates and had one short lived relationship before I met him from Bumble. Overall it was an exhausting, truly weird, but eventually truly amazing experience. I considered dating my part time job. Don’t assume a man is going to bump into you at the c…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 08:46 PM
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What would those things have to do with finding friends? And I feel you. I got a nose job at 26. Still, my nose had no negative effect on finding like minded female friends. It did impact my dating life a little which is why I had the surgery. My college friends were all shapes and sizes and ethnicities. I think you’re projecting your insecurities into other people.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 04:54 PM
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First you’re not alone. I always felt how you did when I was a young adult. I still had friends and hobbies and an otherwise fulfilling life I just didn’t have boyfriends or sex partners. I did drink so I did that with my college roommates and went to parties. I never got drunk. I would have a few drinks and chill. I never hooked up. You can also go to parties and not drink. You don’t HAVE to do anything you don’t want to. There are people who share your values and as far as the ones who don’t y…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:54 PM
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My advice is to make your own money by attaining a skill set that you can always fall back on. I watched the same thing happen to my mother and vowed that it would never be me. I got a good degree and have a great job in accounting. My fiancé makes enough that we could live on one income if needed, but if things ever got bad I could fallback on my career and I know that I could support myself and kids.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 02:36 AM
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Yeah. They can take the assessment which is really long and thorough but yeah it sounds like it to me or something very similar. There’s several deviations, but the base concepts tend to stay the same within types.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 09:50 PM
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Welcome to your personality. I’m also an INTJ, which if you aren’t you’re something similar on Myers Briggs, nice to meet you. Less than 1% of women are INTJ’s so there’s that. It’s a majority male personality type. The good news is that it’ll make you an absolute fantastic wife because you’re able to “think like a man”. However, you will struggle on the feminine side. My only advice is to not only read “How to win friends and influence people” but to read it annually because you WILL revert to …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 09:30 PM
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I think it depends on age group. When you’re in college you aren’t doing this stuff. When you graduate and get older and you have the means to host actual events and attend actual events at people’s homes/flats then this stuff kicks in. As for hostess gifts I stick to flowers (from Trader Joe’s that are already in a nice container so the hostess doesn’t have to go find a vase), wine, or appetizers or desserts. I never do actual things like candles or stuff like that because the chance of them li…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 07:42 PM
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Exactly. In my mind redpill is a derivative of those Christian values. However, you could argue the ideas are based in nature or even pre-Christian paganism which also promotes a softer subservient feminine and a stronger overpowering masculine. The Christian origination is more modern with Eve being a derivative of and a companion to Adam. Adam being the one in charge of nature on earth. Gender roles definitely predate Christianity though so I guess it really doesn’t matter either way. Christia…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 07:36 PM
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This is true. I think part of it stems from our society moving away from a religious base. Religion teaches that you are apart of a world that is bigger than yourself. You are not the center of the universe. God is. That automatically puts you in second or third place and you act accordingly by serving others. You don’t have to be religious by any means to live life more selflessly, but for a lot of people it creates a reason to live that way and motivation to keep up with it. Additionally, we l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 03:53 PM
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This is a really good question. In my opinion it’s a flirting and bonding mechanism primarily. Something you turn on and off when appropriate. For example, you don’t act childlike at work because people are relying on you to get things done and you need their respect. But when you’re at home with your man and you play with him every once in a while to lighten the mood, make him feel younger, and ultimately flirt. Little tickle fights or silly discussion. Just to add some life to dull adult life.…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 02:33 PM
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It’s not an issue. It never has been before and isn’t now. If that’s the biggest reason he can think of as an excuse to avoid marrying OP she must be a literal saint of a person lol. He’s embarrassed and he should be.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 07:17 PM
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You love him. It’s normal for you to ignore bad behavior in the people you love because you love them. You’re not crazy. You’re normal. Eventually though, you have to decide if this is what you want to delegate yourself to, forever girlfriend or not.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 03:09 PM
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You have to truly love yourself before anyone else can ever truly love you. Work on self love. Work on identifying your value. A good woman is worth her weight in gold and you ARE a good woman. Nobody is perfect. I think he’s simply not interested in marriage at all and he used it to string you along and now that you’ve been together a long time and marriage is resurfacing as a normal thing to do he’s trying to distract you from it by insulting and blaming you instead of just being honest about …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 03:06 PM
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Same!!! I’m naturally high on the conscientious and analytical side so school and career always interested me and I’m proud of my work and my career BUT if you ask me “what brings me joy” without a doubt my relationships, and cooking for my fiancé, and pouring into my family without a doubt brings me much more actual joy and happiness than the things I was taught were more important. It’s such a huge burden off my shoulders to have this community not only saying that it’s ok, but actually celebr…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 07:25 PM
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I’m not adhd, but I have written lists both on paper and my phone. I use the reminders app a lot. I have a grocery list app. I always have my phone so I can’t forget as easily. The best other thing I did was get AirPods. I found used ones for $80 and I use them to listen to podcasts, YouTube, audiobooks, etc as a cook and do laundry. Basically the boring things that I don’t want to sit there with my thoughts for several minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 01:55 PM
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It’s definitely not impossible. You never know who is out there. Definitely there are men who would love a great wife to share their life with who also don’t want kids. I converted to Catholicism when I met my fiancé. My faith is weak in my opinion, but it’s something that’s important to him and I 100% know that I get something out of attending mass and trying to live my life in accordance with Jesus’s teachings even if I don’t have the strongest overall faith. Whether I believe in God or not, t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 01:51 PM
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Redpill women advice is to stay out of it and that it’s between him and his uncle. Grown men can handle their work and address any issues (real or imaginary) without the women they love getting up on their business. As women it’s our nature to worry. It’s biological for us. Part of adopting the redpill mindset is to trust your man and learn to turn off that “I need to help” switch that is usually always on for us. Don’t potentially emasculate him by insinuating he’s not working hard or long enou…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 09:26 PM
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I think he’s a grown adult and you’re worrying too much.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 12:17 PM
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Sometimes yes. Sometimes men don’t know what you want so asking is totally fine and preferred. With that said, make sure you are doing things for him. Preferably making his life easier and happier. Food and blow jobs and peaceful times together and he may just do this stuff on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 09:31 PM
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I had a similar experience, also at 27-28. I want to tell you that you handled the situation with extreme grace. I really liked the guy and everything was great in the very beginning, but then little things started to shake my confidence. Backhanded compliments, neglect, and then finally fights like this and then name calling and emotional manipulation and overall immaturity. The guy was 36. There was no excuse for the behavior. He started so many fights and made me feel so on edge that I had to…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 06:31 PM
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First, good job on taking accountability and trying to improve yourself. Most people never make it half that far. Second, I wouldn’t do this. He rejected you for more reasons than you think if it was after 8 years together. I’d let it go. It’s in the past now. You can’t drive forward by looking in the rear view mirror. You’ll crash. Look forward and make the changes for yourself and the next guy who doesn’t have intimate knowledge of your “baggage”. You got this. Just move forward. Don’t degrade…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 02:41 PM
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There’s no point in waiting until marriage unless you’re a virgin. It’ll just make guys break up with you. Definitely wait until you feel strong connection though.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 01:33 AM
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This was me at 19-20. It sucked. I’m now 30 and things are much different now. I was super shy and didn’t know how to flirt and wasn’t confident so I didn’t get much male attention. I focused on my school and other relationships and my appearance and over time I developed more confidence and got on dating apps and everything worked out exactly how I wanted. My advice is to be confident. Love yourself and talk nicely about yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/22 07:59 PM
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You can’t take sex off the table once you’ve already given it. It would make you look confused and you are confused. Personally my only advice on when to have sex is never on the first date. I personally always took longer and suggest a little longer, but as long as it’s not the first time you met the dynamic is different. Ideally, it would be once you feel comfortable and develop feelings for the guy. I don’t think this relationship is going to work anyway. Just based on the Catholic/Muslim thi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/22 06:18 PM
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It was overwhelming for sure. Sometimes I had to take breaks, but you have to get back on and dedicate time. It’s definitely not instant gratification. It was like having a part time job just vetting and messaging my matches. It’s hard not to be picky as a woman. We’re hardwired to be picky, BUT you won’t find the right one if you don’t even put time in to legitimately look. Sure! Lol I was going to say don’t put that your interests are hiking or tacos because I’m pretty sure that’s 99% of women…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 04:14 PM
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Use lots of photos. Make sure you have a full body shot. Make sure you’re smiling and make sure there is nobody else in the photos. Don’t use filtered photos and dress nicely. Use a sundress photo or two is key. Include your hobbies in your bio. That gives you something to talk about as an ice breaker. Live in an area with lots of high earning men from good families lol- which I fortunately do. I got tons of dates using bumble. A lot of dates didn’t turn into second dates. A few did, but it’s ba…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 03:42 PM
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I met my fiancé at 28, engaged at 29 and married at 30. I found him after 4 months on dating apps and he’s everything I could hope for in a husband plus more. There’s plenty of time, but definitely date with intention to marry.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 02:37 PM
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I don’t think this lady has ever done that. That OP is saying that she’s “thinks” she might be inferring that but it sounds like LD specifically has addressed not staying with cheaters or abusers. I understand your sentiment though. We do get posts here where young women tend to not know the difference between traditional or redpill and controlling and abusive. Often when we love someone we make excuses for them and sometimes women think saying “he’s redpill” is the excuse for bad behavior. That…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 08:38 PM
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I don’t know much about LD other than a few YouTube interviews when I garden so I can’t really comment on that. I have to disagree with you on the communication front though. It sounds like maybe you do need “less communication” in your marriage in that you need to communicate less negative emotions and really work hard on positive communication and interactions. Who is starting the petty fights? You or him? Regardless, even if it’s him, you can refuse to engage in the fighting. “I’m sorry I for…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 03:55 PM
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If your goal is marriage you shouldn’t be dating someone you definitely feel is not marriage potential…. For whatever reason. It’s true that you’re in high competition for men your age. Plenty of women in their 20’s are happy to date guys in their 30’s. You may need to bump up your age range to 40’s so that you’re the younger one which give you an advantage. Dating older usually helps form a more redpill relationship naturally if that’s your goal. Also, If you’re a relatively high earning career…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 12:07 PM
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There’s plenty of women who do it when their husbands are extremely rich. They get their lifestyles covered for their entire lives and their children have the best of everything. Ideally she wouldn’t have sex with him at all. She’s just there for his brand with colleagues and family reputation and such. He can get sex anywhere. If she does then there’s std testing involved. Still no reason for the disrespect though.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 02:08 AM
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If it were my partner I’d be out the door immediately and off to a friends house family’s house to cool down from that level of disrespect. He can cook his own dinner and care for himself if he doesn’t respect me. I wouldn’t be back in the house without an apology. Your man really isn’t very high value if he’s disrespecting you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 12:33 AM
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Has he been assessed for ED? You said previously he has issues performing sex.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 08:13 PM
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I think under it all he’s either gay or not attracted to you or has erectile distinction issues where it makes him embarrassed to be around you. These are not going to be easy to fix and he probably won’t admit to any of them. He could be gay or bisexual where he’s using the online pictures of women to try to get things “working”. It may not be working if he’s not really straight. Or he might be following those accounts of women as a cover. My guess is he’s gay. I’m sorry. I assume in your count…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 07:03 PM
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Does he like you? Was this an arranged marriage? Could he be interested in men? For whatever reason he definitely doesn’t want to be around you much. Could be any number of possible things? How do you think he would respond if you sat him down and told him you feel like he isn’t interested in spending time with you and that it’s making you upset? I assume you have zero leverage and can’t divorce him if he refuses to listen to you or try to solve the issue?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 05:49 PM
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Get an accounting degree and work from home full time. That’s what I do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 03:55 PM
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So she has no options basically. Women don’t really have any rights there. Best thing to do is to talk to your family or religious leader for advice. Maybe they can convince him to behave better. My guess is that they will tell her to shut up and deal with it since he’s a man. Stay safe OP. Ask your mom or sisters what you should do first before going to any men.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 03:44 PM
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It sounds possible that he’s cheating on you with someone else. I’m not sure what country you’re in or what options you have no matter what the actual situation is.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 01:29 PM
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Find a mat with some sort of traction. Also, idk that you need that much oil in the shower. Treat your skin when you get out. Rosehip oil is pretty good for dry skin.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 09:03 PM
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Relationships that begin that young rarely last and for good reason. They teach you a lot about yourself and world, but people change a lot from 16-23 and then they change again from 23-26 ish. Your brain doesn’t actually stop forming until age 25 so you’re literally not even mentally the same person. Obviously, that causes a lot of relationship changes before you even consider life goal changes. Don’t beat yourself up over it. You did nothing wrong. There’s nothing wrong with you. Life will wor…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 06:57 PM
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You’ll always have a relationship with your parents. Yes, that relationship does change slightly over time as you get older, become more independent, get married, and have children of your own. Still that relationship is extremely important. Becoming independent is also extremely important in my opinion. I’m pretty redpill now in my life, but I’m also very happy that I went to college, got good grades and a very good job and learned to be independent before I met my fiancé. I bring a lot of know…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 06:52 PM
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I traveled a lot before meeting my finance. I even did a tiny bit of solo travel to safe domestic places. I’ve been to Europe several times with friends. It’s extremely safe in most places, but I don’t necessarily recommend extensive foreign travel alone as a woman. There’s a 99% chance you’ll be fine, but being over seas puts you at a disadvantage if anything does happen. Travel together. This is something that is important to you. He should invest in you as you invest in him. It doesn’t have t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 02:38 PM
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OP your post history doesn’t add up at all. Do multiple different people use this account?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 01:29 PM
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First, you’re right that acting needy and crazy in the beginning of the relationship is a huge turn off. You have to learn how to be confident enough to reign that in. Second, in my experience men that have come into my life and were falling in love with me always made time to see me in person even when life way really busy. If he’s backing off on seeing you rather than seeing you more something is off. He may just need a little time to figure out his feelings, but it’s always a bad sign. You pi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 12:19 PM
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No, that’s pretty on par with the US.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 09:58 PM
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Attractiveness is extremely important. For both men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 09:57 PM
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I agree with you. I worked really hard to study a lot and get a good career so that I could “invest” in my looks. I ended up getting some plastic surgery done to become more “conventionally” attractive because genetics can be a bitch. It helped me find an attractive high value man/men to date. Unfortunately you can’t help genetics. Fortunately, you can change things for yourself with money.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 09:15 PM
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Very good! Yes I use this a lot with my fiancé. I do most of the cooking and I’m pretty good at it so when he does do some I never criticize and always praise him for it. Guess what, 99% of the time it turns out perfectly fine even if I wouldn’t have chopped the vegetables that way or whatever thing he’s doing “wrong” and the other 1% you laugh about it and figure it out. If you can learn this skill it’ll make a huge difference in both people’s happiness and closeness and now you have a great st…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 07:36 PM
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Are bad/missing teeth usual where you live? Living in the US everyone I know, excluding actual old people, have pretty decent teeth. The older people in my family have dentures or such they don’t just walk around with no teeth.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 06:53 PM
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Missing teeth or bad teeth aren’t minor things in my opinion. You can take a supermodel, but if she smiles and there’s teeth missing her attractiveness automatically drops by half, maybe more in my opinion. I realize everyone might not think that way though, but it’s quite common I think.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 03:23 PM
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This would be a deal breaker for me. Good teeth are important for me to find someone attractive. Even when I was on bumble, if a person had no pictures of them smiling I wouldn’t swipe on them because I found it was a safe assumption they had bad teeth or they were self conscious about their teeth.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 01:09 PM
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Or drug problem.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 12:14 PM
1

Working together definitely makes things more awkward no matter where this relationship goes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:37 PM
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I had that too when I was younger. I was a late bloomer to sex. Men and sex and intimacy made me uncomfortable and shy because I was super inexperienced and felt like I didn’t know what to do and like I wasn’t ready. Even though I definitely was sexually attracted to men and masterbated. Sex is a bonding experience. Especially for women so you do want to feel close and cared for by men that you’re intimate with. Also, engaging more made me more comfortable over time. I lost a lot of men by not e…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 10:42 PM
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Church, target, volunteering, Starbucks, online dating, hobbies, coed sports, dance groups. I’m a big proponent of online dating, especially bumble.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 07:43 PM
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Are you asexual? Are you afraid of intimacy? Or do you not really like/trust this guy?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 07:42 PM
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Being the primary care giver of children is much much more demanding than almost any paid job. There is no job where your boss demands your attention 24 hours per day and pays you $0 and never says thank you or “good job”. Don’t beat yourself up for being exhausted or overwhelmed. It sounds like you need some help. Do you have any relatives that can babysit every once in a while? Or can you hire a babysitter once a week so that you can get a few hours of down time?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 07:08 PM
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Men are typically amazed by women/femininity. They find us beautifully fascinating because we are so different from them. Our slightly chaotic nature brings them happiness and entertainment, as long as you aren’t too crazy lol and our softness and caring and understanding creates a safe place for them in comparison to the world they work in. Femininity to me is leaning into those traits instead of fighting them or viewing them as toxic or sexist. I hit 26 and I realized I did actually like being…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:39 PM
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Please, please, please find a way out of that house for you and your children if you have them. TONIGHT. As others said you don’t need a divorce or separation or anything that permanent, but you do need a SAFE place to reflect on his sudden change how to handle it going forward. Your house is not a safe place right now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:53 AM
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OP, do you have parents, friends, or siblings you can stay with until you settle this? Will he let you leave the house? I’m 100% afraid for your safety at this point. Not 95%, 100% certain if you stay here even one more night very bad things are about to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:47 AM
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She has a good point though since what you’re wrote is extremely similar to what OP is saying her husband is doing. We all want to know why he would do this and why he would think it’s a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 09:57 PM
14

That definitely makes more sense. It’s just, your wife can call the cops tomorrow or divorce you or whatever with or without her phone. She can cheat and take half your stuff without you being able to kick her out and punish her. Those things don’t actually stop her from doing any of the things you’re afraid of. Maybe it makes it a little harder for her… but if she’s the type of person to do those things taking her autonomy away won’t actually stop her. If anything it may give her more validatio…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 09:53 PM
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This. The last paragraph especially is 100% what needs to happen today. Marriage counseling is the only way to potentially save this marriage and OP your safety needs to be the #1 priority. I don’t feel like you’re safe with him right now.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 08:46 PM
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Have you actually ever done any of those things? Or is it like a sexual kink type thing saying and thinking them? As a woman this is so scary to read because as much as I absolutely love my husband and would die for him, my phone, keys and wallet are my lifeline to not be assaulted or murdered if he, idk had a brain aneurysm and decided to kill me or psychotic break down or…..whatever. I’m 115 lbs. I stand no chance in a physical fight. My options are to call for help or flee. I would never put …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 08:42 PM
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Absolutely not ok. Not even a little bit. You need to stand your ground here. You are his wife, not his child or his slave or his property. The house is a joint asset. The household is a joint asset. You are due equal respect and honor. As far as submission goes there is a line and that’s something for you to give as you feel comfortable doing so. It is not his right to demand or force submission from you. He is breaking his vow of loving and honoring you. If he continues to go down this path he…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 08:29 PM
3

I was raised religious, but didn’t practice or really have a lot of faith before meeting my fiancé. I’ve now attended Catholic mass for the last 1.5 years with him and while I’ll still say my faith is still weak and very questioning at times I think just taking that time to reflect and listen to something new has made me a better person and it’s definitely strengthened my relationship. A lot of churches also have support groups which give you an outlet and emotional support in things that you’re…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 06:06 PM
3

I think part of being a high value woman is learning how to handle your emotions. When you say “things that come up” do you mean actual devastating relationship issues or small issues that you can simply change your attitude about and/or simply ignore. We tend to overthink things. We tend to think people have bad intentions when they don’t. We tend to assume other people think they way we think and they don’t. These are biological traits that are good for short term survival but can actually des…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 12:05 PM
8

Probably whatever you’re trying to pay for can be found for free in a book or online. The biggest thing is figuring out what changes you need to make, looking yourself in the mirror on a regular basis and reflecting on who you want to be and what you need to do to be that. If you’re experiencing feelings that you don’t want or are negative take a quick walk each and every time it happens to clear your mind and remove the chance of an argument or fight.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 01:34 AM
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You’ve poisoned them against your boyfriend and relationship with whatever negative info you shared with them. Whether that’s warranted or not I don’t have enough info to say. I assume it probably was some very bad stuff based on what you wrote. They don’t respect you anymore since you are staying with this guy. Not sure if that’s fair or not, but that’s the reality. What did he do to you that was so bad?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 12:18 AM
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Most of us have experience with this. It’s about learning to leave your masculine energy at the door and about finding a man who you can feel comfortable doing that with. Women have had stressful jobs through all of history. We’ve always been an integral part of the medical field even when we were confined to midwifery and nursing. Women have always been accountants/business women in their households both big and small, they’d also do accounting for their husbands businesses behind the scenes. S…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 11:24 PM
1

Some people are just jerks. There’s no explanation or conspiracy. They’re just mean just because. It’s best not to worry about what mean people say or do. Mostly ignore them and you’ll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 08:37 PM
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Could be. Really depends on the context and who said it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 02:13 PM
1

If he’s not divorced you’re a mistress love. A “girlfriend” of a married man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 05:17 AM
1

I think him and the wife are not even divorced yet. She’s his “mistress” basically.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 10:38 PM
1

Nobody should ever get married to or pregnant with someone they’ve only know 4 months. Ever. Period. Girl. I’m sorry. Really I am but you are setting yourself up and this poor child up for total disaster here. This whole thing sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:12 PM
1

Step 1: communicate. I have trouble with this too because on a time crunch you feel like you don’t have time to explain yourself and you just rush everything and don’t communicate with your partner. Tell him your plan, your original plan and back up plan and ask for his help doing things when you can’t get it all done. Don’t leave him in the dark. Don’t beat yourself up. I do this stuff too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:08 PM
1

Does he also dream about you being a stay at home wife? What was your discussion about your job after you got married?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:04 PM
1

This is all true.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:00 PM
4

You have tons of time. I met my fiancé at 28. I’ll be married at 30. There are good men out there. I used dating apps. Most of it was first dates and bullshit type stuff. I met someone with NPD. That was INTERESTING to say the least. People are seriously out here with extreme mental health issues and personality disorders so don’t blame yourself when things get weird. Just get out and move on. At the end of the day just treat it like a learning experience and a journey because that is what it is…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 03:09 PM
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The cheating is a symptom of the real problem which is he doesn’t respect you as a person. There are some situations where there is mutual respect and cheating. For example, an agreement where the man is extremely wealthy, does his cheating undercover, and the wife gets to live in a mansion, has the best for her kids, full college funds, etc. A lot of extremely wealthy couples function in this manner because they can and they agree or mostly agree to the trade off. Unless this dude is funding an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:31 AM
4

Good question. Examples from my relationship are 1. He really needs a new phone. Actual chunks are taken out of the glass, but he doesn’t want to spend the money. I personally really want him to get a new phone because it would make me feel better. But I have to remind myself to let it go. He can handle it and use a broken screen phone if he wants to. I’ve though about reaching out to his sister to ask her for a used phone she has but while my brain thinks “yeah do that that’s helping” it’s also…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 02:24 PM
1

The problem is hypergamy. Women, in general, not all, want to marry up in socioeconomic status, social status, and intelligence. In this case OP realized that she would be “marrying down”. He’s not as smart, capable, or as wealthy as her. The question is can she live with that? It seems like that’s not what she wants, but she’s not sure if she should settle. She needs to make sure she’s happy because the second she meets a hot/rich/more alpha guy at work who flirts with her she’s going to be men…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 01:38 PM
2

Absolutely not. But I understand why you would ask that. In a marriage you both submit to each other. With that said, in a Christian (we’re Catholic) or red-pill marriage typically the husband is the “leader”. You can choose to live that way if you want to and it can work really well for some couples. How that looks in my life is not nagging or forcing my husband to bend to my will. I have the power to do that. Most women do when it comes to men who love them. However, I choose not to use that p…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 01:11 PM
1

To me femininity is embracing my natural female traits. For me, this comes down to how I dress and present myself and what tasks I’m “assigned” in my household. These things are typically opposite of what my husband is assigned and we help each other on an as needed basis. To me submission means simply trusting my husband and recognizing that he’s capable of making some decisions and I don’t have to micromanage both of our lives.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 12:13 PM
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You can’t make someone be something they’re not. If you stay with this guy you must have realistic expectations that NOTHING or almost nothing will change about him. Can you live with him and be happy with that? If not it’s beyond time to start dating to find the husband that you actually want. It’s not fair to him to expect him to be something he’s not and you always wondering “what if” and being exhausted by being the “husband” in the relationship instead of the wife. You’ll resent him. You al…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 08:00 PM
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He’s trying to flirt with you. Do you like him? If so, YouTube how to flirt.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 12:20 PM
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Enroll him in therapy?
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 12:45 AM
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Unfortunately he’s created a situation where nobody wins here. He decided to befriend a female coworker. He decided to hang out with her alone several times. He decided to not include you in these meet ups and then he decided to start lying to you about the meetups. He’s put you in a situation where you’re always going to be suspicious of him, and for good reason. Even if this started out as strictly platonic he’s going to resent you for not trusting him and “nagging” or fighting with him over t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 12:17 PM
5

You have to be careful of “love bombing” and people trying to pinpoint your hopes/dreams/vulnerabilities too early in a relationship. Some people are players and manipulators and it’s a game to them. They aren’t serious. It’s very strange when you meet these people because they know how to say all the right things to pull you in and think they are perfect. What they’re really trying to do is learn enough about you to mirror you back to yourself and make you think they’re this perfect person. The…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 01:16 PM
1

I’ve been on the pill for over 10 years. I had to try a couple different types before I found one that didn’t make my periods/cramps worse. Since I found one I liked I haven’t had any real side effects. The problem is that doctors do not understand the female body well or hormones. So what works for me might be terrible for someone else. It’s like slinging mud on a wall.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 05:01 PM
2

My fiancé has never asked me and I’ve never asked him. I’m 29 and he’s 39. I think you reach an age where there’s zero chance you’re finding a virgin and as long as the person seems like they are good and have self respect what they did in their past doesn’t matter as much. Younger people probably care more. I think it’s weird to ask this on a first date, so I think you dodged a bullet on this particular guy. However, you need to make sure you are carrying yourself with grace and respect in the …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 04:57 PM
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If you are asked directly never lie. If you’re not asked about it don’t voluntarily give that information. If your count is high it will affect your ability to hold down a guy. It’s not the end of the world, but it’s always better to have a lower body count when you’re trying to appeal to men.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 04:46 PM
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You don’t have to change anything about yourself. You be you, and make sure he has plenty of one on one play time with dad on evenings or weekends. Listen to Jordan Peterson and or read the book The Boy Crisis to understand the importance of father being around and “rough and tumble” play with dad.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 04:26 PM
3

Can he get a silicone one? The rings do get annoying at times.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 02:52 PM
1

So there is a reason for this both biologically and socially. First, tall men are more attractive because taller/bigger means stronger and healthier and better fit for survival or fighting. Biologically we want our babies to have those traits. Likewise, attractiveness of women matters a lot more than it does for men because men look for beautiful/young/fertile/healthy women to have their babies. Those babies are more likely to be beautiful and healthy if the mother is and they have a better chan…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 09:29 PM
2

Because you can filter men by height on bumble but men can’t filter by weight. Women talk all the time about how they like tall guys and I’m guilty of it myself. I definitely filtered by height on Bumble. However if a guy says he prefers a smaller woman he will get crucified for it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 09:13 PM
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It’s 100% a double standard. But its 2022 so you can identify as 6’2 and nobody can argue with you. It’s your truth.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 08:51 PM
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Plan a date night for next week and then join him and his friends. You deserve a date night you want and it would make him happy for you to hang out tonight. You both deserve what you want just gotta figure out the schedule.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 04:42 PM
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Yep, that has been my experience as well. So I got on bumble to start dating to marry when I was 28, I met my now fiancé about 5 months later, we were engaged after 9 months and we’ll be married on our 2 year anniversary of our first date. If you’re reasonably attractive, have your life together, and don’t come across as crazy you’ll get a lot of dates. Dating can be crazy though. Overall I enjoyed it. But man… some people are a little crazy. Just gotta learn to weed them out as early as possibl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 11:52 AM
2

Awesome! Yeah, you’ll have no end of Slavic American guys in Chicago if that’s what you’re into. That’s what I’m into lol. That’s how I grew up so I wanted those same family values in a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 08:35 PM
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The more conservative/religious areas, so the south and Midwest, will probably be the areas with the most traditional men and women. With that said, everyone moves around especially to bigger cities after college so cities will have a mixture of everything. I live in a very progressive/liberal area and I had no issue finding traditional(ish) men to date. I have a lot of young professionals in my area to choose from and you will to in Chicago. You’ll have a lot of engineering, finance/accounting,…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 08:27 PM
1

I don’t think the space would be a problem of course more is better. Who is responsible for cooking meals? Who is responsible for what bills? Who is responsible for cleaning bathrooms and common areas? What happens if someone doesn’t do their “chores”? What hairstyle will you get from the compound wife hair list? I joke, but it’s is kinda a compound.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 03:41 PM
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Why can’t you just live nearby to them? Neighbors and housemates are two completely different things. Having great neighbors/community is great. Having another woman/man and child in YOUR house is going to be a TERROR. At least it would be for me. Not worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 03:20 PM
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My question is why? Is it to save money? I love saving money, but there are some things not worth it due to mental and relational health reasons. All I can see is two crying babies because as soon as one sleeps the other will cry and wake it up. Y’all will never sleep and no sleep will make you irritable. I 100% wouldn’t recommend it. The women will fight for dominance. It’s our natural instinct and add no sleep and stress to that and a saint of a woman will turn catty as hell. This is biologica…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 12:51 PM
2

How to Win Friends and Influence People. I have a naturally cold personality. I have to read this book or audio book every 1-2 years to refresh. It helps a lot!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 02:19 AM
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No point regretting what you can’t change. That’s a waste of your time. What are you planning to change going forward so that you don’t have the same regrets/issues?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 04:45 PM
3

You look like you have some mental health issues that need to be worked through and don’t know how to communicate well enough to create a healthy longterm relationship right now. That doesn’t make you a bad person or unlovable. There’s tons of women out there that would love to try to “fix” you if you’re attractive enough on the outside. However, a woman who has a logic driven and independent personality isn’t going to take you on. You’re a project. I’d probably get into some therapy. You liked …
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 04:40 PM
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Also invest in an actual good winter coat. Down filled and longer. It should come past your butt. Not a small fashion coat or peacoat. You can find these on sale for around $100-$150 or so and they will last 5-10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 02:51 PM
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Fleece lined tights. You can wear them with skirts or dresses and they’re warmer than jeans or leggings.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 12:36 PM
1

It depends. Have you been on an actual date?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 02:41 PM
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As they say, “All is fair in love and war”, but is this dude really worth love or war? You’ve said yourself he’s a player and probably isn’t a good longterm option. Realistically, you might get a hookup and emotional distress and that’s about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 12:58 PM
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If this guy truly likes you he will be turned on more by natural you than done-up you. Just be confident.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 03:00 PM
4

Hobbies that involve other people are extremely important. Church is a good idea, but not the best for dating. Definitely need something more social and young people oriented.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 03:24 PM
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I don’t think anything makes it “better”, but don’t beat yourself up over it. This is extremely common, but something that is rarely talked about. Keep on going and things WILL work out in the end according to His Will. It’s just hard to understand why right now and will be for a long time. Lots of love! We’re here for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 09:42 PM
1

I agree with this. Actually go out with him somewhere. It doesn’t have to cost money if that’s an issue. There’s tons of free college things to do like museums and such. He sounds interested and shy. See if he’s interested in a more proper date. Hanging out on his bed is going to end in cuddly time which is fine… but you want to see if he’s interested in more than that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 01:04 AM
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I assumed you were talking about grooming like hair style and showering not grooming in that sense. Listen, I’m all for women dating older guys. My fiancé is 39 and I’m 29. I think that an age gap is often helpful for women who like stronger/smarter men/alpha dynamic. But 29 is A LOT different than 18. More than 10 years starts to get risky in my opinion. He’s not a boy. He’s a grown, middle aged man.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 09:15 PM
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Your looks get you the seat at the table, aka the date, but your personality, values, and goals get you the relationship. Guys will drop gorgeous women for more average women who aren’t problematic especially when they’re looking for a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 02:47 PM
1

I agree. I knew I would always be self conscious about it even though I could try everything not to be. For that reason I just went ahead and “fixed” it. It wasn’t an easy decision religiously and culturally, but my goal of finding the right type of man to marry came above those things. And the right type of man to me who was attractive and made good money generally cares about having an attractive wife. Idk, I’d like to think my fiancé would’ve been attracted to me with my old nose and in all l…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 02:39 PM
2

I feel you. It definitely didn’t stop me from finding men, however I do think it stopped me from finding the specific men I wanted. Although, I dated a few handsome men with my old nose, but it was dates/hookups not a relationship. Although I don’t think it was my nose that was the problem there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 12:44 PM
2

It’s hard not to when people make fun of it and they do. Several grown men had made comments about it as well as kids when I was younger. Never any girls, which is surprising because usually we’re meaner to each other.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 12:42 PM
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I’m going to be biased because I got a nose job at 26. My life was extremely fulfilling before the surgery. I wasn’t ugly by any means and neither are you. But our types of noses aren’t conventionally attractive so I’d say I would rate exactly the same as you. I think the surgery definitely helped me land more attractive men to date. It definitely gave me confidence and has given me more confidence/satisfaction with my looks every day for the last 3 years. What I will say is I had the same dilem…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 01:13 AM
2

I mean that’s not bad. Life does get in the way sometimes, but I’m not really seeing the relationship crisis here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 01:00 AM
5

Do you two do anything together? Church, volunteering, exercise class, poker night, literally anything that’s a weekly blow off steam/date night where you’re hanging out and doing something? I know it’s hard to find common interests and time is limited, but I think having one thing a week you do together is very important.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 09:05 PM
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Let them do whatever they want/are good at.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 09:02 PM
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I remember you! Don’t beat yourself up your story makes sense. All of it. Congrats and I hope you find another hobby or job helping people that gives you fulfillment and is not dangerous for you!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 01:16 PM
1

You should watch the Italian grandma YouTube channel. Google her you’ll find her her name is Gina. She’s wonderful. Make one of her recipes for him. All of them are great. Even just spaghetti and meatballs is good especially with homemade meatballs (use beef and pork mixture it is more moist and flavorful). Homemade artisan bread is super easy, only 3 ingredients, but you do need a lodge or le crueset or any type of Dutch oven to bake it in.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 06:59 PM
3

Hugging. I always hug my man from behind when he is doing something in the kitchen literally everyday. He likes it and turns around for a real hug and kiss. I’ve never counted but we probably hug at least 3 times a day, maybe more. Cuddling on the couch is great. And every once in a while if he’s sick or tired laying his head on my chest for a change and playing with his hair/petting him. He usually doesn’t let me do it for that long, but you can feel the stress leaving his body when I do it. If…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 06:55 PM
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I agree. They’re hard to find though. My fiancé is a pretty devout Catholic and he doesn’t turn down drinks or pre-marital sex. The faith isn’t strong enough to overcome the temptation for him. He’s human and humans have a biological need for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 04:24 PM
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Your No is enough. 100% if these are your thoughts and boundaries and he isn’t respecting them then you need to walk away. What a person says and what a person does are two totally different things. I wouldn’t put any merit on what he says. If he’s pressuring you into sex then he’s not trying to be celibate. Period.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 02:05 PM
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I agree with that, I think guys don’t view it that way though. They hang onto this virginity complex and in their minds you already gave it up for a guy and you’re not giving it up for this guy means he just has to be better at convincing you or you’re just being manipulative and are holding sex over his head until he conforms to what you want him to do….. which is not necessarily wrong to do it just comes across as a competition to the man instead of a sincerely held religious belief. Aka it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 01:26 PM
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It sounds like he’s not actually fundamentally against sex before marriage. Although neither of you are a virgin so you’re not as fundamentally against sex before marriage as you say you are either. It’s going to be very difficult to find a high quality man who will wait until marriage for sex. If he’s high quality other women will have sex with him so you better be Mother Theresa and a 10/10 on gorgeousness scale for him to forgo sex for you. With that said, still you should wait until you’re c…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 12:21 PM
1

Didn’t work that way back then unfortunately for her. Luckily he died kinda young. She got married at 15 years old.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 01:47 AM
1

She was married to him and their religion didn’t allow divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 01:39 AM
2

I’m talking about dating. Dating is an art and a science. Im not a proponent of playing games or playing “hard to get” but there is a little bit of nuance and skill to it other than “I like you, I had sex with you, please let me be your girlfriend”. Dating is hard. There’s not a lot of hard and fast rules (other than don’t sleep with them on the first date) in my opinion. But you do have to understand how and when to play your cards even on non-sex stuff. You threw all your cards on the table ex…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 08:13 PM
2

Is there a chance? Yes, nothing is impossible. But what are your odds here? I’d say there’s less than a 50% chance he wants to be serious. It’s up to you whether you take the odds or not. Also you’ve played all your cards as it is. He knows you like him and want a relationship. There’s no game/chase left for him. And he’s already got his sex so he already won even if you end things with him or make yourself less available.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 07:44 PM
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There’s no such thing as a kind of girlfriend he’s just being unclear on purpose to keep you hooked as a potential hookup/fun time. Biologically men fall in love a lot faster than women. The fact that he’s met up with you 7 times and he’s not so far felt that “spark” is definitely a bad thing. However, we can’t tell you what his feelings will do in the future. What you need to do is have realistic expectations about what this is and what it’s not. Which it sounds like you’re hoping this turns ou…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 07:41 PM
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This is all true and works well in a perfect world where you have a perfect husband/ provider. My great aunt had 13 kids and a husband who got drunk beat her. She was totally stuck in her nurturer role since women back then couldn’t really go to college and were expected to just be mothers/wives. Actually she did try to leave once with the kids early on. That got her a beating and she never tried it again. Even women in my immediate family have been stuck in bad marriage because they didn’t have…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 07:30 PM
3

She did and he very clearly said he didn’t view her as his gf.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 07:13 PM
3

That’s unfortunate. Does he ever display empathy for others? If he doesn’t that’s not really something you can teach to adults. If he does and it’s just you he feels unempathetic towards then I think there’s some sort of lack of respect for you and that’s something maybe you could get to the bottom of in therapy. Like what is the reason he feels it’s ok to put you down at all either privately or publicly? Is there something you do or say that he feels like you shouldn’t and therefore feels like …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 07:10 PM
4

Normally no, but being long distance probably. Their dates have been once every two weeks ish. Which isn’t bad at all, but that distance makes things hard. I’ve learned that a guy whose really into you will see you every chance he can get. My now fiancé would set up the next date in the beginning of each date and wouldn’t schedule anything further than a few days although we lived nearby so it was easier. They’ve basically been having dates/hookups which leads me to believe he’s not 100% serious…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:54 PM
15

You’re asking too much too fast. If you’re not his girlfriend,and he’s made it quite clear that you’re not yet, and he’s still casually dating you then you’re free to date other guys which I encourage you to do. Clinginess and desperation are huge turn offs no matter the genders involved. As for intimacy I think it was too soon only because it caused you to catch feelings/bond with him which happens for women more than men. You can still keep dating him and see where things go, but you need to b…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 04:05 PM
11

Do you have a religious counselor you can talk to? You guys should be able to talk about these things and listen to each other without getting defensive. It sounds like you did everything the right way, but he responded poorly. I’d be upset if my fiancé joked about me to other people on specific things. And I’d expect him to hear me out and avoid doing things that hurt me. I’d also want him to tell me if I was doing things or saying things that hurt him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 11:11 PM
2

I got a nose job at 26. It’s one of the best decisions I ever made and have no regrets. It definitely led me to be able to seriously date more attractive men. With that said, I never photoshopped myself or catfished people before and I still got dates/interest. At the end of the day you’re still you and sure the smaller nose will give you more confidence which goes a long way but that’s it. Everything else is still you. Most men aren’t going to be really supportive of plastic surgery. They think…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 05:45 PM
3

A guy who truly likes you will make you his girlfriend after 2 months. It’s time to move on to bigger and better things.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 12:13 PM
2

Yeah the art of the conversation is way more important especially on bumble where the girl has to message first. My go to was always to compliment the guy on something “Hi Mike, you have a really nice smile” or really nice hair or whatever strikes me, usually the guy would compliment back and then move on to hobbies or weekend plans. That first convo line is 10x more important than the bio. But guys have to put pics and a bio so I have something to initiate conversation about. So so other apps t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 12:08 PM
0

I agree with you. I met my fiancé on bumble, and had a lot of success getting dates on there in general, but probably he couldn’t even tell you what I wrote on my bio. Similarly I remember his pictures but not really anything specific he wrote on his bio other than maybe enjoying baseball games.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 02:00 AM
5

So you really just want your husband to earn more?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 12:58 AM
8

Men don’t read them. They just look at the pictures
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 10:56 PM
15

There’s a whole lot in this post about what you want and zero information about what your husband wants. I understand not wanting to work, but women have done both in all of history except for very rich women. Women raised children and also did legit work even if it was in the home like farming/tending animals/ washing clothes by hand, making clothes by hand. It was never just take care of the baby and run the vacuum once a week and throw stuff in the washer. So I think you need to maybe adjust …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 10:01 PM
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What has your boyfriend said about it?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 04:16 PM
0

I’m a sucker for forearm tattoos, but other than that I’m not too into them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 03:49 PM
1

Ask at the church you go to.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 12:36 PM
5

Girl, he’s 37. I’m sorry but therapy is not going to help at this point. You’re also assuming he thinks he needs to change anything about himself which he doesn’t seem to think he did anything wrong. You cannot change personality even with therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 12:35 PM
1

Yeah I was definitely in charge in that relationship. Which became stressful because I needed a partner I could rely on more so I went and found that in a completely different guy and I couldn’t be happier.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 09:23 PM
5

I did when I was younger. It doesn’t matter so much if you aren’t marrying the person. However as I got older I realized the differences were making me feel like he wasn’t the right person to marry so even though it wasn’t a bad relationship by any means it still wasn’t a relationship that was going to end in marriage. We were too different. I think experts are right when they say you HAVE to be on the same page about 3 things: religion, kids and money with money being the #1 issue that causes d…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 08:07 PM
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Don’t say anything at the party. On the way home from the party ask why we did that and tell him that you don’t like it and view it as condescending and mean instead of attentive and loving. I wouldn’t use humor in this situation. I’d have a serious conversation about it in private. Maybe he feels like he has to “man up” to build repoire with the men in your family? But he shouldn’t be doing that in a way that’s disrespectful to you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 05:18 PM
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Yeah, so she might be lacking parental guidance. As a fellow parishioner and older woman you can take a small lead there and kindly and gently let her know if something isn’t appropriate. You can say it jokingly, but saying that and quickly asking her something appropriate about herself gets the message across. Bring the attention back to her and away from yourself. Tell her you like her outfit and where did she get it. Ask her how her week was. Did she visit with any family or friends? If you h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 02:47 PM
6

We’re her parents there? I mean she’s an adult, but it sounds like maybe she didn’t have good parents present to teach her that that’s not appropriate to talk about.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 02:10 PM
14

You can’t base the rest of your life and judge every single person off of the actions of one single person from your past. The reality is he was one person and he made his own choices. Don’t make other men pay for his mistakes in your eyes. Be confident. Being skeptical is ok and encouraged, but don’t let it ruin your opportunity to meet people and build good relationships. This guy might be great or he might be a total bozo, but it’s too early to tell either way at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 01:54 PM
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I guess it really depends on what she is specifically saying or asking. It sounds like she is just excited for you about the marriage and baby, etc. but it’s also totally ok to tell her “that’s not really an appropriate question to ask someone” and then immediately change the subject to something else.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 01:51 PM
3

First, it’s ok to limit the activities. Have the kids pick one thing they do. Second, my mom coordinated with my friends moms to drive us if there was a way to take turns that way. A’s moms drives on Monday and B’s mom drives on Thursday, etc. That made both moms happy. Obviously however you’re doing things now isn’t working well for you. Don’t be afraid to implement some changes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 01:14 PM
8

You did the right thing. You’re making your wants and needs clear. That’s important. You’re receptive of his concerns and his concerns are VALID. Kids are expensive and even more than that extremely time consuming. Thinking he’s going to have time to go out with the guys or do fun travel together is an unrealistic expectation once baby comes. IF baby is healthy and happy it might be doable, but babies are finicky. He/she might be fine/sleep well one night and not stop crying the next and you bot…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 08:53 PM
4

No. It’s disrespectful to actually like or interact with the girls online. Men are visual creatures. You can’t exactly be mad at them for taking a look maybe, but liking and commenting goes too far. Other people see that and the woman looks like a joke and the guy looks like an ass. Respect is everything. Mothers and fathers should teach their children to be respectful and doing this kind of stuff makes me think the guy lacked parenting and social/emotional intelligence.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 12:55 PM
2

What about if you have children? Is he going to take the burden off you and work more? Or is he going to stay home with the children so you can work?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 01:14 PM
2

Be sure. You’re obviously very intelligent and fairly logic based to a point. Listen to your gut on that one. You did the smart thing by avoiding that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 01:13 PM
9

I would keep casually dating him if you’re having a fun time and like him, but I’d also be casually dating someone else since this guy doesn’t much time for you and hasn’t asked you to be exclusive. He’s courting you. That’s all well and good, but there’s no reason to be sitting by the phone waiting for this guys 2x month dates. There may be better options out there. There may not, but you’ll have to find that out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:41 PM
5

Yeah and those men are HAPPY to spend their money on a Corvette and a hot chick to drive around in it to the country club event. Spending money on young attractive women/sex has been a male pastime since forever.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:38 PM
6

Four dates in 2 months makes me think he’s not super interested in you. Has he asked you to be his girlfriend? That should be happening at the 2 month mark and I feel like he should be increasing frequency of seeing each other.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:29 PM
2

Likewise there’s men out there who have the same or similar backstory to you who also have never been married and no kids. They exist. You just gotta keep going until you find him. And truly think about “that type of man that I want has these qualities xyz, what qualities would that man want his wife to have” and maybe work on those.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:27 PM
3

I would say generally this is correct, but I found the exception myself. They’re out there and I’m so glad he didn’t find the right one before me because we’re perfect for each other in every way. Granted I was 28 when we met, so if it had taken longer he might’ve been scooped up. Dating is a numbers game. I was ghosted. I ghosted people. We all get rejected. I had a lot of first and only dates. All you can do is dust off and keep going. Just like anything else worth having in life it’s usually …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:24 PM
9

Men want agreeable women. Your natural personality seems very low on the agreeable/kindness scale. The type of man you want is out working hard all day. He craves a softness and kindness in his own home. He doesn’t want to come home to more problems. And you sound….problematic… personality wise. It is something you can work on. I was like you. Raised in school and college to be a tough, independent career woman. I eventually realized this wasn’t helping me in my personal goal of finding a good h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:11 PM
8

I guess you could say the exact same thing about women not married by age 30?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:59 PM
5

I have and it does a lot of the time, but I think the word toxic is overused. Just because something isn’t sunshine and roses all the time doesn’t make it toxic. The truth isn’t always nice or fun. Single motherhood is a HUGE problem. Not having a father or father figure is extremely detrimental to boys especially, who then grow up with a lot of issues a lot of the time. It’s a real disservice to our children to raise them as single mothers and not provide them with the stability of a father fig…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:50 PM
10

It sounds like he’s not prioritizing dating. He has to make a conscious choice to do that and make it happen. If work is #1 you will always be #2. Some women are ok with that if it means they get a nice allowance in exchange for quality time. Some of us don’t care about the money and want the emotional connection. It sounds like he’s not ready to settle down and make a strong connection. It’s been 2 months. How many times a week are you seeing each other?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 01:10 PM
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I think viewing blue collar workers or people with less education than you as “lower” might be a red flag that you’re quite uppity/snobby which is a turn off for most guys who aren’t also that way. As a high female earner myself I realize that it’s sometimes hard not to look down on people who aren’t as smart, maybe didn’t work as hard, but there’s a big difference on looking down on their actions or inaction and actually looking down on them has a person. The homeless guy down the street or the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 12:59 PM
18

Do you want to deal with the heartbreak now while you’re young and have tons of opportunity to find the guy who won’t do this, or wait until you’re potentially married, 30, and have his kid and he’s stepping out on you? If he did it once he will do it again. Maybe he could hide it better next time. But you’ll never trust him ever again and you probably shouldn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:00 AM
2

Yes, you’re overreacting. And don’t use a guy for free meals if you truly aren’t into him. I do however encourage you to actually try to get to know him. A lot of us weren’t head over heels for our husbands the day we met. Actually a lot of us were like meh after a date or two, but we grew to love them unconditionally. I will say though if there is zero attraction to his physical appearance or it turns you off then cut your losses. Give it 5 dates, and yes walks or picnics or whatever count as d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 09:09 PM
10

I would just tell him that it reminds you of his grandmother and sometimes makes you feel sad. Smell is a legitimate thing that conjures real memories and feelings. He should find a new soap/cologne asap. You could shop together and make a fun date night out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 10:42 PM
3

Exactly. I can still remember high school days of tons of PDA at school, amusement parks, football games, etc. Hormones and emotions are high at that age. Teenagers can be annoying with all of it, but it’s “normal” for them to do it. Eventually you learn to chill tf out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 05:26 PM
4

This is really well written and I’ve felt this so many times already with my fiancé.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:31 AM
20

This I think is quite normal for your ages. You’re in first bf/gf territory. It’s hard to be confident and secure without the life experience to make it that way. It’s not unhealthy to be this way at 18. I’d be more concerned if he was doing this at 28. I had these same experiences with guys when I was your age. I wasn’t ready for that level of cling/commitment so things didn’t always work out for very long. He’ll probably grow out of it/mature as he gets older and more experienced.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 02:40 AM
2

You’re a good woman, wife, and mother. Look at it more like resting than relaxing. Do what you can, but if you get tired or sick listen to your body and rest. If you’re still sitting on the couch instead of cooking or cleaning when kids are in school or whatever then we’ll tell you something different but that’s not the case here. Respect your body and let husband take on extra work for now. It’s totally ok. Also, I’d avoid spray cleaning products. Water and dish soap work just as good for wipin…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 08:37 PM
9

You’re going to have to adjust expectations and so is your husband. You can’t control your health/morning sickness and it’s a priority that you don’t over stress yourself during pregnancy. Maybe you need a temporary cleaning person and/or husband cooks more until you feel up to it again. It’s ok. You’ll have to readjust again when baby comes. And many times throughout life as big changes come.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 05:32 PM
17

Do you give him oral? That’s a good change up. Most men love it. Inviting him to shower with you and giving him oral in there is really nice if you’re up for it. Or actual shower sex is nice, but we have a marble shower so actual sex can get dangerous in there so I stick to oral most times. All in all if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. But If you feel like being more adventurous I don’t think any man will turn that down.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 02:50 PM
13

If a guy is truly into you you will know it 100%. If you’re having doubts especially if it’s been 3+ months of dating and he’s pulling away instead of leaning in he’s just not that into you. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. He may just not be up for something serious right now for whatever reason. Men tend not to be too confusing in their words/actions when it comes to liking/loving you. If you’re sitting by the phone confused that’s a very bad sign. We’ve all been there. We all thoug…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 11:41 PM
2

I agree in theory, but the reality is there’s a ton of posts here and other subs of women complaining that their husband/boyfriend doesn’t work enough or get paid enough. Money problems is the number reason for divorce and women initiate most divorces. With that said I personally know some exceptions where the woman out earns the man and they’re still married. I also know some that divorced because the man felt emasculated by the woman’s attitude about making more money, not really the fact that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 10:43 PM
2

While it’s definitely not a one-size-fits-all idea for either gender I think Kevin Samuels had pretty good standard definitions of both HVM and HVW if you’re ok with generalizing and you realize there is no “perfect” person so nobody is really a 10/10 on all his standards. I don’t remember everything but for a HVM he said: 1. Earns over $100,000. He specifically says $10k per month. Obviously this is location dependent and he doesn’t take that into account. We all know $100k in CA does not equal…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 09:27 PM
10

Probably better to not address it since he’s still in your friend group. Calling someone a liar is a big deal. You could say something like he was too braggish which avoids the liar word, but he’ll ask for examples and once you open the door it’s hard to shut it so I’d just leave it closed. I’d just say you had a fun time with him but it wasn’t exactly what you’re looking for. And thank him for his time
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 07:30 PM
5

I started dating to marry at 28 and will be married at 30. You have plenty of time, but don’t waste it. Focus on improving yourself and making friends and creating a good foundation for becoming a good wife.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 03:51 PM
3

Your analysis is correct in my opinion. It’s a mixed bag. On the surface femininity can seem like weakness, but only because it’s seen as “softer”, some could say that men having a soft spot for their wife and kids and sacrificing time, money and energy for them is “weak” but I thing some softnesses is necessary for the survival of the human race so is it really a weakness? No, in that case I’d argue that it’s a necessary skill and therefore a strength. I think these are hard things to define. I…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 03:48 PM
5

Um. He doesn’t love you I’m sorry. Knowing that (which should’ve been obvious, but I understand not truly wanting to accept it when you love him) you can decide if you want to remain in a one sided relationship or whether you want something more.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 03:32 PM
5

Nose job, teeth whitening, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 11:33 AM
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I listened to the video, or most of it earlier today while I cooked dinner. I can say as a 29 year old who was reading “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandburg a few years back and who is now happily leaning out of my career and getting married in April it was validating that my analysis that women can’t have it all is fairly accurate. Because in reality men can’t have it all either. Life is about making choices that create the life you want in the future. I built my young life around being a career woman. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 01:56 AM
1

Everyone’s bodily and emotional reaction to alcohol is different. It’s not really fair that some people have a fun time and some people get mean/aggressive/violent/ or emotional but that’s the reality. However if you’re in the second category you’re going to have to recognize it which you’ve done! And find a different way to party. It’s not fair to yourself or your friends/family/partner to deal with the drunk you. Drinking is a social activity so it’s hard to quit or just have one but you’re go…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 01:48 PM
9

I’m confused. Is this a private or public photo? If it’s private delete it and forget about it at this point. If it’s still public that could cause issues if he’s family/friends/employer can see it. I would remind him it’s still online and he should probably take it down. Young people do stupid things. Fortunately for some of us the internet was a little before our time because it’s way too easy these days to share stupid stuff and upload it forever.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 01:38 PM
5

Can you guys sit down and actually discuss who is responsible for what? My fiancé and I did this very early on. He flat out told me I’d like you to be in charge of xyz if you’re ok with that and I don’t mind helping with those things whenever you need it just let me know. It works out great honestly. Everything gets done and we feel it’s a fair share of work. We help each other when needed and when we do we understand that that person will be doing it their way. If I need him to cook I don’t com…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 01:32 PM
1

Apprehensive isn’t good. You should be excited for the future!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 12:35 AM
4

It’s weird behavior. I assume he’s doing it because he’s insecure of his “real” self and wants to seem better than he is. He may stop this behavior after feeling more comfortable with you or it may be indicative of bigger issues and this is the tip of the iceberg. You will have to figure that out. You have a good brain though by even recognizing this and trying to figure it out. Idk if it’s “give up on him” material, but you’re going to have to watch and see how pervasive this is over time. The …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 02:11 PM
14

There’s more dancing in the world than salsa/tango lol.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 12:43 PM
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I was assuming it’s a female dance class. Like Zumba or something.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 12:42 PM
63

Y’all are burned out. That happens with the kids. You do need to spend some time alone and together without the kids. I know it’s hard, but the kids will be fine. Do a dance class one day a week while husband watches the kids and he needs to find something he likes to do while you watch them. Then find time to do something together once a month at least. It’s easy to focus on the kids so much that you lose your identity and lose your marriage. It’s also not good for the kids to see you burnt out…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 11:25 AM
2

Why did he get divorced? Are the issues that led to that divorce “fixed”. Realistically he can get remarried at 40 and have a family and start over. You can’t wait that long or you’re not going to be having biological kids most likely. Or…he can never get remarried and just shack up with someone who doesn’t require kids or commitment from him if that’s what he wants. I think you need to be 100% honest in what you want and when: things like being engaged, getting married, buying a house and havin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:10 AM
1

In my opinion there are two reasons a woman would wait until marriage. 1. She’s a virgin and there’s a religious/moral reason that she’s a virgin and waiting until marriage or 2. She’s ran through and makes terrible partner choices and is manipulating a “good” man to wait for her because she can’t take any more “use”. RP women typically lean religious/traditional it’s not a requirement. Red pill is more about realizing your value as a woman specifically and recognizing how men view they and resp…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:03 AM
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I mean…we’re all dying. Wanna be more specific?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 12:55 AM
1

Very nice! I work in Internal audit
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 06:55 PM
2

I think this is one of those situations where you focus on the good and you realize and accept the bad. You had a great connection with him and you had fun, but due to circumstances and distance and whatever else he’s not “end game” for you. If you want to keep talking to him in your free time it’s ok, but dating other guys and trying to find your forever husband needs to be your priority. This guy is a distraction. Which isn’t the end of the world. Distractions are fun, but don’t overdo the fun…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 03:21 PM
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I work in accounting. It required a bachelors degree and I went on to get a CPA. I make $120k, work 100% remote and average work week is about 20-30 hours. I’m a homemaker who gets paid $60/hour to check my email and do some spreadsheets and write reports. It is highly technical but I like the work and obviously don’t regret spending 4 years on the degree. I should be able to keep working when I have a baby as long as I get my work done on time and it’s high quality I have a high level of flexib…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 01:55 PM
0

What’s an example of a dangerous mistake?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 09:58 PM
7

This 100%. You have a very good man. It’s amazing that he recognizes this and politely course corrects so that things don’t turn hectic and truly cares about you’re happiness and well being. I’ll be honest with you that I’ve met women that carried the burden you talk about their whole lives and I’ve seen their mental capacity shattered at a fairly young age. They think they can do it all, and they do, but it takes a toll. I don’t want to be that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 01:25 PM
1

Absolutely
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 02:11 PM
9

It is and it isn’t. My fiancé would risk everything for me and my happiness. Maybe not happily because he is in charge, but I’m the #1 priority in his life.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 08:20 PM
12

Personal experience. My man is Alpha AF but would die to make me happy. The only way to keep that devotion though is to not abuse it. All the men I’ve dated and some I haven’t same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 06:34 PM
11

A beautiful and valuable woman holds all the power in any relationship with any man for the most part. What she decides to do with that power determines the outcome. If you’re a horrible person and abuse it you end up with a Johnny Depp/Amber Heard situation. If you value your man and use your power in good faith and sparingly you’re going to have a great relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 04:33 PM
8

I think what you’re feeling is normal. Let yourself sit in the envy for a little while. Then pick up your life and do the things you want. Use it as fuel to better yourself just make sure you’re doing it to better yourself and not for a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 03:59 PM
4

Meeting a stranger in another country sounds quite dangerous. It could be fine or you could end up on 20/20 or dateline. You won’t be able to properly vet this guy in his Natural state and you’re stuck with him and have no resources or friends or family nearby if things go sour.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 03:40 AM
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Yesss! I give you kudos because you were super receptive to everyone’s comments even when they were critical. Most peoples, including myself, first reaction is to get defensive. I say keep giving him love and encouragement and try to de-stress him as much as you can with good food and sex. Let him tell you about work stuff if he wants to, but don’t ask. The newness of it is overwhelming for him and you need to be his soft shelter away from work this month. I think he will return the favor! Also,…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 07:02 PM
3

I’d try to save the marriage. Give him a chance and room to redeem himself. It won’t be easy and it’ll take time, but your kids will appreciate you guys trying to work it out rather than giving up on each other. If he can’t make any progress then you have to make a decision on whether you really want to support him forever when he’s not even really trying to support you. You can’t control how he responds to a separation though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 06:56 PM
2

That’s awesome!!! It’s so incredible knowing he’s the one and you’re a great fit!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 06:39 PM
2

Unfortunately some people don’t have resilience. They don’t know how to get back up after a knock down and they blame everyone else for the condition of their life and always will rely on someone else to “save” them yet still feel resentment for the person that did. If that’s been your husband for 10 years then that might just be him. I’m not sure there’s anything you can do to change him. I think the guy you initially met was him before he experienced hardship. You can’t really inspire gumption…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 01:36 PM
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Does he have a job now? He needs to get it together and become the man his child needs him to be. If he does that he will become the husband you need him to be. It’s his move. You made yours and you saved your family. Now it’s his turn.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 01:58 AM
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I’ve never considered an IUD because the “insert” and “take out” part terrifies me. I don’t want a sharp object shoved into my body. A lot of my friends have them though and other than pain/cramping during insert/take out they seem to like them. I’ll be honest with you that women’s bodies are complicated and doctors honestly don’t know that much. Ask any woman and she’ll have a story where she talked about a concern to her doctor and it was dismissed or the doctor said “I’ve never heard of that …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 07:18 PM
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99% of my dresses and skirts are from Amazon. They’re usually really affordable.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 07:04 PM
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I did too. I always offered to pay or split the bill with dates. My biggest reason was to show that I was actually interested in the person and not free dinner (because there’s a lot of girls out there who are only there for free food/drinks) and two because I don’t want a man to feel like I “owe” him anything because he bought me dinner. Also, it’s 2022. I make as much if not more than a lot of guys my age so making them pay for everything seems unfair to me. Most guys insisted on paying, but I…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 02:09 PM
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I make written to-do lists for each day. Crossing stuff off is a little dopamine hit. I invested in air pods which are amazing. I listen to podcasts or YouTube or audiobooks while doing laundry or cleaning. They also are great for walking/exercising. Walking is great for you but gets boring but I have my media playing while I walk which makes it fun.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 01:55 AM
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This man has not committed to you and you haven’t met his parents. You are not an acceptable wife according to his culture. These are things you probably can’t change. You can practice your femininity for your sake and for future relationships, but you will have a hard time submitting to a man that ultimately does not hold you in high esteem. My now fiancé introduced me to his parents after knowing him for 2 weeks. That’s quite fast, but it gave me a lot of confidence that he was into me, excite…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 07:32 PM
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Nobody is perfect. From a personal standpoint physical attraction and shared values are the most important qualities. From a Christian standpoint men and women aren’t supposed to be alone. Men need a wife and women need a husband. Mainly, for the creation of children and a family unit. Viewing it this way helps quell the thoughts that everything is a Hollywood/Disney movie romance. Your job is to find a good man and become his wife/helpmate. You support each other through good times and bad. He …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 05:08 PM
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Yeah I would. Cute story: my now fiancé never asked me to be his girlfriend. He just assumed that we were. I had to ask and he was kind of shocked that I thought we weren’t boyfriend and girlfriend. He was like “of course” we are. Ok well you never officially asked me so I didn’t want to assume anything. He’s pretty traditional HVM who asked my dad for my hand and had a traditional engagement so idk if he just didn’t know how to ask me to be his girlfriend or felt like it was weird to do that wi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 04:47 PM
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What is he looking for in a relationship? If you’re 3 months in and can’t answer that then I agree that’s concerning and you might be wasting your time if he’s not looking for the same thing as you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 11:38 AM
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You’re having a medical emergency and you work in the medical field. If you were your patient would you suggest that they work the rest of the day? No, you wouldn’t. This is serious. Complications on this type of stuff can cause infertility so I wouldn’t play around too much. Your work will understand. If they don’t I’m not sure you should stay working there. You can bring them a note from the doctor at the urgent care.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 08:12 PM
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Don’t wait until you get off. I would head there right now. You’re sending some mixed signals to him since you’re at work when your doctor told you not to. You either are well enough to be at work or this is a bad situation and you need medical check up and care. It sounds like you shouldn’t be at work. Whoever removed the IUD is ideally who you should call and tell your symptoms to, but if urgent care is close to you then it’s a good idea to stop there and see what advice they have. I think you…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 07:22 PM
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I was on about 4 months before I met him. I would just say talk to the person for a few days up to 2 weeks depending schedule before committing to an in person date. This gives you time to see if they’re interested in you as a person. Always go to a public place on a first date. Never go to someone’s house or apartment. Never sleep with a guy on the first date. I don’t really have any set in stone rule other than that. Overall online dating was a positive experience for me. You will be rejected.…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 06:08 PM
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I met my fiancé on Bumble. I tried for years to meet people organically, but nobody was husband material. I would never have met my fiancé otherwise although we only lived a few miles apart because we did not frequent the same places. People on the apps are looking for a hookup or a relationship. If you get good at weeding out the guys looking for a hookup then you’re left with guys looking for a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 05:41 PM
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Awesome! Glad we can help!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 03:38 PM
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Ok sounds like problem solved on that issue. Overall it sounds like you need some redpill tools to help you navigate right now, and throughout your marriage. We all do what you do. I had my fiancé tell me yesterday while we were trying to figure something out “just stop and listen to me for one second” because most of us tend to get on something and just talk and rationalize and try so hard to figure it out that out guys get frustrated and sometimes need us to step back and let them handle it. I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:59 PM
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As an American Christian woman I have no clue how dating works in your culture unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:18 PM
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Don’t use the “do you think I would do xyz” line. It’s manipulative. He’s always going to say no because saying yes ends in you crying and fighting. This doesn’t create an atmosphere where you’re both open and honest. You’re putting him in an accusatory/defensive position. Control your insecurities.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:13 PM
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You need to stop this. At least for right now. You’re acting irrational and he’s already stressed. Give him a month to settle into his work. Being new anywhere sucks. He doesn’t know the people and he doesn’t know the work. He will though and probably quite quickly like all the rest of us. The first week to month of ANY job is stressful because you’re making your first impressions. Do not talk about the phone thing for 30 days. Don’t ask him any admin questions. He’s still learning those things.…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:06 PM
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What hours do you work? Can you cook for him more? It sucks that he has to cut into sleep and go outside the house to feed himself if you are available to cook. It sounds like he has a tough schedule and that’ll create resentment. I’d try to schedule in at least one meal a day together. Eating together is a bonding experience. You try to take the lead on that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 11:54 AM
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Don’t marry someone until you’re on the same page financially. Money fights are by far the most common reason for divorce. You seem pragmatic and want the security of owning a home and having an emergency fund. Pretty much every woman is like this. He can’t ignore this or any woman he’s with is going to eventually feel resentful and unhappy due to financial insecurity. I think you should sit down and discuss other financial goals so that he understands how the ring fits into your big picture and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 11:30 AM
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Dress more provocatively/sexy. If you’re wearing things that men can tell you’re wearing to garner male attention then they feel more comfortable approaching you. This is a tough line to walk because it’s sometimes difficult to find where the line is between slutty and interesting/sexy. You don’t want to overdo it. To me these are things like denim skirts that are above the knee instead of shorts or jeans and Tank tops that actually show off a little cleavage. Sundresses are perfect, but you can…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 05:33 PM
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Some of my female friends are redpill without realizing that they are. Some of my friends are blue pill/extremely liberal. Honestly it doesn’t matter to me. I love them all and just want them to live in whatever way makes the feel happy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 05:28 PM
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I don’t think there’s a one size fit all definition, but based on your post I’d say you definitely lean redpill rather than blue pill. My fiancé is definitely a HVM and he lets me lead on our social lives. Reservations and get togethers, etc. All he asks is I put our scheduled events on the fridge and I let him know what he should bring/wear. I think traditionally women tended to be in charge as far as social lives and men just went along with it. We tend to be more social so it makes sense. Red…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 05:26 PM
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Definitely do what you have to do. I think setting a time period is good. DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT THE TIME PERIOD. If your goal is to assess his viability for a husband he needs to be in his natural state. You need to assess him from the sidelines. Second chances in most cases are fine. I encourage it. But you have to end it after two if things aren’t fixed. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice… I’ll be honest though. I think this dude is playing with you and why not? It’s fun for him and you’…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 03:37 PM
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I don’t think it’s as serious as you make it. All the women in my family are tiny. They’re fine. My grandma is actually turning 90 this years and is in amazing health. She still goes to outdoor fairs and walks around no problem and cooks, etc. She’s never started a lawnmower or even driven a car. She walked everywhere as a child and young adult until she got married and my grandfather bought a car. I understand what you’re saying in that staying active is very important. I exercise a lot. I help…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 03:24 PM
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This dude sounds like a Pandora’s box of issues. If you want to sift through his chaos that’s fine, but you’re 27 so the clock is ticking on marriage and kids. Maybe set a time limit like 4 months and if things aren’t goin in the marriage direction (which they probably aren’t cause this dude is YOUNG) men don’t need to marry until their late 30’s in a reality. Women kinda need to get it done by 30 if possible due to pregnancy issues. He has 10+ years to play the field. And he can settle with a 2…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 02:58 PM
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Yeah I probably should lift some weights. I’m 5’7 and have always been underweight according to BMI. But I also don’t want to cut the grass so I’m not mad it. I think like most women if it came down to it like my husband dies then I’d have to lift weights and do more “man” stuff because I’ll have no choice. Right now, while I have a choice, I’d rather do more traditional female things. It comes more naturally and is much less difficult for me. I’ve never had to lift anything heavy in my life. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 02:50 PM
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That’s awesome. I wish I could do more. I don’t think anyone thinks it’s because of a penis. It’s because of average physical strength. I’m 115 lbs. I can’t even start the lawn mower because I’m not strong enough to pull the cord with one arm 🫤
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 01:59 PM
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If you’re his girlfriend then he needs to be in contact with you. Did he have a phone at the camp? I understand he can’t be on it most of the time, but it’s unrealistic that he couldn’t send a few messages to check in with you. Maybe there was no cell phone service? I kinda doubt that… Really I think the problem is that he lives 2 hours away. That’s a really long distance if he has to work weekends and has other stuff. If he lived nearby he could stop over to see you or go out for an ice cream o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 12:41 PM
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Here’s my perspective: First, I don’t think he’s lying. I legitimately think he’s busy and lives far away from you Second, has he asked you to be his gf? If not then talking about marriage only one month in is weird. I can’t tell if he’s dragging you for a ride here or what. Third, now that I’m thinking about it not contacting you the entire time is weird. A guy who is scared of losing a woman he’s trying to snag would send a good morning, or good night text or something even if it’s every coupl…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 12:00 PM
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22 is very young. It’s a great age to start something new though. I graduated college and moved by myself to a new state for work at 22 and it felt like I finally entered adulthood. With that said, my middle twenties were a big learning experience. 29 year old me and 22 year old me are two completely different people. All in a good way though. As for the break up, everyone says this but just take your time. I didn’t date for 2 years after a longterm relationship ended and honestly it was perfect…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 08:14 PM
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It’s definitely real. There’s counter examples to every social or psychological conclusion. Some of these make sense though like the lady who doesn’t need her husband to make that much because daddy pays for her. Then the lady that herself has self esteem issues and is personally an underachiever. You might not attract or want to attract and over achieving guy if those aren’t your values. When I was looking for a husband I definitely preferred a guy who made more than me or at least as much as m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 12:26 PM
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Things my mom taught me: 1. How to be creative and learn 2. How to treat all people with dignity no matter their position in life, education, or wealth. Things she didn’t teach me: How to cook or clean Things she tried to teach me: How to deal with and flirt with men. At the time I was too young and “independent” to allow a bf to open the car door for me. I think the most important thing you can teach someone is how to treat others and using polite manners. Other than that anything you can do to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 12:14 PM
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You’re 100% right. This is something I need to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 11:50 AM
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Don’t put all your eggs in the husband basket. It’s not rational in 2022. You don’t want to leave yourself with nothing if the right guy doesn’t show up. Do your schooling and start creating the life you want. You can date while going to school. Most HVM will be turned off by a girl with no direction or job who just wants to be impregnated. You don’t have to be a career woman but you need some sort of education and some sort of job. You can quit or later if you have kids and it makes sense to do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 08:24 PM
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Thank you. Yeah I think you’re right. There are some family dynamics there at play that I don’t want to brutally shut down because I don’t think it’s coming from a bad place, it’s just navigating that line. We do hang out with them all the time, I think the coed thing was just to do something different other than all women, but it just doesn’t make sense because we already had an engagement party.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 07:06 PM
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Exactly. A lot of people have told my fiancé he needs to start practicing saying “yes dear” and just do whatever I want. I don’t want that! You can’t have 2 captains and I don’t want all that responsibility for the rest of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 07:01 PM
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This is spot on. Someone else also mentioned politely bringing up the fact that fiancé has made it clear that him being involved would make him extremely uncomfortable. I respect that and they should too. I wouldn’t want him to force me to do something I’ve made it clear I don’t want to do. but people view guys as just supposed to follow and do whatever the women want regardless of their own feelings a lot of the time. Like my purpose is to make his life better/easier not cause him grief. I did …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 06:08 PM
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He did already. I think they think I can convince him to change his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 05:32 PM
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I agree, but I feel like since I already said yes I have to be involved. I texted her that I’d like a ladies only shower. We’ll see what she says.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 05:14 PM
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We already had an engagement party I forgot to say that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 05:13 PM
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I totally agree with you. I really wish I would said anything but “ok” at first. I should’ve said like let me think it over and talk to my family first. I just got nervous I think. Yeah I texted her that I would do a ladies only shower. If she’s fine with that I’m good with that. If not we can cancel it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 05:13 PM
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Thank you for making me not feel crazy. We had an engagement party already and it was great. That’s what we were saying this is like a second engagement party which is weird. I texted his sister and said I would like a ladies tea party event for the shower if she wants to do a shower.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 05:11 PM
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Kevin had a pretty large following. Now that he’s gone there’s a lot of ad revenue to be made if they can scoop his viewers. If there’s an audience/consumer base for something people will produce it and there is for redpill content.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 02:22 PM
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I watched True Blood and realized that guys tend to like that look (Sookie Stackhouse). At first I was like this grown women is dressing like a teenager then I was like “oh that young, girl next door super feminine look” is really attractive to guys. She was on to something.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 05:46 PM
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What country? In my experience Polish men are some of the worst guys when it comes to respecting women. Literally traveled a lot of Europe and Poland was the only place I had issues with men at all. Not all of them, but I had issues there I didn’t expect to have. Croatian men were some of the best. Incredibly respectful, handsome, and manly. Literally went to topless beaches there (almost all beaches are topless for women there) and absolutely no issues. It was an incredible experience. My only …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:07 PM
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I’d it before baby is born.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 08:45 PM
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If you never marry your child will always be asked why you guys aren’t married or why you have a different last name. Not the end of the world, but in general, children do better socially and academically when they have a father in their life and even better outcomes when the parents are married. Second you are not entitled to anything your boyfriend owns and he’s not entitled to anything you own automatically when you die or in the case of a break up. You can fix this a little bit by making eac…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 12:05 PM
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I 100% understand and agree with you. My point was that in the US women are particularly praised by everyone for being wives and mothers and for being workers. It’s constant. However, men are often ignored and worse, vilified when in reality they are just as important as women (and often more important if they’re involved in the working class/infrastructure jobs like plumbing and construction). Where you come from may be different.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:01 PM
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I would say a job that physically saves lives is more important when you come down to brass tax. I work in finance. It’s about 50/50 on men and women. If our audit report doesn’t go out on time nothing happens. If the men repairing the bridge so that it doesn’t collapse make a mistake people die. Most survival/infrastructure jobs are on men to take care of. The exception is the medical field. But then again, doctors can’t work effectively If there aren’t majority men crews to build the medical f…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:39 PM
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Do you do a physical job? I’d say be the change you want to see in the world. I know one female car mechanic. She’s awesome, but she’s the only woman I know who does something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:27 PM
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Personally, I’m about 112 lbs. I can’t lift our large cast iron skillet with one hand - I have to use two hands. I can’t physically lift someone’s 30lb trash can into a truck- let alone 100 people’s. Working in STEM is fine. I do that and I make a lot of money doing it, but my job doesn’t save lives. The trash guys does though so we don’t get sick from being surrounded by trash.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:19 PM
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We can to a large extent, but we don’t usually. When our pipes broke last week I was not the one soldering them back together. That was my future husband. I’ve never seen a female garbage collector. I’m sure the exist, but it’s few and far between. The crew that went up a 40 ft ladder and risked their lives to install our new roof was entirely men. That doesn’t mean women can’t do it, but they usually aren’t.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:02 PM
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Do you guys own the apartment or rent? Are you looking to save to buy a house?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 07:33 PM
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So that makes me think that something bigger is going on and he is uncomfortable discussing it with you. For whatever reason. If it was ONLY money related that’s something easy to talk about. He doesn’t want to tell you the real reason.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 06:21 PM
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It sounds like you aren’t listening to him about the financial aspect. He’s saying you can’t afford it and you’re saying you can. Why does he think you can’t afford it? Ask him to be specific. Maybe you can bring in income or cut expenses somewhere else if money is the only issue he has. Talk about it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 03:41 PM
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My particular partner is incredibly self sufficient. I know many men who would be lost as far as domestic duties though. So my perspective is very different.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 01:42 PM
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That’s true, but the data still shows that these types of jobs/roles are huge majority men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 01:40 PM
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In a first world environment where there are men for hire, women can be mostly self sufficient, but We’d be utterly screwed for survival without men. Men physically built the world you live in: your house, your car, they pick up your trash, and plumb your house and repair the electric lines when a tree hits them. Personally, I have life insurance on my partner so that if he goes before me I can pay off the house. Although, I would probably end up moving because our current house is a lot to take…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 11:11 AM
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True. My fiancé always tells me that I’m smart which is incredible, but I am smart, and I use my smarts to benefit our goals. It’s not clear whether OP truly has an intelligence aspect, not to be mean but we all know people who don’t or who lack common sense or are ditzy, or her boyfriend doesn’t appreciate it if she does. My fiancé praises me for 3 things: gourmet cooking, looks, and intelligence. He doesn’t praise me for qualities I don’t have. For example, I lack patience.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 01:23 AM
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What other qualities do you bring to the relationship and how do you show them off? For example, do you cook? Do you cook from scratch for him? Are there certain things that he likes that you do for him? Do you bring intelligence and problem solving to the relationship in a way that is helpful? Whatever your other qualities are do you showcase those? Ultimately women’s looks and femininity are number 1 on a guys list so I wouldn’t worry too much.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 09:01 PM
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No. There’s leading. There’s traditional gender roles and then there’s emotional abuse. Controlling behavior typically goes in the emotional abuse category. Specifically, his behavior went past stating preferences and leadership. Trying to isolate you from friends and family and accusing you of bad behavior that doesn’t exist is emotional abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 04:45 PM
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He sounds selfish. Unfortunately, I don’t think you can change that at all whether you work on you or discuss it with him. That’s who he is. You can’t change personality. He’s not your husband so you get to decide whether you can accept and love all of this guy, including the “bad” parts or whether you should look for something different in a husband. You’ve discussed things. You’ve done all you can do. Do not expect his personality to change. Accept it or don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 11:26 AM
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I think you’ll be totally fine. You’re still young enough to date seriously, get married and have children (plural) if that’s what you want. Dating is a numbers game. You’re gonna just have to play and see if you win.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 12:56 AM
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Unfortunately you can’t receive from someone who is not willing/eager to give. With that said, not everything here is intuitive. I don’t mind asking for things like chocolate when I’m on my period, but as an adult he should’ve been taught by his parents to pick up his trash or put his dirty plates/cups away. I also do most of the housework, but my fiancé cleans up after himself and is really polite and takes my plate after dinner/helps clean if I cook. My fiancé was raised this way and I wasn’t.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 12:53 AM
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The most poised reaction from you is to do nothing differently and say nothing. Have the confidence to not need other peoples validation. I know that’s hard, especially with best friends, but starting drama or jealousy talk is never going to end well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 08:24 PM
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I would say so yes. You definitely have the mindset of a blue pilled woman. At least as you are right now. To be a RPW you’d have to do 180’s on pretty much everything in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 08:10 PM
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That’s fine, but he ghosted you so I guess it doesn’t matter now. It sounds like you’re not really ready to actually find what you’re looking for. I’d take some time, buy yourself a coffee and sit in a courtyard somewhere and just think. Dream. What are you trying to accomplish? Do you want a career as a husband or do you want a husband? Either is fine, but you can’t have both. One has to be a priority. What type of man do you want? What type of woman does that man look for? What caused this man…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 08:04 PM
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Good question. No, I definitely would not say he is low value. It sounds like he is on his way to becoming a HVM, but he’s early on in his journey. Good looking, masters degree, seems to have a good relationship with his family, Christian values. I would say the ONLY thing he is missing to get there is experience and financial independence. I assume he has a good job already? So those things will come in time. He’s “High Value Potential”. Here’s the thing: at your age do you have the time to dat…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 07:39 PM
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Not dating someone older is going to significantly reduce your dating pool and most likely (like 90% chance) reduce your standard of living/household income. You’re preferences/standards are fine, it’s your life. But I just want to make sure by making that a standard you realize the “consequences” of those choices. So just make sure you’re ok with that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 06:54 PM
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I was 28 when I met my fiancé. I was looking for a guy who already had a house preferably because I was ready to get married and have children. 25 is really young to own a home. It’s only a few years out of college. Maybe only 1-2. Living with parents is awesome when you’re starting out and paying off debt and saving money which is dude is going. No doubt he will be high value by 29. Unfortunately, by then OP will be approaching geriatric pregnancy timing. And guys tend to go for younger women a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 06:53 PM
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First, this dude wasn’t high value. He was only 25 (the age the human brain finishes developing) and still lives with his parents. You’re 29 and ready for a marriage. He may become high value in time, but at this moment, he’s definitely not. He may be hott. But that makes him good for a hookup( if you’re into him) he’s not prepared to be a husband/father. When he’s 35 and ready he can snag himself a 20 something wife no problem.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 05:45 PM
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I’m gonna be honest here, so don’t take it offensively. If I had to describe you using 3 words based on ONLY what you wrote here I would say 1. Unhinged 2. Entitled 3. Confused. Let’s break some stuff down. This guy invited you meet his parents/siblings house for dinner and you declined because you think he wanted to have sex with you there…. At his parents house? To me, this doesn’t seem like a logical conclusion. He asked about a meal you like and was excited to cook for you and you blew it in…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 05:40 PM
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There’s a difference between no sexual attraction and not attracted to. Is he unattractive to you? Or you’re just unsure if you’re attracted to him? Plenty of women I know weren’t super attracted to their now long term partners at first. They didn’t think they were ugly/unattractive (I think if that’s the case don’t even consider it) but they were definitely unsure and developed strong feelings over time. Funny story I’ll never tell my fiancé: the first time we made out was terrible. He was a te…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 03:15 PM
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25 is typically really young for a guy to get married. There’s a few out there that have things figured out and do it and that’s fine, but generally they’re not super financially stable at that point. It’s not 1950 where you join the military and buy a house for $25K. Economically things are different. Socially things are different. If you’re ready you have to date to find a man that’s also ready.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 02:51 AM
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I agree with you totally. I discovered orgasm very young. I can make myself come easily. I come very easily by piv. I like it, it’s great, but I’m more interested in the emotional connection of sex. Everybody’s different. It’s good that guys want to please you and give back, but it doesn’t need to become a fixation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 05:00 PM
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Yeah. So they’ve always had a connection to femininity and beauty. Also a status symbol since most of Europe is landlocked so the korale would have to be purchased from sea port villages which were always the most wealthy parts of Europe since that’s where trade/jobs were.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 04:44 PM
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You can’t marry your dad so you have to find a guy that vibes with you. Do you like being high maintenance? It’s fine if you do, but I think you need to spend some time writing out similarities your share with your mom/dad and the differences. Nobody is perfect. Your dad isn’t perfect. Neither is your mom. What are some things you can learn from them and what are some things you would do differently or look for in a partner that are different?
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 08:10 PM
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This type of necklace is extremely popular in Slavic regions. The red beads you see with Polish, Ukrainian, Croatian, Russian, etc. traditional clothing for women often contains bright red beads made from coral. “Czerwone korale” is “red coral”. example Polish womens clothing
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 02:57 PM
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First, if he’s not that into you. You know this if he isn’t asking for dates and making time to see you often. Second, if he acts disrespectful towards you. This could be lewd or rude comments or ignoring you. You can give the benefit of the doubt here, but if this is recurring behavior it’s time to walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 12:27 PM
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Pregnancy hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 12:17 AM
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That’s very true
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 07:20 PM
1

Sounds like a very good plan/approach.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 07:19 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely not a one size fit all thing. When I was a virgin and new to sex I was incredibly shy. It wasn’t necessarily a problem but I never initiated sex and wasn’t that enthusiastic. I was pretty scared.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 02:45 PM
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I get it and I’m rooting for you! But yeah, I think it’s a much bigger problem than just porn. We have A LOT of underdeveloped men and women because they were never taught how to be a man or a woman and to respect themselves and that creates insecurities and anxiety that leads to promiscuous behavior that it’s extremely dangerous and porn addiction. To actually fix the problem at large we have to stop blaming the porn industry or video games or whatever the Vice is and address why people are fai…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 02:31 PM
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Nothing in life worth having is easy to get. If you want a good husband you will have to work for it. But believe me, I totally understand. If the apps were getting too exhausting I would take a break, but usually only a few days to a week and then back on the grind. It was worth it in the end. In my opinion most men do not want a virgin. They want someone who knows how to please them in bed and isn’t incredibly shy, and that takes experience. They want you to play the virgin in front of their m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:57 PM
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That makes sense. Take my opinions/suggestions with a grain of salt- I’m an accountant, not a therapist, but I’ve lived with people with all sorts of addictions. Porn addiction is real just like gambling or eating or drugs. From my perspective unfortunately there are people with what I call “addictive” personalities. It means that they struggle more with addiction and decisions around addiction more than the average person. My mom is one of those people. She self soothes anxiety with cigarettes …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:51 PM
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That makes sense. Take my opinions/suggestions with a grain of salt- I’m an accountant, not a therapist, but I’ve lived with people with all sorts of addictions. Porn addiction is real just like gambling or eating or drugs. From my perspective unfortunately there are people with what I call “addictive” personalities. It means that they struggle more with addiction and decisions around addiction more than the average person. My mom is one of those people. She self soothes anxiety with cigarettes …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:51 PM
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I’d focus on finding a man/relationship that is marriage potential. I started dating to find a husband at 28. I met my fiancé after about 4 months on bumble. He’s everything I could ever want plus more. I’ll be married at 30. The dating apps work. It’s not a whole lot of fun I’ll be honest. But if you want a husband you need to treat dating like a part time job. It’s exhausting. Luckily as an attractive girl you will get lots of matches. Then you have to talk to multiple guys at once which is a …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:38 PM
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This is a very interesting and thought provoking post. Do you think there could be other factors affecting your intimacy issues not just porn? Did you have a father in your life? I feel like I have male friends like you who struggle with very similar issues and in their case (I can’t say for sure about you) a brokenness that stems from a lack of male bonding. They lack essential life knowledge, even though they’re college educated, and they definitely lack encouragement. Have you tried therapy? …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:29 PM
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I think everyone here agrees with the original idea of feminism which equates more to “equality”. Broadly, equality goes wider than just women. A belief that all people should have the same basic rights regardless of gender, race, religion, etc. I think the dissent is more with modern day feminism which tends to blame men for women’s problems and society’s problems and places no or little value on men. This subreddit believes men and women are equal. We just recognize that men and women are not …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:13 PM
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You don’t have to kiss on the first date. I actually didn’t on the first date with my now fiancé. The date was great, but we both lean introverted and while we talked for a long time I didn’t feel “connected” to him yet on an emotional level. He went in for a kiss and I gently turned my head so that it was more of a hug/cheek kiss. It’s ok to feel unsure. It’s ok to wait until you want to do anything and don’t feel pressured by the guy. Generally younger guys tend to be looking primarily for sex…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 12:22 PM
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There’s always going to be someone prettier, smarter and younger than you. You have to accept that as the facts of life and be secure in yourself. Nobody else is you. Therefore, those things don’t matter. If you live your life insecure about the “proverbial” ex or waitress or coworker that has something you don’t have you will be unhappy forever and potentially ruin your relationship. Don’t get caught up in hypotheticals like you did here. Men don’t appreciate it. Try to gain confidence. Everyon…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:51 PM
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While it’s very generous of him I’d just make sure that there’s no hard feelings if you guys break up. You’re not his fiancé or his wife and treating you like you are by paying your bills might create resentment if something happens. As long as you don’t feel “stuck” and that you could walk away if needed and he’s not going to lash out about the money it’s ok…not ideal, but he needs to understand that it’s a gift with NO Expectations attached.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:46 PM
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It’s harder, but not anywhere near impossible. Let’s be honest, most people (say 80%) are average looking. Then 10% below average and 10% above average. Therefore, almost everyone false into the average category. I’d probably put you there as well just statistically. Things that you can do to increase your looks is exercise and makeup/hair. If you’re in shape then you automatically get 1 extra point. If you do makeup/hair to enhance your looks that adds another point. So a solid 5 can turn into …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 05:35 PM
2

Just tell him that you appreciate those things and you’re sorry you were feeling so bad. We all go through it at some point. I didn’t have pms for 10 years and recently I’ve been getting it. I’m getting older so maybe some hormonal changes. Idk. My fiancé is really good about it but obviously gets concerned. I just make sure to communicate to him that I’m ok, and sometimes I just cry and there’s really nothing wrong with me, it’s just hormones and make sure he knows I’m ok and that I love him. O…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 05:23 PM
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Simple answer: Sex isn’t the highest priority on their partner list. To me personality and looks are more important than sex. I don’t care how good a guy is in bed, if he’s not attractive to me, I just can’t. We all have different priority lists. Regardless, these women should not be trash talking their husbands. That’s a recipe for ruining the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 05:18 PM
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Idk how OP’s husband is, but mine has a lot of chores and work to do that I am not capable of doing such as mowing the lawn (I’m 115lbs and can’t even pull hard enough to start it), maintenance on our cars, house maintenance like repairing broken pipes, etc. so even though he is ok with helping out with laundry/cooking I don’t usually take him up on it unless I have to because these are things I’m capable of and he has enough on his plate as it is. He literally just spent 10+ hours last week rep…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 07:22 PM
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I had much better luck dating closer to 30 than I did in my early 20’s. Many women are getting married in their 30’s, especially those with college degrees. You’re catastrophizing. Yes, you need to get serious about dating and make sure that you are the woman HVM want to date/marry. When I got serious about dating to marry around 28 I grew my hair out and bought “date night clothes”. Things that showed off my figure more than I was used to. Make yourself marketable and get out there. I met my fi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 03:59 PM
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First, I’m very sorry about the stuff that happened to you growing up. Nobody should have to deal with that. Second, I’m extremely proud of you for being so wise for your age and positive attitude given the circumstances. You’re going to have a really beautiful life and I wish you all the best and your guy sounds like a diamond in the rough just like you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/22 02:14 PM
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Definitely volunteer outside of the home. Soup kitchen, church charity, meals on wheels, etc. Your primary duty is to your household/family, but it is also important that you fulfill community duties/outside duties as well. You’ll meet a great support system by meeting other volunteers. Hobbies and women’s groups and church are all great resource. Im convinced almost all depression/anxiety type things can be significantly improved by 2 things: exercise and volunteering. Go for a 20-30 minute wal…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 08:20 PM
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Do you guys have a comfy place where you can share a bottle of wine and really talk about things? That’s what my fiancé and I do when it’s stuff we need to talk about. Get comfy, pop the wine and just talk about the awkward stuff: when do you want to get engaged? Do you want to get married? When? Do you want kids? How many? When? How much money do you make? How much debt? Do we want to combine finances when we’re married? Etc. etc. The biggest key point is the goals. Focus on the goals and not t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 08:14 PM
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You’re not being unreasonable. Physical security and financial security are probably the #1 “needs” that women have so everything you’re saying makes sense. Can you introduce him to Dave Ramsey? Get the book from the library. Try to do financial peace university together. Many local churches offer it. I would tell him what you told us here. Basically, that this isn’t how you pictured married life and you trusted him based on his words but you are scared and feel like you won’t be able to achieve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 07:00 PM
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This may be the longest post I’ve ever seen on Reddit. Too long to read, sorry OP. Just make it like 4 paragraphs of the most important info. You can always respond to comments with more info if it’s relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 12:56 PM
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This is a good point!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 11:52 AM
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Those are good ideas!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 09:38 PM
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Great job! Also, bringing yourselves in check and not losing it in front of the kids will help the kids learn to do it themselves once they’re old enough. Do you have any advice as far as tablets, etc. We don’t have children yet but as a younger millennial I feel like my go-to for long car rides and restaurants will be hand them a tablet and let them play/watch tv on it but my fiancé is an older millennial and didn’t grow up with phones/screens and doesn’t like the idea. I understand not letting…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 07:46 PM
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The urge to do this is biological. It’s present in human and animal behavior. The science behind it is that women compete to mate with the most desirable male in order to have offspring with desirable traits and increase the chance of that offspring also being desired to be mated with. With that said, we also live within a society that views blatant “man stealing” and catty behavior as bad, so it’s important to realize the urge but not act on it. If you want to have the Scarlett O’Hara v. Melani…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 06:44 PM
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I guess it depends on the context of what you’re wearing and where, but the skater/emo thing is throwing me off. If that’s what he wants then he needs to go find himself a “big tiddie goth gf” or whatever dudes are on about right now. Ignoring that. Men love women who dress feminine, but also know how and when to wear jeans and be real/fun. It’s kinda the same thing as they want you to come across as pure/prudish to friends/family but act crazy/loose in the bedroom. When you are dressed up he wi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 12:52 PM
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Absolutely. Women carry a lot of stress load in general. Especially being in charge of kids and family stuff. We also tend to worry a lot more than men, overthink things more, and in general are more in-tune with emotions and feelings which we’re constantly thinking about. Being able to “let go” of things and let the men take charge is key to keeping yourself sane. Way too many women are in charge of the household and every single thing that goes on in it and their husbands are scared to do anyt…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 02:17 AM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 06:58 PM
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You can try, but he obviously is dating the other girl for a reason. All is fair in love and war, but you definitely want to be careful of your reputation. I wouldn’t make it obvious you’re trying to do what you’re doing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 11:34 AM
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Jordan Peterson lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 11:51 AM
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Cut out beer, if you drink beer, and walk every single day. The people I know who lost the most weight simply went for a one hour walk or so everyday. They’re unrecognizable now. They were heavy their entire lives. I definitely thought it was genetic. And they did exercise before. Idk what it is but walking and obviously diet were key for them and FREE!!!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 06:44 PM
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I mean it may be worth a try. What specifically would you like him to do that he’s not doing?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 03:39 PM
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Open relationships are pretty antithesis to redpill women so not really sure what you want us to say. Regardless, as others have said whether is a romantic relationship, friendship, or family relationship if the people stop putting in effort then the relationship will suffer. If he’s straight out told you he doesn’t care enough about the relationship at this time to put effort in then in all reality this is “over”. Just like if any other person said it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 01:21 PM
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I think sometimes people confuse the meaning of boundaries with “all the little things I want to control”. No relationship will work if that’s your definition of boundaries. Boundaries are deal breakers. They aren’t things that you need to really discuss and they aren’t small things. For example, cheating and intentional disrespect. You can’t just “get past” those things. The examples you gave aren’t boundaries. They are more like preferences that you don’t want to compromise on. The reality is …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 01:15 PM
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This and OP is not 24. At 34 wasting time is not a great idea if her goal is a redpill marriage and kids. You don’t date potential and you should never marry potential hoping that they will eventually turn into someone you are attracted to. It never happens.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 01:06 PM
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It sounds like you’re on the right path. With that said the path is different for everyone because we don’t know your baseline femininity. Generally: 1. Looks/dressing. Usually Natural makeup and hair. Emphasis on feminine looks. 2. Exercising and eating healthy 3. Knowing how to cook 4. Family/social circle If your family isn’t traditional then it’s going to be kind of difficult to find people who are. Maybe going to a church that is popular with younger people is a good idea. Basically you get…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 01:03 PM
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I think at his age it’s pretty unlikely that he will change. Not impossible, but the big question is does he want to be more masculine?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 11:48 AM
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That’s kinda the point. You shouldn’t do that again. You should know by date 3 whether you are/will be sexually attracted to the guy. It’s very cruel to drag along or marry a guy that you’re not sexually attracted to. That cruelty has backfired on you because now you’re alone. Going forward only accept dates from guys you are reasonably attracted to. You’ve wasted enough of your own time and your previous husbands’ time. It may be “too late” to find “the one” and it might not be. None of us know…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 04:04 PM
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I think you have a hang up where you can’t get past your past mistakes. You made some big mistakes. You married two men you didn’t love. Those are a big deal. But realistically, it’s up to you to decide whether you’re going to go from here. You can’t change the past. You either let it keep affecting you and keeping you from finding what you want or you get over it and try to find what you want. That’s really your 2 options.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 03:38 PM
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That makes sense and that’s something to address with your therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 03:13 PM
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Happy people attract happy people and happy people are attractive people. Science backs that up. Yes, I’d address your depression an severe negative thoughts about yourself and others with a therapist. Start looking for one TODAY. If you want to feel less stuck you need to do something and that thing is therapy. Also, if you’re a Christian then you understand that marriage isn’t necessarily about attraction and shared interests. Marriage is a duty and a commitment to something bigger than yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 03:12 PM
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So I’ve noticed all of this is kind of me, me, me. It’s all about what you want and you don’t want to compromise any of your wants. It does sound egotistical to assume there’s no man in his 50-60’s that you’d be attracted to. It’s also very self loathing to think none of them would be attracted to you. You want a romantic relationship but you say you don’t have time to put in any effort… self sabotaging your chances of being happy. I get not being into male things, but the thing is you get what …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 02:48 PM
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It’s definitely possible for you to find a fulfilling romantic partnership and I think you should work on yourself and try to find that. However, you do have to be realistic about what expectations you have and date someone within your league. At age 50 you should look for a guy in his 50-60’s. There’s plenty of older guys looking for women. My suggestion is to join a bowling league, amateur pool league, or maybe go to some car cruises. You can 100% find a handsome man who has a decent amount of…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 01:10 PM
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In general I don’t care at all. The “punk rocker/goth/emo” look has been around for decades. As for my husband, no I wouldn’t be happy about it. Same as my husband wouldn’t want me to dye my hair purple or blue or get a bunch of piercings.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 12:00 PM
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I wouldn’t say you failed. You’re alive and healthy and you have 2 beautiful children who need you more than anything. You have a God given purpose. I think you do need to learn self love because your children love you and need you to teach them how to love themselves. Maybe get into a Christian women’s group and talk to other women who I’m sure go through similar struggles. As for relationships it’s honestly never too late. You need to reevaluate how you’re picking partners though. If you don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 11:44 AM
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All is fair in love and war. You can date whoever you want to. Sounds like your friend wasn’t too interested so it shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 03:13 PM
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As for the eating issue I suggest smaller bites and eating slower. It sounds simple, but it works. Not only will you get absolutely nothing on yourself, you’ll also maintain a healthier weight because your body has time to start digesting and feeling less hungry if you eat slower. Most people eat so fast their body doesn’t even realize it’s full until they’ve eaten much more than they really needed to.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 03:10 PM
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I think he’s mistakenly envisioning like a female body builder on steroids and not an everyday in shape female. He’s thinking like ripping muscles and not the basic toned muscles you see in a modeling magazine. The way men and women exercise and what happens to their bodies is totally different. He’s probably a little too inexperienced to realize that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 10:15 PM
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Being a stay at home mom is a near 24/hour work day. It’s actually in many ways more difficult than an 8 hour work day where you have a few 15 min breaks to go to the bathroom and get a coffee and a half hour lunch. When you are a stay at home mom you won’t even have 10 mins for a shower or eat a hot meal most of the time. In that sense I do think men like to see a young woman who can work a full time job and who has hobbies and social skills. Because you will need those skills to be a stay at h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 07:56 PM
1

I totally agree. It’s just important to live life how you want to and try not to worry too much about the “exception to the rule” aspect. Sure, disfigurement happens but it’s pretty uncommon. And yes, more money doesn’t necessarily mean more happiness. I just know the exact amount of money I need as a baseline to live the life I want aka standard of living, and that was important to me. There’s a much higher chance of illness after pregnancy or having kids with an illness so being a very risk ad…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 02:47 AM
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I’m not trying to be rude at all. I’m just stating the fact that it’s one easier to get a marriage offer and two a marriage offer from a high earning man when you optimize your looks. That’s the facts of life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 11:20 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 11:09 PM
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Does your husband make six figures? Cause I wanted that and I got that and having that requirement does change the factors.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 10:36 PM
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As someone who tried everything to meet in person it didn’t work for me. Never met anyone who was a good fit. I met my High value fiancé within 4 months on Bumble. My advice is to do both, but I would never have met my fiancé without bumble. We didn’t have the same hobbies. We didn’t shop or frequent the same places even though we didn’t live very far apart. The nice thing about the apps is that is specifically for dating. Everyone on there is looking for a relationship of some sort so you don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 05:49 PM
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You’re 27. Geriatric pregnancy starts at 35 and then you have a high chance of infertility issues if this is a first child and fertility treatments cost $10k+ so no, it’s not a good idea to wait any longer if you want a husband and your own family. Say you start today and meet a good guy after 6 months on the apps then you date for a year, then get engaged, then it’s another year to save up for a wedding. That’s 2.5 years and that puts you at 29.5 when you’d be ready to have a baby. That’s doabl…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 05:44 PM
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Does he have a bachelors degree? My fiancé has a bachelors in mechanic engineering and makes $150k. We are in a moderate to moderately high col area. Maybe he has to pursue an engineering license or actual degree? Part of being a high value man is to focus on obtaining a decent paying career that allows you to be a good provider for your family. That means not staying at a company that is undervaluing and underpaying you. Some guys get stuck on being “loyal” to their employer and feel like it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 04:39 PM
1

The men in my life that don’t have a college education tend to work a lot outside of the home. Even those that do have a college education sometimes it’s the same thing if they have to work in an office or travel for work. How long is his commute? Why is he putting in 12 hour days? Is he getting paid overtime? To earn more he’s going to have to pursue more education or training and/or switch jobs. E.g become a manager or a project manager or learn a higher earning skill - you didn’t mention what…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 03:48 PM
1

I’ve seen men who were quick to violence but not super smart guys and that is going to put you/their family in danger as well. Ideally you do want a guy who is capable of aggression, but actually does know how to control it in most situations.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 12:54 PM
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I think that’s the best approach. If these things are still affecting him it will come out and cause problems in your relationship. If you get married I highly recommend some form of pre-marriage counseling. This ensures you are both on the same page at the time you get married and there are no raging issues in the relationship. If everything is good over time you can “let go” of your worries about his past. Women tend to over worry, come up with hypothetical problems and stress their guy out. I…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 02:59 PM
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A lot of larger churches have “small groups” that meet up. Ones specifically for women, or mothers, or singles or whatever category. It’s good to have mentors and friends in your corner
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 02:02 PM
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As someone who dated a certified narcissist before I even knew it was a thing, nothing in OPs post indicates whatsoever that is a potential issue. HVM aren’t going to show a lot of weakness around women and they shouldn’t. Their wives can handle some, but it’s very important that they have trust worthy men in their lives to open up to and not just women/their partner.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 01:51 PM
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Women in general are a lot more open about themselves and their emotions. Men tend not to be. For a lot of people the past is the past and it has little to no effect on who they are NOW. You should let him tell you when/if he wants to tell you. Honestly, you think you want him to “open up” but that could potentially ruin the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 01:17 PM
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You’ll really just have to read the situation after the first date. See how the vibe is. I’d say wait until the second date at least to offer “gf/wifey” things like making him dinner but there’s no right or wrong answer. If it’s meant to be there’s no way to f it up really.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/22 03:35 AM
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You shouldn’t have to ask him anything. He will ask to see you again if it goes well. Part of being redpill is allowing the man to lead. You are so sweet! I’m sure it will go really well. He is a very lucky guy! Let us know how it goes!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/22 12:35 AM
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Not really honestly. You do want to engage positively with him. Give him time and attention BUT there’s a much higher chance you potentially ruin the relationship by overdoing it than by under doing it. I’m not a fan of “playing hard to get” but there’s value in acting the opposite of desperate. Humans can smell desperation a mile a way and it’s the biggest turn off there is. Men love to chase. They’re biological hunters. If he knows he already won you over before the first date it kind of ruins…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 09:11 PM
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Congratulations! It’s all very exciting! You’re doing all the right things. The only thing I’d say is you are putting all of your eggs in one basket with this guy. People are different on text and in person. When I got on the dating scene I had a lot of first and only dates. It sucks, but it’ll be ok if that happens. You are you. You are special. And dating is a numbers game. Not everyone is going to be a perfect fit and that’s ok. All you have to do is have fun.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 03:03 PM
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Start reading more smutty romance novels.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 02:57 PM
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I’ve already found it. I’m super surprised I did, but I thank God every day for my fiancé who fits this list plus more. I’m a really good cook now, but I would say it took about 10 years to get there. I can sew basic things like fixing my fiancés buttons and holes in shirts. I have my grandmothers sewing machine and I had to take several sewing classes in middle school and high school so I can use it. He actually made new wooden seats for our outdoor chairs and I sewed cushions for them. I also …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 05:11 PM
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Yeah, that’s why I said it’s my personal list. Those things go hand in hand for me. Preferably the guy has all 3, but you can add or delete anything from my list for your personal list.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 05:05 PM
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Your hair and skin changes with age, so you’re constantly in a battle to find “what works”. My suggestion is to find a happy medium. You don’t have to do full makeup to be at the house, but I’ll brush on some foundation, concealer, and mascara almost everyday. It takes 2 mins. Go on a daily walk and have daily reading time. It’s probably more lifestyle related than looks related. If we go out I dress up. I wear a lot of sundresses, dresses and skirts, but if I’m cooking and weeding and working f…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 03:50 PM
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What about being angry and showing that anger to people makes you happier? How does it help you achieve your goals? At the end of the day it’s about self-love and self discipline. Some people don’t have those things and maybe you’re one of them and if that’s the case I pity you because without those things life is going to be very hard. It’s the same thing if you were trying to eat less sweets and junk food. I know it feels good when you’re eating it, but the longterm outcome is bad. You have to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 03:40 PM
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There’s no single one-size fits all definition of a HVM. Here’s my list of what I was looking for in order of importance: Financial security. This doesn’t mean “rich”. It means works a full time job and earns a decent living and knows how to handle money, aka good savings, low or no debt, invests in assets such as retirement and/or real estate, etc. Smart and independent. Aka doesn’t live in moms basement and knows how to survive in the world and make good decisions. Respectful of women and main…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 03:31 PM
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So most households are two income households. The answer may be that you just have to work. Maybe you can find a remote job. Women have technically always had to work. There was a brief moment in history where our parents generation could live on a single income but before that women worked all day in the house. There were no washers or dryers or dishwashers. They did all of that by hand and cooked from scratch and raised multiple kids. That economy was a blip in our history and honestly I don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:27 PM
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If you don’t qualify then you’re earning more than what you make it sound like in your post. My parents qualified for WIC when it was just my dad working when I was a baby. He wasn’t minimum wage, but no college degree and trades didn’t pay a lot back then. My fiancé and I now make about $260,000 ish together. It’s good money in our area. We both grew up lower middle class, aka poorish. We lived in trailer parks/ rented church houses, etc. Kids can not only survive being poor, but they can flour…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 01:48 PM
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Yeah I’m talking more about emotional support rather than financial support. So it sounds like you do have some of that. Anyone you can actually share marriage questions with? Close friends, family, or counselors?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 01:36 PM
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There’s more than just money issues going on here. He made you a very important promise before your marriage and he broke that promise. What stops him from breaking it again? What stops him from breaking other promises? He’s got a lot to work on before he can be able to consider himself a “good man.” He’s got some major character flaws and he needs counseling or guidance- ideally from older good men to help him shape up. On the other hand YOU married this guy and took a vow to cling to him. You …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 12:11 PM
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I think this is a much bigger problem than the money. You need a support system. Especially when you’re going through tough times. Why don’t you talk to your family? It sounds like his family didn’t approve of your marriage? If you’re going to go against your family’s values you have to be independent enough to make it work on your own. I’ve seen that not happen before and it’s ended in disaster eventually because the lack of support during tough times.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 11:55 AM
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Definitely don’t do that. If you’re in the US there’s plenty of food/welfare options to lean on for you and baby, especially in the first few years. If you qualify, and it sounds like you would based on your post then use them. That’s what they’re there for.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 11:48 AM
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Oh I know. When I finally found my fiancé and he had a house, 2 car garage, and plenty of power tools and saws and an American flag hanging up over the work table I was like….. “This is home”. It reminded me of the my dad, grandfathers, uncles, etc. and it made me so happy. It was so refreshing after living near the city for a long time. He’s truly amazing and doesn’t compare to any city guy I met.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 06:37 PM
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Yeah, if you’re interested in these guys you need to show some interest/effort back. You need to spark their interest as well. You can talk about work related stuff, but they’re not going to be super interested in it. They want to get to know you. Overall though when it’s the right guy it’ll all work out so I wouldn’t overthink it too much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 03:52 PM
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Why do you think none of them have asked you on an actual date yet? I like the apps. I met my fiancé on the apps. But they have a learning curve. It’s good to text for a few days to a few weeks before meeting because they’re a stranger and that’s a good way to filter out crazies. If it’s been 2 weeks and they haven’t expressed genuine interest in meeting in person then I’d let that person go and get more matches. Some people, guys and girls, are only on there for validation and someone to talk t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 03:38 PM
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I set my bumble preferences to moderate or conservative only. Basically I filtered out “liberal” men. It’s not a guarantee, but that was the biggest indicator to me on what their values likely were. The guys you’re looking for are out there, but they are difficult to find. Treat dating like a part time job. As to where to find them I’d say anywhere outside of a city. Look for a guy who has an actual house, not a townhouse, that he knows how to take care of and renovate who is ready to have a wif…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 10:57 AM
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It’s an asshole thing to say even if it’s true. If this is a one-off thing I’d let it go. If he says stuff like this all the time to you knowing how it makes you feel he might actually be mean instead of just said something mean. What do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:29 PM
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I think the household finances, aka debt, is the biggest problem here keeping you feeling stuck. If you had no debt and only had to pay rent or mortgage then how much could you save? Could you live on just his income for a few years? My fiancé and I did Dave Ramsey’s “Financial Peace University” together. It’s a 9 week course and you go once per week or go online. On his website you can see who offers it near you. We took ours through our church. It’s around $130 which gets you a year of his bud…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 01:58 PM
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That’s fine but OP is ready to have sex right now. It’s better to be safe than sorry. If it comes down to masterbation or casual sex I’d go masterbation. I don’t find anything wrong with it personally. I’ve done it from a young age and have a very healthy sex life and no issue orgasming during actual sex. Its also zero risk of pregnancy and stds. It’s not a one size fit all situation. Everyone should do what works for them but unsafe sex isn’t a good option.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 12:19 PM
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You didn’t do anything wrong. He seems like an asshole.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 12:55 AM
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Definitely get on the pill. If anything it will regulate your period. The only thing that will lower your value more than a high body count is a kid. Besides that, masterbate. The orgasms are better anyway on your own than with a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 12:52 AM
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It ok to do anything you want. It’s a free country. If you and your husband both think that it’s the best option for you both then that’s the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 06:03 PM
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They’re not that into you. At least not right now. Texting you simply isn’t a priority for them. Have you been on any dates?
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 05:43 PM
2

This sounds so complicated that it would take a professional therapist a year or more to unravel. Maybe try some subs that know more about autism because this is way above what this sub is about.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 11:23 AM
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Lol I’m Polish too. When I was in Poland every woman is like a movie star. Tiny waists, blond hair and blue eyes a lot of the time. The Polish men in my opinion on average are nothing to look at. So every Polish couple I know is an insanely beautiful woman and ugly guy, no offense to Polish guys but this was my experience. Brazilian women are also insanely beautiful. I think in American culture most couples are closer in attractiveness level
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 08:52 PM
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I think you should take it is a compliment. That’s the intention of the person saying it anyway. Never assume people are being malicious or that there is bad intent. We all tend to skew peoples intentions towards the negative or try to find some offense in it and it’s just not a healthy way to live mentally. We all naturally do it so you have to work on changing your mindset. This applies to this situation and any other situation. Don’t create drama or problems where they don’t exist. So far you…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 08:46 PM
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As long as he’s got a good strong relationship with you then it’s a true compliment to him. Men strive to marry up as far as the looks of their partner and women tend to strive to marry up as far as wealth/stability of their partner. It makes sense biologically. Natural things can be uncomfortable, but they’re facts and it’s best to live your life accepting those facts and optimizing them for your benefit rather than worry about it and trying to fight it. My fiancé is 10 year older. We both look…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 05:23 PM
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You can’t go out together because you expect to fight if you do?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 11:53 AM
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He sounds at least a little narcissistic and that’s a disorder that will destroy any person who tries to date him. Not putting you and your needs first and being confusing in his speech and intentions is a red flag. A guy who likes you will be happy to spend time with you anytime anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 11:51 AM
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I don’t think the phrase should be used at all, at least not in the context you’re using it. If I told my boss the phrase “I’d love to, but I can’t” I’d most likely get fired. If I told it to my fiancé he’d be very unhappy with me probably. It really depends on what the thing is you’re using this phrase on. Why don’t you give us some examples of what you tried to use it in response to because I’m still very confused by it. An example of where to use it would be like a pushy church lady or your m…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 11:37 AM
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I don’t understand the reference, but it sounds like you’re completely misapplying it. It sounds like this is showing you how to say no, but in a way that is more comfortable because generally women have a really hard time saying no and take too much on which leads to a lot of stress. It sounds like you shouldn’t use this phrase towards something you would actually like to do. You need to communicate exactly what you want and exactly what you need help with. You’re there to be a helpmate to your…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 06:46 PM
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Our combined networth is $1 million. Mostly him due to him being older, higher salary, and bigger saver than me. A lot of middle class families do, my family was/is lower middle class so they’re not even close to that in their 60’s. I’m 20’s and he’s 30’s and honestly most of our friends don’t have that networth and we’re in a high income area.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 06:32 PM
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So that’s a charity “debutante” ball for rich people who donate big money to the orchestra. It’s a fun thing to do that involves younger people from rich families as opposed to a charity gala that’s typically adults only. It’s like a private prom event basically where the proceeds fund the orchestra/arts infrastructure. Some of the tradition you’re talking about is still true as in these families will try to marry their daughters off to doctors/lawyers, etc to keep the wealth afloat, but these g…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 10:44 PM
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Lol. A very rich area of Texas? I’ve never really heard of this except like Pride and Prejudice, etc English nobility type stuff. Maybe a little southern belle/debutant ball stuff but it’s more for fun than it is actually serious tradition anymore. Tell us more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 09:36 PM
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I’m either too poor or too American to understand what you mean by any of this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 08:51 PM
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For me, cooking from scratch is really rewarding and takes several more hours and experience. It saves a ton of money and is so much healthier for your family, but it takes time to do. Learn to make your own biscuits and pancakes and breads and pie doughs. I come from a Slavic background so making those types of things is a rewarding and spiritual experience that I love.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 04:12 PM
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I think you’re making this into a catastrophe when it’s really not, but YOU have to remove the temptation. Block him on EVERYTHING. Until you do that you’re not ready for a healthy relationship. I 100% suggest therapy, but you have to actually want to get better. You can do this without therapy if you learn to actually love yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 02:37 PM
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I’d be very careful. If he’s going through a divorce he should be a lot more careful than he’s acting. It sounds like he’s “future faking”. He’s trying his best to reel you in to make himself feel better and use you as an ego boost. Tread lightly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 02:31 PM
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We haven’t had it happen yet. I’m sure it will eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 12:23 AM
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Oh God, the “drunk uncle” is a classic. We all have been there. You handle it like any other uncomfortable conversation: there’s lots of options Change the subject. Excuse yourself to the rest room or to get a drink. Say, “it works well for us so that’s why we’re doing it”. Literally anything that doesn’t end in you crying in the bathroom. Everyone is always going to have an opinion. Add alcohol and difficult personalities and people can get a little belligerent. You’ll have to thicken that skin…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 08:59 PM
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Exactly. We’re both very accepting to the fact that other people view things differently and we always take that into account. Did you know less than 1% of women are INTJ? We’re definitely very far from the norm. 100% confidence, 100% secure in ourselves and our ability to make decisions. 100% logic based versus feelings based. Very high emotional stability. It’s really nice. We basically have male brains. Which makes it easier to get along with males I think.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 07:56 PM
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Because there’s a double standard when it comes to body count for men and women. If you’re letting a man you wouldn’t date use your body, aka presumably a loser, a high value man is probably going to view that negatively. This sub recognizes those double standards and strives for committed relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 07:49 PM
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Same. I think it may come down to personality types. Mine and my fiancés are most likely exactly the same and we are highly logic/rational based personalities. We’re natural problem solvers. I think mine is INTJ. If we see a problem we talk about it and fix it. No emotions really, no blaming. It’s just like “eh, ok we have to solve this”. Ok it’s solved. And that’s it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 07:15 PM
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No. Not yet. Not even the tiniest one. Eventually we will but it’s been 14 months without even a tiny disagreement or conflict. I was with my last partner for 6 years and we had like 4-5 fights/conflicts in all 6 years. Mostly when we were in our early 20’s.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 07:13 PM
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If your reactions are being caused by a medical diagnosis I would treat the medical diagnosis. I’ve had zero conflicts with my partner, we’ve been dating a year, so I’m not sure I’m much help. I guess it depends on what the conflicts are about. Who is starting them? Both of you should learn how to not start them in the first place. We do this by not nitpicking each other. And not having that itch to be right all the time. We let each other live peacefully. We’ll give each other opinions or advic…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 01:02 PM
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The problem is that her brain is still releasing “attachment” chemicals during sex. For a one night stand this might work somewhat. For a FWB situation where the chemicals are being released over and over again it makes it really hard. I think if the woman is really sex driven it’s possible to overcome this, but most are going to want the guy to be somewhat into them not just sexually eventually because it’s like a rejection every time you have sex and he doesn’t express any feelings for you. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 12:48 PM
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You have to be comfortable with your career if it’s what you’re going to be doing. Your man will have to be to if this is important to you. I’d be open and honest about it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 02:37 AM
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Typically women form stronger emotional attachments during sex than men do. Brain chemicals that are released during sex are different for women and men. Women’s brains flood with “attachment” chemicals. Typically, If a man has sex with a woman and doesn’t hear from her again it’s considered a “win”. He got to bang. That’s awesome! If a girl has sex with a guy and never hears from her again it often ends in tears. I’ve been on the other end of the texts/calls with my friends who slept with a guy…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 04:20 PM
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Your looks may make some men feel like you’re out of their league. The best thing you can do is learn how to flirt. If you like a guy then flirt with him. He’ll pick you over any other girl because you’re hotter, but guys fear rejection so if you make eye contact first and smile and flirt with them first to open the door they will walk through. Be more approachable and flirty with the guys you want. They’re probably thinking “too hot and too high maintenance for me” and they’ll go for a less att…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 01:59 PM
1

Relationship market value
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 01:53 PM
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It’s going to be hard because a lot of guys that age, particularly the attractive ones, are going to want to have fun and hookup. Not every guy is like that. Plenty have steady girlfriends, but you have to be very careful who you let into your life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 12:28 PM
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Work from home gang!!! It’s amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 10:26 PM
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Ok that’s good. I think definitely have a talk about things. Non accusatory. Just try to get on the same page about what you both would ideally like to contribute money wise and chores wise. Also, I’m concerned that there’s no ring yet. If he was 100% sure you’re the one there would be a ring. It sounds like he’s committed, but not 100% yet. You guys getting on the same page about money and what to prioritize with your money and what to spend it on may be the last little piece that’s he’s unsure…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 05:14 PM
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Supported him how? By doing something? Or do you mean emotional support? You have cooked and cleaned for him or you DO currently cook and clean for him?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 04:36 PM
2

Then tell us what you do for him. What % did you contribute to the wedding fund?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 04:24 PM
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Women and the “his money is my money, and my money is my money” is so cringe. The entitlement is crazy to me. It’s not redpill. It’s childish and entitled in my opinion. You got a raise. You paid for ONE date night. And you’re mad about it. Are you offering to do things for him? Besides sex. Cooking, cleaning, errands? Anything that provides value to him? Other than having a vagina? Cause that’s not enough. Every woman has one. Have you ever asked him how you can help him or make his day better?…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 03:30 PM
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Are you engaged? It sounds like you’re not on the same page about money. Talk about it. He’s probably saving for a ring? They’re very expensive. Renovating the house is a huge investment, but it’ll create wealth for you both since the house will increase in value. Weddings are also very expensive. Are you currently saving money? Do you have any debt? I 100% recommend Dave Ramsey. Get The Total Money Makeover from the library. Get his podcast. If you are serious about getting married and you don’…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 01:35 PM
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I’ve had to learn to shut my mouth and trust with my HVM in certain things. Men are biologically bigger risk takers than women. It’s in their blood and it’s why they earn more overall. The higher the risk the higher the potential reward. Things that strike fear into my heart are things that he finds exciting or fun. For example, going up a 40 foot ladder on uneven ground or cutting down a giant tree by himself. I will tell him my opinion on how I think things are dangerous or suggest safer alter…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 01:24 PM
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What is there to explain? What are you doing to add value to this relationship? Maybe he feels like you’re not providing enough to “deserve” date nights. There’s too little information to really conclude anything for sure here. From my life, my HVM wined and dined me in our early dating stage although I picked up some of the tabs too to show that I was truly interested in him and not just free drinks and dinner. Eventually, he sat me down and explained that his “normal” financial situation is to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 01:04 PM
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That’s true. Yeah we live in a high ish cost of living areas. Not Cali, but still pretty high. Yeah we did financial peace university together which I highly recommend. We have no debt except the mortgage which I highly recommend no debt if you’re going to attempt to live on one income. Your story is more the norm. I do worry about the “trophy wife” thing just because beauty fades and hopefully if there’s a divorce she will get enough money to live on since there’s no career to fall back on.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 12:09 PM
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I work from home and make $120,000 so idk. I don’t have kids yet. My typical work week is less than 20 hours. My fiancé makes enough that I could quit. But giving up $120,000 will definitely be a huge lifestyle change.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 12:06 PM
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That’s awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 12:35 AM
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This is a good question. I’m 29. In my opinion it 100% depends on what standard of living do you want? A small home, eating at home, and 0-1 vacations per year with fairly small amounts of discretionary spending? If that’s the case living on one income is still doable. If you want the big house, and 1-3 trips a year, a nicer car, hair color/nails done, private schools for kids, etc then the man would have to make $250,000 or more in most areas. Which is A LOT of money. I don’t even know anyone w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 05:05 PM
1

School is fine, but I was older so areas with a bunch of engineering firms, you couldn’t throw a rock without hitting an engineer in this particular area.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 11:22 PM
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First, you do have a lot of time. I’m 29. I’m getting married next year. I started seriously looking for a husband at 28. First, you need to decide what type of man you want. For me the qualifications were earns at least $100,000, owns a house, traditional/republican values. Next, I said where would I find those guys? For me, there’s areas we’re I live with certain big employers and nice neighborhoods. Then I used dating apps in those areas. I had to change myself a bit. I was used to being in a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 05:54 PM
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When someone shows you who they are don’t expect them to change. You have to decide for you whether this is the life you want. Additionally, also if you aren’t aligned on the following things you’re in for a ver difficult marriage from the start: money, religion, kids. You’re very smart for your age. Your thoughts here come from wisdom. You need a guy who shares your values. You need a guy who works hard and is humble enough to put you first, put your kids first/put your household first.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 02:02 PM
1

You’re in love with him. That part is great, but is he in love with you?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 12:54 AM
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Do you want to be married? If he won’t commit to making you his gf he 100% will never propose to you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 11:25 PM
2

I’ll be honest. My one love at first sight relationship ended in utter disaster. He was bad, bad, bad. With my now fiancé, I didn’t really think he was anything special until the third date, then by the 5-6 date we made out for the first time and it was pretty bad. I was attracted to him, he just didn’t know how to kiss. I thought about ending it but I didn’t. Now, things couldn’t be better. So I’m glad I stuck it out and wasn’t rash about my feelings. I have other female friends that weren’t su…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 11:09 PM
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I don’t think you’re wasting your time bettering yourself and glowing up per say, but I’d glow up and then find a new/better man if we’re being honest. I’m all for losing weight and being your healthiest self but this relationship doesn’t sound that great other than you really like him. Men who truly liked me lost no time in asking me to be official… or to drop to one knee. I didn’t need to arbitrarily impress them. They liked me for me. I want that for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 09:49 PM
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It’s not icky. We’re only talking about people who are your parents. They don’t want your input on their marriage. I’ll give you an example. My parents went through a rough patch. My mom involved me as a very young adult because she was in a really weak moment in her life. She alleged physical and emotional abuse about my father. My aunt and I both tried to get her out of the relationship and “safe”. Guess who is still married nearly 10 years after the fact? She didn’t take our advice. She didn’…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 05:22 PM
2

It sounds like everything is working perfectly for you so I honestly wouldn’t change a thing. My fiancé doesn’t know about trp, but we talk society and politics and such so he wouldn’t be surprised by it either. My relationship is similar to yours. My fiancé treats me like an equal, we just have differences in our roles aka traditional gender roles. He asks my input all the time on big decisions and such. My opinion and thoughts on things are a top priority for him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 03:01 PM
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Swiped on my now fiancé at 28, 9 months later engaged, 2 years from our first date is our wedding date. We literally couldn’t be any happier. We’re a literal perfect fit. I was on dating apps for like 3-4 months and found my husband. Couldn’t recommend it more. Just have to be careful and weed out weird people and go on a lot of first dates where you either ghost them or they ghost you. Can’t take the rejection seriously at all. It’s like speed dating basically.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 02:35 PM
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Yes. From first hand experience getting involved in your parents marriage problems hurts you and they do whatever they want to do regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 02:01 PM
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My fiancé and I are 9 years apart. Men in my age group didn’t have their finances together. I make more than most men my age and have more savings/networth. I wanted someone on the same page as me and I couldn’t find anyone my age that was. Other than that, someone ready to get married and have children. Another thing is what I call worldliness. I don’t want to be the smartest/ most life-experienced person responsible for making all the decisions and explaining why to my partner. I wanted someon…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 01:49 AM
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If they changed your diapers they don’t ever want your advice regarding sex or money. Stay out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 05:33 PM
7

Don’t buy things together. You buy it or he buys it that way if you break up it’s easy to move out and you have your own stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 03:28 PM
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I totally agree. In my opinion I was around a 4, pre-nose job, and post I’d say a 6-7. It made a huge difference in my appearance and confidence. Best $10k I’ve ever spent. With that said, of course being more conventionally attractive brings better general treatment from people, but I’m always surprised when I will say “I think this girl/celebrity is so beautiful” and men don’t agree or they say someone I think is really ugly is beautiful. There is absolutely wiggle room. I also think more peop…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 01:21 PM
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Unfortunately, when pushed between a rock and a hard place a victim will choose their abuser over anyone else. They will defend them instead of admit reality. That’s what your bf does and he is an abuse victim. I’m sure it all started as a child where he had no power and as an adult he never admitted to the situation and set any boundaries with his abuser. It’s really difficult to do when it’s your mother. Maybe the hardest. You sound really rational and it’s good on you to try to help him. Just…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 12:48 PM
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I went through a similar relationship at 28 and then met my now fiancé at 28. Just a few months after the toxic relationship ended. I think I was supposed to go through that. Before the ex I was pretty naive when it came to good and evil. I thought I liked the “bad guys”. That’s all fun until you actually meet a bad guy. I learned a lot about the world and I learned a lot about not idealizing “bad” people which allowed me to actually appreciate a truly good man when I met him. As long as you act…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 12:13 PM
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I don’t understand the reference. But here’s the thing: if you ask 100 random women if their preference is a “provider” male or if they want to HAVE to work when they have babies 90% are going to say they’d rather have the guy work and pay for living expenses and not be equally responsible for household bills. The problem is more so the economy. Women HAVE to work because their spouse doesn’t earn enough to afford the lifestyle they want. The two income household is a relatively new concept. My …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 10:10 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 03:24 PM
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None of them. That’s why I didn’t marry them. They’e decent guys, but I wouldn’t be marrying up with them. If I didn’t level myself up in different ways I would’ve ended up with one of those though. I really had to work on myself to get interest from higher value men.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 11:36 AM
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Do you have a job? What do you add to the relationship? Like what do you physically do that adds value to the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 12:54 AM
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Do you not cook for him?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 12:41 AM
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If the guy isn’t getting what he wants and he’s not interested he’ll move on. Same with a woman. I’ve had tons of dudes lined up to give me attention without me ever sleeping with them. I have a jewelry box full of promise rings from men from when I was younger. Guys who begged for dates, guys who showed up at my house before a long day of work just to see me for 10 minutes. Guys who would call me every single day just to talk. Guy coworkers who bought me coffee every single day. If you’re decen…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 12:13 AM
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I 100% get what you’re saying and you’re right. What I was saying was that OP was shutting down the chase for sex and therefore the whole relationships way too early. Which is fine if she’s not ok with having sex that just saves everyone time. For some guys sex on the first date is not a deal breaker. That’s fine. But I’ve been on the other end of the phone for tons of my friends who have sex on the first date and never get a call back so it’s not an any woman’s best interest to sleep with you r…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 12:03 AM
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He’s either 1. Not really into texting or 2. Not really into you. You’ll have to figure out which one it is. From my experience though a guy who really likes you WILL call. Regularly.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 11:01 PM
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Never lead with your money. HVM don’t care about it. LVM will try to take advantage of it. Always downplay it if asked about it. All the working out is a bit much. You want to be in shape, but a HVM will probably want you to be able to cook healthy but also delicious meals. That means adding a reasonable amount of fat content and such. Guys tend to like hearty food like stews, pies, potato’s, etc. they aren’t going to get too excited about a raw kale salad or whatever as an actual meal. The key …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:54 PM
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I feel bad for him. Obviously he has some issues going on, but he needed to tell you about these issues before marriage. He knows he’s asexual or maybe gay? He should’ve been more open about that and not dump it on you after the fact. Talk to him. Tell him all of the good things you love about him and how you pictured this marriage and then let him know where things are failing. Give him a chance to actually fix the issues. But ultimately, I really doubt it is fixable. You married someone that y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:01 PM
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Emotional stability is honestly really difficult to find in women, but it’s something that men crave above a lot of things. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a little bit here and there I think that’s expected because our brains are wired differently and our hormones are different. But it can’t become a detriment to your ability to perform your duties to your household. I agree with the other poster that you should be open to medication. If it’s needed it can make all the difference in the world.…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 04:01 PM
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My husband and I are definitely redpill. He treats me amazingly. We are equals, but we play different roles in our household. I agree that he is the leader of our household but he still asks my opinion on all sorts of things. 99% of things we actually agree on and it makes him more confident in his decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 11:53 PM
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Maybe Muslim groups or other “third world” nations where women are viewed as property instead of people.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 07:55 PM
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Being a redpill woman is a CHOICE. That’s where the name literally comes from. You’re making a conscious, consenting decision to “take the red pill”. A woman being actually abused therefore cannot be redpill in my opinion. Because the abuse removes your choice which defeats the purpose of being redpill. If you’re beat into being submissive you aren’t making a choice to be submissive. I understand that you want to justify your husband’s abuse by calling yourself redpill therefore pretending that …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 07:52 PM
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For sure. Dress like a lady and most people will automatically treat you like that. Same thing with guys. If they’re attractive and in a suit the world falls at their feet.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 07:09 PM
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This is a good question. I would say at the most basic level a red pilled woman understands and acknowledges that there are inherent biological differences between men and women and works towards creating harmony in her marriage based on those differences. How you implement this into your relationship is up to you. Everyone is a bit different. Usually it means a more traditional family unit with more traditional gender roles. At the basic level the man is the primary provider for the household a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 01:38 PM
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I use the reminder app and the calendar app and a countdown app. That one’s nice because it’ll tell you “3 days until pool party” “31 days until vacation” etc.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:18 PM
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My mom didn’t teach me any of those skills either. My job was school then college then getting a good job so I would never have to stay in a bad marriage because I was dependent on a man for money and even health insurance. We live in the US. She taught me what she thought was useful which was to be educated. She did her best. I’ve learned to run a household myself. I’ve learned to cook amazingly, but it took years. I had to learn from roommates a lot. I’ve learned from books and YouTube. I call…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:16 PM
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This is perfectly said.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 11:52 AM
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You don’t have to sleep with anyone until you WANT to sleep with them but yeah I wouldn’t state your standards so blatantly. Let the guy try to figure them out himself. Show genuine interest but don’t throw yourself at him. Let things progress naturally. Guys will follow your lead, but the idea is to not let them even know they’re doing it. You’re on the right path, you just have to hone the skills a bit to be able to tell what the guys are thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 03:37 AM
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I don’t think the requirement is a bad thing. Maybe the way you’re stating it is weird because it stops the chase and you’re stating your terms for sex. Guys like the chase. I’ve had the same standard but I’ve never had to state it explicitly. My approach was just to never stay the night until I was ready to have sex. I always just politely declined invitations to stay the night, etc. Guys like mystery and they like the chase. And they HATE desperation. Maybe the commitment thing explicitly stat…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:20 PM
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I agree with you. Everybody’s definition is going to be slightly different. Then you get posts where the dude is a total loser/abuser/miscreant basically and it’s like “how do I submit to this guy who has no job, disrespects me, has no moral values…” and it’s like…. You don’t. Stop it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 01:59 PM
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First, I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Second, your actions were totally normal reaction to something you had no control over. You’re human and you’re normal. Next, you have to forgive yourself for those things. A big part of living a healthy life is forgiving yourself for things that happened in your past. We all have things we’re not proud of because we’re all human. We can’t let those things drag us down and ruin our futures. You are resilient. It’s amazing you’ve made it this far wit…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 01:52 PM
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If you exist then someone who also shares your values and personality exists. I’m assuming you’re looking for a bisexual biological male who would be into dating a transgender woman? You know what….it doesn’t really matter. Just get on the dating apps and put what you’re looking for and see if you get takers. I’m sure they exist.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 06:31 PM
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Some people are just hard to please. God, do I love people who are easy going and fairly easy to please.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 06:21 PM
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I 100% understand. It’s really hard, but you have to recognize when someone is wasting your time and not 100% into you. Now you know. I wouldn’t spend any more time ruminating over this. What are you currently doing to work on your confidence and appearance/physique?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 05:37 PM
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You’re 100% right. He didn’t listen so he’ll get thrown in the trash as soon as she gets bored. He kind of knows that I think with the karma comment. Men do like women who place high value on themselves so if there’s something to learn from this you need to learn how to do that. It’s good that you realize that this man is extremely stupid. It’s time you move on and now you know to weed out the low intelligence guys early. All he did was waste your time and cause you emotional distress with his l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 04:30 PM
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Oh absolutely. She 100% knows how to play the game. She played your man like a fiddle.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 01:28 PM
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I can’t speak to the sugar daddy stuff since I’ve never done it. But I can towards an older traditional guy who is established. My role is to cook, take primary care of the house, take care of the budget, plan our social life stuff, surprisingly if you want a traditional guy who has money you have to learn how to budget and not spend money. You don’t get to a million by spending on new cars or eating out every week. He prioritizes savings and investments. We actually invest/save more than we spe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 11:57 AM
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Really good post!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 11:33 AM
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So are you more looking for a sugar daddy type thing? It’s hard to tell by the words you’re using what exactly you’re looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 02:03 AM
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I worked really hard and saved money and got a nose job. It changed my life. Now, that’s extreme and I had boyfriends before the procedure, but the level of men interested in me prior to and after surgery are totally different. Maybe it was simply the confidence I had post procedure or maybe it truly was the difference in my appearance. But if you can’t afford something like that then accentuate the gifts that you do have. If you have a nice body show that off a little more as a distraction. I r…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 08:57 PM
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Pretty much yeah. Normal guys, like guys without personality disorders, etc. are fairly easy to please. They want you to look nice and be kind to them. They want to share their life and life’s ups and downs with you. They want a soft place to lay their head at night. Food and sex are primary needs for them. If they have those they’re pretty golden. Obviously, they’re not that simple, but almost.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 08:45 PM
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Being physically beautiful. Beautiful people are in good shape, not overweight, and their faces are symmetrical. We’re not all blessed with those things so you can feminize yourself or make up for what you don’t have by exercising and eating healthy, have long natural looking hair. Men generally love long hair on women. It’s feminine and hair quality is an indicator of health. And health is an indicator of fertility. Use makeup products or grooming that increases your femininity. Use a winged ey…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 06:18 PM
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I see this asked a lot and I see a lot of women open up and then the guy gets insecure and doesn’t view the woman the same way ever again. If there is a reason to tell them because it is something that will affect the current relationship then you need to the tell them. Examples of this are an STD or some sort of trauma or mental illness that is not fully resolved that will cause issues to arise in the relationship. These are really the only things I would tell upfront no questions asked because…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 02:26 PM
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I think one thing we all have to face is that people are born with semi-formed personalities. Some people will argue that it’s not true that it’s all upbringing, but if you’ve ever babysat children or even puppies you’ll know they are born with little personalities. You can have all in the same litter and they’ll all react differently to things. Same thing with children. So when you look for your spouse the goal is to find the person whose personality is as perfect as possible match to yours. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 01:04 PM
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Once you have pinpointed a potential location like Las Vegas or florida or even your own hometown I just search “best restaurants in xx” or best hotels/resorts in xx, etc. That usually will give you some expensive options and some cheaper favorites.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 09:52 PM
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I do all of it and put a schedule on our fridge. I do all the vacation planning online. I use trip advisor a lot and even YouTube
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 08:45 PM
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I’d follow his lead. If he orders a second drink then you can order one. If he orders a third then you can too. It’s best to match each other’s vibe. Same with cost. If he orders a steak you can too. If he orders and sandwich then follow his lead. If he orders a beer, you can order whatever alcohol you want but beer is low in alcohol so if you match his drink count you’re going to be much drunker so drink slower? Idk. I guess overall just be respectful. Try not to be too extra.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 11:25 PM
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If you’re getting enjoyment and like him then you can partake a little. But if your ultimate goal is to find a husband than this is a deterrent to that. I would probably just make myself less and less available. You don’t have to break up with him because there’s nothing to break up from.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:21 PM
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Yeah I’d be extremely hurt by that. How he treats you when you’re sick is a good indicator of his ability to love and care for you and any future kids. With that said, some people are just weird personalities. My dad almost never complimented my mom or showed deep affections for her. It caused her to develop pretty severe mental illness from the decades of neglect. You may think you can live without affection from your partner but humans really can’t.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:10 PM
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Because every time you have sex with a new person you’re taking a risk and putting yourself in a vulnerable position. You’re risking stds and giving that person power over you because they’ve seen you in your rawest form. Self- respecting people can sacrifice short term pleasure for better longterm results. Another thing is all of my female friends who slept around were doing it for validation because they suffered with low self esteem. But guess what happened when the guy didn’t text them back …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 11:59 AM
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It’s going to be near impossible to keep up with those appearances. And eventually you will age and lose your attractiveness/youth so if that’s his primary concern with you then get ready to be discarded for someone in their 20’s 15 years from now. I’m all for being a trophy wife if that’s your choice. But is it? From my life: my fiancé loves my glasses. He calls me a sexy librarian. He loves me straight out of the shower with no makeup. He loves me in camping gear in the tent. And I will say th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 01:00 AM
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Low. A person of either gender who has very high respect for themselves doesn’t have a high body count. I have super high respect for myself so I want a partner with high self respect.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 06:27 PM
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I know that abused women all go through what you do. I’ve had to leave an abusive relationship and it was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’ve done a lot of hard things in my life. It’s easy to judge from the outside, but being the one brave enough to jump off the cliff is different. I really do get it. It takes every last ounce of energy to do it and you hate yourself while you’re doing it. With that said, you have a lot of very good people around you trying to help you. I know th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 06:23 PM
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Yes. A kink is one thing. This is something else more nefarious than a kink. She’s not enjoying it she’s enduring it it sounds like. We only know the couple of sentences she said about though so idk what the whole picture is here but yes definitely sounds concerning.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 05:17 PM
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You sound like a battered woman asking him for one crumb of affection so that you can “prove” to yourself that he’s not a totally abusive asshole. You didn’t do anything wrong. Everyday I come on this sub and have to tell people that being abused and disrespected is not “redpill” but I understand this is a “safe” place to discuss these things so I’m glad you did. You don’t sounds safe in this relationship. You’re walking on eggshells and trying to prove something to yourself that is false becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 12:58 PM
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Yeah a lot of people struggle with undervaluing themselves and over valuing others and their opinions. The secret is though how you view yourself IS how other people view you so when you undervalue yourself other people undervalue you too. I guarantee you if OP would’ve been like “Ok, you want the other girl? She can have you then. See you never, good luck!” He would be in complete shock and immediately second guessing everything and the other girl would be like “ehh this is no longer fun.” Some…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 02:23 PM
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There’s literally nothing wrong about an outdoor exercise class, especially if you’re not wearing super revealing clothing. Yoga typically is yoga pants and sports bra or tank or T-shirt. Sure, it’s a little revealing, but you’re wearing it in the context for which it’s meant it’s like wearing a swimsuit to a beach. Let’s make it clear submitting to your husband doesn’t really mean “he sets the rules”. It means you both make decisions on what roles you both play and that you can let go of your n…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 01:06 PM
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First, I cannot read all of the mess. I’ve read enough. Let’s make it clear that being a RPW has absolutely nothing to do with degrading yourself for guys who do not commit to and value you. We do not condone poly relationships here either. They have no benefit to us as women and they aren’t going to end well for a marriage or family unit. It doesn’t matter how pretty you are or how “agreeable” you are if you let men walk all over you and make bad decisions when it comes to men and who you date …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 12:52 PM
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You’re overthinking this. You’re not talking over him. He can watch tv and talk. Maybe he tunes you out during an important part but if he comes back to you to listen again you’re fine. I wouldn’t assume this is a problem, but you could pick up a book sometimes or something like that to commit to a little quiet time if you want to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 11:53 AM
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You let your fiancé handle other men. You don’t need to involve yourself. If you don’t trust his ability to handle other men then that’s a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 10:18 PM
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They’re out there, but they’re rare for sure. Location is also important.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 09:59 PM
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Some, sure. I’m generalizing. Likewise, there’s gay men who aren’t going to be driven at all to do anything for women. They’re interested in pursuing men romantically.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 11:07 PM
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In my opinion the classic literature is all based on something right? Gone with the Wind, pride and prejudice, Wuthering Heights, Great Gatsby etc. Men will go to the ends of the earth for the women they love. Men crave to have something to provide for and protect. Men are also primarily driven by sex and women are the gatekeepers of sex so they’ll do a lot for it. At the end of the day the woman who can have power over men without them actually knowing she has it is the most powerful. Men don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:43 PM
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That’s why I put /traditional.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 03:33 PM
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I’ll be honest with you. It’s almost impossible to live an upper middle class life style on a single income in todays economy and I think it will continue to get harder. Definitely get the bachelors degree. Definitely do it debt free. Then, you can always decide later to go back to school if that makes sense. Do not borrow for it since you don’t ideally plan to use it. Only get the masters degree if it makes sense to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 12:31 PM
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Yeah you definitely have to be good at reading people and weeding through people. But I would never have met my fiancé without bumble. We lives nearby but different neighborhoods, different hobbies, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 11:32 PM
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Bumble location
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 10:27 PM
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Location. Big cities are great because there’s a lot of people and professional jobs. However, you actually want to date the guys who live in the suburbs. The ones that are ready to settle down. “City boys” just didn’t do it for me. Working in the city is good. Living in the city was too “Sex and the city” for me. Like I wanted a guy with a house and a garage full of tools and saws and stuff. Someone that owned a lawn mower, etc. Think about your ideal man then think “where do those guys live?”.…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 10:11 PM
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If your appearance is good and temperament is good and you’re good wife quality then you don’t need to convince a man to commit. You need to find a man who is actually looking for a wife. They could be anywhere, but not every guy is looking for that. Dating apps are great in my opinion because you can filter for people saying they want to be in a relationship. Other places are church, volunteer group, exercise class, etc. The dating apps at least are a strong indication that the person is 1 sing…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 08:06 PM
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Lol EXACTLY. I’ve seen recipes where it’s like you MUST use water with ice cubes in it or it won’t work!!! Like no. People made pies before the invention of ice cubes 😂. It works just fine without all that nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 07:34 PM
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I found one I like on Pinterest attached to a homemade chicken pot pie recipe. I use that one for pretty much everything. You could use all margarine or all butter, but I usually will use both. A lot of recipes say you have to use ice water or refrigerate the dough or use cold butter, but I’ve found you don’t have to. You can use room temp water and use the dough right away and use room tempt butter. I’ve cut the butter in by hand with a fork, it’s doable. But a stand mixer is better. It cuts th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 07:20 PM
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He’s keeping his options open. Do what you will with that information. Maybe just for attention and maybe because he’s open to other options. Either way that puts you in a second place position to his ego or to other women. Neither is good for you as a respectable woman. Oh and his “oh I was going to do it but now that you asked I’m not going to do it” is the childish way to say “i thought about it but I was never going to do it and that makes me look bad so I’m flipping this back on you”. If he…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 07:02 PM
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Every time your bf texts her and she’s not blocked she knows she has a chance to win him over. She’s disrespecting you and his relationship and commitment to you and instead of him blocking her to put a stop to it he’s engaging and talking to her. Your guy needs to grow a pair. He knows this is hurting you and she is a bad person. Bad people associate with bad people. Good people put distance between them and bad people. Good people don’t put bad people above their partner. Is your guy actually …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 05:33 PM
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Step 1 I’d find some therapy asap. Step 2 make sure you stop doing this. Obviously the Drugs and Sex didn’t fill a void and you’re now hurting because of these choices. So stop. Step 3 work on building yourself up and loving yourself. Other people don’t give you worth. You give you worth. Find a hobby. Volunteer somewhere. Find things to be happy about and give back to others. Forgive yourself. We’ve all done stupid things all men and all women have. You don’t have to be that person anymore if y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 06:27 PM
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That seems fast/impulsive. Do you see your bf everyday? At what point did you guys say the love word and what are your ages? I’m told my bf after about 2-3 months that I loved him. I thought that was fast but I did and I couldn’t hold it back. I knew he loved me back so I just went for it. We saw each other almost everyday. We went on multiple vacations together (like 4) we hosted parties together and visited our families together. We went to church together. Like even though less than a year wa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 04:38 PM
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How quick? My fiancé and I got engaged after about 9 months.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 04:02 PM
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Losing weight will definitely make you more attractive. With that said we all have different genetics and body types so don’t go torture and starve yourself. Make moderate changes in your life style. Food is #1 keep junk food very minimal - almost zero. Cook at home. Eating out is so many calories and a lot of frozen stuff that has no nutrients but tastes good. When you’re cooking cook European style. Even “bad” foods like fats and carbs aren’t that bad if they are “real” food. Real butter, pota…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:21 PM
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Yes, RP is definitely pro committed relationships and not having sex outside of a committed/exclusive relationship and a lot would even say not outside of a marriage. What do you mean by 50/50? We believe both women are men are equally valuable and create a “balance”. The difference is what you actually provide as your contribution to the relationship. If you’re talking about paying 50/50 during the early dating stage I do personally advocate that you offer that IF you can afford it. Here’s why:…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 03:10 AM
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It’s not actually too bad. How it works is you swipe or “like” a person based on their profile. If the guy also swipes or likes your profile then it tells you that it’s a match and you have 24 hours I think to message them. I actually really liked the messaging first aspect because I didn’t have to worry about dick pics or any shenanigans from guys I didn’t want to talk to. You can say anything to start the convo. Hopefully the guy put stuff on his profile you can comment on. Typically I would c…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:20 AM
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Yes, 100% agree with you. It’s true also that men say they like a natural look don’t realize what they consider to be natural really isn’t. Money and effort went into it. I’d say you’re 100% on the right track. I had enormous success with Bumble. Found my fiancé in about 4 months, but I am in an area that is full of professional men with good jobs and good income. My approach to dates was to always offer to split the check. Most guys will turn this down. If I knew I didn’t want a second date I w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 10:57 PM
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This is all true. It’s definitely not black and white. I did generalize based on what OP asked. Specifically she is looking for “an old fashioned gentleman”. That’s “tradcon” I think. Idk what else it would be?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 06:49 PM
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There’s a concept of a high value man and a high value woman. What you’re looking for is a HVM. Those men have a good work ethic, decent earners, providers with traditional values. They are not simply rich men, and there is a difference. There are very rich men out there who wouldn’t pay for your take out hamburger. Being rich isn’t a condition of a HVM. Now let’s talk about what a High Value Woman is. The number 1 trait of a HVW is NATURALLY ATTRACTIVE. HWM do not want “high maintenance” women.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 05:53 PM
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I’ve always been into older guys. In my opinion once you go more than 10 years older than yourself it starts to get dicey. Children and being a parent. I think once you get past 40 it gets a lot harder to chase children around. Aging and health issues. Once someone is 10+ years older they most likely will die first and develop health issues first and you will be taking care of them. If you’re within 10 years your health will be around the same depending on genetics and lifestyle choices. Values,…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 05:24 PM
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That is dating. That’s the definition of dating - going on dates. How to test that is you tell him you are definitely not interested in him romantically but you’d still like to be friends and hangout with him. There’s a very low chance he wants to be your friend. He’s trying to date you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 01:20 PM
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My definition of a RP woman is: 1. Holds Christian/traditional values 2. Marriage orientated 3. Family oriented 4. Good domestic skills such as cooking (real cooking with more than 5 ingredients), cleaning, laundry, etc. 5. understands how the male brain works and adapts/submits to her partner (aka knowing when to be quiet when what you’re saying doesn’t add value and creates tension) Also known as “agreeableness”. Simply caring about the guy you’re intimate with or wanting a relationship is not…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 01:17 PM
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I need a guy who’s a guy in my eyes no exceptions. That means stellar leadership skills and he can build/repair things so mechanical skills. If I’m with someone where it’s my job to lead everything then I might as well do that on my own instead of dragging someone along with me. My fiancé doesn’t know how to cook that well, but he doesn’t act like he does. He’s not in the kitchen unless I’m sick or he’s helping me. Likewise I don’t go into the garage and act like I know how to fix his car. If yo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 12:11 PM
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That’s what being in true love feels like. If you feel like you could walk away or they could walk away and you’d be relatively ok then it’s not true love. Love is vulnerable. There’s no way around that. As for the topic of the fight. I feel you and understand your concern. However, your partner is a grown man and if you think he would be influenced by a friend to do something that goes against his values then you don’t trust him or you don’t trust that he has strong values. You cannot remove or…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 08:00 PM
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As an ego boost if you give them attention.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 07:43 PM
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It sounds like you were groomed and abused from a really young age. I’m so sorry that that happened to you. With that said, that article reads like a kinky bdsm type thing that women would actually get off to. Obviously consent is the most important part of doing something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 01:22 AM
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Jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling are all really terrible traits to have. Was he like that before you married him or did this start recently? He needs to check himself on that. I would stand up for myself on these things and just say “what I’m doing is not bad. You thinking that what I’m doing is bad is a from an apparent lack of trust and in that case we should get some marriage counseling to find out what is going on here and how we fix that.” Did you guys drink together before getting…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 05:50 PM
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As a woman you’re not wrong. Does it suck to hear? Yeah, because it’s not fair because it doesn’t go both ways, but the world isn’t fair. People make mistakes when they’re young. I hate to tell them it may haunt them forever, but the truth is it might… My other advice to women is to not lie about it, but if it’s not relevant information don’t voluntarily give negative information about yourself to your partner or publicly online. If that lady would’ve not put that info out there for the world to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 04:37 PM
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Can you be more specific about what differences you have and how that is impacting your relationship? The age gap is not that big and once you hit 25 you’re both adults so it matters less and less over time. I think that has the least amount of impact on your issue. Once you got married you made a commitment to him and to you both as a family unit. At that point it was no longer about “you”. Everything you do from that point forward should benefit both of you. Same thing for him. I think because…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 04:23 PM
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Dating app. I tried other ways to meet people irl like community groups and such and so did he, but we just never met anyone we clicked with doing it that way. It was 100% worth it though because we met really great friends that way, but romantically it wasn’t the best for us. On the apps you know you’re both single/looking for a relationship and you meet people you wouldn’t normally meet. As a woman you can get lots and lots of dates. They won’t all work out, but dating is kind of a numbers gam…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 04:12 PM
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I met my fiancé at 28.5 and I’ll be 30 on our wedding day. There are a lot of good guys who are 30-40 on the dating apps looking for their wife. I totally changed my wardrobe and started going on dates. You don’t want to go overboard on sexy clothes but men are visual. Skirts, sundresses, and small to moderate amounts of cleavage. Never sleep with them on a first date. Make it clear what you’re looking for. You can do this!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 01:06 PM
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Ex was about 6 years. Fiancé and I about 1 year.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 06:15 PM
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Probably you’re thinking is this it? Things are good. You’re happy and he’s happy, but is this the extent of your happiness and experience forever? There’s a lot you haven’t experienced good and bad just due to being young. I’ve had what you had. The same feelings. I tried to book vacations and go out more to try and feel alive and happy again in my relationship. Ultimately it wasn’t enough. I went on to be single for a few years and eventually met my now fiancé and I’m so glad I listened to my …
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 04:36 PM
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Probably. But it’ll be too late by the time he figures that out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 12:17 AM
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It’s his wish to be let go so you should let him go. Don’t let him use you at his convenience if things don’t work out with other girls at university which is what the “summer” thing means. You’re both very young. You both have a lot of life to live and a lot of experiences to have before you find your spouse. It’ll be ok in the end. You will end up where you’re supposed to be.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 01:17 PM
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This man sounds very mean. A high value man has a great work ethic, but he also treats people with respect and dignity, especially women. I’m sorry but a guy who picks on people he views “less” than him is a coward. Also, we don’t like to use these terms here, but calling your photo slutty and starting a fight over it specifically, which you say happened and we believe you, and then telling you he didn’t say it is called gaslighting and it’s a sign of serious disrespect and even abuse. You sound…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 03:39 PM
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This is one of those things in my opinion we can’t simply go back to the 1950’s on even though it would be nice for us as women to have our meals paid for by men. You have to view this in the context of the old world and the new world. In the old world your grandmother as a young woman would not have even been expected to finish high school. If she did she definitely did not attend college and there were basically 2 “jobs” a woman could have that were considered “good” jobs for women: secretary …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 01:55 PM
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It sounds more like he has a problem respecting you or he feels strongly that you don’t respect yourself by the way you come across and the photo situation much more than you not respecting him. It’s been a year and you’re not official? That’s shady on his part. He would know by a few dates whether you’re girlfriend potential or not. A year is way to long to string your along. He sounds controlling and like he is stringing you along. How does he know what other girls post to dating sites unless …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 11:35 PM
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I moved in and we got engaged shortly after. I think it’s fine. It sets expectations and you can get into a groove of everyday life before marriage to see if it’s even possible for this to work. We have a routine. We have certain chores we’re assigned primarily and we help each other when needed. I’d rather know before marriage if we can live together harmoniously and be a good team. Make sure you have a back up plan though. You both are young and moving a little quickly moving away from friends…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 08:27 PM
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Oh I totally agree with you and that’s ridiculous in that case. My other suggestion is Christian based women’s circles. A lot of churches offer small group circles just for women or mothers or whatever and they would be more educated on how to fix a marriage unlike all the young adults who are just like “leave him sis!” As for my advice on the specific thing is to know what he likes to eat and prioritize that most of the time, but I still think he should try new things. It’s ok to not like them,…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 08:14 PM
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I think that’s what this sub is for. To be frank if you do have a guy that is disrespectful to you or doesn’t carry his weight in the relationship then you won’t be able to surrender to him. I realize the gaslighting narcissist trope is way over used, but there may be some tiny bit of truth to it which is you can redpill yourself and improve yourself but if he is not a high value man then he’s not going to know how to respect you as a high value woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 04:52 PM
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I’ve always gravitated to very feminine things and classic literature. I’ve always adored older guys who are extremely masculine. I was very liberal in high school and college and now in my later 20’s I’m pretty conservative. I kind of realized that you can get what you want better and live life better when you embrace the feminine side. I think a lot of people see redpill as weakness in women but I see it as strength. Men actually approach me. I have doors opened for me, the thing off the top s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 02:14 PM
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Most of us are all self taught. We grew up in an era that specifically did not teach differences between men and women and traditional gender roles. Therefore, your best resource is older literature. Older style romance novels and classics. There’s also a ton of YouTubers who talk about this stuff. There is no one size fits all model. It’s more values and principles which nobody can teach you. You either have those values and principles or you don’t. Most of us didn’t start with them, we develop…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 10:03 PM
2

Nobody deserves to be with someone who secretly feels like they’re settling. Especially after 6 months which is the honeymoon stage. He deserves someone that adores him and you deserve to be with someone who you adore. You’re super young. You’re attractive and conservative. You’re a catch. You have to find the right guy though. I found him at 28. I wouldn’t start worrying until your late 20’s.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 05:46 PM
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A lot of this is how you see yourself. Do you view yourself as girlfriend material or wife material? If you don’t view yourself that way and are willing to take a situationship then a guy is going to treat you that way. We’ve all been where you are. You’re getting attention for a hot guy and it’s amazing but you know he’s not looking at you as girlfriend material. He’s looking at you as a side of fun. It’s ok if you’re into that, but it should be a short lived thing. If you want a relationship t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:18 PM
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Never ever buy a house with someone you are not married to. Ever.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 02:39 AM
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Maybe you’re jumping the gun a little bit. No women are raised to be housewives anymore. We’re taught from a young age to go to college and be independent. He’s not going to go find a housewife. However, if you guys want to adopt gender stereotypes and have a traditional relationship that is fine. As long as you guys come to an agreement on how traditional you will be and where your comfort level is it’s fine. Most guys aren’t going to get 7 home cooked meals a night. They know that. You talk ab…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 07:16 PM
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If his salary is high enough that you can not work when you have kids then that’s all fairly reasonable. If you’re working then it gets a lot harder to juggle all of those things all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 03:33 PM
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Yes, talk to him about it. When my fiancé and I started dating he straight out told me that his preference was for me to take charge on grocery shopping and cooking because he doesn’t like those things and that he will help me with what I ask him to. I was 100% fine with that because he has his hands full with work and then housework repairs and maintenance and yard work and it seemed totally fair to me. The important thing is having an agreement that you both are happy with. Obviously I can’t b…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 01:50 PM
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This is not the real deal. I’m sorry. 8 months is enough time for him to know if he wants to date you. If your priority is a relationship/husband you’ll have to restart your search you won’t find it here. As far as the virginity thing, it does suck but it’s not the end of the world. This wasn’t a hookup. You knew this guy for 8 months and had legitimate feelings for him. We all have learning experiences and this is just one of them. As long as you’re learning and not making the same mistakes ove…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 12:01 PM
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Yes. He is a practicing Catholic. I was raised Catholic but wasn’t attending church or otherwise pursuing a strong relationship with God before I met him. Now, that is a priority for me. I don’t think it really matters which of you is the spiritual leader, although if the guy is willing to take on that role I think it’s ideal. The more important part is creating a relationship where God and your commitment to Him comes first and everything else falls into place much easier.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 07:31 PM
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I found my fiancé on dating apps. I had a lot of first and only dates with all kinds of men most of which weren’t too RP. Finally I met my fiancé and the rest is history. Just think of it as a numbers game. You know what you want and you don’t know how many you’ll have to talk to or go on a date with until you find it. It took me like 4 months and it was during Covid, but I live in an area that has a lot of eligible guys. As long as you aren’t sleeping with these guys a rejection or ghosting her…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 07:12 PM
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Yep. You’re absolutely right. I’d start the discussion with your hopes and dreams about the future then segue that into a money discussion. Just starting with the money is awkward and uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 07:02 PM
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You should join your income for the most part. I’m all for everyone getting their own “spending money” that isn’t micromanaged, but joining your income to achieve joined goals like house payoff, retirement savings, kid’s college, vehicles, investments, house repairs, etc is going to maximize your lifestyle and your wealth. You two should be a team. He can be the leader of the team which is what I suggest and this sub suggests. But him not bringing you into the discussion and decisions and trying…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 03:32 PM
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Amateur pool league and salsa dancing
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:22 PM
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A lot of peoples partners/spouses introduced them to Dave Ramsey. He isn’t just for struggling people. Even if you have no debt and have savings he’s good to listen to just to stay motivated to keep things that way. My fiancé and I have no debt, other than mortgage, and fairly close to a joint $1 million in net worth and we did the financial peace university class together. I’d say we know more about personal finance than 99% of people and we STILL learned a few new things from the class. Plus, …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:09 PM
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Phones are addictive. I struggle with this as well. You have the whole internet, games, social media, etc. It provides so much entertainment and relaxation at the same time. Just like any other addiction or distraction it becomes a problem when it’s interfering with your work or relationships. My fiancé and I have things we do where is no or very limited phone use. Examples, dinner time, church, movie/tv show, take a walk together, date night out, and we have 2 nights a week where we do a hobby …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:02 PM
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If he can’t afford a smallish car repair then he has no savings which means he cannot afford a ring, a wedding, or a family at this time. He sounds like great bf material but not great husband material. Maybe try getting him on the Dave Ramsey plan, but paying bills and having left over money for savings and fun is really hard if your income is really small which his sounds like it is.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 11:24 PM
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Start dating seriously. It’s a full time job courting/Dating trying to find the right guy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 09:32 PM
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So that’s something you need to discuss before marriage. If he has a me v. You mentality not an “us” mentality I would never marry him. Ever.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:19 PM
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If you share the same money values as your spouse and do a joint budget this shouldn’t be a problem. If you do the leg work to get on the same page it works wonders to join money.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:36 PM
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A good mother gets her child the medicine he needs regardless of anything else. If your husband wanted a bad mother as his wife he shouldn’t have chosen you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:33 AM
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No. If you don’t trust your Christian wife then that’s either a you problem OR you need a new woman if she’s THAT sketchy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 02:37 AM
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I would base that on me not having my first sexual experience until age 20 and then just feeling scared/nervous/inexperienced about sexual stuff until my later 20’s. A lot of my friends had a lot more sex, more hookups, and just seemed much more confident in their sex lives. I mean I’m almost 30 and I still hate inserting a tampon. That doesn’t seem exactly “normal”, but I wouldn’t say it’s totally abnormal either. I didn’t feel “Intune” with my body or my sexuality until just recently. So that’…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 08:19 PM
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You can tell a man’s character by how he treats his woman. If he’s not willing to tell you that he loves you then I highly doubt this is your end game man. You deserve to be loved and cherished. I’m not saying you need to end it there’s probably a lot you can learn from this relationship but it doesn’t fit RP “standards” at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 01:56 PM
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Not at all. I’m all for waiting if it’s important for both people, but I’m glad I didn’t enter my relationship with my now fiancé as a virgin. I was a late bloomer and it took me a while to settle into my comfort with sex. What came naturally to other women it seems didn’t come naturally to me, so I’m glad I had experience before I met him. Sex, when done right with someone you care about isn’t a big deal to me. There’s a difference between doing it with a committed partner and going out and hav…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 01:46 PM
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I would consider myself traditional and a RPW, but I’ve never given up my freedom or independence truly the way you describe it. Yes, I view my fiancé as the leader in our relationship. I view myself as his helper and companion. However, let’s not downgrade how valuable that is. I’m not worth less than him. I made a choice and continue to make a choice to “submit” to him because I believe it is beneficial to both of our happiness. However, I could decide not to make that choice if I wanted to to…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 06:50 PM
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The dating apps ask what you’re looking for. Relationship, casual/hookup/etc. Now, do people lie about it? Sure, but it’s up to you to weed them out when you go on dates with them. Do they message you explicit things or are they respectful? A lot of guys will take you on one date and if they don’t think you’re going to be an easy lay then you won’t get a second date offer which is totally fine. My advice is to search for older guys. Guys who are ready for a wife. For most guys this is going to b…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 03:21 PM
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Homemade food and sex are the two biggest things. Other than that, compliment them and just tell them how much you love them and everything they do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 01:01 PM
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Your core values don’t line up. This isn’t a good long term partner for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 03:46 PM
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Well, you’ll want to be married before you have kids. Have you guys talked about marriage and kids? You’re young, but not too young for marriage and kids. He’s definitely old enough. I feel like this is something you need to talk about. My fiancé and I had the talk after 6 months. Popped a bottle wine and discussed marriage and when we wanted to get married and if we wanted kids and how many. There’s no point in waiting. You’re just wasting time by not having the discussion. Maybe he doesn’t wan…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 05:44 PM
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